Mark L. Charette

Mark L. Charette

Mark Charette Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Oct. 1, 2001.
The Handy Man
Mark Charette, who worked as an insurance broker at Marsh & McLennan in Morristown, N.J., was handier than the handy man.

Task by task, he was renovating his 120-year- old Victorian house in Millburn, N.J. He redid the heating system, much of the plumbing and put a cathedral ceiling in his bedroom.

Mr. Charette, 38, was at a morning meeting at Marsh's offices in the World Trade Center on Sept. 11.

He met his wife, Cheryl Desmarais, at the University of Pennsylvania. They began as engineering majors and finished with business degrees. He was in the Navy R.O.T.C. to save his parents the expense of his college education, his wife said. Then it was five years as an officer on a nuclear submarine, while Ms. Desmarais worked as a consultant in New York.

Even with his work, travel and home renovating, he made his family the center of his life. At home in New Jersey or at their vacation house in Vermont, Mr. Charette spent hours hiking, skiing and swimming with his three children.

He made time on Saturday mornings to take Lauren, 8, Andrew, 6, and Jonathan, 2, to McDonald's for breakfast, giving his wife a break. "This is your time," he would tell his wife. "You are not invited."

Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on December 1, 2001.


Mark Charette, 38, mornings were for kids

On Saturdays, Mark Charette loved to load his three children into the family car and take them to McDonald's for breakfast and playtime with dad.

As a senior vice president at Marsh, the insurance brokerage arm of Marsh McLennan Co., Mr. Charette had to travel often. Whenever possible, he would arrange to be home when it was time to kiss the kids goodnight. If meetings ran late, he'd fly back at midnight rather than miss a morning with his family.

"Mark was the best father in the world," said his wife, Cheryl Desmarais. "The kids were everything to him."

On Sept. 11, Mr. Charette left his Millburn home at 6:45 a.m. for the second half of a two-day meeting at One World Trade Center. He is thought to have been on the 100th floor when the hijacked plane struck the building. He was 38.

Born and raised in Warwick, R.I., Mark Lawrence Charette attended the University of Pennsylvania on a ROTC scholarship.

"Mark felt that it shouldn't be his parents' responsibility to pay for his college education," said Desmarias.

Mr. Charette and Desmarais met in an engineering class, but both switched majors and graduated from The Wharton School.

After college, Mr. Charette was commissioned as an officer in the U.S. Navy. He was based in Groton, Conn., and was attached to the nuclear submarine the USS Pasadena. He attained the rank of lieutenant.

With an economics degree and nuclear technology experience, Mr. Charette was a natural hire for Johnson & Higgins, an insurance brokerage firm in New York that worked with energy companies. (J&H was later bought by Marsh McLennan Co.)

"People gravitated to him because he was a professional," said Stanley Jablonowski, head of Marsh's Morristown office, where Mr. Charette was based. "Because of his candor, because he was direct, because there was no nonsense with Mark. He was an honorable man."

Most recently, at Marsh, he handled the insurance end of construction projects for NJ Transit, American Airlines and the Philadelphia Phillies.

Eleven years ago, Mr. Charette and his wife bought a 125-year-old Victorian house in Millburn. Talented with his hands, Mr. Charette did all the fix-it work himself, including the electrical and the plumbing.

"He ripped down the walls in my bedroom and put up a cathedral ceiling," Desmarais said.

He also built a swingset for his children, Lauren, 8; Andrew, 6, and Jonathan, almost 2.

Mr. Charette is also survived by his parents, Lawrence and Donnalee Charette, and a brother, Gregory, all of Warwick, R.I.

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Gary Bartlett

September 11, 2023

Mark, I have never forgotten you as my division officer on the USS Pasadena SSN-752.

Kerri Spencer

September 11, 2023

Hard to believe it's been 22 years. Miss you Mark. ❤❤

Cindy Roe

September 4, 2021

Remembering Mark on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...

Del Newberry

September 19, 2020

May we all honor Mark's legacy by being the best spouses, Mom & Dads, Grandparents, friends that we can be among all of our fellow human beings. I pray for a special blessing to Mark's family today.

August 15, 2019

May our Lord forever bless him.

Dale Neitzel

December 1, 2014

Mark, this note is for your loving daughter, Lauren, who I know meant the world to you and as you did to her.
Lauren, I just wanted to know how much that letter you wrote that was published in Readers Digest touched my life. I had it framed and pass by it every day. It never ceases to touch me and get me all emotional. It certainly has enabled me to see a more precious side of life and appreciate every moment that I have with my loved ones.
Thank you for writing that.
I pray that you will have God's peace to be with you throughout your life so that one day you will be reunited with your loving dad.

Kerri Spencer

September 11, 2014

As I sit here I cannot believe that it has been 13 years. Still missing you very much my dear cousin. Love Always! xoxo

Cheryl Graham

September 10, 2014

Mark, thinking of you today and remembering all the fun and crazy times at Pilgrim. I had a blast busting you on you being in the Navy and those awesome bell bottoms! Always busting you that's dress blues were better looking. I still cannot believe you are gone. So glad I adopted the kids the first year you were gone. I hope you daughter had a blast with that easy bake oven. RIP my friend. Sending love...

Kerri Spencer

September 10, 2012

My dear cousin, it has been 11 years and I still have not forgotten. You are always on my mind and always in my heart.

Carole (Charette) Martin

August 17, 2012

Just saw Lauren's article in Reader's Digest 9-2011. My maiden name is Charette. Dad was born in Holyoke, Mass. Not too many Charette's around, so wanted to express my sympathies for your great loss.

Delbert Laughery

December 21, 2011

LT Charette and I spent an untold number of hours in the Maneuvering area operating the nuclear plant. He was a smart, aware, caring officer.

ETCS(SS)Delbert D. Laughery
Plankowner USS Pasadena (SSN-752)

Jim Munsey

November 11, 2011

Fair winds and following seas Mr. Charette!

James Stevenson

September 14, 2011

We are at a great loss. Lt Mark Charette was one of the best officers I had the privledge of serving along side with aboard the USS Pasadena SSN752.

RM1(SS)(RET) James M. Stevenson
Plankowner USS Pasadena (SSN-752)

Ground Zero Plaque

September 12, 2011

Roger Dube

September 12, 2011

Fair winds and following seas Mark....you are missed shipmate.

FTG1(SS)Roger J. Dube
Plankowner USS Pasadena (SSN-752)

Diane Bradley

September 11, 2011

This morning in a church service commemorating those lost on 9-11 each person was given a post card showing two vertical beams of light where the Trade Center once stood, with the name of one of those lost printed at the bottom of the card. Mine said Mark L. Charette. My heart goes out to you of his family--please know that you are in my prayers today.

Barbara Hart

September 11, 2011

I worked with Mark in the late 1990's at my job with Carolina Power & Light (now Progress Energy). I will never forget his high energy and willingness to do the very best for his clients. God bless you Mark, rest in peace.

Dr. Barry L. Oglesbee

September 10, 2011

I was acquainted with Lt. Charette as a fellow plankowner on the attack submarine USS Pasadena (SSN-752) My thoughts are with you of his family today, God bless you mightly.

September 10, 2011

I knew Mark only from the neighborhood
in Warwick where I grew up. God Bless
him and his family.

Kerri Spencer

September 12, 2010

My dear cousin,
Remembering you as always on the 9th anniversary. You will always be in our hearts and will never be forgotten. Love you!!

Cheryl Horowitz Adessi

September 11, 2010

On this 9th anniversary, Mark, I'm remembering you as I do every year. Rest in peace.

Austin Charette

September 11, 2009

I miss you uncle Mark.I pray for you everyday.You will always live in my heart.I love you, my uncle and godfather. Love Austin

Kerri Spencer

February 20, 2009

Happy Birthday Mark!! Love you!!

Doug Abraham

February 19, 2009

Happy Birthday!!!

Doug Abraham

February 19, 2008

Happy Birthday!!!

Danielle Charette

April 25, 2007

Mark
You'll always be loved I may not have known you but in my heart I always have.

Love always
Danielle
(your 2nd cousin)

Kerri (Spencer) Plante

February 21, 2007

Happy Birthday dear cousin I miss you! Love Always, Kerri

Doug Abraham

February 19, 2007

Happy Birthday!!!

Kristine

October 27, 2006

As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

Sean Bodo

September 20, 2006

I served with Mark on the USS Pasadena and was shocked to here of the loss. I remember sitting back in the engine room asking many questions concerning our boat and getting signatures from him on my qualifications. I know that the crew respected him alot. I've often mentioned him to my wife and two children when I'm telling my sea stories. My sympathy to his family and children. God be with you.

Kerri Plante

September 11, 2006

My dear cousin it has been 5 years now since we lost you. The pain does not go away. To this day it is all still hard to believe that you are gone. I think of you all the time and keep you and your family in my prayers. You will never be forgotten. I love you.

P Tabbernor

September 9, 2006

In remembrance....

Peter deVries

August 17, 2006

Although I never knew Mark, I have been praying regularly for his family for the last four years. I am a Presbyterian pastor and a PhD student at the University of Pittsburgh. On the first anniversary of the Sept. 11 attacks, I attended a memorial ceremony at Pitt, which included a field of flags: one for each person who died that day. At the end of the ceremony we were invited to take flags home with us. I selected a flag with Mark’s name on it, because he and I are the same age. I’ve displayed the flag in my church office ever since. Today I am leaving to participate in a motorcycle ride in remembrance of the victims of 9/11. I will fly his flag on my bike for the ride.

In our hearts always

Kerri Plante

September 11, 2003

I am very blessed to have had Mark as my cousin. I think of him every single day and still miss him very much.
We went to mass this morning then spent time with family. It was a hard day to get through and being with family helped.
My love to Aunt Donnalee, Uncle Larry, Greg, Cheryl, Lauren, Andrew and Jonathan. God bless us all.

Michelle Charette

September 11, 2003

Mark,

You will always be in our hearts and in our thoughts forever and will never be forgotten. My thoughts are always with your family.



Love Always,

Michelle

(your cousin)

Heidi Smith

September 11, 2003

I just wanted to pay my respects today. I have come to know the Charette family after Mark was killed. What a wonderful family! Mark is very much missed! My love goes out to Marks wife and kids. They are beautiful!



Also to to Mr. and Mrs. Charette and Greg.



Love you very much!



Keep singing! ;)



Heidi Smith

Deacon Anthony Scalzo

September 13, 2002

Dear Cheryl, Lauren, Andrew and Jonathan,



We your faith community at Saint Rose of Lima Parish will never forget Mark, you and your family.



We came together on the 9/11/2002 Mass of Remembrance to pray with you and your family for Mark and all our loved ones lost a year ago.



You and your entire family will always be in our thoughts, and especially in our prayers.



May God Bless you and your loved ones always,



Deacon Anthony Scalzo

Sheila Wahl

September 11, 2002

I was shocked to hear Mark's name when I learned of the attack on the WTC. I knew Mark in high school. He was a few years behind me, and I just immediately recalled this tall, lanky boy with such an engaging smile and a good heart. Only good memories of him came to mind, after all of these years. I was not surprised to learn of his many personal and professional accomplishments - even in high school, at such a young age, I knew that he was a determined and disciplined individual.



I would like to extend my sympathies to his family and anyone that he may have touched in his brief lifetime. I know that we are all better people for having known him. May God hold him close.

Buck Stebbins

September 11, 2002

A good man amoungst men.

Scott Staffon

September 11, 2002

Words can't explain the loss of Mark. I was one of the fortunate people that had the pleasure to work with Mark. He was one of the most intelligent people I have ever been around. I can't think of a person that influenced my professional life more. We traveled together, played golf, had dinner together, even smoked an occasional cigar and drank a beer together, but more importantly we were friends and for that I was blessed. I will never forget the memories of our time together.

Bruce Pankey

September 10, 2002

I served with Mark on the USS Pasadena (SSN-752) in Groton Ct. He was one of those men who made going to work just a little easier, especially when others seemed be trying to make it more difficult. My thoughts and gratitude are with his family. Mark is one of many brave men and women who have kept us free.

Debra Fritts

September 6, 2002

To Mark's family:



My husband worked with Mark at J&H in the early 1990s in NYC. We drove out to Mark & Cheryl's home after their first child arrived and were given a tour of the "handyman's" work.

What I remember about Mark is all that has been said - his love for his family, his enthusiasm for his projects and work so evident and part of himself. What I carry with me and have even before the attacks has been that enthusiasm, that love for possibilities and for making things happen that Mark displayed. I was very impressed then with how he was working toward the goals he desired in a steady fashion. I loved how he loved his family. I felt a little behind the couple, newly married myself, just starting out. They were an aspiration for me and a promise of what could be.



All I can say is that those days were a blessing in their difficulty and hard work, and the days to come without him such a loss - but Mark was no stranger to difficulty. May Mark be remembered for the blessing he was now and forever. May his memory bring you strength.



I want to cry every time I think of how he showed us the house that day and how he kissed his baby girl. Please know, Cheryl and Mark's family, that we think of you and send you our support - my thoughts remain with you.



Debra Fritts

Karen Grimaldi

May 26, 2002

Well this took along time I am a friend of Marks Mom. Donna and through her i learned so much about mark we are almost the same age, and my daughter is the same age as lauren. God bless you Mark i know you are ok though i never met you. I can just imagine what you gave this world with a mom like yours :). I love you Donna Lee! God bless you all!

Kerri Plante

February 19, 2002

Today would have been Mark's 39th birthday.Happy birthday Mark.I will hold you in my heart always dear cousin. I miss you. Your memory will never fade. Love always.

Amelia T Smith

January 9, 2002

I remember Mark and Cheryl from Upenn, too - we worked in the same department (them as work study/part time, me as their supervisor). I am deeply saddened by Mark's death, and extend my sympathies to Cheryl and their children, and to Donnalee and Larry and Greg, too.

Mark playing volleyball at Penn in 1983

Eric Pease

January 7, 2002

Mark possessed a quiet maturity when I knew him at Penn. We shared time on the volleyball court in Weightman Hall and drill days in NROTC together. His manner drew you to him in a unique and special way.

Teresa Jahn

January 6, 2002

We thank Mark for protecting our lives while he was in the Navy. Such a dedication comes with a brave, warm and caring heart. May his courage, life and love live on in those who love him. Our hearts cry with you in your loss of Mark.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

Naomi Sokoloff Mundy

January 4, 2002

I had the honor of working with Mark in 1996 at J&H. Even in the darkest of moments, he was always a shining light.



May God bless you Cheryl and watch over you and your children!

December 21, 2001

MAY GOD IN HEAVEN BLESS YOU MARK L.

CHARETTE AND MAY YOU REST IN PEACE.

GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS

AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL HOUSE..GOD BLESS

AMERICA AND NEW YORK..MAY WE NEVER

FORGET 9/11/01

Kerri Plante

December 17, 2001

I was very blessed to have know Mark, he was my cousin.

I will always hold close to my heart the memories that I have of Mark. I will share some that I can remember.

We used to go over to my Aunt and Uncles house quite a bit. On Halloween we went out trick or treating with them.

I remember going to my Nana and Granpa's house and rolling down the hill. We spent a great deal of time over there.

I come from a big and close family, so on the morning of 9/11/01 we all pulled together and went to church and spent time with each other.

It was a horrible day, more so when we found out that Mark was in the WTC.

Cheryl, Lauren, Andrew and Jonathan, my heart and prayers are with you always.

I also remember going to quite a few basketball games at the schools where Mark and his brother Greg played. I remember yelling and cheering them on.

Mark was a wonderful cousin as well as a father, son and brother.

I have recieved so many emails from friends and people online that I don't even know saying how sorry that they are to hear about Mark. Some have also contributed to Mark's children's trust fund. Now that really touched my heart to know how good people can be.

I had a dream a few weeks after Mark had passed. I dreamt that I was sitting and I looked to my right and Mark was sitting there all dressed in his Navy suit, holding his hat in his hands on his lap. I called out his name twice then he looked over at me and gave me a smile. I looked away for a second and when I looked back he was gone.

I believe in my heart that Mark had come to me in my dream to tell me that he was okay and that we should get on the best we can with our lives. I also believe that he is with us and always will be in spirit.

I wish I could go back and spend more time with him and his family, but I can't do that, can I?

I want Cheryl and the children to know that they will always be in our family and if they need anything I am here.

Aunt Donnalee, Uncle Larry and Greg I love you all also and if there is anything you need I am here, even if it is just an ear to lend or a shoulder to lean on.

We will go on as hard as it may be and we may never understand why all this has happened, but as a family we will all be there for one another.

We as a nation have pulled together and we will continue to do so in the wake of these attacks. God bless us all.

There is a line from a Bon Jovi song which we should all go by. It is; "We've got to hold on ready or not, we live for the fight when that's all that we've got."

My tears still fall for Mark and all of the victims and their families. Maybe someday we will all understand. God bless.

Susan Lonergan

October 20, 2001

I knew Mark in high school and always respected him and liked him. My deepest condolences to his family. Those of us who knew him were truly blessed.

leslie miller

October 17, 2001

You are in thousands of prayers-- you will never be forgotten.

Allison Klausner

October 12, 2001

Dearest Cheryl, Lauren, Andrew and Jonathan and all of Mark's family:



Our hearts are with you, our strength is behind you and our support is here for you. We are so horrified that Mark and 6,000 others were killed during the terrorist attacks on 9.11.01. We pray that you will find peace and happiness in the days to come.

Love,

Klausner Family

Dione Sackman

October 6, 2001

I am truly sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to the people who knew and loved Mark.

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