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Joseph Vilardo Obituary
A senior vice president for Cantor Fitzgerald Securities, Mr. Vilardo, 42, of Stanhope, was working on the 104th floor of One World Trade Center when a hijacked jetliner hit the building Sept. 11.
Just a day earlier, Mr. Vilardo proudly called his parents in Barnegat to tell them their grandson, Matthew, had hit a home run Sunday, recalled Mr. Vilardo's mother, Ann Vilardo.
A coach of his son's Little League team, Mr. Vilardo also was an outdoor enthusiast and avid skier, who enjoyed taking his children on skiing trips.
"He was always with his kids. Whatever they did, he was there with them," said Mr. Vilardo's lifelong friend, Joseph Cook.
Mr. Vilardo grew up in North Arlington, and lived in Byram and Rutherford before moving to Stanhope.
His skiing hobby dated to a grade-school trip to the Alps. He returned home with a love for the slopes as well as a keepsake gift for his mother, a Swiss crystal centerpiece dish.
"He brought me home the most beautiful piece of crystal. I said, 'How did you bring it home?' He said, 'I wrapped it in a towel,' " Ann Vilardo recalled.
Mr. Vilardo also enjoyed hiking and walking his dogs, as well as playing golf and guitar.
His interest in business was sparked in a class about the stock market at North Arlington High School, from which he graduated in 1977, Cook said.
"He became great with it," Cook said. "He worked his way up and became very successful."
Having worked for Cantor Fitzgerald for about the past nine years, Mr. Vilardo was promoted to senior vice president of Canadian trading a few years ago. It was a prestigious position trumpeted by the company in large newspaper ads.
Mr. Vilardo is survived by his wife, Patricia; a daughter, Nicole, and a son, Matthew, all of Stanhope. Also surviving are his parents, Barry and Ann Vilardo of Barnegat, and three sisters, Diane Braitsch of Hasbrouck Heights, Margaret Mahon of Lanoka Harbor and Janet Vilardo of Lyndhurst.
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Margaret McLean
September 14, 2018
Joe. 17 years and it is like yesterday. I miss you everyday. You should be so proud of your beautiful family. I know you watch over us and you are always in my heart. Give my love to mom and dad. Love you.
Margaret
Christina Vilardo - Harkins
September 11, 2018
I never new Joseph. But we have the same last name. Vilardo. A strong, beautiful, resilient Italian name. God bless Joseph Barry Vilardo and his resilient family.
June 27, 2017
I was a classmate of Joe's at Queen of Peace. I remember a time when we were reading individually aloud. I mispronounced a word and became embarrassed and stammered. Joe was sitting in front of me. He turned around and said "anyone would have made that mistake". I think of his kindness every time I come across the word "Plymouth" :)
I also think of him every September 11, and hope that life was good to him in his 42 years.
Maureen Corcoran
Robert Wagner
September 12, 2016
Miss you Joe!
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Watch over them & protect them
September 12, 2016
Your grandson, Simon Alexander
September 12, 2016
Your grandson, Joseph Matthew
September 12, 2016
Graham MacKenzie
September 11, 2016
It may have been 15 years but, Joe, you are still remembered. My thoughts are with your family.
Cashman
April 11, 2016
Happy Birthday Joey Miss you buddy
Mary Jean Pompeo
September 11, 2014
Think of you every day... always in my heart.
Mary Jean Pompeo
September 11, 2014
Joe, my dearest brother-in-law,
On this 13th anniversay of 9/11 I've heard a few times today that time truly doesn't heal everything. This day, and even in the days leading up to today, do not get easier. I miss your voice, I miss your stories, I miss you. You are always in my heart and in my thoughts. Continue to watch over us all, espeically Tish, Nicole & Matt. You would be so proud. Love you man. Until we meet again. Xoxoxoxox
Margaret vilardo McLean
September 10, 2014
Joe, I cannot believe it has been 13 years since you were taken from us. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of you. I know that you and Daddy are together in heaven. hoping that you look in on us from time to time. There is an emptiness in my heart for you both. Mom does not speak now and her memory is bad but you know that somehow she feels the lost of her son every year at this time. I still shed tears for you and your beautiful family. You should be so proud of them. I miss you. I love you and forever will carry you and Daddy in my heart. Your sister, Marg
Margaret mcLean
May 17, 2014
Joe, today I went to the 911 Museum. I am sorry I could not make it through. I know that you are in heaven with Daddy. I know you are at peace. I will alway carry you in my heart. Miss you ever day.
Margaret
April 10, 2014
Joe, today was your birthday. I still find it hard to accept you are gone. I miss you. There is an emptiness in my heart. You were a great man. The best brother. Love you always
Stanhope Memorial
Mary Jean Pompeo
September 15, 2013
Miss and think about you every single day. It's football season again and wish you were standing along the sidelines for Dylan's games, but know that you are always here with us in spirit.
"Mare" Conklin
September 13, 2013
To a great husband, father, son, and a best friend,I remember Joe from NAHS and light a candle and wait for his to be called every yr. And not forget the family, friends and co-workers who share your grief on that Tues. not so long ago. God bless the Vilardo family and America!
margaret Vilardo-McLean
September 13, 2012
Joe. There are no words to express how much I miss you. You have Daddy now. I have you both in my heart. I am keeping my promise to both of you Mommy misses you both too.
Cat Lady's
September 12, 2012
Cat Lady's
Mary Jean Pompeo
September 12, 2012
Eleven years have gone bt and Sept. 11 still doesn't get any easier. Miss you each and every day!
margaret Vilardo-Mclean
April 11, 2012
Hey Joe. Hope you and Daddy are having a good reunion. Take care of wax other. I miss you both so much bit carry you both in my heart forever. Lov Margaret.
Go Rangers Uncle Joe!
Dylan Pompeo
April 10, 2012
Dylan Pompeo
April 10, 2012
Happy Birthday Uncle Joe! I miss you very much. I wish you were still here so you could come and watch me play baseball. I love you!
Mary Jean Pompeo
April 10, 2012
Happy Birthday brother-in-law! Miss you every day with all my heart!
Scott Szell
September 11, 2011
I live in Stanhope, and though I Didn't know Joseph I'm sure he was a great person. My thoughts & prayers go out to his family & friends. God Bless you all and god bless America
Jennifer Applegate (Hunter)
September 5, 2011
This Sunday I asked my church to pray for Paticia, Nicole, and Matthew. I know they miss you everyday. Even though you are not here, your life continues to effect mine. Thank you godfather.
Bob Wagner
September 4, 2011
I can't believe that it has been 10 years since we lost you. We had many laughs during the time we knew each other and traded stocks. Still think of you often.
September 3, 2011
Joe, Not a day goes by that you are not with me in my heart. I miss you but always remember what you said. Life is meant to be lived. We go on wit out you but we carry you always in our hearts. Love you Sister Marg
Linda Marlow
September 2, 2011
It is almost impossible to believe the years that have passed since our world changed and you had to leave it. I pray for your family still and will never forget you Joey.
Bob Wagner
April 11, 2011
Happy Birthday Joe!
April 10, 2011
Happy Birthday brother-in-law! Miss you more then you know. It's baseball season and would give anything in the world to have you standing next to me at one of Dylan's game! I love you!
Mary Jean Pompeo
April 10, 2011
Happy Birthday Uncle Joe! I was only 9 months old when I met you but I still keep close to my heart the Scooby Doo stuffed animals that still sit at the foot of my bed each and every night. I know that you are looking down upon me and keeping me safe! I love you!
Your nephew,
Dylan Pompeo
September 10, 2010
Joe,
9 years come and gone. Your memory lives on. We will never forget you or what happened that day.You are in a better place my friend. I miss you dearly and I wish we could talk and hang.
Love you bro.
brother in law
Pat
Linda Karalla Marlow
September 9, 2010
Well Joe, it is that time of year again when we are bombarded with the images and memories of that horrible day you were taken from this earth. It is hard to believe that it has been 9 years, in so many ways it seems like yesterday. It has been so long since our days at Jefferies but you are in my thoughts often as is your family. I hope they are all doing well. We all will forever miss you Joe.
September 8, 2009
Joe, It still feels like it happened yesterday since you were taken from us. But I want you to know that we are ok. You live in our hearts each and everyday. You know I can still remember the last time we spoke and I think of it often on how happy you were just 3 days before that horrible day. I remember that and the memories of our lives as a family. I miss you and I will always will carry you in my heart.
Love
Your sister
Margaret
francine vilardo
July 29, 2009
i im also a vilardo from cin ohio and im so sorry for what happend to you but you are in goog hands. better then i am on this wild earth. god bless
Doug Abraham
May 10, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
Helen Yates (Cook)
December 24, 2008
Merry Christmas Joe - We miss you - I think of you often and wish you could be here for Joe - You were his best friend and I know he misses you dearly. My entire family misses you as well.
Ralph Anderson
September 15, 2008
I think of your family often. I hope all is going well. God Bless.
Pat Pompeo
September 11, 2008
Joey,
Can't believe it's seven years. you still live on in our hearts and memories. They are such great memories. Not enough to fill the void from your passing though. You remain forever young and alive in our hearts.
Til we meet again.
Pat
Doug Abraham
May 10, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Tim Noakes
March 15, 2008
Joey,
You were a spark in my life. I will always remember the times we spent working together at both Vickers Da Costa as well as at Jefferies. My prayers go to your family.
Robert Wagner
February 10, 2008
Joe,
I think of you often and the many laughs we had trading those Canadian stocks. I have your face and the World Trade buildings on my arm so no one will ever forget what happened that day. I WILL NEVER FORGET.
Bob
Margaret Mahon
September 16, 2007
Joe,
It has been six years since I last saw your smile or heard your voice. there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of you. I am so proud of Tish , Matt and Nicole. I know that you are to. I have learned a very powerful lesson from you. I am living my life with your spirit inside my heart. There will never be another like you. My rock, my safety net, and my one and only brother. To me you are with me always and forever in my heart. I love you and miss you and I am taking care of mom and dad like I always promised you. i love Joe.
Melba Kubrak-Walsh
September 14, 2007
Hey Trish, I remember the days when we used to all be together, Joe, Joe Cook, Chrissy, Glenn and I. This day can't pass without thinking about the old days. I know I haven't been a a part of of any of this for more years than I'd like to mention but it's like yesterday for me when I think of the friendship we had. I wish you, Nicole & Matt all the best now and in the future. I still get a lump in my throat every Sept 11th and you are always in my thoughts. I still remember the weekend at Lake Placid. They were good times. Always keep them in your heart.
Joe Olivo
September 11, 2007
hey nicole,
it has been a long time since i even seen you or have spoken to you. i just want you to know that every september 11th you and your family come to my mind. this must be the toughest day of your life. all i know is your father must of been a great man since he raised a terrific girl such as you. you have a heart made of the purest gold this world has ever seen. i just wanted you to know that i will continue to have you in my thoughts and prayers every september 11th every year. good luck and look to good times in the future
with love
joe olivo
Lisa Calvert
September 11, 2007
To Tish, Nicole and Matt,
We are thinking of you today. Our prayers are always with you. May the loving memories you have be with you always. None of us will ever forget what happend 6 yrs ago,and how it changed your lives. God Bless you all.
Lisa,Jim,Molly and Kelly Calvert
Pat Pompeo
April 13, 2007
Dude,
Happy Birhday (Belated). Miss you!
The pain has dulled but never leaves. the void is never filled. Your memory remains. Til we meet again. Love you Bro
Pat
P Tabbernor
April 11, 2007
In memory....
Kathryn Busch
September 11, 2006
Dear Nicole,
I am thinking of you today, along with so many others who love you. You are such a beautiful person, and I miss seeing you everyday! I know that your dad is with you in all of your joys and all of your sorrows, and so is your heavenly Father. All my love,
Matt Luckham
September 11, 2006
Colie,
My thoughts are with you and your family today and always. Although I never got the chance to meet your dad, I would have really liked the opportunity to get to know the man that raised such a caring and loving daughter. I am sure he could have taught me alot, just as you have. Although we don't talk that often, know that I am always here for you. Take care. Love,
Pat Pompeo
September 11, 2006
Joe,
Dude, 5 years have gone by but your memory is still strong and very much alive. We think of you every day and miss you.
You will never be forgotten and you will live in our hearts for ever.
Until we meet again someday bro.
Pat
C K
September 8, 2006
Joey, that is how my Daddy referred to you...he misses you and can't mention NYC without saying that you were his greatest memory...he cried that day, worried for your loss and worried for your wife. Paul cared for you in a way you will never know, and I, without knowing you, carry on his legacy of respect. We will always think of you in our hearts, and NYC will always be dear in the hearts and minds of the Kirkby family...most importantly, my Dad misses you so much Joey.
Mary Jean Pompeo
April 20, 2006
Joe (Hey Man),
I had a dream of you one night. A dream that was so vivid and real. You walked into my bedroom where your nephew, Dylan, and I were sleeping. You gently pulled down the covers and climbed into bed next to us. That was the dream. I remember waking with a smile on my face and a feeling in my heart that I can't quite describe. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for "visiting" me in my dream, and for letting me know that your spirit lives on and that you are always here to watch over Tish, Nicole, Matt, and all of us.
I miss and think of you every day of my life.
Happy Belated Birthday! I love you,
Mary Jean
Pat Pompeo
April 12, 2006
Joey,
Not a day goes by and you are not in my thoughts. I miss our phone conversations driving home on Rt 80. I miss those Saturday trips to the Home Depot, going to Matt's games and the vacations we shared. There were so many other things we did as one big famly I could go on and on. Your children are amazing, you were truly blessed to have them. They have become fine young adults you would be very proud! Tish has been the glue that holds the family together. And you know that Mary and I will always be there for all of them. We tell Dylan about his Uncle Joey often and he will know you through our memories (we have tons). Not only did I lose my brother-in-law that fateful day I also lost my best friend.
Happy Birthday (April 10).
I love you man.
Green grass and high tides forever.
Pat
Gerry Wormann
September 11, 2005
Tish, Nicole, Matt,
Just a short note to let you know that I think of you guys each day. Today, on the 4th anniversary of the day your husband and dad entered the gates of heaven, I said a special prayer in his honor. You are special people and I want you to know how much you are loved. I thank you so much for providing your strength and support to us this year as Warren Jr. joined Joe in heaven. I am sure they are sharing some amusing and loving stories about Sr. and Amanda.
I visited the beautiful memorial for Joe yesterday and today - it is an inspirational and peaceful place to visit and reflect on the live of a special person.
Love Gerry
Alissa & Todd Vilardo
August 9, 2004
We are across the nation from you. And since the day of 9-11, when we heard that a young Vilardo man had been killed in the towers, we were grief stricken even more so. We are so very sorry for this Vilardo family's loss. Please know that while we have never met, you all have stayed in our hearts since this tragedy, and always will.
Frank Wormann
May 21, 2004
Patricia,Nicole & Matt
Your family is always in our prayers. I know what a great man Joe was from the stories I have heard & read. Nicole, You are a great friend to my niece Amanda, and I think of you & your family all the time. She has said that your DAD was a second father to her. The Love she has for you and your family will always be! Matt, every time I coach my sons baseball team I will think of the bond that it can bring to a father & son like you & your DAD. Patricia, Please listen to the HOLY SPIRIT & let GOD guide you with the love of all your friends & family. You are truly in our thaughts & prayers all of the time!
GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU!
Victor Della Volpe
September 13, 2003
Trish, Were very sorry for you're loss. Hope you are coping with this as well as you can. Vic & Vinny
Dylan Cofield
September 11, 2003
Dear Nicole,
I know that we've only hung out a few times, but I know that you are a sweet girl and I've been praying for you all day. I never knew your father, but I know he raised you well and from the stories that I hear he was a great guy. Words cannot express my deepest sympathies and I wish nothing but the best for you and your family.
Love
Dylan Cofield (or Mr. Armani)
A Family
September 11, 2003
To the family and friends of Joseph... No we didn't know him... but he was a face and a name from our area - He and others like him brought that day home - to our very own neigborhoods... Please know today that we pray and cry with you - no one can understand your loss like you do - but we can promise to never forget what happend that day - and never forget who did it - and never forget what was stolen... from our very own towns - families like us - people like us - just doing thier jobs... just caring for thier families... We pray everyone keeps alive the memories - and the fervor that will help us always honor thier memory - and NEVER let it happen again! God Bless
September 11, 2003
As we mark the 2nd Anniversary of the WTC Attacks, May the Lord be watching over the Vilardo Family as well as all their friends. God Bless Mr. Vilardo and all those who perished in the attacks. May all the men and women overseas fighting for our country come home safely and May the gift of strength and faith be with you everyday.
Christina Ferrucci
September 11, 2003
Nicole,
I just want you to know how proud we all are of you and how much you have been an inspiration to anyone you have ever met. You are truly an angel sent from above to show us all how special and precious life is. Your smile alone is a constant remembrance of your strength and love for everyone around you. You know that no matter what happens, how many years pass and how far apart we all move, your friends will ALWAYS be here for you. I love you soooooo much!!! God Bless you and your family!
Love always,
Christina
Courtney
September 11, 2003
Matt, i could only imagine being w. out my dad. It has to be rough on you and your family. All of you friends are always here though. prayers are with you and your family. god bless
Tricia Kurzyna
September 11, 2003
Nicole,
Well once again, you leave me speechless. You are the most amazing girl I've ever crossed pathes with and I will never forget you for it. It seems as if with each day, you grow stronger and stronger. I don't think you'll ever fully understand what YOU have done for so many people. You've shown me, and I'm sure everyone else that you can find beauty, strength, and love in the most unexpected places and circumstances. With all you do everyday, I know you father is smiling down on you, in awe of what a beautiful person his little girl is. I love you with all my heart and want you to know that although we don't talk as much as I'd like, you are in my thoughts and my prayers every single day. You are beautiful! All my Love, Tricia
Daniel Zachman
September 10, 2003
Matt,
I didn't know you when all this happened, and I regret never saying anything over the year that I knew you. And just so you know if you need someone to talk to or anything you can talk to me. Your a good kid and if your anything like your dad there was a great loss. Just stay strong and never forget him. Always think of the good times.
Jeremy Pizarro
September 10, 2003
Hey matt, me and you really dont know each other, but im really sorry, best of luck to you and your family
Jeremy
Sam G
September 10, 2003
Matt,
I don't really know you at all, you're in my study hall and that's about the only time I see you, but I know what it's like to lose someone you truly love... and although your dad passed away in a completely different way than most of my loved ones have, I almost feel your pain. I'm so sorry that this had to happen to you and your family. Just keep a big smile on your face, and hopefully things will become a lot better for you. I didn't really know your father either, but I'll never forget seeing him up at Lenape after my track practices walking the dogs, and my dad would ALWAYS stop and have a conversation with him, mostly about you and your baseball. I'll say a prayer for your dad, because we all know he is greatly missed. God bless.
Love,
Sam
Marissa Webb
September 10, 2003
Nicole and Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you always.
~Marissa
Thomas Vilardo
September 7, 2003
Joe,
One of my greatest regrets is that we lost touch so many years ago. I'm sorry I never took the time to let you know how much you meant to me growing up. But i want to let you know that a day doesn't go by that I don't think of you.
Thomas
Danielle Dalesandro
April 10, 2003
Dear Mr. Vilardo,
Your family means nothing short of the entire world to me. Through them I have gained so much. Your daughter is my rock, my heart, my soul, and my inspiration. I can't thank you enough for giving me the gift of my best friend, my other half. You should be so proud of her. Not a single day goes by that she doesn't amaze me. Every person who has ever met her is the better for it. Her smiling face has lifted the spirits of so many and I sincerely hope that she knows that. To be completely honest with you, I don't know who or where I would be today without Nicole. She is truly my guiding star, my butterfly. She is always there for me when I need her. Not a day goes by that I don't realize how much I owe her and how lost I would be without her. If she has gotten out of me just a quarter of the friendship that I have received from her, I should be proud. One day I hope to figure out a way to repay her...a way to say thank you for all she has done, knowingly and unknowingly. From the tubs of mint chocolate chip to the adventures when I so desperately needed them. No one will ever be able to teach me the lessons your daughter has shown me throughout the past few years.
She looks up at you every day, Joe. Be proud that you raised such a wonderful daughter with a heart of gold. God Bless Nicole, Matthew, and Tish...continue to watch over them always and keep them safe.
Happy 44th Birthday.
All my love and prayers forever,
Danielle
March 10, 2003
There are times when there is nothing better to say then keep your head up, and i'll be there. Not like i need to tell you that you trooper. You're a package of wonders, and when you decide to open, let me know, i gotta see this. A box of rain will ease the pain, and love will see you through.
Peace. Smile. And you look lovely today.
P.S. I really wish they didn't throw the date up, just because i signed so late, doesn't mean i don't care, it just means that i am not very good at noticing small lettering in websites and such.
Stephanie Snyder
March 10, 2003
This is to a girl who got into my head with all the pretty things she did...
Nicole, I clearly haven't known you for as long as your other friends have, but I can tell from what I've seen that you are an angel. You are always there for me, whether it be tears or laughter, you are always looking to share. I love you much, please stay strong, and call me when you need a shoulder, because I know I owe you more than one. Love you. God Bless you and yours
Ashley Conklin
October 16, 2002
Nicolie and Matt
Its hard to express what i feel sometimes. In this certain situation, what i feel in my heart wont come out in words. Nicole i want you to know something. When you went away to Germany, i spent lots of time in your driveway talking to your dad. He would make me feel better when i wanted to kill hoover, and he would make me laugh when all i could do is cry. He made me promise not to tell you, but i thought this would just show you how much he loved you. Your crazy father marched right up to that good old Lenape Valley and talked to every person that had anything to do with the softball program. He may have made a couple of "scenes" of his own, and he didnt want you to get embarassed by it. But i figured that then, you would have been mad at him, but now.. we're all so proud. I hope your father knows when i quit fh and softball, he was in my heart... and he will be now and forever. I love your family so much.... you guys have inspired me to be a stronger person. To keep my head up high, and smile. And no matter what losses we come by, we will always have eachother... I love you...
Kori Jacobson
October 16, 2002
Nicolie & Matt:
i love you guys so much you have no idea! what can i say we have been through so much together, but whats important is that were staying strong!!! Nicole, we have been the best of friends for it feels like forever. i know everything about you and you know everything about me. you are the most important person in my life. you have changed me into a better person by just being around you. with the faith that you have in me, it makes me want to do so much with my life. you are my angel. you know that your father is watching you everyday and laughing at the stupid things that happen. i can just see it! this is one of his weird ways of teaching you about life. how to go on and be the amazing person that you are. you could never know how much you mean to me because words could never describe, and your family could never know how much they mean to me. your family is my family. matt is my little bro, mommy is my mommy, and daddy is my daddy,and you, your my sister, the closest person to me. i remember the funny talks me and dad would have about you know what(softball)and that makes me laugh. also mem north carolina!!! how could you ever forget. the lip rings that dad got so mad about and when he found out that they were fake he was still mad! also our charlie's angels! we are the best at being stupid together. well i guess my stories are over. i just want you to always remember how much i love you. also how much daddy loves you. hes with you everyday, even if you cant see him i know that you can feel him. hes watching over you, matt, mommy, harley, and of course seb. i think about him everyday of my life and i always will. he was and still is an amazing person and a loving guy. he just is one of those people,if you are lucky,you can meet and will make an impact on your life forever. even if he doesnt know it i love him with all of my heart and he has touched my life greatly. he is definately my role model. and you are too. i love you so much matt and nicolie! you are the strongest and most amazing family i have ever met in my life, please always stay strong. im here always and forever and only a phone call away! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!
Jenna McAvinn
October 10, 2002
Matt, I dont even know what to say...you were always there for me, and you stood by my side through alot, when I lost my mom you were right there guiding me. I will do the same for you. I will always be here for you. Your father was a great man, never forget that. You, your mom, and Nicole are in my prayers forever. Stay strong Matthew, you have grown up and turned into a great and successful person. Don't ever change, your father is looking down upon you right now smiling because he knows how great his son has grown to be. And I know he is so proud of Nicole for making it through highschool and moving onto college. Matt, you are like a brother to me, and you always will have a place in my heart. I love you so much. Stay Strong!
Jackie Muller
September 12, 2002
Dear Matt- You are one of the nicest people I have ever met. It is strange to think I have only known you 2-3 years and yet we have grown so close. Since the very first day I met you I knew you were special and I have no doubts your father was a huge part in that. Unfortunately though, I never had the chance to meet him, but if he's anything like you than I can tell he too was a wonderful man. I know he will be missed very much. And I will always be here no matter what, through everything! GOD BLESS YOU MATT, AND YOUR FAMILY! I love you!
Love~
Jackie
Kyle Benz
September 12, 2002
Nicole,
Hey babe, just wanted to say that I love you and my prayers are with you. I'm gonna miss you lots. Tell mother I said that i'm thinking of her. Love ya babe. Smile for me.
I love you Nicolie!
Lauren Pugliese
September 12, 2002
Nicolie,
It seems like just yesterday I was waving to your dad as I drove by him while he was taking Harley and Seb for their daily walk. At the time it was almost routine. I would do anything to have that back, not so that I would have someone to wave to, so that I would know that your dad was still here w/ you, just down the road! But then i remember, that even though we can't see him walking the dogs, or at the top of the hill at our field hockey games, he is always with you in heart, and in spirit. He will forever be your guardian angel, to protect you and watch over you always. Your dad was such an amazing man, filled with so much love for you and Matthew. I will never forget how much he loved to watch you play field hockey, and the pride in his eyes when we walked up that hill after our games. He was always so happy when he was near you. I have no doubt in my mind that he is so proud of the way you have pulled through this, and how your brave, uplifting spirit and endless smiles have impacted others, especially me! I love you with all my heart...I truly believe we were meant to be neighbors, but most importantly, the best of friends! Through happy times and sad times, you have been there for me, always! Please remember that I will forever be here for you, and that no matter how far apart we are, we will always be close at heart...I love you so much, my captain! You and your Mommy and Matt and Harley and Sebastian are in my prayers every single day. Always keep your undying faith, and keep your head up, thats where your daddy is.
Love always, Lauren
Cathy McKenna
September 11, 2002
Nicole,
You are the most wonderful human being I have ever met! You have such a big heart and bubbling personality and you have been able to get through the most horrible thing ever....losing your father. I just want you to know that I am going to be here for you no matter what happens and no matter where life takes us. We've been through so much since we were little and we've gotten through it all. I know our friendship will carry us through anything. Your dad would be so proud of you "Colie" I can still hear him callin you that! You have such wonderful mother who cares about you so much and a great brother who will follow in your footsteps. If you ever need anything I will be here forever and ever and that will NEVER change. You will always be like a sister to me and I love you so much. Your dad was such a wonderful man and he will be missed so much by not only me, but everyone who ever had the chance of meeting him. He was obviously a great impact in many people's lives. Nicole, keep smiling and praying and God will help you through it all. Love you always,
Cathy(Katja)
Lexa Hickey
September 11, 2002
Dear Nicole,
I never got to know you on a very personal basis and I never had the pleasure of meeting your father. But I know that you are someone that I have looked up to and wanted to be like ever since the moment I met you at field hockey. You always had a smile no matter what was going on. I could never imagine the pain you and your family are going through, but I want you to know that my deepest thoughts are with you all. I look up to you so much and even more so since Sept. 11th; you carried yourself with grace and dignity and I admire you so much for that. God bless you and your family.
Love always,
Lexa
Allie goduto
September 11, 2002
Big Sister,
i love u so very much ure the strongest person ive ever met!! ill always be here for u if ya need me! GOD BLESS U!!
i love u big sister!!!!
Tony Gallagher
September 11, 2002
Nicole,
I dont even know what to say to you. Youre strength is the most inspiring thing in my life. Anytime i get mad or upset, i just think about how you are dealing with what has happend, and how strong you are, and i just forget about my small problem, and pray that i can be as strong as you throughout my life. You, youre family, and the rest of the victims, are the only reason i will become a marine this summer, and i will fight for you as long as i can, and as hard as i can.
I love you and thank you for giving me someone so special to look up to.
Tony
jessie failla
September 11, 2002
Nicole&Matt- You both are two of the kindest people I have ever met. I only have known Matt for 2-3 years. And I've only known Nicole for 2. But just from that short time I Already know how wonder you both are. Unfortunately, I never had the oppertunity to have met your father, but from how you both turned out, and all the great things said about him, I'm sure he was a great man, and will be greatly missed forever. Live, Laugh, & Love Life.. GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY!!!!!
Tricia Kurzyna
September 11, 2002
Nicole,
Well what can I say? You are the strongest, most beautiful girl I have even crossed pathes with. You have amazed me in so many ways this last year. With everything you have gone through, you've managed to keep smiling. You are beautiful! Thank you for being you, you've made my smile everytime I've seen you for the last four years! Don't ever change anything about yourself! Stay strong, I know you will. My love and prayers are with you and your family always. All My Love Always, Tricia <3
Keith Flaherty
September 11, 2002
Matt,
I just want to let you know that I'll always be there for you.
Matt Gailums
September 11, 2002
Dear Vilardo Family,
Wow it has already been one whole year since 9/11 2001. That seriously was the worst day of my life. I didnt know what to think about all of it. I didint even want to think that this was real. I want this to be a horrible dream and then just wake up but i guess I just never did. I am very very sorry to hear about Mr. Vilardo. He was a wonderful person. He was always there for you wghen you needed help on anything. He was an awesome coach for baseball and eveyrthing else. I hope that everything will go great for your family. I wouldnt know where to even start Iif I lost my father or mother or any one in my family. My prayers go out to your family and I hope that ypu lives will go as you want them to go in the future. GOOD BLESS YOU !
Katie Lewczyk
September 11, 2002
Dear Nicole,
Your strength is truly amazing! Despite the fact that the world has been rocked by this tragedy, you have stayed so poised, strong, and graceful all throughout your sorrow. I think that I can speak for everyone who knows you that your smile was an inspiration for all of us. You are a beautiful person-never forget it! Your father would be very proud of you. You and your family have a place in my prayers always.
XOXO,
Katie
Kevin Reed
September 11, 2002
Nicole,
As your life has been struck by tragedy and loss, your strength and courage have inspired a community, a nation. Your smiling face has lifted the spirits of people everywhere in a time when even a simple smile seems so impossible. God bless you for your strength, God bless you for your courage, and I thank Gob for blessing our world with you. May you live on knowing that through your loss you have gained another angel, another guardian, and another guiding light. The world still spins only through your ability to still show your smile!
I love you and will continue to pray for you every day!
Kevin
steve andrade
September 11, 2002
hey nicole and matt,
whats up yall its sept 11 now and i am very scared. i love u both nicole as my sister and matt as my lil bro i never had u 2 are great and are stronger than anyone i know i love u both and i will always be there for u both no matter what so if u just wana talk call me or get in touch. Matt especially u bro there is a lot i could teach u about stuff and im the guy to listen too ask nicole. Nicole and matt make sure u remember the great times and tell your mom she is in my prayers also. there is so much i could keep writing but i know i should stop i love all of u with everything i can bye for now love steve
Alisha Epstein
September 10, 2002
Nicole,
You and your family are the strongest people I know. I love you all so much. Remember no matter how hard things may get you have all of us to lean on. Your father was an amazing man who is loved by all. He will never be forgotten.
Tracy Rankin
September 10, 2002
Nicole,
I know we don't know each other very well yet,and I never got to meet your dad, but I'm sure he was a wonderful person. I just wanted you and your family to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. Feel free to call if you need someone to talk to.
love,
Tracy
Amanda Wormann
September 10, 2002
Nicole, the first 14 years of our friendship I always knew that you were someone special to me, someone that would make me who I am today, but I can honestly say that I never had any idea that the 15th year would be so different. Everytime I look at you, see your smile, hear you laugh, watch your tears and see you cry...you bring tears to my own eyes (although I try to hide them from you, you know its true) You have become such a strong girl with a huge heart. You have taught me what it means to have strength and to carry on with life. I have told you time and time again that your dad is so proud of you, I know that for a fact...look at you! Being so far away from you is so hard, but trust me when I tell you that I think about you and pray for you almost every second of the day, you are constantly in my heart. Tomorrow when you go see daddy, tell him I said this:
Joe, what can I say? You always were, and still are like a second dad to me. Thank you for everything you have ever taught me and more importantly...thank you for giving me the best friend I could ever ask for...keep taking care of her and taking care of us all. I love you.
Rick Cashman
September 10, 2002
Miss you Joey.
Kristin Verdi
September 9, 2002
Nicole,
You are definetly the strongest person i have ever met. You are the sweetest most sincere person, don't change for anything or anyone..you have a special glow always around you that draws people to you! you are very special person and i'm lucky to have you in my life, these past couple of years! You always seemed to know how to make me smile...or make me feel better! And i hope if you ever need something i can do the same for you!!If you ever need anything don't hesitate to call. I'll always be here!! Good luck with everything you do! I'm sure you'll be a great success...you never cease to amaze me! My prays are with you and your family always!!
chelsea holland
September 9, 2002
I know that you may not know me but i am a junior at St. Pius X High School and for Sept 11th this year we are having a peace week for the next 2 weeks and every student in our school gets a name and i got Joseph Vilardo and i just wanted to tell you that he will be in my prayers and the schools as well.
Mike Chernesky
September 9, 2002
Dear The Vilardo Family-
I'm very sorry about your loss. Mr.Vilardo was the greatest husband/ father I have ever met. You are the strongest people ever. Mr.Vilardo was the best baseball coach I have ever had. Matt, Mrs. Vilardo, and Nicole if you ever need anything I will always be here to help you. GOD BLESS YOU!
Kym Skillen
September 9, 2002
To the Vilardo Family-
You are such a loving and caring family. I am so sorry for your loss, i can't imagine what you must have endured this past year, but you have been amazingly strong and my thoughts, prayers of love, hope and strength are with you everyday since day one. God Bless You!
Hope Downing
September 9, 2002
Dear Nicole,
You are truely the strongest girl I have ever known in my entire life. Seeing you in highschool hold your head up every day and still laugh and smile and go on with your life has really been an inspiration to me and the rest of the people who have known you. God Bless.
Marilyn McGurk Campione
September 9, 2002
To the Vilardo Family,
I knew Joe in high school and remember him well. Our 25th reunion is this October and he will be sorely missed. My husband is a New York City firefighter whose firehouse lost 11 men. He was saved by the 5-7 minute delay in getting to the Brooklyn Battery tunnel. As happy as I was about my husbands survival, I was very saddened to hear about the loss of my old friend. I will keep him and his family in my prayers forever. Marilyn Campione, Staten Island NY
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