Marcus J. Miller Jr.

Marcus J. Miller Jr.

Marcus Miller Obituary

Published by Richmond Times-Dispatch on Sep. 17, 2008.
MILLER, Marcus J. Miller Jr., owner of the popular club, Barcode, longtime gay community activist, and generous supporter of multiple community groups, died September 14, 2008. He was 46. Mr. Miller was a native of Georgia, and a decorated veteran of the U.S. Army Special Forces. He was a talented restaurateur, and arrived in Richmond, where he supervised all KFC restaurants in Virginia and North Carolina. He later managed Richmond Ruby Tuesday and the popular after hours club, Fieldens. In 2001, he realized his dream and purchased Casablanca, a Grace Street gay club. Following extensive renovations, Barcode opened in November of that year. Barcode quickly became Richmond's most popular gay club. Mr. Miller's business savvy and his ability to hire friendly and loyal staff was the key to the club's success. In a turbulent era for gay clubs, Barcode remains a place where all members of our community can count on a flavorful meal, a well-poured cocktail, and good fellowship. Mr. Miller chose the name Matthew Enterprises for his corporation in honor of Matthew Shepard, the Wyoming gay man murdered in 1998. On the Barcode website Mr. Miller explained his choice. "It is the mission of this company to provide gay men and women with the opportunities to excel and achieve their individual goals in life, while working in a gay friendly atmosphere that is profit-oriented. It is my dream that each person who works for this company, and achieves their goals in life, will in some way always honor the life of Matthew Shepard." Mr. Miller was a significant contributor to the growth of Richmond's Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community. He was a founding Board member of Richmond Triangle Players, and at his death served as a Board member emeritus. He served for two years as a Board member of Equality Virginia, and was active in the Central Virginia Business and Professional Guild, and in planning committees for Richmond's Pride Festivals. Mr. Miller never sought recognition, and, in fact, was quite clear that he wanted none, but he was a significant financial contributor to many LGBT groups such as Triangle Players, Equality Virginia, Fan Free Clinic, Richmond Pride and Gay Pride Virginia, the Human Rights Campaign, and many more. Despite his denials, his generosity was well known, to which many that he helped can attest. Mr. Miller is survived by the staff of Barcode, whom he considered his chosen family rather than employees, and also hundreds of friends in and outside Richmond. Although Marcus created a special life and family for himself in this community, he is also survived by a loving mother, Annie Ruth Stone and her husband, James, of Columbia, N.C.; a brother, Anthony Keith Miller of Jeffersonville, Ga.; a sister, Marcia Mullis and her husband, Eddie, of Stockbridge, Ga., and their daughters, Amanda and Jessica. Mr. Miller's father, Marcus Joseph Miller, is a resident of Kite, Ga. A special memorial gathering will be held 2 p.m. Sunday, October 12, at Barcode, 6 E. Grace St.
This obituary was originally published in the Richmond Times-Dispatch.

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September 24, 2008

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Chris and Kimberly Gooding

September 24, 2008

Marcus left quite a legacy in his too short years. Whomever he took into his circle became his friend and chosen family... and there was nothing he wouldn't do for those he cared about. The Gooding family is blessed to have had Marcus in our lives for many years, shared holidays, many special celebrations as well as times of trials and tribulation - he has always been there for us - he is family. We will all miss him terribly and do all we can to continue his strong influence for change, equality and acceptance. Marcus, you are loved... gone but not forgotten. It is an honor to have had you in our lives.

Chris Owens

September 22, 2008

Marcus was a really good man. He was so generous to us all and often made me laugh with that grin of his and his practical joking side. My thoughts and prayers are with his family, his Barcode family and his numerous friends. I will miss you my friend.

Bill Hutchens

September 22, 2008

I'm going to miss Marcus bunches. My prayers are with his family and loved ones.

Steve Moore

September 22, 2008

I can't believe that Marcus has left us. He was always so kind to me. I moved to Richmond 10 years ago as a comedian with no other skills. I didn't even know how to work a cash register or credit card machine. I told Marcus I needed a job and he hired me to work the door @ Fieldens. I worked @ Fieldens as a bartender for 7 years. I also worked @ Barcode when it first opened. Recently I saw Marcus and he said for me to ask if I wanted a couple of "happy hour shifts" @ Barcode. Alas, I think my days as a bartender are over @ 54 years old. However he always was there for me and it was nice to know that I'd have a job with him no matter what. As a comedian I have hosted many benefits over the years here in Richmond. Marcus was always there to write a check. He'd ask me to take the check and not mention who it was from and trust me....it was never a small amount. So Marcus Miller will truly be missed here in the Richmond Gay Community. I know I will miss him and will always be grateful for the work and fun times he allowed me to have over the years. Here's to you Marcus Miller!.....Love, Steve Moore

Wayne Numan

September 19, 2008

Marcus was a very warm and friendly soul and always made me feel like part of his extended family at Barcode. I will miss him very much.

Kelly Stern

September 18, 2008

Though I did not know Marcus well, I have met him couple of times. One time was a Saturday when Barcode had just opened for the day... he was sitting at the bar. I was there with friends after some Saturday event downtown. We had good conversation for a while before he had to get up and go, and then introduced himself... very nice man... my condolences to the family (both Barcode and natural family)

Annie Ruth Stone

September 18, 2008

Annie Ruth Stone Mother, I will always love you, Mom

Marcia Mullis

September 18, 2008

Marcia Mullis Sister, Love you , will miss you, you were a wonderful brother , I love you joey.

Marcus Miller

September 18, 2008

Marcus Miller father, I loved you.

Curtis Tucker

September 18, 2008

Marcus, I can remember that day so well when I saw the picture of you in your beret and asked you if you had any cookies for sale. You were indeed one of the good guys! Job well done!

Les Quintana

September 18, 2008

I had the pleasure of being Marcus' massage therapist for a number of years. I always found him to be funny and kind. Someone who always smiled in spite of the pain he felt. I will miss him.

Scott Johnson

September 18, 2008

I am so saddened to hear of Marcus's passing. He was indeed a bright spot in this community and I enjoyed knowing him and working with him on different volunteer activities. He will be so very missed.

John (Jay) Kendall, Jr.

September 18, 2008

I have had the pleasure of knowing Marcus for quite a few years. He always had a smile on his face and a kind heart. I know that I, like so many others miss him dearly. He was the type that I really could call a friend. It's hard knowing that he isn't here for us now, but I know he is in a much better place. No more pain or suffering. My heart goes out to his family and the guys at Barcode.

Holly Lucas

September 17, 2008

Such a loss! Marcus was a wonderfully supportive and giving man. This is not to say he didn't give us a kick in the rear when we needed it... The Barcode family mourns the loss of their surrogate father and friend. Rest peacefully Marcus, we love you.

Ted Ickes

September 17, 2008

I have had the pleasure of knowing Marcus and working with him for many years. He was always there for his staff and friends no matter what the issue involved. He was a wonderful man and a true friend that will be greatly missed by all. As each day passes, I become more at ease knowing that he is now at peace and with the many other friends and family that have passed before him. We shall never forget him!

Bob Rodgers

September 17, 2008

My condolences go out to Marcus' BarCode family as well as his birth family. Marcus was a friend to all the GLBT Richmond community. He was a gentleman, he was generous. Richmond and the GLBT community will not be the same without him.
Bob Rodgers

David Wilson

September 17, 2008

Dearest Marcus, Members of the Miller, and Barcode Families and Friends:
We are called to be in authentic, honest, and loving relationships, with ourselves, God, and each other. Those that we meet along our life and spiritual journey, are there to help complete us, as who we are. Whether they are there for a reason, a season, or a lifetime, we are richer for having met.
Among the greatest gifts we receive is friendship. This is the relationship I had with Marcus, who worked with me during a time of challenge for the Richmond Pride Coalition to developing a memorable gay pride celebration in 2003. He helped to fill the void of leadership, opened his bar for fundraising and planning, and helped pull a community together when Hurricane Isabel tried to tear it apart. I remain grateful for that opportunity, and offer it as part of his legacy that includes; a passion for the arts, community activism and providing for vibrant community gathering.
As he transitions from this Earthly plane, from what was to what shall be, I pray that we too will be transformed, and fed by his continued generosity of community spirit. Love is eternal, beyond a point of pain… May the Grace of God be with you always. Amen.

Love and Prayers,
David R. Wilson
Metropolitan Community Church of Richmond
& Former President- Richmond Pride Coalition

United States Army Special forces "Brother at Arms"

September 17, 2008

"De oppresso liber" forever. Godspeed to the family and friends.

Angelo Jimenez

September 17, 2008

Marcus, you were taken to soon and
thank your your unconditional friendship. Love always,

Sheryl Carter

September 17, 2008

My thoughts and prayers are with Marcus's family at this time. I worked with Marcus at Virtual Image and he was a funny and wonderful person to know.

kathryn andrews

September 17, 2008

my-heart-goes-out-to-the-richmond-community!!...this-is-a-terrible-loss-for-everyone,--taken-much-too-soon.

Lezley LaForest

September 17, 2008

I had the pleasure working for Marcus at Fieldens, and helping him when he opened up Barcode in November 2001, and Bartended..We had alot of good times and alot of laughs..He will be missed...

Mark S.

September 17, 2008

I met Marcus a few years ago while at the bar and I found him to be such a wonderful caring person. I live in Florida, but I always make a point of stopping in at the Barcode. If Marcus was there he always took a moment to say hi to me and ask how things were going in Florida. I will truly miss him.

GEORGE FLOYD

September 17, 2008

MARCUS WAS ALWAYS A GOOD FRIEND TO ME AND THE COMMUNITY AT LARGE. GODSPEED MY FRIEND.YOU WILL BE MISSED.

GEORGE FLOYD

September 17, 2008

MARCUS WAS ALWAYS A GOOD FRIEND TO ME AND THE COMMUNITY AT LARGE. GODPEED MY FIEND.

Mary Mallory

September 17, 2008

Marcus always was so gracious to me! He always welcomed me and made me feel accepted. Among the experiences we shared was going through the National Holocaust Museum in Washington D.C. This is not an easy place to be and both of us were moved beyond our ability to speak. I was glad Marcus was with me. His presence and his respectful understanding of the enormity of what we witnessed together is a memory I will not forget. Of the many kindnesses Marcus shared with me, this personal experience with him allowed me to see the depth of the Man and the deep feelings he held. I will not forget him.

Brandon Brown

September 16, 2008

Marcus was a great man to know. Marcus welcomed me into the Barcode family right when I turned 21, and helped give me direction and introduce me to the Richmond LGBT community. His love and acceptance of others has been felt throughout the entire community for many years. Marcus you will be greatly missed, and this is a hard felt loss to so many people. You are loved by many, I will never forget you!

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