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Michael Nelson Obituary

Lt. Gen Michael A Nelson (USAF, Ret.) passed away peacefully on his 87th birthday, October 8, 2024, from complications due to mesothelioma.
Mike was born in East Los Angeles, CA but spent most of his youth in Calexico, CA. His family moved to San Antonio before his senior year in high school, where he graduated from Alamo Heights Senior High in 1955. He attended Stanford University where he met many life-long friends, especially his fraternity brothers in Delta Upsilon.
Mike graduated from Stanford in 1959 and started training to be an Air Force fighter pilot. Over his 35 years in the Air Force, Mike was a command pilot with over 3,500 flying hours in F-100s, F-105s, A-7s, F-4s, F-15s and F-16s. During the Vietnam conflict, he flew 100 missions over North Vietnam and was a proud member of the Wild Weasels. Mike earned his Master's Degree from the University of Arizona in 1969, and was a proud graduate of the National War College, Class of 1976. Mike was a natural leader and rose through the officer ranks culminating in his promotion to Lieutenant General in 1991. He loved being a commander and was fortunate to do so five times in his career, his last time as the commander of the 9th Air Force at Shaw AFB. His final flight was in an F-16 at the age of 56, a wonderful gift for someone who loved to fly. Mike retired from the Air Force in August 1994.
Because service to country was so important to Mike, in retirement he became the president of the Military Officers Association of America (MOAA), from 1995 to 2002. Mike found great fulfillment in honoring MOAA's mission of aiding military retirees, through member and family support and legislative advocacy.
As much as he enjoyed flying and serving his country in the Air Force, Mike's greatest love was his family. In college, he found himself falling in love with his best friend's sister, Barbie Wigdale. They married in 1962 and together they forged a partnership that lasted almost 60 years, until Barbie's death in 2022. They brought the best out of each other while enjoying life to the fullest. They hosted the best parties, travelled extensively and took advantage of all that their circumstances offered them.
Over 30 years ago, Mike and Barbie started hosting 'Corona' family reunions every other year in the summer at the Outer Banks. The entire family would gather for a week of laughter, beach and pool time, talent nights, Connect Four tournaments and morning coffee and donuts. The memories made at Nelson Coronas are too numerous to count, and have led to a closeness of the family that few families get to enjoy.
Mike was a man of great integrity who found honor and took pride in serving our country. He expected the best out of himself as well as those around him. He was an exceptional leader and faithful friend.
Mike is survived by four children: Wendy (Jim) Miller, Holly (Mike) Blais, Tracy (Chris) Herwig, and Michael A Nelson, Jr (Becky). He was a beloved Bompa to his 11 grandchildren and five great-grandchildren. He is also survived by his sisters, Linda Simms and Marilyn McClees, and his brother, Tom Nelson, as well as numerous cousins, nieces and nephews.
A memorial service will be held for Mike at Falcons Landing on November 1, 2024 at 2 p.m. As is fitting, Mike and Barbie will be interred together at Arlington National Cemetery at a later date.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be given in Mike's name to the MOAA Scholarship Fund, the National Symphony Orchestra or the charity of your choice.

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Published by The Washington Post on Oct. 20, 2024.

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Daniel C Walker Ltc. Ret.

February 14, 2025

I worked for General Nelson when he was a full Colonel at Elmendorf AFB. He was instrumental in making my Air Force career. I had talked to him a couple times post retirement, and was looking to see if he was still alive, when I noticed he passed last year. I worked for a variety of commanders during my 21 year career and he was easily the best. I loved his ability to consistently make the right decisions, sometimes in spite of conventional wisdom. I was pretty much adrift when I worked for him, and he quickly became my idol, and mentor, setting the stage for a different career path for a fairly short career (by choice). I am certain he is among angels now, and the Air Force and the world were better as a result of his determination, judgment, and magnetism. I hope to see him again in the future.

Covert "Co" Soule'

November 26, 2024

Mike and I first met in the late 1970's while I was on the Alaskan Air Command staff, and he became the wing commander at Elmendorf AFB. Our paths cross again when he was selected as the President of TROA (now MOAA) and I was a member of the Board of Directors. Our friendship grew as we served our fellow veterans in carrying out the many services of TROA. Mike will be missed by all except God whose kingdom he now resides with Barbie.

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Dr. and Mrs. Marc Eisenbaum

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Nicholas Auclair

October 27, 2024

In the 1980's I was a young 1st lieutenant in the Air Force assigned to 13th Air Force in the Philippines as an intel officer. General Nelson was the13th Air Force Commander. I had a poor evaluation from my previous assignment and was passed over while at 13th for captain. General Nelson whom I briefed weekly-- took my being passed over personally and told my boss he wanted to write my new evaluation (OER). He even wrote an accompanying letter to the promotion board. That's the kind of man he was. I owed him my career. I eventually retired from the Air Force-- and remembered him fondly over the years.

D H Williams, BGen, USAF (Ret)

October 20, 2024

Jean and I served together with Mike And Barbie at RAF Lakenheath in their first AF operational assignment and pulled Victor Alert together as F-100 pilots. We became lifelong friends and served together at the Pentagon in the late 70's; he in Ops and me in R&D. Mike and Barbie were an exceptional military family, friends and great individuals in every respect.
God Speed!

Hal Hermes, MajGen USAF (ret)

October 19, 2024

Anne and I were fortunate to have been stationed three times with Mike and Barbie. No better man, no better woman, no better couple, they set the standard for their generation.

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