Joan Wiley Foster Van Arnam

Joan Wiley Foster Van Arnam

Joan Van Arnam Obituary

Published by Richmond Times-Dispatch from Oct. 31 to Nov. 2, 2008.
VAN ARNAM, Joan Wiley Foster, 70, of Midlothian, passed away peacefully on October 29, 2008. The daughter of the late Dr. John V. and Carlyn M. Foster, she was born in Harrisburg, Pa., in 1937. She was also preceded in death by her son, William Christopher Van Arnam; and is survived by her husband of 46 years, William L. Van Arnam; her daughters, Cheryl V. Woodward and her husband, Jim, and Susan V. Haritos and her husband, Jason; her grandchildren, Carlyn, Jim, Will and Ellie Woodward and Lukas Haritos; her brother, John V. Foster and wife, Paulette; and her devoted nephews and their families. Joan was a graduate of Pennsylvania State University, with which she maintained strong ties throughout her adult life. She was a member of the St. Matthias Episcopal Church in Midlothian, where she sang in the church choir for many years. Always creative, Joan took up watercolor painting and painted many beautiful scenes from her travels around the world, her beautiful garden at home and her beloved grandchildren. Her attention to detail was found in the many dresses she lovingly smocked for her family and friends' children. She enjoyed traveling all over the world with her husband and enjoyed many vacations with family and friends at their beach home in Corolla, N.C. The family will receive friends Saturday, November 1, from 7 to 9 p.m. at the Woody Funeral Home, Huguenot Chapel, 1020 Huguenot Rd. Funeral services will be held Sunday at 2 p.m. at St. Matthias Episcopal Church. A graveside service will be held Monday at 12 noon in Sunset Memorial Park. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to ALSA, 2807 N. Parham Rd., Richmond, Va., or The Association for the Support of Children with Cancer (ASK), P.O. Box 17184, Richmond, Va. 23226.
This obituary was originally published in the Richmond Times-Dispatch.

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Howard Bowman

September 10, 2019

Bill
I just came across the sad news. Joan was a splash of light in a grey world.
Warm memories of splitting the morning collection. Howard Bowman

Dennis LaMountain

November 18, 2008

Bill,

My main two memories of you are as my manager and as a caregiver. You are the reason I live in Richmond, VA, because my job interview left me feeling, "This is a person I can work with and learn from." These thoughts proved to be very true!

I remember Joan most vividly from the 2007 ALS Walk: sitting on her battery-powered chair and using her hand-held "talking device" to crack jokes about herself... and your efforts to control things that defied control!

As I well know, we caregivers DO try to control the uncontrollable. It's an instinct that seems to come from some mixture of absolute love and total frustration. It was completely clear that you had the love piece 100% covered. And, as anyone looks back, that was actually the only part that really counted.

Frank Hoehne

November 16, 2008

Bill and Family,
Frank and I learned of Joan's death today. We have many happy memories of our time in Concord, and the parties at your house on Mountaineer Lane. We are very sorry for your loss.
Christine and Frank Hoehne



Christine and Frank Hoehne

Bill and Diane Locke

November 5, 2008

Dear Bill and Family,
How blessed we've been to have had you as friends for all our married lives! Joan lived her life, both the good and bad times, with courage, acceptance, dignity, humor, and love. She was an inspiration and model for us all. Our loss is heaven's gain. May she rest in peace and your memories bring you comfort.
With much love,

Lee U

November 5, 2008

Mr. Van Arnam:

This is your favorite babysitter from long ago..."Lee U." ; )

I just learned about Mrs. Van Arnam's passing and I am truly saddened.

Your family was a big part of my life during high school and I truly loved your kids. They were the best kids in the world!!!

May Mrs. Van Arnam rest in peace along side your beautiful son, Billy Jr. whom I remember well. (LOL, he was the only kid I knew that flossed their teeth!!!)

Jm & Norma Allard

November 4, 2008

Dear Bill,
We were so sad to hear about Joan. Our meeting on our Australian trip was a very happy time. Joan was great, and we certainly enjoyed having you at our home in Redford and seeing you both at all the reunions. Our sincere sympathy.
Jim and Norma Allard

November 3, 2008

Dear Bill and Family,
We are sorry to hear of Joan's passing. Please let us know what we can do for you in the days to come.

Steve Culver and Your Resonate Team

Mark, Rebecca, Ethan and Luke Everitt

November 2, 2008

To Bill and Family,
We were sad to hear the passing of Joan and unfortunately we are unable to attend the funeral with the family. Our best to everyone.

November 1, 2008

Susan, I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your mom. I have such fond memories of her and your dad.

Jenny Day (Bradman)

Connie Goodwin

November 1, 2008

Dear Bill,

You, Joan and the girls have been on my mind daily since learning of Joan's ALS diagnosis. What a wonderful family Joan had to support her through this. I know there were tears but laughter too. Joan was a person respected by many and I include myself in that group.

Someone mentioned her twinkling, laughing eyes. I smiled as I, too, remembered them again. Other memories flooded into my mind. Watching how strong your two were after the loss of Billy is forever burned in my memory.

Please know Tim, Scott, Todd, Bob and I still hold you in our prayers.

Love,

Connie

Barb Culver

November 1, 2008

Bill and Family,

While I have only been blessed to know Joan and you for a short time, I already have shared some very special moments. I will always remember Joan's magnificent smile and twinkling eyes even in the midst of a very difficult disease. Although deeply sorry for your loss, I know that Joan's spirit is now freed from the prison of a diseased body and will once again soar with that of her beloved son.

Judi Heggie

October 31, 2008

Bill & Family,
We were so sorry to hear of Joan's passing. May she rest in peace & you & yours be at peace. Our thoughts & prayers are with you.
Judi & Alex Heggie

Steve Atkinson

October 31, 2008

Dear Bill,
So sorry to learn of Joan's passing. I know this has been a long journey and may you be comforted in the many good memories of Joan. When we had lunch a while back I was so impressed with the way you were dealing with this. Just like when I worked for you many years ago, we all continue to learn from each other. My best to you and your family.

Mike and Perry Lord

October 31, 2008

Bill:

I was so sorry to hear about Joan's passing. She was so kind to us when we first moved to Richmond and it was so great to reacquaint when we returned there. As for you, after many bosses, you are still the one I learned the most from and the one I quote most often when guiding my staff. They say the most important aspect of one's first job is to get a good boss who is interested in your development. Man, did I luck out! I am sorry I won't be at the service but such beautiful people as you and Joan will certainly be surrounded by throngs of people who feel the way I do. My very best to you and thank you for being the best coach and advisor a guy could ask for.

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