KEVIN EBERLY Memoriam
This obituary was originally published in the Richmond Times-Dispatch.
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Elaine Ebeely
December 13, 2024
Friday the 13th this year.
The days go by, they just aren't ever the same.
Love you.
Miss you.
Mama
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2024
I miss your hugs, your smiles and laughter, your help, even the arguments. I miss every single thing of having you with us on this earth. 21 years ago you left us for your Heavenly home --- sometimes it seems a lifetime ago and other times just moments. Love you always, Mama
April 13, 2023
1213. I see it most days. A lot of times twice a day. Whenever I do, I say, “Hi Kevin.” Your presence was pure joy, excitement, and love. Your passing was heartbreak, despair, and sadness, that continues to this day. I often wonder what life would have been like if you had stayed behind with us. I remember my mom saying she had a dream of us speaking about our experience and making a difference. I was selfishly so mad at her for that hope when I received the call that you had passed. I believe you gifted me with the friendship of your closest people that got me through the first few insufferable years. I would have never made it without them. I thank you more than you know for sending them my way. I know it had to be you. You altered my life in so many ways. I am better for knowing you. I can’t wait to see you again. I love you, always. ♥
Elaine Eberly
August 2, 2022
So today marks your 19th Anniversary. Nineteen years without you, how can that be? Sometimes it seems like a hundred years while other times the loss is so raw it seems like yesterday. While I have found peace with knowing you are in your Heavenly home, I battle anger sometimes when the hole in my heart engulfs me. Not having you here is sometimes so overwhelming. We need you, your father, me, your brother, Frankie. The twins would so benefit from having their uncle here with them. But it was not meant to be. Our days are different, will always be different. We love you, miss you, crave another touch. You had the best hugs. Know you are always in our hearts and thoughts. Love you, Kevin.
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Elaine Eberly
December 13, 2021
It is nearing the end of your earthly birthday, 2021. So many have contacted us with remembrances of you. I was able to "function" today, not always an easy feat. I accept your loss though still ache for your presence. I catch myself sometimes wondering how different life would be if you were still here. Many, but especially Daddy, Frankie and I would likely be leading different lives. The twins would have an uncle to be their special friend and I truly believe their lives would have been enriched by your influence. Day by day, we move forward. Sometimes our steps stretch to a normal pace, sometimes our gait is unsure and faulty. But Faith sees us through and the Promise sustains us. Till we see you again ---till I feel that powerful hug, see that calming smile ---I will always love you and miss you with an ache in my whole being. Love you, Kevin. Mama
Shawnda Black
March 22, 2021
Thinking about you heavy Kevin. Kevin you left on my Birthday August 2nd. I was angry and brokenhearted when I got the news.
I miss sitting in the staircase at Tobacco Company and having these incredible conversations about what we felt regarding our emotions and our life. The conversations made the hair on my body stand up. In hindsight the conversations we shared really hit hard to this day. I hope you can see that Iam finally happy even though I said it would never be possible for me. I live in Accra Ghana now. I will plant a beautiful flower in my yard for you. I love you so much. You were my crazy Dr. Phil and I was your deranged Iyanla. I love you so much sweetheart I miss you. Love,Shawnda
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2020
As we approach yet another anniversary, I continue to struggle with you not being here. Our lives would be fuller, easier. Yet God had other plans and we believe we will see you again. Sometimes I
can actually feel you, not just your presence, but your touch. Imagination? Or another of God's gifts? Seventeen years. Unimaginable. We love you, miss you.
Elaine Eberly
December 13, 2019
December 13, 1977 to August 2, 2003
Kevin, we needed you longer, need you now. Life would be so different if we were still spending moments with you. But God has a plan for all of us and I treasure the time I had with you.
Today Matthew wrestles at Ironman in Ohio, Frankie will be in the stands watching and I know you will be watching, too.
Whisper in his ear, give him some added confidence, keep him safe.
Watch out Kirsten, too.
We love you, always will. Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 12, 2018
It's your birthday. Guessing all the wonders of Heaven overshadows anything earthly, but for us it's a time for remembering, for smiles and even after all these years, tears. Love will never diminish.
Though we love Frankie as always, and the twins, too, we have a hole in our hearts that will never heal.
Love you always.
Mama
Elaine Eberly
August 2, 2018
Kevin, its fifteen years today. Fifteen! How is that possible? I often wonder how different things would be if you were still here. We miss you so much, love you unconditionally. The memories
cheer us, your friends give us companionship, our family embraces us. Faith gives us life and hope.
You must be living the dream in heaven. I sense you with me sometimes. Those are treasured moments.
Love always,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
March 31, 2018
Easter must be a joyous time in Heaven.
We miss you every day, love you deeply. Miss so much, especially the hugs and big ol' smile.
Elaine Eberly
December 12, 2017
Hard to believe yet birthday is here.
Every day stirs memories, questions, wonder of what might have been as the emotions continue to overwhelm.
This would have been your 40th birthday! Words elude me tonight, but I talk to you often so you may be enjoying the quiet. We miss you beyond description, love you always.
Matthew went with me today to give you balloons. The twins would have benefited from having you here, keep a watchful eye out for them.
Happy birthday, Kevin.
Mama
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2017
Tomorrow, August 2 marks your 14th heavenly birthday. I still wonder what it's like for you there, envious at times because you are experiencing the glories of Heaven while we continue with our daily toils on earth. Then the imagination seeks bigger answers - what would things be like if you were still here with us? Married? Children?
So many questions. Our love for you has not diminished, but our worry is gone. My prayers no longer ask God to keep you safe, but rather for Him to wrap you in His arms. Frankie grows older, the twins who share your name or initials will soon be 14! Certainly you watch them and hopefully can keep them safe. Give your big brother a hand if you can, too. Love, love, love.
Mama
Frankie and Kevin, 1984
Elaine Eberly
December 15, 2016
Well, you must be up to your old tricks again Kevin.
I made an entry here on your birthday with a message and a picture, but it's not here!
My technological skills are questionable, however, this is something I've successfully completed before so I'm baffled.
Somehow I am sure you know that I speak to you often and on occasion I feel your presence, your message and what a joy those precious times can be. Just a reminder of how much we love you, how deeply we miss you. Guess I will always wonder about all the what ifs.
This was the first time you've had Laura there on your birthday. Hope y'all behaved!
Love, love, love,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 14, 2015
Kevin,
I've written two entries to you wish you a Happy Birthday today and have lost both -- are you playing tricks on me?
It's been a day of reflection and remembrance with many friends and family contacting us on your birthday.
We miss you everyday, our love hasn't diminished. We think of you often.
Since I tried twice to tell you so many things today, and those entries were wiped away, I am reminded of you telling me how I didn't need to tell you things over and over! So I wish you a happy birthday and will leave it at that.
Love you always,
Mama
Claude (Chuck) Duncan
November 29, 2015
I dream of you often "skeezle"..I'm very thankful for having known you..an for all the fun times..all the times we laughed till it hurt...I remember sleeping over ..watching George Carlin downstairs.. trying not to wake your parents.. I told your mom about the time you took the 'vette out while they were in San Antonio.. all the boxes an whatnot you had to move to get it out...an put back in the exact same spot to avoid getting caught... classic Kevin!..I think of our boxing matches....the rules were.. only the left hand to the head...but when we'd cover up an put our heads down... I distinctly remember feeling SEVERAL rights!..but like you said...don't put your head down.. keep your eyes open... keep your head up that's great life advice..an that's how I remember you.. head up..meeting all challenges.. throwing lefts.and rights...miss you K.M.E..I love you brother
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2015
August 2, 2003 - a day I never imagined would happen, a day that forever changed us all. This day marks your heavenly anniversary and even with the passage of time, we still miss you, will always love you, and will forever wish we could have had more time with you. We have wonderful memories that soften the hurt, your friends continue to remember you and share stories with us. We finally built our new house whose house number reflects your birthdate--1213. Oh and I often wish you were here to help me with the heavy moving! But then I know in a way you are here with me and I find comfort in knowing you always will be.
Love you always,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 13, 2014
Happy birthday, Kevin!!
As each year passes I envision what might have been had you continued your life here with us. Would you be married? Would you have children? But you are not here and imagination only goes so far so I turn to my faith and know you are in a glorious place. I easily picture your face with that endearing smile. I miss your bear hugs, your comments on my choice of clothing, your strong muscles that helped us and that tall reach that could get me anything off the tallest shelf. I miss your laughter, your bantering with your father and brother, all your cousins and friends. I miss every little part of you, even the arguments and disagreements.
Your father and I have undertaken the project of building a house. You can't imagine how many times our thoughts included you. I often still feel your presence, sometimes so strong I reach out thinking I can actually touch you.
Matthew told me that he and Frankie often watch your wrestling tapes. Matthew is in awe of his Uncle Kevin and works hard with Frankie as his wrestling coach. At first it was difficult to be in the gym at a wrestling tournament without you, but I see Frankie working with Matthew just like he did with you. You, Frankie and Matthew, along with Warner would have made an awesome presence. Matthew has seen some success and accepts victory in his quiet way just like you did. Kirsten talks of you, too, and says she misses you. They are both adorable, sweet children with their individual personalities but with a bond so very strong.
We will miss you and Arnold at our family Christmas party, but we all acknowledge you both are still with us.
Happy birthday, Kevin! I love you, Mama.
August 2, 2014
I can remember the night, 11 years ago, like it was yesterday. That night, I lost a lot...we all did. That pain is such that I never want to experience it again, but I make it through, with the thought of you being in a better place. Matthew & Kirsten divert my thoughts so much, that I can now cope with things and accept what was meant to be. As wrestling was a big part of our life, it has become a part of my life again, after not being able to look at a mat for 10 years. Matthew has picked up where we left off and may take it to another level for us. I do still think about what it would be like, if you were here to see him on the mat, but I hope that you CAN see him, and if you can, I know you are grinning with delight at his progress. I am contemplating on whether or not to introduce him to our pre-match ritual, in front of the scorer's table.... On the other hand; sometimes when I look at Kirsten, I see some of you. Her hair, her smile, her approach to some things, her kindness to strangers, etc...
It's been a long road, Buddy. I like to think you are still traveling it with me, but I wish we could have a few more words to give me closure. We all leave a mark. I think you left one that people will remember.
Even though, in those last days, when I told you that I was sorry I was not a better brother and you told me I was a good one - I still think of many ways I could have been better! You knew how to make me feel good and give me the confidence to hold my head high. I will always battle with the idea that I could have and should have been better....I am roaming this earth with little purpose, other than to raise my kids now. Little focus, trivial goals, numb to some emotions, blank stares, lack of drive, and an empty spot that was once filled by you. We were always different and understood each other, even if we disagreed. The only thing different is that now I don't wake up from nightmares that something bad has happened to you....my sub-conscious worries that you would not be with me forever?...You were always on my mind. I felt I had to protect you for some reason. it was an ever looming cloud that followed me around and filled my mind. It was my duty. Even with my devotion to Matthew & Kirsten's protection, I feel there is a gap in my responsibilities, because you are not here for me to protect too.
I love you, man!..You know it.
August 1, 2014
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2014
Eleven years ago, our family and friends gathered together
at the hospital waiting and wondering ---yet all the while you were preparing for your road to discovery, to experience the promise God gave us all through the sacrifice of His Son. While we never for one moment wanted you to leave us, we accepted that it was God's will that would be done. As you celebrate your upcoming Heavenly birthday on August 2nd we continue to miss you, to want you here, but remain thankful for the years we had you and for the Promise that we will see you again.
Thinking of you, loving you --
Mama
Elaine1 Eberly
December 25, 2013
We can only imagine what your day was like in Heaven today --certainly full of jubilation and cheer. You are missed everyday. I long to see you again, to feel your strong arms and see that contagious smile once more other than in my memory. Merry Christmas, Kevin!
Love, Mama
December 14, 2013
Hey Kevin
I know you are still so silly,, I know you are dancing and having fun and making all the Angels laugh ....... Love You
Justin Green
December 13, 2013
I recall the excitement I felt as a coach the first time I taught Kevin the "Granby Roll" wrestling maneuver. He did it correctly having only seen it once...Amazing! I was extremely proud to see Kevin win the Central Regional Wrestling Tournament. Kevin always had that confidence (heart of a champion) evidenced by his smile and goodwill towards anyone he met...SALUTE!
Elaine Eberly
December 12, 2013
Dear Kevin,
December 13, 1977 -- You arrived to change our lives forever giving us smiles and laughter, joy and pride. Sometimes you would scare me so badly whether it was on the wrestling mat or when you missed curfew. Worries turned into wonder when you left us, I no longer worry about your health, safety or happiness as I know you are in the comfort of God's hands. Knowing that eases, but doesn't eradicate the pain of losing you, softens the emptiness of no longer having you here with us, and gives us hope of seeing you again. I just wonder if I will feel that strong hug ever again. I long for that-but your smile is still strong in my memory and for that I am grateful. Happy birthday on Friday the 13th!! (12-13-13)
Love forever,
Mama
Jimmy Taylor
August 4, 2013
Grandma Taylor died & was @ Nelson's when you were, Kevin. Both of you ascended to Heaven around the same time but your Earthly bodies were together in Blair Nelson's fine establishment.
Our families mingled some but were caught up, of course, in our own grief, our own families, etc. Your uncle, Sam, and some of our family spoke especially.
While you & Grandma aren't here with us anymore, I can bet, since our families had the connection that day but also the connection of being residents from the heart of beautiful downtown Varina, that Grandman Taylor took care of you then & I imagine may be keeping tabs on you . I'm sure she's had you first in line for her blackberry roll & her banana pudding...
Mayflower
August 3, 2013
You will always be loved Kev
Elaine Eberly
August 2, 2013
Kevin,
I wrote an entry yesterday for you, but it has not posted yet. Are you playing tricks on me? Sometimes something silly or strange happens and I wonder if it is you pulling one of your jokes!
Ten years ago you left us to go to your Heavenly home, leaving behind your aches and pains, stress and any sadness forever. Yet, it left us with a never-ending emptiness and deep sorrow. With only memories of you, we exist longing for your touch --those great big bear hugs, or the quick little hugs, your smile which always cheered me.
Kevin, we think of you every day, love you with every heartbeat.
This is your tenth heavenly birthday--seems like a hundred years ago since I last touched you, yet sometimes feels like just last month and I can't imagine that we have survived 10 years without you. Frankie is our rock, friends and family our support and we treasure each memory as if it were solid gold. I can see your face as you said good-bye to me, bringing both comfort and tears.
Love,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2013
Kevin Matthew Eberly passed away on Saturday, August 2, 2003. His physical strength was matched only by his kind heart that he displayed often. He took victory and defeat with honor and grace. Kevin looked forward with great anticipation to soon being the uncle of twins. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that you extend an unselfish act of kindness to a stranger ----
Writing your obituary was a difficult task, planning your funeral something I had never even imagined I would have to do.
Ten years ago tomorrow, you left us, sometimes a day seems like eternity, yet often it seems like just yesterday when we were last together. Friends and family were supportive, your friends overwhelmed us by sharing their love for you. As the years have passed, we still gain strength from those who loved and cared for you so much. I constantly wish you were here, but understand that God's decision was to take you and though I do not understand, I do not question His wisdom. As you celebrate your tenth heavenly birthday, I will endeavor to do a kind act to a stranger in your honor. I try everyday, but often fail.
Kevin, we needed you here, we still need you here. Frankie needs you, but you are gone and our hearts will remain forever broken. Kirsten and Matthew are such sweethearts, but they would have benefited so much from you being here with them. Care for them, protect them, guide them --I pray that God will grant us that wish. And I await the time when I can see you again and long for another strong hug and gentle smile from you.
Love,
Mama
April 22, 2013
Wishing you were closer,...
Frankie
Elaine Eberly
December 24, 2012
Merry Christmas, 2012
Kevin, holidays are not the same since you left us, though we know you are in a great place surrounded by other loved ones and all the Heavenly hosts. As we rejoice in the birth of Christ at this time of year, I can only imagine the celebration in Heaven. There are no words to tell you how our lives have changed. The emptiness, the ache will forever be there as we selfishly imagine what life would be like with you still here. Merry CHRISTmas to you, my baby, I picture you with that big smile on your face, but I crave one of your hugs. Love you forever, Mama
Adam Mistr
December 13, 2012
Happy Birthday Kevin. You are thought of often, and always have been. I frequently have fond memories of the trouble we caused and havoc raised....and usually we were able to talk our ways out of it. Some would call it a gift.
I miss you, my friend. More and more with every passing year. I too wonder, like your mom, where and who you'd be today. Still the protector of others and the strength of our group of friends and within your family.
Until we see each other again...
Adam
Elaine Eberly
December 12, 2012
Dearest Kevin,
It is 12-12-12 and tomorrow is your 35th earthly birthday. Often my mind wanders to how things would be if you were still here with us---would you have given me a daugther-in-law? would you have given us grandchildren so the twins would have little cousins? where would you be living--Kukymuth, still? Questions abound though I know there are no answers, at least not now anyway.
We need you, we miss you and love you.
We always will.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Mama
August 6, 2012
Now, when I talk to your friends, I don't get upset. I can actually have those conversations about the stupid things we did with a smile on my face.
I am glad others have stories about their time with you too. I just wish my children could have had some time with you. Keep an eye on them when I am not around. I do what I can do to keep them safe and secure. , We both know, I tend to fly off the handle when family or friends are in predicaments. I'm better than I used to be and still remember your words about forgiving people. I also still remember those couple of times I was able to protect you from some things and how I felt when you went away to college, where I could not be there to protect you. I am going through that with Matthew and Kirsten now. Worry is not a great feeling and sometimes my methods of protecting have been slightly aggressive, but it's my job now, and it was with you too. I just hope Matthew takes protecting Kirsten as serious as I did with you, but does a little better job of it.
Nine years,…..that's a long time. The hole never mends. It just stays empty and the void is never filled, but you get used to it. I just figured you would never leave me. I let the reigns loose for a few years and you did your exploring. I was glad you ventured back, closer to me and we were seeing each other almost daily, then THAT got taken from me……Guess the nightmares I used to have were just a message from above to prepare me for what was to come. Too bad I was too stupid to prepare.
Love you, Buddy…..
Frankie
Adam Mistr
August 2, 2012
So hard to believe it's been 9 years since I saw you last. Lots of things in my life remind me of you and all the memories we made.
I miss my best friend, and I know we will see each other again.
Until then...... Cheers, my friend.
May (Sours) Edwards
August 2, 2012
Forever in our Prayers
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2012
On the eve of your 9th anniversary in Heaven, I ache for you, your smile, your hugs, even your arguments! Kevin, I know God had a plan for you but I so miss having you here with us. We try not to be a burden to Frankie and certainly he misses you, too, for many reasons and one for sure is having you here to help deal with Daddy and I!! You would so enjoy Kirsten and Matthew and all the other little ones in the family and they all would benefit from knowing and loving you. Every day we think of you --sometimes with smiles, many times with tears but always with love. Mama
Elaine Eberly
May 12, 2012
Only a matter of hours before Mother's Day, 2012 and another day to reflect on the ones from the past when you and Frankie were both here with me. Frankie is a great father and a wonderful son who tries so hard to help us in so many ways. Arnie, too plays a special role in our lives and we love having Hudgins over. Today Kristie and Aaron gave me flowers for Mother's Day --so thoughful of them. JB and Stacy have invited us to their house tomorrow for lunch, so many people try to help us through these difficult days. I miss you still, guess I always will though I try hard to remember that you are in God's hands now and safely abiding in Heaven. Mother's Day brings different emotions now, not to minimize how great it is to have Frankie and the twins, we simply just miss you being here with us.
Love,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 24, 2011
Merry Christmas, Kevin.
Memories of Christmas' past are treasures we cherish. Christmas in Heaven must be the biggest celebration ever!! Love you, Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 13, 2011
Happy Birthday, Kevin!
Elaine Eberly
December 12, 2011
Kevin, soon it will be your birthday --just hours away from the time we mark as the beginning of life for you. Yet, here we are, no celebration, just memories. The void is so hard sometimes, but I know you are at peace and in God's loving arms. He certainly can protect you better than I could. Happy birthday to my baby boy who had grown into such a strong young man. Love you always, Mama
Elaine Eberly
August 2, 2011
Kevin,
Eight years ago I said my last goodbye to you, touched you, kissed you for the last time in your life. As your earthly life ended, my life changed and will never be the same. Frankie and the twins would love to have you here with them, Daddy misses you beyond words, I ache to see you again. Our faith comforts us, but the pain never goes away. Knowing Heaven is the ultimate reward gives us peace until I see you, hold you once more.
Much love,
Mama
Kelly Felts
June 3, 2011
Kevin,
I was thinking about you tonight. I really don't know what made you pop into my mind. I guess getting older and thinking of the past and looking at my children and thinking about your mother and how brave she is. You are loved by so many people and made such an impression every where you went! You are missed.
Elaine Eberly
December 24, 2010
It's Christmas--by only a few minutes. As we approach this day without you, I am torn by conflicting emotions - the ache of missing you so much, of needing you in this world with me, yet the faith that you must surely be experiencing the best birthday party ever in Heaven. We love you, think of you constantly, miss you with every fiber of our being. Merry Christmas, Kevin.
Love,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 11, 2010
Dear Kevin,
Tomorrow marks the day that would have been your 33rd birthday. Thirty-three years ago your Daddy, Frankie and I welcomed you into our family and what a difference you made! Our quiet family routine became disrupted by a demanding little boy who quickly had us all wrapped around his little, tiny finger. As days, weeks, and months turned into years, the only difference was that you were no longer little and that your magic had spread to so many others. Frankie was always so proud of his little brother, even when you nagged and pestered him and the pride was mutual as you looked up to Frankie with admiration. You two were quite a duo and what I consider miracles in my life.
Every day now has a void. I still want that "boy" to be there for us--for the hugs I got everytime I saw you, for the advise whether sought or not, for the physical presence, big smile and quick laugh, for your circle of friends, your love of family, for helping me try (fruitlessly) to win Springsteen tickets, for your patriotism, and all the other wonderful qualities you showed. Your Daddy, everyday, misses you, too. Now as we grow older and many things become challenges to us physically, we immediately think of you and how you could acheive so much, so quickly, aided us so much, were there for us. We try not to be a burden to Frankie, and Arnie and Aaron step in to help us alot. We still have much to be thankful for, but continue to struggle with having lost you. Not just for the things you no longer do for us or with us, but what the world has missed by not having you in it.
We are boosted by others who continue to remember you, who share memories and continue to love you.
We will always love you, will miss you until the day we die ourselves and are reunited with one we treasure so much.
Happy Birthday, to the big, strong man who will always be my baby.
Love,
Mama
August 2, 2010
You would be about the same age now, that I was when you left. My worries and bad dreams became reality back in August of '03. It's really weird how I worried about a day that would not have likely come in my lifetime, and then it did. No matter how many times I woke up from one of those dreams, I was not prepared for that day when it came. I spent weeks, in a daze where I actually thought that maybe I was mistaken and you were still here, only to get myself straight and deal with the truth. I just didn't want to go through life not knowing that you weren't just a phone call away. Now I am at peace with it and my worries have drifted to Matthew and Kirsten. My job now, is to keep them safe and teach them the ways of the world. Some of the same old fears I had about you have resurfaced....their first encounter with a bully, riding in cars and eventually driving one, illness and injury....I guess I worry too much. I keep telling myself that I can't keep them in a glass bubble, but when I lost you, a lot of things changed.
Matthew is a bonafide first mate on my boat and a seasoned hunting partner. The apple didn't fall far from the tree and that scares me sometimes. He is my best buddy and as I age, I can't help but to think about HIM taking ME hunting and fishing in years to come and teaching me things I never knew. I already know he will grow into a great man and I am proud of him.
There is just something different about Kirsten, I thought it was just me, because I am her father, but others notice it too. She is like a pretty little angel. She is so caring and sweet. She is all that I could ever dream that a daughter could be and more. Her caring ways remind me of you sometimes. I will guard her from bad things with my last breath. She loves to sing and dance, she strums on an old guitar I bought her, she likes to read and write. She surprises me with something new every day.
I spend my free time outdoors most of the time. Arnie, Sammy and the guys talk about you sometimes. I reckon to most people, you and I are a lot alike? I know I learned some valuable lessons from you. I can forgive a whole lot easier now. Sometimes I can even have a care free attitude and blow off the petty things. It's like a weight off of my shoulders.
If ya'll can look down from Heaven and see what's going on, I guess you laugh at me often. Sometimes I think of that, when I do something stupid (by accident, or on purpose).
I know you are in Heaven and anybody that reads this and knew you, knows what I am talking about. You cared. That's something that most people forgot how to do. Some of the things you did are worthy of legend, but you didn't do them for notoriety, and didn't' speak of them, so I just let it simmer and the ones that were touched by you can remember what you did.
I miss you and I love you.
Frankie
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2010
Seven years ago in a swirl of haze as I came close to sleep for the first time in days, you sent me a good bye message.
Your face so vivid and close, beautiful sky and fluffy clouds forming the backdrop, your eyes open and clear, a smile on your face. Not the big beaming smile your were known for, but a familar smile to me - one of acceptance and contentment. A quiet smile of peace. Soon the clouds began to swirl and you very gradually moved away from me. Your facial features changed a little and I knew you were telling me good-bye. I have to thank you for showing me that you were ready for your journey, that you were prepared to leave us, your family and friends to go to a promised, better place.
Tomorrow, a few hours from now, marks seven years of your heavenly life.
We miss you every day, will love you always, Mama
Elaine Eberly
May 9, 2010
It's Mother's Day which has never been the same since you left us. I miss you every moment and struggle through the day. A day that I always knew I would see you and get one of your big hugs. Such a void---I took those hugs, kisses and smiles for granted, if I could only have one more.
Love you,
Mama
Mama
December 24, 2009
Dear Kevin,
Another year and it is only hours from being Christmas again. While I hold fast to the excitement surrounding this season and the reason behind it, I am torn between the wonder you must be experiencing being with our Lord and Jesus on this special day and the dismay I feel by not having you here to share it with me, your Daddy and Frankie. I will never be able to articulate the emptiness I feel without having you here. During the recent snow storm, all I could imagine was you out in it. I am troubled by not knowing how the years would have changed you. Are you still the boy, who regardless of the cold would be plotting a way to get together with your friends to frolic in the snow? Or would you have children of your own and be spending your time building snowmen with them? Life is not the same, nor will it ever be. The emptiness never goes away, we only learn to deal with it a little better as time goes by. With all our hearts, we love you.
Merry Christmas, Kevin.
Regina Cox
December 16, 2009
My thoughts and prayers go out to you Elaine and Warner and Frankie.
Angela Padua
December 16, 2009
Debbie,
I'm sure that this was a hard day for you as well!
Love you,
Angela Padua
December 14, 2009
Kevin,
Happy Birthday. I thought of you often yesterday, as I do every year. I find that thoughts of you are never far from my mind. So many good memories make me smile and so many future memories that we won't share sadden me. But I know you are always close by watching over all of us. I miss you very much and have always been grateful for our short time together.
Adam
Gary Boyd
December 13, 2009
Thinking of you Elaine and Warner.
Beverley Doub
December 13, 2009
Sending you love and blessings Elaine and Warner.
Jared Wilkins
December 13, 2009
To have known you was a gift, and anyone that did knows that. Your infinite kindness is an inspiration to me everyday and you are always in my thoughts. You live in the hearts of everyone that knew you and for this the world is a better place. I love ya buddy. Happy Birthday.
Tommy Yun
December 13, 2009
Happy birthday buddy! there isnt a day, week, month, or year that goes by without me thinking of you in some way. You were truly a great person in so many ways. You got me out of trouble and ofcourse got me into trouble but that the yin and yang of our relationship. You be proud of me buddy!! love you
December 12, 2009
Dear Kevin,
In a matter of a few hours it will be your earthly birthday. How different I approach this date now that you have left us and entered your heavenly home. Questions of "why" still haunt me, however, I have faith that God has a plan for all of us. A faith that continues to grow, though challenged sometimes by the deep sorrow from missing you. As each year passes, I become more selfish--wondering how I will manage in my later years without you. It is so hard now, I fear it will be insurmountable as I age. Again--how selfish I am as surely you must be enveloped in the arms of God and how could I wish anything less for you? Always praying that my children be safe, healthy and happy, I have to wonder if this was God's answer to my prayers even though that's not exactly what I meant!
Kirsten and Matthew continue to grow, not just in statue but they become smarter every day. They speak of you, are full of questions and many time in awe as we brag of your accomplishments. Frankie is a wonderful Daddy and we are so proud of him.
Happy Birthday, Kevin! Vivid remembrances of the day of your birth and so many special moments with you are the treasures I hold dear.
With love always,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
August 2, 2009
Dear Kevin,
Six years.
How time and it's passage has such a different meaning now. It seems like such a short time ago when you were celebrating your sixth birthday and were such a little man. Even then you had a philosophical side.
Matthew walked into the kitchen this afternoon with your "Chips" helmet on and it literally took my breath. He had discovered it for the first time and as I noticed him entering the room it took me back in time. It was you! He was so curious about it, so careful with it once he knew it was yours.
As it happens on your anniversary every year, I saw a persistent butterfly several times today.
Richard at the Sandstonian made me a big plate of sausage gravy and biscuits this morning for breakfast- something I never eat, but a dish you enjoyed and made quite often. You would have liked it as it was a little spicy and no lumps in the gravy! How strange it is that he chose to serve me that surprise? Another message from you?
Hearing from a number of your friends has been comforting. Summer brought you another balloon, John left you another Bud Light, Tara visited and gave me a much needed hug, Chrissy called last night - remembering that last night in the hospital when suddenly as we were talking she saw a field of twenty or more deer of all sizes frolicking in a field. Lots of emails and Facebook messages. Oh, Kevin - you would have loved Facebook!
Missing you each day, loving you as much as ever-
Mama
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2009
Dearest Kevin,
In a few hours it will have been six years since I last touched you. I wish I had held you longer and tighter, but I didn't want to hurt you. Now we are the ones who hurt, as each day without you holds an emptiness that nothing can fill. Whether it is a celebration, like Aaron's and Kristie's wedding reception or something less joyful, our thoughts are filled with you. As I see your friends marry, start families, move, change jobs, and continue to experience all the joys and challenges of life, I think of how it might have been if you were still with us. Selfish, I admit, as I know you must be happy with our Lord. Why can't I be happier for you?
Certainly a chuckle must escape from you as you watch Kirsten and Matthew. They are precious and they love Frankie so much. They would have benefited so much from being around you. Hopefully, you are allowed to intervene sometimes.
Know we love you deeply, without restraint or boundries. We always have loved you and Frankie unconditionally, I hope you knew this.
Tomorrow rings in another anniversary, not the kind of annual remembrance I had ever dreamed of having. I hope that you are healthy, happy and safe as that was always my prayer for you.
With love forever,
Mama
Elaine
July 28, 2009
Dear Kevin,
Missing you is part of our everyday life, but sometimes I sense what I immediately recognize as a signal from you. Thank you for those little signs that bring a tear and a smile at the same time.
While I still struggle to understand why you had to leave us, I am thankful for the friends you brought into our lives. Aaron and Kristie are now married and I can see the smile on your face. I know you loved them both.
Matthew and Kirsten are growing so quickly, but then you know that as I am sure you are helping to watch over them.
Your sixth heavenly birthday is fast approaching. How can it be? It is such a struggle without you.
I love you, Mama
Elaine Eberly
January 10, 2009
Dear Kevin,
In recognition of your athletic achievements, you were inducted into the Varina High School Wall of Fame today. Following a brunch attended by previous inductees and many of your friends and family, a list of your accomplishments were read and your father had an opportunity to speak to the crowd. He did a great job. Later in the gym between basketball games another ceremony took place in which a plaque was presented. In Fall, 2003, your father was honored, too, so now your name hangs near his on the lobby wall of the gym. I am so proud of both of you.
Love always,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 25, 2008
Dear Kevin,
It's Christmas evening and I have thought of you so often today - wondering what you are doing, if today is a special celebration or if every day is so wonderful that it just couldn't get any better.
Your Daddy and I had a Christmas visit with Frankie, Kirsten and Matthew to exchange gifts and enjoy family time together.
Kirsten and Matthew each have so many things in common yet have totally different personalities. Both so expressive and loving. Recently Matthew has started calling your Daddy "Poppy" rather than "Pop". It's precious. Kirsten cut her hair a month or so ago, really did a job on it, but it's finally growing out some though it will take many more months to be long enoungh for it not to be noticeable. She enjoys watching tv, writing, coloring and helping to clean up. Matthew will help Pop with yard work or when anything needs to be assembled and will help vacuum and cook, too. Matthew certainly has your and your brother's genes as he loves to go hunting with Frankie. Kirsten likes to sing and they both enjoy music and dancing. They speak of you often.
Daddy and I enjoyed some time with Mary Lou late this afternoon and then to Laura and Eddie's for our traditional Christmas night visit.
Frankie and the twins were almost ready to leave when we arrived.
Today was full of highs and lows. I miss you so much and crave your touch, your laughter and voice. There is still such an emptiness, a void that can never be filled, yet I force myself to remember that you are with Jesus and assuredly safe and happy. What could be better for you? It is so selfish of me to want you back.
I thank you for memories, for your friends who stay in touch and for the lessons you taught me.
May you experience total and complete peace. Please, if possible, look our for Frankie and the twins.
With love forever,
Mama
Dorie Parker
December 18, 2008
HI Kevin,
You are so heavy on my mind this time of year... I keep having flashbacks of you when you were young, this time of year... Not just your Birthday, but Christmas right on top!! Your Mom would work so hard to pull it all of and make the days special for you... What a great family you have and how lucky we are to have you watching over them. Thanks once again for the smiles as I remember... We miss you always...
Until we meet again,
xoxo to you up there,
Dorie
Elaine Eberly
December 17, 2008
Dear Kevin,
Saturday was your 31st birthday. Daddy and I, along with Frankie, Kirsten and Matthew wished you a Happy Birthday in the morning paper.
Kirsten, your niece, and Emma, Chrissy's daughter who is your second cousin joined me for a visit with you and to put up a Happy Birthday sign. They both wished you a Happy Birthday and said they loved you. The twins speak of their Uncle Kevin often.
Today is my mother's birthday (your Nana's) and your Daddy's mother's (your Grandmama's) heavenly birthday.
I miss you every day, but find comfort that your earthly challenges have been exchanged for heavenly bliss. I have special prayers to God, and private conversations with you. I long to feel your strong arms wrapped around me in one of your big hugs. I see your face, your big, brown eyes, your smile and ache to have you back. I do, however, trust that God in His infinite wisdom has a plan for you.
You will soon be honored as you join your father on the Varina High School Wall of Fame. What a special honor to commenerate your athletic accomplishments. Your buddy Aaron Bradley is in his second year as Head Wrestling coach at Hanover High School and continues the tradition of having the Most Valuable Wrestler trophy named for you. It is an incredible honor. Aaron and Kristie recently became engaged and will marry on July 2, 2009 in Mexico.
Frankie is doing a great job as a Daddy. The twins adore him. Please keep watch over them.
I love you,
Mama
Mayflower (Sours) Edwards
August 3, 2008
I was reading thru our HS yearbook - your comment made me smile and brought tears to my eyes. Sending you an eternal hug and kiss. Miss and love you Kev ...
Elaine Eberly
August 2, 2008
Kevin,
Perhaps you are up to some of your old tricks because I posted an entry to you last night and it still does not appear in the guestbook. (Sort of like your homework assignments in school). Hopefully, my message will arrive shortly.
I have visited with you this morning and again the middle of the day. Someone brought you some Black Eyed Susans while I was away.
This morning I took some bubbles to blow. It was amazing as the bubbles flew around me and lowered to the ground so gently that they did not burst. For so long they remained intact, glistening in the early morning sun and slowly disappearing leaving a sparkle in each spot where they had rested. In one of the bigger bubbles, the swirls of color looked like a globe and I saw a silhouette faintly in the bubble. As I watched, the bubble next to it seemed to twirl catching my eye and in that bubble was a figure standing erect dressed in a black suit. My imagination or not, I take that as a sign that you are doing well. And each little sparkle left on the ground made me think of the wonderful times we had with you.
Kirsten Lewis just called to say she was driving up from North Carolina to visit you. Matt and Jason are coming, too. You have left a lasting impression on so many.
As I said in my earlier entry, you still bring smiles to us. I love you, miss you and can't wait to see you again.
Love always,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2008
My dearest Kevin,
How could it be possible that in a matter of hours we will mark your fifth anniversary in Heaven? It still doesn't seem possible that you have really left us. There's so much going on, so much to do, so many things we need you to help us accomplish.
People say that time heals. I think it's more accurate to say that time helps us learn how to cope with grief and loss; that we become more receptive of the comfort God sends to us. The ache never goes away, but with each passing day I find the memories more treasurable than ever. So many times when life has caused frustrations to overwhelm me, I wish you were here to help with the burden. How selfish that is of me! Why should I impose such earthly problems on you when you
must be experiencing ultimate bliss?
Kirsten and Matthew speak of you, take special care of things they know belonged to you, say they love you. Though they never met you in the flesh, there have been numerous times as infants when I think they have seen you. I trust you to watch over them.
Friends and family continue to share memories, you still put smiles on our faces.
I just don't understand why. Know I never will, but even believing that God has a plan can't take away my constant need to understand - why?
I love you,
Mama
Mayflower Edwards
December 26, 2007
Merry Christmas Kev! You may not be here in person but your Spirit will never be forgotten.
Elaine Eberly
December 25, 2007
Merry Christmas, Kevin--
For us, Christmas just isn't the same without you, but I expect it must be the best ever in Heaven.
I miss you so very much - everything about you. The hugs, the kisses, the laughter and smiles, the smirks, the jokes, even the arguments which I could never seem to win. Everything.
I love you.
Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 13, 2007
Happy 30th Birthday, Kevin
Thirty years ago you gave new meaning to the date December 13th and it will forever remain a special day of the year. Just as May 25th has a special meaning for me, your older brother's birthdate and your birthdate are not just your days of celebration, but also, mine. Often I think of what you would be doing this day - such a milestone in everyone's life is turning 30, then 40 and 50. Would you have found the love of your life? Be married? Be a daddy like Frankie? Would you still be working at Qimonda, (previously Infineon)? One thing I know is that there would be a party involved and I would be there along with all those many friends and family who always wanted to be in your company. I also know that you would be a loving and caring uncle for Kirsten and Matthew. One of my biggest regrets is that you are not here FOR them, but I do believe that you are still WITH them. Not a day goes by that we don't think of you, miss you, ache for you.
What a day this has been, just not quite the celebration I had expected on this date thiry years ago.
Love you forever,
Mama
Daddy
December 13, 2007
Dear son ...
Your 30th birthday is today. Aaron's wrestling team is strong but he has his work cut out for him this year. I hear from Julia and Kirsten from time to time.
I'm sorry you are not here with us but know you are in paradise. The world would but a much better place with you still here.
Your mother and I celebrate your 30th birthday today with the same precious picture of you in our minds as if you were still with us. It is a picture that never leaves us and occasionally speaks to me in my dreams. So many of your friends are doing well ... having babies and such.... God bless you ... Now that you are 30 you can feel free to be a grown up. Daddy
Frankie Eberly
December 13, 2007
Happy 30th Birthday, Buddy. I'll drop off our figurine on my way home from work.
Matthew's wrestling is becoming a bit of disturbance around the house and pre-school. I guess it's in his blood. He watched a couple of matches at the Hanover High tournament this past weekend, when we gave out the "Kevin Eberly -Outstanding Wrestler Award" and he has devoted the days since to mastering the inside step - single leg. I haven't taught him a thing, but he seems to pick it up. I'll have to get him in a club when he turns five. He reminds me of you quite a bit at times.
Kirsten is very sympathetic of my feelings of missing you. She does a very good job of consoling me.
I have exposed the twins to the outdoors and killed a buck with each of them. Matthew loves Hunting and gets mad if I go without him. I spend the days that we would be hunting together with Arnie and he has made it easier for me to go. The first time I hunted after you left, I spent some of the day crying in my tree stand, wishing that you were there. Now, Arnie and I share stories of you and Arnold and get a laugh or two. I told a lot of people about how you thought I was the best shot around and how I never really told you that it was luck most of the time and you just happened to be with me at the right time. I just let you keep believing it because it's always nice when your little brother thinks you are the best at something.
I meet people that knew you, here and there and they always have great things to say. I met someone this week that asked about you and I had to tell them that you went to Heaven, but this time I didn't cry. I smiled and raised my head high, because I was proud to be your brother.
We all miss you. I end my prayers every night with, "Please make sure my brother is with you and you give him an important job. He can do anything you need. And please make sure he is keeping an eye on Popa and Arnold".....(Arnold might kill more deer than he has room for in the freezer).
Keep an eye on Matthew and Kirsten when I'm not around.
I love you, Buddy,
Frankie
Elaine Eberly
August 2, 2007
Dear Kevin,
Today is your fourth anniversary.
Time plays such tricks on me, as I can't hardly believe it has been four years since you left us, yet it seems forever.
You remain constantly in our thoughts. Though conversations with you are terribly one sided, you still help with my decison making and often calm my soul. It is not unusual for you to be the topic of conversation with friends and family reminiscing stories new and old, bringing a tear often from laughter, always from longing.
Yesterday's moments with you are today's precious memories. I treasure my time with you, can't wait to see you again.
Love, Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 25, 2006
It's December again, so different for us now as compared to how it
was before you left us. We celebrated your earthly birthday on the 13th and Christmas today. Though we continue to miss you, I find comfort in believing you are celebrating the most special day of all with Jesus and sharing the festivities with all our family and friends who have preceeded us.
Kirsten and Matthew recognize your picture and call you Uncle Kevin.
You hold a piece of our hearts and we will remember you always.
Love,
Mama
Frankie Eberly
August 4, 2006
Well, buddy, It's been another year and I still miss you. Matthew and Kirsten watch our old wrestling matches and I tell them that you set the bar. They both say that they want to wrestle and Kirsten challenged me to a match the other night. After she beat me, Matthew took his shot at the Old Rooster and took me out easily. They know that Uncle Kevin is in Heaven and that Matthew has your middle name.
They caught their first fish last week in the same spot that you and I slayed them some years ago. I imagine that they will kill their first Deer with the same gun that Daddy, You, and I killed our first deer with.
The memories are sweet and I smile more than cry now, when think back. I can't help but to laugh out loud sometimes. We did it all and sometimes finished it up in a blaze of glory.
I know your looking down on us and trying to keep us out of harms way. Just keep an eye on Matthew and Kirsten when I am not around. If you were here in body, they would surely be drawn to you, like so many others.
See you when I get there. I reckon I have a few things to tie up here before then.
Elaine Eberly
August 2, 2006
Kevin,
We miss you every day, so many moments are filled with memories of you. Guess one could say that today marks another milestone...the third anniversary since you left us. It is so unnatural as we should be making new memories instead of having to rely on the old ones for comfort. I have to constantly remind myself that if I truly want what is best for you, am totally unselfish-I should be content that you have achieved your heavenly goal. I will always love you, forever will I miss you.
Love, Mama
Jimmy Taylor
May 27, 2006
Happy Birthday to Frankie & a tremendously huge hug to all the Eberly's!!! You have as does my family, a wondeful guardian angel perched upon each of your shoulders. Mine looks like my Granddaddy Davis these days wearing fishing stuff & waders w/ his wings. Your angel I would imagine might look like Kevin w/ kneepads & a wrestling headgear & wings. Keep the faith!
Elaine Eberly
May 25, 2006
Today is Frankie's birthday and I recall that day 36 years ago and many of the wonderful times we have had together once he made us a 'family'. Every event evokes thoughts of Kevin, too, and how he reacted to each of these special times in his own unique way. I have thought so often today of how proud Kevin was of his big brother, how much he felt Frankie contributed to his life. It's important to remember.
Love,
Mama
Elaine Eberly
December 25, 2005
Facing another Christmas without Kevin here to celebrate and participate in all our activities, we hope to find some peace trying to imagine the celebration he must be enjoying in Heaven on this special day.
Merry Christmas, Kevin.
Love always,
Mama
Kevin, Frankie, Warner, Robyn & Elaine
Kathryne Louzek
December 15, 2005
I have been spending quite a bit of time re-doing family photo albums. Kevin's little face just jumps right out at me in so many pictures. Always a grin and always so sweet. NIP
The Parker Family
December 14, 2005
We think of you always, and thanks for our smiles as we enjoy the memories. We miss you so much, Happy Birthday Kevin.
Love Butch, Dorie, Brittney and Natalie
Elaine Eberly
December 13, 2005
So much joy surrounds the birth of a child and I will always remember the day Frankie and Kevin were born. Each birthday marks not only the addition of another year of life, but all the milestones one has accomplished during that space in time.
Now I place a different meaning to this day as I can no longer review the year and treasure special moments in Kevin's life. I can only imagine what he may be experiencing and believe that he is always happy and safe.
Happy Birthday to Kevin who we miss so much.
Love,
Mama
Sonya simmons
November 18, 2005
To The Family Of Kevin
As time go by our memories starts to fade away, but when you have been with someone that had so my joy and love it's hard to forget that person.I do miss Kevin very much and I know that he is watching over us
Love You Always
Frankie Eberly
November 16, 2005
I'm just thinking of my baby Brother again. I miss him much, but I know God needed him.
I love you, buddy-
Frankie
Elaine Eberly
July 31, 2005
My dearest Kevin,
TWO YEARS?
Odd how my perception of time and place have changed since you left us. Sometimes it seems like it's been so many years since I had my last hug from you, but surely it must have only been moments ago when I last touched you.
There is so much we miss - your smile, your laughter, your strength, oddly enough your sense of reasoning.
We need you here, there is such an emptiness without you. There are special moments when I see a butterfly and know you are visiting. Sometimes I see Kirsten and Matthew looking into space and smiling, I feel you are there, too.
We think of you everyday, we love you and miss you and ache for you. I talk to you all the time, do you hear me? Sometimes I think you are sending me messages--I don't always agree with what I think you are telling me. Some things never change, do they?
Yet, our whole world has changed, it will never be the same without you.
Love always,
Mama
Daddy
June 11, 2005
Kevin ..this is not a great day for me ..You already know that.... I am tying very hard to be the person I should be .
While giving Matthew a ride on the lawn tractor.. he kept waving at someone in the window as we drove past the rear of the house at Pheasant Hollow... Through the window I saw the figure of a person looking at us ... When we went inside I asked your mother why she didn't wave at us thru the window and that she must have seen Matthew waving at her .... She said that she was in the kitchen with Kirsten and never came to the back window.... That it must have been Kevin.... I wished I had looked closer. I will next time. I miss you always..
Adam Mistr
December 13, 2004
Happy Birthday Senor Kevin. You will always be loved and missed very dearly.
Daddy
August 6, 2004
It is a time of tears and prayer. When Kevin died I found out how many caring people there were and appreciated their words of comfort. Some folks didn't know what to say... many still don't . A year has passed... I will never enjoy life the same way and will battle the sadness of losing Kevin until I die . I told him that he scared me sometime because we were a lot alike and I had fallen off a ladder.I laughed but was serious. I said I was planning on living to be 100 and that I thought I could make it ... Frankie would be 80 and he would be 73 at that time and Frankie would need him a lot because he would be upset at my funeral. I told him that his job that day after I was gone was to keep an eye on him since he would be only 73.I laughed again . I added I was planning on him attending my funeral and that I was NOT going to attend his if he knew what I meant . He commented, " Pop no one knows when he's going to die and that God is in control of that . I told him "that's right .. but, that same God gave all of us a brain to think with and that life was a gift."... My way of saying take care of yourself. He understood and agreed that relieved me of worry . I always had to remind Kevin to get enough sleep ... exercise... take care of his health . He loved his friends dearly and was protective of them as well. He never wanted anyone to be left out and feel sad because of that... so he included all of his friends in his life and wanted them to be happy. He was always glad to run into an old fried and would often say ," guess who I ran into today?" He treated his family the same way . He never failed to show his love for us all . In my private talks he would estoll with pride about what one or more of his buddies had accomplished... be it Adam.. Matt.. Jason.. Aaron...He would point out their personality without any negative comment. He respected differences . He said in bowling Jason was the MAN . He spoke the same about his newer friends at The Tobacco Co.and would ask me to take them fishing with us . Kevin dove over the side of the boat many times and scared me . I never heard a critical word about any of his friends from him ... He said Aaron would get wound up from time to time and he would have to talk to him a while to settle him down . I told him that Aaron was a champion and passion about things is what helped make him one. I remember Kevin being passionate and determined too and loving life ... and live he did . I looked forward with excitement in seeing him everyday.... After a full life I pray that God will let me see and talk to him again,
Julia Forsmark
August 5, 2004
I know that so many of us think about Kevin daily, sometimes even more, myself included. I talk to him a lot when I think of him and I just know he hears me. I just know that he is there for all of us, watching us and making sure that we are all OK, just like always. I wanted to share a story that really made me truly feel he still watches us like this... My mother got me a kitten last September, she was born in August and her name is Lilly Lou. She quickly became a part of our family. One day this past March, she was outside, a storm came and she never came home. We had no idea what could have happened to her and my mother and I cried for days, some of you probably even got reward fliers in your mailboxes. On St. Patrick's day, I went to see Kevin to talk and to just be there, I also told him about Lilly. I came home late that night after being out with friends and there stood Lilly, smiling at me, my mom told me she had come home a few hours earlier. After a visit to the vet and a broken leg for Lilly, I took her to say Hi to him as well and thanked him for sending her home safely after four days. I have had this conversation with many of you, Kevin always wanted us to be safe, happy and wanted the best for us. I know that I am not the only one that he has proven this to in the past year and I have all the faith in the world that he will continue to keep us and everyone we love safe and happy. We should all be thankful and feel blessed that we had such a wonderful friend and influence in our lives, that is something that never goes away.
Adam Mistr
August 2, 2004
I had difficulty sleeping last night as I remembered vividly all of the events of this past week, one year ago. It's still hard to believe that a full year has passed since I last shared time with him.
An anniversary is a time of celebration, so I will celebrate the time that I shared with Kevin and focus on the things that make me smile. The laughter that we shared, mostly laughing at each others' stupidity, but sharing it nonetheless will be dearly missed. The understood bond that we had, indestructable... not even time can break that.
I think about Kevin everyday. Always something small that reminds me of him, the glass from Spain that he broke, the toothbrush that he never had, the clean pair of underwear that he always needed...such wonderful reminders they are of my best friend. I'll hear a song on the radio that brings hundreds of memories flowing back. Those are the things I miss, yet they are the things that make me smile the most.
I miss him dearly, but I am still eternally greatful for having met him and grown up with him. He was always able to bring out the best in everyone. He definitely brought out the best in me. I know for a fact that I am where I am today, because Kevin played a role in my life.
So, Kevin, I want you to know that you may be gone, but you will never be forgotten. I miss you, I love you and I'll see you in the blink of an eye (which will be a lifetime for me).
Elaine Eberly
August 1, 2004
All to myself I think of you-
Think of the things we used to do,
Think of the things we used to say,
Think of each happy yesterday;
Sometimes I sigh and sometimes I smile,
But I keep each olden, golden while
All to myself.
My mother, Mary Dowdy, died in June just before Kevin in August. Shortly after Kevin died I found this framed poem with some of my mother's treasures. Until now, it reflected my thoughts. This is my first entry in the guestbook, though I have found comfort in reading all those posted this last year, I haven't been ready to do so myself.
Sometimes it seems like yesterday when I last touched Kevin, sometimes an eternity. This has been a year of firsts for us. Birthdays, holidays, special events like weddings, Strawberry Hill Races, a Dallas football game on television and wrestling season. None hold the same joy for us without him. I remember his first year when first things held a different and more exciting meaning:
the first time he rolled over, or took his first step, his first word, "Dadda". His life was full of firsts like learning to swim soon after he learned to walk, Frankie and Warner teaching him to ride a bike, his first day at school. Wrestling his first match, well, at least his first official match after much tutoring and training from his big brother, Frankie. Then there was that first date, the girlfriends, the first day of college, the first day of work at his new job. So many wonderful "firsts".
As his mother it was my duty to teach him everything I could, yet I have learned much from both my sons. It was my responsibility to give them the things they needed, to nuture and protect them, yet so often it was Frankie and/or Kevin who gave those things to us. Kevin left us with many memories, all of which I dearly treasure. He shared his friends with us, what a magnificent gift to leave us. I want all the other firsts - the pleasure of watching him continue to mature, success at his new job, his engagement, marriage, his children, knowing he would grow old a happy man. He would have been a great uncle and father, as Frankie is a devoted father to Kirsten and Matthew who will soon be one year old. I know Kevin with that big grin on his face watches over them and Emma, Chrissy's precious litte girl. We miss those strong hands here to protect and guide them.
As sad as I am, I am thankful that I had twenty-five years to share with him.
But, now, there are no more firsts.
A proud mother,
Frankie Eberly
April 9, 2004
I miss Kevin every day, all day. My son, Matthew carries his name, but neither he nor his twin sister, Kirsten ever had the chance to meet their Uncle Kevin. Kevin taught me many things, but the last lesson was just a couple of months before he left us. He taught me how to truly forgive another, without any lingering grudges or ill feelings. I thought that I was a forgiving person before, but he showed me otherwise, with some wise words that you would not normally hear from a twenty-five year old man. I will pass that lesson on to my children (and anyone else who will listen), because to ask for forgiveness yourself, you must know how to truly forgive others.
I still talk to my brother often, and somehow, I really believe he hears me. I tell him that in heaven, a blink of the eye is a life time in our world and I will do my best to live the way that I should, so we will be together again real soon.
Before I wipe my tears walk away from his final resting place, I always say "I'm sorry about those times that I was mean to you when we were kids (I told him this often in his last months) - I love you, Buddy", and I can still hear him chuckle and say "Oh no, don't worry about it - you made me tough. That's what big brothers are for - I love you too, man", and I feel his strong arms wrapped around me, with his big hands on my back ( He always patted my back with his right hand a couple of times). I know he's with me so I tell him to keep on looking out for others, because that's what he did best and I tell God "You got a good one - He'll win every battle you send him to fight". He's got to be the toughest, most sympathetic Angel in Heaven
That man meant/means the world to me.
Rest in peace buddy. Meet me at the gate if I make it there.
I love you,
Frankie
Matthew Webb
February 17, 2004
There hasn't been a day that has gone by where Kevin didn't run through my brain, sometimes he's chuckling, and other times it's just a good memory of him. He was so wonderful and inspiring, whether you wanted to be inspired or not. He would pinpoint the talent in anyone and exploit them personally, being the man behind the spotlight the entire time (sometimes he was in the spotlight too). I still feel like he's egging, er, pushing me on toward achievment to this day. Just thought I'd share that.
I know it's been six months and I was thinking deeply of you on your sorrowful anniversary, Kevin. We all still greatly miss and love you.
Adam Mistr
December 25, 2003
At this time of year, how can you express how much we truly miss Kevin? He was the best friend I ever had or ever could have asked for. Especially today, when we celebrate the birthday of Jesus Christ, I give thanks for the short time that I had with Kevin. And I guess I was moved in our Christmas Eve service last night by our Reverend during his sermon. I took home a very important message that I would like to share with everyone and one that holds true in regards to Kevin:
"You never know when that 'chance encounter' will come when you meet someone who will change your life forever."
How could I have known that at 10 years old, I had met my best friend and someone who would soon become inseperable from me? And I guess the message is to not take anything for granted and to cherish the moments you have with everyone, because you never know if you are meeting your best friend, or future husband or wife. Words cannot express the sorrow that I feel over this great loss, but I love Kevin very much and I know he will be with me for the rest of my life, watching over me and looking out for me, as he always did...for me and everyone. And today, a very heart-felt Merry Christmas wish for Kevin, the Eberly family, and to all of those whose lives were touched in some way by that magnificent man that I call my best friend.
Jimmy Taylor
December 14, 2003
Celebrate a wonderfully tremendous day in your lives when your brother, son & nephew was born. Bathe yourselves in all the great times you & your family share with Kevin & others. Relish all the moments, the specs of time along what I call "The Grand Scale of Universal Importance," the number line of our lifetime. Our lives are all the better for having crossed paths with each other, our loved ones & guest stars during our time here. I've learned to value each moment no matter how small. From knowing you all, I feel each of you, Elaine, Warner, Sanford, Frankie and Kevin have met Ralph Waldo Emerson's definition of success: "To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children ... to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived." Live long & prosper & God bless. I know my life is richer for having known you all. Imagine as George Bailey did...what life would be like without an integral player. And thank the Lord for all those prime time players and the time we've spent with those no longer with us, those whom we don't see any more and our regular cast of characters---the past, the present & the future. What an awesome present to give yourselves on Kevin's birthday. Peace be with you always. Call on me if you're ever in need. I will be there...
Butch & Dorie Parker
December 13, 2003
Happy Birthday Kevin. We miss you.
Love, The Parker's
Nancy Sollars
December 13, 2003
Dear Elaine, Warner, & Frankie,
I have been saying prayers for your family ever since August. Today, must be a sad day for you all, but also a happy day. I'm sure you'll think back to Kevin's birth on this glorious day & remember what a blessing it was to have him come into your lives, as well as Frankie's. By reading some of the entries here, he sounded like a top-notch young man & I know that he is missed beyond comprehension. I did not know Kevin, but I'm sure all of these entries are right on target, because his parents are fantastic people. God bless your entire family & happy birthday Kevin!
Nancy Felton Sollars
Kathryne (Nip) Louzek
December 13, 2003
Happy Birthday Kevin.
Love, Nip
Warner Eberly[Kevin's Pop]
December 6, 2003
The loss of a son is a a shattering experience. The grieving starts with his last breath and ends with the last breath of his parent[s].. The only thought that offers consolation is that he resides in heaven. It reminds us that we are all mortal. You will be judged by how we treat the least among you.I told this to Kevin years ago and was glad to learn he had listened. Kevin practiced this throughout his life. He knew his physical strength and talent was a gift. The common thread told to me by his friends was that he was their glue ..their protector. I hope those who read my words now and in the future will take to heart what I say, Keep the people you love close to you for as you can . I will add to this guestbook from time to time .... I would love to read the good things others may add throughout their long and happy lives in the up coming years. Feel free to e-mail me too. God bless you one and all.
Julia Forsmark
September 8, 2003
Kevin has been my oldest, longest friend- we have lived down the street from each other (I guess I consider Wicker "down the street") and have been freinds since I was about 11 or 12 years old. We also have birthday's one day apart, so I think we shared something special- I have always loved birthdays!!!!
I think in some ways Kevin thought of me as a little sister- Lord knows that he is the closest thing I have had to a sibling. I think sometimes Kevin would aviod telling me certain things or not want me to know certain things as to keep me from worrying about him or something that was troubling him ( I am confident that I am not the only person Kevin did this with- he NEVER wanted anyone to worry). Kevin always wanted me to be happy and safe.
One of my favorite memories of Kevin is actually quite simple- whenever Kevin and I would be walking down the street- usually in mid conversation- after a few strides he would notice that I was closest to the oncoming traffic. Kevin would gently put his hands on my waist and scoot me over a little bit and he would walk on the side that was closest to the traffic. Nothing was ever said about it and our conversation would continue without interruption. For some reason this meant so much to me- it was so "big brother" like and gentleman like all in the same way.
It gives me comfort to know that Kevin is now what he always wanted me to be- happy and safe.
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