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Memories and Condolences
for Mildred Lauer
Yvonne Angus Blocker
May 29, 2024
Another year, and SO many tears have gone by. Dear Mildred, you were one of a kind, and I feel very privileged to have known you, and call you friend. But it was more like family. You and Bill included me and Haley so often, and you always made us feel like family. I love and miss you, and always will.
Yvonne Angus Blocker
May 29, 2023
Fourteen years gone. A lifetime ago. Sweet Millie, as your darling husband Bill, used to call you, you are missed by so many. You always made me feel like family, and since I had none within hundreds of miles, that always meant so much to me. I miss our long talks, the long letters you sent by email, the lazy talks we shared on the swing, under the pecan tree. Thank you for including me and Haley in your life. He is there with you now, so, y'all save me a seat at the table. Love you forever.
Yvonne Angus Blocker
May 30, 2022
Missing my dear, sweet wonderful friend, Mildred tonight. We used to have the longest talks on the phone, and we touched on just about anything and everything that the conversation would conjure.
I'll never forget how, though she protested we'd never get her on that contraption, she soon discovered that the personal computer was just a new way for her to reach out and communicate with her family and friends. Mildred loved her family and friends fiercely. She was tiny, but she was mighty!
I used to go over at least a couple of times a week, and if it was not too cold, or too hot, she and I would sit and gently swing under the pecan tree, and discuss the happenings of the day. We didn't solve the world's problems, but we both felt so peaceful after our little visits. Mildred ALWAYS made me feel like I was family, and having none for hundreds of miles, I was always so grateful to her for that kindness.
Mildred, I miss you, my friend. Until we meet again to sit in that big golden swing in Heaven, please watch over me. I love you.
Nancy
July 15, 2021
Mother, thinking lately how brave you were tackling Breast Cancer. I know your faith in God was strong and so is mine. Granddaddy PItts, being a Baptist minister, preached on Sundays while you played piano for the church. I am blessed to have learned about Jesus at an early age & considerate it my most valuable lesson. Love you, your daughter, Nancy
Yvonne Angus Blocker
May 31, 2020
Mildred, I sure miss our 2 hour phone calls, and our times together on the wooden swing. My parrot lilies from you are thriving. Everyone raves over them. Please tell that sweet man beside you, Bill, with the goofy grin on his face, that I miss him, too. I miss our waltzes and polkas, I miss coming over to help him with the computer. I miss helping out with your memory garden. I definitely miss that the two of you made Haley and me honorary members of your family. That sure made not having any family close by a whole lot easier. I miss that most of all. But we'll be family again, one day, when we're called to our eternal home. In the meantime, I hope you have met Marie Lawson, my mom, because she loves to talk as much as you, and I'm sure you'd get along great, especially with both of you being the daughters of ministers!
I love you and Bill so very much, and there's a huge hole in my heart since you've both gone.
Yvonne Angus Blocker
May 30, 2019
It's hard to believe it has only been 10 years since your passing, sweet Mildred. It seems like you've been gone a lifetime. Our lives were changed forever the day you went home, to be with the Lord. I hope you and Bill are waltzing to sweet angel music. Loved you like family.
Yvonne Angus Blocker
Christmas Eve 2007
Don Lauer
July 4, 2012
Thinking of you, as always, but today is the 4TH of July and it brings up all the Holidays we all shared together. This will be the first year there will not be any fireworks at the beaches. We will miss them as I don't remember a year when we didn't walk, bike, or drive down to the beach to see them. We would talk about how nice they were and anything else that came up. We miss and love you,
Donnie, Deb, Shannon and Michael
Philip,Donnie and Bruce 1969
Bruce Lauer
July 4, 2012
Staying true to how we where razed having the same Mom and Dad how can it be that we are clearly definite in the way we see thing's. Missing Mom and the answer she would have helped me achieved.Son Bruce
Ramona at 14 years old
July 4, 2012
Ramona Jo Egbert
July 4, 2012
Remembering a wonderful friend…..
Today will be the last day this legacy book will be kept on line for us to record memories and thoughts of the very special lady, Mildred E. Lauer. I have more memories than there is space and time to write. Most especially I am grateful for the love and support she gave me over the many years that we knew each other. She brought me into the circle of her loving family and treated me as a third daughter and I certainly considered her my second mother.
My middle name is “Jo” but I have never used it, opting for just the middle initial of “J”. Mrs. Lauer is the only person (other than my mother) to address me as Ramona Jo. That made me feel good and brought back precious memories of my dear mother. This is just one of the lovely memories I have of Mrs. Lauer. I will remember her always and thank her for loving me and guiding me as I grew to adulthood. She remained an integral part of my life until she was called home. Until we can be together again in Heaven, I will miss her and cherish her memory.
Mom and Bruce
Bruce Lauer
July 3, 2012
Just one smart lady my Mom would know what I was thinking before I did one day Donnie was going swimming at the pool but needed to ask to see if it was OK Mom said to me Bruce the next thing that you ask for the answer is no. Then Donnie said to Mom is it OK if I go swimming and I said can I go to. Then she said I told you that the next thing you asked for the answer was no. Son Bruce
Bruce Lauer
July 3, 2012
My Mom's wish each of my children where razed the same to help each other and stick together no one child means more are less then the next I love them all.Son Bruce
Diane Lauer
July 3, 2012
To Mama from Diane
Tomorrow will be 3 years since we started your legacy. I wanted you to know I think of you everyday and Sherri and I discuss the good times. Especially the fact that she feels you had a big influence in her life helping to raise her, taking her straight to yours and Daddy's house for the first week. You drove Buddy & me to the hospital for her to be born after us stopping for coffee at your home as you thought it would take hours but I was only in labor 3 hrs. Sherri weighed 6 pounds and 13 oz, born at 6:11 am. I told Buddy thank you for our little Miss America. I feel I was as close as any daughter could be to their Mother confiding with you after all my dates, and after I was married we always remained close. After I loss Buddy to a tractor trailer accident in 1971, and married Bob 05/29/76 after dating 3 yrs he always called you Lady and you loved that. I was looking at pictures of you and Daddy dancing at the bar Bob and I owned in Marianna, Fl. where he was from and we all looked so happy. Gene Horne played the music and we all had a love for country music as I still do and gospel I enjoy due mostly to you raising us on the love of music. Just the other day I told someone about how you played Daniel prayed every morning, noon and night and you were the best on that keyboard, I am going to get one of the hymnals or more so I can remember the words to the songs we enjoyed together. All five of us children appreciate and admire the way you and Daddy raised us and showed us good times. Remembering all the Pitts family gatherings together for picnics at Kingsley Lake, Goldhead, and Keystone Heights. You loved Harry Blitches for deviled crabs in the shell. Over the weekend Nancy, Sherri, Ramona , and I enjoyed going to J.L. Trents had 2 coupons buy one get one half price. Ramona's deviled crab was in a real shell. Nancy is coming home every other weekend, wants to spend quality time with the family. If you were here we would all be celebrating the 4th of July here with a cookout and all the family. Once we all enjoyed fireworks at Disney World, the tiki birds and It's a Small World we went several times. Nancy said when Grady was working in Orlando they had 4 season passes and you and Daddy went a lot; you had to be a Florida Resident to have one. I always remember the timeshares with special memories. You and Daddy would come to Tennessee for Christmas every year when I lived there from 1978 to 1982 and Nancy, Grandma Lauer, Philip and Ramona came. Nancy and Grady visited us in TN. on their honeymoon on the way to Kentucky. You will always be on my mine with fond memories, your daughter, Diane
Lauer Family
Bruce Lauer
July 2, 2012
The birds are in the yard by the feeder. I would tell mom on the phone and she would say what kind. The little talks we had will all ways be in my memory just taking the time to say have you had your coffee this morning. I just had my first cup here and have you been up long. Mom was all ways up in the early morning and loved to get a phone call to start the day with the news before reading the paper Son Bruce.
Mom and Bruce
Bruce Lauer
July 2, 2012
The birds are in the yard by the feeder. I would tell mom on the phone and she would say what kind. The little talks we had will all ways be in my memory just taking the time to say have you had your coffee this morning. I just had my first cup here and have you been up long. Mom was all ways up in the early morning and loved to get a phone call to start the day with the news before reading the paper Son Bruce.
Philip Lauer
June 30, 2012
Hey Mom, I was just thinking of you and dad and how much we miss you every day. Dad got a cut on his arm by his wrist and he's rehabing trying to get well. Thanks for every thing you and dad did for us, well never forget, Love always.
Diane Lauer
June 5, 2012
In memory of Mother from Diane
You are always in my thoughts but especially June 2, 2012 since it was 3 years since we loss you; we all miss you and love you. I look at pictures of you daily; I have a really good 5x7 Bruce had framed for me. Yesterday Daddy, Philip, Terry Soldo, Debbie - his wife, Aunt Lorraine, Bruce and myself went to the cemetery and took rainbow roses, 2 peach, 2 white and 2 red along with Peruvian lilies, little ones that last 2 to 4 weeks. It was good to see Aunt Lorraine as she had been in Jax. one week before she had to return to Minnesota. We all have good memories of the trips when we were kids. Daddy and you took us to Minnesota; three day trip by car. Nancy wondered how Aunt Henrietta's goulash was always ready when we arrived there; they had 6 kids and we all played together, baseball in back yard. I remember playing croquet up there and big family reunions and when they dressed up Bruce like a little girl he may have been 2 or 3 white dress and veil. Grandmother Lauer always made everyone welcome no matter how many were there to entertain. She loved her family and her home that her husband helped build made out of granite stone. They had 10 acres for awhile Daddy said and then 5 acres. We always went in July, Daddy took 3 weeks of vacation he just told me, we visited for 2 weeks and traveled for the other week, good memories. We also got to go camping here in Florida in Mama's and Daddy's cox camper; it slept six and Sherri was one year old and going camping with all of us including Sherri's Daddy, Buddy. Daddy would pull the camper and Buddy the boat, Daddy made breakfasts outside, bacon and eggs always smelled and tasted better camping. Daddy was always a good fisherman so over the years Mama fried plenty of them and taught me to cook and buy groceries by age 12, and Nancy learned at a young age also. All 5 children were raised in a happy home and Mother you made sure we went to Sunday School and Church. I loved hearing you play piano and church songs and we would sing along, you sang alto in a quartet. Your whole family was musical and your Dad a baptist minister. Sherri speaks of you often, she has many of your traits like getting up early and having coffee. She remembers you always taught her many things over the years and for a game referred to yourselves as partners in crime and laughed. You were the life of the party and we will miss you June 9, 2012 at Daddy's 89th birthday party; you can be sure we will be thinking of you. Love, Diane
Nancy Miller
June 3, 2012
In Memory of Mother from Nancy
I go to Jacksonville often; it will always be home to me. Our childhood, in the same house, has special memories. We outgrew the two bedroom house and had an addition built on during the winter months. Mother was expecting Bruce and we needed an extra bedroom and larger living room. The screened in porch was removed where we used to roller skate back and forth. A temporary large sheet of visqueen was all that kept the cold air out. Grandma Lauer would agree it gets cold in Jax; in fact, I recall her saying it “felt” colder in Jacksonville than Minnesota. Donnie didn't have to share a bed any longer with Diane and myself; he had the middle and we would sometimes get in trouble talking after being warned to be quiet and go to sleep. Many nights, Dad would play his guitar at the foot of the bed and sing a special tune of “On Top of Old Smokey” and always added “our name” to the song. I remember one Christmas, Philip was just born; Mother had made sure all of the kids Christmas presents were bought early. Every Christmas was exciting; we would sneak up early and peak in the living room where the room was full of presents but then you would hear Mother or Dad's voice saying, “wait!” Mother and Dad enjoyed having their morning coffee and could watch the excitement. Each child was also treated special on their birthday with gift and no chores. All five kids were taught responsibility at a young age and it produced hard working, devoted children. We will always be grateful. In Loving Memory, Nancy
Diane Lauer
May 20, 2012
We were just enjoying the pictures of the family, Daddy, Sherri. and me. I am getting anxious for oceanside 99 again when I saw you, Nancy and I walking on the beach you had the hat on you loved to wear, Sherri was remembering how much you loved the sandpipers and the ocean and looking for sea turtles nests, one time we saw the turtle eggs hatching and the baby sea turtles scurrying to the ocean. We will always remember walking on the boardwalk, I am thankful I bought the timeshares years ago, we can continue to make more memories. Nancy will drive us there this year in her new Hyundai Elantra 2012, platinum metallic gray vehicle. Mary is getting her Toyota Echo, and is thrilled. Sherri and I went to the cemetary today and took flowers to you and went to Buddy's grave.
Nancy will arrive Friday May 25,2012 for us to celebrate Memorial Day weekend, Grady will be in Lake Swan working where we had so many good time and then he will come see us, she plans to leave her car at my house for Mary to pickup, and go home in Grady's truck and get her car on May 29th 2012. Will close for now until next time, I love and think of you daily.
Love, Diane
Michelle Soldo
May 18, 2012
I'm thinking of your family and missing you and my sweet Aunt Mildred. It's a blessing to read your loving tributes and the beautiful memories you share. Just imagine the heavenly reunion we will all have one day with Mildred and our Heavenly Father. What a celebration it will be! Love to you all.
Philip & Sherrie Lauer
May 14, 2012
'Hey Mom" Sherrie and me stopped by to make sure dad was alright, it was late and his light was on. We rubbed some cream on dads back as it was hurting were always thinking of you and dad we miss you, and love you and dad so much.
Donnie
May 13, 2012
Mom, I miss and love you so much. It hurts to not be able to call on the phone so I'll do the next best thing. I'll look at the stars and say a prayer to tell you how much I love you. Mother's Day is so special, for all Mom's jobs never end. I will remember all the great times we had together, not only at the end but from the first time I can remember.
Thanks Mom.
I love you,
Donnie.
Attached is a picture from Michael's baptism, September 1993.
Bruce Lauer
May 13, 2012
Happy Mother's Day! I think of you each day and remember you are in my heart. Your Son Bruce.
Clarence & Philip Lauer
May 13, 2012
Hey Mom happy mothers day,we love you and miss you so much.I came by to make sure dad was ok. Michelle sent dad some roses,we will be bringing some of the roses with your mothers day card out to you, we know you will love them. Because you always loved roses,you will have alot of vistors out to see you today and to enjoy the roses with you.Love always always Dad and Philip.
Ramona Jo Egbert
May 12, 2012
Another Mother's Day…
As another Mother's Day approaches, I remember the special ladies that have had an impact on my life. Except for my mother (who died when I was thirteen years old), the most significant lady and mother influence in my life was Mrs. Lauer. She came into my life through her daughter and my best friend Diane, when I was fourteen years old. Through the following years she became my role model, advisor, friend and frequent companion. As I raised my own three boys, I would often seek her wise counsel. Whenever I was going through difficult periods in my life, I could always count on her being there to offer comfort, love and encouragement. Words alone cannot adequately express how much I miss her and ache to have one more hug, kiss, phone call or email from her. I am comforted to know that we will be together again in Heaven. I know she is up there with the angels, looking down on all of her loved ones and waiting for us to join her in our Heavenly Father's house. Until then I will remember her with all the love she gave me and I will try my best to always make her proud. With love always, Ramona Jo
Diane Lauer
May 12, 2012
Dearest Mama,
I know you are in heaven and my guardian angel as well as Sherri's and the whole
family. Tomorrow is May 13, 2012 Mother's Day so we will go to the cemetary and take beautiful live roses,21 roses, red, white, yellow, and deep pink, they are beautiful. as you were. We all love and miss you and you are in my thoughts daily, Sherri will say Mama remember when Grandma did or said this and we reminisce about the good times. Philip was saying today about how you enjoyed St. Johns Seafood and we always went after our beauty appointments.
My Mother's day gift from Sherri was highlights and haircut of course Candace is still my beautian and is getting married in July. I know you really loved her, Carolyn and I talked on the phone the other night and she is doing well, Daddy is not well, but does his best to keep his spirits up like he always has and your Prince Philip is making sure Daddy is ok and checks on him several times a day, I come several times a week and try to cook or bring something, Nancy and Grady came home last weekend and we had a family party. Tomorrow she is getting a wonderful present a 2012 Hyundai Elantra, silver as she is coming at least once a month, we are looking forward to going to Oceanside 99, September 8th to the 15th, as always we are looking forward to that Nancy, Sherri and myself you will be missed you loved the sandpipers on the beach the sunrises and sunsets and all the good times we shared over the years, Precious Memories.
I love you,
Mama
Happy Mothers Day, Diane
May 2, 2012
Uncle Bill, So sorry for your loss. Tho' I never had the pleasure of meeting Mildred, I'm sure she was a wonderful wife and mother. Love you.
Chris (Hutchins) Balsam
Diane Lauer
May 1, 2012
Dear Mama,
You would have loved the supper I cooked tonight for Daddy, Bruce and myself, saved some for Philip and my Sherri, shrimp perlo, You taught me how to cook when I was about 12, now I am 64, just has a birthday April 18, Bruce was 55, April 24, we are getting older but hanging in there I have lost 20 pounds down to 146 # so proud of that, sure look better in swimsuit.
Nancy is coming home Thursday May 3rd, 2012 will stay until Sunday afternoon, I am having a family party Saturday at 1 pm, you know I would give the world for you to be there as you were always the life of the party, My Sherri has to work at Advance Auto on Cassat 5 min from home, Grady is working at Lake Swan so will try and come, Nancy will drive from Pt. St. Lucie alone.
Ramona will bring dessert, I'm looking for the lemon cheese cake recipe so picked out some favorites to copy, I saw your sweet potato pie recipe and know you loved to make those, Sherri says nobody can make goulash like you or chili she has many precious memories and speaks of you often like Mama hold your shoulders back like Grandma taught us, Mama always had good posture, you were always beautiful and I have your picture on it, you were 18 yrs old, and Sherri says you look like Judy Garland, and are so beautiful, Daddy said Judy Garland bought him a ice cream sundae when he was stationed in California at lagunda beach he was only getting $21.00 a month, she ordered a banana split, Daddy a sundae he did not realize she was a movie star and just a girl from Minnesota and Daddt realized he had no money offered to work for the treats, wash dishes whatever she paid the bill she said since he had no money to pay she took him in her 1940 convertible Buick roadster and road out in the country and mountains and Lagunda Beach was around Los Angeles, she pulled up to an electric gate where her and Mickey Rooney lived so Daddy picked big purple ripe plums as she owned the place, Daddy was was wearing his dress blues so she pulled right up to the carport and she beeped the horn and the butler came out she then said it was her house do not worry and come in there was silver dollars glazed under a clear coating floor and he had wine and a steak dinner around 7pm he had to get back to the base by 7am in the morning so she took him to the bus and gave him $15.00 a guy picked him up in a 1939 or 1940 Cord car which they did not make many Daddy is dictaking this story to me and Judy Garland before he left her house admitted who she was and introduced her to her husband Mickey Rooney who she called Rooney, He has lots of stories to tell, will be 89, June 11, 2012. Ramona want to have his party or I will, as we want to celebrate, my pool and pond and yard are looking good after 4 days of work, I am at Daddy's watching Dancing With The Stars, Mama I know you enjoyed that, I love and miss you and will try and get Sherri to write soon I was able to put in this entry without crying as we had such wonderful memories, a train is going by so the whistle is loud, Grandma Pitts always enjoyed that since Grandaddy worked for the Seaboard railroad, I am retired now, so have time to spend with Daddy and I am so glad, I had dinner at church a couple of Sundays ago, just today I told Jasper my Peninsula termite man about you playing piano for church 14 years and her father was a Baptist minister, and my Daddy is friendly danced for years square dancing, ballroom danced and finally at Spindrifter waltzed, line danced and two stepped, won contests and Mama you were not jealous but happy he could enjoy his life and your marriage lasted 66 years due to the trust and love you shared, we all miss you and love you, you know the song we will all be together by and by we enoyed listening to you play the piano Daddy bought you around 1953 for your birthday. You used to tell stories about how the young country boys in Georgia when you played for church enjoyed such a pretty city girl before Daddy of course as Ya'll married when you were 19 and Daddy was 21, a match made in heaven, I will always have you in my thoughts.
Love,
Your daughter, Diane
Clarence Lauer
April 30, 2012
Sent: Friday, April 27, 2012 9:06 PM
Subject: Re: Oh What a Wonderful Dream!
Dear Mary,
Thank you for sharing with us your beautiful dream about Mama, I cried as I read it but what precious memories we have of the family parties we shared and Mama always loved visiting me, she always looked forward to a home cooked meal she taught me how to cook along with others I met along the way, including you of course. I will miss you, but I know you are happy in the mountains and you deserve peace and happiness, I will always love you and cherish all the good times, Mama loved me to make her a cake she loved lemon cheese cake maybe I will make one soon in her memory. I have sent your email to myself, Sherri, Ramona, Donnie and Bruce, Philip does not have a computer, Daddy gets real weak, and is not feeling well tonight, he is tired and it's 9pm, so I need to go home and take my medicine and watch tv and go to bed the yard and pool are looking real good, I have helped Marie and I am grateful she would help me as it is too much alone, take care and tell Starr I appreciate her giving you a home you can call you own for as long as you want and one of these days I will get up there to visit, when ya'll come to Jax, come see me. Sherri and I are fine, I get better every day/thanks for your prayers,
Love you,
Diane
Sent: Friday, April 27, 2012 5:09 PM
Subject: Oh What a Wonderful Dream!
Hello Bill and Family,
I just got off the phone with you , and thought I would write down in words what a wonderful dream I just had. It has really blessed me,and know I should share it with all of you there in Jacksonville.
First of all, I have been wakeing up quite early these days of recent. And this morning I struck out to Walmart for the first time alone driving by myself, to try and learn these country roads. As I was leaving Walmart, my cell phone rang, it was my sister Starr, and she wanted me to come down to her house for some bacon and eggs. I told her I wasn't home, and much to her suprise I informed her of my whereabouts, she was excited for me. Needles to say she was happy that I went out on my own.
A few hours later, after doing some much needed laundry, I had just put in a load of towels, and was waiting on them to dry, then I layed across the foot of my bed, I have been praying ALOT for all of you, most importantly Diane and Bill, as I should, for God to reach down with the ease of a breeze, for special healing. So I must have been tired, and feel asleep.
I dreamed that Diane and I had been to the store and bought some meat and fixin's for a big cookout, all her family was expected over. Diane and I were seasoning up all kinds of meats, in the kitchen, and we heard someone come up, Diane walked over to the window and said, Oh Mary it's mama, she's here, I said, now Diane that's not possible, she is no longer here with us. I then started towards the front door, and sure enough, it was Mildred.
I went to the front porch and she kissed me many times and said, hello Darling, I said Mildred, it really is you, how it this possible? She told me ...Darling , I check on Diane here at her house every single day, I told her everyone was going to be here today, and she already knew it because she said, as Bill was driving into the driveway, "there's Bill" I check on him, and all of my children each and every day. And she talked with me until each of you Lauer's had arrived, and was quite happy to know you all were still doing family get-togethers, and cookout's. She told me that she was there to help greet my mother in Heaven upon her arrival, that she was so happy and pretty, she said she told my mom that, at one time Mary had life all wrong, but was now convinced that Mary has finally become aware of what true happiness and peace, joy and harmony was all about, and she was so happy for me, as I have grown so much closer to God, and that she was so proud of me! Mildred looked so very Beautiful, and there was a bright, yet warm glow about her. It really was so very wonderful to see, just devine, and glorious.I asked her to let me lead her into the living room, but she told me, not this time Mary, she just wanted to see all of her family together again, and to encourage them, that she is alway's watching over them, and constantly checking on them. Told me she had to go now, and I wanted to hug her, and as we were hugging and kissing, she just disappeared out of my arms, ever so gently as she arrived. I have never dreamed about Mildred ever before, and can never stress how Devine and angelic my dream was, and so real.
Know this. I am very convinced that Mildred visit's each of you daily, She will, and does alway's, keeps you all close, and she is very near, even if you dont see her....she IS there. I am very honored that she has chosen me to send you all this little message of a reminder, that she is watching, and Loving, every one each day...for she IS alway's near.
Love and miss you from my heart!
Mary D. Wilson
Diane Lauer
April 20, 2012
Mama I was thinking of you as always, Sherri and I feel you are our angel looking over us as you did when you were here with us. I was in the hospital recently am doing much better, Sherri has a great job 5 minutes from home at Advance Auto she loves it, She and I have been together since May and she is alot of company for me, I come and see Daddy very often as he isn't well, but is always cheerful and good attitude, I will always try and inherit that quality as I have inherited so many of yours, you were loving and kind and everyone loved you. When I has my mammogram today I thought of the many time we went together and has coffee or hot flavored tea, tried to make it a fun outing, lunch at cafeteria, all our trips to St. Johns seafood and Steak after our visit to hair cuttery for Candace to do our hair. I will miss you always, your are always in my heart, we took some beautiful pink tulips to the cemetary, Daddy, Bruce and I. I am sorry I do not have more entries, I cry everytime as you meant so much to me, we were as close as a daughter and Mother could be, you and Daddy raised five children that have always loved and respected you both, Daddy has beautiful flowers in the memory garden out front, says Mildred's hummingbird and flower garden, a sign Daddy had made special for you also the light post I got you years ago with a hummingbird feeder on it. Sherri has a great memory and reminds me of lots of things as she cherished you so as you helped raise her and help me teach her little songs when she was little like 20 frogies went to school all beside a rushing pool and many more you light up my life , We love and miss you and I will do another entry soon, your daughter Diane
Philip Lauer
April 17, 2012
Hey Mom just thinking about you, and how much we miss you and loves you. Dad and I stopped by for a visit and replaced the easter flowers and put some more flowers in the vace, they look really good. Love always.
Flowers with love
Clarence Lauer
April 5, 2012
In Loving Memory of Mildred E. Lauer
It has been nearly three years since Mildred went home to Heaven. If only I could go back to that day, I would hold her and tell her every second how much I loved her. I promise no tomorrow for today will always last and each day's the same way, there's no longing for the past. So when tomorrows start without Mildred, don't think we're far apart, for every time I think of her, we are both in each others hearts. At 88 years of age, it is impossible to save any more time. But it comes to mind when I'm alone listening to the ticking of our old wind-up clock. Time is an illusion, unless you're closing in on 89. Then it is stone-cold real. One of my better decisions was made in my 20's. That was when I married the sweetest girl that was born and raised right here in Florida. I've only had the one wife but that's all it took to know she had an essential quality I needed: Mildred could put up with me. As I think of time lately, it hits me how sometimes a stretch of a few years can seem so significant, while other much longer stretches of time go by in an uneventful blur. Many wonderful memories woven in gold pass by during those long stretches. This is the picture I tenderly hold deep in my heart. Mildred's memory is kept to love, to cherish and never to forget. Life is but a stopping place, a pause in what's to be a resting place along the road to sweet eternity. Yet time seems to stand still, it is hard to believe that Mildred is no longer here. It has been nearly three years, come June, since we lost Mildred and the pain is still so fresh but the memories of Mildred's time with us continues to linger and help us through difficult times. Our family and your dear friends truly miss you. Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure; you are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure. Time has marched on and the world may have changed but deep in our hearts Mildred will always remain.
From the Lauer Family sent with all our Love.
Clarence W. "Bill” Lauer
Clarence Lauer
February 26, 2012
In Memory of my Aunt Mildred
from niece June in Australia
Hello Uncle Clarence, and my Aunt in Heaven
Thanks always for the story emails you send me Uncle Clarence, they are always so good to read.
I just want to say to you that you have always been my favourite Uncle. Mildred my sweet Aunt Growing up I always got so excited when you came to visit Minnesota and I remember happy visits in Florida. I remember once visiting you and Millie While visiting my ex-husband Andrew had ate some bad shrimp and he was so sick. You came to his rescue and made him some homemade chicken soup and it cured him! I always enjoyed listening to your stories of life. Fond memories of Millie never forgetting my birthday and always sending me a lovely card in the mail, such a special lady.
I've been thinking about you'll and just wanted to let you know that you always make me smile. Thank you for being the most special Aunt & Uncle in my world! I think about you often. As we travel through life, we often meet ordinary people who have a profound effect on our lives. and when those people pass on. it always seems to leave a void in our hearts that can not be filled. Through our days little things happen that passed on back into our minds. it might be something as insignificant as a conversation we might of had or it could be something as important as a special day we've had a privilege to share with them, the ones we love are forever with us. What ever our reason for keeping the ones we love are foreever with us. What ever thr reason for keeping the ones we love in mind and heart Mildred you have not left our memory, It will soon be three years, yes three long years when we said goodby and Heaven said Hello. Memories of you Mildred are forever with all of us.
Niece in Australia
Love June
Roses in a vase
Clarence Lauer
February 13, 2012
Special flowers for Mildred this Valentine's day. They are given as a reminder In loving memory of a wonderful person, we will love her and miss her always. The vase of roses are a reminder of the flowers that Mildred loved to get on Valentine's Day and will be placed on her grave.
Clarence Lauer
February 13, 2012
Happy Valentine's Day, Mildred with Special Love
A special tribute to you this day, memories of you lives in our hearts everyday. Life can never be what it was before as we looked forward to Valentine's Day to bring you a beautiful card. Although gone but not forgotten, we take this time to remember and cherish your special Valentines Day. We're also sending you lots of love and memories of every special occasion we were blessed to have shared with you. Hard as it may seem, God had another plan for you the day he took you into Heaven. However your spirit is truly present with us plus our love. There's no vocabulary for love within a family. We love you dearly. Loving and devoted, you were a wonderful wife, mother and grandmother. We miss you and will love and chrish your memory, until we are re-united in Heaven.Your loving smile, your gentle face no one can fill your vacant place. In Heaven you have a perfect view and we know you're keeping an eye on us too.
Always & forever in our hearts. Your loving family, husband Bill, children, Diane, Nancy, Donnie, Bruce, & Philip.
Philip Lauer
February 12, 2012
Hey mom we loves you so much, i stopped in to see dad and diane and sherrie made dad some chicken and dumplings, bruce stopped by and we all had a nice dinner, it was really good. Love always
Yvonne Angus
January 24, 2012
Mildred, we miss you very much. However, we know we'll see you again someday.
Hope you had a wonderful birthday up in Heaven. I know the cake and ice cream were the BEST EVER!!!
Love you,
Yvonne Angus
Mr & Mrs C. W. Lauer
Clarence Lauer
January 24, 2012
In Loving Memory of my wife, Happy Birthday 1/22/1945 thru 1/22/2012
To the special woman that made my life what it is. Happy Birthday Mildred I will always remember that January the 22 of each year that special date will come and go and Mildred will always have a special place in my heart on that date.I have learned we all have inner strength we didn't know we have. I lost my wife of 66 years to breast and stomach cancer two and a half years ago. I learned to find the strength to be thankful she was no longer suffering as I held her hand and she drew her last breath. I learned to find the strength to be a single parent, something in my wildest dreams I never would have believed I would be. Our children had grown up and I knew they would miss their mother terribly, as we were such a close family and never gave thought that one day one of us would be taken out of our family group. Mildred and I were in our 80's. I guess I learned to find the strength to be happy for the full life my children and I still have ahead of us and not dwell on the loving wife and mother we had lost. I learned to find the strength to rebuild my life, after all our dreams were lost. I have found the strength to be kind of happy in life again, as I was for so many years. They say adversity builds character; I have found the strength to be one hell of a character.This is what I have learned from cancer that took the life of the loving person I loved so dearly. Mildred's birthday was not forgotten today. I gathered up two of my children, Diane and Bruce and my Granddaughter, Sherri and drove out to the cemetery to place new flowers on Mildred's grave. We were there with her spirit to tell her how much we missed her. It was a perfect time to tell Mildred little stories with their happy endings and that we loved her more than words could express, remembering to tell her that her smile and joy that she brought to her family is quietly remembered. The reason Philip and Donnie were not with us for a birthday visit is they had to work today but they would be visiting one of the first days. I'm sure Nancy's thoughts would be thinking and wishing her mother a Happy 86th Birthday. I know Mildred you're watching and are proud of all of us. It's been two years six months since you left, but to us it seems like only yesterday. We take comfort in knowing that you are with the Lord. Your love and kindness is still being talked about. We continue your legacy of love and faith. Because of you, we know what's at the heart of a good life, "Love and Family" those are the things that are true and lasting, because of you Mildred we know what family is and it will always be there, no matter what. There are three things that remain, Faith, Hope and Love the greatest of these is Love.
Your Family
Philip Lauer
January 22, 2012
I just wanted to say happy birthday mom, I love you so much, we all love you and miss you.
Philip Lauer
December 25, 2011
I just wanted to tell you how much i love you. Merry Christmas mom we all miss you so much. Love always.
Clarence Lauer
November 11, 2011
In loving memory of a wonderful person, Mildred Edna Pitts Lauer
She shared so many years of her life, the memories of which are forever entombed in my heart. Even though you are not present in body my love, I will always remember the special day, God blessed me with someone as special as you, Mildred. Memories will always and forever be dear to me. Life without my love now days just isn't the same but I know you would want me to be strong and carry on until the day we meet again. With Thanksgiving Holiday this year I've invited our children with their families to have what I hope will be the best holiday dinner I plan to make. It's especially in memory of you when for years we had the children together for a dinner. This year we will celebrate Thanksgiving at our house. All our children have accepted my invitation. I have already purchased a big Butterball Turkey. Next week I'll purchase all the items that will make up the special dinner. Entertaining at the dinner party would be so easy if only you would be present like old times for the family gathering. We also will celebrate with a Holiday Classic (oyster roast outdoors) just like old times. Loving memories of our past gatherings as I've written before "Those we love remain with us, for love its self lives on and cherished memories will never fade just because my loved one has gone to heaven”. Those we love can never be more than a thought apart just like in my thoughts today. For as long as we have our memory, Mildred will live in all our hearts and as we all know she has left her spirit and a life time of memories. Her smiles, kind words, and wisdom are just another reminder of how much Mildred is missed and loved by her family and me. Memories of times spent together over the many years keep her alive in my heart. Lately I've been thinking of a poem I read a number of years ago. I've had it on my mind lately. So... when you read this I pray it brings comfort to you.
“To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say, I'm writing this poem from heaven. Here I'm with God and there are no more tears or sadness; here is just eternal love. Remember that I'm with you every morning noon and night. That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through, God picked me up and hugged me and said, “I welcome you." As for your dearest family, they will be here later on. When you lie in bed at night the day's chores put to flight, God and I are closest to you, in the middle of the night. When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears. But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain. Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain. I wish that I could tell you, all that God has planned, but if I were to tell you, you probably wouldn't understand. One thing is for certain, I'd like for you to know, though my life on earth is over, I'm closer to you now than I ever was before. There are many rocky roads ahead and many hills yet to climb, together we can do it by taking one day at a time. It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too... that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you. If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain, then you can say to God at night..." My day was not in vain," and now I am contented that my life on earth has been worth while, knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile. When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind, I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind. When it's time for you go... from that body to be free, remember your not going... you're coming here to me”.
Thinking of Mildred in heaven makes her seem so far away. Yet all the love she left behind is in our hearts to stay. Mildred will never be forgotten, for though we are apart Mildred is always and forever alive within our hearts. Those we love never go away, they walk beside us every day unseen, unheard, but always near still loved, still missed by her family, friends, and those whose lives she touched. When we see the beauty and simplicity of a flower, it reminds us of Mildred's smile and loving spirit. A warm breeze reminds us of her gentle touch. The thoughts and memories of the love, happy times and family times are for ever etched in our hearts. To my dearest true love Mildred, reminiscing especially today about your merry spirit, warm smile, helping hand, and caring heart seems as if you left us too soon. We rest assured that you are with our heavenly Father enjoying life everlasting. You are forever in our hearts and minds, loved and missed by all.
Love always, husband Bill, our children, Diane, Nancy, Donnie. Bruce, Philip, son-in law, daughters in law, grandchildren & dearest friend, Ramona
Clarence Lauer
September 27, 2011
In Precious Loving Memory of Mildred Pitts Lauer
A Loving Wife, Mother, Grandmother, Great Grandmother & Friend.
It seems like an eternity since Mildred, the mother of our children has been gone.
Her "Legacy" still lives on in all of us. There will never be anyone who can or will take the place of Mildred in our hearts. Mildred was one of a kind that cannot be duplicated. There's a "vacancy" that cannot be filled. Her "faithfulness", thoughtfulness", "loyalty", "caring" and most of all "her love for all of us, her family and friends”, will never be forgotten. Mildred was so "very, very" special to all of us and missed so very much. If I should live forever and all my dreams come true, my memories of love will always be of Mildred. Our loneliness and our tears at times still linger on, but knowing God has Mildred in his care dries our tears. Now that Mildred is gone, we will remember her smiles and her direction. If crying once in a while is what we must do, we'll do it with those who care and will walk beside us. I know Mildred would want to leave us something special, much better than words or things. She'd want us to look for her in the people she'd known or helped in a small way. She'd say “love me” by letting our love reach out to others. Love doesn't die! Memories are for sharing, keep sharing Mildred in love, as best we can. These words are from Bill Lauer to you who read Mildred's Legacy. If you love somebody enough, you can still hear the laughter since Mildred is gone.This I know is true from the loving hearts of the Lauer family. Mildred has always been in our hearts, nothing can ever take away the love a heart holds dear. Fond memories linger every day, remembrance keeps us always near. Words cannot express just how very much we loved Mildred and think about her and miss her everyday. We are comforted by her sweet spirit and often feel her spirit around us, most often by all of our precious memories of Mildred. God truly blessed me by letting Mildred become my wife and the mother of our children. I know she'll always live on in my heart and her presence will always be felt. Mildred had lots of friends and those friends are like a very rare jewel indeed. Some of them contact me weekly to check and see that I'm ok. In conversations they make me smile and encourage me to succeed keeping my health in good condition. They seem to cherish the time we talk on the phone, the memories we share when Mildred was with us. Being friends with someone is not an opportunity but a sweet responsibility. It's like the person in a poem and this is the poem: “Around the corner I have a friend, in this great city that has no end. Days go by and weeks rush on, and before I know it, a year is gone and I never see my friends face, for life is swift as it travels on. Tomorrows go and distance between us grows and grows. Around the corner, yet it seems miles away we hope not to hear our friend has died today and just like now we have a vanished friend. If you love someone, tell them because when you decide that it is the right time it might be too late. Seize the day, never have regrets and most importantly, stay close to your friend and family, for they have helped make you the person that you are today.” Our love for Mildred will always remain the same and Mildred will remain forever in our hearts, we miss her so much. We know Mildred's forever with the Angels, always in our hearts. With love to you, Mildred, forever and ever. Your husband and children, the Lauer family.
Clarence Lauer
August 7, 2011
In loving memory of Mildred Pitts Lauer
I have this old habit of thinking things have to look a certain way when I decide to submit another writing in Mildred's Legacy Book. That means meditating and writing when the house is quite. I like to do the nourishing things I can't do when someone is around to disturb my thoughts as I sit here during my alone time. I have to remind myself that in every circumstance I can find the unexpected. Anything can be beautiful in some respects; the main thing is to create something in my mind as a reason to get up in the mornings. Many times when I awake my thoughts remind me of the love and thoughtfulness of my departed wife, Mildred. When I look at her pictures that I've placed in most of the rooms in the home we shared, the years of grace I see frames her face and beauty is on “Her " time. I feel the sun would wait for her to awake just for it to shine. I will always hold her dear and keep her near with never a regret. The heart of gold, the many stories told, I never shall forget. The memories of her will always be in my heart. As time goes by most of us will reflect upon her and express our appreciation to God for allowing her to be in our lives in such a special way. Mildred will be remembered for her love and the most faithful grandma, mom and wife. I believe Mildred is watching us now from heaven above and is our guardian angel.
Last weekend most of our children were together at our oldest daughter, Diane's home. Nancy had driven up from South Florida from her job to be with all of us for the weekend. After dinner I remembered a conversation Nancy and I had over the phone while she was driving home after a long day at her office job. The stories she told were all about little things she remembered when she was in grade school and growing up at home. I talked Nancy into repeating some of the stories about the silly things she did as a kid to get her brothers and sister interested in talking about what they could remember. That conversation lead to the rest of my grown children telling their stories of what they remembered as kids being at home and around their mom and dad. It was a beautiful way to spend the time with the family together hearing, “MY KID DID WHAT?! Once I gather enough of their stories I will post them in another legacy entry. It will help be a great way to bring memories that could end up printed in Mildred's legacy book by our children and her close friends.
Many days have gone by since our Lord and Savior called Mildred's name. God has all things in His hands, even this day is covered by His plan for our lives. I'm reminded of Mildred each day God allows me to open my eyes. There is nothing like the mother of our childred anywhere in the earth. God has made her to rest in Him until that faithful day He unites us, the heirs to His kingdom, to forever live in the heaven He created just for us; we will forever await His call.
Love, Bill and Family
Lorraine Soldo
August 3, 2011
Remembering Millie
What greater blessing do we have here on earth than the sweet voices and familiar faces of those we love. They are our companions on the journey of life, laughing and encouraging and supporting one another. Nothing on Earth can make life more worthwhile. And Millie was one of them. she was a very kind and thoughtful person. She had a smile and kind words to say to everyone. She was a wonderful wife and mother, and we were blessed to have had her in our family. And that made her a very special person and will be remembered with love by all who were fortunate to have known her. Its been two years since the Lord called Millie home. Her love of life and beautiful smile remain in our hearts. These memories will always keep us warm.
She is missed.
There is a road called Rememberance, where I walk with you each day. It is a pleasant happy road, all filled with memories true. Today it leads me to a spot where I can dream a while, and in its tranquil peacefulness. I touch your hand and smile.
With Loving memories,
Lorraine Soldo
Chaska, Minn
Stephanie (Blonigan)Andreasen
July 20, 2011
I too have very fond memories of Aunt Mildred. When she would visit Minnesota my mother would always make a point to visit her often and have everyone out to our home. As a little girl I would listen to her tell me about all of her kids and she always took so much interest in what i was doing and what a wonderful laugh she had,and how she never forgot a birthday I would always think how does she keep track of everyones birthday She was a very special lady and my mom Carolyn thought the world of her.All I know is that there is a big huge party in heaven with all the people we hold dear in our hearts. And one day we will all be together again! God bless you all!
Clarence Lauer
July 14, 2011
Momories to Honor a Loved One
I've decided today to get on this computer for the challenging to write another letter to submit in Mildred's Legacy Book that readers requested. Today I have the energy and some good health to take on the job. I surely have missed writing about my sister Josephine & brother Valentine like Mildred did for so many years. I do write up my thoughts and memories and submit the entries quite often in Mildred's Legacy Book just like I used to do when I submitted entries in Valentine's Legacy Book that his son Jim sponsored for a number of years. After my sweet Mildred passed on I started submitting most of my memories and thoughts in Mildred's Legacy Book that my son Donnie sponsored the first year for his writings, then Bruce yearned to see more entries written to honor the memory of his Mom so he sponsored it for the second year so he'd be able to write entries to his Mom. This year Philip now will kept it on line from July 4th 2011 for another year until July 4th 2012. Writing in her book our five children and myself will keep her memories and her spirit felt in our hearts. Memories of Mildred will never be forgotten by our family and submitting those thoughts really makes us feel good. Those whom click on the link to open the Legacy Book for Mildred Edna Lauer can see Most recent to the Oldest Entries, 89 with the last entry I submitted. They would find out some of the things that take place in my life and in our children's, They would see more writing in the future to hold on to the beautiful thoughts, and memories shared by friends and loved ones.This year I've meant well but for unknown reasons on what I call a special "day" Dates to honor our Veterans, I failed to submit writings about the Veterans in face book or in the Legacy book like I alway did. Mildred loved to read those writting and see pictures I'd submit with them when she was still with us. Many times in Valentine's Legacy book I'd submit a picture or a writing. One of the things I loved to do was write about the reason we celebrated the 4th of July. The signing of the Declaration of Independence like took place 235 years ago and the reason behind those writtings was I helped people to remember. The U.S. Freedom celebrations are our treasured events never to be forgotten. Having four Sons serving in the U.S.Navy I many times think about how proud my Mom and Dad were, but they worried about our well being specially during the war. Mom and Dad were so happy when the war was over and have her complete family around for years to come. The forth of July meant so much to the families in Minnesota & in Mildred's family's here in Florida, Mildred's Mother and Dad's Son Buddy Mildred's brother served four years during WW ll. For many years when I was vacationing in Minnesota, it seemed like everyone celebrated the Patriotic Past with big gatherings Celebrated among the families with cook-outs and fireworks just like my brother Valentine always did. Valentine loved to celebrate specially on the fourth of July. At the last home Valentine owned he had one tall flag-pole permanently set up in his front yard. On that pole the American flag was seen day and night for every one to see, all day long on the fourth of July he'd have patriotic music playing. Here at my home I've had the American flag raised at the front of my patio ever since 1960 when I first purchased my house and there is no telling how many flags I have replaced when they got worn or torn from the sun or the winds. Here in Florida the same celebrations took place in Mildred's Pitts family. Now all in her family, her mother and dad, her two brothers and three sisters are all gone. Mildred was the last to go in the Pitts family, Thankfully there remains a number of nieces and nephews that have good memories of there grandparents like good memories I can remember of their Dads and Mothers, they all attended the big parades with us celebrating the Fourth of July' many times we all in the four families with the children partied at the beach, sometimes it would be at state parks where we would do a bit of fishing and cook-outs. During those parties maybe we'd play some horseshoe games. Some years we all would go to one or the others home with a big cookout planned. Those cook-out included the most delicious foods and deserts the women would make. Everyone in Mildred's Dad and Mother's family played some type instrument and we could count on some great music for entertainment, Those were the events I always looked forward to. This year in my family we didn't drive down town in the city of Jacksonville to watch the big parades, I myself at 88 years young have problem walking very far before before I'm windit or worn out. My boys did drop in to check on me but they didn't stay as they wanted me to take it easy and not fix a big meal for them. I did light up the grill and grilled some hot dogs and two large T bone steaks with trimmings just in case one of my kids decided to stay for dinner or supper. I watched the fireworks shown on the television program that evening. 45 minuet long fire works were fired off here in Jacksonville. Macys in New York fireworks were great, both were worth watching and I enjoyed them. My children I later learned did the same thing as I did, they stayed in their own homes and watched T.V. Programs except for Donnie and his family they live at Jacksonvill beach so they took their bikes and rode them closer to the Jacksonville ocean pier and watched the fireworks shot up there. What a change that's taken place the last few years with me, I seem to feel comfortable staying home now days. Well the fireworks have dimmed and the grills have been turned off. The Fourth of July celebrations may be over, but it's always important to look toward the past to recognize those who have dedicated their lives to improving the country and maintaining its freedom. I'm proud to thank anyone that's served, If I hadn't told any of my close friends I'll say Thank you now, Mildred would have said so if she was still with us. Since Mildred can't as she is an angel in heaven watching over me and our five children. Just wanted all my readers to know what's been going on in my golden years,
Clarence Lauer
June 26, 2011
In memory of our precious Angel, Mildred Edna Lauer
Two years have come and gone, Mildred, since you've left us, precious memories we will never forget. Your love since has been my guide as it has been with our children. That love travels on through our children; they feel their mother is always by their side. Though the two years have come and gone, my heartache lingers and there is an emptiness I can not fill. The only thing that comforts me is knowing that Mildred has gone to be with Jesus in her heavenly home, free of the pain she experience the last weeks of her life here on earth. We miss Mildred as each day passes by, yet we know her new life is far better now and we no longer have to watch her cry. We will never forget two years ago our Heavenly Father gave the mother of our children wings. Since we miss her beautiful smiles and warm spirit that lingers among us, we must tell her to “fly on, darling Mildred, fly on”. Just a thought of sweet remembrance, just a memory so sad and true, just the love and sweet devotion of one who thinks of his loving wife. Her life was a blessing to us and now our memories of her are our treasures. One thing I often wonder about is, why is it that when someone you love dies, the sun still shines, the birds still sing, and life supposedly goes on? It doesn't make much sense to me. And why is it that when your heart has shriveled up and feels like lead in your chest, that it still keeps beating? I have lots of “whys”, but no answers. I look at the lovely silver frame that holds the 8x10 picture of my wife, the mother of our five children; it was the first picture that she mailed to me when I was in the U.S. Navy. Sometimes I feel like smudging the glass with kisses. This is life now, passing months don't make it easier. I never let many months go by that I don't sit down to write notes on paper that I'll use at later dates to enter in the legacy guest book. Those writings later will be professionally printed in the guest book when all the entries are submitted. Those writings will enable us to hold on to the beautiful thoughts and memories shared by family and friends in full color, professionally printed for the guest book bound keepsake. To honor the memory of our loved one the book will have many pictures taken at special occasions over the years. Our children and I will purchase the finished guest book after the last entries are submitted, most likely during the next year around July 4, 2012. Our family has seen the guest book published in the Star Tribune on October 9, 2006 in loving memory of a wonderful person, my brother Valentine A. "Jay" Lauer. Valentine's oldest son Jim started the guest book in honor of his dad which was kept on line until October 9, 2011. Jim Lauer purchased the finished guest books and gave Valentine's sister and this Uncle C.W. "Bill" Lauer each one of the guest books after it was published. Many beautiful memories with pictures were submitted for the next five years. Those written memories are treasured by the Lauer family. Memories of times spent together over the many years keeps my brother Valentine alive in our hearts. Like Mildred once wrote, quote "I know no one who touched more hearts than my dear brother-in-law". Regardless of how much time passes Val's days with us will be fresh in our minds. My brother Valentine will never be forgotten by those who read the guest book. It was a great honor for me to submit many of my writings that were printed on the pages in Valentines Guest Book. Understanding the importance of having a guest book to write stories in that will help keep memories from fading away. I have continued writing stories, presenting my thoughts in Mildred’s Guest Book. Our son, Donnie started the guest book in honor for his mother, Mildred, who passed on to her heavenly home June second two years ago. Our second oldest son, Bruce, Patty and Michel kept the guest book on line this year 2011 and our youngest son, Philip will keep the guest book for his mother on line another year until July 4, 2012. Philip wanted to read more entries so writers that are interested can browse entries and submit their thoughts and memories to add a message. I myself will have no problem submitting messages to Mildred's Guest Book during the next year, if my health allows me to do so. Knowing Mildred since the year 1942 then in 1945, Mildred became my wife. I should be able to write many more beautiful stories of our lives together for 66 years. There are lots of memories stored away in my brain box to write about if only memories can come to me when I'm in the mood to sit down at a computer to type them out and put those thoughts on pages for interesting reading. That chapter in my life is closing and that almost always brings with it a touch of sadness. When one chapter closes another chapter begins and it is so exciting to write my story though my choices and decisions to write about Mildred's passing two years ago. Writing in her legacy book has been a true blessing and I have loved every moment of it even when the thoughts in my writing made me feel ready to cry. Watching our children grow and develop is a gift that not every one gets and I have been lucky enough to share this experience with Mildred and now I have memories of so much joy that happened in our life. The last years as I've grown older I've enjoyed more joy with our children daily, having this close family that come to see me most every day. These last two years my four children that live near me in Jacksonville and my daughter Nancy that lives in Port St Lucie, Florida will phone me most every day to check to see that their dad is ok, that's true love. Diane, my oldest daughter, always invites me to her home to celebrate special occasions with a party or has me over to her house for a good meal she enjoys cooking for me. My three boys Donnie, Bruce and Philip have taken over the jobs that I no longer, at my age of 88 years old, can do. My children, all five of them, get together on special occasions and split the cost on major expensive presents they give to me. Those special days like on Christmas, Father Day and my Birthday. Three of my best lady friends love to also give me gifts on my birthday or on other special days. It seems like every one loves me and would do anything for me. My readers may wonder why I write so often in the guest book for Mildred, the answer is I use the writing to comfort the pain of loneliness some times or the pleasure of thinking about my wife. She would do the same for me if I had gone first. I believe sometimes a few of my readers read and pass on some of my stories that I have shared in Mildred’s Legacy Book sharing memories that may help others grieving that have lost a loved one. Among the pages in Mildred’s Legacy Book readers will note I've wrote about two very special individuals who enjoyed giving and sharing. My brother Valentine and Mildred are those two people that I think about often. I want everyone to remember them. Goodbyes are not the end. They simply mean we'll miss them until we meet again. With that said I'll close this writing now my dearest love, in hopes that you will see how very much I love and miss you. We all miss you and love you Mildred. Love always, husband Bill and our children
Diane Lauer
June 8, 2011
Mama, We are all thinking of you as Daddy's 88th birthday is Saturday, June 11th, and I am planning on
having a family party to celebrate. You will always be missed as you were always the life of the party, and we all loved you so. All the five children, grandchildren and friends and hopefully your great granddaughter Erin can come.She is so precious and loves Philip he takes her riding and to the park like he did with Daniel. Nancy,Grady and Amanda will come and have all 3 children with them including the new baby Rose who was 4 months old May 20, 2011. Also Trinity and Desiree, our family is growing. Your 1st granddaughter Sherri sure misses you and talks of you often as I do, we were so close, I loved you so and I could always talk to you about anything, Sherri saw a butterfly when we were on the patio and said hey Grandma as she feels you are our guardian angel and it helps me deal with losing you as we know you are in heaven as I know from the time you were a little girl you played the piano and sang songs with your family beautiful religious songs and when I go to church there are many hymns that bring wonderful memories of my childhood when you made sure we were raised in the church and played songs for us Daniel prayed will always be my favorite, I wanted to put an entry in June 2nd as in my heart I was with you. I will try and write again, I was so proud Sherri got the strengh to write, this morning she was telling me how you took care of her when she was recovering from having her thyroid treatment, I was only 17 when she was born so you and Daddy were a big help raising her. Ramona says she always felt like part of the family. She is bringing a cake to the party for Daddy. You will be in our thoughts.
Love Always,
Diane
Philip Lauer
June 2, 2011
Mom I was thinking about you today just like every day. I'm thinking about the way you raised us, took care us, loved us, and always made sure we were alright. I sure miss all the kisses and hugges that you gave me, I came by today to make sure dad is ok. Bruce put out some pretty blocks in front and on the sides of the memory garden from all of us kids for our dads early birthday present, it really looks nice. Sherrie was thinking about all of the good times you and her spent together talking while sitting on the swing at yours and dads house. Thanks for looking over Daniel as he was growing up and for loving and taking care of everybody the way you did. Erin Daniel's and Dee Dee's daughter is almost two years old and is growing up so beautiful. She's walking and talking for about a year now. I love the way she holds onto me just like as if I was a panda bear. We love you and miss you so much mom. Love always Philip, Sherrie, Daniel ,Dee Dee, & Erin.
June Lauer
June 2, 2011
I always remember my visits to see Millie, Uncle Clar and my cousins. When ever I watch a Walt Disney movie I think of Millie as she loved Walt Disney shows. She served me my first black eye peas, something I will never forget. Just thinking now has put a smile on my face. Lovely lady, never forgotten
Sherri McLaughlin
June 1, 2011
My Grandma, my heart.. From the moment I took my first breath, until the moment my grandma took her last, we were side by side. We shared a bond that was second to none. She meant the world to me and I knew my world would never be the same without her in it. I loved her with all of my heart, so now my heart is broken into pieces. Like a puzzle, piece by piece, I will put my heart back together again. It will take the rest of my life because I’ll never run out of her sweet memories. The two that stand out the most at this moment start with us singing, “You light up my life”, by Debbie Boone and reciting, “The Lord’s Prayer” while holding hands before falling asleep. My grandma only ever brought joy into my life and never any pain. She knew me like no one will ever know me again. Even though I need her now more than ever, I know she is with me in spirit. She is my guardian angel. I miss my grandma but I know more than anything, she would want me to be happy. I will continue to remember the good times we shared. All my love, Granddaughter, Sherri
Peggy Ponsell
May 31, 2011
I was saddened of the news I just heard today of Mildred Lauer going home to the Lord.
I had the pleasure of meeting Mildred Lauer back in the 70's. She was a wonderful mother to her children. SHe treated me as if I was her own.
I can remember eating dinner with them one night and I had never eaten fish or grits. Well, I had my 1st chance to and I love them to this day. Of course, you know who caught them, Clarence.
They reminded me so much of an Ozzie and Harriet type family, in other words, the perfect family. They all loved each other and it showed.
I will see her again some day as we Christians will live eternal life in heaven with the Lord. That makes me happy.
Until we meet again, Mildred, rest in peace.
Your friend,
Peggy Courey Ponsell
Bill Lauer
May 30, 2011
Memory of a loving and devoted wife and mother…
I never thought I would be living my life without the love of my life. It's been two years since the Lord took Mildred to her eternal place in heaven, her new home. It seems like only yesterday. A living life came to an end 6/2/2009. In our hearts Mildred's memory will always be kept, Mildred we truly loved and we will never forget. How precious are the memories of Mildred, my love, they grow with each passing day. I am eternally grateful for the 66 years she was my bride. Our marriage consisted of love, devotion, kindness and respect; those are a daily source of comfort for me. "Thank you my love". There are not enough words to describe all the qualities that were engraved in Mildred so I'll again, in this entry, let my readers know Mildred was loving, kind, sweet and caring just to name a few qualities that come to mind. There were very few dull moments the days when we were together and as I remember constantly she lifted our spirits and never let us down. In a way Mildred's actions reminded everyone in our family of what love really meant. Mildred always brought joy to others, everywhere she would go. She was kind and pleasant, even to people she didn't know and most likely just met. Her smile said it all, along with the way she would start a conversation with them. Now days I am proud to tell anyone about the memories I have during our 66 years together. When I look at pictures or photos of Mildred and see her smile, I am remembering what a wonderful and loving mother our children were so lucky to have for so many years. Mildred left us suddenly two years ago, June the second 2009 after a short stay in the hospital and ever since not a day goes by that she is not in our thoughts. I'll always think there must have been more I could have done, more times I could have said "I love you", many times I think and now regret, "Why didn't I hold her more? Why didn't I do this or that?" I remember the times when we held hands as we walked, when we held one another and kissed, when we shared a sunset or a walk through a park on a beautiful day. I remember some of the great vacations we had together. I remember when we made love and shared that special time. I remember how our love, never dimmed but got stronger over the years. I remember when we first met during WW II and fell in love. I enjoy going through life remembering the special moments, one after another, when we had children, when Mildred laughed or cried. Those yearly trips to get away on vacations, going to MN to visit my family that lived in the state I left in 1942 when I joined the navy. Here in Florida I remember the beach parties with Mildred's family, going with Mildred to church services where her dad was the pastor. I try to push out of my mind the memories that make me feel sad or lonesome, and replace them immediately with good memories, something that will make me smile. I noted in the weeks after Mildred's passing, that relatives go on with their lives, some friends don't call as often and I was kind of left alone except by my children and a few close friends. I try to keep busy, push myself to do other things and not feel sorry for myself. I accepted the aching need to have her back, the need to hold her and tell her I loved her. I'll always remember to say, "What a good life we had". I know she loved me and cared about me, just as I know I loved her and cared about her. I'll always say Mildred was the best mother any children could ask for. I know she is watching over me and our children from heaven above. She would want me to be happy for all the time we had together. I'll always be grateful for the love and happiness she brought us. We can't help having some days with sad feelings, knowing Mildred is no longer with us. We're appreciative of the love and great memories we've gained. Mildred has given us a great example of a wonderful life to live. Now we all know the true meaning of a virtuous woman. We can each recall that Mildred was caring and loving from the start and her memories we fondly keep in our hearts. She is missed beyond belief with much love, Wife, Mother, Grandma, and very dear friend.
Children, Diane, Nancy, Donnie, Bruce and Philip, your loving family, "We miss you". Husband, Bill
Clarence W. Lauer
May 10, 2011
To my darling, a Mom - with everlasting love.
Yesterday I was in the drugstore studying a number of Mother's Day cards spread in front of me. A lot of thought was going into finding just the right card to place on Mildred's grave stone when I went there for a visit today on Mother's Day. A few of the cards I looked at reminded me of the cards I mailed to my mother over the years; Dear Mom, you are the best mom in the world, thanks for all the things you did for me and my family over the many years; Dear Mom, Happy Mother's Day, sorry I can't be home for Mother's Day, I will be home for a few weeks this coming summer around the 4th of July, I will be bringing my family. To my love, Mildred, I would have loved to have found a card to say “Dear Mom, How often I look at a picture taken at our kitchen table and see you sitting there, drinking a cup of coffee, and catching me up on all the news. Hard to believe how the years have flown. Our children’s kids are grown now and have kids of their own. You'd be so proud. I wish you were here so I could say it again – thanks and I love you, Mildred. You will always live in my heart, forever”. This being Mother's Day, the card I picked to write on thanking the mother of our five children for thoughts of the good times. On the card I included our children as I remember that our dutiful children would always come together on Mother's Day to spend time with the woman who gave them life. The greatest mother, wife and friend a person could ever have. From them it's Happy Mother's Day, Mama, a precious Jewel they'd say we could have ever had. Mildred, the love you shared individually with each of us still grows stronger within our hearts everyday. We love and miss you dearly, Diane, Nancy, Donnie, Bruce and Philip. From your husband Mildred my love, every day with you was a Happy Mother's Day. Your children will always remember what a wonderful mother you were to them in every way. I, like them miss you with every beat of our hearts and every breath we take. Next month will be two years since you left this world. Our hearts are still heavy with your loss. Please watch over each of us. Just know we all love and miss you greatly, God Bless, your loving husband and family.
Clarence Lauer
March 11, 2011
Lovely Memories…
In loving memory of Mildred, a wonderful person. We will love her and miss her always. Every time I lift my head to the sky at night I see the golden star. The only star that sticks out, the only star I would like to catch, the star to me is known as Mildred, the same star that God called home on June 2nd 2009, the same star that was so powerful and strong in multiple ways, the same star that will never be remembered by her troubles but by her accomplishments of being a great and loving mother. When I'm outdoors tonight I might look up and see the star shimmering in the sky and remember she is still shining her light over everyone and I will again think about her like in the poem, “he will rise you up on eagles wings, make you to shine like the sun, and hold you in the palm of his hand”. From here, Mildred, I believe you were moved to your heavenly home. I believe God thought he needed Mildred as our guardian angel more than we needed her as a mother and wife here on earth. Our five children were blessings for her and gave her the greatest joy on earth of being a mother. She will always be there in "love and in spirit" as they grow older she will be in theirs and in my heart forever. For me to be able to write in her legacy book these little parts in her life of the love I have always had for her is an incredible thing. There are not many older people who get the opportunity to write about their wives in ways for their children to look back on the writings that will be in her book. It is an awesome thought to I think this has given me an awful lot of peace to give them my story. There is no one more important in the lives of children than a parent and there is nobody more important than a mother. The legacy book I hope will be a really special gift to leave behind for our children. For their mom affectionately known to some special people as Mrs. Lauer and others that called her Mildred and some called her Biddy (a nickname given to her as a toddler). Although it's been one year and nine months, time cannot steal the treasures that we carry in our hearts, not ever in the shining thoughts our cherished past holds. Memories of Mildred still cast their gentle glow to grace our days and light our paths wherever we go. As we remember her time with us, our spirits are lifted, our hearts warmed, while Mildred's presence remains ever so near. Mildred Edna Lauer's passion was her love for life. She generously gave her friendship, love and listening ear. She was a true blessing to others. Mildred's laugh was contagious and as I remember, she laughed with a full heart. She was the center of all gatherings. Mildred led a life of love, hope, courage, happiness, loyalty and faith. She will remain in the hearts of many. We visit her resting place and put flowers there with care. No one knows the heartache as we turn and leave her there. Gone but not forgotten, although we are apart her spirit lives within us, forever in our hearts.
Your loving husband, family and friends.
Diane Lauer
March 11, 2011
Lake Swan Christian Retreat
My sister Nancy and I met in Melrose this past weekend, March 4-6th 2011. I will always think of our Mother as she enjoyed the retreat as much as we did. The camp is on the lake and very peaceful. The three of us always loved being together and sharing time together without responsibility in a place where we could enjoy each others company and share old memories and make new ones. Mother loved the beauty of nature, oak trees that met in the middle of the road, flowers, birds and all of the things that God has created for all of us to enjoy. As I made the journey, only 1 ½ hours, I missed her company. We always talked and had the best time. We would stop and have lunch on the way down. One year I had won dinner for two at a seafood restaurant outside of Orange Park. I think we ordered fried shrimp (one of our favorites). On one of our trips to the retreat, we stopped at Wendys for a hamburger, chili and fries and of course a Frosty, her favorite, she only liked thick milkshakes. We always were close and I still cry as I miss her but I want to remember her in the legacy as everyone knows she loved her children as Daddy wrote in his legacy about her. We all loved her with all our hearts as did Daddy, her grandchildren and friends, she never met a stranger. I am grateful that Daddy and Mama have passed that on to me as I have made a living in customer service, greeting people at the counter at Radio Shack Service and made lots of customers my friends immediately. Mother bought a book for me titled A Tribute to Moms that I have been reading. Each chapter is a story and memory written by a daughter about their mother. I wish she could have read it as she would have enjoyed it. It speaks alot about their childhood memories which my mother loved to tell about her father and mother and sisters and brothers playing music and singing church music and how she was raised in a Christian home. She had such fond memories; she loved to reminisce of her life and tell stories. I am so fortunate to have had such a close relationship with my mother whom I loved dearly. When I finish this book I will have Ramona read it as Mother wanted her to and couldn't give the book to both of us. There was only one book at the gift shop at the old church at the retreat. We will continue going to the retreats and making memories. When Mother and I would return to Jacksonville after attending a retreat, she would come home with me and we would continue our visit, I wish it could have lasted forever. Miss and Love you, Mama. Diane
Clarence Lauer
January 29, 2011
Our Sixty Sixth Wedding Anniversary…
Mildred, it’s been a year and six months since we were able to celebrate our wedding anniversary together due to your departure. Not a day goes by that you're not in our thoughts and today the 29 day of January will be no different. It was 66 years ago that we tied the knot. I was told before in life that we were not put on this earth to stay forever, but to create something that will and the memories we made for us was a start. The things you, my love, have created like the images you have created while you were here will last a lifetime for all of us. With that said, I must say we all miss you more everyday with memory of your gentle kind heart, your smile and your caring ways will never be forgotten. Eighteen months have passed since my spirit was shattered, you my love taken from me. Yet, through all the pain and grief, the family ties between a father and his children have strengthened. We always looked towards you, Mildred, for guidance and wisdom; I have tried to fill your shoes in that respect since that day. Remembering Darling, your appreciation for the small details that made up the fabric of our lives never ceased to amaze me. Just being near you brought me such joy and contentment, being able to bask in the warm glow of your unconditional love. I will always regret never having shown you how much I loved you as openly and as often as you did to me. For the children and me, we console ourselves knowing that the Lord has taken you into His eternal embrace. You are and always will be a part of our lives. Our lives go on without you but nothing is the same. We have to hide our heartache when someone speaks your name, sad are our hearts that love you and silent are tears that fall. Mildred, living without you is the hardest part of all. You did so many things for us and your heart was so kind and true, then when we needed someone we could always count on you. The special years will not return when we were all together, but with the love in our hearts, you will walk with us forever. Happy Anniversary, my love, I cherish the many years we shared together and thank you for making all our lives better just by your presence, your loving family.
Yvonne Angus
January 27, 2011
My dear friend, Mildred's, birthday was last Saturday, and her anniversary of marriage to my best friend, "Uncle" Bill, is this coming Saturday. While God has taken her home, we will always celebrate her special days, because it helps us to feel closer to her, and brings back many delightful memories. We each do a part, no matter how small, in keeping her memory alive. She was one of the guiding influences on all of us, Bill from first courtship, her children from birth, her children's spouses and significant others from first meeting one of her off spring on the way to marriages, or long lasting relationships, and the rest of us through the pleasure and honor of calling her friend. She was always quick with a kind word, and she never let the conversation drift to another subject until she learned of how you were feeling, or any trials you might be going through. She always made us feel better, just to be able to talk to someone so understanding, no matter how major or trivial our problems might be.
We honor her on these days of celebration, because she delighted in special occasions for others, but was shy about any fuss over her, which we did anyway. She was so shy about it that any gifts proffered to her were usually opened in private after the gift giver had departed. She was a big advocate of saving...she saved gifts of clothing or linens or perfumes, etc., until what she was already using had seen it's final days. Only then would she move on to the gift that would replace the expired article. She was a woman of quiet taste. Your presence was more important to her than your presents. However, if you gifted her some kind of trinket, she would proudly display it on her piano, or other place of honor, so that all who entered could enjoy the beauty, or experience the joy and laughter some pieces could evoke. Gifts of food and drink were enjoyed right way, or savored until the last crumb or drop was gone. Gifts of live plants were planted in her yard for all to enjoy the beauty of God's creations. Every time I visit with Bill, I sit and look at the different gifts I lovingly chose for her over the years, and each one brings back another pleasant memory.
Knowing Mildred Lauer has taught me much, but the one lesson I will never forget is to enjoy your friends and family now, while they are still with you, so that when they are gone, their spirit will live on in your heart.
So, Mildred, besides the Happy Birthday I said to you last Saturday, I wish you a very Happy Anniversary next Saturday, and thank you for the joy you brought to my life, and still bring every time my mind lingers on thoughts of you. I love you. I miss you, but only in the sense that I can't physically touch you, or hear your cheerful voice, until my time is over, and I can celebrate with you in heaven.
Clarence Lauer
January 22, 2011
A FIRST AND LAST FLOWER MEMORY
Yesterday, a friendly reminder from Plaxo, “Millie Lauer's Birthday is tomorrow, January 22” was posted on my computer monitor. The reminder was sweet even I though I hadn't forgotten and never will forget the date of my wife's birthday nor the date of our anniversary that we celebrated yearly This year would be no exception to honor Mildred I purchased a beautiful plant with three blooms and planted it in Mildred's memory garden among many other flowering plants located in our front yard. The beautiful blooms color on the plant are similar to the color that was in the first peony flower I had picked from a large bed of peonies growing in the botanical Garden in St. Louis, Mo. The year was 1945, the year we married. The two of us were in the city of St. Louis and we heard about The Missouri Botanical Garden and The St. Louis Zoo located in the city. We decided It would be a special place to visit on Mildred's birthday, so we caught a streetcar and went to the gqrden's. The Botanical Garden is the nation's oldest botanical garden in continuous operation and a National Historic Landmark. As sweethearts we were out to enjoy places of interest and a garden noted for its breathtaking flowers was the place to see. I decided to write about the beautiful first flower I picked to give my wife to be, as that memory has never left my mind. Mildred, I will never forget, was thrilled to receive that beautiful peony flower from me even though there was a warning sign posted not to pick the flowers. Well I went ahead and picked one of the beautiful flowers for my sweetheart Mildred as it was for her birthday. Every birthday Mildred had since like today we didn’t forget to give her a flower. Today I have planted the beautiful plant with three blooms that Mildred would have liked in the memory garden that was made for her in the front yard of our home. It is not much to do for my love but it makes me feel better to remember she always loved to get a flower from me. It really meant something special when I picked a first flower and gave it to Mildred, remembering the first flower I picked to give to her was a big dark pink peony. The flower plant with the three beautiful blooms I placed in your memory garden has the dark pink color in the blooms that in my memory seem to match the same color as the blooms I remember that were in the first flower I picked to give to you. I have never forgotten that we were in the city of St. Louis, Mo. the 22nd day of January 1945, while on a visit to the beautiful botanical flower garden and zoo. I also remember we were to be seen by Mark Lewis the minister who would join us in holy matrimony, the 29th day of January. From the 22nd day of January until the 29th day, those eight days I haven't forgotten because it is another memory of Mildred's beautiful smile, laughter and the fun we had together. The last flower I picked to give to her was at the Howard Johnson hotel in orange park. Our Daughter Nancy had drove up from her home in Port St Louci, Fl. and rented a room to stay and visit Mildred for a weekend. Mildred was very week that weekend so she had stayed in the room while we went for a quick bite to eat. Returning to the room I stopped to look at the beautiful flowers that were blooming next to the pool at the hotel. Knowing Mildred would love to get a flower from me I decided to pick one of the flowers to give to her. Mildred seen me looking at the flowers from the hotel room and said to my Daughter's Nancy and Diane. Watch your Dad as I have a feeling he will pick one of the flowers for me. That was the last live flower I gave to her in person before she passed away. They are the memories that give me some peace, no words can tell you how much I miss Mildred my love, I will never forget the love she always gave me, plus her sweet spirit will always be remembered. It broke my heart to lose you Mildred, you did not go alone, part of me went with you the day God called you home. Today I remember it has been a year and six months ago our Matriarch passed away. This year our children and I will celebrate your birthday because you taught us the importance of family unity. We will remember A mother is one of life’s most precious gifts. She is someone who is invaluable, indispensable and unforgettable. So here's a birthday wish for you. A tribute to your caring heart and your willingness to love, give and forgive. Happy Birthday, we truly miss and love you. Life we now realize is a journey with gladness and sorrows too, with yesterday's memories and hope for tomorrow, I will trust God to see me through as I travel this life's journey with faith and love that never ends. I often remember the first ice skating show, "Holiday on Ice", Mildred and I attended. That is another memory I haven't forgotten it was also in the city of St. Louis and we loved that show, I believe it was the first show they had ever performed. It was such a hit that the show has been played every year since, still active around the world. I took Mildred to see the Ice show again when they came to Jacksonville for old memories sake. My sweetheart always remembered the first and last show we saw together and she and I would always watch "Holiday on Ice" when it was showing on TV here in our city. Those are memories I am thinking about before I close this writing. Happy Birthday, we truly miss and love you.
Loving thoughts from your entire family
Diane Lauer
January 21, 2011
Tomorrow is Mother's birthday, 1/22/11, she would have been 85 years old, we all miss her.
I think about her everyday and I know she would be proud to know I started back to church a few months ago, Park Lane Baptist three minutes from my home. I really like the pastor, Richard Carney, and he does a lot of teaching in his sermons, but as everyone knows Mother played piano for the church for 13 years and sang in a quartet, so the songs inspire me especially the ones that remind me of her. Recently they sang "Let Us Have a Little Talk With Jesus, Let us tell him all about our troubles" and it brought tears to my eyes with the precious memories I have of her. She would play the piano at home when we were children. She learned to play the piano when she was very young. I believe "What A Friend We have in Jesus" was the first piano song she learned. Renee,at the church, plays a lot like Mother, and the organist is named Carolyn. I have made lots of friends and I feel it helps me to deal with all the trials that we face but we all know our Mother is in heaven as she loved the Lord and told us many stories of her father who was a baptist preacher and founder of Unity Free Will Baptist Church. Daddy and My uncles, Harry Thompson, and Uncle Bud helped build the church. I am glad Mother made sure we went to Sunday School and church and I led the Jr. choir as I have always shared her love of music.
We would always go out to eat and celebrate birthdays. My daughter, Sherri and Lorie gave me a Red Lobster gift card for Christmas and I remember when Sherri was a little girl we would take her and get her a Shirley Temple drink. Mama's favorite choice was the popcorn shrimp she loved them, lots of time we would go to St. Johns Seafood for lunch after a visit to Hair Cuttery to have Candace do our hair and the two of us would enjoy being together and she would treat me. We had a very close bond as Mother and daughter and I will always cherish that closeness and our talks. She babied me and all her children always a hug and kiss for us.
Mother helped me a lot to raise Sherri, as I was only 17 when I had her. Later in life their joke was they were partners in crime and we would all laugh, Our trips to timeshares are some of my favorite memories walking on the beach and relaxing in Ormond Beach also lots of memories at Fairfield in Cashiers, North Carolina where we would go to shops around Thanksgiving and start our early Christmas shopping. We would go to Highlands to a year round Christmas store and have hot apple cider, there were trains and villages set up and quaint restaurants. One time when we got lost we found a real pretty waterfall and buffet thanksgiving feast with baked salmon. Nancy drove and I sat up front while Sherri and Mother were having mixed drinks in back seat. Celebrating our good times together one year it snowed at Thanksgiving which was very unusual for that time and place. We made snowballs on one of our outings and threw one for fun. Just remembering all the special moments we shared. Diane
Clarence Lauer
January 3, 2011
In memory of my wife Mildred whom I married in January, 1945
I debated the merits of writing this entry for Mildred's legacy book because it holds notes I've kept that I'd written soon after the legacy book had been started. Many times I wrote my thoughts on a sheet of stationary. Later I'd edit out some of what I had written because those lines would have caused my children, me and a few of my friends to feel sad and we'd all come down with a case of the blues. Many times I was at a loss of words of what I should write about as thoughts from my heart sometimes would make me feel very depressed and I didn't want my family feeling the same way when they would read my writings. At this writing, as I read my notes, my memory takes me back to the day Mildred phoned me while I was visiting my brother in Minnesota. She called to tell me that she had been told by her doctor that she had breast cancer. He found the cancer during an examination scheduled after I had gone to visit my brother, Valentine and his wife, Sandra. Mildred just wanted me to hear that shocking news from her instead of by one of our daughters. She said I could tell our Minnesota family. I remember how Mildred handled the cancer. Once she'd gathered all the facts, she then focused on what she felt were the right decisions for her to make. One of her reasons was so we could face the road ahead just a few days at a time. Looking long range is much too overwhelming so I believe with those thoughts in mind; she began the path of treatments that would keep her with me and our family. I thank the Lord for that number of years. Mildred wanted to be good to herself and try to stay strong. She reached deep for her inner strength and we both knew she had plenty of that. Mildred put trust in the knowledge that those she chose to help her (like her doctors, their staff and all those she loved) only wanted what was truly best for her. Our children helped in calming her fears, keeping their mother with a positive spirit and giving her plenty of hope. She was encouraged by those who she barely knew that prayed for her. She was encouraged by those who knew her best that held her hand and laughed and cried with her. Most of all she was encouraged by her family who were there for her in person, by phone and on the internet to offer support, compassion and love in the best way they knew how. Mildred was encouraged by her daughters and her sons. They had to learn more about this cancer disease (that eventually took their mom's life) than they ever wanted to know. I'm proud that our children were always there when their mother needed them. Mildred also was encouraged by me, a loving husband, who meant those vows we took together when we married: " for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in heath, til death do us part", taken sixty four years and five months before she was taken from me. I learned from my friends and family that true presence through a long chronic situation is all about the heart. I learned that the nurses in the oncology unit don't work there by default. They work there because patients become real when they look death in the face. In turn, the nurses are angel like, bestowing healing words and love. Losing Mildred June 2, 2009, a part of us passed away, yet we treasure in our memories, her gifts of love, faith and devotion. Our lives are richer because of her place in our lives. Her smiles are etched in our minds where they warm our hearts. The joy of our heart, the love of our lives, the happiness we shared o how I wish it could of gone on forever. The last year my children and I had to spend the special holidays without my devoted wife so her absence was truely missed. Mildred looked forward to Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s because on those special days our children would come over to see her. One of her greatest joys and successes was making our home a warm and loving place. The time she gave will be cherished as long as memories last. Every day Mildred is remembered and so deeply loved and missed by us. The broken heart we carry, the loneliness we feel, the Lord only knows. God has given her the peace she surely did deserve. God has always been with us and helped us daily and I am sure will always be. Mildred will be remembered as a devoted wife, mother, grandmother and a kind, gracious friend. Mildred is truly missed by her husband C.W."Bill"Lauer and children, Diane, Nancy, Donnie, Bruce and Philip.
Donnie, Deb, Shannon, & Michael Lauer
December 30, 2010
Mom,
I have been trying to write again for a long time. It is so hard to put all my thoughts and love into words. The important thing is to just do it. I keep thinking of all the times we would talk about what was going on at home or work and how you loved to write the latest updates to the rest of the family. I would check the computer to see if you had sent us new info which was a great way to keep in touch with all that was happening in the family. Lately, there has been a lot going on around here. We are remodeling the upstairs porch and living room which is a really involved project. Shannon had sinus surgery on December 10th and will resume graduate school in a few weeks. She is going for her Masters of Health Administration at UNF. She also volunteers at Mayo Clinic. Mike is learning to drive & wanting to do it by himself. He will start college next fall- just the kind of things Mom would love to talk about! That is some of what I miss most, Mom.
It is CHRISTMAS DAY 2010 and I wanted to Thank God For HIM taking care of you now. We have invited Dad over to be with us & Deb's family for Christmas dinner. Yesterday, we got to be with all of my side of the family at Grady's & Nancy's timeshare in Palm Coast, which was wonderful. We all were able to spend Christmas Eve together, enjoying quality family time and excellent food. You would have loved it!
All of my thoughts and words are not enough to tell you how much I miss and love you, Mom. Thanks for all you and Dad did raising the five kids. You both did a fantastic job with us. Nobody could have done it better!
Our thoughts and prayers are always with you. We love and miss you soo much!
Love,
Donnie, Deb, Shannon, & Michael
Ramona Egbert
November 16, 2010
Peanut Butter Fudge
The time is growing near when I will begin making candy for my family and friends for Christmas. Everyone’s favorite is Peanut Butter Fudge that I make a few times each year, especially during the holidays. I have been making it according to the same recipe since I was a little girl. I never think of Peanut Butter Fudge or eat a piece without thinking of my dear friend Mrs. Lauer. She had a real “sweet tooth” and often told me that her favorite part of any meal was dessert. I don’t think she liked any sweet more than Peanut Butter Fudge. Most every time I made this sweet treat, I would prepare a package for Mrs. Lauer. As we all know, Mrs. Lauer was one of the kindest, most generous women that God ever put on earth but she told me that she did not share her fudge with anyone. She would hide it in the fridge. Anyone who knew Mrs. Lauer will remember that her fridge was always very full and hiding something in it would not be too difficult! She would make the fudge last as long as possible, only taking it out occasionally to enjoy a piece or two. Such discipline! If it were me, I wouldn’t be able to stop until it was all eaten! But my friend was a remarkable woman and self-discipline was just one of her many virtues.
Before adding this entry to Mrs. Lauer’s legacy book, I sent Bill a copy for him to look over and give me his opinion. He replied in part: “I'm glad you cleared up in my mind why my sweet Mildred always kind of stored the peanut butter fudge out of my sight in the garage fridge. I did find it after she was gone and enjoyed myself while thinking of her.”
As I make Peanut Butter Fudge this year I will remember Mrs. Lauer and deeply regret that she is not here to share it with me. Missing her is a forever pain in my heart. Love always from her foster daughter, Ramona
Clarence Lauer
November 5, 2010
A Tribute to Mildred’s Memory…
I sit here in my quite time to write a few lines in Mildred's Legacy Book. Thinking of her in heaven makes her seem so far away, yet all the love she left behind is in our hearts to stay. Mildred will never be forgotten even though we are apart she will always and forever be alive within our hearts. I say that for our children and the many friends still around that Mildred made during her lifetime. I'm sure beautiful memories are in all our hearts for the one we miss so dear. We know Mildred is at rest and her day is done. Jesus took her home but oh how we wish she was still here! We'd climb the highest mountain to get to where Mildred is but she's high in Heaven and we just can't reach that far. The day she left our world stood still and our souls cried out in pain. If we could just have more time with her and hear her call our names. For now we must remind ourselves, since the day we had to part, that every little piece of her is wrapped around our hearts. They say there is a reason, they say that time will heal, but neither time nor reason will change the way we feel. No one knows the heartache that lies behind our smiles; no one knows how many times we have broken down and cried. We want to tell you something, so there won't be any doubt that Mildred is so wonderful to think of, but so hard to be without. I am comforted by her sweet spirit I often feel around me and by all of my precious memories of her. God truly blessed me by making Mildred my wife and the mother of our five children. Mildred was my very special and faithful friend. Remembering our friendship and how much she always meant, remembering the joy we shared and so many of the pleasant times we spent. In the end I know it's not the years in her life that counted, it's the life in those years. It's been one and a half years this week since Mildred departed and words cannot express just how very much I loved her, think about her and miss her every day. Even the most ordinary days my memories are treasured like precious jewels. Every day brings a new challenge but with every challenge comes a new day and I'm finding out the difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones, it's how you use them to stay strong. I have the gift of appreciation for every single second that I had started to take for granted. It may seem we take many things for granted as our busy days go past, all the good and faithful friendships that we've counted on to last. Life is a gift and Mildred and I understood that. The way we live our lives is our gift to those who came after. In the future may we see our children's future as one filled with promise and possibility. May they find enough inner strength to determine their own worth by themselves and not be dependent on another's judgment of their accomplishments. Life gives us many blessings. There are just a few that compare to all the joy I had in knowing the mother of our children. There are no words adequate enough to describe the love and adoration that we always have for Mildred. Her love, care and the sacrifices she made for us will never be forgotten. We praise and thank God for her witness and the example she set as a women, wife, mother, grandmother, and friend. Mildred was the epitome of strong womanhood and we are better because of her. There is no doubt that Mildred loved us in ways that are too numerous to count and the fruit of her love will live on in each of us for all eternity. I'll close this writing with Everlasting Love- Mildred's Husband, our Children, Grandchildren, Great Grandchildren, Aunts, Nieces, Nephews, Cousins, and Friends
Clarence Lauer
September 28, 2010
Winter of Life - Memories of Valentine & Mildred.
I have many wonderful memories of the joyful times we shared together to submit in both Valentine’s and Mildred's Legacy Guest Books. In six weeks it will be four years since Valentine left us to be with the Lord. I decided to submit another writing in both Valentine's & Mildred's Legacy Book before my brother, Valentine A. "JAY" Lauer’s Legacy Book is closed. I hope to see more entries submitted in Valentine's Guest Book which will be kept on line until it closes on 10/9/2010. If given the time I will submit more writings in Mildred's Guest Book before it closes. We know both Val and Mildred still love us from heaven above. They live in our hearts and in our lives. We know that time has a way of moving quickly and catching us unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, without a worry, when Val and I were growing up with the rest of our sisters and brothers at our dad’s and mother's home. Those were the years that I wrote about in Valentine's Legacy Book during the last four years since his death. It has seemed like eons ago and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all...and I have glimpses of how it was back then and of my dreams of the four Lauer boys serving in the U S Navy. Those dreams did come true and the four of us served in the Navy during World War II. I was 17 years old when I joined up to serve, but here it is, the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise. How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well, seeing older people like our mother and dad through the years passing away and thinking that those years were the sad years we had to look forward to. Then a number of years passed and the Lord called my older brothers, Willard, Arthur and younger sister, Josephine and my older sister Viola to his kingdom in heaven. The day, October 7, 2006, Valentine A. "JAY" passed away at the age of 81 years and 20 days. It was a sad day in my life to hear of Val's passing. I knew for a number of months his health was failing fast and cancer was going to shorten his last days of life. I was glad that my health was still OK so I could catch a plane and fly to Minnesota so I could visit my sister Josephine and attend her funeral. I was in Minnesota to be with Valentine and his family at his home in Maple Grove before he was taken to his home in heaven. I really miss my younger brother and have written often in his Legacy Guest Book of the memories I had with him when we were kids. I submitted many photos to enhance my entries and shared memories.
I could not fathom or imagine fully what it would be like those dreaded days when I lost my wife to cancer. Mildred Edna Lauer, whom I married in January 1945, passed away June 2, 2009. We did celebrate 66 years of a good marriage together before cancer took her life, just like it also took Val's life. But, here it is, I have memories of my wife when she started getting gray hair. She always looked forward to getting her hair colored in a beauty shop so she would stay looking beautiful. Mildred moved slower in her last few years and I could see an older woman in her then. I always thought she was in better shape than me, but I could see the great change. She was no longer the girl I married who was young and vibrant, but like me, her age was beginning to show and we became one of those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd be. I had seen the same change taking place with Valentine the last number of years when I'd make a yearly trip from Jacksonville to visit with him in Minnesota or when he would come to spend a short vacation with me in Florida. Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! Walking now days reminds me I'm ageing fast. And taking a nap is not a treat anymore, it's mandatory! Because if I don't on my own free will, I just fall asleep where I sit! And so now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains, the loss of strength and ability to go and do things like I used to be able to do. But, at least I know, that though the winter has come and I'm not sure how long it will last. This I know, that when it's over, it's over, yes I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't done, things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I'm happy to have done. It's all in a lifetime. I'd like to remind my readers that it will be here faster than they think, so, whatever they would like to accomplish in their life, please do it quickly! Life goes by quickly, so, do what you can today because you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life, so live for good today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember. “'Life is a gift to you”. The way you live your life is your gift to those who came after, make it a fantastic one. Live it well.
After Valentine died, I recorded (a DVD disk) "A Life Remembered ", in loving memory of Valentine A. "Jay" Lauer. I wrote in the Legacy Book after making the recording that I would mail a copy of the DVD to any family member or friend that wanted one in remembrance of Valentine. I made it as a gift to honor Valentine. On the disk, I recorded pictures of Val, starting the recording with a picture taken when Valentine was a baby at only two weeks old and his Certificate of Baptism with a picture included. There are also pictures of the Catholic Church and grade school that he and all the Lauer children attended, pictures of our dad’s and mother's homestead in St. Cloud, MN, a picture of Val when he was 5 years old takened with brother Clarence, who was two years older than brother Val. That time in our lifes, many more pictures were recorded that were taken of Val and Clar together at a young age. There was a picture of Lorraine taken by her daughter, Lisa, in front of the St. Anthony School, many pictures taken of Val wearing his Navy uniform while he was home on boot leave, some pictures taken with his sister Gen and Stan and pictures taken of his brother, Arthur. Among the pictures are many taken with his mother and dad and more with his two brothers, Art and me (Clarence), photos of our oldest brother, Willard, who spent three and a half years in a Japanese concentration camp during WW II. Willard was a P.O.W. captured on Corridor located in the South Pacific. There are pictures taken with sisters Viola and Joey, pictures of Val and his first wife Henrietta, group pictures of their wedding party in St. Cloud, a picture of Val and Henrietta with newborn son, Jim and more pictures of other precious children as they came along in Val’s and Henrietta's family. There are pictures of Val's brothers, Willard and Clarence taken in Memphis TN while Willard was still in the Navy. There are pictures of the carrier Kula Gulf that Val served on during the war & the Navy aircraft he loved. There are pictures of Val and Sandra taken the day of their wedding at the Medicine Lake home, many pictures taken with family group at that wedding, some taken with lake front in back ground, more memorable pictures of Val and Sandy's camper and Sandy's 40th birthday cake. It was a very large cake celebrating Sandy’s birthday. There was a picture of the fishing house Val built to stay warm in when he'd get a chance to go fishing and catch fish in the winter on frozen Medicine Lake. Val later converted it to a play house for their daughter, Shannon, lots of pictures taken of the back yard at their home in Maple Grove, MN. Valentine converted the back yard into something more beautiful than words can express. He had made it beautiful putting in water falls, streams and pools useing lots of stone work while converting the yards for his and Sandy's retirement enjoyment. There are some great recording made on video camera film that were converted onto the DVD disk, recordings of Valentine and Sandy's 25 wedding celebration with multiple guests in the the celebrating party that was held at the Maple Grove home. There are the last pictures recorded on the disk taken of Val and Sandy, pictures taken after Val became ill and was confined to a hospital bed at their home in the care of Hospice. A number of pictures of Val's kids are in the recordings, taken during his final days. There is a recording on the disk taken at the funeral mass of Valentine's daughter Suzanne’s tribute in honor of her dad. The recording on the disk ends with the military funeral service at Ft. Snelling National Cemetery, Minneapolis, MN, Valentine's final resting place. Also included on the disk is the recording of the Taps salute, the folding of the American flag as it was presented to Sandra, three hymns are recorded at end of video recordings and a full write up on the story about Taps so you understand its beginning and end. The last hymn with the beautiful music at the end of the recording is Amazing Grace with all the words in sentences being sang in the hymn floating up into the sky with the lovely scenery of the sunset with the music playing during the hymn.
This entry is long but I just had to compose Valentine and Mildred a final goodbye before their legacy books are closed. We will meet again to be together forever, no more heartaches or tears, the chain will link again to never be broken with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. With all my love a brother and husband.
Clarence Lauer
September 25, 2010
A Loving Celebration in Memory of Mildred Lauer
Writing in Mildred's Legacy Book since she departed this life June 2, 2009 is more than remembering a loving Wife, Mother and Grandmother, it is a look at her journey and the lives she touched. Everyday in some small way, memories of Mildred come our way. Though absent, she is always near, still missed, loved and always so dear. Those we hold most dear never truly leave us...they live on in the kindness they showed, the comfort they shared and the love they brought into our lives. It's still hard to believe Mildred is gone but her light of life will shine in us forever. They say that those whom we have loved deeply become a part of us and they live on forever in memories shared. Mildred has forever become a part of us. Our five children are a living tribute to all of her best qualities. Every time they admire nature’s beauty and come to see what's new in her Memory Garden at our home, they remember their Mother. It's easy to take things for granted in a family. So many things can be left unsaid. Just in case you didn't know how special Mildred was, how easy it was to be proud of her or how much it always meant to have her for my wife and see how she grew up so beautifully without ever growing away from those who loved her. Today is a day to remind me of two important things, Mildred was a beautiful gift to this world and she will always be loved and missed. In life I loved her more and more each day. In death I'll love her til God takes all my sorrow away and after that we will talk, laugh and play because love lasts longer than a lifetime and I’ve loved Mildred each and everyday the whole 16 months that she’s been gone. Many thanks to God for the time he allowed us to share loving moments in her life on earth. Time does not erase our missing and loving her every day. Our memories of her and the days we shared were full of love as you all know... because Mildred put love into everyone. Mildred will always remain in our hearts. God has been good to our family and having Mildred in our lives has helped to keep us grounded. There is not a day that goes by that we don't realize how truly blessed we are. We know that she is not far away because we carry her in our hearts each day. I, like our children know it's been sad and lonely over the past year. When a day is sad and lonely and everything goes wrong we seem to hear her whisper “cheer up and carry on”. We cannot hold the hands of time or live again the past but in our hearts are our memories that will forever last. Mildred has left many friends and loved ones behind. Her memory will forever live on. Her smile and caring ways remain in their hearts. God used her to bring the community and friends together. I thank God for their relationship and the love and respect Mildred always showed to mankind. To some of those friends, Mildred was more like family than a friend. As we reflect on Mildred's time with us, may we find the inner strength to move forward to become the person we know she would have wanted us to be. Often times, faith in somthing bigger than us and memories of time are all we have to keep us going. A Mother is one of lifes most precious gifts. She is someone who is invaluable, indispensable and always forgiving. So even though it's not too late to say, here's a tribute to Mildred's caring heart and her willingness to love, give and forgive. We thank God for all that Mildred has taught us, “to pray, to love and to always have faith”. And God can do all things except fail. Mildred will be in our family's heart forever. Mildred filled so many shoes at one time and she did such a fabulous job at each, those are memories we always will remember. God has not promised that the path of life would be easy but he has promised to walk with us in Heaven. What a welcome you must have received, my Love. When time has stolen away our stars and only the night endures, somewhere in the darkness my Love, my hand will still seek yours. I will forever miss your love & kindness. Love Always, Your Husband & Family.
Ricky-Jamie-Rick and Peggy Myers
September 13, 2010
Uncle Bill, (Dancing Bill),
Just wanted to drop you a note about how much Mildred meant to our family. There was never a time when I saw her where she did not ask how Ricky or Jamie were doing. I never remember seeing her where she was not smiling. After updating her on how my children were doing, she would make sure Peggy was doing well and always wanted to make sure Mom was doing fine. I would always get an update on how your children were doing, because she was so proud of them. I know you, Donnie, Bruce, Philip, Diane and Nancy miss her dearly, (along with your grandchildren) but just wanted you to know that we miss her too. You can tell how well that your children turned out that you and Mildred did a great job raising your children. Take care of yourself, because you mean a lot to everyone.
Love,
Ricky, Jamie, Rick and Peggy
Clarence Lauer
August 31, 2010
In Loving Memory of Mildred, "Forever In Our Hearts"
It's that time again to say, “Hello, I love you and most of all, we miss you, Mildred”. The gates will open for us all one day and we will be back together. As I write this entery today for Mildred's Legacy, I am listening to a special song that Mildred loved to hear, How Great Thou Ar. “So this is my story, this is my song, praising my saviour all day long. Unseen Angels sent from somewhere up above. How they linger, precious memories, how they ever flood my soul”. The song just rips at my heart. As I travel on life's pathway I know not what the years unfold. Time is not measured by the years that you lived, Mildred, but by the joy that you brought and the love you gave. I cherish the happy times together, remembering them today and forever. To some you may be forgotten, to others a part of the past, but to us who love and lost you, your memory will always last. Honey if I could have a lifetime wish, a dream that would come true, I'd pray to God with all my heart for yesterday and you. A thousand words can't bring you back, I know becaused I've tried. Neither will a thousand tears, I know because I've cried. Mildred, we are still heartbroken over losing you, but we rejoice that you are now alive and healthy in heaven. Thank you for being the world's greatest mother to our children and the loving-kindness that you bestowed on everyone who knew you. You will remain forever in our hearts and you are sadly missed. You were my best friend ever, the love of my life and true soul mate. I thank our God for the cherished memories of you that provide us comfort now. We can only imagine the life you must be living in His wonderful presence where one day we also will be living. The expressions of our love for you, Mildred, will always be embedded in our hearts. We miss you and will always love you. It seems just as though it was only yesterday that you went away. You still seem near... you left behind so many pleasant memories that we hold dear. In your pictures, we see your smile and through many tears we whisper, "We will see you in a while." Athough we miss you so much, God heals our sorrows and sadness with his magic touch. He grants us courage and strength to bear all loneliness and sadness because He cares. God’s love and care goes beyond and above measure. Heaven has indeed gained our most valuable and priceless treasure, our beloved and irreplaceable Mildred on June 2nd 2009, a year and three months ago. We've been strong, holding back our tears because Jesus had a better plan. He brought you to the Promise Land. Darling, we miss you so much, not to hear your voice or feel your touch. Our Precious Angel, we are never apart because you will always live within our heart. All the love and care you had for your family and others is sadly missed. For a mother's love is fashioned after God's enduring love. It is endless and unfailing like the love of Him above. I think of you, my love, every day and I thank God for you. You will always remain in our hearts and never be forgotten. With love to you Mildred, forever and ever. your children and husband, The C. W. Lauer Family
Mom's Garden 4
Bruce Lauer
July 11, 2010
Mom's Garden 3
Bruce Lauer
July 11, 2010
Mom's Garden 2
Bruce Lauer
July 11, 2010
The Back View
Bruce Lauer
July 11, 2010
Mom's Garden 1
Bruce Lauer
July 11, 2010
The Front View
Bruce Lauer
July 11, 2010
Dad After Finishing Mom's Sign
Bruce Lauer
July 11, 2010
Clarence Lauer
July 9, 2010
Mildred’s Memory Garden…
I wanted a sign for my darling wife’s memory flower garden completed as soon as possible. I already had a beautiful light post ready to use that my daughter Diane had purchased a number of years ago as a present for her mother's birthday. The reason the light post had not been installed by me at the time Diane gave it to her mom is unknown. Diane wanted the light post mounted with bolts to a cement support somewhere in the front yard to light up the driveway. To complete my project I designed a special arm and attached it to the light post that the sign is hung on. The sign attached to the light post is located in the center of the memory flower garden for every one to see driving past our home or looking at the garden from the yard. It was dedicated in memory of Mildred, a devoted wife and the mother of our five children. I was blessed to have found an understanding Sign & Graphic Co. to help design the sign. The wording on the face side of the sign reads "Mildred's Butterfly and Hummingbird Flower Garden”. On the other side it reads, “Every time you think of me, I'm right here in your heart”. Below those lines it reads in smaller font print. “Love always, your Devoted Husband, and Children”. There is also a plaque located on the ground in front of the garden that reads "Welcome to My Garden.” Those are the memories visitors will remember as they read what it says on the signs and think of Mildred. When the sign was finished and picked up I personally presented a thank you card to the shop owner that read:
Dear John Bueckshiegel,
You and your staff have a wonderful way of opening your heart and helping me with the design and wording put on the sign. I want to say, your caring means more than you know to everyone in the Lauer family. I'm sure the day the sign is hung and seen by my children will always be a day that stands out from the rest as one of the happiest and best remembrances since we lost Mildred (6/2/2009), my devoted wife of 64 years. Our children, like myself, have cherish memories of Mildred sitting in the tree swing, sometimes with her friends watching the butterflies and hummingbirds flying around her small flower garden that is located in the front yard at 2823 Ernest Street. Mildred loved to keep plenty of bird seed for the birds in the bird feeders that would draw many different birds around her yard. The flower garden also drew the butterflies to the flowers. Mildred enjoyed her time to be outdoors with her little wild friends. I have Memories of late afternoons when two hummingbirds became so friendly they sometime hovered so close to Mildred's face she thought they were talking to her. One time Mildred told me she could hear the sound of their wings moving the air around them. The butterflies many times would land and seem to rest on her hand or on the flowers that was growing next to the swing. The tree swing is located very close to her flower garden. Here's a great big THANK YOU, John with lots of love. Mr. Lauer, Children; Diane, Nancy, Donnie, Bruce & Philip & friends.
My sister Lorraine wrote in an email to me:
“The sign that was made especially for Mildred's flower garden, now completed, is so beautiful. What a great tribute to Millie. How proud Milly would have been to think her husband had it made especially for her Memory Flower Garden. I am proud to know the project was completed and thank Yvonne for her suggestion on the type of font to be used for the lettering that was used on the sign. The sign looks great; the flowers planted in the garden are beautiful. All the hard work Clarence did to make this happen has paid off. John Boeckstiegel, the man that made the sign in his Signs & Graphics shop did an outstanding job. He is quite the artist using Vinyl Graphics sign lettering. Clarence, you found the right person to design the sign, I am proud of you. The picture of you that Yvonne snapped when taking pictures of Mildred's flower garden was good also. You looked good on it. I sent it to Terry and Deb and all my kids, Jim Lauer, Glenn and Jerry. I wanted them to see what a great guy you really are. Usually most kids think of an Uncle as just part of the family. But you are much more then that and I wanted them to know it. Yvonne, your friend, did a good job taking pictures of the sign posted in Mildred's Butterfly and Hummingbird Flower Garden. She must have a good camera as all the lettering and colors really picked up on them "they are beautiful". Some of those pictures will be submitted in Mildred's Legacy Book, I hope. Sending them was very informative to me along with the thank you letter that you wrote to Mr. Bueckshiegel. Love, Lorraine”
I wanted to share this labor of love for my darling Mildred. Always her faithful husband, Bill
Clarence "Bill" Lauer
July 8, 2010
Secrets of a Successful 66 Year Romance…
I would like to share memories of Mildred and secrets to the success of our marriage of over 64 years (we dated 2 years before we married. making our time together 66 years in all). Mildred and I met by chance in downtown Jacksonville in 1943 while I was in the Navy. I was with another sailor, a friend. Both of us had a two day weekend liberty pass from Cecil Field Navy Base. We had heard there was a country band playing at a dance hall in the area where we met. I stopped her to ask the question if she knew where the building that we were trying to find was located. There was going to be a live band playing there that evening. We had heard from someone else that it was somewhere in that area of downtown Jacksonville. Mildred was with her mother and they were both going to the same place to hear the country music band that evening where her oldest brother, the leader of the band, was playing. The address we were looking for was on 8th and Main Street approximately two blocks away. Mildred and her mother invited us to walk with them to the dance hall. While in the dance hall my friend met Mildred's first cousin, Blanche, and they enjoyed each other's company. We had a great time dancing. Mildred loved the jitterbug dance routine which was very popular back then. We both enjoyed dancing the night away with the girls and stayed until the place closed. My friend and I both were invited the next day by the girls to attend church service where Mildred's dad was the pastor. They were having a big dinner on the church grounds after the service and we were invited to stay after the service and enjoy dinner with the crowd. We met more of Mildred's family while eating with them. That was the start of more dating and falling in love over the next year. We kept in contact after I graduated from gunnery school and I did a one year assignment at Cecil Field before I was transferred to other assignments by the Navy. While stationed at Smart Field Naval Air Station, near St. Louis, Missouri, Mildred and I decided to get married. It was the 29th day of January 1945 when Rev. Mark Lewis, a minister, legally joined the two of us in Holy Matrimony in the City of St. Louis, State of Missouri. Mildred got a job at a defense plant and she rented a place to live until I was again transferred. Mildred and I lived together only on weekends but it was a start of our married life together. Love, honor and trust are the most important parts of any marriage and were what made our marriage last for the next 64 years until her death, June 2, 2009. Mildred will always be remembered as a loving devoted and supporting wife, mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, great-grandmother and loyal friend to many others. She lived her life for her family. People have asked me how we made our marriage work so many years. One of the main things is that we realized very young that we wanted to please each other; therefore, we did not want the other to do anything we would not do ourselves. We had good Christian families and we decided very quickly in life that we were going to make it work out and give it a go in our marriage and in our jobs. We never tried to keep up, as they say “with the Joneses” and always lived within our means. Mildred and I never did say we wished we would have waited to get married, I guess because had we waited maybe we wouldn't have gotten married. In all probability, we wouldn't have been together as I might have stayed in the Navy and got transferred all over the world. Well that didn't happen and I was discharged out of the Navy and returned to civilian life. We did keep our marriage fresh and exciting, loving each other very much. We started our family in 1948 with our first child, a girl born in FL that we named Diane, our second baby girl, we named Nancy, was born in Minnesota when I was working in my home state. Our next three children, all boys, were born in Jacksonville. We named them: the oldest Donald, next Bruce and Philip was the youngest in our family of five children. I am not attempting to say that we had a perfect marriage, but we tolerated each other in our differences. Mildred had always been a content person; very easy to satisfy and never a nature of complaining. A precious one from us is gone. The voice we loved is still. A place is vacant in our heart no one can ever fill. The legacy of life, love and strength lives every day in my life and in our children. A wife of noble character, who can find? She was worth far more than rubies, many women do noble things, but Mildred surpassed them. It's sad to know my darling is gone but she will never be forgotten, we miss her more than words can say.
Loving Husband, Bill
Clarence Lauer
June 12, 2010
A Place Remembered…..
The family home where Joe V. Lauer built his house, where the Lauer kids were born is in the shadows of our mind. There lives a place of long ago that time will never change, because we loved it so. The Country Lane less traveled and worn passed by the Lauer home. The house was all trimmed in white and decorated with Granite stone. Many photos that were taken of the home are in the legacy book. Lots of pictures of Mildred and Valentine with the rest of the Lauer clan were taken when we were on vacations are also in the legacy book. It is fun remembering Twilight songs of peepers on a tranquil summer night. The flowers bloomed eternal with a sky of endless blue. It was a piece of Heaven where all our dreams came true. Vision of our loved ones live and always will, for no one ever dies in the place that time stands still. It was a perfect sanctum from where we left to roam, a memory of yesterday our hearts still call home. Lorraine and I still remember how we were always welcomed with open arms by our Dad and Mother those many years ago. It's sad to think we can never go back to the old homestead that we've never forgotten because it's not there anymore. We do miss that and it's those memories that we now enjoy. After our mother died, the land was sold and the home and buildings on the land were torn down. New owners built an office building on the land where we lived and were loved so long ago. Valentine and I, with our video cameras recorded many home movies while our parents were still alive. All of us children with our families would travel back home each year and we would hold family reunions. That was a way to keep families together when they were still around. Playing the video tapes now days and taking time just watching the recordings on the TV tube, bring back great memories. I really enjoy seeing those recordings showing family members and the home and buildings with the stone work. I can still remember when our Dad labored erecting stone walls and sidewalks around our home. I also remember the days he spent planting trees, landscaping the land with gardens of flowers and vegtables, plus planting fields of grass that really beautified the land he owned. I'm sure the memory of our Dad and Mother's home will never be forgotten and we can think of Dad and Mom and still see their faces and hear them laugh. I once read that every one has to go through the life spans of birth, ageing and death; there is no exception, that's life, so enjoy the memories and the beauty of your thoughts.
Diane Lauer
June 2, 2010
Fond memories of my Mother
A year ago today I lost the most important person in my life, my mother, she always showed me so much love.
I was the first born of five, and she always made each one of us feel special, I was blessed to get to spend lots of time with her. We would always get together on weekends as I would like to have Daddy and her over for dinner. I knew all the special things she liked, fried okra and butter peas, fried pork chops, homemade mashed potatoes and lemon cheese cake would be a good example of some of her favorites. She always complimented me and was always grateful for anything someone tried to do to please her.
We could talk about anything as I always confided in her from my dates as a teen, until the end. We could not have been closer, everyone could tell we had a close bond and love for each other. We always had good times at the timeshares and Christian retreats when we could get away from responsibility. Even after the trips were over she liked to go to my home to continue to visit as we always had something to say and memories to share. I remember the last time we went to the Christian retreat - afterwards she came to my house and spoke about the times when she was young and how Daddy would piggy back her and the landlady would say, "Billy Boy you are going to hurt your back." Mama would say, "don't worry about it we are having fun."
Daddy and her both talked alot about the times they had before any of the kids were born. They were married three years when I was born and by then they were anxious for a family. I only have one daughter, Sherri and I love her dearly. Like Mother, I am always concerned for her happiness. Sherri will write in the legacy when she is able as she has a hard time dealing with the reality that Mama is not with us. She is in my thoughts everyday and I cry for my loss, but she would want me to move on and try to be strong, so I do. I told Bruce when it happened I would do my best to keep the family together even though we all know it will never be the same. We had a birthday party for my Daddy over Memorial Day weekend, he will be 87 on June 11, 2010, and Mama lived to be 83.
Mother had a wonderful life, full of people that loved her with all their heart. She always kissed and hugged her children everytime we saw her. Her faith was always strong from the time she was a child so I know she is in heaven. She played the piano so beautifully, "Daniel Prayed" was one of my favorites - her fingers would fly across the keys and we would sing together as she had done with her family coming up playing instruments and singing. She was in a quartet later and sang alto, she loved to sing and I wish she would have continued playing the piano. At the Christian retreat last year they played lots of her favorite gospel songs, they called it an old time revival. They had a talent show and one lady Mother really liked always made everyone laugh. It always is the 1st week in March and I get to meet my sister, Nancy. We always go to my timeshare around Labor Day. Mother loved sitting on the balcony in the early mornings watching the sunrise and drinking coffee. We took pictures from my 4th floor unit so we had a beautiful view of the ocean and looked forward to walks on the beach later in the day to see the sandpipers or a nest where the sea turtles may have hatched. My good and wonderful moments in my life with my Mother will always be cherished memories.
Clarence Lauer
June 2, 2010
Loving memories of Mildred
Noted in the Legacy Guest Book entry submitted on May 31, 2010 by our daughter Nancy, my loving wife, Mildred, the mother of our children has been gone one year today. As the days and weeks have passed I feel comforted with my thoughts of the good time memories we shared over the years. On this first anniversary, it's a reminder of how much Mildred is missed and loved. Memories of our times spent together over the many years keeps Mildred alive in my heart, her spirit seems always to be with me. When I think of Mildred's life on earth and all those loving years we spent together, because I am only human, these thoughts always bring on tears. I remember the moment Mildred passed away; she passed so quickly within moments of the family being with her holding her hands and our children telling her they loved her. Some of my very last words from my heart to Mildred were "I love you Honey; I will miss you, thank you for all the years you've given me". I believe God knew best when He took my wife into His Kingdom to provide contentment and rest with no more pain as Mildred had suffered enough. I think of my wife daily and find our love for Mildred is "Eternal" and Mildred will always be remembered with love and affection. Her life was not measured by time, but by love. Our hearts still sings the saddest song so we'll try not to shed even more tears because we were taught to know Mildred is spending these days with Jesus. Mildred is now with her Mother, Pearl and Dad, C.J. also with her sisters, Nita & Vera-May, brothers, J. W & Buddy. Mildred was the last living member in her family (Pitts) to be taken in death. My thoughts are strangely with them as I write this memory, so now I can live with happy memories of the complete Pitts family reunited, because God loved us enough to send Jesus here on earth to live and die and live again, so that we could have a wonderful life and wonderful eternity with Him in Heaven.
For memory of Mildred and her love for beautiful flowers, I have this year created a garden planted with a variety of plants with flowers that are beautiful. Some of them will provide food for butterflies and hummingbirds. In memory of this years anniversary our children and I have gotten together and purchased a large sized Alamanda plant. We planted it in the garden specially dedicated in Mildred's memory for the 2nd of June, one year anniversary. The Alamanda Plant is loaded with beautiful large yellow blooms and there are many more buds on the plant that will open daily. Mildred really loved the Alamanda plants we had growing last year at the end of her rose bed. The freeze killed those plants this last winter. We know Mildred would be proud that we again have a beautiful replacement plant now growing in her garden. In the future we will plant more plants like the beautiful plant of Mums our son Bruce had placed on his mother's grave. They were taken off the grave after the blooms had opened & died off, then he replanted the plant this week in his mother's flower garden. In a few weeks, after the buds develop, the plant will flower again. I plan sometime in the future to make a sign and hang it on the steel rod post holding the bird feeder. The sign with the name, Mildred's Garden printed on it will be located in the center of the garden in view for everyone to see. The sign will also read, “every time you think of me, I'm right here in your heart”. They say that those who you loved in your family become a part of you, and live on forever in memories shared. That's a beautiful thought we will always remember when we are near Mildred's flower garden. As Mildred lives on in the lives she touched there is comfort in knowing her spirit is with us as we reflect continuously on all the joyous memories that we shared. Mildred's gentile spirit fills our hearts with joy. I pray that her peace will replace our heartache with more loving memories. We truly miss Mildred's presence but we must believe that our Lord knows best. Love always, devoted Husband and Family
Nancy Miller
May 31, 2010
In Loving Memory of Mildred Pitts Lauer
January 22, 1926 – June 2, 2009
Our heavenly father called you home one year ago. How the angels must have rejoiced to have you in their presence. Your passing has left a void in our lives and hearts. Our comfort is to know that you are in heaven and we will be with you again one day. Until then, missed by your devoted husband, children, grandchildren and friends.
Amelia Shannon Deborah and Mom
Bruce Lauer
May 30, 2010
Mom and Romona
Bruce Lauer
May 29, 2010
Lorraine Soldo
May 24, 2010
In Loving Memory of Mildred
Mildred was a gentle kind and loving person, a wonderful wife and Mother. Married to my brother in 1945 Mildred then was a part of our family fore 64 years and she was a loving sister-in-law and a good friend. I met her when I was 15 years old, My brother Clar brought her to our parents home after he was dischared from the navy in 1946 to meet all in the family. Mildred seemed right at home, and happy to be there with Clar. Mildred was loved by all of us and she made each one of us feel very special. I'll never forget She was always smiling and was very friendly, my father and mother were proud to welcome her into the Minnesota family. I always called her Millie, They loved to dance and watching them talk and laugh and dance every one could readily see they enjoyed each other. Everyone one knew that this was a very special couple. Over the years they proved this right. When they would come to Minnesota from Florida once a year on vacations we all found out that Millie just loved Minnesota cooking and so we always planed to cook the special dish what she would like if she would notify each of us that invited her to dinner what she really wanted served for that dinner. She requested stuffed cabbages at my home. My brothers and sisters loved to have Millie and Clar. over to their homes for dinners I know what ever we would have made, Millie would have loved it. Her memory was incredible. Thirty years later she could tell us what she had for dinner at each of our homes. From the main course to the dessert. To me that was amazing as for me as I hardly remembered what I had two nights before, but than she was an amazing lady. Millie appreciated any thing no matter how small or large one did for her or gave to her, those fond memories I'll never forget.
"Clar", May the special life you shared bring you peace and help keep her close to you.
And to my nieces and nephews, Those we love are always with us. Their laughter and their wisdom, their advice and thoughtfulnes are gifts of love.Those gifts will fill your heart with memories of a wonderful mother and friend that will be with you always. I love all of you
The Lauer Family
Bruce Lauer
May 23, 2010
The Lauer Family
Bruce Lauer
May 23, 2010
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Bruce Lauer
May 23, 2010
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Bruce Lauer
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Sherri with little Dog and Mom
Bruce Lauer
May 23, 2010
Sherri and Mom
Bruce Lauer
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Sherri Mom and Dad
Bruce Lauer
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Sherri and Mom
Bruce Lauer
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Sherri and Mom
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May 23, 2010
Mom and Donnie
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May 23, 2010
Mom and Diane at the Timeshare
Bruce Lauer
May 23, 2010
Mom and Dad
Bruce Lauer
May 23, 2010
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