Berthe Meijer

Berthe Meijer

Berthe Meijer Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jul. 11, 2012.
Amsterdam (AP) - Dutch Jewish author Berthe Meijer, whose life intersected with Anne Frank's, has died. She was 74.

Her husband, Gary Goldschneider, said Wednesday that Meijer died of cancer July 10.

Before the war, Meijer lived on the same Amsterdam street in a Jewish neighborhood where Frank attended a Montessori school. Their families both attempted to hide during the Nazi occupation of the Netherlands, but were caught and deported. They were imprisoned in Bergen-Belsen at the same time, though Meijer was years younger.

While Frank died just two weeks before the camp was liberated in 1945, Meijer survived.

In 2010, Meijer published a memoir titled "Life After Anne Frank," with the intention of comparing her own post-war fortunes as perhaps resembling what might have happened to Frank, had she lived.

Meijer's post-war life was far from easy. She had some success as a writer, but her emotional scars never healed.

For bette r or worse, Meijer's decision to compare herself to Frank - whose diary has become the most-read document to emerge from the Holocaust - overshadowed the rest of Meijer's memoir, at least initially. Meijer endured withering skepticism over a claim in the book that Frank entertained her and other Dutch-speaking children with fairytales while in the camp.

However, key parts of her story held up to scrutiny, including testimony from other survivors that Anne and Margot Frank, among others, sometimes took care of Dutch children while in the camp; that in addition to her diary, Frank had once attempted writing fairytales; and that a child of Meijer's age - she was 7 years old when the camp was liberated - could indeed have formed memories of the experience, having known Frank passingly before the war.

With her parents dead, Meijer grew up in a Jewish orphanage and had uncomfortable relationships with relatives who survived.

But she said she was determined to make something of herself.

"I thought it would be too much of an honor to the people who caused me so much grief to let myself be crushed," she said at her book launch in 2010.

As a young adult, she married and lived with her husband in the same apartment building with two of the Netherlands' most prominent writers.

In mid-life, she became a columnist for the NRC Handelsblad newspaper, and a collection of her recipes were published as a popular cookbook in the 1980s.

After a divorce, she had a stormy three-year relationship with another Holocaust survivor - who was one of the country's most famous journalists.

Then she met Goldschneider, a mercurial American-born author and musician, in 1986. They remained together in relative happiness, he said Wednesday.

"She had ecstatic times, but also very dark periods," he said. "When a life is tarnished, damaged, marred like that, it can't be normal."

She hated crowds, and riding a train or bus was an experience that could end in panic.

In a 2010 interview, she said that one of her primary requirements in a house was that it have good escape routes and hiding places.

Asked about whether her current residence had a hiding place, she gleefully exclaimed, "oh, one of the best I've ever had."

Walking into her basement, she proudly uncovered a nondescript ventilation shaft that spread out into an area big enough to fit three or four people.

Meijer said one of the things she hoped her book might accomplish was simply to show people with traumas in their past that others had experienced similar things.

"That might offer a little comfort. A little," she said.

She decided to write the book after a visit to Bergen-Belsen, but she was skeptical about writing as therapy.

"All the people who assured me that this was the opportunity to make peace with my past didn't know what they were talking about," she wrote in the book's concluding lines .

"There is no peace. It will remain war until my death."

She is survived by Goldschneider, a sister, a son and two grandchildren.

TOBY STERLING, Associated Press


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Arva Bottley

July 14, 2012

With your job done ,Now you can go home, tell Everone will'll see them them someday

T B

July 12, 2012

I am glad only in the fact that you may now release the war. However, I am greatly saddened by the loss of another first-hand voice of that time. Thank you for painting a more realistic picture of recovery from trauma (if you can really call it recovery what all of you endured). God Bless and my condolences to the family.

July 12, 2012

May you finally find peace in your life

Barb

July 12, 2012

With deepest sympathy to family and friends of Berthe Meijer and please find comfort in Gods inspired Word the Bible (2 Timothy 3:16).

Linda

July 12, 2012

My deepest sympathy for your loss. As you deal with your grief; May you receive comfort from family,friends and God's WORD.(Psalm 94:19) . . .When my disquieting thoughts became many inside of me, Your own consolations began to fondle my soul."

July 12, 2012

We can definitely say that Berthe lived a life of endurance. Romans 15:33

Gail Koppelman

July 12, 2012

You will be missed so much..~The Koppelman's

Nancy Carlisle

July 12, 2012

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Cheryl Bean

July 11, 2012

I hope you are at peace now. Emotional scars know no class distinctions and have far reaching consequences. Prayers for your family, friends and many fans!

July 11, 2012

God bless your family during your time of loss. May you be comforted by knowing Berthe is at peace & how much she helped inspire other people through her experience. She took a horrible tragedy & used it to do something profoundly positive.

Adrian

July 11, 2012

“Be courageous and strong.” When your strength is gone and your endurance tested, “do not suffer shock or be terrified, for Jehovah your God is with you wherever you go.”–Jos 1:9..
With Deep Sympathy,

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Aharon Shefi

July 11, 2012

Dear Gary, It is so sad to hear and read that our dear friend Berthe is no more with us. We got a call from the Galey Zahal Radio in Tel-Aviv, to recieve the sad news. Our hearts are with you. Edna and Aharon

July 11, 2012

you need not fear anymore. you are with your protector, family and friends. have everlasting peace with your maker.bless you family in their time of sorrow.
HAROLD & SHERRY RIGGINS ALPINE, ALA.

July 11, 2012

With deepest sympathy to the Meijer family during your time of grief...Psalm 46:1...God is for us a refuge and strength, A help that is readily to be found during difficult times...May God provide you with peace and comfort to endure the days ahead.

Sam Lane

July 11, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. She is in a better place now (:

Faustina Beninato

July 11, 2012

I do not know you Mrs. Meijer, but I would like to say that you should be commended for all your accomplishments despite the suffering you endured at the hands of Nazis.

You are an inspiration to all humans who pose restrictions on themselves when if comes to being successful in life.

You are the reason why they should not have excuses for making the effort.

Thank you Mrs. Meijer for your contribution to society.

July 11, 2012

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

T.J.

July 11, 2012

Rest now, and be at peace...

July 11, 2012

God bless The Meijer family during their time of loss. May God give you peace, strength and comfort your hearts.

Nikki Davis

July 11, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. May the God of comfort, comfort your family during this difficult time.

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