Steven J. Parker M.D.

Steven J. Parker M.D.

Steven Parker Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers from Apr. 14 to Apr. 16, 2009.
PARKER, Steven J., MD Passed away on Monday, April 13th, 2009, unexpectedly of complications of cancer. He is survived by his loving wife of 26 years, Karen Parker, his brother Philip Parker, MD and his wife Fran of West Bloomfield, Michigan, niece Rebekah and nephew Daniel. He is also survived and remembered by many friends, colleagues and patients. Steven graduated from Cornell University, University of Michigan Medical School and completed pediatric residency at Stanford University Hospital. He completed a fellowship at Children's Hospital of Boston with T. Berry Brazelton in Child Development. He started his career in private pediatric practice but after 3 years joined the faculty at Boston University School of Medicine and Boston Medical Center (the former Boston City Hospital) and he became Director of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics in 1994, a position he served for over 13 years. He founded and directed the Comprehensive Care Program at BMC - a national model in family centered care for children with developmental disabilities. Steve trained hundreds of young resident pediatricians as well as post graduate fellows in Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics who are now continuing his work nationally providing the next generation of pediatricians with the knowledge and skills of early childhood development. He published many scientific articles on children's development and behavior and was Co-Editor of one of the most successful books for doctors on this subject, Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics: A Handbook for Primary Care, now in its second edition. He was Co-Director of Healthy Steps, a $40 million national experiment that improved the pediatric quality care by placing an early childhood specialist in pediatric practice to promote children's social, emotional and cognitive development to complement doctors' efforts on physical health. He co-authored Baby and Child Care with Dr. Benjamin Spock, the last physician to collaborate directly with Dr. Spock on that book. Steven followed in the footsteps of Dr. Spock and his mentor, Dr. Brazelton, by sharing his wisdom directly with parents as the voice of pediatrics for Web MD. His compassion, wisdom and insight in supporting children and families across Boston and the country will not be forgotten. He was beloved by patients, families and colleagues. Funeral Services will be on Thursday, April 16th, 2009 at 11 AM at the Forsythe Chapel in the Forest Hills Cemetery in Jamaica Plain. In lieu of flowers, donations may be accepted in Steven's name for the Child Development Unit at Boston Medical Center, c/o of the Development Office, Boston Medical Center, 801 Massachusetts Avenue, Boston, MA 02118.

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May 2, 2009

Judith Murphy posted to the memorial.

May 1, 2009

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April 24, 2009

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Judith Murphy

May 2, 2009

Steve and I were residents together at Stanford. He was one of the most charismatic of a very wonderful group recent medical school graduates struggling (working 36 hour shifts every 3rd,studying, complaining, partying, crying, laughing) together to become Real Doctors. He became more famous than most of us, but obviously did not lose his heart or wit in the process.

Abdula Balata

May 1, 2009

Parker took care of my two children for a very long time. Words could not describe his kindness, friendly atmosphere and his passionate care for children and other patients.

Our prayers go out to Dr. Parker and his family, may his soul rest in peace. Everyone has to die sooner or later. Man is helpless before the will of God. We can do nothing but pray for the departed soul. To me, I still have a trouble time finding that one word that can describe Parker, he was a wonderful man. I always sought his guidance and help whenever I or my family was in difficulty. His death, therefore, is a personal loss to me. But his family’s loss is certainly thousand times more than mine. But no one can avert the decree of fate. I cannot imagine his family, friends, co-workers and staff’s grief or sorrow. May God grant the courage and support for his family, friends and everyone else that was part of Parker’s life.

Mary L.Rosin Cooper

April 24, 2009

I knew Steve from long, long ago. My memories were of a beautiful boy who kept us entertained on the Hebrew School bus and always made those around him feel better for knowing him. I am proud to have been someone from his early years that was able to say "there was a mensch." As everyone he has touched has said, his loss is painful and untimely.

Danny Kessler

April 23, 2009

Steve and I shared an office during fellowship with Dr. Brazelton in Boston. We had turned our desks to face each other in the center of the room. It was a privelege to share that space and time with him. He was a unique and funny man, a real "character" who more often than not had a smile on his face. I knew him when he met Karent and they were perfect together. I didn't stay in Boston after Fellowship so I only saw him at meetings. I remember a brief visit to Boston when I had dinner with Steve and Karen at a restaurant in the "Square." We talked about many thinks and it was very fun. He told me about writing with Spock. I cannot believe he is no longer here. I will miss him. Danny Kessler, Phoenix, AZ

Ellen Jantzen

April 22, 2009

Steve and I met the first day of pediatric internship and were pals for our three years at Stanford. Some of my most fun and happy memories are of working with and around Steve. I have missed him. It was my privilege to know him. Even though we lost touch, I was always proud of the good he was doing for children of the world. Steve inspired those who knew him. My deepest sympathy to Karen and his family.

Jo Chopra

April 20, 2009

Steven took care of my daughter LONG distance (we live in India), and was a wonderful support and friend to our family over many years.

Read the whole story and see some lovely photos of Steven with Moy Moy here: http://latikaroy.org/josBlog/?p=949

Carolyn Rubin

April 19, 2009

I was so saddened to hear about Dr. Parker's death. I knew him so many years ago when he was a fellow with Dr. Brazelton and I was the Director of Bay Cove Early Intervention in Dorchester. We were young and idealistic, working hard in the community to provide family support and enrichment for the children. He had great passion and a wonderful personality that I always remembered. Memories are a special thing. My thoughts and prayers to everyone in his family.

Luann Sweeney

April 19, 2009

What a great loss. My sincerest condolences to his family and many dear friends at BMC. He was a great teacher and doctor and a funny, brilliant man.

Barbara Montgomery

April 16, 2009

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief . May your
memoies bring you comfort.

Barbara Montgomery family ( Chakenna Fields and Anglettt Britt)

Dr. Aaron Bornstein

April 15, 2009

I only met Dr. Parker in the past few years at the Developmental Pediatrics conference that he helped found and coordinate annually in Cambridge. Despite such a brief interaction in a formal setting, I was very taken by the passion, humanity, and intellectual curiosity he seemed to bring to his career and shared with his colleagues and patients. I admired his willingness to say "I don't know" and to question both conventional wisdom and his own assumptions. I certainly aspire those same qualities in my career. It is obvious that those who worked with him and knew him more personally than I understood what a special and talented individual he was. I think he noted it himself however in his lecture this past March about being the "web MD physician" how surprised he was at the impact he could have on people he hardly new. I count myself as one of those people.
My deepest condolences to his family, friends and colleagues.

Jeff Ersoff

April 15, 2009

During our junior and senior years at Cornell Steve was one of my college roommates. Along with our other roommates, we helped each other figure out how to "act like a mensch"... or at least we thought we did.

A couple of years later I was serving in the Peace Corps in a rural village in SE asia when this shaggy figure with a backpack came walking down the road. It was Steve, coming to see me while traveling through the region. He talked about the suffering he had seen in his travels and how it convinced him to become a physician.

We saw each other only once more, about twenty years ago at a reunion of a few old friends. I have a special place in my memory for those old relationships and it greatly saddens me that Parker is gone. I recall him as a funny, smart guy with a great sense of what folks needed to hear and what they didn't. I am convinced that I learned a lot from him.

He was a great friend.

Ivelisse Vazquez

April 15, 2009

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Ryan Baker

April 15, 2009

My thoughts and prayers go out to the Parker family. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Mark Roseman

April 15, 2009

I worked with Steve at Franciscan Childrens Hospital. Not only was he interesting, he was interested!!! I enjoyed our conversations about providing access to care for all children and children with special needs in particular. Steve wanted to know about dentistry and the challenges of providing dental care for this group of delightful kids. We worked well together.
Always cheerful, always available, always responsive. My best wishes to his family and friends.
Mark Roseman

Trysha Ahern

April 15, 2009

Steven,

Two vivid memories: 1) your chest game with someone on line; you always tried to teach me, but I couldn't learn; my son, Andrew would have loved to learn from you; my second memory - the t-shirts from Perkins - you didn't know which kids were which because the names were in sign; I knew initials and we figured out every t-shirt to make sure that each child had their own t-shirt. I loved you; you were the best. I remember you and Karen always dancing at all of the holiday parties. I will remember that always. You were forever my 'Parkman'! I will miss you! Love, forever, Trysha

April 14, 2009

Dr. Parker is a wonderful man who loved each one of his patients. It takes a special person to take care of the children he cared for. My thoughts and prayers are with him, his family, and friends at BMC Pediatrics.

David Weisbrod

April 14, 2009

Steve: how sad I am to lose you. I will remember you always as the bright, fun loving figure from my youth who taught me so much. How sorry I am that we did not share more time together after our graduation. You lived a good life and added hope to those whom you served in your work. You will be missed.
David Weisbrod

John Gross

April 14, 2009

Steve was a fraternity brother at Cornell. There simply was few finer friends I had during the turbulent 60's then Steve. Knowing Steve, I am certain that all of the children he treated will remember him with great fondness. As Jeff Parmet noted in his condolence message, Steve will always be with Cornell friends and fraternity brothers.

John Gross

April 14, 2009

please accept our deepest sympathies.........lyn and jeff parker

Jeff Parmet

April 14, 2009

Steve was one of my college roommates at Cornell. We had many good times during his 'younger' years. The first time I met Steve was as a freshman in 1964 on the squash courts. He beat me (badly) and we became instant friends. We went through the 60s together, in all their crazy glory. Those memories will never leave me. While I hadn't seen or talked with Steve in a number of years, he was always with me and I will miss him terribly. Steve, you are going for a 78 point ride (only a few others will know what this inside joke means). Rest in peace.

Lillian Eichorn

April 14, 2009

Steve was a very special person who will be missed by all who knew and loved him at BMC. The thoughts and prayers of all here are with you and your family.

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