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Rich Walker
September 11, 2024
Never forgotten.
Pastor Fritz Gerald Francois
September 20, 2020
I migrated to the Bahamas in 1999. I attended Maranatha SDA church when I met pastor Roach who was the pastor of Maranatha at that time. I spoke to him saying "I would like to go to study." I myself, I wanted to go back to Haiti to study, but for him he saw Jamaica would be better for. I wanted to go for teaching or computer science, but for him-Pastor H. A. Roach, he saw me in ministry. .
So, before I knew it, he called me to give the application for Northern Caribbean University which he went to Bahamas Academy himself and got it for me.
Beside him been my MENTOR, we were once prayer partners.
Through his leadership in that capacity, I became prayer coordinator for the North Bahamas Conference as well. For him I was not a Haitian, I was a HUMAN BEING!
On behalf of my wife Wilnise, my two children-Gabriel and Hadassah, we want to convey our deep sympathy and sincere CONDOLENCES to his dear wife sister Olga, and his children and the his entire family.
Mommy Olga, and the entire family, we will continue to pray your strength in the Lord-who is the God of all COMFORTS!
Pastor Fritz Gerald Francois
Rich Walker
September 19, 2019
I hope that you are enjoying the view!
The Earth remembers
Alfred Nicolosi
September 18, 2019
I visited the 9/11 Memorial on this beautiful September morning 18 years after Steve was taken in the prime of his life. The sky was blue like eternity. Steve's name caught my eye. As I read his story online, I imagined his children grown, their joys forever tempered by their loss. To all of Steve's family, please know that his memory is a blessing to strangers like me who lovingly touch the letters of his name engraved in the granite memorial. Steve continues to inspire us to live fully in the moment.
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Rich Walker
September 10, 2018
Hope the family is all well. Miss people like you, Roachie.
September 12, 2012
Not a day goes by we don't think about you Stephen
Your biggest sister
Rich Walker
September 11, 2012
Thinking of Steve, and you all today.
Rich Walker, RHC member
Rich Walker
September 12, 2011
The days crawl by, while the years fly. I hope you are all doing well
Ben Pratt
September 11, 2011
I knew Steve through his work. I was a customer of Cantor. He came out to Chicago once and took me out for some drinks and dinner about a year before 9/11. I loved the guy. He talked so much about his wife and kids and he was just fun to be around. I even remember him telling some stories about his father in-law. I think of him often, but especially today.
Amy Rinkus
September 11, 2011
Mrs. Roach and children. I am thinking of your family today. I am a close childhood friend of Maura Roach and I can recall the day I went to a medium in NH after 9/11 and he was telling me I have a friend who has a relative who passed at the World Trade Center...and he is trying to get a message to his family. "He wanted me to tell my friend, her two sisters and two brothers to tell his family he was ok" brought tears to my eyes then, and brings tears to my eyes now. Maura is my only friend with that amount of siblings. I remember calling her right afterwards and telling her. I have not gone to a medium since..but his words stick in my head like it was yesterday. God Bless.
Eileen Peterson
April 28, 2011
Mrs. Roach & family: You don't know me. I am sending this note to say that with honor and respect I have been wearing a silver bracelet with your husband's name Stephen Louis Roach WTC etched on it during these past 10 years. I cannot imagine what your and your family went through on that horrible day but just know that your husband will never be forgotten
Rich Walker
September 11, 2010
Thinking of you and your family today. I've been out to Montclair quite a few times to tee it up, and I always mention Roachie to those I'm with.
God Bless.
Maura Roach Butler
September 11, 2010
Remembering you today cousin Stephen. Still doesn't seem real:( Love and peace to you and your family.
Cheryl Dwyer
September 10, 2010
Thinking of you today. I remember clearly not only 9-11-01 but the minute I got word you were gone. Your memorial mass in Scituate was beautiful and I will cherish that time in church with literally hundreds of people that loved you and miss you. God Bless your family.
Cheryl Dwyer (Noble)
Rich Walker
September 12, 2009
I often think of the laughs we shared, and how the world is worse off that you're not still in it. I hope your family is doing well.
September 11, 2009
Thinking of you today....God Bless.
Mike Roach
Quincy, MA
Brett
September 10, 2009
Stephen, I often think of you and what an honor it was to be a part of your memorial, listening to all of the wonderful stories of love those who knew you shared. You are still missed.
Rich Walker
September 11, 2008
Gone but not forgotten. I hope you are all doing well - turns out we know the Ross family from your country club, and have spoken of Steve fondly, and often.
Anita (Jones) Vasiloff
September 11, 2008
Stephen,
Its been 7 years since you left us. Memories of Scituate when we were kids come to my mind. Your great infectious laugh. The way you turned bright red when you were embarrassed.... Your smile. We miss you and wish your family peace and love.
kristine
April 17, 2007
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
February 18, 2007
In memory....
John Devine
March 8, 2006
Roachie-
You will always be remembered as a man with a great sense of humor! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
God Bless,
John Devine
Paula Durkin
July 19, 2005
With the recent passing of your Mom, thinking of you and your family again.
The Durkins.
Michael Roach
September 11, 2004
Three years ago today watching the tragedy of September 11th unfold via the internet was unlike any other day I've seen. Today I log on to remember and pay respects to those lost. Especially to my cousin Stephen. Although time and circumstances put space between us, you will never be forgotten, and always fondly remembered. Unfortunately we never found out too much about each other while you were here, but it has been with pride that I read and learn more about what a wondeful father, brother, son, husband and leader you were. God Bless your soul.
Love,
Michael
David Yeoh
September 12, 2003
The last time I was his caddy, I thought, "what a nice guy." That day, he turns to the rest of the foursome he was golfing with, pats me on the shoulder and said aloud, " I like my caddy!"
I will remember him that way; always a great, nice and generous person.
Maura (Roach) Butler
September 11, 2003
Stephen was my cousin. Before Sept. 11th I had not seen him for several years. Two things helped fill in the gap of all those years: The funny and wonderful things his friends said about him at the Funeral Mass in Scituate two years ago, and the big collages of pictures of him displayed at The Scituate Country Club where family and friends gathered after the Mass(especially the one of him and Grammie Roach). It is the two year anniversary today and it amazes me how throughout the year you forget for a little while, and on this day it all comes back and hits you like a ton of bricks. Stephen, I will say a prayer for you and your family today. Love, Maura
Julie and Jim Woodward
September 11, 2003
Dear Isabel,
Our family and church is praying for you today. Tonight there will be a September 11 memorial service at 7pm at the First United Methodist Church in Coppell, Texas where songs and Scripture will be lifted up in honor of your family and all of the families who are grieving because of September 11, 2001.
Jim wants you to know that Stephen was known as a "world class" person by his friends at the Montclair Golf Club. I understand he was a very good golfer and loved the game, but more importantly he really cherished his family.
We are so sorry for your loss, and offer this Scripture of hope for you: Lamentations 3:21-24 This I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, "The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for Him."
God bless you all,
Julie, Jim, Jamie, Jack, and Jodie Woodward
Rich Bolton
December 31, 2002
Rest in Peace Buddy
peter mendez
September 16, 2002
i can never imagigtion this ever happneing my deepest simathy that you and your family have suffered this trmendous lose there are no words to express your tagity my prayers are with u and your family always. peter mendez south florida carpenters regional concil reperesintive.
Viviane Roach
September 14, 2002
Recently I attended a rememberance service in my hometown. There was a wall with the names of all those who were taken on 9/11. I found Stephen's name there. I had been unaware that anyone with my own name had perished. It made all of this much more personal for me.
To his wife, children and family, I will include you in my prayers. You have my sympathy.
Anita (Jones) Vasiloff
September 13, 2002
Stephen and I were friends growing up in Scituate. He was everyone's friend - we used to get a kick out of making him laugh - just to hear him laugh "that laugh," or to make his face (and ears) turn bright red by playing a prank, or telling a joke of some Junior High mindset.
To get both at the same time was indeed a treat... hard to forget those crimson ears.
I moved to Florida in 79, and heard from Stephen from time to time. Scituate was a great place in which to be raised - in a time where kids could be outside until after dark playing kick-the-can, or tunnel tag without fear of anything or anyone. Perhaps ice skate on Greenbush Pond until the third call from a mother somewhere up the trail beckons them home.
We'll see you some day, Stephen, I'll try to teach you to ice-fish again sometime. Please try to keep your foot out of the hole next time... hard to catch anything that way, ya know?
Your old friend, and fellow blusher,
Anita
Chad Kearsley
September 11, 2002
Today I had the honor to wear Stephen's name on a badge while I sang Mozart's "Requiem" with 250 other singers, the North Carolina Symphony, and four professional soloists as part of a project called "The Rolling Requiem". The concert began at 8:46 am this morning and was a tribute to those who our nation lost in the tragedy of 9/11.
I was honored to pay tribute to Stephen through music. Before singing, I knew nothing about Stephen but throughout the concert kept returning in my mind again and again to Stephen's name, wondering who he was, what he experienced. When I came back to my office, I looked up Stephen's name on the Internet and found this site and the CNN tribute.
Several coincidences struck me as I read about Stephen. Some of them could have been about myself. Stephen was 36 years old. I am 36. Stephen loved golf. I love golf. Stephen had a great sense of humor. I've been told I do as well. Stephen focused on being a father, husband, and friend three areas of my life I strive to be better at.
This experience brought home to me the tragedy of 9/11 in a more personal way.
Whether or not one believes in coincidence doesn't really matter, a connection between myself and Stephen has occured. May God bless him and all of his loved ones.
John Rafter
September 11, 2002
My son, Jesse, was a third grade classmate of Mackenzie's. We moved from the Afterglow neighborhood in June of 2001 and only just learned of this loss to her and her family. Jess wanted me to say he was sorry.
Beth
September 9, 2002
On Sept. 8, 2002, Bay Ridge Brooklyn had a Memorial walk for the victims of 9/11. My family and I felt it would be a good way to show our support in remembering. I was very honored to have carried Stephen Roach's name for the memorial.
To Stephen's family and friends, I am so sorry for your loss. I will be including you in my prayers.
Emma Walker
September 8, 2002
Late last year I purchased a Mercy Band bracelet. When it arrived it was engraved with Mr. Roach's name and WTC. For the longest time I wondered about Mr. Roach and his family, what he had done, how much I may have had in common with him. Recently a friend steered me to this website, and after reading all of the nice things and rememberences here, I really begin to feel a loss that I never knew Mr. Roach. I just want you to know that I think about you and your family every day when I put the bracelet on. May God be with you all and help you to be strong.
Julie Roach
May 31, 2002
Yesterday was the final day of clean up at ground zero. Stephen was my cousin and even though I did not see him for a few years (probably since Gerry's wedding) there is a family bond of flesh and blood that can never be broken even in his passing. I am deeply saddened every time I am reminded of his and others deaths. I love you Stephen.
Julie Roach
Kristen Fitzgerald
May 28, 2002
To the Roach Family,
You have my deepest sympathy. I did not know Mr. Roach very well but I have heard nothing but wonderful things about him. The way Eileen talks about him it seems as he was the most wonderful person in the world. God bless the Roach family!
Kristen Fitzgerald
May 28, 2002
To the Roach Family,
You have my deepest sympathy. I did not know Mr. Roach very well but I have heard nothing but wonderful things about him. The way Eileen talks about him it seems as he was the most wonderful person in the world. God bless the Roach family!
Tom Kelleher
May 28, 2002
Stephen Louis Roach
Delivered in Montclair, New Jersey on September 21, 2001 by Tom Kelleher of Wilton, Connecticut
I need to begin by apologizing to Roachie. Roachie, I wrote this a few days ago while sitting on your back patio. There were two things missing out there – you and a bottle of red wine. You always told me not to cheat myself, so I solved one of those problems by digging very, very deeply into your wine cellar. I hope you don’t mind.
When I was growing up my father told me that in life if I were to have even one friend so close and dear to me that I could trust that person with every aspect of my life then I should consider myself a lucky man. Because of the relationship I had with Stephen, I stand here today a profoundly more fortunate person than my father had envisioned when he said that I would be lucky.
Stephen was a truly extraordinary person. If I were summoned to deliver a eulogy for anyone else I would probably say the same thing; however, as all of you know, in this instance, it’s actually the truth. He was absolutely extraordinary in every facet of his life.
It was not particularly difficult for me to figure out what to say about Stephen today. I’ll just say what I know he wanted me to say. He loved his family, he loved his friends and he loved life. I know this to be true not only through witnessing his actions but also through hearing his words. Stephen took every opportunity he had to tell me who he was. In his more introspective moments he would frequently refer to himself in the third person. On countless occasions I heard him say to me, “Hey, Ern. Fill up your glass. We need to go outside and talk about Roachie.” Whatever those conversations might have been about, at some point he would always say, “You wanna know what Roachie’s all about. I’ll tell you what Roachie’s all about. Roachie’s about family and Roachie’s about friends. Period.” Then he’d tell me in no uncertain terms how much he loved his wife, his children, his parents, his brother, his sisters, Isabel’s entire family and me. And then he’d kiss me and fill our glasses.
Stephen was a man of uncompromising loyalty, outstanding decency and he was utterly devoted to and profoundly proud of his wife and his children. He was an honest, honorable and generous person and his extraordinary strength of character will live on in Isabel, Mackenzie, Eileen and Stephen.
Stephen was immensely proud of his colleagues and friends from Cantor Fitzgerald and Garban. He understood that it was their focused and united efforts working as a team that created an environment where they could honestly and successfully provide for their families. Roachie was always a team player and to them he was very thankful.
He will be sorely missed, but make no mistake. Roachie made certain that he will not be forgotten. We all have Roachie stories. He took his outrageous and hilarious behavior around the globe, ensuring that the stories will be told forever on at least four continents. To lighten the mood I was tempted to tell a few Roachie stories today, but I soon realized that the best ones cannot be recounted in this building. We’ll just have to wait until later.
In closing, I’d like to say something to Stephen. I love you and don’t cheat yourself up there, Roachie!
April 9, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL MAN STEPHEN LOUIS ROACH AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS LOVING FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE..PRAY..AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK FOREVER...MAY JESUS AND ST.STEPHEN GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Tammy Mac Lean
March 11, 2002
I am as shocked and saddened today, exactly six months later, as I was in September to learn that someone I had sat next to in numerous business classes at St. A's had lost their life in such a tragic and violent way. May your family, friends, faith, and memories support you in the wake of your terrible loss.
Tammy Mac Lean
St.Anselm College, class of 1986
Paul & Peg Devine
February 11, 2002
We lived in Scituate Ma. for many years before moving North. Our deepest sympathy to Isabel and the entire Roach family.Our son John and Stephen were good friends at S.H.S.God bless and keep you Stephen.Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Sarah Laubner
February 11, 2002
To Isabel and the Roach Family,
I was in the Saint Anselm 1986 class with Steve and my brother-in-law, Jon Story, grew up in Scituate and lives their now with my sister and their two sons. Although I did not know Steve very well, you pretty much knew everyone by sight at a small school like St. A's. I am terribly sorry for your loss. Sarah Laubner
Valerie Joseph
February 6, 2002
To Isabel and family,
While we have never met, my daughter-in-law Tammy Nigra works for your good friend Kelly. I wanted to extend my deepest sympathy to you and your family with the loss of your husband. I hope you were able to get a copy of the message on your cell phone. I know my company (Verizon Wireless) was retrieving them for anyone who had a message from a loved one.
Again my deepest sympathy.
Valerie Joseph
Becky Roelle
February 1, 2002
After reading all the tributes to Stephen, I feel such a loss that I didn't know him! Yesterday I received a gift from my sister, a beautiful bracelet called a "Mercy Band". Engraved on it is Stephen's name with WTC under his name. I will wear this bracelet proudly, and tell everyone that asks what a wonderful husband, father, son, brother, and friend Stephen was. God Bless You All!
Michelle Ressy-Zazzera
February 1, 2002
Although we are neighbors and we've never met, Philip Zazzera of the Verona Fire Dept. and I want to extend our deepest sympathies to the entire Roach family.
Brett Kane
January 26, 2002
Seeing how many people have shared their thoughts and feelings, makes one realize just how much impact that a positive spirit like Stephen's can leave on the world. My fondest memory of Stephen Roach will always be him harrassing me to "sing one more song!", under the olive branches in Italy after my sister's wedding. I often find myself humming softly with thoughts of someone I did not even know that well, but whom I mourn through music when the moment seizes me...
this song's for you, Stephen.
Beth Noonan
January 16, 2002
Stephen made the '95 reunion FUN...thanks for "convincing" the D.J. to stay so late and keep the party going!
Beth and Karen will miss you, as will many from the class of "86.
frank stone
January 16, 2002
Quick Thoughts and memories about Steve :
200 % effort,full speed,
Tiger who ? , no excuses,
no ties,never met a stranger,can do ,wiil do,you're ok/I'm ok,
always a smile,I'm busy but I can help,raw energy,always a good time,"Good Joe", let me tell you about my Family.........................
WE SHOULD ALL LEARN FROM HIS ATTITUDE WHICH STANDS AS QUITE A LEGACY !
BLESSINGS ON YOU ,FRANK STONE
Keiren O'Connell
January 10, 2002
To the Roach Family,
My most sincere thoughts and prayers in your loss......now and forever.
Keiren O'Connell and family
mona lynch
January 7, 2002
It has been a very long time since I lived in Scituate, MA...the years, and just life in general, have taken me far from the little south shore community I grew up in. When I heard from my brother (still a Scituate resident) that Steve had been lost at the WTC I immediately remembered him and pulled out a tattered year book from Gates Intermediate School circa 1976-78. I moved on to a different high school and only knew Steve for a couple of years a very long time ago, but I do remember him well, feel fortunate to have shared some time with him and am so terribly sorry to hear that he is gone~
I join the others here and elsewhere in extending my heartfelt sympathy to his family....
Jim McGinley
January 7, 2002
I had the pleasure of meeting Steve at his first job out of college-Manufacturers Hanover. Steve trained to be a salesperson with me, and I knew from the outset that if his energy could be harnessed in the right direction, he would be one of the best salespeople I had ever encountered. He was young and brash, and a helluva lot of fun. His sincerity and loyalty as a friend was evident early on, and that is why Junior ( as he was nicknamed at Manny Hanny) is missed by so many people today- people like Steve are few and far between.
I've thought about Steve and Isabele quite often over the Holiday season and I am sure that this was a trying time for Isabele and the children and Steve's parents and siblings.
I've kept you in my prayers and will never forget the friendship which I was privilidged to have by knowing Steve.
town of Scituate
January 4, 2002
Scituate mourns
Pastor Raymond Roach
December 31, 2001
Our heart is saddened by any that loses a life, but when it is someone with the Roach name, even though we may not know them personally we feel they are family.
God Bless You All.
Pastor R.J. (Raimeejo)Roach
Steven Roach
December 31, 2001
Dear Roach Family,
I wish to express my deepest sympathy. May God strengthen you during these difficult days.
I was going through the Memorial of those who lost their lives in the WTC tragedy and decided to see if there were any with the last name "Roach". I was startled to see a Stephen Roach listed. Perhaps our family trees cross somewhere in history. Our family comes from the State of Maine. We, the Roach family, join our hearts with yours and pray that the God of all peace will be with you always.
Psalms 91:1-9
Pastor Steven Roach
Laval, Quebec
doreen (fell) silver
December 19, 2001
To Isabel,children, and the entire Roach family,
You have all been in my thoughts and prayers. I have very special memories of Stephen at St. A's, which I will always cherish. He was a generous, loyal and funny friend. I know now that Stephen and Isabel lived very close to my husband's family. I'm only sorry we never kept in touch. I would have enjoyed meeting his children.
Sincerely,
Doreen (Fell) Silver
St. A's class of 86
Teresa Jahn
December 14, 2001
May Stephen's life and love (but not his shoes) continue living on through his children. We are deeply sorry for your loss of Stephen. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Bill Douglas
December 4, 2001
I am the brother of Tom Daniels and brother-in-law of Donna Daniels. They have kept us informed of your great loss. I know that Steve and Isbelle are close friends of Tom and Donna. I was in NYC on Oct. 6. You are in our prayers.
Bill Douglas website at: www.prosecutorbilldouglas.com
Maxene Rinkofsky
November 24, 2001
Extending my Love & Prayers to the entire Roach Family for the upcoming Christmas Holidays.
Rich Walker
November 12, 2001
I met Roachie at my club's (The Rockaway Hunting Club) annual member-guest tournament - my first. He had obviously been there quite a few times before, and he, the guest made me, the member feel more at home than anyone else in the whole place. At the dinner the night before the tourney, he opened the bidding on my team in the Calcutta - when no one else even knew who I was. The next morning, I saw him asleep on the couch in the lounge, and woke him for his match, which he won. The next year - same couch, same result. I offered him our guest room, and he said he didn't want to mess with a good thing! We will miss Steve. I've got the couch for you this year!
CHERYL PUPO
November 2, 2001
ROCHIE, YOU WILL BE MISSED, MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOUR FAMILY, YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON, ALWAYS WILL BE.
CHERYL
Jim Mulloy
October 13, 2001
To the Roach family,
I was deeply saddened when I heard of your personal tragedy. I am a classmate of Steve's from St. Anselm, and was close to him during our first two years in college. You never forget those early friendships, even if they are not maintained. I remember "Roachie" as an enthusiastic, energetic, caring and loyal person, and my heart goes out to all of you at this time of loss. May you find strength in your memories and know that there are many more people than you can imagine that send their kind thoughts and wishes your way.
With my hearfelt condolences,
Jim Mulloy, Ph.D.
Maura Power
October 5, 2001
To The Roach Family,
I am writing to offer my condolences at this time of terrible loss.
I am a classmate of Stephen's from Scituate High. My maiden name was Maura Breen.
I new Stephen as a kind boy full of good humor. I have'nt seen him in so many years. I am happy to read that the good boy I knew grew into a great man.
My own father died when I was five and he was thirty-six. I know how hard it is. I also know that it does get better.
God Bless you All.
Linda (Holmgren) O'Donnell
October 3, 2001
To The Entire Roach Family -- Words cannot express how saddened I was to hear of the loss of Stephen. May the wonderful memories you all share of him sustain you during this very difficult time.
To Isabel and children -- My family lived next door to Stephen's grandparents in Marshfield for many years, and my late father was a friend of Stephen's grandfather, Bill. My memories of Stephen are not recent, but as a young boy running around his grandparent's yard with his brother and sisters!
Dick and Lee -- my heartfelt sympathy goes out to you! Stephen was obviously a wonderful son who accomplished so much in his life! Please know that our family is thinking of you and may God Bless you all!
Sincerely,
Linda (Holmgren) O'Donnell and son, Adam
Roswell, GA
Crystal Phillips
September 30, 2001
To the Roach Family,
We are a Montclair family currently living in London. We have heard of your tragedy through many mutual friends both in N.J. and here in the American community. Our deepest condolences are sent to you. May God bless and keep you in this most difficult time.
Sincerely,
Crystal and Scott Phillips
St. Anselm Alumni '86
September 30, 2001
The following story ran on page E9 of the Boston Globe on 9/27/2001.
http://www.boston.com/dailyglobe2/270/sports/In_tragedy_golf_s_ties_are_binding+.shtml
In tragedy, golf's ties are binding
By Jim McCabe, Globe Staff, 9/27/2001
s he had planned, Dick Roach will be at Scituate Country Club Saturday. Only the occasion won't be the member-guest event with his son Rick; it will be a gathering of family and friends following a memorial service for his son Stephen.
Tragic? Words can't describe. But Dick Roach and his wife, Lee, are filled with faith. And since the morning of Sept. 11, when Stephen was killed in the terrorist attacks in New York, they have found strength in memories.
''He was a character, something special,'' said Dick. ''He did an awful lot of things in his life. Simple things with his kids. Generous things for charity. He did a lot of good things for a lot of people.''
Stephen Roach, who graduated from Scituate High in 1982 and St. Anselm in 1986, was 36 and a vice president and director of sales for Cantor Fitzgerald, a securities firm that lost 700 employees in the tragedy. When Stephen knew something was seriously wrong, he called his wife Isabel and left a message, expressing his love for her and the children and telling them to save the message forever. Then he called and talked to his mother in Scituate. ''I love you,'' he said, then explained that he had to try to get out.
A lively, outgoing person, he enjoyed the challenges of Wall Street, though what was front and center in his life was his family: Isabel and their children, Stephen Jr., 11; Eileen, 10; and Mackenzie, 9, as well as his parents, brother, and four sisters.
He had great memories of growing up in Scituate, where his life took shape. Many of those memories involve sports, said Dick, because Stephen loved them all. Football, basketball, baseball. And because only 18 months separated Stephen and Rick, their father got to watch them grow up together through all the youth sports. They were competitors, friends, and each other's biggest supporters.
But as the yesterdays piled up and the youth sports melted away, one ageless passion became central to their lives. Golf. Perhaps the most priceless virtue of golf is its ability to bridge generations and foster family bonds. How many of us don't smile at the thought of playing golf with our children? Or of those days playing golf with our parents?
''Lee and I were going to go down [to New Jersey] that weekend and play golf with Stephen and maybe with Stephen Jr.,'' said Dick. ''In a couple of weeks, I was going to play in our second father-son tournament at Secession [in Beaufort, S.C.]. I still have my tickets.''
The tragedy put an end to those plans, of course, though golf was very much part of the memorial service in New Jersey last weekend. Family and friends gathered at Montclair CC, where Stephen's fellow members turned out in large numbers, Yogi Berra and a handful of New Jersey Devils among them.
The ceremony had the sport's version of a 21-gun salute - a line of people driving golf balls - with Stephen Jr. slamming a long, true drive to lead things off. To the side, an older gentleman watched with tears in his eyes, a man who introduced himself as Stephen's favorite caddie. Stephen Jr., the man said, had a wonderful swing, and he promised to watch over him.
In recent years, Stephen would come home to be his father's partner in member-guests at Scituate CC, where Dick and Lee spend much of their free time. Stephen and Rick played in the member-member at Secession and would trade visits to each other's clubs - Rick visiting Montclair, Stephen coming up to Marshfield CC.
''[Stephen] hit it farther than any non-pro I ever saw,'' said Dick. The proud father told of the day during a pro-am in which Stephen rocked a drive long and deep, more than 300 yards, and he turned to the pro in his group and broke into a wide smile.
''What do you think of that, Mr. Daly?'' Stephen said to John Daly, who shrugged, then in his trademark grip-it and rip-it style launched one 25-30 yards beyond Roach's.
''What do you think of that, Mr. Roach?'' asked Daly.
There was also a friendship with Boomer Esiason that grew out of Stephen's efforts on behalf of the former NFL quarterback's charitable tournament to raise money to fight cystic fibrosis. Through his job, Stephen met professional athletes and businessmen of note and shared golf with them, too. But it was the rounds with his father and brother that brought the most joy.
Dick Roach said he was on the third hole at Scituate CC that fateful day when he looked up and saw Rick walking down the fairway. ''It was like that phone call you dread at 2 a.m.,'' he said. ''You knew something was wrong.''
Terribly, horribly wrong. And more than two weeks later, the pain is nearly unbearable, except that Dick and Lee are comforted by a close-knit family. Don't forget the 15 grandchildren, said Dick, who has shared words with them that are needed for all of us.
''Be sad,'' he said. ''But don't be fearful.''
Karen Petersen-Tierney
September 30, 2001
To: Isabel and children, and all of The Roach Family,
We are deeply saddened to learn of your loss. I share very special memories with Stephen growing up in Scituate, MA. I will cherish them always. Our heart goes out to you in this time of sorrow. God bless you and hopefully someday you will find peace in knowing that Stephens presence will live on eternally through everyone he has touched. I also want to Thank The Roach family for finding my lost dog 'Kiska' a Siberian Husky and keeping him safe during the Blizzard of '78' in Scituate, when I was 13 years old.
Sincerely,
Karen Petersen-Tierney
Scituate High School Class of 1982
Gerry and Kim Helper
September 25, 2001
Isabel --
Our sympathy to you and your family at this time. May God Bless you.
Gretchen and Tom Forsgard Worthington
September 22, 2001
Our hearts go out to the extended Roach Family at this time, with our deepest sympathies. I cherish my memories of my dearest friend Catherine's, smiling, quick-witted little brother, and his generosity of spirit. God bless you.
leo & maureen mcdonnell
September 22, 2001
god bless you stephen
Eleanore Roland Smith
September 19, 2001
Our deepest sympathy from the entire Smith family on the tragic loss of Stephen. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family, Lee and Dick and to Stephen's family as well.
Brian Barbary
September 19, 2001
Isabel,
I would like to convey my deepest sympathy for you and your family. Growing up in Scituate I was very close to the Roach family. I always thought of Stephen as more of a brother than a close family friend. I have many special memories of him that I will cherish forever.
John Quinn
September 18, 2001
Isabel,
You and your family are in our hearts and prayers. Stephen was a speciual individual and one of a kind. He touched my life in ways I can never explain. I will always cherish the memories.
Sincerely,
John Quinn
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