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IRMGARD WESSEL

1925 - 2014

IRMGARD WESSEL obituary, 1925-2014, New Haven, CT

BORN

1925

DIED

2014

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New Haven, Connecticut

IRMGARD WESSEL Obituary

WESSEL, IRMGARD ROSENZWEIG Irmgard Rosenzweig Wessel, a clinical social worker and long-time New Haven resident, died Saturday (Sept. 20) at home. She was 88 years old, and had lung cancer. Irm, as she was widely known, Wessel was born in Kassel, Germany, on Nov. 12, 1925. After Kristallnacht in November 1938, her parents, Louis and Grete Kaufmann Rosenzweig, sent her to England on the Kindertransport, which brought nearly 10,000 predominantly Jewish children from Germany and neighboring countries to safety. When her boat docked in England at 6:30 AM on a cold morning, a group of ladies handed all the children metal cups of English tea and dry biscuits. In Irm’s words, “I don’t remember much, but it hit me at that moment that there must be a better way to help kids who were used to hot cocoa and freshly baked hard rolls. I think this was the start of my becoming a social worker.” It was a calling that lasted for more than 75 years, and a life that touched uncounted numbers of clients at Family Counseling of Greater New Haven, scores of friends for whom she was a constant confidante and counselor, a community that she sought tirelessly to change for the better and her loving family. After a 19-month separation, Wessel was reunited with her parents in 1940 in New York, sheltered by the American Friends Service Committee in Scattergood, Iowa, and eventually resettled in Eureka, Illinois, through the generosity of the members of the Eureka Christian Church (Disciples of Christ.) Irm attended Eureka College on a full scholarship, and graduated in 1947. She and another Eureka alumnus, Ronald Reagan, both received alumni awards of merit on the 50th anniversary of Reagan’s graduation. She later earned a Master’s in Social Work at Smith College School of Social Work, a degree of which she was very proud and an institution to which she was very loyal. In 2004, Smith recognized her with the Day-Garrett Award for distinguished service to the school and the profession. After a 10-year break from the workforce to be at home with her four children, Wessel returned to the practice of clinical social work in 1964 at Family Counseling of Greater New Haven, where she was on the staff for nearly 40 years. During that time, she served as president of the AFSCME Local 39 and was a trustee of the New Haven Central Labor Council. She also was active in several professional organizations, including the Connecticut Society for Clinical Social Work and the Council on Social Work Education and in various local community organizations including Aging at Home, the New Haven Community Soup Kitchen, the New Haven/Leon Sister City Project and the Greater New Haven Labor History Association. “In every conceivable way,” her social work colleagues, Barbara Berger and Ann Segal, write in a 2003 profile published in Clinical Social Work Journal, “has brought strength to those needing representation, increasing their power to be heard and effective. To ‘never to let it happen again,’ to mediate oppression when it does happen and to relieve the suffering of others are the driving forces in Irm’s life. ” Wessel is survived by her husband, Morris Wessel, a retired pediatrician, whom she first encountered when he was riding a bicycle down the corridors of the Mayo Clinic where they were both working. After a long engagement, they were married on June 1, 1952, at the Jewish Museum in New York where her uncle was a curator They lived in New Haven, Conn., for their entire marriage, nearly all of that time in the same house in Westville. Irmgard Wessel is survived by her husband and their children – David of Washington, D.C.; Bruce of Santa Monica, Calif.; Paul of New Haven, Conn., and Lois of Takoma Park, Md.– and eight grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. Her brother, Ernst Rosenzweig, died in 2011. Funeral services will be held at the Robert E. Shure Funeral Home, 543 George Street, New Haven, on Monday at 11 a.m. Internment will follow at B’Nai Jacob Memorial Park, Wintergreen Avenue, New Haven. The period of mourning will be private. Contributions, in lieu of flowers, may be made to the New Haven Community Soup Kitchen, the Leo Baeck Institute in New York, or the Morris and Irmgard Wessel Fund at the Community Foundation for Greater New Haven, which recognizes unsung heroes who are creatively and compassionately serving New Haven area families. www.shurefuneralhome.com
Published by The New Haven Register from Sep. 20 to Sep. 21, 2014.

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Ron

June 2, 2023

Irm was my therapist and helped me through a rough time in my life. She helped me get my life together. I will be forever grateful.

Joanne Palumbo

January 10, 2023

I worked with Irm at Family Counseling. Irm was more than a co-worker, she was a friend. Time passes- and tonight she came to mind and that brought a smile to my face remembering my friendship with Irm.

Judith Allen Harper

September 14, 2022

She was a beautiful woman.

Emily Mullins

September 14, 2022

This lady is special to me. She was my therapist in New Haven and she gave me hope at a very low time in my life. She encouraged me in my loneliness and confusion as I went through a painful divorce and showed me how to be a strong woman and a loving mother to my then 18 month old.
I think of her often and am a better person for knowing her.

Elaine Kolb

September 16, 2021

Hi Irm,
You are often in my mind & always in my heart. As you know from our countless therapy sessions & many phone calls, September has been an emotionally complicated month for me. Was so delighted to see you in person that last time we were together in person at Whitney Center. As the years fly by, you have been one of my touchstones & precious memories. Yes, I have had to do the work myself, for myself. Yet, you appeared & stayed in my life when I needed you most. Thank you & bless you always. YAY!!!

Judith Harper

September 17, 2020

A most beautiful woman. Proverbs 31 describes her perfectly.

Judy Harper

September 14, 2019

The Wessels were like family to my family, the Allens'. My mom cared for each of the children, as newborns and I became their babysitter. I saw Irm' as an example of what a loving, engaged mother should be. When I got married, while still in my teens, she provided the money for my wedding outfit and later, sold us our first car. Loved her and loved the family so very much.

Emily Mullins

November 8, 2014

Irm Wessel was my therapist when I was 21 years old. She saw me through a divorce, drug issues and taught me the responsibilities and joys of being a single mom. She cared about me at a time when I thought no one else did. She was an AMAZING love filled person and my life is better having had the Blessing to know her.

Elaine Kolb

October 30, 2014

For many years, Irm was my therapist, when I truly needed someone who could listen with respect, understanding & empathy. Like so many others connected to her in some way, her receptiveness, insight & encouragement helped me find my way through difficult times. Also, her sense of humor, zest for life, & passion for social justice forged bonds with many of us.

So, Irm, I will carry you with me in heart & mind. When needed, I'm sure I will still hear you gently asking, "So, what have you been doing for Elaine?" Yes, by my own efforts, along with your guidance, I have become a better, more caring friend to myself.

I will always love you.

Elaine

September 27, 2014

I remember Irm telling me the story of coming to America from Germany,as a child, without her parents or brother. The following day she took my hand and said, "I hope I didn't upset you". I'm not upset Irm. I'm honored to have had the privelege of your presence in my life, both professionally and personally.Your guidance, wisdom, and generosity of spirit continues to impact my life.

I have three sons and one daughter, just like Irm. We always shared family stories. She radiated pride in relating family events and happenings. Irm also understood the compleities of family life and was understanding and sympathetic regarding difficulties. For your kindness and support I remember you.

With gratitude and love,

Kathy Sinclair

Diane Rotnem

September 27, 2014

Clinical Social Workers. She was tireless in her energy for causes she was passionate about, esp. the civil,legal and human rights of the underserved. And yes, she was OPINIONATED...but she got things done! Now, I hope dear Irm, you may get some rest(in peace).You have served and cared for so many, more than you will ever know. We will all miss your presence and inspiration among our midst.

I am still suffering from the delusion that she and Morris will ALWAYS be there at 61 Elmwood where the door was always open and anyone was invited to come in for a visit while sharing a cup of tea/coffee.

The marginalized and underserved by our Society have lost a great advocate. The Clinical Social Work profession has lost one of its most stalwart leaders. Countless friends, colleagues and family have lost an
irreplaceable loved one who will remain forever in our hearts. She has had greater influence on this world than she will ever know. This world will miss you and your heroic humanitarian efforts. We all miss you.

Steven Wolfson

September 26, 2014

I am so sorry. Irm was a wonderful woman and a great spirit.
What a pair she and Morris made!
And what memories she leaves...
All the best,

September 25, 2014

Paul, please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your mother. She was a true force of good in the community. I hope that you are surrounded by family and friends at this time. - Robin Golden

Joanne Palumbo

September 22, 2014

I am saddened to hear of the loss of Irm. Irm and I worked together at Family Counseling of Greater New Haven and she was always such a caring and considerate person. I can remember her bringing in matzo crackers with butter, or her delicious sour cream coffee cake for us to enjoy. There are so many wonderful memories of Family Counseling- we were really like a family- and when we learned to facility was to close, Irm was devastated but worked extra hard to make sure our clients had someplace to go for continued care.
My sympathy to the family during this sad time and I pray you find strength in knowing that Irm has touched many, many lives such as myself.

September 21, 2014

Both Dr. And Mrs. Wessel were special friends of my parents, Rev. George and Aloyse Allen. Mrs. Wessel gave me my first babysitting job when I was just in my early teens. She was greatly loved and will be deeply missed. Judith (Judy) Harper

Pete & Patti & Trish Bianchi

September 21, 2014

Sorry for your loss. Our deepest sympathy

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