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for Jay Barrier
scott branham
October 19, 2014
Rest easy old friend.
Scott Branham
October 19, 2014
Sorry to hear of your passing old friend.We had some great times in Junior high .Basketball, Football.Staying over.The warmth of your family! So long old friend.
July 30, 2014
Always thinking and remembering a wonderful man.
Andrea Tiday
August 1, 2010
Jay will always be a kind, thoughtful memory of a man that loved his children more than anything. He loved his family more than his own life. JB, Morgan, Will and Conner. Jay was and still is a gracious soul to his family, friends, and co-workers. The fondest of memories will always be still in all of our hearts of his smiles, laughter and kindness. My heart goes out to his children and Malea and all that loved him.
Andrea Tiday
Morgan
August 7, 2009
I love you.
Tom Krebs
December 8, 2008
To all of Jay's family: I was very saddened to hear of Jay's passing. I'm really sorry I did not hear of it sooner!
Jay and I became fast friends the summer between 8th and 9th grade during a game of "hotbox" on his front yard. I can't even begin to recount all the events we shared through high school and college, but certainly some that stand out were the times we spent on Der Wunderbar at Grand Lake. Way too much fun!
I will miss him.
Spencer Davies
November 24, 2008
Dear Mary Ellen and all of the family,
I just heard the tragic news that Jay has passed away. Jay and I became fast friends way back in grade school. The memories are still with me as if it was yesterday. The sleep overs, playing whiffle ball over endless hours in Jay's back yard, the Barrier Gem's baseball team, basketball, and his wonderful supportive family will always be so special to me. Jay will be truly missed by everyone who came to know him.
With my sincerest regrets.
Wendy & Mike Letter
November 14, 2008
Mike & I were so sorry to hear of Jay's passing. He helped us select our wedding rings over 6 years ago & it was always with excitement & appreciation that we entered the store to visit him. He was such a gentleman & so sincere in his dealings with us - he really made us feel special & that he enjoyed his part in our journey to finding the perfect symbol of our love. Our thoughts & prayers are with you and your entire family, and to those at Barrier's.
Ann Beck
November 10, 2008
Jay always has such a friendly smile and warm greetings, I will miss that. My heart felt thoughts to his family.
Chuck Curfman
November 10, 2008
My deepest sympathy to the Barrier family as I just heard the sad news about Jay. Jay was a friend in high school and at KU. We saw each other occasionally over the years, from kids basketball to just running into each other. He was always quick with a smile and eager to share the latest about his kids and family. He was a great guy and a good man. He will be missed.
Alex Wooldridge
November 9, 2008
Jay is greatly missed, even though we did not see him often, by all the Wooldridge families. Our prayers are with you. Peace to Jay and all of his family.
Mary and Alex Wooldridge
and Caroline and Darby
David, Patty, Travis and Kristen Wike
November 9, 2008
So sorry to hear about Jay. Travis always enjoyed playing ball with Will and, J.B. We enjoy the fun with Malea and Jay at the Collegiate ball games. Our prayers are with you kids at this time. In CHRIST Love,
The Wike's.
Paul Wethington
November 9, 2008
I just found out about Jay's death and was very said to hear about it. Having lived down the block from the Barrier's, I could never forget them. My brother and I use to play with Jay and his brother. Last night after I found out about his death I went to my jewerly box and pull out the first piece of jewerly I ever bought and of chourse it was from Barrier's. My prayers are with the family.
Marsha Marshall
November 6, 2008
It's been 40 years since Jay and I were high school sweethearts, but those fond memories have never faded. He will always have a special place in my heart ! It is so hard to realize Jay is no longer with us, but this wonderful man will never be forgotten. Jay's candle burned out way too soon.
My deepest sympathy goes out to Mary Ellen and Jay's family. Hold dear your memories !
Marsha ( Howbert ) Marshall Leawood, KS
[email protected]
Arnold Hudspeth
November 6, 2008
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Melissa Burtt
November 6, 2008
It is very sad news to hear of this loss. Jay and I have been friends for many years and I wanted to express my sincere condolences to the family. Jay had a bright smile and wonderful wit.
Jay Barrier II
November 5, 2008
I spent time reading all the messages in this guest book and want to thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. As his children we always knew how proud he was of all of us even when we may not have deserved it. I have spent the past few days picking the minds of his old friends and have come up with some of the best stories. He was a funny guy who found himself in funny situations more than a few times. Somehow, he usually made out with hide and head which is more than alot can say. He didn't live for money and he wasn't fascinated by "stuff". Always told us kids when he would pass up the chance to buy something new and grandiose that he "didn't have a case of the 'I wants.'" He had his faults but from this perspective they serve only to endear him to us more. Only in the last few days have I found out all he did for us kids which leaves me with a distinct feeling of pride that I had a father who would sacrafice everything for my brothers and sister and I. I also feel guilty, knowing that I don't deserve some of the advantages he gave us. He and I had a special connection where we would be more than willing to correct one another's errors but could speak the same language when talking about his "etherial hippy" stuff. I have never been more proud to share his name and if I have a son he will be the third in the line of Jay Brosius Barrier's, only I will see to it that he does not copy my signature so he can't take my credit card and abuse it like I did in high school, now and again. Even though he didn't live to see me married in June I know he loved his daughter-in-law-to-be and I am proud that she knew him. He had a deep and abiding connection to the sea which I shared with him to a degree, but I will make it a point to make my children know the type of man he was. I'll never forget the lullaby he sang to us as kids "there once was an old beer bottle, floating on the foam, there once was an old beer bottle, many miles from home, inside was a piece of paper, with these few words written on, whoever finds this bottle, will find that the beer's all gone." Maybe not he will have the chance to open "Jay's Bait and Grocery" which he always said was his true calling. We miss him terribly.
Tom Morris
November 5, 2008
Barrier Family:
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Tom Morris
Son of Ann and Jim Morris
Greg Dalke
November 5, 2008
Our condolences on the loss of Jay. I worked for a year as an engraver for Barriers and formed an admiration and respect for the family, business and Jay.
Regards and sympathy
Greg Schmidt
November 4, 2008
Barrier Family:Sorry for your loss my condolences are with you
One in a billion genuinely nice person. He truely will be missed.
Tracy Prather
November 4, 2008
To the Barrier Family: I only worked with Jay for a year; however, it did not take long to discover that he did not have many employees, just friends and family who happened to work for him and with him. I know that he will be dearly missed. Will, JB, Morgan and Conner, I don't know each of you personally, but I can tell that you were very special to your Dad. Everyday he would speak of you, your accomplishments and make sure that all of your needs were taken care of. He was very proud of all of you! I am glad to have had the opportunity to work at Barriers for the time that I did and discover the wonderful family legacy known as Barrier's Jewelry and Fine Gifts. I wish you all the best and you are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless!
Morgan's Team at JPM
November 4, 2008
Morgan & Family -
We are very sorry for your loss. May your grief be short and your memories long.
David Garlikov
November 4, 2008
Dear Mary Ellen, and the entire Barrier family,
Words seem inadequate to express the sadness I feel about Jay’s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this time of sorrow.
With deepest sympathy,
Selma
November 4, 2008
May God continue to bless you all, I have such wonderful memories of Jay coaching Biddy Basketball, running in to coach and watch his kids play. My thoughts and prayers are with the family. Continue to trust in him and he will take care of you.
Missey Robson
November 3, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
November 3, 2008
Dear Barrier Family,
I have lovely memories of your family store and have enjoyed getting to know the Jay Barrier family through Collegiate. I will pray for peace, for all of you.
Janet Haines
Mark Lamia
November 3, 2008
My sincerest condolences to Mary Ellen and the entire Barrier family. I worked for and with Jay. He kept his word and was always honorable. He was my friend and we had many, many laughs together as well. I,too, will miss him.
Sarah Dugan
November 3, 2008
We are so sorry to hear about this tragic, tragic event. Barrier's is a wonderful store, and Jay will be missed greatly. Our condolences to his family and staff.
Prayerfully,
Brent & Sarah Dugan
Margo Elkouri
November 3, 2008
Dear Barrier Family,
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Please know we are always here for you. Margo, Ashley and Ronnie Jr.
Bill, Billy and Jeanne Griffith
November 3, 2008
Our hearts are with the Barrier famility at this sad time. We will remember Jay as a very proud father and a true gentleman. With sympathy from our family to yours
Frank Clifford
November 3, 2008
Dear Barrier Family,
We are so sorry to hear of the loss of Jay. He was a close friend, and he will always be with us in our thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Mary Ann and Frank Clifford
Ray and Olivia Simmons
November 3, 2008
Dear Barrier Family,
Jay was a very pleasing person to know. He made everyone a special customer.
Nola and Frank Martin
November 3, 2008
Mrs. Barrier, family, and Barrier's employees,
We know that employees in closely held businesses are extended family who are feeling the pain of Jay's loss as deeply as his close relatives and our heartfelt sympathy goes out to each of you. We were stunned to hear of Jay's death. In reading his obituary a saying came to mind that was once written in an autograph book we have. "The future lies before you like drifts of pure white snow. Be careful how you tread them for every step will show." The Jay we knew does not need to worry about the footprints he left for all to see. He was a true gentleman, a wonderful businessman, and a caring person who had a delightful sense of humor. He was a fun customer at Jack's North Hi Carry Out, and we enjoyed being his customer at Barrier's. We are so sad to lose him here on this earth. He is gone all too soon.
David Gorges
November 2, 2008
Our condolences to the Barrier family on the loss of Jay.
David Gorges and John McNeill
Gorges & Company
hennery bandadine
November 2, 2008
I usee d to live accross the street from them on Yale. He would keep his grass cut real short. i surprizzed it didnt die he semmed like a real nice guy i liked the candy he wood give me for be=ing good i like them i sorry he died so young.
Laurie Reynolds
November 2, 2008
Dear Barrier family,
I'm very sorry about Jay and for your loss. I used to wrap gifts for Barrier's. My prayers are with you.
Jan and John Richeson
November 2, 2008
Love and blessings to Malea
and family. Our thoughts and
prayers are certainly with you.
Jan and John Richeson
JIM & ANN MAYNARD
November 2, 2008
TO JAY'S MOTHER AND FAMILY.
OUR HEARTS, PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS GO OUT TO YOU AND YOURS.
WE ARE DALLAS MAYNARD'S GRANDPARENTS WHO LIVE IN
DERBY.
JIM & ANN MAYNARD
POEM:
"IF TEARS COULD BUILD A STAIRWAY,
AND MEMORIES A LANE.
WE WOULD WALK RIGHT UP TO HEAVEN
AND BRING YOU HOME AGAIN.
Heather Griffin
November 2, 2008
Our family will miss Jay. He always made us feel so welcome in the store and we appreciated the extra time he took to say hello to us.
Maryanne, Kelly and Heather Griffin
November 2, 2008
I am deeply saddened for the loss of a wonderful and loving father that Jay Barrier was. The community will miss his gracious smile and his witty one liners. I know right now that Jaybird is soaring high in the heavens above. God be with the Barrier family.
Bob Bowman and Family
November 2, 2008
Mary Ellen and family: we are thinking of you at this sad time once again in your family. Ginny and Dick DeVore
Sheila
November 2, 2008
I applied for a job at Barriers as a teenager and the Barriers not only hired me, but treated me as one of the family almost immediately. They installed me near the center of the store behind the gift wrapping counter, and gave me chores like polishing silver, and dusting shelves and fine jewelry. They always let me leave early if I had a school-related commitment.
What I remember most about the Barriers and their son Jay, who was a little older than me and therefore had the lion's share of the silver polishing chores, is I don't think they ever realized I was African-American--even though I sometimes wore an Afro hairstyle and am brown-skinned. The Barriers certainly know fine jewelry, but heaven knows, they're color blind.
Glenn & Sondra Barrier
November 2, 2008
Barrier Family,
I was saddened hearing about the passing of Jay. Jay was always very warm and friendly when we visited at his business. We never had the opportunity to visit socially and talk about family, but now I treasure the few times we were able to visit. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family at this time.
Leon Darnell
November 2, 2008
My condolences to the Barrier Family. The Barrier's Store is one of the finest jewery stores I visited. RIP Jay.
Melissa Serrioz-Perez
November 2, 2008
I worked for Mr. Barrier for almost two years and he was such a wonderful and caring person. Mr. Barrier will be greatly missed.
To Mrs. Barrier, Malea, and kids you will be in my prayers.
Shaker and Kathie Dakhil
November 2, 2008
Our hearts and prayers are with you all.
Freida and Chuck Thurston
November 1, 2008
To the Barrier Family,
I am so very sorry about your loss and my prayers are with your family during this difficult time. I have traded with Barriers for 67 years starting with John Barrier. I have many fond memories of the times that my husband and I visited Barriers and I often share those stories with my family. When you purchase something from Barriers you know how special it! Two of my Grandaughters are also trading with Barriers now because they know what a wonderful business your family has provided to our community for all of these years.
With fond memories,
Freida Thurston
Carolyn Sayre
November 1, 2008
Dear Mary Ellen, Malea, & Family
My deepest sympathy for you loss.
I knew Jay as an honest businessman with high integrity.
Sincerely,
Carolyn S. Sayre
Kelly D. Abbey
November 1, 2008
Jay was the perfect boss as well as an excellent friend. I had the pleasure to work for the Barrier family for 18 years. Jay and I loved to talk sports as it was our "common ground". He gave me a job when I desperately needed it and for that I will never forget.
Thank you Jay, for I feel like I lost a brother and feel bad that I was not there when you needed someone the most. You made me a better person for just being in your presence.
Tracy Pottorff
November 1, 2008
I worked at the bank and assisted Jay in the past. He always had a smile on his face and kind words for me. May God give you comfort and peace during this time of healing. Your family is in my prayers.
Tracy Arnold
former Intrust Bank employee
Don and Bettie Cordes
November 1, 2008
Jay provided us much joy and pleasure with his professional advice and honesty in the selection of the appropriate gem for the right occasion. We will miss him
Deborah McCusker, And Staff
November 1, 2008
To the family of Mr. Barrier, our prayers and thoughts are with you. Mr. Barrier you will be missed. Everyday you found a way to bring smiles and laughter to the staff. We shared stories about children and sports and college life. We here at INTRUST Bank, Central & Rock Dillons, will remember you fondly.
Jean Crockett
November 1, 2008
Malea and family - My heart felt sympathy goes out to you in your loss. I know from experience what you are going thru. May God bless and keep you I love you!
Jean Crockett aka [email protected]
Jami (Hesser) Trammell
November 1, 2008
Jay and I were good friends in junior high, high school, and college. I remember him as cute, funny, and sweet. Our sisters were (and are) best friends, and they were always plotting to get us "together". Of course that back-fired, but I will always remember Jay fondly. In my mind's eye, he has a boyish grin, and a twinkle in his eye.
My greatest sympathy goes out to his family.
Jerome and Pamela Williams
November 1, 2008
Our prayers ascend to God for your loss. Jay was a wonderful person and will truly be missed. May the God of comfort bring you the peace that passes all understanding and the assurance of His loving presence during this time, with our Heartfelt prayers and sympathy.
Bret Giffin
November 1, 2008
Dear Barrier Family,
Greatly sorry to hear of your loss. Jay did an excellent job carrying on the tradition! He will be missed by many. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Sincerely,
JOHN CERULLO
November 1, 2008
May your time of sorrow be short and your healing be with family and friends.
I remember JAY as being a fun loving guy with a great smile. I remember times at work during his summers off from school where he came to work with us on a Survey crew at the City of Wichita. And of course some of the fun times after work doing private work and and enjoying a little libation.
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