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Barbara Reed Obituary

Barbara Ann Reed of Eugene, Oregon died with her husband by her side, Sept. 9 of complications of lung cancer. She maintained a smile and sense of humor throughout the length of the disease. Surprised over the avalanche of cards arriving during her illness she said, "Somehow I've been turned into a god". Barbara was 56. Barb came into the world on September 14, 1955 joining her brother David, father Mann and mother Evelyn in Denver, CO. The family then moved to Marion, Mass. She got her bachelors and masters degrees in Animal Science at UCalifornia, Davis. She then began a career as a UC Cooperative Extension farm advisor, specializing in dairy cows and forage, serving No. CA counties. As a teacher and mentor she also traveled to Kenya, Bolivia and Ireland to advise farmers. She capped off her career with the publication of the book Farmstead and Artisan Cheeses, which was lauded as a go-to guide to artisan cheese production. Barb left Extension in 2007 and following a lifelong passion, enrolled into a masters of Architecture program at the University of Oregon. She graduated with a 4.0+ average in 2010 and was entertaining job offers in historic preservation when diagnosed with cancer. Barb fit many adventures into her life including moving across country with only her beloved dog Molly Brown, fighting forest fires with a hotshot crew one summer and marrying a Gemini. She had a courageous spirit that many have praised, fearful of very little except spiders and heights. Her first white-knuckled trip on a ferris wheel was at age 52 but she volunteered to crew for a stranger sailing around the world for the leg from San Francisco to Tahiti at 26. She loved the Red Sox and the A's, sewed quilts for countless babies, played a sound game of tennis, enjoyed traveling, could swing a hammer, baked an incredible strawberry- rhubarb crisp, designed beautiful gardens and trained many dogs. She taught her husband the pleasures found in drinking single malt scotch, sewed her own wedding dress, was a driving force behind Habitat for Humanity's Women Build project, loved The Simpsons, measured twice and cut once, beat Tom regularly at scrabble, always bet it all in Final Jeopardy and was astute about many things from politics and buying insurance to building a fire and identifying birds in the field. She was preceded in death by her mother Evelyn. She is remembered by her husband Tom Spofford, of Eugene, OR and father Mann Reed and his wife Pat, of Atlanta, GA; David and Linda Reed of Concord, NH. Locally she will be missed by mother-in-law, Nancy Spofford, of Wenham and the entire Spofford family, Susan, Bob, Josh, Elizabeth and Andrew. A celebration of her life will be held in Eugene where toasting will be encouraged and stories shared. A similar gathering will be held in Massachusetts when the lilacs are in bloom. In lieu of flowers please consider donating to your local Hospice, Habitat for Humanity, Public Broadcasting, or your local animal shelter. In Barb's memory, watch the bats come out at dusk, right the wrongs and always take great chances.

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Published by Hamilton-Wenham Chronicle from Sep. 29 to Oct. 6, 2012.

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susan neary

September 25, 2013

all us Spoffords miss you, Peachy Q!

tom spofford

September 20, 2013

thank you to everyone who submitted a message to the guest book. it's meant so much to rad your thoughts. i am printing out a copy of all the comments to keep in a book about barb that i am assembling. the guest book will be taken down by the newspaper on 9/30/13.

a favorite photo of Barb

tom spofford

September 20, 2013

a very proud day in june 2010 as Barb graduates with Masters of Architecture degree from UOregon.

November 8, 2012

Dan Marcum

October 23, 2012

I worked with her on UC Assembly Council. Her work made a differnce.

Maxwell Norton

October 22, 2012

I had the pleasure of working with Barbara in Merced,CA and we were officers in an organization together. What a neat person. We were all very fond of her.

Dawn Valleza

October 22, 2012

Beautiful tribute to Barb, thankful I knew her!

Trudy Maloney

October 22, 2012

This is the most beautiful obituary I've ever read. My heart goes out to everyone who knew and loved Barb.

Paul Adkins

October 12, 2012

I'm happy to have shared at least a meal with this wonderful person. We are saddened that we didn't get to know you better.

Andrew Spofford

October 8, 2012

Though it ended too soon, Barb lived a very full life. I will miss the humor and enrgy that she brought to our family.

October 7, 2012

Tom, My heart is with you. Namaste, Tom Hess

red sox vs A's. who to cheer for? red sox always.

October 6, 2012

Kritin Reed

October 5, 2012

Beautiful obituary for a beautiful women...inside and out!!!!

Allison Ward

October 4, 2012

I have so many fond memories of this fine woman. Such a warm and loving soul. I will think of Barb the next time I swing a bat, pull a stubborn weed, or try to fix a fence.

m welch

October 2, 2012

To the Family: Please remember through this time of despair many prayers go with you and that others really do care. Psalm 46:1

Janet Allenspach

October 1, 2012

Barb, you were a wonderful woman and I will always thank you for sharing Tom with me in such a kind and understanding manner. You are missed but will be remembered always. Love~~~

Ray Johnson

October 1, 2012

What an amazing person to have shared your life with! Remember now to that your friends are still here to provide comfort and support.

on the porch at The Brynmere

October 1, 2012

Karen Goodwin

September 30, 2012

Tom, What a delight to have had Barb in your life and how memory rich you are now. You two were perfectly matched, both brilliant and full of interest in life. Many teary hugs, Love,

Catherine Blais

September 30, 2012

My life is richer for having known you, Barb. Your big laugh rings in all of us still and inspires us to embrace life.

susan spofford neary

September 30, 2012

we will miss our barb-b-q

susan spofford neary

September 30, 2012

what a smile!
what a peach!
<3

Laakshmi Ariaratnam

September 30, 2012

Dear Tom,

my love and thoughts are with you.

I regret I will not be able to attend the memorial as it is the same day as the Sky Creek Dharma Center event, whic I am helping organize.

wishing love, light and peace!

Last year

September 30, 2012

Dear Friend, how can I thank you for all the time we shared starting with that crazy horse love and continuing over the next 46 years. Always in my heart but so sad to not see you again. Kathy

tom spofford

September 29, 2012

missing that smile every day.

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