Marjorie Kowalski Cole, age 56, died December 4, 2009 at Fairbanks Memorial Hospital. She was born July 20, 1953 in Boston, the fifth of five children to Drs. Henry John Kowalski and Martha Gray Wilson Kowalski, both of whom preceded her in death.
Other than a few years Outside, Marjorie made her home in Alaska since 1966, when her widowed mother moved the family from Seattle. She earned a BA and an MA in English from the University of Alaska Fairbanks, and an MLS in Library Science from the University of Washington.
She married Terrence Cole in 1977 and their son, Henry, was born in 1983. Their second son, Desmond, was born in 1991. She and Terrence divorced in 1997.
Marjorie married Pat Lambert, the love of her life, in July 2000.
She was a librarian at the Fish and Wildlife Library and the Alaska State Resources Library, both in Anchorage, and later at the Elmer E. Rasmuson library at UAF and the Noel Wien Public Library in Fairbanks. For a time she also was an instructor at UAF, teaching library science and English. She retired in 1999 to focus on writing.
She was a prodigious writer and was especially productive in the final decade of her life. Marjorie was active with a Fairbanks writers group, The Writer's League. Her literary efforts were recognized here and abroad, and she received numerous awards and prizes for her work. Writing poetry and short stories was a lifelong passion. The family fondly remembers her writing her first short story when she was 8. Her novel "Correcting the Landscape" won the 2004 Bellwether Prize, which honors socially and politically engaged fiction. The book was published by Harper Collins in 2006. A second novel, "A Spell on the Water," will be published posthumously as will a poetry collection "Inside, Outside, Morningside." More poetry will be appearing shortly in literary journals. Marjorie's poetry, essays, short stories and travel articles have appeared in the Los Angeles Times, Commonweal and the National Catholic Reporter, among others. Marjorie was a voracious reader, frequently reading a book a day.
Marjorie had a strong sense of the natural world. Her writing reflects her deep passion for nature, the outdoors and the environment. She spent much of her childhood hiking and camping across the Pacific Northwest, and she had a special fondness for Kalaloch Beach, on Washington's Olympic Peninsula. Marjorie delighted in canoeing and kayaking, hiking and backpacking, and skiing to hot springs and remote mountain cabins. She spent countless hours tending her garden. She completed the Equinox Marathon several times. In 2002, with her husband, Pat, and son, Desmond, she walked 500 miles along the pilgrim path from France, across northern Spain to Santiago de Compostela. Two years later, she and Pat extended this trek by walking another hundred miles, from Santiago to Finisterre on the Spanish coast. She traveled widely in Europe, Asia and North America. Ireland and Turkey were two favored destinations, and she was drawn repeatedly to Torch Lake in Michigan.
Marjorie was a student of scripture and was halfway through a ministry education program. She was sustained by a deep and abiding faith. An advocate for reform within the Catholic Church, she was an active participant in the national organization Call to Action, frequently participating in its national convention, and she founded Call to Action Alaska. She also was a Benedictine Oblate and a member of St. Raphael Church.
Always engaged with her community, she worked with the Literacy Council of Alaska, the Northern Alaska Environmental Center, the Alaska Peace Center and the Fairbanks Arts Association, among others. She loved music and had learned to play the banjo with Robin Dale Ford.
Marjorie is survived by her husband John Patrick Lambert; her sons Henry Liam Cole and his wife Shawna Lee Sastamoinen, Desmond Eugene Rynn Cole; their father Terrence Michael Cole; her sisters Marie Kowalski Boudreaux, Karen Kowalski and her husband John Reisinger, Louise Kowalski and her husband Richard Stolzberg; her brother Henry Paul Kowalski and his wife Alice Marie Grette; her brothers-in-law Joseph Lambert, Robert Lambert, and Michael Lambert; her sister-in-law Ann Lambert Melfi; numerous nieces, nephews, cousins, aunts, and uncles; a large extended family, including the clan at Cozy Point; and many treasured friends. She was a hero of our time and she will be missed.
The family is grateful to Dr. Jacqueline Cox and staff at the Fairbanks Cancer Treatment Center for their competent care and many kindnesses.
A Mass of Resurrection, combined with remembrances of Marjorie and followed by a reception, will be held at St. Raphael Church in Fairbanks, at the intersection of Hagelbarger and the Old Steese, on Tuesday, December 8, at 7:30 p.m. All are invited. The celebrant will be Fr. Pat Berquist, assisted by co-celebrant Fr. Tim Sander. Donations in Marjorie's memory can be made to the Literacy Council of Alaska, the Northern Alaska Environmental Center, the Fairbanks Arts Association or Call to Action.
Her family can be reached at PO Box 114, Ester, AK, 99725.
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
Sue Sherif
December 17, 2009
My sympathies to Marjorie's family.
Her lively commitment to social justice and her own special smile will live on in the hearts of many of us.
Jane Haigh
December 12, 2009
I was so stunned to hear of Marjorie's death, and sorry that I have been out of touch and hadn't been able to spend any time with her for the last too many years. But the memories I have are special, that she was always focused on the moment. And she sincerely believed in going for what is most important. My condolences and sympathies to Pat and Henry and Desmond. And thanks to Dermot for printing the piece she wrote for her mother.
Mary Kehrhahn-Stark
December 11, 2009
I will miss seeing Marjorie's hopeful face and listening to her wise words. I know in my heart that now she is truly free to do what she does best.
My deepest sympathies to her family.
Heather Lende
December 11, 2009
I was stunned to learn this, and very sad. I enjoyed two days in Fairbanks as Marjorie's guest, and so appreciated her take on all things literary and spiritual. We walked for miles on a snowy road in February and talked like old friends. What a gift she left us with her writing. My condolences to the family.
Wanda Chin
December 10, 2009
Marjorie and her mother Louise Kowalsky shared about a woman's life in Fairbanks for one of the museum's exhibitions. Marjorie could tell a story, with a twist of the unexpected and then make you laugh with hopefulness. We shared about raising boys and would catch up over at Dixon's bonfire--lit up to show her smile.
ANA MARIA & IRINA BROWN
December 10, 2009
Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.
ANA MARIA & IRINA BROWN
December 10, 2009
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help at this time.
December 8, 2009
I give thanks for Marjorie's friendship, her stubborn sense of what's right, and her amazing writing.
Her strong family and strong words--great legacies.
Peggy Shumaker
December 8, 2009
I give thanks for Marjorie's friendship, her stubborn sense of what's right, and her amazing writing.
Her strong family and strong words--great legacies.
LJ Evans
December 8, 2009
I was stunned to see the notice about Marjorie's funeral mass on the bulletin board at the Ester Post Office yesterday. I only knew her slightly, from attending a writing workshop she conducted a few years ago, but she made a great impression on me. I am very sorry to learn of her death.
Ronan Short
December 8, 2009
My condolences to all especially to Pat Lambert my occasional tennis partner-Ronan Short
Norma Bowkett
December 8, 2009
Our loving thoughts and prayers are with you.
God bless you every one.
Dave Drexler
December 8, 2009
My family and I wish to extend our sympathy to Marjorie's entire family. May God's love provide you with peace and comfort at this difficult time.
Dave, Rusty, and Will Drexler
Joseph Darnell
December 7, 2009
While it has been far too many years, very fond memories of a very special spirit.
Judy Plucinski
December 7, 2009
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Marjorie. I worked with her for many years at the Noel Wein Library and she was a pleasure to know. Being Polish we would talk some Polish and talk about traditions of the Polish people. She was a very special lady.
Ellen Moore
December 7, 2009
I wish I could be at the service in Fairbanks tomorrow for Marjorie. I’m really glad I got a chance to meet with Marjorie and Pat last summer in Rochester. She was in the process of trying to find the right words for cancer– seems that there is a lot of inaccurate vocabulary: cancer spreads, certainly “progresses” is the wrong word. Though the circumstances were all wrong, the visit was great– it seemed that when I talked with Marjorie, it wasn’t just talk, but real connection. One doesn’t get that every day. I don’t.
I met Marjorie when I first moved to Fairbanks 1988. I was a new graduate student and always felt slightly embarrassed when I saw after my inattentive group of freshmen comp students received a library tour from her. About five years later, we were in a writers workshop together, led by Naomi Shihab Nye. I learned then what I hadn’t realized before, not only was this librarian a writer, but she knew all about first semester teaching experiences. We had a lot in common.
As we were getting to know each other, Marjorie’s mother was dying and Marjorie’s life was changing. I didn’t know her well before this time, but the Marjorie I got to know was someone who wanted to focus on the things that were most important to her. She quit the library and wrote. She went hiking and picked blueberries. She was an activist in causes that were important to her. She read. She didn’t drink. She spent time with her boys. She fell in love with Pat. I remember hiking the trail up Angel Rocks and then over to the Hotsprings with her and Desmond and Henry and she told me that it was important to her that she went hiking with her sons, because those were some of her favorite memories of her own mother, who took her kids hiking.
She loved trees and wrote about them and campaigned for them. When my daughter was born she gave her a book about trees. My daughter is now three and loves trees and hiking. I am beginning to understand some things about wanting to impress upon one’s children the value of a good walk in the woods and hills.
We are so lucky there are two more books by Marjorie on the way. I checked the Fairbanks Arts Association web site this morning and was pleased to see that people still gather at the Gold Dredge to read poetry in April. I was thinking that perhaps the name could be expanded to be the Marjorie Cole Memorial Gold Dredge Poetry Reading. And then I think she’d hate that, but she deserves the tribute. It’s such a Marjorie event, literary with an environmentalist twist and a bit oddball and beautiful and just when you think no one is going to come, people come regardless and there is always a fresh new voice in the audience. One year the read-a-long poem was “Song of the Open Road” by Walt Whitman. Before the event she pointed out that it would make a great poem for a wedding, especially the ending. She wasn’t engaged to Pat yet, but was thinking about it. I hadn’t met my husband yet. She didn’t use the poem in her wedding, but I used it in mine. She was there and she cried and she laughed at herself for crying.
Joyce Mann
December 7, 2009
Our deepest sympathy to Marjorie's family. My husband and I share fond memories of Marjorie from our university days in Fairbanks. With much love, Joyce Mann and Kurt Pfitzer
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