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DUFFY, John J.
May 19, 1939-Jan. 23, 2013
Born in The Bronx, New York, the son of Felix and Nora Duffy and the loving husband of Eileen (Heron), John has found his eternal rest after a long struggle with melanoma. In love with his life and his work, he was until recently still to be found at his office at DLA Piper LLP (US) where he specialized in commercial real estate leasing. Previous to DLA Piper, he was a partner at Pillsbury Madison & Sutro. He is survived by his stepson, Morgan Alexander of Casa Grande, AZ; his brothers Edward (Barbara) of Wauwatosa, WI and Patrick (Brigid) of Peekskilll, NY; and his nephews and nieces: Lt. Col. Kevin Duffy, USMC of Carlsbad, CA, Jack of Somers, NY, Patrick of Mt. Kisco. NY, Joshua of West Allis, WI, Benjamin of Minneapolis, MN, Deirdre Benedict of San Leandro, CA, and Katherine and Nora of Wauwatosa, WI. Immediately after receiving his law degree from N.Y.U., John moved to Los Angeles and began his forty-year career as an attorney. Previously, he had earned a Bachelor's from St. Joseph's in Yonkers, NY, and a Licentiate in Sacred Theology from the Pontifical Gregorian University in Rome, and from there he returned to the Bronx and earned a Master's at Manhattan College. John's colleagues at DLA Piper expressed their sorrow at his passing with a heart-felt appreciation which read in part, "John earned a reputation of being one of the finest real estate lawyers in California." His strong intellect and passion for the law was tempered by the street smarts and instincts he gained growing up in the Bronx. As the son of an Irish bar and restaurant owner, he had a wonderful insight into the nature of people. Those who knew John could only smile thinking of him, as a young man, selling beer at Yankee Stadium. Living in the Bronx may also account for his great love of Hawaii, being in the sun and on the beach instead of the snow and slush of New York. "Few lawyers in California could match John Duffy's skills as a lawyer; all would agree that there was no better person than John." He did not swear, was a devoted husband to Eileen (as John said, "the love of my life"), and could protect his clients without raising his voice, relying instead on logic and appealing to the other side's sense of fairness. Each time a deal was concluded, John's client, the other side's lawyer, and the other side had very positive feelings toward John as he established a framework for the transaction to proceed on a win-win basis. Those of us who had the privilege of working with John cannot recall him ever speaking negatively of others. He was also a wonderful mentor of young lawyers, instilling intellectual and ethical rigor through his own dedication to the law. "Simply put, John was an elegant and decent human being with a generous spirit who was, and will remain, cherished by his clients and adored by his partners and co-workers. He, and the twinkle in his eye, will be missed by all." A scrappy guard on the basketball court, a genial bon vivant and a disciplined runner of a New York City Marathon, John became an avid Lakers fan but in baseball never lost his love for the Yankees and found his West Coast Rockaway in Manhattan Beach.
Viewing from 12PM to 4PM, with a Memorial Service dedicated for the final hour, will be held at the White & Day Mortuary, 3215 Sepulveda Boulevard, Manhattan Beach, CA., on Saturday, Jan. 26, 2013. A New York Memorial Service will be held at a later date. In lieu of flowers, please send donations to Sacred Heart School, 1248 Nelson Avenue, Bronx, NY 10452 or the John Wayne Cancer Institute, 2200 Santa Monica Boulevard, Santa Monica, CA. 90404. Go to www.lafuneral.com to send the family messages, share memories and to obtain directions to the service. White and Day Mortuary - Manhattan Beach 310-792-7575

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Published by Los Angeles Times on Jan. 25, 2013.

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Andrew Clarke

January 19, 2021

Sorry I never got a chance to say goodbye cousin Johnny.

January 19, 2020

I considered John my best friend for 40 years. He was my Best Man at my wedding and I had the honor of being his best man at his wedding to Eileen.

To this day and every day, I miss him. He accepted me for who I was without being judgemental. Our greatest joy was reminiscing about the street games we played on the streets of New York.

John, my continued love to you.

Ed Caprielian

Andrew Clarke

February 18, 2013

My Grandma Brigid- and Felix- Johnny's dad- were first cousins- but were quite close. Some of my favorite childhood memories are of spending time in Rockaway Beach in Queens with my grandparents, and Felix and Nora. When Johnny came to visit- it was always a special wonderful event. I remember one summer he was there quite a bit- and took me on the boardwalk to buy ice cream a few nights. I know now it was the summer he had made a very difficult decision in his life. My best wishes and prayers for all of his family. I will always have such great memories of him- though I wish I had done a better job of staying in touch as I got older.

February 3, 2013

I was a member of SAC for two years and had close contact with John. He was a very gentle, loving individual who gave great guidance to a high school student who looked up to him. I will miss him.
Bill Toscani

February 3, 2013

John Duffy was my highschool english teacher in 1965/66. He also was the came up with the idea of a Student Athletic Council at Spellman HS. I was a part of the illustrious group for three years. We learned a lot and we were encouraged, trusted and supported by John. I also remember many trips to Jones Beach with John and the Spellman gang. We kept in contact with each other all these years. I am so glad for that. I am a priest today in part due to the influence of John Duffy. God bless him as I am sure he has.
Fr. Jack Arlotta

Joe Bellacero

February 2, 2013

My wife , Chris, and I were members of the Student Athletic Council, which John moderated when he was a teacher at Cardinal Spellman High School. We are much indebted to his kindness and generosity. He did not especially love the teaching orifession but he was wonderful to students. Chris and I are grateful that we had the chance to have dinner with him and do some catching up not that long ago. He will live in our hearts and memories. We know what a hole his loss leaves in the lives of all who knew him.

fjohn reinke (mc1968)

January 27, 2013

The Manhattan College alumni community shares the grief, and is now praying for our fellow alumni and the family at this time. The Alumni Office has been informed. As well as the Jasper Jottings community that I personally can reach. We are all a little poorer now. "No man is an island, entire of itself ... any man's death diminishes me". We are sorry for your loss.

Andrew Savarese

January 26, 2013

I was in school with John and remember him as an unassuming, brilliant,easy going generous guy. I sure he's fixing what ever is wrong with heaven.

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Patrick Duffy

January 25, 2013

A legend and an idol who I looked up to in every way. It was like Christmas when he visited our house in NY when I was younger and always looked forward to visiting him in Manhattan Beach. He will be greatly missed and Heaven is lucky to have him. Watch over us Uncle Johnny. Till we meet again.

John Manning

January 25, 2013

I was a classmate of John during our Cathedral High School and St. Joseph's Collage days. We sold beer at Yankee Stadium and played on the baskerball and football teams. I lived in the South Bronx with him. I kidded him that I lived in the tougher neighborhood, a few parishes over. i always enjoyed his company and friendship.
May God bless his family and friends.

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