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JAY SNYDER Obituary
CDR JAY M. SNYDER, USCG, (Retired)
Age 66, died February 11, 2014 in Kirkland, Wa., after a 25-year battle with renal cell cancer. He is survived by his loving family: his wife of 43 years, Jane Snyder; his son, Kirk Snyder; his daughter Hellie Walter and son-in-law Drew; and his grandchildren, Mathias and Mackenzie. His passing is also mourned by extended family and good friends. A graduate of the United States Coast Guard Academy, Mr. Snyder earned a second degree in Civil Engineering at the University of Illinois, and a Masters of Public Administration at California State University, Long Beach. He was a licensed professional engineer and served 21 years in the U.S. Coast Guard before embarking on a career in local government in Loudoun County, Virginia. He retired as Director of General Services in 2011. Mr. Snyder was a faithful member of St. John Neumann Catholic Church in Reston, Virginia, where he served for several years on the finance committee and was a beloved member of the choir. He loved music, genealogy, Scrabble, and Sudoku. He cheered for the Mariners and the Nationals in good years and bad. He laughed daily and loved deeply. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 11 a.m. on Thursday, March 6, at St. John Neumann Catholic Church, 11900 Lawyers Road, Reston, VA. Burial will be at Arlington National Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent to the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales, Development Office, 2200 Kentmere Parkway, Wilmington, DE 19806, or the American Cancer Society, P.O. Box 22718, Oklahoma City, OK 73123-1718.
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Jerry L. Roth (JEROME)
August 7, 2025
Jane, I was Jay's cousin and lived with them while attending the Coeur d' Alene Jr. College. I live back home in Van Wert, Ohio where his Grandpa Jess and the rest of the family lives. I would love to hear from you. I'm so glad to at least know what happened and where Jay is after extensive searching.
My love to your family, Jerry Roth
John and Patricia Reynolds
March 7, 2014
Please accept our sincere condolences on your loss. It was a pleasure getting to know Jay at reunions. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your children.
Pam Ridgell
March 5, 2014
Jay was a kind gentle and caring person who went out of his way to help and do for others when he saw a need. Prayers are with the family for your loss. He always went out of his way to make sure things were done right. It was a pleasure to have known him and it was Loudoun County's loss when he retired.
Barbara Emery
March 4, 2014
A Toast to Jay - Thank you for your joy, love, spirit, and service to all of us. We will miss you but remember you.
Chuck Wyant
March 4, 2014
I worked with Jay on the court complex project for many years. Although I was with the sheriff's office I was made, by Jay, to be a part of the team. I recall several intensce issues that we were dealing with and Jay made sure we were able to get through this issues smoothly and for the best interest of all. He was as much a friend, gentalman as anyone could ever be.
The family is in my prays Jay will live on in my mind and heart as the true person he was. A great man.
Tim Rarick
February 24, 2014
I knew Jay "way back" in the l960's when he was a Junior in High School at IHM Academy in Coeur d' Alene, Idaho. As I read these tributes I am delighted to know that he never changed. He was very bright, Kind, loving, laughing and loyal in l964...as a boy playing baseball.
Troy Keller
February 24, 2014
Jay was a true professional and treated everyone the same no matter what their "status" was in life or on the job. I enjoyed working with Jay and he was a great help with our Public Safety tower sites and leases in Loudoun County. John 3:3
Leslie Hansbarger
February 24, 2014
I was so saddened to hear of Jay's passing and send my deepest sympathy to his family. Jay was a kind and gentle soul, and I am glad for the years of working with him at Loudoun. His sense of humor was priceless and he could always bring a laugh and a smile to everyone. My best wishes to his dear wife Jane and family as you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Vicki Sullivan
February 23, 2014
Jane,
My heart goes out to you and your family. Jay was a gentleman and a gentle soul. I will share with you the wisest advice I received after my own loss: "One day at a time..."
Loyes Spayd
February 21, 2014
I've only known Jay and Jane for the past 4 years. I met them when I joined SJN parish when I retired. I first met them when they were sponsors in the RCIA and Jay so impressed me as a faith filled man and very open about his journey as a professional man, a husband, father, and his struggle with cancer. I then had the privilege to travel with him to France and enjoyed his delightful sense of humor as well as his beautiful voice. I joined the choir this year and could tell he was failing but he never complained. He was a truly good man, a real inspiration. I will miss him. He was a wonderful example of Salesian spirituality.
Luz Cofresí-Howe
February 21, 2014
Jay was one of the best persons I've ever known. He had a deep sense of humor and was so kind to me when I joined Loudoun County government. I am honored and a better person for having known and worked with Jay. My heart and prayers go out to Jay's wife, family, and to all of us who will miss him greatly.
Ron Spinks
February 21, 2014
Jay always had a kind word and a smile every time I met him. I was shocked to hear of his passing. I will miss him very much. I send my best wishes to all of his friends and family in this time of sorrow.
Ron Spinks
February 21, 2014
I have worked for Loudoun County for over 30 years, and knew Jay for most,if not all of my tenure.I have known Jay to always have a kind word and a smile on his face whenever I saw him. I will miss him a lot. Best wishes to all his family and friends in this time of sorrow.
Agnes Viray
February 21, 2014
What sad news. I only know Jay from the trip to France, taken by the SJN Choir in 2012. Jay impressed me as a wonderful person, devoted to his wife Jane and always at her side. He lived a short life, but one of quality.
February 21, 2014
I knew Jay from the choir for about 14 yrs. All of us miss him very much. What an honor to have him in the choir.
Melody Prochazka
February 21, 2014
When my family moved to northern Virginia eight years ago Jay and Jane Snyder warmly welcomed my husband and myself to the Saint John Neumann Choir. Jay also assisted me in efforts of locating a new job. His gracious and warm smile will be dearly missed at church. I have always felt that both Jay and Jane made an exemplary couple. Truly a perfect match. I was privileged to have known Jay Syder.
Kirby Bowers
February 21, 2014
It was an honor to have worked with Jay for so many years. He was kind, thoughtful, and caring. My deepest sympathy to his family who I know he loved so much.
February 21, 2014
Jay was a real nice man.He treated everyone with respect
Don Baer
Ronald Malolry
February 21, 2014
I was hired by Jay approximately 8 years ago, when he was the Director of General Services for Loudoun County Gov't. I will always remember him as a man of true inner joy, caring and altruistic, with his priorities in the right place.Though I did not know Jay's family, I am sure such a loving man will be truly missed. However there is always the comfort knowing that through the mercy of His Sacred Heart, he will share eternity with all the heavenly hosts of our God. Our prayers will continue for the repose of his soul.
Jerry Lewis
February 21, 2014
I work with Jay Snyder for 6 years. I say work with because even though he was my director he made everyone fell important and part of a team.Because this was part of his character, it was easy to respect him as my director but not just a director also a friend.To his family our prayers are with you doing this time of loss.It was my pleasure to have work for him and to have known him.
Richard Pezzullo
February 21, 2014
Celebrating a life well lived. I will cherish the fond memories of knowing and working with Jay. My sincerest sympathy.
Dick
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