William Reed Bethke

William Reed Bethke

William Bethke Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Oct. 10, 2001.
Connoisseur of Technology

Computers were not just tools for work to William R. Bethke. There was a logic, an internal magic and mystery that drew him to understand their hummings and beepings. His house in Hamilton, N.J., resembled an elephant's graveyard for computers. Wires, cables and circuit boards filled his workshop-office and spilled into the basement, some machines partly disassembled, others lovingly rebuilt from spare parts.

"If somebody had an old computer, they would automatically think of Bill; if someone needed a new computer, he would refurbish one and give it to them," said Mr. Bethke's wife, Valerie. "He liked everything that was technical and complex."

Mr. Bethke, 36, followed his nose for technology pretty much right out of high school, landing a job first at I.B.M., which sent him to school and taught him to diagnose the ailments of sick machines, and later at Marsh & McLennan's computer processing department at the World Trade Center. He liked to shoot pistols at a gun range with his friend and next-door neighbor, David Koprivich, perhaps from the same impulse — an appreciation of finely tuned mechanical performance.

He was never quite able to communicate the love of technology to his wife, but Ms. Bethke said she got used to it: "I'd just say, `O.K., honey.' "

Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on February 24, 2002.


In the days after the terror attack on the World Trade Center, William R. Bethke's brother placed flowers and a photo of his youngest sibling beside a cross on his New Jersey front lawn. He has been lighting candles at the shrine each night ever since.

"In the beginning it was hoping; then it became a memorial," said Brian Bethke.

With each day that passes, the memorial has grown. Passersby have added to it with poems and notes, flowers and handmade flags. Brian Bethke has decided to leave it up. "It kind of keeps you going," he said.

His brother, a 36-year-old resident of Hamilton, N.J., was a computer programmer at Marsh USA and was transferred to the company's trade center offices last May from an office outside Princeton.

"He was just telling me a few months ago that he moved up in the world. He was proud of it, just the prestige of it. And to get that far in his company ... that was the main branch."

Bethke rode the train into the city with a relative on Sept. 11. He was at his office on the 95th floor of the north tower when the first plane hit.

Like thousands of others, Bethke's relatives franticallydistributed fliers throughout the city and stood in long lines at the armory in New York to check lists of survivors.

But eventually, the search gave way to acceptance. Last Friday, Bethke's brother prepared a photo album for a family memorial service, held on Saturday in the church where Bethke and his wife were married six years ago.

Earlier this week, Marsh USA--where more than 300 workers have been reported missing--held a memorial service in Princeton for Bethke and other colleagues who also had been transferred to the World Trade Center from New Jersey. Bethke's sister Myrna, a Methodist pastor, helped to plan it.

"At one level, dying is a part of life. We just never expected it to be this way," she said. "It's difficult to do any individual grieving when so many thousands are grieving at the same time."

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September 11, 2023

Paul Kakas posted to the memorial.

September 7, 2021

Hannah Barbara Umpleby posted to the memorial.

September 6, 2021

Paul Kakas posted to the memorial.

Paul Kakas

September 11, 2023

I’ll never forget you my friend R.I.P IBM co-worker

Hannah Barbara Umpleby

September 7, 2021

The great sadness of how we lost Billy was most devastating for his family, so devastating so as to affect every member of his family in some manner or another. His father Lyman Bethke died in 2009; his brother Brian died in 2017, his sister Susan died in 2019; his sister Myrna, a Minister who traveled to Afghanistan to give support to those people in 2002, in Billy's memory, died in July 2020, and their mother Marie Bethke, who shared Laughter Therapy with so many people in memory of her son's smile laughter, died in 2018. The only surviving son Robert, aka as Bobby, lives in the home they all shared such great memories, scouting, fishing, a Christmas Tree that was able to turn around, made by their Dad, decorated with all of their Mother's Hallmark collections, all of the pets they had, especially Bobby's little Gus who sadly past away just recently.

Now it is the third generation to keep all the memories and be their with their Uncle Bobby; Brian is survived by his first wife Maryann and their children Brian Jr. and their daughter Emma; Brian's second wife Karla with their children Kristopher, Kolin, and Keith, and Angelica with their grandchildren Kiyah, Eli, and Issac; Susan is survived by her sons Kevin, with first wife Alyson and granddaughters Madison and Evelyn, Kevin with his second wife Grazia and granddaughter Bianca; and son Matthew and his wife Jessica. Myrna is survived by her first husband Bill with daughter Christa, and her husband Lou, and grandchildren Rosie, Sage, and Nico; and son Daniel with Crystal and grandson Fallon. Not to mention all of Billy's Aunts, Uncles and cousins down the line of our present generation, in Virginia, Oklahoma, Texas, South Carolina, New York, Pennsylvania, Wisconsin, Maryland, Florida, New Hampshire, and especially New Jersey .

Billy's wife Valerie went on to college to become a Social Worker. Valerie's father owned a local Christmas Tree Farm and helped prepare a Memorial Grove in Hamilton Township, at Veterans Park. There he Graced the Grove with his beautiful, elegant Christmas Trees from his fields, that now surround a glass enclosed piece of the World Trade Center. Billy's Mom Hosted the yearly Gathering at the Memorial Site, to honour all those lost, total four, who were from the New Jersey area. People come from everywhere; along with the Local Mayor, family members, neighbors, friends, and the White Horse Fire Department which all the family men belonged to in one fashion or another.

To Billy and all of your deceased family members, know you are all are so sadly missed, and we are forever grateful for the time we were able to be a part of such a beautiful, loving and very giving family. Love you all, and sending love to all of your next generations who are already here, you are all held in our hearts forever. God Bless

Love From Aunt Barbara

Paul Kakas

September 6, 2021

I worked with Bill at IBM where he trained me in the field of computer repair where I was able to move on to TSS Technology Service Solutions and Merrill Lynch. Thank You My friend. R.I.P

Patricia Michener

September 5, 2021

Bill, I think about how the world lost a really good guy. I'm sad for your family and friends, I'm sure this is an especially hard time for them.

Cindy Roe

September 1, 2021

Remembering William on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...

Aunt Barbara

September 15, 2020

Miss you, your brother Brian, and your sisters Susan and Myrna. All of you, look after your brother Bobby.

Paul Kakas (Retired)

June 17, 2019

Bill, Thank you for training me at the IBM Field Service Office in Lawrenceville NJ. We had a lot of laughs together. I have never forgot some of the pranks played on each other. I also remember you pulled me out of alot of jams I had on service calls at Continental Insurance Company in Cranberry NJ. R.I.P my friend you are truly missed.

The Kindred Family

November 17, 2018

We send our continued sympathy to your family for such a tragic loss. Each day may God give the strength needed to cope. Bill is sadly missed and never will be forgotten.

Isabel Rebelo

October 20, 2017

Hi Bill,

16 years have passed and the memories still touch our emotions very strongly! I think about you and our other friends so often. We miss you all and pray you are in a peaceful place!

I have been in touch with Val and she finished her studies. I do remember you always talking about her, with so much love, and you telling me how you wanted her to finish her degree. Well, Bill, she did it! I know you are watching over her! She is a sweetheart! Next year we are planning to go together to visit the Freedom Tower. It is our way to be closer to all of you. We know you are up there looking at us, with your big smile. We never will forget you! Much love from your old colleague and friend.

Del Newberry

October 19, 2017

I'm an old computer nerd, so your story struck a chord with me. It is sad that the world lost so many young, intelligent people on that horrible day. Today I pause to pray for your friends and family. We will never forget. With love from Texas,

Daniel Darling

September 11, 2016

I miss you my friend!

Daniel Darling

September 11, 2016

It's been so long to wait to hear from an old friend. I miss the days hanging out with the gang, clubbing, shore trips, movies, and football games. Have to admit if my Eagles aren't in ill root for your Seahawks. I will alway miss you my friend, remember the birthdays, drives to Manasquan, Seaside Heights and the lessons learned through our errors along the way. I miss your family too. You should see Derek he's 20 now, and my daughter Sara who's only 8 now and doesn't have full under standing of what happened but that dad is sad with a heavy heart...I will talk again later dear ole friend.........

July 4, 2016

July 5, 2016

July 4, 2016 - Visited the WTC memorial with the Mark & Jeanette Liberti and as always had to visit the plaque for Billy. Much love to Billy, the Bethke family and all those who knew and love Billy. Much Love and a Peaceful July 4th - to you all.

Isabel Rebelo

September 19, 2015

Hello Bill,

14 years have passed since that tragic day but know you are remembered many times and never will be forgotten for as long as I live. Thank you for all you gave us! May you rest in peace, my friend, and until one day!

911 lights up close

Paul Liberti

September 11, 2015

2015 - 15 years and remembering that day so clearly. I am remembering earlier days with Billy Bethke and the Bethke family watching horse shows at Sharps farm in Hamilton - sitting on that wooden slatted fence. What a beautiful loving family - my thoughts are with you all.

Paul Liberti

April 6, 2015

Visited the WTC memorial today in NYC. Thinking of Billy and the Bethke family this Easter ... and everyday. Much Love to you all...

Sue & Kyle Deck

September 11, 2014

Bill, We can not believe it has been 13 years. We Love You,Miss You,and will Never Forget You !! We think about you all the time. I miss all the long talks we had at G.R. on your lunch break...the times you let me cry on your shoulder..all those crazy nights at O'Brady's..the awesome NY Eve parties...the wonderful time we all had on the cruise...you and Kyle singing "Taking care of business" during our karaoke days..when you started signing "going to the chapel" after Kyle asked me to marry him..and the list goes on and on ! We will be going to NY soon to visit,You will never be forgotten !!

Isabel Rebelo

September 3, 2014

I stopped here to see you, my friend, and all the ones that lost their lives on that horrific day! I didn't forget you and never will, as for as long as I live. I miss your stories, your beautiful smile, and your spirit. Please give a hug for me to Joe Mangano and Bill Casper. They also have a very special place in my heart.
Rest in peace and until one day!

Paul Liberti

September 2, 2014

I visited the WTC Memorial Plaza and visited Billy. I know right where his name is now. It is so peaceful and I sent good thoughts and memories to his beautiful family. I am happy to see the plaza is open now and you can just walk through. No more security lines. I highly recommend that you visit and then maybe stop by Liberty State Park in Jersey City to visit Billy's panel there as well. (panel #11) I send much love and light to all of the Bethke's and all that knew Billy. God Bless.

Kandi Killin

June 23, 2014

I visited the 9/11 Memorial and Museum on June 16, 2014 and as I stood at the reflecting pool, I looked carefully at the names in front of me. I did not know anyone at WWT that tragic day and so I wanted to know about the man whose name was etched on that stone. Ironically, my husband also started his computer career at IBM. I read about Mr. Bethke and the writings of family and friends make it sound as though he were a very good husband, a good man in general and is sadly missed by the many people he touched. My heart goes out to his family and friends who miss him each and every day.

jim downey

September 11, 2013

Remembering you today Bill. I only met you once, I think. It was at Banzai and Sushi with your bothers and sister. Love and Hugs to the Bethke family, especially your mother. I believe the greatest pain in life is for a parent t lose a child. Please know I am thinking of you all.

Kris Pysher

September 11, 2013

Bless your family n allow them strength to carry on until they see you again.

Lou DePalma

April 15, 2013

Just wanted Billy's family to know he is remembered and that my thoughts and prayers are with them over these years. I went through school with Billy and was a volunteer at the FD with his dad. There is no sense we can ever make of this tragedy. I am sure the great spirit Billy had will remain with you guys forever.

Barbara Boam

February 26, 2013

I walked a mile for you (mile #183) on 2/25/13 as a dedication to your life.

Tim Keenan

September 11, 2012

As the years pass, the memories remain strong. I think of Bill often. Sometimes my heart is heavy, mostly I smile and remember the positive energy that he exuded!

Paul Liberti

September 10, 2012

As we approach another anniversary of 9/11, I have to think back to the first time I knew that Billy had passed. I was walking by the fence at St. Paul's Church - which is across from the WTC site - before the first anniversary of 9/11 and saw a banner made by his beautiful sisters. I choked up and was so shocked. I had no idea as I was living in New York... and had very little connection back to Hamilton Township and the people from there. If that banner had not been there... it might had been many years before I knew. I finally got to go to the New York City memorial and I encourage all of you reading this to get there.

I send all of the Bethke family much love and light. You all had been such a great inspiration to me with all the love and joy of living that you continue to share together.

Bernadette & Bob Harrison

September 8, 2012

Bill, as 9/11 approaches we are again saddened by events of that horrific day. You will always be in our hearts and we talk about you alot...from your love of technology to your great smile to "Billie O" on St. Patty's Day. The pain will never go away.

William Allen

September 20, 2011

I knew Billy as a kid in Robinson elementary school and what I remember most about Billy was he loved life. Billy smiled a lot and I mean a lot and he’d laugh a lot. To see Billy without a smile on his face… to think of it I never saw Billy without a smile on his face. We would play in his backyard and we would watch the horse shows at the farm behind his house. As a kid, Billy was a good friend. As I think of Billy now, as an adult, I think I was blessed to be a friend to such a beautiful soul. Billy loved life than as I am sure he loved life as an adult. Even now when I see this picture of Billy, I see a person who loved life and who could make you feel good by his smile.

I am so very sorry that the world lost a life loving and inspiring person as Billy Bethke and to the Bethke family and friends; I am also so very sorry for your lost of your son, brother, and husband. He is forever in my heart and God Bless you.

Paul Liberti

September 14, 2011

I wanted to leave another picture of the beautiful memorial in Liberty State Park called "Empty Sky". It is loveingly done as a tribute to all those lost in 2001 who resided in NJ. It is a celebration of reflection and light. The Memorial just opened two days ago on the 10th Anniversary of 9/11 and can be gotten to on the Jersey Turnpike exit 14. Follow the signs to Liberty State Park. There is a beautiful walk way in the park that goes behind the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island. I suggest you come visit this tribute to William and others who were lost that day -- and spend an afternoon in the park. It is peaceful and a wonderful way to take some time out to spend with William. Many of you who have signed the book, knew William as an adult. I knew him as a child. He was one of the happiest kids I ever met.

The Bethke home was a house with love, laughter, and music. Bill had a sense of wonder and sparkle in his smile. As you see from his photo... his smile was wonderous, but he smiled with his eyes. His joy for life is left with all those who knew him. My heart goes out to his wife and family.

Much Love.

Jersey City 911 Memorial - 9/11/2011

Paul Liberti

September 13, 2011

I knew William as "Billy" Bethke. I grew up on Gropp Ave... down the street from the Bethkes'. I remember my sister doing gymnastics with William's brother Brian... and riding bikes with the Bethke kids and watching the horse shows at Sharps farm with the Bethke kids.

The Bethke home was a joyus place to be. The smile that you see on William Bethke's picture is one that is shared by all of the Bethkes. Their smiles light up a room as you can see from William's picture. Mrs Bethke is a ray of sunshine and has always loved her children so much. All of my memories of the Bethke family are those of a family that was close and loved to be together.

Today - 9/13/11 - I went to the Jersey City Memorial in hopes to find William's name. It took my breath away when I saw it, but the memorial is such a beautiful tribute and I hope all of you get to go there in Liberty State Park in NJ. I took this picture of William's name on on panel #11 on the beautiful NJ Memorial -- on a beautiful grassy hill in Liberty State Park that looks towards lower Manhattan. My heart is with all of you. Much Love.

Randy Bethke

September 11, 2011

To the family of Bill Bethke, I hope that the Lord has healed your pain. God bless !

Bernadette & Bob Harrison

September 11, 2011

Hard to believe that 10 years has passed since that horrible day. Bob and I think about Bill a lot. He was a great guy and fun to be with. The pain of that day is still with us. God Bless You!

September 11, 2011

I worked with his dad at EMR Photoelectric and he was so very proud of his children. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Kym Reszler Beke

September 11, 2011

10 years later...I still think of you whenever I think of that dreadful day! You are truly missed! I cherish the times we shared at the roller skating rink and seeing the Romantics at Trenton State College. RIP Bill!

William Bethke

September 9, 2011

My condolece to you all on this 10th anniversary of your loss.

Karen Vitale

September 5, 2011

As ten years approach the death of this young man and so many others was not lost in vain, we have found the that we as a country are not invincible to pain.
God Bless you William, the strength of your family shows the gift you gave in life....prayers and thoughts of you in heaven!

Cliff MacDermid

August 29, 2011

I went to grade school with Bill at Robbinson elementary from K thru 5th grade. We were the shortest kids in school, so we bonded pretty well over those years. He was one great, funny kid. We never kept in touch, but from what I've read here he stayed the same sweet soul he was then.
I'm so sorry Mr. & Mrs. Bethke. I stopped by your house a year or two afterwards but no one was home, and I never took the time to write you- I should have & I didn't. I lost my sister in 1984 and saw the hell my parents went through, and I just wanted to let you know how much my thoughts and prayers are with you.

May 3, 2011

I was acquainted with Bill during the days of the IBM Lawrenceville office. While I didn't know him well, he always gave me that big smile of his.

I've often thought of him since 9/11. I hope that Bill's family can have the peace they deserve, now that justice has been served.

Pat Michener
Salt Springs, FL

cabin long

February 12, 2011

Valerie,
Too often the world forgets where the source of pain lives. Pain that comes from hearts that are still beating as we remember those in a better place. I hope you’re whole and happy and life has put you back together again. Should be a simple process, you were always selfless, putting you second.
A day has not gone by that I don’t think of you.

Cabin

Melanie Bruce

October 5, 2010

Will,
We love and miss you. God bless and keep dreaming.
Mel-Mel

Michael Rosa

October 5, 2010

Will,
Even though I didn't get to know you like I should, things will never be the same. GOD is good and tell ur love ones we love them because I now know you have taken your rightful place in Heaven
Michael & kids, Pie and Bud

Isabel Rebelo

September 11, 2010

Today I cannot stop thinking about you, my friend, as well as all the ones that left us on this fateful day. My heart is with you and my friendship is eternal. Until one day, Bill. I miss our conversations.

Tim Keenan

September 10, 2010

Reading over all of the comments left about Bill brings back the heartache of the days following Sept. 11th. It also reminds me of what a great person and friend he was. I miss our days at the Nog. I miss you my friend.

Isabel Rebelo

January 9, 2010

Bill Bethke used to work for IBM when I first met him. He used to fix our computers. Later on Marsh offered him a management position, and he became my boss. I always remember Bill with a BIG smile on his face, always ready to give a hand, as well as his long conversations about life. He used to tell me stories about his wife Valerie, his family, and his dogs. He was a family man and a great person. May you rest in peace, my friend. I know you are with Joe Mangano, Bill Casper, and all the ones we lost on that tragic day. I still hear your voices and your laughter. I know you all are with God. I truly miss you, Bill. You were gone too soon.

Rodney Bethke Jr

October 6, 2009

I just found this guest book for my second cousin we never met i never had the chance to i thought on 9/11 that i was safe that i had lost no one i was wrong i had lost a family member that will not be coming home from work he will be missed i to am proud to be a bethke

julianne ferguson

September 14, 2009

i am so sorry for your loss im in high school and for my history assignment we got to look up a victim from 9/11 and i chose william bethke and i just want to say how extrodinary he was he was so smart you all must have been so proud of him im just so glad i got to take the time to know who he was

Bill O'Neal

March 2, 2009

Bill always had a smile on his face. He lived across the street from the Irish pub where I played music three nights a week for years. His premature death was nothing short of tragic.

Jim Huxley

September 12, 2008

Seven years on Bill is still remembered. Even though I am thousands of miles away and did not know William and the thousands of others, their lives are so important.

Doug Abraham

April 4, 2008

My heart goes out to you at this time and in the days ahead.

Ives Block

February 8, 2008

Bill was the coolest guy I ever met. I met him in a bar on spring break in Florida and we had an instant connection. Although Bill lived in New Jersey and myself in Chicago he always seem find time to talk on the phone or even let me stay at his place on my many visits to the east coast. I had allot of fun with Bill going to Atlantic City or Point Pleasant and chasing girls or just goofing off. Bill was also so smart, a history buff and a student of life he knew and shared a great deal with me. A true professional he helped me to better myself in the computer service industry by teaching me great deal about the IBM As400 advanced systems. The skills I gained helped me to find better employment and better myself and life style. Since his passing I have made it a personal effort to live by his example. I went back to college and completed my degree BSTM; I got married and now have a son. : ) I have also work in the computer industry in the finical centers just like bill had done, but in the center of Chicago; I feel a little safer here. I swear there isn’t a day I don't think about him and what he meant to me. I regret that I wasn't able to convey my sympathy to others whom were close to him before now. My heart goes out to his wife VAl and his Parents and family. God bless...

Kristine

October 18, 2006

As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

Noel Vreeland Carter

September 11, 2006

Your were unknown to me, young man, but I mourn you in memory of the well-remebered grade-school friendship I had with your very sweet father, another William Bethke, back in P.S. 35 in the Bronx, quite a long time ago.

P Tabbernor

August 24, 2006

In memory....

Khalif Williams

September 9, 2005

I only met Bill the Friday before 9/11. My Wife and I had just gotten married and he told us both alot about himself and his wife where they had gotten married and some history about Trenton NJ I never knew before.



You would have thought that we were age old friends the way the conversation went. The positive aura he projected let me know he was a happy person.



Being that my name is Arabic though I am not Muslim needless to say after 9/11 I was treated badly by my fellow Americans.All I had to do was remember his treatment of me as an African American and it renewed my faith in humanity.In one short train ride home together he gave my Wife & Myself a lifetime of memories. He was a Good person and a Great Human Being. Seeing his picture posted in Hamilton Train Station only days after 9/11 devastated us.



His soul shined bright on Earth & now it is so in Heaven too. He will never be forgotten.

MARK MAHON

May 30, 2005

Still missing ya Bill. I know your still with us all in your own unique form.Thanks for being there with me in my darkest hours,and helping me pull through. I guess I was not as badly needed up there as you. Always thinking of you my friend.......

Joe Bethke

April 26, 2005

God Bless Bill Bethke and all who were lost. Let us not forget all who died and suffered. Family by blood or not - we are ALL Americans!!

Marilyn Bethke

September 11, 2004

Bethke is not exactly a common name, and somewhere in the past we may have a common ancester. But whether or not related by blood, we share a common bond of grief and sorrow. Our hearts go out in profound sympathy, from one branch of the Bethke family tree to another.

Robert Woody

December 24, 2002

It is people like Bill Bethke that make America great. God Bless America.

AnneMarie DeAngelo

October 7, 2002

Happy Birthday Bill... we miss you very much...

Corri Wyrough

September 18, 2002

What I feel about my cousin Bill could never be written down - its all in my heart and my memories. He was an exceptional person and I miss him so much. My prayers and thoughts go out to all the families who lost someone that day and I pray for my family too.

Karoline Daly

September 13, 2002

Sometimes people influence you and help you grow as you move through life ... and they never know it. Bill and I dated here and there around the high school years. We were part of a 'group' (Ken, Danny, Marnie, Michelle) of friends having fun around Hamilton and trips to LBI. He always liked to laugh and cared so much about his family and friends. Even though I haven't heard from him in years, looking back on pictures now has a deeper meaning of what a great guy he was. Thanks, Bill, for being a friend. Many thoughts of love to family and friends who were close to him.

Melissa Hayes

September 13, 2002

May your memories of William help you find peace and strength. May his spirit guide you through the difficult times.



God Bless.



Melissa Hayes

Craig Allard

September 12, 2002

What a true blue friend, that was Billy. We became friends years ago and although the miles separated us he was never far from my thoughts. The memories: fixing my broken down computer, too many times to mention, the private computer tutor sessions (if he charged me, we could all be retired), the meals consumed at Manetos Diner with Jim the third partner in this tight nit trio, bicycling till dark all over Hamilton Twp. and beyond, were there any computer shows we missed?, not, the boat, and of course the nights out with the trio, they were all an adventure. Billy will always remain in a special place in my heart like everbody else who had the privledge to know this fine, caring, giving and thoughtful person. God Bless you Valerie and of course Billy's wonderful family, I miss you all. Billy, I will never forget, may you rest in peace.

Connie Prince

September 9, 2002

I knew Bill when he worked for IBM. When he came to work on our computers, he would stop by my office and we would sit and talk and laugh. My condolences to his family.

AnneMarie DeAngelo

September 9, 2002

When I think of Bill... I think of Music, Fun, Good times, comfort, and how much I miss him. He always had a way of picking you up when you were down. He had a calming effect on people, and a way of showing up when you really needed him. I miss my cousin, my "big brother". I miss his sense of humor. He'd quote Monty Python movies or imitate Michael Jackson "Got to be there"! He used to joke that I couldn't walk and chew gum at the same time! (for my lack of grace!) I think of Cruisin' in the Granada (which he let me drive when I was only 14!) Roller Skating, the beach, and just hanging out with friends playing darts. He was always there when you needed him, like when I was a teenager and needed a ride home, or when my 3 year old son Michael put a quarter in the disk drive and turned it on. Bill said he must have thought is was an arcade game! I never felt judged when I turned to him for advice. Bill, I wish you could have met Jason. Maybe your souls crossed on 9/11, or maybe you sent Jason to ease our pain. I wanted to thank you Bill, for everthing you did to help me. For all the rides to school for three years. You were always there for me and I miss that. I wish I could hear that British accent again or see that comforting nod that said, everything's going to be okay.

Mary Jo Bridge

September 2, 2002

From the photo of Bill I can see he still had that great big smile, and twinkle in his eye, that I remember him having as a young boy.

It's been almost a year since Sept. 11th. Please know that your family is still in our hearts and prayers,

not to be forgotten.

Rev. Fr. James M. Bussanich

April 13, 2002

Ten days after 9/11, our Regional Catholic Women's League held their bi-monthly meeting. The Spiritual Convenor of the group passed a basket around the room with pictures of those who died in the tragedies. I pulled out Bill's picture. I found information about Bill on this web site and was happy to see it. I have been praying for Bill and you his family every day since I drew his picture. I too lost family in the tragedy, two cousins. May God bless you, heal your wounds and bring you His peace.

Fr. Jim.

Annette Darling

January 20, 2002

Bill was a part of my life through my brother Dan. Bill was great guy and I am blessed to have had him as a friend. My prayers will be with him and his family always and I will never forget him.

Teresa Jahn

January 8, 2002

We are deeply sorry for your loss of William. May his life and love continue living in all who love him. May warm memories of times together lighten the sorrow in your hearts. Our hearts cry with you in your great loss of William.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

Robert Bethke

January 3, 2002

I miss my brother

joyce darling

December 31, 2001

Though I barely knew him, I heard such great things of him from my son danny and my mom frances who were most fortunate to have been touched by his kindness and friendship. my prayers to his family, especially mom & dad who can be proud of such a fine young man.,

Mark Mahon

December 9, 2001

With a heart as big as Hamilton itself, you'll be sadly missed my friend. God Bless you, God Bless your family and God Bless America.

You are gone but not forgotten.

IRENE

December 7, 2001

GOD BLESS WILLIAM REED BETHKE AND MAY HE REST IN PEACE.GOD BLESS HIS

FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA

AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01

Susan Perry

November 9, 2001

What happened on Sept. 11 will change our lives forever. But something else happened that fateful day- we united as a country. We were helping strangers and caring for others, just because it was the right thing to do. And that is something that no one can take away- even terroists. Although life will never be the same for anybody, I think our country is stronger because of it. GOD BLESS AMERICA!!!!!!!! FOREVER!!!!

Jill Kellerman

October 18, 2001

I knew Bill more from a friend of a friend thing. He used to make fun of my friend Annette and I all the time. But as we got older, the teasing stopped. Last time I saw him, he changed my tire for me as I had a nail in it. And he was so nice. He was so happy to be working in New York and working on his house with Val.

David Gaudette

October 17, 2001

I'm a native of Hamilton and remember the Bethke family. I live and work in NYC now and have been profoundly affected by the events of September 11, as have all New Yorkers and all Americans. I am deeply saddened to know that those events have touched my hometown in such a personal way. My thoughts and sympathies are with the Bethke family.

Anne Haller

October 12, 2001

I worked at Marsh at WTC on 97 and Bill and I had recently been introduced. We had heard of each other as our groups work together on projects, but had never met. He was well liked by others in my group who worked with him often and they always had nothing but nice things to say about him. I'm glad that I got the chance to meet him in person and say hello. I will not forget him.

leslie miller

October 11, 2001

Please know how many people care, how truly sorry we are. Our prayers will always be with you.

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