On Tuesday, December 7, 2004 in Baghdad, Iraq, MARK N. STUBENHOFER, beloved husband of Patricia L. Stubenhofer and devoted father of Lauren, Justin, and Hope. He is also survived by his grandmother, Margaret Challstrom; parents, Norman and Sallie; sisters, Kristen and Erin, and brothers, Ken and Ryan. Mark was a Captain in the U.S. Army and was awarded two Bronze Star Medals, the Purple Heart, Meritorious Service Medal, two Army Commendation Medals, two Army Achievement Medals, National Defense Service Medal, Armed Forces Expeditionary Medal, Global War on Terrorism Expeditionary Medal, Global War on Terrorism Service Medal, Army Service Ribbon, two Overseas Service Ribbons, Ranger Tab, Senior Parachutist Badge, Royal Thai Army Airborne Wings, Expert Infantryman's Badge and the Combat Infantryman's Badge. Relatives and friends may call at THE MURPHY FUNERAL HOME OF ARLINGTON, 4510 Wilson Blvd., Arlington, VA, 6 to 8 p.m., Thursday, December 16, 2004. Funeral services will be held at the Memorial Chapel at Fort Myer, 9:45 a.m., Friday, December 17, 2004, (please allow extra travel time for security check), followed by Full Military Honors at Arlington National Cemetery. In lieu of flowers memorial contributions may be made to the Stubenhofer Family Fund at the Ft. Riley National Bank (785) 784-4400.
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Bill Martz
December 7, 2021
Never forgotten!
Charlie Gili
October 20, 2021
Hello,
We realize that we are very late to express our deepest condolences, but we wanted to let your family and friends know that we will be sending Care Packages to deployed troops this month and several of these will be dedicated to your loved one. Each package will carry the name, photo and hometown of Mark Norman Stubenhofer US Army Captain.
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We will not forget. May God Bless you and keep you safe and strong.
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Kyle Anderson
December 12, 2019
Still remember that day on the street. You were a great leader and teacher. It was fun to watch the conversations (debate) with our NCOs. In the short time in sector together, you imparted much wisdom to our entire platoon. Never forgotten.
lisa
December 8, 2019
Always remembering your sacrifice.
Justin Ridlen
December 7, 2019
Always remembered.
Straight and Stalwart
Britany Rivera
May 3, 2014
To the family of Captain Stubenhofer, I just wanted to say thank you. My daughter and I just stood by his mile marker memorial for the annual Run for the Heroes in Stafford, Va. I was truly humbled to be there when they planed a flag at his marker, saluted it, and read a citation. God bless you for your sacrifice and my daughter and I will never forget today. I have pictures of the mile marker I'd you would like them.
Lisa Chickering
May 27, 2013
Mark, this day we celebrate you and others that gave their lives for our freedoms. God Bless the Stubenhofer family. We will never forget Mark!
SSG Flowers
May 26, 2013
You are still remembered Sir. God Bless your family
May 26, 2013
Justin Ridlen
December 8, 2011
You will never be forgotten. Seems like it was only yesterday, maybe it always will.
December 7, 2011
We will always love you sir. STRIKE FIRST!!!
Peggy Childers
December 7, 2011
To the family and friends of Capt. Mark N. Stubenhofer:
Please accept my remembrance of Mark on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Michael Norwood
December 7, 2011
I sure miss you Capt Stub. May you rest in peace and I will never for get you,and your wisdom that you shared with me and others.. Thank you
November 11, 2011
This day is for you Mark. Never forgotten.
Heather Sebree
October 29, 2011
This morning I read a widows story of her husbands loss in Iraq, accompanied by a moving photo.It immediately made me think of you & Patty & the kids! I feel so honored to have known you & been a part of your wedding! I see you both everyday in a photo from that beautiful day that I keep in my kitchen! I have other photos about as well from your college days together & of course of the children through the years. You are greatly missed & I just wanted to say THANK YOU for making my friend so very happy & giving her such wonderful children & memories to last a lifetime! Brightest Blessings!
May 30, 2011
Rest in Peace Brother. You will not be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
December 7, 2010
To the family and friends of Capt. Mark N. Stubenhofer:
Remembering Mark on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
December 7, 2010
God bless you, Mark! It seems impossible that it has already been 6 years since that tragic day in 2004. At times it feels like yesterday. But we go on with love and peace in our hearts....and memories that will never fade. You were a truly special son and we will ALWAYS love and miss you!
Mom
Darin Jackson
December 7, 2010
I took care of Mark when he came into the batallion aid station on that tragic day in 2004. I can remember it as if it was happening right now. It is hard to believe it has been 6 years. I think of you and your family almost every day. You are not forgotten Mark.
Darin Jackson, MD
June 1, 2010
Memorial Day was for you and all the heroes like you Mark. In remembrance, always and forever.
Donna Gillette
December 26, 2009
On this day and with each day that we enjoy our freedom, I would like to give thanks and let you know that I do not take our troops for granted. May you experience God when you feel your loss.
In Memory of Mark ~ (Debra Estep)
December 7, 2008
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
The Wind on The Downs
“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”
(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )
Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….
“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”
I did not know Mark, but I am remembering
his service and sacrifice. He is my hero. !
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The Other Side
i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.
can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.
i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side
the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)
“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008
The Other Side –
(To hear the song)
http://tinyurl.com/3o8gol
Sincerely,
Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom SSgt Vince – Lackland AFB
Proud Air Force MIL SrA Dana – Randolph AFB
Remembering The Fallen – Blog
http://tinyurl.com/3z8p55
Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
http://tinyurl.com/6gey8b
Kristen Flynn
December 7, 2008
Mark.........here we are again. I can't believe it's been 4 years. Sadly, i will never forget the exact moment on this day when i found out you joined God up in heaven. It will almost be nice to move away from here because then i can be somewhere different where i do not have that vivid memory- . I know you are always with us and watching over us - please know we love you and miss you - I love you!
Peggy Childers
December 7, 2008
To the family of Capt. Mark N. Stubenhofer:
Mark gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Drill Sergeant Cabrera
November 7, 2008
You are not forgotten Sir! God Bless you and your Family
Kathy McDowell
October 14, 2008
Patty, I was watching HBO and in a special about Arlington, I saw you and your beautiful children, we were neighbors at Fort Riley and they day we were leaving, a neighbor came to tell me about Mark, I had no breath and a broken heart. Seeing you reminded me that I have always wanted to reach out and let you know how often you have been in my thoughts and prayers. Janelle has spoken of you often.
Lindsay Barnes-Clinton
September 10, 2008
I babysat your children while you were stationed at Fort Riley. I distinctly remember how great you and Patty looked before departing for a military ball. I think about your family often. I know that you and God are watching over them.
john berry
June 24, 2008
i went to school with patty and just found out about her husband. i want to thank her and her family for thier unselfishness especially her late husband. i am on my way to iraq for my third trip and know how hard it had to have been for him to leave her. but i do know he would be proud of her for all she has and is doing. my deapest sympathy...
A friend
May 26, 2008
On this Memorial Day 2008, as I look to the Heavens I feel tremendous gratitude and love for your sacrifice to keep us safe. As you look down at us, you can be proud of your beautiful family. Patty is doing such a good job as a mother and keeping your memory alive for the children; and your 3 little ones are kind, fun and loving (and cute as can be).
April 21, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Capt Stubenhofer!
Hank Eaton
April 4, 2008
2LT Stubenhofer was my last PL of my 8 year US Army career at 1/501 Alpha Company Arctic Airborne, Ft. Richardson, Alaska.
I can still remember seeing him in the Dayroom watching CLEMSON football, if it was televised, in his orange sweater holding his orange CLEMSON pillow, excited about every football play.
My deepest prayers are with the Stubenhofer's!
Hank Eaton
April 4, 2008
2LT Stubenhofer was my last PL of my 8 year US Army career at 1/501 Alpha Company Arctic Airborne, Ft. Richardson, Alaska.
I can still remember seeing him in the Dayroom watching CLEMSON football, if it was televised, in his orange sweater holding his orange CLEMSON pillow, excited about every football play.
Amber Bateman
February 27, 2008
I have been blessed to be your daughter's second grade teacher this year. Your sweet son started Kindergarten and is doing very well. Your Hope has been mommy's little helper. Not only are you an American hero but your legacy lives on through your precious family. May God continue to provide peace and comfort to your family as you are missed. I sense your presence each school day in the eyes of your smart, kind, and beautiful children.
SSG Cabrera
December 30, 2007
I still think about you and the other great men we lost over there. GOD Bless you and your family. You will NEVER be forgotten !
Debbie, ,Kenny Coffey
December 7, 2007
Our continued thoughts and prayers out to the STUBENHOFER family.Knowing now what they have always known is one of many reasons that our HERO[ES] shall NEVER be forgotten,Rest well brother as prommised that star spangled banner shall FOREVER wave.Your name stamped in steel shall be FOREVER clutched in the tallons,as your spirit FOREVER soars high in the skies in the symbol of our great nation...THANK..YOU....HO...YAAH...B.V.C.
Susan Stanley
November 5, 2007
Dear relatives of Mark, my son SSGT Russell J. Verdugo is buried in Arlington National Cemetery along with your hero. I took some photos last Memorial Day Week-end 2007 and have a photo of your Mark’s grave site and marker. If you would like a copy emailed to you, please let me know. I know we are so very proud of our fallen heroes, but we miss them so.
In loving remembrance of our heroes!
Gold Star Mother,
September 17, 2007
Mark and I were classmates at Clemson. We also served consecutive tours in Iraq. I knew of his death soon after it happened, but am ashamed to admit, have only now been able to put my sadness into words of proper condolence.
I know that when he and I were in school together, being an Infantry Officer was just about the only thing he really ever wanted to do.
I suppose, for me, I remember his zeal, and how great he was coaching me with my tactics, and feel some peace.
Humbly, respectfully, and with a heavy heart,
CPT (RET) Batina Sundem '96
August 6, 2007
I don't pretend to know what to say or do that would bring you peace in your time of sorrow, but I will offer my heart felt condolences. I also offer you my prayers that in time the pain will easy and the memories of your HERO will carry you through each day and night. I want to thank your HERO, for his/her selfless act of becoming a member of the armed forces, his/her willingness to defend the United States of America, all that we hold sacred and for the sacrifice that will forever be etched in the memories of all those who knew him/her. Though tears can never bring him/her back, we hope that our tears express our gratitude for the sacrifice that he/she made and our sorrow at his/her passing. I believe for every fallen HERO there is a star shining brightly up above to remind us of the precious gift we were given.
Your mission on earth is complete and you are now a member of GOD’s Heavenly armed forces. Stand down brave warrior and take your rightful place in Heaven with all the HEROES who have passed before.
I made a special promise to LE RON A. WILSON (KIA on 07/06/07) on the day he was laid to rest as I touched his coffin, that I would never forget him nor would I forget those that gave their lives for our country before him, with him and after him and so when I came across www.legacy.com, I thought what a great way to keep my promise to Le Ron, so I will continue to leave tributes in each guest book until the day there is no longer the need to leave these tributes to a FALLEN HERO.
REST IN PEACE, HERO, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!!
PROUD MOTHER OF A U.S. SOLDIER
Althea Barrett(Queens, NY
ROBYN GARSIDE
July 20, 2007
MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS. I HAVE JUST LEARNED OF YOUR GREAT LOSS AND WISH TO EXPRESS MY DEEPEST CONDOLENCES. PLEASE KNOW THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT HERE WHO DO CARE AND YOUR HERO WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. HOLD TIGHT TO YOUR TREASURED MEMORIES THAT HIS SPECIAL SMILE MAY CONTINUE TO SHINE ON FOR HIS LITTLE ONES. I PRAY THAT PEACE WILL FIND YOU ALL SOMEDAY. GODSPEED AND SEMPER FI.
A PROUD MARINE MOM
July 14, 2007
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Capt Stubenhofer and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
Kyle Anderson
June 30, 2007
I was a member of the Scout Plt where Mark liked to "catch a ride" when the office started to cave in on him. We were together on that devastating day. Having the honor to serve with such a dedicated leader, father, and friend has truly changed my life. You will always be remembered for your unwavering dedication to the mission and, more importantly, to us: the troops who you inspired daily. God be with you Mark, and my most sincere condolences to the entire Stubenhofer family. Mark was the epitamy of the American way of life, a blessing to so many men.
Scott Young
June 12, 2007
Not a day goes by that I don't think about you!
Debbie Elam
February 10, 2007
My name is Debbie Elam and I am the Chairman for the Virginia Memorial Quilt Project. The Friendship Circle Quilters and other Volunteers in Richmond, VA have a project to present the immediate family of each fallen soldier from the Commonwealth of Virginia with a memorial quilt. Please contact me at the following:
Debbie Elam, Chairman
Virginia Memorial Quilt Project
800 Hallsboro Road
Midlothian, VA 23112
Home Phone 804-794-6364
or you can email me at [email protected]. We hope to hear from you soon! God Bless.
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
December 7, 2006
To the Stubenhofer family: I am at ANC two or three times a week. Each time I am there I always visit/honor Mark. I believe you were there today with two of your children. From the most inner part of my heart I am so sorry Mark was taken from you. Mark, you are my hero and you will NEVER be forgotten.
Garnet Jenkins
December 7, 2006
Paying tribute to this Fine Young Soldier, Capt. Mark N. Stubenhofer, on the 2nd anniversary of the day, he gave his life for our Country and for Freedom.
A Multitude of Thanks, for his Courage, Dedication and Service.
Rest In Peace Mark, in God's Loving Care and may God's Healing Grace and Comfort continue to be with the Stubenhofer family.
Those who Made the Ultimate Sacrifice, So Many and So Young, shall NEVER BE FORGOTTEN.
My brother among them. KIA-Vietnam 1967.
"I will lift up my eyes to the hills-
from whence comes my help?
My help comes from the Lord,
Who made heaven and earth."
Psalm 121:1-2
Hoping you continue to feel the thoughts of caring and support that surround you each day, as this Country remembers someone very precious to you, who is a Hero to all of us.
I am deeply sorry for your loss.
Robert Medina
June 1, 2006
To the Stubenhofer family:
My deepest condolenses on the loss of Mark. Mark was my buddy during the Captain's Career Course and my roommate at CAS3 at Fort Leavenworth, KS. He was a superb officer, down to earth, very smart, well-liked by all our peers, and always willing to lend a helping hand.
I will always cherish the memories of our study sessions, canoeing at the Chatahoochee during his promotion party and our trips to KC.
In the short time that I got to know him, I found out that he was a truly special person and a very dedicated family man.
He will always be remembered.
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
March 26, 2006
To the Stubenhofer family. While I was at Arlington National Cemetery visiting several other fallen heroes I stopped at Mark's resting place stayed there for some time and prayed. Again from my heart I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you are a hero and will not be forgotten.
Tom
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
February 15, 2006
My heartfelt sympathy to the Stubenhofer family in the loss of Mark. I did not know Mark, but my heart is broken and I am sadden for your loss of such a fine young man and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. Mark, it is a year since you were taken, but you will never be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace
Tom
To live in the hearts
of those you leave behind
is never to die"
~Robert Orr~
Steven Fisher
November 6, 2005
Today, Nov.6, 2005, My father arrived in DC on a buisness trip. I recieved a call from him saying he was at the Arlington Cemetery to see Cpt. Stubenhofers grave site. I was very pleased to hear that since I have never been there. He said he would call me again when he had found the site. After not hearing from him for about five minutes I called him back and noticed my father was crying.He explained to me what was written on the stone and how proud he was of Mark. When we got off the phone I sat and cried and thought of all the memories I served with this man.Being in the same unit with him for three and ahalf years, and knowing him since the start. I always thought of him as being a great man and great soldier, and I was pleased to hear that he was going to be our commander going back to Iraq for the second time.I spoke to him many times and eat dinner with him just weeks before he died.I remember him telling me about Hope being born, how excited he was , and how he could not wait to see her.I remember on Dec.7, 2004, as we were moving into our new Battlion HQs, hearing that Cpt. Stubenhofer was killed in action. I remember felling so empty and alone.I read an article written by his Mother saying that Mark always spoke up when he knew he was in the right.No matter what rank nore who it was,if it was right, he spoke it.That is so true.What a great leader he was and still is.I got out of the Army a few months back, and try not to think about what life was like being away from home.But on this day I still remember Dec. 7, 2004, when God took a great man to be in a better place.My best reguards to Patti, Lauren, Justin, Hope and to the rest of the Family.God Bless you all.
And to CPT. Mark N. Stubenhofer, Thank you so much for being an insparation,a great leader and a great soldier.Thank you so much Sir.
STRAIGHT AND STALWART !!
Sincerly,
SPC. Steven D. Fisher
Mark Coleman
August 26, 2005
I never knew Mark, but I went to West Springfield HS, class 93. It is because of AMERICAN HEROES like Mark that the rest of us can live in peace and freedom. I am really sad Mark never got to see Hope.
Bill Martz
August 15, 2005
I will always remember you as the little brother I never had. I still think about the summer of 1990. VA Beach, wave riding, and breaking the lamp in the basement. Those were good times. I will always remember you and thank you for your Patriotism. From one officer to another, I am proud of you and will always salute you. I thank you for your service and what you stand for. I will never forget what you have done and you will always have a Heroes place in my heart!
Joshua Bunkers
December 27, 2004
My thoughts are with Mark, his family and friends.
Jim McDaniel
December 27, 2004
As a member of the Nativity Church community, I feel a sense of loss. I pray that God will comfort Mark's family and friends, as He welcomes Mark into His arms. Thank you, Mark, for your ultimate sacrifice for all of us.
Lynne Walter
December 27, 2004
I am truly sorry for your loss; my thoughts are with you.
WSHS, Class of 1994
Mary Guarino Chadwick
December 21, 2004
Dear Sallie and Norm,
Our thoughts and prayers are with your entire family. May the Lord give you strength.
Mary Guarino Chadwick
(RHC, and friend of Judy and Mark Mahoney)
Chris Beck
December 20, 2004
My families thoughts and prayers go to the whole Stubenhofer family. God Bless
Lisa (Newton) Heiser
December 19, 2004
To the entire Stubenhofer Family: Although it has been many years since I have been in contact with your family, the fond memories that I have of your family will always be remembered. To see the many accomplishments and honors that Mark has received are amazing. Our country has been honored to have such a hero serving us. The many wonderful memories of Mark will be cherished by many. Please know that all of our thoughts and prayers are with your entire family.
Lisa Chickering
December 18, 2004
To the whole Stubenhofer family: May the memories you have of Mark comfort you now and forever. May the hand of God be a comfort to you. Psalm 23 & Psalm 119:1-3 God Bless you all.
Tess Frazier
December 17, 2004
Dear Norm and Sallie - There are no words to express our gratitude for Marks sacrifice nor our deep sorrow for your family. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. All our love- Tess and Chris Frazier
Cortney Green
December 17, 2004
My thoughts are with the Stubenhofer family. I am a former student at WSHS, and although I did not know Mark personally I know of the family. Arlington is the proper place for him to be, as it is the representation of people of his caliber. Please do know that many in the WSHS community are thinking of you all today. Take care.
Tim LeFevre
December 16, 2004
I have known the Stubenhofers for 32 yrs. I have seen Mark grow into a man. He was a great Son, Husband, and Father. He will be missed dearly. Mark is my hero and he will never be forgotten. God bless. Thank you Mark for touching my life.
Cindy Kuhns
December 16, 2004
My sincerest condolences. My son, Jason, served under the Captain in Bagdad and always portayed him as loving, respectful and an excellent Commander. He will definately be missed. I will pray for you daily
Lamont Rooker
December 16, 2004
We were classmates and political science majors at Clemson. I wish you peace. To the entire Stubenhofer family, I am sorry for your loss.
Peace and blessings be with you.
Clemson University 1997
James Kuhns
December 16, 2004
The Kuhns family would like to extend our condolences for your lost. Capt. Mark Stubenhofer was my sons CO in Baghdad he really liked him.
Mike Olsavsky
December 16, 2004
Life is full of memories...we will always cherish the ones we have of you.
The Olsavsky's
Kathy Pardew
December 16, 2004
We were once neighbors and I worked at WSHS. Will think of you and wish you peace. Kathy Pardew
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