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Mary Wheeler Obituary
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Mary Lou Wheeler, of Vestal, passed away Wednesday, August 13, 2008, at Wilson Memorial Hospital after a long, courageous battle with cancer. She is predeceased by her father, James E. Steele Sr. She is survived by her children, Brandon, Lucas, and Tara Wheeler, all of Vestal; her mother, Mary Steele, Waterloo, N.Y.; one brother, James E. Steele Jr.; three sisters, C. Anne Stahr, Karen M. Krenzer, Christina Steele-Kurtin; also many aunts, nieces, nephews, and cousins. Mary Lou was a member of Our Lady of Sorrows Parish, Vestal, and a 20-year employee of the Vestal Central School District, working as an Administrative Assistant in Personnel. She will be greatly missed by her many friends and colleagues.
In keeping with Mary Lou's wishes, there will be no calling hours. Family and friends are invited to attend a Memorial Mass for Mary Lou, which will be offered at 10:00 a.m., Saturday, August 16, 2008, at Our Lady of Sorrows Church, Vestal. Interment will be at the family's convenience. In lieu of flowers, those wishing may make contributions in her memory to the St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, Memorial and Honor Program, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, Tenn. 38105-1942. Funeral arrangements are by Coleman & Daniels Funeral Home, Inc., 765 Main St., Vestal, N.Y.
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Memories and Condolences
for Mary Wheeler
James Stevens
August 19, 2008
Tara and family, so deeply sorry about your mom....she was a great person! with deepest sympathy. James
tracey gonyou-jones
August 19, 2008
tara and family, your in our prayers. so sorry to hear about your mom. she was such a beautiful person. thinking of you. tracey, tara,james and jacob stevens-gonyou
Valorie McCauley
August 18, 2008
Dear Brandon, Luke and Tara,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Although it's been years since I have seen your mom I remember her as a beautiful and very kind women. May you find comfort in your memories and in eachother.
Love, Valorie McCauley
Dee Hill
August 17, 2008
To Tara, Brandon and Luke,
I first met your mother when you were little guys attending school at Clayton Ave. At that time, she was just another parent to me. As time passed, she and I became friends, then good friends and then, best of friends. Also, I worked with your mom. She never ceased to amaze me at her knowledge of her job, her calmness of spirit, warmth and friendliness no matter how busy she might be.
I think back to last September when she, Connie and I went to Cape May, NJ for a week. She had oftentimes since then teased us that we spent a week at the shore without ever puttiing our toes in the water or walking in the sand. During that week, Connie and I were aware that Mary Lou wasn't feeling well, but your mom had a way of compartmentaliziing her illness and not letting it get in the way of what she wanted to do. We had a great time together...a week I will never forget.
I feel privileged to have been your mom's friend..she was/is my hero! You three must feel so very proud to be able to say, "Mary Lou Wheeler was my mom"!
August 16, 2008
Brandon , Lucas ,Tara ,
So very sorry to hear of your mom's passing, she was a very kind and gracious lady and will be missed. God bless you
The Wilsons Thomas, Dawn, Tommy and Adria
Dallas Saunders
August 15, 2008
Dear Brandon,
Im so sory to here anout your for your loss. I remember when you came to Tioga Hills and worked there fora short time that is where i first meet you and i dont know if you remember me. When i would see mom down at admin. i would ask her how you were. Your mom was such a special person. She helped so many people in so many ways. Mary lou will be greatly missed by so many who work with her. Thank you for letting me be a small part of her life. Please know mom is in a much beter place free of pain and god has many special plans for her up in heaven. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you .
Ralph & Patricia DeMario, Sr.
August 15, 2008
To the family of Mary Lou:
I knew your family for many years. I want you to know our thoughts & prayers are with you on the loss of your mother. She was a very fine lady.
Patricia Kubik
August 15, 2008
To the Wheeler family
I was saddened to hear about the passing of Mary Lou. I worked with her for many years and the courage she showed during her illness was an inspiration to all.
Jim & Beth, Meagan, Mike and Brian Scales
August 15, 2008
Brandon, Lucas and Tara,
We are so sorry about your mom. We didn't know her well, just through you guys and school events, but she was always smiling and so nice! We know this is very hard for you, but she'll always be with you.
If any of you ever want to get away, come on down to the beach, you have a place to stay.
James Steele III
August 15, 2008
Brandon, Luke, & Tara,
Though the miles and circumstances have separated us, I can remember one thing distinctly in my few visits back home; the warmth of a hello or a welcome from your mother, Mary Lou. My thoughts and prayers are with each of you.
James Steele III
August 15, 2008
Brandon, Luke, & Tara,
Though the miles and circumstances have separated us, I can remember one thing distinctly in my few visits back home; the warmth of a hello or a welcome from your mother, Mary Lou. My thoughts and prayers are with each of you.
gail wood
August 15, 2008
Brandon,Lucas, and Tara,
Your mother was a very special person, always willing to help others. My thoughts and prayers are with you...she will be missed...
"To live in the hearts of those we leave behind is not to die"
gail wood
Connie Burke
August 15, 2008
Brandon, Luke, & Tara,
No words can really express how difficult this time will be for all of you. Just know that she is always with you in your hearts and memories. She was someone that I admired and I will never forget our times together and I will never stop missing and loving her. She was such a blessing in my life. I am truly honored at having had her as one of my dearest and best friends. I've never known anyone with as much grace and dignity and courage as Marylou. No matter what her circumstances, she took care of everyone else and stayed strong through every storm in her life. She will be missed by many. I will be there for all three of you now and in the future. I couldn't possibly be as wonderful as she was but I will do my best to help all of you in any way that I can.
May God Bless and Keep You.
All my love, Connie
Marilyn (Race) Packer
August 15, 2008
Dear Brandon, Luke & Tara, Although I had you, Brandon, as a student in school, I had just gotten to know your Mom in the past couple of years. She was such an amazing and wonderful person in so many ways. And what a "trooper", the way she lived her life, always smiling, helping others, and never complaining. I am so sorry that you have lost your Mom at such a young age. It will always be a tribute to her that her 3 children are such good people. She did an amazing job raising you. She is "one in a million". Sorry that I will be out of town during her Memorial Service, but know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and that she is at peace.
chris bergman
August 14, 2008
Tara, Lucas, Brandon and Mrs Steele:
Mary Lou and I have been friends since High School. As I write this I am remembering all the zany things we did. All the times we laughed until we cried. She was a great friend who always had time to listen. We last spoke 2 weeks ago and I am grateful for having had that conversation. She loved you all so much. Her courage throughout these last 18 years has been an inspiration. She continued to find humor and continued to live life. I will always remember the cruise that we went on several years ago it was special. She will be missed but she will be with us giving us inspiration and courage in our lives.
Love
Chris Mcfall Bergman
Marge Corse
August 14, 2008
Tara, Brandon and Luke,
I was very sad to hear about your mom's passing. My heart goes out to you. I have worked with your mom for many years and have known her to be kind, caring and always willing to help in any way she could. She was one of a kind and will be missed by everyone who knew her. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.
Sharon, David, & Olivia Shadduck
August 14, 2008
Brandon, Luke, & Tara-
We are so sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. She put up one great fight, and maintained a smile throughout. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Kelsey Cortright
August 14, 2008
Tara and Family,
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you.
Love,
Kelsey Yetsko Cortright and Family
Sandy Blackwell
August 14, 2008
To Mary Lou's children: Please accept my sincere sympathy in the loss of your wonderful mom. She always helped me when I worked at Vestal. Hold all of those wonderful memories in your hearts.Sandy Blackwell
Peter Fedorchuk
August 14, 2008
To Mary Lou's family...
Mary Lou and I knew one another in college and I found her inner and outer beauty to be unequaled. Her dancing laugh will leave an emptiness in the sweet sounds of this world. Her courage over the last eighteen years was a tribute to her character and strength. I will miss sending her roses on her birthday each year, but her happiness now, above us all, is well-deserved and complete.
Enjoy the memories, as I will.
God Bless her.
Donna Allis
August 14, 2008
Tara,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mother. Hollie and I were just talking about how much fun she used to have at your house after school. Your Mother was always so thoughtful and kind to her. If there is anything we can do, please don't hesitate to ask.
Love - Donna Allis
Karla Lewis
August 14, 2008
Dear Brandon, Lucas, and Tara,
We're so sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. She was a warm, kind, and loving person. She will be missed by many. "There is no love like a Mother's Love" Our hearts go out to you.
Ted and Jo Jones
August 14, 2008
MaryLou is now with our heavenly father and is no longer suffering. Both of us knew that she suffered many years ago but was not inclined to show it. We feel certain that she would/will be pleased to see her children again if you will put your trust in the Lord Jesus Christ as she did.
We are praying for you in your loss.
Sharon Evans
August 14, 2008
Brandon, Luke, & Tara
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort. Your Mom was a very caring and generous person. She will be sadly missed .
Sincerely,
The Evans Family
Jeannette Tripicco
August 14, 2008
I am very sorry for your loss. She was a great person. We will all truly miss her. VCS
Anita and David Van Winkle
August 14, 2008
Mary Lou's courage, hard work, humor, great baking and generosity will always be remembered. We wish we could have done more for her.
Janet Race
August 14, 2008
I worked with Mary Lou a few years ago at the Vestal School Admin office. She was a wonderful person and a great co-worker. She has suffered way more, and much longer, than any person should suffer. She will be greatly missed. You have my deepest sympathy and may God Bless you in the days ahead. Take ONE day at a time.
frank Nabywaniec
August 14, 2008
You will be dearly missed by me ,your kindness,and helpful way was a gift to all who knew you.God bless you and keep you safe.
Joan Kovalich
August 14, 2008
Brandon, Luke & Tara,
Our deepest sympathy in the loss of your mother. She was a wonderful and beautiful person in every way, and an outstanding mother in the way she loved and raised you three. What a great loss to our neighborhood, and the world in general. Keep her fine example with you throughout your lives, and you will all do well.
Our condolences to all your family members,
Sincerely,
Clement & Joan Kovalich
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