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Jeffrey Lyder Obituary

Jeffrey E. Lyder
Jeffrey E. Lyder, 73, a resident of Shelton since 1987, peacefully entered into eternal rest on October 2, 2020, at Yale-New Haven Hospital, from injuries he sustained from a fall at his residence. He was the beloved husband of Kathleen Reedy Lyder. Mr. Lyder was born in New York, NY on August 11, 1947, son of the late Carlyle and Lenore LoCicero Lyder. He was employed as a Corporate Auditor for IBM for fifty-two years and previously served as Deputy Sheriff in Putnam County, NY in the early 1970's. Jeff enjoyed woodworking, reading and especially spending time with his family. He loved his country and was a member of the National Rifle Association. In addition to his wife Kathy, he is survived by loving sons, Jeffrey K. Lyder (Dawn) of Oxford and Jason K. Lyder of Bridgewater, a loving daughter, Jennifer K. Cabrera (Edison) of Seymour, caring brother, Roger Lyder (Virginia) of Hooksett, NH, cherished grandchildren, Kayla Grodzicki, Nicholas Martins, Chloe Martins, Hailey Lyder, Joseph Lyder and Dario Cabrera as well as several nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his brother, Patrick Lyder. A walk-through visitation for family and friends will be held on Tuesday, October 6, 2020, from 4:00 to 7:00 p.m. in the chapel of the SPINELLI-RICCIUTI/BEDNAR-OSIECKI FUNERAL HOME, 62 Beaver Street in Ansonia. Visitors are asked to wear masks and physical distance as they walk through, pay their respects and exit without lingering to ensure all guests can come through. On Wednesday, his Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 11:00 a.m. (Meet Directly) at St. Margaret-Mary Church, 50 Donovan Lane in Shelton. Interment will immediately follow in Riverside Cemetery in Shelton. To sign Jeff's guestbook or share a memory, please visit www.spinelliricciutifh.com.

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Published by Connecticut Post on Oct. 4, 2020.

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Heather Pofok

October 6, 2020

So sorry for your loss. Sending Loving thoughts and prayers to you and your family.❤

Rick Strunck

October 6, 2020

Back in the days when we were carefree and careless, Jeff stood out as a pillar of maturity and thoughtfulness. To me, he always seemed to be "older & wiser" than the rest of us.
Even as a 16-17 year old, I felt he already possessed the necessary skills to be an excellent father, husband, friend and leader. To hear of his sudden passing gives me pause to reflect on my own life and, using him as a model, see where I need to improve or make amends.
Jeff, your long and happy marriage to Kathy, with whom you were in love even back in our teenage years and the wonderful children and grand children you have guided through life, makes your life forever meaningful.
I hope those close to you continue the lessons you taught through your example and that your life gives them some peace and comfort during these difficult times.
Rest in peace my friend, you were an inspiration to all who knew you.

Robin Massari

October 6, 2020

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. There are no words to describe the loss of such a Great husband, father, grandfather, brother, uncle and friend. The days ahead will be tough, but remember to keep the memories just as present. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.

Dajana Damjanovich

October 5, 2020

Jennifer & family ...I am so sorry for your loss, you are in my prayers.

Maggie Long

October 5, 2020

I have fond memories of my cousin Jeff and his brother Roger Go with God Cousin Margaret Rose Lampitt

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Maximiano Martins

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Joann Birkenstock

October 5, 2020

To Kathy and family,
My deepest condolences in the passing of Jeff. Like many, I have fond memories of Jeff from Valentine Avenue days. He was kind and a gentleman. May he rest in peace and may you be comforted by a lifetime of memories.
Joann Birkenstock

Sharon Moore

October 5, 2020

Jeff - and family- my heart breaks at the loss of your Dad- prayers -love and deepest sympathies- for you all. Stay strong- stay together and stay as one.

Cheri & Paul Lauria

October 5, 2020

Dear Kathy,
Please accept our deepest sympathies for your loss.
We hope the love of your family and friends will sustain you in this difficult time.
Sincerely
Cheri & Paul Lauria

Koenig Family

October 5, 2020

Our sincere and deepest condolences to all of you. Mr. Lyder was a wonderful person and we will always remember him fondly. Our prayers and thoughts are with you all.

Chris Leyden Frandina

October 4, 2020

Kathy all my love to you and the family. My memories are of a kind, thoughtful and compassionate young man back in our Valentine Avenue days.

Carol Mastersanti

October 4, 2020

Jeff, Dawn, Hailey and family. Please know our hearts are with you during this difficult time. Our condolences to your entire family. Jeff. May you dad RIP❤❤

Bea Cerasoli (Ugliarolo)

October 4, 2020

Rest In Peace Jeff. Good memories from Valentine Avenue. ❤

Peggy & Paul Carvalho

October 4, 2020

Jen and family we are so sorry for your loss, we always commented on how lucky you all were to have your parents/ grandparents at all the kids events. We could feel the love and all the smiles you had for each other. So many wonderful memories to keep in your hearts

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