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Gina [Morton-Bennett] Kibiloski
May 30, 2025
May 21, 2025
Coki Tai,
If tears could build a staircase, and memories a lane, I would climb right up to Heaven, and bring you home again!
Although I don't cry every day, I think about you all the time and speak about you with Alona, and BH, and others who knew you and loved you too. You are missed so much.
I thank you for coming to me in my dreams. You are so beautiful.
I love you and I realize the greatest blessing in my life was to have been your Mom.
OXOXOXO Forever and Allways- Rest in Peace
Mommy
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
November 6, 2024
November 6, 2024 - COKI TAI =
C onfident
O ptimistic
K ind
T alented
A dorable
I ntelligent
At first a happy day, but this year not so much!
OXOXOXOXO Mommy
p.s.-Gina (502) 807-4699 or (502) 365-3765
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
November 5, 2024
November 6, 2024
Another day, another year
It's so lonely without you here. I miss you so much my Coki, my dear.
I love you-
OXOXOXOXO Mommy
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
May 21, 2024
May 21, 2024
Dearest Coki Tai,
Today marks the shortest day of your life, and the longest day of mine, that is if you count the rivers of tears shed and the pain filled loneliness, I feel without you. It's like the clouds that accumulate for the thunder storm. The spirit of your sunshine is diffused by the longing for you to return to us. If only that sad day in May 2008, could have just been a dream. A tear-filled dream, a nightmare, from which to be awakened by your smile, your voice, your beauty, and your courage.
Yet, as I feel the loss, I must kindly acknowledge that your life added an unequaled dimension to mine as I proudly hail that the biggest blessing of my life, is that I had you as my daughter at all. God blessed your life with light and laughter. And while it was sadly ended with the painful dis-ease of spontaneous breast cancer, you lived your life to the fullest, having touched the lives of others who shall cherish memories, and likewise, be forever thankful for your gentle-kindness.
You lived your life well.
I miss you every minute of every day.
Always loving you,
OXOXOXOXOXO Mommy
Anjel
May 20, 2024
Dearest Coki Tai,
Thinking of you today on the anniversary of your transition to an even lighter spirit. I've never met anyone else like you. You were one of a kind and such a great friend and confidant. miss you like crazy...
Anjel H
Dr. Terry Kibiloski
May 18, 2024
My dearest Coki, I continually feel your presence and follow your guidance as I do my best to be a good husband, friend, twin spirit, and lifetime companion for your mom. As you know, we live life to the fullest and enjoy every day in every possible way. I love hearing stories about you as they help me know more about your loving, caring, and adventurous life. Thank you for the joy you bring into my life each day by being present in so many wonderful ways. With my deepest love and admiration for your wonderful spirit, know that I love you as if you were my own daughter. Terry
Anjel
November 10, 2023
Dear Coki, you crossed my mind several times this week, and now I see that it's because it was your birthday. I miss your bubbly personality, sharing secrets about our boyfriends, watching you bounce away in a flurry of long, curly locks... You were such a great friend. I miss you so much.
Dearest Glenda, you are always in my prayers. Cokie was your gift to the world. Even though she's not physically here, her legacy - Your legacy still lives on. All my love to you!
Hugs,
Anjel
Gina (fka Glynda Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
November 5, 2023
Monday, November 6, 2023
Happy Birthday Coki Tai...
For all the beautiful songs and all the glorious flowers,
For all the sunshiny days and all the moonlit hours,
I wish for you all good things, of earthly joys,
Of heavenly wings-
I wish you a Happy Birthday!
I Love You
OXOXOXO
Mommy
Crystal
May 21, 2023
Love and miss you always Coki Tai.
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
May 20, 2023
May 21, 2023
Coki Tai, my beautiful daughter,
It has been 15 Years of sad and lonely of missing you, my one and only.
Though I hear your voice those last few days, it deepens my sorrow in so many ways...
It's not just today that is so sad but missing the times we could have had.
The saddest part of this time each year, is praying and wishing you were still here.
Your earthly life was Heaven sent, although short, it was the time you were meant.
There are no words to help my heart heal, nor to tell me how my soul should feel.
While I don´t express it every day, my sorrow will never fade away.
Loving you always,
Mommy -by the Grace of God
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
April 18, 2023
Is there a name for a parent that loses a child?
A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child.
Thinking of my Coki [as May 21st grows near]
Another day without your voice
Carrying on with no other choice
Another day without your smile
Moving forward by an inch not a mile
Another day of hidden grief with no end
A broken heart unable to mend
Another day with endless sorrow
Happiness gone today no chance tomorrow
Another day filled with sadness
Wearing a mask to hide
Another day of longing
For you by my side.
Another day of wanting to be able to cope
Accepting the truth there´s no reason to hope
Another day without you here
You're without me I am not there
Another day of endless praying
You know how much I care
Another day of living not hearing your voice
While living in a shadow without any choice
Another day....
...Mommy Gina
Monday, April 17, 2023 - 8:45 PM
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
November 5, 2022
Sunday, November 6, 2022 = L
My Dearest Coki Tai, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
At exactly 5:32 pm (EST) you made your entrance to the world. What a sunrise it was! There we were: Dr. James McDaniel, the delivery room nurse/staff, your very excited father ("Da") and me, naturally! Though it seems like yesterday, it was L years ago.
Every morning I see your face. Everyday I hold you in my heart, and wonder what joys there would have been, since these past 14 years of your untimely sunset. I miss you and I miss everything you were and everything you could have been...the things you did and could have done.
As I've said before, if tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again....
The sadness that you're not here is overshadowed by the gladness that you once were. For the gift of you, I am truly blessed! Rest in PEACE my beautiful Coki Tai.
Sending you special flowers, hugs and 50 kiss-kisses.
I Love You OXOXOXOXOXO
Mommy
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
May 21, 2022
May 21, 2022
I see you every day, you visit me in my dreams...
Finding peace and happiness since you've been gone, is harder than it seems.
You are missed, and loved, and cherished, now, forever and always!
I Love You Coki Tai-
OXOXOXOXOXOXO
Mommy
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
November 6, 2021
November 6, 2021
Happy Birthday My Dearest Coki Tai,
Missing you has never grown easier. While quite often I think of all the things we could have been doing these years since you were here, I am comforted by the extraordinary memories we shared, the good, the bad, the happy, the sad.
Your birth was my greatest blessing. Your life was my most valued treasure.
You were my gift from Heaven; my gift to the world.
Today, you would be laughing and smiling and sharing your joy with your numerous friends and acquaintances. Your smile, your silly, your spirit is forever in my heart and on my mind.
I miss you. I LOVE YOU, today, and always.
OXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Mommy
Terry Kibiloski
May 22, 2021
Coki, I treasure the times you come to me to show me what you want me to do special for your mommy. As you know, your Mother's Day gift was perfect. You know I am always here for you as a way of making special things happen. I most enjoy when I feel your presence each and every day, in so many special ways. Thank you for helping your mommy find me. You have both changed my world in so many wonderful ways. Please continue to guide Angie in her life quest in California. You are such a treasure.
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
May 21, 2021
May 21, 2021
The Voice Inside My Heart-
A sad but perfect song to sing to you today.
There are no words to express how much I miss you.
There are no numbers to count the tears I've shed.
There are so many mothers who can look to the Heavens
relating to words I've said.
No mother should ever bury their child. No parent should ever feel the pain.
So, to share their life's story is to not let their dying be in vain.
I Love You.
OXO Mommy
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
May 21, 2021
May 21, 2021
Some perfect lyrics to sing to you Coki Tai, added, this somber day, May 21, 2021.
OOOXXXOOO
Love,
Mommy
---
Gina Kibiloski
November 29, 2020
In the words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.:
"It's not how long you live, but how well you live."
Coki loved and was loved. She was wise beyond her years, generous, and kind. Whatever she did or didn't do, there was intention and purpose. That is not to say that in the end she didn't wish she had done some things differently. She told me so. That was her true, honest self. That is the closest you can get to a life well lived!
She is missed by everyone who knew Coki.
Coki Tai is especially missed by me, her Thankful Mom, for having given birth to her and for having shared her with the world.
Her blessed memory is alive and for that I am Thankful, this 2020 Thanksgiving season, and always.
I Love You Coki Tai.
OXOXOXO Mommy
Anjel Hawkins
November 8, 2020
Happy belated birthday to my beloved best friend, Coki Tai.
You've been on my mind for the last few days. Two days ago, my puppy started barking at some invisible target in the corner of my living room. Now, I wonder if it was you visiting us on your birthday. I miss your fun, positive, optimistic outlook on life and most of all your effervescent personality. You were like bubbles in champagne. I miss trading stories about our boyfriends, I miss your advice, I miss your face, and most of all I miss your friendship...
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
November 6, 2020
November 6, 2020 -
Happy Birthday My Beloved Guardian Angel/My beautiful daughter Coki Tai.
I miss you like crazy. Every day when I awake, I hope that your being gone is just a bad dream and I will be able to call you and hear your voice and we will laugh it off.
Everyone misses you. Alona sends her love. Elba remembers you only as a new little tiny human that was/is my greatest gift from God, and from me to the world: You!
I don't cry for longing you as much anymore- I smile more and laugh at the funny memories we shared and made here and there and everywhere.
You were, and are my joy.
I love you and send you hugs and kiss-kisses, and I find comfort knowing you are resting in Peace and without pain, in the glory of the victory you claimed, now found.
OXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOOOOOXXXXOXXXXO Mommy
(This year of Corona virus "Covid-19" global pandemic 2020)
Gina (Morton-Bennett) Kibiloski
May 22, 2020
May 21, 2020 = 12 years ago today!
You were my most blessed gift given to me on November 6th. Sadly, on May 21st, you were taken from me. God took you back to be in the garden of Angels.
Twelve years of tears and heartache and unanswered prayers that it was all a dream, that is your going away- forever was not real. Now though, I think of you every day and mostly happy memories now overshadow the sorrow and perpetual grief within. Yet, your beloved spirit fills me with a sense of gratitude for ever having you in my life.
The month of May is the absolute w o r s t time of the year for me. I try not to cry; I try not to see your lifeless body there- nearby in that hospital room during the last three weeks of your life, but so far away- gone to another place, I pray is painless and peaceful. (My faith lets me know that you are.) Besides, I know you're safe because there are so many of your loved ones who are there watching over you, with the love of God.
I miss you. I miss everything about you, your voice, your smile, your inner and outward beauty, your charm, your mischievousness, your laughter, your resourcefulness, the wonderful friends you had all over the world. I miss all the places we visited together, the beaches, the pools, the many countries: St. Thomas, St. Croix, Mexico, Bahamas, Barbados, Trinidad, Haiti, Jamaica, Puerto Rico. Canada, China, Japan, Greece, Egypt, and so many more places, including several US states, rivers, oceans, lakes, and seas and the car trips, the music we heard, the celebrations we shared, and the shopping, and the flying around just because we could the laughter/the tears
All the joyful memories there are to be cherished, and even though they cannot fill the cavernous space of my broken heart, there are so many unforgettable moments in time of your fabulous life: my most cherished gift. All the memories are indelible and will have to do. For all the memories, I am truly thankful.
I LOVE YOU Coki Tai.
OOOXXXOOO Mommy
Although you are not here with me; I am not there.
You are here with me
Youre everywhere!
[words from my poem to Mother on her birthday, May 30, 1979]
Jill
May 20, 2020
Coki, Your beautiful spirit continues to shine bright in my heart and mind. I'm thinking of you now with a smile on my face and peace in my heart, knowing you are resting peacefully in the loving arms of our creator - along with a host of family and friends who love you dearly. Until we are reunited - continue knowing your aunt loves you dearly. Always.
Terry Kibiloski
May 18, 2020
Coki, Thank you for continuing to communicate in your very special way. Each day, I see something of yours, or use something of yours, and think of your wonderful spirit, which still brings so much light to so many people.
Gina Kibiloski
November 6, 2019
November 6, 2019
My Dearest Daughter Coki,
Thank you for coming to me in my dreams. Your forever loving-kind spirit comforts me everyday and for that I am truly grateful.
Your Dad [Washington Bennett IV, 12-25-1948---6-28-2019] found eternal rest early this summer, and I know he is joined with you in Heavenly Peace, along with all those you loved and who loved you.
Be at Peace. Know you are loved and missed.
I Love You Coki Tai.
OXOXOXOXOOXOXOXOXOXO Mommy
Miriam Lott
June 19, 2019
Condolences to the family. May you be healed during your time of bereavement. Coki will truly be missed.
Gina Kibiloski
May 20, 2019
May 21, 2019
This marks the saddest day of my life, when my dearly beloved daughter, Coki Tai, went to eternal sleep.
Thru the mournful pain I feel every day, the memories of the time we shared, are somewhat sustaining.
Nothing can diminish the heartbreak felt from the pain of a future without my radiant only child; the pain of a future without Coki, is forever.
My life was so magnificently blessed to have given birth to you. But I suppose that on May 21st, 2008, God wanted you back in Heaven's Garden of beautiful flowers. Selfishly, I wasn't ready to let you go.
May God continue to protect your spirit Coki. May you FOREVER REST in PEACE.
OXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Love, Mommy
Always know: If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to Heaven, and bring you home again!
Gina Kibiloski
May 20, 2019
May 21, 2019
This marks the saddest day of my life, the day my Coki Tai went to eternal sleep. I miss everything about Coki and the pain of loss does not grow away, nor become easier. The past we shared was for a limited time, however the future we will never have is forever.
May God continue to bless Coki's spirit.
Rest in PEACE my Bearbiedoll, Rest in Peace!
I Love You and will forever be thankful you were my daughter, my radiant life force.
OXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Mommy
Jill Bowens
May 17, 2019
Remembering my beautiful niece with a heart full of love and gratitude. Continue to rest peacefully my beloved one. Love you always...
Gina Bennett Kibiloski
November 6, 2015
November 6, 2015
HAPPY BIRTHDAY my COKI TAI!
I LOVE YOU today and always...OXOXOXOXO
Yo te quiero mas que ayer, menos que manana.
I love you more than yesterday, less than tomorrow.
OXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO -Mommy
Gina Morton Bennett Kibiloski
November 5, 2015
My Dearest Coki Tai-
It is your birthday, tho not yet quite your birth time, 5:32pm- you are with me all hours of the day, everywhere I go, there you are...I miss you so very much. I have to believe you are happy, for you have transcended all pain and suffering and you have found Heavenly Peace. I didnot want you to go so soon, nor did you, but that our God blessed my life with you at all makes me eternally THANKFUL. Loving you and our wonderful memories makes missing you a little more bearable. The thought of your smile helps wipe my tears away.
Although the pain of my broken heart will never end, the memories of you Coki Tai, will sustain me until I see you again. I miss you more than there are words to express. OXOXOXO Mommy
GOD LOVES YOU
Kimmie Haynesworth
November 2, 2015
Death has not won,Coki SPIRIT is well and alive as to be absent from the body is to be present with Lord. Glory, glory, glory to know and have the confident in God's Word. I know the pain can be unbearable at times. Look to God, ALWAYS .... It's not about religion it's about RELATIONSHIP. Know that as the Word of God say so. It is written: "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the RIVERS, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. He will wipe every tear from your eyes. There will be no more death' or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. These are HIS PROMISES. Know that this will come right on time of need of comfort.
Lalohni
July 15, 2015
Missing my beautiful, crazy, sexy, cool friend! Peace and love to you Miss Gina. Your daughter was truly loved. xoxo
Jill Bowens
May 21, 2015
I will never forget this date -the day, seven years ago, that your grandma Viv called and told me you had passed. I was at work, I dropped to my knees, and my dear co worker had to drive me home....Time has a way of healing the heart without removing the love and memories - what a blessing that is! I never doubt the fact that we will all be together again, as family. I long for the day to see your smiling beauitful face, but until then, I treasure the memories, the love we all shared, and I take comfort in knowing you are at peace....your loving auntie Jill.
Gina (Morton Bennett) Kibiloski, Esq.
May 20, 2015
May 21, 2015 Another date and year to reminisce and reflect on the life and times of Coki Tai-
The tears that flow from my broken heart are often hard to hide.
I mostly cry alone anymore, so not have to tell my only child died.
There are so many caring and loving friends,
Who knew Coki from the time she was small.
But I would give anything, even my life-
To have her alive, healthy, with her dreams and all-
Her life's story is one to be told,
She died at a young age, but lived as if she were old.
In the end, she gave some of her meals on wheels away, so not to waste, but to share.
Coki came to earth on a mission; I'm sure, to teach people how to care.
She had beauty, and charm, and humour but that's not all.
She was witty beyond words, from the time she was small.
It would be impossible to say what I miss about her most,
Because the list would be so long.
I would dance at the chance for a hug and a kiss-kiss, and her laughing, and singing me a song.
She had a beautiful soul, and a face, and grace and original style,
I try so hard to manage my grief, but her absence is so overwhelming it's a shame.
When she first passed, my pain was so deep, it was hard not to find something to blame.
Mostly at night, and early in the day, the afternoons are not much better,
But I cling to the memories of her gift-giving ways,
Like the time she gave a less fortunate child her sweater.
She was an old soul as the elders would say,
They'd declare she had been here before-
If only my prayer could be heard and granted,
To see her, and hold her once more.
Though once would not be nearly enough,
I would be thankful like the day she was born.
As I have said it before, I can say it again,
The pieces of my broken heart are worn.
She had so many friends from all over the earth;
I know she is in Heaven, for what it is worth.
So, I am sending her messages from her family and friends,
We all miss her and love her, and we'll see her again.
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And in parting, I must Thank all of you who have continually contributed to this LA Times Guestbook.
Soon, I will be finished sorting, organizing, and placing her photos in chronological order from her Sunrise, to her Sunset. Please feel free to forward any/all pictures that you would like me to include in the leather bound Guestbook that will mark the 10th year of her passing. In addition, I will be announcing the plans that Coki and I had begun working on, and the Trust in her Memory that I am sure you will all value and appreciate as something to honor Coki's life and her final challenge.
Send them to me by US Mail at 3907 Briar Ridge Road LaGrange, KY 40031-9635 or via email: [email protected]. [Sorry, I had to disable all texts due to my airline's rules!] If you want your photos to be returned once I have made the appropriate copies for printing, I will be glad to return them to you, of course at my expense;) THANK YOU!
Stay blessed all. Be well-
oxoxoxo Mommy Gina
Gina (Morton Bennett) Kibiloski
May 20, 2015
5-20-15
7 years ago, tomorrow's the day,
I indelibly lost my way.
But if Coki were here, I can hear her say:
"Mommy, you'll be okay."
Though I was born in Grace,
Now I wish I could take her place.
Oh how I miss her beautiful face.
She is always with me in every space.
God in Heaven knows my sorrow,
I'll be with Coki one day "tomorrow."
Coki is fine in her new home.
With all the Angels with whom to roam.
I LOVE YOU Coki Tai, today, tomorrow, and always.
oxoxo Mommy
November 9, 2014
Coki Tai, Thank you for being so close and encouraging me over the past few months. I felt your wonderful self many times out by the pool, in the new art room, and even on the cruise. You are so much a part of our life. Thank you again for helping your mom find me. Loving you always in a very special way. Your special Poppy.
Gina
November 6, 2014
November 6, 2014
My Dear Coki Tai,
I miss you more than ever...you are always in my dreams and forever in my heart. On this day, I was so blessed to bring you into the world.
I LOVE YOU-
Now and Forever,
Mommy
Rewa Dabney Berry
June 3, 2014
You were in my dream last night. Laying in bed on your tummy like we use to do on our long night talks right before crashing to sleep. Miss you
cecil franklin
June 2, 2014
I really miss you and thank God for let us meet....I will always Love You..... and never forget you.
cecil franklin
June 2, 2014
We really miss you, and LOVE YOU...... your friend at Cascade Elem.School
May 21, 2014
My Dear Coki,
Oh how I miss you so...your GrandmaViv is there in Heaven with you, as of this Cinco de Mayo...
I think of you every day...I miss you more than I can say...
While your leaving makes me sad, your living makes me glad. I am so blesed to have had you in my life for the years we had.
I will allways love you.
oooxxxoooxxxoxoxo Mommy
Wednesday, 21 May, 2014
Gina
November 6, 2013
November 6, 2013 - 5:32PM (birthtime)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my Coki Tai...
Courageous
Organized
Kind-hearted
Intelligent
Talented (and talkative;)
Alluring
Independent
...that's my Coki Tai!!!
I MISS YOU sooo much, everyday!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxx Love, Mommy
July 24, 2013
To Dear Rewa,
PLEASE call me very soon...would love to hear from you and catch up!!!
Love to you for your lovingkindness in remembrance of Coki Tai.
Momma G. - 404 210-1493 or email: [email protected]
Rewa (Dabney) Berry
July 23, 2013
Coki, you are still coming to mind. How you touched my life so much that to this day, I tear as I reflect on memories we made. What a time we had! We were powerful girtl! I miss you and my heart still hurts that we lost contact over the years. We were SOOOOOO close and then so distant; however I am very thankful of the time we did share. We never should have allowed the world to come in between us. Thanks for that lesson I will carry on. Keep beautifying heaven and thank you for sharing life with me. I will always remember the beautiful Coki Tai...
Gina: KIT (connect on Facebook) and God bless you! I know it is hard.
Marc T
June 19, 2013
Coki I know God has blessed your sweet soul it was a pleasure to have known you your wonderful smile still crosses my mind from time to time love you.
Gina
May 21, 2013
My DEAREST COKI TAI:
Tuesday, May 21, 2013...year 5...
Another year of sadness,
another day I cry-
More years without the gladness,
of life without Coki Tai.
I miss you so very much.
Loving you allways-
Mommy
Crystal Edwards
April 16, 2013
Coki,
You are still always on my mind. I think of you often...and I miss you. Thank you for being my friend. I will always be yours because you are always in my heart. I wish Sophia who was in my belly when you passed, now 4, had a chance to meet you. She would have loved you just as much as I do.
Love,
Crystal
Raymonda Parker
March 30, 2013
I think about U all the time and I realize the love I had for U in school,the time we spent with eachother so pleasant with total innocence, U made Me smile always! Im hurting but I think of U and smile. Love
October 11, 2012
Hi Coki, I had you on my mind this morning... I read your mommy's poem and saw the newest photos of you here and on Facebook. With or without the hair, you were still a walking glass of champagne, happy, bubbling and effervescent, personality bursting right off the page. I wanna laugh. I wanna cry. I want to call to ask how you're doing. There's so much to tell you... As thoughts of you cross my mind I hope that you can hear them somehow and know how much I miss you girl. To Coki's Mom: I hope that you're doing well. Your words and poems are beautiful. Hugs.
Taya Brown
October 10, 2012
hey Auntie Coki its your favorite niece Taya ! I am doing a report on someone that makes me happy and you were the first one to pop in my head ! Im in high school now i go to Sacred Heart Academy im a freshman ! I also recieved a 5,500$ scholarship. There just so much i want to let you know . I love you Auntie and ill see you again !
September 6, 2012
Too Often The Sadness
Too often the sadness, that never seems to be far away, returns to steal the brief interludes of happy, that often, yet intermittently preside. It's a constant and unending battle, a tug of war with a formidable opponent: Death. The inevitability of one's own demise is supplanted by the torturous agony of mind and space altering thoughts of the untimely and incomprehensible loss of my only child.
Too often the sadness, that grips my heart and mind and the very core of me, plays such a taunting game of self-doubt within, the fear of madness is unbearably overpowering.
Too often the sadness, that creeps in and clouds even the brightest days, makes me inclined to think of going to that safe place of sleep, only to awaken to the assurance that my Coki's death was only a very, very long and bad dream.
Too often the sadness, like a pressure system of tornadic winds, overpowers me, twists and tangles my thoughts and dishevels my prayers, then slips away- somewhere, wherever storms begin, only to regain gale force strength to devour the shattered pieces of my broken heart.
Too often the sadness, once pondered now understood, enables me to unravel the cliché “that if I could I would trade places with her.” If I could have taken away her pain, if I could have saved her from her death, this writing would not have come to pass.
Mommy/Gina
06 September, 2012
Photography©Kayemee
Kayemee Quiamco
September 5, 2012
Photography©Kayemee
Kayemee Quiamco
September 5, 2012
Photography©Kayemee
Kayemee Quiamco
September 5, 2012
Mommy
May 20, 2012
5-21-Eve
Tomorrow she died,
four years from today.
The grief in my heart,
will never fade away.
Mommy
5-20-12
Alfeo Dixon
September 24, 2011
I created a Facebook Group in Coki's honor, please stop by and share pics, stories and all... http://www.facebook.com/groups/54431008462/
Meghan Payne
August 22, 2011
I am so saddened to learn of Coki's death. We went to Crawford Long and Northside High together. She was my little sister. I remember walking to school with her and taking her under my wing. It had been so long since I'd seen her. After we both left Oak Dr., I guess both of us just let time go by. As I sit here in tears writing this, I make a vow to reconnect with those who meant so much to me. The pictures are lovely. Thank you for sharing.
Monica G
May 31, 2011
When I met Coki, it had been the second time her hair had fallen out from chemo treatments. I had just finished my one and hopefully my only ever round of chemo treaments. I was encouraged by my Dr. and counselors to seek individuals "like me," young adults battling cancer. That's when and where I met Coki. Our hair was growing out together and the two pictures of her hair short on this site are ones I took of her when we met. We'd go out and get breakfast, coffee, dinner--feed the birds bread at the beach...we were pals. She was truly like no other. There were things she and I shared--we had fought for our lives and I thought she'd survive her own battle; I was not ready to let her go or say good-bye. I still am not. I see how many people she affected, she had the same effect with some of my friends who only met her once. They'd ask me about her, "How's Coki?"
I had to tell one friend Felicia that we had lost Coki to cancer. It was rather devastasting because Coki was one of those people you meet just once and yet she has an impact on you forever. I think of her and I miss her everyday. I wasn't able to attend her services, the last time I saw her in the hospital, I made sure to let her know I loved her and she replied, "She loves you too." I guess I wasn't meant to say 'good-bye' to her.
I'm glad the website kept going, I haven't looked at it in the 3 years since shortly after her passing, glad to read how others were impacted by her, of course her family and friends and even people who never met her. Her spirit is one that soars high. I feel like time was cut short but at least we got to meet and I'm grateful that God put her into my life, that I got to meet such a wonderful human being, she is sorely missed.
Since I enjoyed stories of Coki, I'll tell one that I enjoy thoroughly. She and I went car-shopping and test-driving. This was after Easter service in April of 2008. I test drove a mini-Coop and a convertible Volkswagon beetle (I ended up buying a Jetta Coki, by the way...it's so very cool and thank you for inspiring me to buy a car I love...I truly do!) So time had passed us and she was rather hungry/ravenous...she told the car salesman politely that we had to go since we were hungry. He was not done with his "sales-pitch" so he went on and on...she finally told him, "Look, I'm so hungry I could bite my own shoulder off and start eating it!" He got the point and let us on our way...that was one way of leaving. I thought it was hysterical. But that was her, she had a way of making you laugh, her sense of humor was classic. I hope we all find solace in her passing and am grateful I get to read other's postings on how she impacted lives, it's a blessing and thank you!
Mom
May 10, 2011
My DEAREST Coki Tai,
[Bup-bup, SugarBear-]
Second only to your birthday, November 6th, the days before Mother's Day are indeed, the most difficult for me. From the time you could barely write, and every year since, YOU made MOTHER'S DAY a quintessential event! From your handmade paper flowers, with adoring pictures and words, to your very Coki-esque witty, carefully chosen greeting cards, to your surprise visits, wherever I was living or on a crew layover, to your incredibly beautiful, thoughtful, and practical gifts, to the timely calls, or visits by phone- all of the wondrous things of YOU, filled my MOTHER'S DAYs with memories to cherish from now on. But, as the saying goes, "If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to Heaven, and bring YOU home again."
I MISS YOU so VERY, MUCH.
The broken places within the hole of my heart, can never be filled, but the pain is somewhat soothed by the plethora of memories, large and small, that at times erase the reality of your absence. It is all so surreal, your being gone too soon. I have to remind myself daily, of the splendour of having YOU as my daughter, at all.
I THANK YOU. I THANK GOD FOR YOU for making me your MOM, and for giving YOU to ME to bring into this life, to nourish you, and give you roots and wings, and for allowing me to share you with, and show you the world. Shine on, my adorable star-light angel.
I will LOVE YOU allways!
Mommy
January 3, 2011
Glynda- P;ease, p;ease contact me Tanya in Atl. 678-933=2588 Love to you, yuor angel, family and others who love you all. Just, recently heard about Cokie Tai.
November 6, 2010
On this November 6, 2010, my heart is filled with the gladness of the birthday of my beautiful angel-daughter, Coki Tai...I miss you so much, and I think of you everyday. I am so blessed to have had you in my life.
Mommy
Terry
July 26, 2010
Coki, you have come into my life in a wonderful way, as my new daughter who is always filled with surprises - from a smiling photo, to a beautiful chair, to your mom's stories about you that are connected to special items I discover as we share our lives together. Your very real presence has mede me laugh, cry, reflect, and be joyful for having you as my new daughter. Thank you for enriching my life in a very special way.
Lacey Mitchell
July 26, 2010
The thought of you occurred to me yesterday with the power force of your name, Coki Tai. I remember your earliest movements in SW, Atlanta. Always being feed and devouring famishly the healthiest of food stuff. Large Avatar-like, dark, deep penetrating eyes. These were the signatures of double scorpio hidden in your horoscope and very expressive in your life. Clearly, you have had forceful impact on many as fervently expressed in these remarks. You were fashioned by God, natured by Glynda and Bennett and loved by all. We dispell the illusion of death and affirm our connection with you always.
July 26, 2010
TO: Sister Joeann Toney Swan:
PLEASE contact me: G.L Bennett
at (404) 210-1493 or (502) 807-4699. THANKS!!!
Anjel
July 26, 2010
Coki, I've had you on my mind for the past few days, and then I finally ran across a photo of us giggling at my brother's wedding. You left such a tremendous impression on everyone there - even my dad who still refers to you as his "number one daughter" - lol. I know it's not your birthday, or Christmas, but I still cry when I think about your passing on.
Sometimes I wonder if you're really gone, or if you're here keeping an eye on all of us. I love you, Sis. If you're still here, please shine a positive light on those of us you left behind. Hugs, your friend and Sister in Christ, Anjel
Coki and Anjel
Anjel Hawkins
July 26, 2010
joeann toney swan
July 23, 2010
This news is so very sorrowful to me. I know of the beautiful toddler I met so many years ago in atlanta. The photo of the lovely school graduate. My heart is confused; it's surreal. Her mother is my good friend. We have lost years to and we have toddler times to remember.
Shank Ahmir
March 1, 2010
What can I say! I was not prepared for this when I went searching for you on facebook! You will always be loved and have a special place in my heart! I'm so glad I ran into you @ the House of Blues that night and we got to share the time we did!!! I'm sorry I can't put my thoughts together as I would like to! I love you and miss you my beautiful angel!!!
Keith Payne
January 28, 2010
Thinking of you, Dear Friend!
Kim Thornton-Jackson
November 12, 2009
Coki. My neices name is Koko. I was going to her facebook page and it hit me...I need to look up my friend (little sis) Coki Tai! This is Kim Thornton-Jackson and I am sitting here sad and stunned. My mind immediately went to the days (high school) when your mom would drop you off over my house and she and my dad (marvin) would talk for hours while we prepared to go and hang out along with my sister, Ava. I am so glad that we had the chance to spend so much time together and that we had the opportunity to briefly stay in touch as adults. You will forever be in my heart. Enjoy being in the arms of the Lord because thats where we are all striving to be.
Rodney Moone
October 2, 2009
Coki. . . what can I say that hasn't been said my dear. It comes as a shock to me that you are gone, but I will always remember the times we shared together. It hit me like a ton of bricks, but I know you are in a better place. I miss you and I will ALWAYS love you. Until we see each other again my dear please know that I will Never forget you.
July 5, 2009
My condolences go to her family. I went to Northside with her and didn't really know her. I just saw her beautiful face in the hallways. May she rest in peace and may beautiful memories keep you during times of sadness. Continue to celebrate her life, always.
Lalohni Campbell (Alsobrook)
June 22, 2009
Coki! I couldn't find you on Facebook, so I decided to Google instead. Alas, I'm so glad to have found my friend. I miss you dearly. I'm still laughing about how many times we got into trouble. Never a dull moment! Can't wait to see you and be silly together all over again. Love and Light to your family. xoxo
Susan Clay
May 26, 2009
Coki Tai! It's been a year since you've passed but not a day goes by where I don't think of you and still speak your name often. Your spirit lives so strongly thru me and all of your loved ones. I'm getting ready to hit the stage in a few weeks! I remember when we had our made up group "Quois" lol ;) I hope you'll be there with me singing, dancing and laughing when I hit Maui.
Love you girl,
Susan
Mignon Roos
May 25, 2009
I met Coki Tai in 2006 in LA at a small church. We both were fighting separate illnesses and were each other's partners creating memories that strengthen me and cause me to smile at every rememberance. What a strong, and delightful young hearted woman she was. I miss her.
Colleen O'Hare
April 9, 2009
Coki Tai, you are beautiful, and you inspire me every day.
richard allan
April 9, 2009
I met Coki at my good friend Bryan Howard's wedding on 7.7.07 here in Vegas. She was a sweetheart of a person and I instantly noticed that she was loved by all of her friends. While I met her only once, it was clear to me the awesome impact that she had on those around her.
Edward Layne
April 9, 2009
I met Coki on the They are the Jugs video shoot. Even after having treatments she was still radiant. She and I had amazing conversations about life. I truly miss her because she changed my life. Even though we only knew each other for a few months she was one of the most amazing people the world could be blessed with. We love you Coki
Marc Townes
February 16, 2009
I met Coki in the late eighties, I remember how beautiful she was and how proud I was to know her, my family and I loved her like she was family she will always have a piece of my heart and soul I LOVE YOU COKI
Trevin Dye
January 29, 2009
Wow. I had no idea. I was just at the office and decided to google Coki since I lost touch with her almost 10 years ago. Great person and amazing friend. I am heart-broken to hear about this. I was really looking forward to catching up with her again...
David Prabhu
December 26, 2008
Merry Christmas baby, we had a blast here in the Bahamas in 2004 celebrating. Miss you and love you.
Alfeo Dixon
December 10, 2008
Recently I started to think about Coki. I had lost all contact with her and only knew she was on her way to LA to pursue acting. To me she was already a star and now I understand why I had a need to find her.
I was deeply in love with Coki and she was one that left a huge gap in my heart. I know that everyone she met also felt her warm sincerity and always big smile.
I will never for get you...
Kristin Johnosn
November 7, 2008
Happy Birthday Coki. I miss you and think about you all the time. Every November we would call each other for our birthdays. Coki, this birthday is a hard one. I Love you.
Bryan Howard
November 6, 2008
Happy Birthday Coki Tai!! I miss you and love you so much.
Bryan & Manami
p.s.
Let's go and get some Pinkberry
Constance Jefferies
July 6, 2008
My name is Constance, and i met Coki Tai about a year ago when she decided to start filling her prescription with my pharmacy. when i first became aquainted with Ms. Coki Tai, she was like a burst of fresh air compared to some of the customers we deal with. Coki always kept a smile on her face and had a cheerful, positive personality even on days when she could barly walk. Coki was always patient and respectful when visiting us. It was truly a pleasure to have known Coki. i will continue to pray for Coki Tai's family, friends, and all who truly miss her.
May Coki Tai Bennett always hold a special place in the hearts of everyone she touched.
You'll be missed by all
Stacey Duncan-Jones
June 29, 2008
I had the pleasure of attending Sutton Middle School with Coki and she was a very beautiful person. My thoughts and prayers are with the family at this time.
Gina Bennett
June 25, 2008
THANK YOU- ALL, for your incredibly thoughtful words of kindness, and LOVE for my daughter, my friend and my only child: COKI TAI
Her MOM-
Gina L. (Morton) Bennett
Kristin Johnson
June 25, 2008
My sincerest condolences to your family and friends. Coki was a very sweet person and a good friend and I will always remember the good times we shared.
Kristin Johnson (College Park, GA)
J. G.
June 23, 2008
You were never a stranger and had many friends. Though we were not "close" you always were extremely nice and always had kind words for everyone. Peace and love.....
CHRISTOPHER LAW
June 22, 2008
I DID NOT KNOW MISS COKI I SAW HER PICTURE IN THE OBITUARY SECTION OF THE ATLANTA JOURNAL CONSTITUTION. SHE WAS VERY PRETTY AND HER STORY TOUCHED MY HEART SO MUCH I JUST WANTED TO SEND MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY TO HER FAMILY. FROM THE PASSAGE I READ SHE SEEMED LIKE AN INCREDIBLE PERSON.
Eve Greene
June 16, 2008
As my car pulled up into my garage yesterday, Mariah Carey's song Bye Bye started to play. I had been thinking of Coki all weekend, and cried many times. Once again as this song played, I thought about my wonderful friend. I started to tear up again so I pulled the key out of the ignition and opened the car door. My car always shuts off the radio once I do that. As I gathered my things to exit the car, to my surprise, the song was still playing. I looked at the keys in my hand, and sat back into the seat of my car and continued to listen to every word of this song and smiled as Coki said good bye to me. For the next two minutes, as this song played, I smiled and thought of all the good times I shared with Coki. I also looked at the keys in my hand over and over again, because my radio doesn't work without the key in the ignition. As much as I needed one last moment with her, she granted me the ultimate gift. She said Good Bye in a way I would know it was her. For those two minutes, I felt calm and had the biggest smile, as I got to say Good Bye to the brightest STAR in the universe.
Coki you never cease to amaze me in life and you are still doing it. If anyone doesn't believe Coki is still with us, please take my word for it. I got to experience it first hand.
And yes the radio went off when the song finished playing.
I LOVE YOU MISS COKI TAI.
Angela Hawkins
June 15, 2008
My Beloved Coki-Loki,
Girl, I loved you like a Sister... I can't tell you how much I miss you. I am at a total loss... I'm absolutley baffled at how this could happen to you. This is wrong for so many reasons. You are the girl with the Mosquito bites, who had the Healthiest diet, who was the most Naturally beautiful person I've ever met, with the bubbliest personality, the most enthusiastic attitude... how did this happen to YOU? I have this picture of you in my mind is of you in your beautiful as usual state -full head of hair, big eyes, cute dress, no make up - naturally beautiful, chattering, and laughing.
I am flooded with memories of attending college together: I can still remember all the fun we had writing those terrible songs and singing them in the musty little music studio on the AMC campus. I remember the annual trips as a (VIP) member of the AMC choir to participate in the annual Georgia State Choir. How you, 'Yoko-Noni,' "Noxy-Peach" and I took went for 4 years in a row with Professor Boehm. We stayed at those beautiful bed and breakfasts nestled in the cyprus tree lined streets of Savannah. I remeber how you advised that we should use our per diem to buy 'healthy, natural foods' so, we detoured to the local market to buy healthy stuff but the healthy food was SO expensive that we ALL retreated back to the nearest Burger King to buy the $1.00 charcoal flavored cheese burgers, 3 times each day - to save money - and how we all laughed and promised be good vegetarians when we got back to Atlanta?
My favorite memory was when I came out to LA to attend my brother Billy's wedding how nice it was to see eachother and talk face to face again. We had fun hanging out, getting caught up on eachother's loves and lives, laughing, crying, drinkin' drinks and tellin'lies... I remember when you met on arrival at the airport, we rushed to get the rental car and then drove on the 10 in rush hour traffic from LA trying to make it from the LA airport to Santa Somewhere in time my brother's rehearsal dinner and pre-wedding party. We were SIX HOURS late, sweating (because it was hot and the car a/c didn't work), we were mad, hungry, and hoarse from yelling at drivers of other cars to get out of the damn way, and frustrated because no one in Santa-Where-ever-we-were would give us directions to the venue that turned out to be right around the corner - the SAME corner that we (literally) drove around, FOURTEEN times (lol)? Girl, you KNOW those people KNEW where that place was!
I'm still laughing at how our first order of business was to sponge off in the rest room and get food before the servers broke down from the event. When we arrived (20 minutes before the event ended) we found that the bathroom doors were LOCKED and We bribed the waiter to find a bathroom key AND go back into the kitchen and get us some of the vegetarian food that they had hidden away for themselves. Even funnier, after we paid the man and stood there for 20 minutes, he NEVER came back (lol)? We had to walk into what was left of the party with our dresses stuck to our legs, and my dad telling us that it was OK, we both looked beautiful - in the dark (lol). I also remember the fight we had the next day on the way back from the wedding. We had stopped the car at 4am on the highway. We were outside, in the dark, screaming at eachother on the shoulder of the road with all 4 doors open throwing eachother's Louie Vuitton luggage out of the car and into the embankment... three passing cars had stopped to watch the 'girls-gone-wild' slap fight of the on the side of the car, until an older couple drove by rolled down their window and asked us what the two of us were doing. Whee we couldn't think of anything to say, everyone laughed, and they told us to get back in the car - because it was "dangerous out here" (lol). They helped us find our luggage, and we made it back to the hotel just before sunrise. We ordered a huge breakfast, laughed our butts off at how hilarious the arguement was and agreed that we MUST have been sisters in another life...
I know that my dad loved you like you were his own daughter. You spoke to him more than I did and he lived Here in DC with me (lol). I laugh when I think of how you would call me and tell me that he said that (you) were his Number ONE daughter (lol), and then he'd call and tell me that he'd just spoken with his Other daughter, and that he'd moved you into the Number One slot and I was number two (lol). It's amazing how you've touched me, my dad, my brother, Sheila, Kay and all the branches of my family.
You and I spoke on the phone often while you were sick, but I wish that I had actually been there with you to hold you up, in the end. I just could not wrap my head around the though that you might not live through this... I am so disapointment with myself for not being there to drive you to the hospital, or hold your hand, and maybe give you just enough love and engergy to hold on for just one more day. I hope that you can forgive me for failing you in this way but, I know that you know how much I cared, because we never ended a conversation without telling eachother 'I love you.'
Coki, I have been on my knees offering supplications for your soul. I have prayed to God to receive you and make you whole again. I have prayed for the healing of your family. I've already spoken with your mom and I know that she is a great source of strength that your family (and I) can draw on. She said that you were in a lot of pain before you passed on, and she spoke of how the terrible disease had ravished your body and your spirit... I pray that your pain has been relieved now. I believe that you are with God now because I've always seen His light in you. I want the people who read to know how you've touched my life, and how much I cherish your memory because our friendship has been beautiful and funny and and sad and real. I want you to know how much you are loved and treasured, by me, your sister in Christ, Angela Marie. I will never forget you, Coki Tai.
Tasha Price
June 13, 2008
Coki is just one of those people you never forget. She brought so much joy and laughter into my life. After receiving the news, I reminisced on the wild and crazy times we shared... chillin back in the day. What a shock to my system to find out she is gone. I will keep the family in my prayers.
Stanley Alford
June 13, 2008
Coki,Coki,Coki....Man the special times we shared.I just can't believe your gone.We never had a chance to make amends. We lost contact so long ago and I have thought about you over the years and how you were doing. I'm really lost for words for you were my first love and it really hurts to Know that your not with us any more. I loved you so much and now I will never have the chance to tell you again.I know your in heaven looking down on me as I write this.Man! What I would give to see you one more time. I will always love you Coki Tai Bennett....
Rewa (Dabney) Berry
June 12, 2008
I just received a call from a friend to express the unfortunate news, beautiful Coki is in heaven. I am silent because I was JUST thinking about you last week. We lost touch over the years, but you would come across my mind every now and then and OH GOD how I wish I would have found you. We were SO CLOSE from the time we became cousins up until our early twenties. As I think of the memories, I realize just how lucky I am to have shared life with you. I remember we were inseperable, from high school to Young Harris (late night drives to come and get you) to the Military (you came to see me graduate from boot camp) to the soirees (your apt, mine or somebody's) and all the laughter (your dimples), fun (just kicking it & chillin'), joy, VERY FEW falling outs (why did we waste the time), tears, secrets, chats of advice and comfort and most of all LOVE. I am filled with tears because I wish we would have KIT. I do not know what was going on with you, but I hear you had a challenge. Whatever happened, I know your strength, humor, gift of gab, 'dimple smile' and beautiful nature shined like you always did through life challenges. Last time you were here quite some time ago, you were suppose to come and see me. I wish I could have that day back and make sure we re-connected. I wish our paths would have crossed again and I NEVER lost your email and #. I wish you would have contacted me in order for us to share our sisterhood again. Hearty friendships like ours are NEVER forgotten. God bless you and your family. I hope I can get peace and understanding as I try to find your Mom. I am speechless, but I know you are in Heaven and at peace spreading beauty. Thank you for the memories and for igniting in me to never lose touch with the ones you love. Know that I love you and miss you now more than ever.
Julian Lewis
June 9, 2008
Today, I of all people am at a loss for words, nevertheless, I find comfort in scripture. For it is written,"Blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted." For all who trust that absence from the body is to be present with the Lord there is solace to be found. To the Bennett family: this may appear as unusual, however, I must differ from heartfelt condolences. For my trust is "HE" who is well able has kept our loved one. Therefore, many have wept, however, I encourage all to rejoice!!!
Harold Powell
June 9, 2008
I received a phone call from a classmate and very dear friend, Rhonya Robinson who informed me that she had some unfortunate news, as she continued to talk my breath was taken away from me as I fell back into my chair. After getting off the phone and letting it all soak in, thoughts of how precious each breath of life really is. I want to send my condolences to Coki's family and loved ones. Coki was always a pleasure to be around and had a colegate smile that would brighten any room. She will truly be missed.
Jill Bowens
June 9, 2008
My Darling Niece Coki Tai,
You will be in my heart until my final days. From the moment you were born you brought such joy, love, laughter and life to our family. You were our baby girl and I loved you with my whole heart and soul. You spent practically every summer with us and grandma Viv would make me take you everywhere I went, I resented it in those days it was like having a baby sister tagging along, but then you grew up and we were like sisters, oh what fun we had. I am so proud of the woman you became. You were the embodiment of all God's wonderful traits; love, joy, kindness, warmth, generosity and sincerity. How proud my sister should be. You were a shining light my dear loved one and you will forever shine in my heart.
Love, Jill
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