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CAROLE DARR Obituary

CAROLE DARR DECEMBER 10, 1942 - JUNE 7, 2013 Carole died and went onto her next adventure on June 7, 2013 after conquering multiple cancers with courage, grace and gallows humor. She was preceeded in death by her beloved parents, Aud and Emma Darr; her sweet sister, Gayle; and her feisty aunt, Anna Sandoval. She is survived by several wonderful cousins. Carole was a Santa Fe native, a graduate of Santa Fe High, UNM and Northwestern University in Evanston, IL. She was married for nine years to Patrick Isles Murray. Carole described herself as "so well-rounded she wasn't pointed in any direction" so advertising was a perfect career choice for her. She enjoyed 35 successful years selling you things you didn't know you needed. Her career culminated with her being chosen Chicago's Ad Woman of The Year. She returned to Santa Fe in 1999 to care for her family. Carole loved travel and adventure and during her Chicago years, she became an accomplished sailor and scuba diver. Diving took her to distant depths around the globe, providing wonderful memories. She once had a meaningful relationship with a 400 lb. grouper in the Red Sea where she fed him hardboiled eggs. One dawn morning she witnessed an incredible ballet of 125 dolphins with their arching bodies silhouetted onto the hot copper-colored sea. Another favorite was a brow massage she gave to a very appreciative manatee in a Florida lake. More than anything else, Carole loved to laugh and share that laughter with her many friends. Carole was active in civic issues and was an avid supporter and lover of wildlife. She was also a superb writer, photographer, dancer, decent carpenter but horrible cook. She loved a great bargain and was generous to a fault with her friends and would go to great lengths to help someone she loved. In turn she was beloved by many friends around the country and world. The last love of her life was Zelda, her orange Tabby, who gave great back rubs. Carole had great appreciation for Dr. Karen LaRusso and the terrific staff at Christus St. Vincent Cancer Center along with MD Anderson in Houston and Albuquerque. She was alos thankful for having so many friends who were such a great help during her long ordeal. Her special precious angel was lifelong friend, Patty Jordan Fletcher who toughed it out with her from beginning to end. At her request, there will be no funeral service but a celebration of her life at a later date. If you wish to be included, phone Patty at 505-995-8699 or 707-843-4573 to leave your contact information. Wherever Carole is now, rest assured she's finding something to laugh about. Everyone who knew Carole was gifted with her strength, her humor, her sharp mind, her zest for life and adventure and her love.

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Published by Santa Fe New Mexican from Jun. 11 to Jun. 13, 2013.

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E J Nozaki

June 5, 2024

I continue to think about you! You are such vivid memory. See you on the other side. Love EJ Nozaki.

Diane Norton

June 5, 2020

Carole was a very good friend of mine for many years. She was full of mischief and always loads of fun. Missed by so many. I'm sure she's up there in Heaven giving the Man what for!

Tricia Penn

June 5, 2019

Carole and I had birthdays were close in December. She and I met as Kappa Alpha Theta sorority members (from different universities) when KAT had its national meeting in New Mexico. We became immediate friends. She was very creative! Carole was also quite resourceful and had a pegboard in her garage where she hung every tool imaginable. Her sense of humor was one of her remarkable traits. Miss her deeply. Tricia Erazo Penn, Santa Fe, NM

I inherited Carole's 13-year-old cat, ZELDA. So, I think of Carole every day.

April 4, 2014

Carol (Balchunas) Sutter

April 3, 2014

Looked up my boss/friend/mentor's name and discovered this sadness! What an amazing woman I had the privilege to know, love and work with! I always wanted to be like her when I grew up! She taught and inspired me at Eicoff. She believed in me when I doubted myself. My heart breaks knowing the world is without her, but I know a star now shines brighter in the heavens. You, dearest Carole, will always remain in my heart and my memories! Thank you for everything!

Diana and Hani Khalil

September 25, 2013

So sad to hear this news. I got to know Carole on a Diving trip to the Red Sea in Egypt. We instantly became friends and she was an awesome gal, smart, funny, classy and great to be around. We often said we would meet up again but our lives took off in different directions and we were always a world apart but our souls remained close.
God bless you darling girl,
With love forever, Diane and Hani Khalil

Susan Cohen

July 16, 2013

I worked with Carole for 13 years in Chicago. She was like the sister I never had. I'll miss her greatly.

Barbara

July 5, 2013

Became friends with Carole Soph yr of HS . . . Oh, the fun we had! So much that we remained connected thru the yrs and always got together when I visited Santa Fe. I am blessed to have spent a week with Carole and Patty just a few weeks before she passed in beautiful S.C. As ill as she was. . . . She wanted another trip . . . Love you, funny, beautiful friend.

June 22, 2013

Carole, I wish I had taken the time to REALLY know you. Wish we could have gotten together when we both lived in Chi town. Adele Croucher-Petersen Escanaba MI

John David Stafford

June 18, 2013

Just came across a festive photo of Carole and I with friends, at Christmas 2012.

June 17, 2013

Carole,
How could anyone ever forget your wonderful sense of humor? I loved your funny emails. It was wonderful reconnecting after so many years. So happy we could share a drink at La Fonda last time I was home. Kathy Duran Elmore

June 15, 2013

My condolences to the Darr family. May you find comfort from God's word recorded at Ecclesiastes 9:5, 10 regarding the loss of your loved one.

Faith Thurmond

June 14, 2013

Carole was always a great friend to me, she was so strong and so honest, it warmed my heart to spend time with her. Her light will burn forever in my heart....

Abigail Davidson

June 13, 2013

Carole, You funny valentine. I've never laughed as hard as when reading your emails , particularly your medical updates. Yes, laughing. Thank you for always being such a champion and encouraging me. Your generosity was incredible. I loved the soaps and gifts you would drop by my office. Thanks for being you and for always staying in touch. May your garden be bountiful where you are now. love, Abigail

Dena Gordon

June 13, 2013

How fortunate I am to have had Carole in my life. We shared laughter as well as tears for over 37 wonderful, joyful years. She will always be in my heart.

Cam Gray

June 13, 2013

Carole came back into my life three years ago. We picked up right where we left off 50 years previously at Santa Fe High School. We shared memories, laughs, a few tears and special moments during her last visit to San Diego. She was my friend. Go rest high on that mountain girl.

Tricia Penn

June 13, 2013

Carole~ I met you in Santa Fe, loved your garden, and you planted mine. As I told you, my garden will be one of your legacies. Also, as of today, I will be taking care of your precious companion, Zelda. She will join my two cats, Karma and Spirit, both of which you named. What a life you led. Stories will continue to be told amongst your surviving friends who were blessed with your wisdom and humor. Love you, friend, fellow Sagitarrian, and Kappa Alpha Theta sister.

June 12, 2013

We were room mates when we first moved to Chicago in 1964. You had the front and I had the back of a very long Chicago brown stone. We had a blast both getting jobs in advertising. I was in the art department at Compton and you copy department of Leo Barnett. We had dreams of conquering the world of advertising. You did Carole I started having many children. But, those were fabulous memories for me. Marilyn Heaton

Stephen Earnest

June 11, 2013

so long amiga...we were lucky you were in our lives...

Dave Margulies (CFO, Eicoff), David Dunn, Dave Ward and Carole in Brazil

David Dunn

June 11, 2013

Carole and I shot commercials all over the world and it was always so much fun to work with her! I'll never forget when she came to LA to shoot her first big production with Patti Page! That was almost 50 years ago and we were close friends ever since. Carole, I'm going to miss your funny emails so much! My heart is so heavy. Love always, David Dunn

June 11, 2013

Dear Carole, my life long friend, you will always be one of my favorite people. Oh, the memories! con carino, Phyllis

Ginger Dunn Bledsoe

June 11, 2013

Carole was a great friend to my brother, David Dunn of Las Vegas, and although I didn't know her my life was richer as my brother shared her hilarious emails with me...especially when I was down in the dumps. What a trooper...I am sure her parents are hugging her tight! Ginger Dunn Bledsoe

June 11, 2013

A truly special and wonderful friend. You will be missed by so many. Diane (Rountree) Norton

Peggy J. Gaddis

June 11, 2013

As an alumna of Northwestern University, I would like to extend my heartfelt condolences to the family of Carole Darr, for your loss, and as you grieve, may God who is the hearer of prayer as spoken of at Psalm 65:2 help you to endure this trying time and grant you peace.

June 11, 2013

A very special person and a great and fun friend. I will remember her always. Diane (Rountree) Norton

Jane

June 11, 2013

Carole's light will never go out. We will continue to smile and laugh from our memories of a very special person.

Terry O'Sullivan

June 11, 2013

I'm sitting in an office that Carole occupied for many years. It was where she interviewed me for a job, and her questions didn't seem to be as pertinent to the job as they were to life, which is why she was so good at what she did. She was interested in people. A western woman, who spent many years in the Midwest. She embraced the hardworking nature of Chicago, while holding onto the independence and toughness of her beloved Santa Fe. The world is slightly less interesting today. Let the party begin...wherever you are CD.

eddie saiz

June 11, 2013

God Bless You Carole, another great SFHS 1960 graduate.
Ed Saiz SFHS 1960 Auburn, Ca.

June 11, 2013

Me too! I always enjoyed laughing with Carole, and enjoying all her stories and of course, never her cooking (although appetizers were good). Hugs to Patty! Laine Renfro

Margie

June 11, 2013

You were loved by so many my dear friend.

June 11, 2013

Oh my dear, dear sweet friend. I miss you so much and know that wherever you are, you're making them laugh. You added so much to my life.
Margie

Carole and I putting on the dog.

June 11, 2013

I really, really miss Carole already. I loved making her laugh. And she loved laughing.
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