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Memories and Condolences
for Bernard Deghand
M.sadeq soltani
April 3, 2025
Jami Deghand and others Plz accept my condolences.
m.sadeq soltani
I was with Sergeant Digend in Khost, at the mission , we used to play a game called "7 Stones" together. He would say that the one who can stack the 7 stones faster than the other would win. Our duty was in the Khost province, in the village of Spira near the Pakistan border. We had just met, and he showed me pictures of his children. He said, "I love them so much," and tears welled up in his eyes. Then he laughed again and said, "I'm happy that they are still with me." He was translating these words for me.
Captain Haiz, Digend, and I, along with 10 soldiers, set out to capture a high mountain. But on our way up the mountain, we fell into a Taliban ambush. I sat beside him along with an American officer who was also wounded in his thigh and right ear. We all retreated, and later I went to find his body. My heart sank for him, as we had just become friends, but so much blood had flowed from his neck.
He will always be in my mind, and I wish that one day I could come to America and talk to him by his grave.
Rest in peace, my dear friend.
M.sadeq soltani
April 3, 2025
I was with Sergeant Deghend in Khost, and we used to play a game called "7 Stones" together. He would say that the one who can stack the 7 stones faster than the other would win. Our duty was in the Khost province, in the village of Spira near the Pakistan border. We had just met, and he showed me pictures of his children. He said, "I love them so much," and tears welled up in his eyes. Then he laughed again and said, "I'm happy that they are still with me." He was translating these words for me.
Captain Haiz, Deghend, and I, along with 10 soldiers, set out to capture a high mountain. But on our way up the mountain, we fell into a Taliban ambush. I sat beside him along with an American officer who was also wounded in his thigh and right ear. We all retreated, and later I went to find his body. My heart sank for him, as we had just become friends, but so much blood had flowed from his neck.
He will always be in my mind, and I wish that one day I could come to America and talk to him by his grave.
Rest in peace, my dear friend.
Don Martin ( USA Retired)
March 4, 2024
We were instructors together at Fort Sill in the mid 1990´s , the Paladin Commanders course . I got him interested in Archery Big Game hunting . I didn´t learn what happened until many years later . Miss him still, he was always very entertaining and a great instructor
Craig Thurber
June 30, 2013
Today would've been my fathers 49th birthday. Happy birthday dad. Hope all is well. We all sure do miss you down here. But then again we all know that you are looking down on us keeping us happy. I love you!
November 11, 2012
In Honor of Bernie Deghand on Veteran's Day 2012
Peggy Childers
September 16, 2011
September 15, 2011
To the family and friends of Master Sgt. Bernard Deghand:
Please accept my remembrance of Bernard on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Peggy Childers
September 15, 2010
To the family and friends of Master Sgt. Bernard Deghand:
Remembering Bernard on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
May 31, 2010
As a cousin that moved far from Topeka when Bernie was still "Little Bernie" On this Memorial day - I am proudly grateful of the postive impact that Bernie made on others thoughout his life and very proud to say Big Bernie was a great man, father and American Hero - Cousin Bruce
November 18, 2009
Berni Deghand,
The family misses you everyday, things are not the same without you but everyday we remember what a great american hero you are.. You inspired me alot berni thank you.
Love you always your little cousin
Heather Tyrell
Will Hogan
November 17, 2009
I met MSG Deghand as a brand new Lieutenant in 1997 and he impressed me as a tough but caring NCO. Thanks for your service and we'll never forget you here in eastern Afghanistan or back home. RIP
Jordan Mercer
September 23, 2009
Hello, My name is Jordan Mercer and I am 16. I recently visted the Infantry museum in columbus, GA. While I was there I saw braclets with soldiers names and I came across MSG Deghand's name and wanted to honor him and his family. I will always wear this braclet because it is a way to honor him for giving the ultimate sacrifice for this country.
Thank you, MSG Bernard Deghand
I also want to thank you, his family, for yall's sacrifices also.
Pam Deghand
September 16, 2009
I think of Bernie often...every time they play the National Anthem at Bradley's soccer games and many other times too. He was special...
Peggy Childers
September 15, 2009
To the family of Master Sgt. Bernard Deghand:
Bernard gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Jami Deghand
September 15, 2009
Today is for you daddy! I love you!!
Kenna Larra
March 16, 2009
We love our Soldiers! We love our country and we cannot express enough love and compassion to the families of our fallen heroes. War does not discriminate – It breaks our hearts to see the faces of the fallen. We want to give this gift to you. We are a 501c3 nonprofit organization! Over 1,450 portraits have been completed and shipped to the parents and or spouse - at no cost as this is a gift from one American to another!
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Sincerely,
Kenna
Pam Deghand
September 17, 2008
It doesn't seem like 2 years since Bernie left and went on to a better place. But never far from mind is the memory of his silliness and loving smile.
Love you always,
Pam
In Memory of Bernard ~ (Debra Estep)
September 16, 2008
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
The Wind on The Downs
“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”
(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )
Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….
“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”
I did not know Bernard, but I am remembering
his service. He is my hero. !
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The Other Side
i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.
can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.
i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side
the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)
“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008
The Other Side –
(To hear the song)
http://tinyurl.com/3o8gol
Sincerely,
Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom SSgt Vince – Lackland AFB
Proud Air Force MIL SrA Dana – Randolph AFB
Remembering The Fallen – Blog
http://tinyurl.com/3z8p55
Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
http://tinyurl.com/6gey8b
Heather Tyrell
July 27, 2008
To all my family I know it does not seem that it has been that long sense Berni was taken away from us but I know and you all should that smile he had on his face almost every time you looked at him is still there as he watches over all of us. I love you and miss you so much Berni, your cousin Heather
Syracuse NY, sign placed by CPT Tupper on Memorial Day 2008
June 13, 2008
Deg on mission in Giru...
June 13, 2008
Andy Price
June 11, 2008
Lisa and kids,
I can't believe it will soon be two years since Bernie passed. I had the privilige of deploying with him, and as like so many others, my favorite memories of Bernie will be how he made us laugh. He had a wise crack for every moment, yet his professionalism was beyond reproach. Not sure you have heard this, but at TF Phoenix, before we deployed, Bernie, CPT T Danderson and I spent an evening at the MWR playing ping pong. Like everything else he ever tried he was a fierce competitor at the ping pong table. Anyone that knows Bernie can imagine the laughs we enjoyed watching him working up a sweat making sure he beat the crap out of us at the ping pong table!
As a father, I also know how deeply he loved his family. When you came to visit prior to our departure at Shelby, I will never forget how tightly his baby girl clung to his neck. Daddy had been gone for a few weeks and she wasn't going to let him out of her sight for a minute. I thank the Lord you had the opportunity to come see him that one more time. The hours you got to spend weren't long, but I know Bernie made the best of them.
He will never be forgotten, especially by those that had the privilige to serve with him.
June 4, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Master Sgt Deghand!
MSGT ROY WOODS, USAF (RET.)
April 16, 2008
Bernard it is professional soldiers like you that make us a great Nation, thank you for being there for us all. Freedom is not free; never was, never will be.
Diana Pitts
January 31, 2008
It was wonderful having the new VFW post named after this great man. Blessings to all his family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Diana Pitts
The forever proud mother of Cpl. David M. Unger KIA Iraq Oct. 17,2006
Jessica Richter
September 7, 2007
As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life’s routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.
April Burns (Woosley)
August 29, 2007
I am Bernie's second cousin,although i don't remeber him i have heard lots of things about him.He sounds like he was a very strong and loving person.My mom says that i knew him when i was growing up as a kid and i wish i could remeber him really.I attended his funeral with my mom and i sat with our cousin Michelle.The service was very beatuiful.To his wife and children i am very sorry for your loss.I think of him at times wondering what it would have been like if i could have met him when i got older.I bet he would have rembered me.My mom said that him her and Michelle would have so much fun growing up.He has very beatuiful kids that i dont know either but when i seen them at the funeral i knew how much they loved and would miss their daddy.Even though i cant remeber you i still think of you alot.I am proud to say that i am your cousin.
August 17, 2007
There is nothing that I can say or do to take away the pain or bring you peace in your time of sorrow, but I will offer you and your family my heart felt condolences. I also offer you my prayers that in time the pain will easy and the memories of your HERO will carry you through each day and night. I want to thank your HERO, for his/her selfless act of becoming a member of the armed forces, his/her willingness to defend the United States of America, all that we hold sacred and for the sacrifice that will forever be etched in the memories of all those who knew him/her. Though tears can never bring him/her back, we hope that our tears express our gratitude for the sacrifice that he/she made and our sorrow at his/her passing. I believe for every fallen HERO there is a star shining brightly up above to remind us of the precious gift we were given.
Your mission on earth is complete and you are now a member of GOD’s Heavenly armed forces. Stand down brave warrior and take your rightful place in Heaven with all the HEROES who have passed before.
I made a special promise to LE RON A. WILSON, a dear family friend who joined the Army with three other friends, one of whom is my son (Le Ron was killed in action on 07/06/07 at the age of 18) on the day he was laid to rest as I touched his coffin, that I would never forget him nor would I forget those that gave their lives for our country before him, with him and after him and so when I came across www.legacy.com, I thought what a great way to keep my promise to Le Ron, so I will continue to leave tributes in each guest book until the day there is no longer the need to leave these tributes to a FALLEN HERO.
REST IN PEACE, HERO, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!!
PROUD MOTHER OF A U.S. SOLDIER
Currently stationed in Germany
Althea Barrett(Queens, NY)
July 31, 2007
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Master Sgt Deghand and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
Gary Allain
July 18, 2007
Master Sgt. Bernard Deghand
you are my hero
may god keep you in his arms forever.
Emily Ferlemann
June 28, 2007
Degand Family,
Though you may not know me, you know of my father. LTC Ferlemann. I am Emily and i would like to send my own regards out to your family. i knew him from my dad's work and I know he was a great, honest, and true man.
Sencerely,
Emily Feremann
Teresa Whitesell (Lesser)
January 26, 2007
As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life’s routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.
December 29, 2006
To the family of:Sgt Bernard Deghand I am so sorry for the loss of your love one. My heart cries out for you in your grief and you have my thoughts and prayers. He died a hero defending freedom. May you have the peace and understanding that only comes from God. Prayerfully we will all meet in Heaven one day where we will rest in the arms of Jesus. If you need prayer or need someone to talk to, please call or write my pastor: Rev. John Pearrell 11677 Brown Bridge Rd., Covington, GA 30016. (770)787-1015. Your friend in Jesus Christ, Polly Ballew Covington,Ga
Andrea Garbi
December 12, 2006
To Jamie,
I am very sorry the your loss of your father. He was a very brave man and will not be forgotten. I could tell he loved you very much by his attendance at your school functions. My mom always had great things to say about him. May God comfort you during this rough time in your life. -
October 26, 2006
October 26, 2006
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
October 10, 2006
My heartfelt sympathy to the Deghand family in the loss of Bernard. I did not know Bernard, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. My heart was touched by the many wonderful/beautiful things written about you. Bernard you are my hero and you will NEVER be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace
Tom
To live in the hearts
of those you leave behind
is never to die"
~Robert Orr~
Marianne
October 8, 2006
I am very proud of Bernie and his dedication and service to our country.
To the Deghand Family I offer you my sincerest gratitude for your sacrifice as well. May God hold you all in the palm of his hands.
God Bless!
Proud Mom Of A Soldier In Iraq
Pam Deghand
October 3, 2006
Dear All,
This is from Bernie's ex sister-in-law. Bernie was so special to me. He was my buddy. He helped me through some difficult struggles and also contributed to many laughs whether I really needed them or not. :) I am so deeply hurt at the loss of such a wonderful person. I feel as though I have one more angel watching over me in heaven.
Pam A. Deghand
Kathy Bunker
October 2, 2006
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kathy, Kaitie, Breanna Bunker
Mandy Britton
September 29, 2006
The Deghand Family - You really don't know me but my uncle is also in the National Guard and left close to the same time. I have in the past played paintball with Bernie.My father and uncle were friends of his. I have two very close family members over there and I feel for you so strongly. Hold on to each other and always keep the wonderful memories close to your heart. Best of wishes to you all. God Bless
Cheryl Holmes
September 28, 2006
Christine, Jim, Lisa, & kids, my heart goes out to you. Even though I never met Bernie, he was quite a man, husband, father, & a hero to this country. I would love to thank him for fighting for our country.
Try to let the good memories help ease your pain. Just know he is up there watching over all you & smiling knowing what a wonderful family he has.
Christine, I'm sure he would be honored for you to take care of his horse & maybe someday "Lil" Emma can be your riding partner.
All of you take care of yourselves! My thoughts & prayers go out to you.
Love, Cheryl Holmes & "Lil" Dalton
September 27, 2006
To the Deghand family~ I did not know Bernard or your family personally, but am so moved by your loved ones service to our country. Please know that so many grieve for your loss and are praying for you. He was truly an American Hero... and that's a legacy that will not ever die. God bless you during this very sad time....
Toni Ragsdale-Pontrich
September 27, 2006
Michelle and Deghand Family: Michelle and I growing up with Bernie all those years of Junior High and High School. What memories we have. They will always be there and Bernie will always be loved by many. God Bless you all and always remember "Tough times don't last....Tough People Do!"
Amy Steenson (Rathbun)
September 27, 2006
Lisa and Family
My heart goes out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss my thought and prayers are with you all.
Cortni Schneider
September 27, 2006
Dear Lisa,
I'm sorry for what happened and I know my mom and John and the rest of the family are as well. I'll always remember Bernie as a really sweet guy. It was good seeing you again. Stay strong and see you soon.
Nanette Livingston
September 27, 2006
To The Deghand Family,
May GOD bless and watch over you during this difficult time. While I do not know you personally, I am very greatful for men such as your husband and father. All of you will be in the prayers of me and my family.
With love and respect,
Nanette Livingston and family
Gayle Smith
September 27, 2006
To the Deghand family: My thoughts and deepest prayers have been with you. My name will probably not ring a bell, but I had the privilege of doing several PartyLite shows for your family quite a few years ago. I always enjoyed them so--your family was very special--the bond was so evident. I remember the guys hanging around and the loving chatter and teasing that went on with your family. You all probably weren't aware of the impact your family had on the people you came in contact with, however brief--but it was so heartwarming. I pray God's arms will circle each of you and comfort you in a way that only He can.
Patty Olson Hersh
September 26, 2006
Dear Lisa,
You were very brave today!! And Emma was just so pretty. What a wonderful reminder of the love you and Bernie shared.
Bernie's memorial was the most incredible showing of love and support I have ever witnessed. The hymns you chose were beautiful ... On Eagle's Wings is my favorite!! I hope you find comfort in knowing that Bernie is sitting in the palm of God's hand right now ... and he is smiling down on you and the children. Bernie will watch over you always. Treasure your memories. Bernie will live in your hearts ALWAYS! May you find peace and comfort in the days ahead.
My most heartfelt condolences,
Dusty Thomas
September 26, 2006
Today I was honored to once again be in his presence and see him off for a last time. The response from the community and those in attendance was heart-felt and immediately tear-bringing.
The hardened, soft-handed, knowledge-before-action, 'completely sarcastic, yet serious at time of business', style of leadership is something that I will never forget from the time I had with Bernie as my gun chief in C1/127thFA.
I will never forget the mentorship I had while serving with him and many others during that time.
That "leading by doing" mentality will forever be with me and I thank all that were a part of his life that gave him the chance to be a part of mine and MANY others.
My prayers are with the family and all those that feel the loss of such an amazing Husband, Father, and American Hero.
Thank you Bernie for being a part of all of our lives in life, and now in passing.
William Lavigne
September 26, 2006
I am so sorry for your loss! I worked with Bernie while I was in the guard and I can honestly say he was a good and kind man. He served his country well and we are all proud of him.
Ronnie Guest
September 26, 2006
To the Deghand Family,
Master Sgt. Deghand was a great man and a dedicated family man. know your lost is felt throughout the community and across the country. God will help you through this time. He has a place in his kingdom for Msgt. Deghand, his work here is done, but his legacy lives on in each of his children and all the lives he has touched while we had the pleasure to know him. You family will be in my families prayers each and everyday. May God Bless you.
Jeni
September 26, 2006
My heart goes out to all the family and friends. I did not know him, but I am a military wife and my husband is in Iraq. I pray for you the strength to get through this. Military families are strong because they have to be. He is true hero and so are you, the family. Peace be with you.
Doug Carlson
September 26, 2006
To the Deghand Family,
Keeping all of you in thought and
prayer. I didnt know Bernard but
I worked once with his Mother. He
is one of our heroe's and never
forget that. God Bless you all.
Doug Carlson
Diana Starr
September 26, 2006
I work in the Military Pay Section and met Bernie through SGM Hankerson, Sgt Hennis and SFC Kuti. They all have stories to share about the "Dragons". Although I only knew him briefly, I feel very honored to have gotten to know him even a little bit. I am trully sorry for the great loss. My prays and thoughts are with the whole family.
Karen Rodriguez
September 26, 2006
To the Deghand family,
My heart was saddened when I heard the news of Bernie's passing. Your family has been like family to me since I was in high school. It is my hope that God's peace will lighten your heart at this very sad time but also that he will bring you joy to know how many lives Bernie touched. What a great son, brother, husband, uncle, nephew and friend Bernie was to his family and friends.
Bernie gave of himself just like Jesus did and asked for nothing in return.
I thank him for giving me the chance to live in peace in this great United States. You should be so proud of him as I am.
God be with you today and always and know my thoughts and prayers are with you everyday.
Craig Deghand
September 26, 2006
Please accept my deepest sympathies.
September 26, 2006
I am so sorry that Bernie is no longer here to make us smile and be an ear to talk to. Take care and may God be with you through these times and into the future.
MSG David Burke
Tadji, IQ
MAJ Jeff Mataruso
September 26, 2006
Dear Deghand Family in the Lord, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of MSG Deghand. He was truly a remarkable person, full of energy, character and love, but most of all love. I remember how he could make all the soldiers laugh. I remember seeing you all together as a family at Camp Shelby, MI before we deployed, and how this great man of iron nails and courage could be humbled at the site of his family. I remember seeing you all together, and this gave me peace to know that Bernie was deeply loved by his family and his fellow soldiers beyond what human words can describe. We all will deeply miss Bernie. We have taken a great loss, and heaven has been given a great gain. We will continue to pray to our Lord to bring you all comfort and understanding in this time of berievement. In Christ
Maria Platt
September 25, 2006
Lisa,
I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you and your family are in my prayers.
Seaman High class of 1988
Linda Noland-Criqui
September 25, 2006
Dear Barb,
This is your old KDHR KanWork staff friend, Linda. Jack N. and I will be attending the funeral together tomorrow. I know you will be busy with family. My family and I have you and your family in our prayers. We are so sorry for your loss, may your wonderful memories comfort you. If there is anything you need- food for your family visiting or anything please contact me, I live very close to you.
Linda (Noland) Criqui former KanWork Counselor~
1989-1993........I think you remember me.
LTC John Nelson
September 25, 2006
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2006
Falstaff (pn)
September 25, 2006
Our thoughts, prayers, hearts and love are with you, Bernie's family and friends, in this your hour of loss. About ten years ago or more, he told me in the store one night, "You should have been with me today fixin' fence." A year or two after that he was on the crew that poured the foundation of our house. A few short years later we would see him at basketball games at Royal Valley, always playing with the kids and smiling! Recently, we didn't see him at the games or around town. He had a greater mission. Seems like we never have that time to spend with those we truly should until they are gone. I know in my heart that Bernie has gone on to that great mansion that God has prepared for us and we will join him there. He'll have that grin that was so common for him. Just be aware that he might have the sheet on our beds folded double! Well done Bernie you good and faithful servant! God bless you and keep you! And may the Holy Spirit comfort those of us left here, feeling the pain of your loss.
Debbie Bausch
September 25, 2006
Our deepest sympathies and gratitude to all of the Bernie's family. We didn't personally know Bernie except thru our daughter's mutual school activities with Jami. Every time, Bernie entered the gymnasiam a certan 'awe' entered as well. Someone spoke of how proud and contented he looked the day of Jami's graduation and I would have to agree -- I felt the very same thing when I noticed him watching her as he held his new little daughter in his arms.
May God's grace be with each of you now and in the days ahead and always know he was a great man -- not only for his family but for his country. In deep appreciation, we offer our prayers and condolences.
Dale, Debbie Bausch and family - Mariah, Ethan, Koressa, Daniel, Chrissy and Waylon
Jenny Ottens
September 25, 2006
Lisa and family:
I work for your eye doctor and although our contact was professional, I was always impressed by Bernie's committment to serve our country. It seemed like he was always getting ready to go back to do the job he was called to do. I even mailed contacts to him in Louisiana. I cannot understand why or offer any words to make you feel better, but I am so grateful to you and to Bernie for his love of this country and the sacrifices you both made to protect me and my family. He will not be forgotten and I am thankful that I can say I knew this man. My prayers are with you at this time.
Jenny Ottens
Mike, Roseanna, AJ & Jordon Haugen
September 25, 2006
Theresa, Sandy, Cheryl and the rest of the Deghand Family: Our deepest sympathy for your loss. From first meeting Bernie we could tell that he was a well grounded family man, an American Hero, and a friend to everyone he met. I'm glad we had the opportunity to meet such a fine person. He made such an impact during his years of life and you should be very proud. He will definitely be missed. May God Bless you All!
Jenni (Hoover) Buckley
September 25, 2006
Lisa and Michelle:
I just wanted you to know you and your families have been in my thoughts and prayers.
Also, thank you Bernie, for all of your hard work and dedication.
1SG Gregory R. Kober
September 25, 2006
MSG Deghand was always our go to guy when we needed to get things done. Bernie had a long career and touched the lives many troops through the years. He had a very big heart and thought the world of his family, he spoke of them often. He will be sorely missed. Our prayers are with him, Lisa and his family in their time of grief. I held the cordon for your final walk to the bird that would take you home. I think of you daily. Rest well my friend. 1SG Kober 1/201st RCAG AFGH
J. E., Tracie and Ben Riffey
September 25, 2006
Dearest Lisa, Jami, Emma and Craig. What a great person we all have lost. No words can ever express the sorrow we feel at our home. Bernie was Ben's first football coach at the age of 6. He will forever be in Ben's heart as an example of loyality, trust and honor. How lucky all of the Deghand family is to have had this man in their lives. We will all miss him very much. J. and I look forward to many years of being neighbors, friends, and watching Ben and Craig attend school together. God bless all of Bernie's family at this most difficult time.
Bruce & Lorie Kufahl
September 24, 2006
Our deepest sympathy to all the Deghand family. We moved out of state so the last time we got to share with Bernie was at Michelles wedding. We will dearly miss that mischievous grin of yours, Bernie! Forever touched by your spirit and love for life, forever thankful for your friendship, forever greatful for your sacrifice. God Bless You.
Sonny and Nancy Shoptese
September 24, 2006
Bernie Deghand Family,
I phoned home from overseas were I am currently serving, and was saddened to hear of the loss of Bernie through my conversation with my wife. He was such a wonderful person and friend that I have known the past 20+ years even though it has been a few years since we last spoke to each other. I had worked with Bernie in the early 1980's, and it was then that I had talked him into joining the National Guard unit in Holton where I had him placed under my command in my squad during our time together there. It was a pleasure working with him at both our civilian job and the unit. He will be sadly missed by those who were touched by his laughter, joking and smile. I and my wife's thoughts and prayers are with you, the kids and the family at this time of your valuable loss.
May God Bless You All.
Sincerely,
Will Hogan
September 24, 2006
Almost 10 years ago SFC Deghand made an impression on a young 2LT at the Field Artillery school with his knowledge, professionalism and sense of humor. God bless him and his family.
Cheryl Babcock
September 24, 2006
To the family of Bernie Deghand..Not a moment goes by without thinking of how you must feel. My prayers are with you all. I met Bernie thru the Holton bunch a few weeks after I met my husband Ray, he was very motivated towards the things he achieved,he was onry he made people laugh and was fun to be around. My heart goes out to you Lisa as I have a son and my husband over seas right now and I know the feelings and concern that go along with a deployment. I know it is tough and if you ever need anyone to lean on feel free to call me. Love Cheryl B.
Kathy Zwygart Simpson
September 24, 2006
Although I didn't know Bernie or any of his family, I would like to thank him for being a true American Hero. Without good people like him, we in America would not have the freedom that we enjoy everyday. Thank you Bernie for all you have given.
Vivian Best
September 24, 2006
Jamie & The Rest of the Deghand Family,
Our thoughts & prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Love,
Tony & Vivian Best & Family
Heather Tyrell
September 24, 2006
I am Bernies Cousin, It is not easy for any of the family members at this time. We all remember the hollidays, the times of laughter we shared together. I miss him so much, and pray with all my heart that he has found peace, and that he found our gradma. All I can seem to do is to look to the sky and say to Bernie "you got your wings Bernie, you got your wings". To Bernie I miss you so much, and can't belive your actualy gone, I love you and hope that your at peace now. I am proud of you and hope someday I'll be able to see you again.
Douglas W. Mills
September 23, 2006
My heart goes out to all of SFC Deghand's family. I served with him at 35th ID HQ as a government contractor. I would like to say that SFC Degand is truly an American Hero to our country. He was a Good Dedicated Guardsman and will be missed by all. May you rest in peace SFC Deghand and God Bless you and your family.
SFC (R) Douglas W. Mills
Kelli (Gruber) Munsell
September 23, 2006
Michelle,
It has been a long time but when I read of Bernie's passing it took me back to Mrs. Parker's class at SHS, remembering all the stories you would have to tell about your mom & Bernie, and I remember when I met them at Barb's 1st wedding I could tell the bond that you all shared. Time has gone so fast, it is hard to believe that Jami is a 19 y/o woman now. That is unbelievable.
No one will ever figure out why stuff like this happens, but we must believe it was god's will. I know you, your family and Bernie's family are very proud of him as he did sacrifice everything for our country & freedom. There are not enough words to express what that means to everyone who will read his obituary, rather they knew him or not. Always keep him and your memories in your heart & he will always be close by.
I hope you are doing well, and I will look forward to seeing you at our 20th HS Reunion next year.
Love & Friendship Always,
Kelli (Gruber) Munsell
Sally
September 23, 2006
Bernie was the most persistent person I have ever known in my life. He was persistent in his love for his family, especially his children, daughters Jami and Emma and stepchildren Michelle and Craig. He was persistent in his everyday life and always achieved his goals. He was also persistent in his career as a soldier, until he made the ultimate sacrifice. Bernie was solid as a rock in so many ways, and he will be deeply missed by all. I am sure that Bernie was right with God and now although still persistent, he is also perfect, in heaven. May all who loved him take comfort in knowing that he is in a better place.
Shanna Burgardt
September 23, 2006
Words can't express the sorrow I feel for everyone that knew Bernie as I did. He was a wonderful man, true soldier and loved his daughters (Michelle, Jami and Emma and his step son) very much! The last time I saw Bernie was at his daughter (Jami's) graduation. I have NEVER seen him so content. There was a sense of peace that I saw in his eyes that day, as he held his baby in his arms and was smiling from ear to ear b/c of the celebration of his daughters graduation. I could see how very proud he was of Jami that day. That is the Bernie I remember and will always remember. God Bless the Deghand family. May strength be with his wife, Lisa, through the trials she is going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you all!
Joel, Tammy, Mackenzie, and Abbey Manzanares
September 23, 2006
Our deepest sympathy goes out to Bernie's wife Lisa, his daughter's Jami and Emma, his step children Craig and Michelle, and the entire Deghand family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all in your time of grief and may all your wonderful memories of Bernie comfort you during the difficult days ahead. Bernie Deghand was a true American Hero.
Judy Starkey
September 23, 2006
Dear Lisa,
This is Judy Starkey I worked at Sts for a long time and knew you from P.T.
So sorry to read of your loss. I wanted to send you a message now
when my daughter died it meant so
much to me to read these messages
I want you to know I am thinking of
you and your children. They and you
will always know that they had a
hero in their dad and husband.
Judy Starkey
Adrian and Tish Alcala
September 23, 2006
To the family of Bernie Deghand..
May you find comfort in each other's arms. The embrace with one another will help find the inner strength to continue on.
Bernie has left a legacy of true courage, patriotism and the footprints to being a wonderful son, brother, husband and father.
My husband and I did not know Bernie, but I know Theresa, Tony and Sandy.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours during your time of sadness. Know that Bernie will always be with your family as a guiding light.
God Bless You All.
Jim Brown
September 23, 2006
I'm extending my condolences from Iraq and from deep in my heart. Bernie was not just a brother in arms. He was a friend. He and I had very similar lives and our paths crossed in 2002. We both deployed to Bosnia. The friendship blossomed from there. I consider him a friend because he was someone I could trust and rely upon. He was always available for anything you asked of him. Very much like the mission he was on at the time of his untimely passing. I'm sure he was as committed to the betterment of others in a foreign country as he was back home.
I wish I were home to help in the enormous task of filling the void he is leaving. I will miss him as he always seemed to have a means to make a difference in your day. If there is anything I can do to help, don't hesitate to contact me.
God bless the family and friends of my friend.
Lance, Janelle, Alexa & Angel Daegen Feyh
September 23, 2006
Lisa, Uncle Ray, Aunt Barb and others, please accept Janelle, Lance, Alexa and Angel Daegen’s sincere sympathies for your loss. I am sure you are all proud of the life Bernie led and his dedication to serve. Even though we understand your loss we can’t put into words how much grief we feel for all of you at this time. We don’t understand why God has chosen a select few to pass to God’s world. We try to remember that once they have passed, they have peacefully entered into God’s kingdom and are in a place we all strive to be some day. Bernie is still proud of his family and will continue to be an inspiration to all of you. Try to lean on the strengths when your heart experiences emptiness. Try to hear his voice or see his smile when you miss him the most. We are proud to call Bernie family and are honored to know him. Bernie, keep your family close and always be that beacon of light they will need to get through the difficult days. Show them signs you are watching over them. Let them know they are not alone. Your heroic life will not be forgotten and will always be honored. God Bless You all.
Lance, Janelle, Alexa and Angel Daegen Feyh
EILEEN KOBER
September 23, 2006
SGT 1ST CLASS BERNARD DEGHAND
YOU ARE A TRUE AMERICAN HERO, WE WILL NEVER FORGET!!!
LISA,MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU, YOUR CHILDREN AND YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY. AS YOU GATHER STRENGTH TO GET THROUGH THESE VERY TOUGH DAYS AHEAD,MAY ANGELS WALK BESIDE YOU AND GIVE YOU THE STRENTH YOU WILL NEED.
I HAVE THOUGHT OF NOTHING BUT THE PAIN AND SORROW YOU ARE ENDURING EVERY MINUTE OF EVERYDAY SINCE LEARNING OF THIS TRAGADY. YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE A SPECIAL PLACE IN MY HEART, AS SGT DEGHAND WILL ALWAYS HAVE A SPECIAL PLACE IN 1ST SGT KOBER'S HEART!!!
MAY YOU FIND PEACE IN KNOWING HE MADE A DIFFERENCE!!
THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS TO YOU ALL
EILEEN KOBER (SPOUSE)
1ST SGT GREGORY KOBER
Crista
September 22, 2006
It took me this long to find this guest book. I have looked everyday. But the time it took was worth it. My words are short, but I care deeply. The Deghands arent my family by blood, but by soul, the relation is infinite. Nothing can keep these people, these friends, this family apart. He is in us all... Dont ever let him go. I love all of you.
RICH SIECGRIST
September 22, 2006
TO THE DEGHAND FAMILY,
PLEASE ACCEPT MY DEEPEST SYMPATHIES TO ALL OF YOU. I HAD THE CHANCE TO MEET BERNIE WHEN HE WAS BUILDING HIS NEW HOUSE. HIS OLDER BROTHER RAY AND I STOPPED AFTER PHEASANT HUNTING TO SEE HIM. BERNIE WAS THE KIND OF GUY THAT WHEN YOU FIRST MEET HIM, YOU LIKE HIM. BERNIE, THANK YOU FOR PAYING THE ULTIMATE PRICE FOR THE FREEDOM OF THIS COUNTRY AND MAY YOU REST IN PEACE KNOWING THAT YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. FROM A VETERAN WHO NEVER FORGETS THOSE WE HAVE LOST.
SINCERELY,
RICH SIECGRIST
Dennis Kurtz
September 22, 2006
My heart goes out to all of SFC Deghand's family. I served with him at 35th ID HQ until my retirement. He was a Good Dedicated Guardsman and will be missed by all.
MSG(R) Dennis C Kurtz
Ken Groves
September 22, 2006
To a true American Hero, SFC Bernie Deghand, age 42. I am Bernie’s Uncle and as a 22 year military veteran and now a military Retiree who has gone and returned from Operation Iraqi Freedom, I would like to say that Bernie is truly an American Hero to both our country and to our family. I would like to say thank you for all the Guest Book entries on this web page. Bernie was definitely blessed to have so many good friends and family members who loved him so much. This is such a grim reminder of the sacrifices that military families make on a day to day basis to protect this great country of ours and our families. My heartfelt condolences go out to the entire Deghand and Groves families. Words cannot begin to describe the shock, pain and sorrow that we all are feeling right now. As I get ready to fly to attend the funeral, I want to say god bless Bernie, a true American hero to his country and definitely a hero to his family. I would also like to say God Bless Lisa and the children who are do devastated right now. Lord, please take them under your wing and watch over them to ease the pain. To Bernie: I love you and will miss you. You are a better man than I will ever be. I know you are standing in heaven beside my mother and with Michael. To Lisa and family, remember the good times, take comfort with God and take it one day at a time. Bernie will always be with you.
Love
Uncle Ken
Carrie Daniels
September 21, 2006
My heartfelt sympathy's go out to all the Deghand family at this time. Bernie was a wonderful father, son and friend. The commitment and dedication he had as a soldier was one to be admired.
May you rest in peace dear Bernie and God Bless you and your family for the gift of you.
Joel, Tammy, Mackenzie and Abbey Manzanares
September 21, 2006
Our deepest sympathy goes out to Bernie's wife Lisa, his daughter's Jami and Emma, his step children Craig and Michelle, and the entire Deghand family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all in your time of grief and may all your wonderful memories of Bernie comfort you during the difficult days ahead. Bernie Deghand was a true American Hero.
MIchelle Kern
September 21, 2006
Bernie, I just wanted to let you know even though you weren't my biological father I always knew you loved me just like I was. My real father wasn't really around during my teenage years and I am just so grateful that you were there to take his place I always thought of you as my father. I will do everything I can to make sure Jami grows up to be the wonderful woman you would want her to be. Jami is so much like you in many ways I am so proud of her and I know you were too. I know you are in a better place now but it is just going to be so hard to imagine life without you. I hate that my youngest daughter and son will never know their grandpa Bernie as Emilee did. I will miss you so much and I am so very proud of you. I love you!!!
Your buddy's sister
September 21, 2006
Bernie will be missed so much by so many people whose lives were touched by him, even some he would have barely known. He was a great friend to my brother, who served with him for many years, and to so many others who are scattered around the globe and are shocked and saddened by his loss. I thank him and his family for his supreme sacrifice and for being such a great person and a loyal friend to so many. I hope his children will always know the kind of person their father was. My thoughts are with you.
Shanna Burgardt
September 20, 2006
Words can't express the sorrow I feel for everyone that knew Bernie as I did. He was a wonderful man, true soldier and loved his daughters (Michelle, Jami and Emma and his step son) very much! The last time I saw Bernie was at his daughter (Jami's) graduation. I have NEVER seen him so content. There was a sense of peace that I saw in his eyes that day, as he held his baby in his arms and was smiling from ear to ear b/c of the celebration of his daughters graduation. I could see how very proud he was of Jami that day. That is the Bernie I remember and will always remember. God Bless the Deghand family. May strength be with his wife, Lisa, through the trials she is going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you all!
Lee Sirotnak
September 20, 2006
Please accept our sympathy for your loss, and our prayers that God sustain you in this time of sorrow. We are ever thankful for the work and sacrifice of your Soldier, Bernard, and will honor his memory by keeping him and your family in our prayers.
Bradford Hollingsworth
September 20, 2006
SFC Deghand ~ You were so instrumental in grooming me for adulthood. As a young SPC in your Field Artillery section, you taught me so many tools and skills that I apply everyday. Serving in the Kansas Army National Guard with you is one of my proudest moments in my life and I am so very thankful to have had the opportunity to know you. My prayers are with your family.
gary allain
September 19, 2006
you are my hero Bernard Deghand may god keep you in his arms forever.
Garnet Jenkins
September 19, 2006
My deepest sympathy to the family of Sgt. 1st Class Bernard Deghand, with a multitude of Thanks for this Hero's Service and Dedication to our Country and for our Freedom.
Rest Safely Bernard, in God's Mighty Hands and know that you shall NEVER BE FORGOTTEN.
May God's Loving Grace and Comfort be with the Deghand family.
I am the Sister of such a hero, who made the Ultimate Sacrifice in Vietnam, many years ago.
May the love of your dear one, remain in your heart and give you,
Strength through the difficult days ahead and may the memories of your loved one live in your heart always.
Softly and slowly....
Time heals...
joel caillouet
September 19, 2006
My solemn condolances are sent out to you. I know that there are no words to say. But thqt our prayers are with you.
Joel Caillouet
Brother of
U.S. ARMY SPC. Dustin Kendall
KIA Baqubah, Iraq 1-15-06
ROBYN GARSIDE
September 19, 2006
MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS. PLEASE ACCEPT MY DEEPEST CONDOLENCES FOR YOUR GREAT LOSS. KNOW THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT HERE WHO DO CARE AND YOUR HERO WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. HOLD TIGHT TO YOUR TREASURED MEMORIES THAT HIS SPECIAL SMILE MAY CONTINUE TO SHINE ON. I PRAY THAT PEACE WILL FIND YOU ALL SOMEDAY. STAY STRONG AND GODSPEED.
SEMPER FI
A PROUD MARINE MOM
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