Prudence Wheeldon CRAIB

Prudence Wheeldon CRAIB obituary

Prudence Wheeldon CRAIB

Prudence CRAIB Obituary

Published by Ottawa Citizen from Feb. 19 to Feb. 20, 2016.
CRAIB, Prudence Wheeldon
Died on February 13, 2016, in the company of and supported by her beloved spouse of 37 years, Patricia Hill, her son Brian Craib Wheeldon (June), her daughters Laura Hill and Barbara Hill, and granddaughter Jenna Hill-Murphy. Lifelong friends Maureen Fraser and Sally Wills also provided loving support during the year long challenges posed by myelodysplasia (cancer of the bone marrow). Prue is also survived by her dear brother Philip (Rose) who live in South Africa. Prue was born in 1932 in South Africa to loving and liberal parents. She studied Social Anthropology at the University of Cape Town, and taught this discipline at the University College of Rhodesia and Nyasaland in Harare for a decade before immigrating to Canada in 1967. Thereafter she taught Sociology at Simon Fraser University in BC and Trent University in Ontario, in the mature student sections of these universities whenever possible. In her final professional decade, she worked on management training in the halcyon days of BNR and Nortel. After retirement, she volunteered for a sustained period in the early 2000's at the First Unitarian Congregation in Ottawa, and more recently with the LGBT Ottawa Senior Pride Network. She was a voracious reader and pursued a rich set of crafts and arts over her lifetime, including clothing design, quilting, stained glass, and calligraphy, all at which she excelled. In the last five years, Prue loved her art lessons with Val Roos and was an ardent painter. Prue and Pat created a blended family when they joined forces in 1978 and the family remains strong and lovingly supportive, especially in the final period of Prue's life. The family wishes to acknowledge with profound gratitude the health services proved by Dr. M Sabloff and Leah of the Ottawa General Hematology Department, and Dr. Cross, Dr. Bright and their colleagues at the Ottawa Palliative Care Network. She was given respectful and compassionate care by the wonderful staff of May Court Hospice in her final days, for which we are also deeply grateful. In lieu of flowers, the family would appreciate contributions to Hospice Care Ottawa - May Court Hospice, 114 Cameron Ave. Ottawa Ontario K1S 0X1. She will be sorely missed. There will be a Celebration of Life on Friday, April 22, 2016 at 11:00 a.m. at First Unitarian Congregation of Ottawa, 30 Cleary Ave, Ottawa.

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April 22, 2016

Jan Davis posted to the memorial.

February 23, 2016

Katherine Maas posted to the memorial.

February 21, 2016

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Jan Davis

April 22, 2016

To Pat and families-
Our sympathies for your loss. Prudence was a voice for the voiceless in the face of human rights for all, and made such an impact on so many lives.

--we miss her; on behalf of the staff and friends at Churchill

Katherine Maas

February 23, 2016

Dear Pat,

Roberta and I were greatly saddened to learn today of Prue's death. Please accept our sincere condolences with apologies for not sending you a hardcopy card, but I'm not sure we have your correct address any longer.

Prue has been an iconic presence in my life, ever since I met her. She was one of the most extraordinarily self-aware and other-aware people I have ever known. She was such a gentle and kind soul, even (and perhaps especially) when confronting others with truths about themselves that might have been hard to hear.

Since leaving Ottawa, even when I no longer saw her on a regular basis, she remained so present for me. I can't tell you how often I channeled her during difficult conversations -- I used to ask myself "What would Prue say in this situation?" In those moments, she helped me be a better human being.

Roberta and I have always been inspired by your relationship, too. It's not always easy being in a committed relationship, even when you love each other deeply. Even harder in a same-sex relationship, where the support from the outer world isn't always there. Somehow just knowing that you two DID it so well made it easier for us, too.

Knowing she is gone leaves a big hole in my psyche, but I am also so grateful to have known her, and to have known you both.

I know it's a cliche, especially given how far away we are geographically, but if there is anything we can do, please let us know. If you ever want to come to Victoria, we would love to have you stay with us.

Love, Katherine & Roberta
[email protected] [email protected]
110-151 St. Andrews St., Victoria V8V 2M9

Martha Ralph

February 21, 2016

Pat, I am so sorry. Although I knew Prue before we found ourselves in the same group at BNR, it was in working with her that I came to understand her best. I remember so well trying to learn to do what she did and being in complete awe of her poise, self-confidence, infinite curiosity and intellectual fearlessness. There were times, both professional and personal, when she took me under her wing. That was a very safe place to be, under Prue's wing. Sending you my love.

Lori and John Victor & van Mossel

February 21, 2016

Dear Pat, We are saddened to read that Prue has passed away. We have so many warm memories of sharing a house with both of you on Third Ave. We know the strong, loving bond you had with each other and it is difficult to imagine she is not here as part of your union, though your memories will live on. We were very happy to read about Prue's full life, a model for us all! Please know we are thinking of you at this difficult time. Warm regards. Lori and John

Donna Wiegand

February 20, 2016

Such sad news. I knew Prue from the Nortel days. She was a wonderful person. I have many warm memories of working with her. My condolences to the family.

February 20, 2016

Sending you my love Pat, Brian and family! I am so saddened by this news! She will be missed. Prue was a loving, and very bright woman ahead of her time! I have such fond memories of our days at Trent! With love from Liz & Mike O'Dwyer. p.s. I plan to attend the Celebration of her life in April with Mom and Catherine! xo

Katherine Gunn

February 19, 2016

Any time I spent with Prue was a time to learn, and I value those memories of her wisdom and compassion greatly. Please accept my thoughts and condolences to you all.

February 19, 2016

So sorry to hear this, Pat. Sending warmest wishes your way.

Jane Arbique

Pat Webb

February 19, 2016

Prue's wisdom, support and subtle sense of humour during our time together in "the halcyon days of BNR and Nortel" are memorable all these years later. Deep sympathies to Pat and the family.

February 19, 2016

My sincere condolences on your loss, Pat, Jenna and family. Prue was a classy, compassionate lady I am glad to have known through First Unitarian.

Nicky Duenkel

February 19, 2016

Sending loving energy to help you all through this transition.

Diana Romero

February 19, 2016

My deepest sympathies for you lost.

February 19, 2016

To dear Pat and Family,
We share in your grief and will miss Prue. Thinking of you and sending our love.
Jen Brennan, on behalf of the staff at First Unitarian Ottawa

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