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Richard Nettleton Obituary

Richard Nettleton, born December 13, 1953, was taken from this life on May 31, 2019.
His father Rexford Nettleton preceded him in death on April 1, 2010. Left behind to hold him close in memory is his loving wife Sarah of 23 years, his sons Richard Jr. and Robert Nettleton, step-children Byron and Mary Elizabeth Browne, his mother Teresa Nettleton, 7 siblings and spouses, Diana and Bill, May and Mike, Sue and Carl, Eric and Donna, Mary and Marc, Dora and Don, Peter and Cheryl and many nieces and nephews. Despite the distance of time and miles, they were all held close in his mind and heart.
Richard was a dedicated Virginia Beach Design and Construction Manager in Public Utilities. Richard loved being an Engineer and loved his family. He was a steadfast, calm, committed man of action in his family life, in his military career, and in his municipal service.
Growing up around the country in a military family, Richard was the oldest of 8 children. His American father met his mother while stationed in Taiwan. Richard was proud of his Chinese Heritage on his mother's side. Richard later followed in his father's path serving his country and finished his 10 years of service as a Captain in the US Army's 84th Engineering Battalion. He moved to Norfolk with his family in 1987. In 1991 he began his service to the City of Virginia Beach.
Richard had a Masters in Engineering from UNH, an MBA from ODU, and was a member of the NSPE and the ASCE. He was a strong supporter of the Minority Business Expo and believed in professionalism, diversity and reaching out to all in the community. He looked forward to finishing his PhD so that he could teach others after retiring. He was hopeful for family times in retirement, traveling, working on cars and watching the New England Patriots and Boston Red Sox. Many remember him as just a really nice guy.
Coworkers have shared that he was a great leader who was highly regarded as one who put himself last on the list when others had a need. Rich always strived to be the better person and include everyone. He was all about the city and the best possible outcome for the citizens and was exceptionally proud of the engineers and the staff with whom he worked. He especially enjoyed mentoring other Engineers and treated everyone with fairness and kindness.
Richard's son Rick remembers his Dad as a kind, friendly and caring man. I remember on a company picnic with my brother and me, he smiled, waved and said hello to everyone that he saw...I now realize that we need more people in the world like him, that we should all strive to be more like the man he was. His wife Sarah remembers her husband: He was our strong, steady presence during every family challenge. He provided me with a safe place to land and never complained. � Richard and Sarah were looking forward to his retirement years where they could grow old together just doing the simple things they loved, walking at Botanical Gardens, day trips, visiting New Hampshire and continuing their love story that began 23 years ago. ""He was my rock, my protector, best friend and the love of my life.""�
A private memorial service will be held in Columbia, MD. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the ODU Engineering Scholarship Fund. Checks should be made out to the "Old Dominion Educational Foundation" with "In memory of Richard Nettleton" on the memo line. Send to: Old Dominion University Development Office, 4417 Monarch Way 4th Floor, Norfolk, VA 23529.
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Published by The Virginian-Pilot from Jun. 5 to Jun. 9, 2019.

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June 13, 2019

Rich was a great mentor and friend. He was one of the first engineers I met after graduation. His leadership and professionalism with ASCE, NSPE, and the regional standards left a significant impression on me. I will always remember his smile and kindness. He will be greatly missed.

Kim Butler
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Catherine LaBranche

June 11, 2019

My heartfelt sorrow and prayers to Rich's family. Rich was a man of true integrity, dedicated to his profession and public service to the City of Virginia Beach and the region. Rich was a great leader and a great teacher. I truly enjoyed working with Rich during my tenure with the CVB-Department of Public Utilities. Volunteering his time in so many ways one particularly his lunchtime professional engineering test preparation class. So many of his colleagues achieved their PE license because of Rich's assistance. Rest peacefully my friend and give my sister Mary Lou a kiss and hug from me. ❤

Scott Barnhill

June 9, 2019

Rich was a great guy. He gave me our first large contract when my company was less than 1 year old. He took a chance on me like he did many others. Kind, friendly and always with that smile and calm demeanor. He will be missed.

Don Gartrell

June 8, 2019

I had the honor of knowing and working with Rich as a consultant for the past 28 years. The photo of him says it all. Warm smile and a welcoming handshake. Rich will be missed by all who knew him.

Stacey Lowell

June 7, 2019

Rich,

My words just can't express the loss we all share. Your were a great boss. Your kindness you showed all your employees and that smile. You will be greatly missed through the city and the community. My thoughts and prayers are with your family at this difficult time.

Norbert Kuhn

June 7, 2019

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

C Alexander

June 7, 2019

I am so sorry for your tragic loss. My heart goes out to you and I pray for strength and healing.

June 7, 2019

I knew Rich during my entire employment with the City. He had a pleasant personality that you did not forget after meeting him. A very wonderful man to have been associated with. Sarah, may God hold you and your family close and may you realize his peace in this trying time.

God Bless,
Waid and Linda Kidd

Ken Dierks

June 7, 2019

There are people in this world who, by their kind, gentle nature and good humor, are a joy to be around. Rich was one of those people. Always ready with a smile and warm greeting, he was a friend, a true professional and a wonderful human being. He will be missed by all who knew him. My prayers to his family.

Ken Dierks

June 7, 2019

My thoughts and prayers are with all of Rich's love ones. May you know the God is holding you all in his arms at this time.

I had the pleasure of working with Rich in Public Works and Public Utilities. He was always so cheerful and pleasant to be around. He taught and lead me in new experiences in Pubic Utilities. He was a great man.


Kelly Horton

Mack Homsi

June 7, 2019

Will surely miss Richard's unique smile and lovely personality...I'm thankful for knowing Richard through the different engineering societies we shared...Praying for the Lord's comfort and peace to shield the family and friends as they grieve such a great man...Mack Homsi

June 6, 2019

I knew Rich casually for 25 years, mostly from his work on the HRUCA Standards Committee and as a developer trying to work through permitting at the City. Although we did not always agree on the issues, he was always kind, respectful and well spoken. He was usually in good humor and innovative in his approach to finding solutions others did not see. He was a true credit to the Engineering profession and municipal employees. As June said, the world needs more Rich Nettletons in it. His absence will leave holes in many lives...Rest easy, my friend.

Bob Sciacchitano

June 6, 2019

We worked on many initiatives over the years, including the last 21 years on the Regional Construction Standards where Rich was serving as Chairperson of the governing body. His leadership touched the entire region where respect for everyone and consensus building was his trademark style. We all will miss your calm demeanor and your friendship.

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Petia Downey

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BRENDA JORDAN

June 6, 2019

While I worked for PWEng, Mr. Nettleton always flashed his smile and said hello every time he passed my desk. I do pray that God will grant you the comfort that you seek. May the memories keep him close to your heart.

Gerald Grier

June 6, 2019

I knew Rich, as everyone called him, as a kind person who spoke to all. When I would see him in the hallway he always smiled and spoke, as did I. Through the years we would see one another at City functions and still Rich would be smiling. I am now retired but will never forget Rich. I'm am truly sorry for the family's loss. I will miss him. His family is in my prayers. God bless.

June 6, 2019

Working with Rich on the ASCE Norfolk Branch Board of Directors was a wonderful honor. Loved his dedication to the engineering profession. He will be sincerely missed. - Debra Brand

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Jim Earley

June 6, 2019

Sarah,
It was one of the greatest honors of my life to have been your pastor for a few years at Park Place UMC. Rich's wonderful baritone voice, his laughter and smile that would light up any room, and your devotion to each other and your extended family were such an inspiration to me and many others. I will always be grateful for the myriad of ways you embraced us and included Phyllis and me in your life. If there is anything I can do for you, any way I might be a vessel of grace to you in this difficult passage, I hope you'll contact me via Tabernacle UMC in Poquoson.... just a short way across the HRBT.

D JOHNSON

June 6, 2019

I'M A NEWPORT.NEWS RESDIENT..BUT I'M SENDING LOVE..N PEACE.TO HIS FAMILY.FREINDS N CO-WORKERS..GOD WILL COMFORT.YOU IN THE TRYING DAYS.AHEAD..PRAYERS ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY DURING THIS MOST DIFFICULT TIME ..MAY HE ALWAYS HAVE HEAVENLY..PEACE

Francina Harrison

June 6, 2019

I served with Richard on the Minority Business Council and so enjoyed THAT SMILE, his charm, jokes, laughter and we both LOVED our New England Teams. What an amazing fellow and such a nice guy with a powerful spirit! This is tough... as I was so looking forward to seeing him at our annual MBC retreat. Praying for his family as they get through this moment by moment, day by day. God grant them peace as they tarry through this!!!

Greg Lonergan

June 6, 2019

Richard and I became good friends when he started with the City. Even decades after I left the City, he would give me a warm welcome whenever we ran into each other. Just a great person all around! My prayers to you and your entire family.

STEPHEN BOYCE

June 6, 2019

Rich was a pleasure to work with, and to chat with.

Barbara Duke

June 6, 2019

Rihard was always such a positive influence on his co-workers. I am very sorry for your incredible loss. Please take comfort in his legacy of goodness and light. He shared both with me and I am grateful to have known him

Kathy Baumgardner

June 6, 2019

My deepest sympathy for your loss.

Susan D

June 6, 2019

Today and always, may loving memories bring you peace, comfort, and strength.

June 6, 2019

I worked with Rich at PU and PW and found him to be the most polite, patient and friendly human being. He was also the absolutely best dressed. My heart goes out to his family and my wish for you Rich is that you are with the angels above and in God's arms.

Jayne

Kathy Hevey

June 5, 2019

Rich touched so may people in the City and his presence made such a difference. He was always smiling and so positive. A very special man, leader and co-worker! He will be greatly missed by his City family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

June 5, 2019

I worked on many developments that impacted his highway projects. He ALWAYS had time for me and together we solved access problems, etc... He never talked down to me and treated he as a fellow professional, and I always walked away with a little more knowledge... He was an incredibly genuine human being.

John & Anita Monroe

June 5, 2019

We are so sorry for the loss of your husband and father. Praying sweet memories and peace for you all.

Carei Powell

June 5, 2019

Rest in peace and love.

Eric Hartman

June 5, 2019

I worked with Rich at Public Utilities. Rich was always great to work with. He always made time to stop and chat. I will miss his smile. My sincere condolences to his family.

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Heather Bush

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June 5, 2019

I did not know Richard but it sounds like he was a wonderful member of the Virginia Beach community who will be sorely missed. My thoughts and prayers are with those who knew him well; may they have peace during this trying time. -RP (Norfolk, VA)

June 5, 2019

I have worked with Rich my entire WPL career. He worked with the NVBCL on so many projects at the North End. He was always so very kind. The guy that would smile when he saw you in the hallway and greeted you like an old friend. I remember countless interviews in front of him for projects where he would always make you feel so comfortable and be the first laugh when laughter was needed.

God called him home but I am very grateful to have been a small part of his story.

Godspeed Rich

Billy Almond
WPL

Daren Williams

June 5, 2019

I send my condolences and prayers to the family. Rich was a mentor to the Hampton Roads, Virginia Civil Engineering community. He served as a Professor at Tidewater Community College and Old Dominion University ASCE Student Chapter Practitioner Adviser. He would volunteer his lunch hour to lead training sessions for Public Utilities Engineers In Training to pass the Civil Engineering Professional Engineers Exam. He also volunteered at Equi Kids and Equi Vets on Sandbridge Rd on the United Way Day of Caring every September. Rich could have volunteered for a Leadership role, since he wore a tie every day and was the Public Utilities Design and Construction Manager. But he would grab a weed eater and trim around the fence on the Day of Caring.

John Dano

June 5, 2019

My thoughts and prayers are with Rich's family and friends. I was blessed to meet Rich on my first day of work at the City back in 1997; Rich sat across the hall from me and served as a mentor and friend. We worked together, kayaked together, played volleyball; he attended my wedding and was wonderful role model and friend. I will cherish the memories of these great times.

Matthew Williford

June 5, 2019

Rich, words can not describe my sorrow. You were a great boss and friend. I will always have fond memories of you. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. I know you are at peace in heaven.

June 5, 2019

I have known Richard 28 years. Met with him many times both in the office and outside. ALWAYS enjoyed our conversations and found him to be a really good man.
So sorry.
God bless and comfort you.
Steve Edwards
Cathy Edwards

June Barrett-McDaniels

June 5, 2019

Rich always smiled, and greeted everyone in any room. He was full of lively conversation and full of kindness. We need more Rich Nettletons in the world. My heart goes out to Sarah, and to his whole family. He will be sorely missed.

Sandy MacKay

June 5, 2019

My heart aches for such a beautiful Municipal family member

June 5, 2019

Losing someone that we love never comes easy.
It is truly heartbreaking. May God's promises in
Isaiah 65:17 comfort and help you.

Phil Hubbard

June 5, 2019

I worked with Rich in Public Utilities. He was a kind and gentle person. Always had something nice to say to me and he will be missed greatly.
Please know the Pubic Utilities family morns the loss of Rich. May god bless you in your time of loss.

Ellen Montemurno

June 5, 2019

My deepest sympathies and condolences. I am so sad that a wonderful pillar of our Virginia Beach community was stolen from us. May you be comforted by the love and support you have in this community.

Valerie Henchel

June 5, 2019

Rich & I both originally came to the City around the same time (w/in months) back in 1986/1987. At that time he was working in PW & back in those days, we did play some volleyball together. Most recently, he was on the interview panel for my return to the City & I remember being quite pleased to know I had a fan when I walked into the room. Then just a couple months ago he helped me with a personal PU problem when a water valve across the street was leaking & after two calls through normal channels hadn't provided any action. He had actually been looking for someone else in our Traffic Engineering office that day & just stopped in my office to chat it up with me. He was a great guy. He will be missed.
VB

anne

June 5, 2019

I am very sorry for your loss. He always made me smile at work and his positive attitude was infectious. I will miss you friend.

Bob Miller

June 5, 2019

Rich always had a smile and usually a very helpful answer to all of us who knew him. In life we are given many friends and a few special friends! Rich was a special friend and that cannot be taken away! God bless and hold you tight! Bob Miller

June 5, 2019

May God comfort you and give you peace during this most difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. May God bless each and every one of you.

Nelson Newhouse

June 5, 2019

I served with Rich in the 84th Engr. Bn. in Hawaii. Although it's been many years and our paths never crossed again, I immediately remembered his calm, friendly and professional presence, setting a fine example for fellow officers and worthy of the respect from the soldiers under his command. Tragic loss to all around him. Thoughts and prayers to is family. "Never Daunted" my friend.

Willamae Johnson

June 5, 2019

My heart goes out to the family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Rich was such a kind person. He would always wave, say hello, and smile whenever I saw him anywhere in the building. He was friendly to everyone. I pray for God's comfort and strength for each of you.

Bonnie Prestridge

June 5, 2019

Sarah, I add my name to the many friends and acquaintances who hold you and your family in prayer, for lack of anything more we can do to ease your grief. Such a tragic loss affects us all, and we grieve with you. May God bless and comfort you.

Dave Plum

June 5, 2019

Rich, you will be forever missed by all. I am fortunate I had the opportunity to know and work with you for many years. I will always remember your smile, outgoing personality and willingness to help others. You left this life way to soon as I know there many great thing you wanted to accomplish. May God bless you and your family. Farewell my friend and colleague.

Debbie Harris

June 5, 2019

I am so sorry for your loss

James White

June 5, 2019

I did not work directly with Rich, but we always exchanged 'hellos' and had pleasant small talk. He will be deeply missed. Thoughts and prayers are with the Nettleton family.
Sincerely,
Jim and Beth White

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