H. Norman Wright

H. Norman Wright obituary, Bakersfield, CA

H. Norman Wright

H. Norman Wright Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers from Nov. 20 to Nov. 22, 2023.
H. Norman Wright was born on July 25, 1937. He grew up in Hollywood Hills, CA with his parents, Amelia and Harry, and his half-brother, Paul Fugleberg. The family attended Hollywood Hills Presbyterian Church, where Norm actively participated in the youth group, embodying their motto: "To Know Christ and Make Him Known."

His journey to make Christ known continued throughout his life. Norm graduated from Westmont College, where he met his future wife, Joyce Archinal. They married in 1959, and Norm pursued future education at Pepperdine University and Fuller Seminary. Together, they raised two children, Sheryl and Matthew. The later addition of their granddaughter, Shaelyn, brought great joy and completeness to their family. On numerous occasions, Norm expressed that the profound life lessons he learned about the presence and power of Jesus surpassed those from formal education. His son, Matthew, was born with a severe mental disability, and his ability never reached that of a three-year-old. It was from he and Joyce's loving Matthew, that Norm gently learned to respond and minister to hurting people.

Wearing various hats with grace he began in ministry as a youth pastor, eventually becoming a professor at Biola University and Talbot School of Theology, an author, speaker, Marriage and Family Therapist, and Victim Relief Chaplain. Additionally, he played a crucial role as a counselor/debriefer during national tragic events. Despite his varied roles, Norm cherished his fishing hat, and always found time for fishing, considering it a means of unwinding, relaxation, and praising God.

Norm suffered and grew from experiencing God's presence in the midst of several painful losses, including the passing of his son Matthew in 1990, his wife Joyce in 2007, and his daughter Sheryl in 2015. However, he faced these challenges by practicing what he taught with grace, using his own experiences of sadness, loneliness, and tears to minister to others with wisdom. He often said, 'God doesn't waste our experiences, He uses them," when reflecting on the unexpected events in his life.

In November 2020, Norm found love again with God's gift of Mary Morris, marking a blessed chapter in his life. They celebrated their love monthly, recognizing the preciousness of their time together.

Norm wasn't just an educator and writer on relationships, they were the cornerstone of his life. Starting with his relationship with his Lord Jesus Christ to his connections with family and friends. Norm exemplified a life lived with the heart of his Savior. Despite immense success, influence, and fame, Norm never made it about himself. Those closest to him would attest that unless you were aware of his "well-known" and "important" status, you'd never guess. He was a remarkably open, honest, humble, and candid friend-a fellow Christ-follower. Sharing joy and laughter, strength and weaknesses, requesting prayer, and cherishing time together.

In the last year of his life, those intimately connected with Norm witnessed the very real day-in and day-out impact of living a life rooted in father in our Lord Jesus Christ. Norm didn't just preach; he practiced what he preached. Confronting Parkinson's disease, he approached it with the same faith, prayer, and trust in his Savior that characterized his response to past challenges.

Norm will be missed by his family and friends, as well as the millions of lives that God will use him to impact. He often said, "To God be be Glory!" and he would want his ministry to continue to glorify God. Though he will be deeply missed, Norm's ministry will undoubtedly endure, leaving a lasting legacy of faith and service, impacting future generations.

In lieu of flowers ask that donations be made to Hoffmann Hospice https://www.hoffmannhospice.org/ or to Redemption Ranch https://redemptionranchca.org/

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June 12, 2025

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November 15, 2024

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March 1, 2024

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CarolynValdes

June 12, 2025

Although I am not religious in the vein of Wright, I was very affected by his book, Seasons of a Marriage. I have been married 29 years and still learned a lot!

Chris Brown

November 15, 2024

It's hard to believe that Norm has been gone a year. I think about him often and still share his words of wisdom with others. I know he had a glorious reception in heaven and I look forward to a reunion with him one day. Meanwhile, his life is still making an impact on the people I counsel.

Abby Argo

March 1, 2024

I met him at a book signing years ago at Christian Lighthouse bookstore in Long Beach. He was so warm and friendly and talked to me like we were old friends... Abby A.

Mrs. Karla Young

January 10, 2024

Today as I was cleaning my library, I took particular note of the shelf with Norm's books on it and happened to take down "Overcoming Fear and Worry", to display on the coffee table, I wondered how Norm was. Then I came to my emails. Well, I know he is absolutely fine right now in the presence of our Savior.

I knew about him before I met him, and what a sweet gentle man he was. I appreciate his ministry, and he will most certainly be missed.

Pastor Chris Brown

December 27, 2023

Norm was an incredible man. I know he had a wonderful reception in heaven. While I grieve his loss, I rejoice that he is now with the Lord. I only got to know him personally in the last few years. I often cited his writings in my papers during my work on my Master's Degree in Crisis Response and Trauma. When I got to meet him, I was amazed at the time he was willing to invest in conversations with me. He was one of the most gracious people I've ever met.

Larry

December 8, 2023

Norm was a well respected professor in my MFT program. He was the one who interviewed me as an applicant to the program, personally invited me into the program, and invited me to be an intern in his counseling center. A month ago I retired my practice after 43 years in the profession. I have a great deal to be grateful for in Norms tutelage and his wonderful sense of humor.

Chaplain/Minister Annette Arnold-Pflaum

November 28, 2023

Norm is one of the most generous, gracious person I have met. He's allowed me to use his material to teach others how to walk next to those who are hurting. He was always so willing to give what he knew so his ministry would continue to grow and spread. I will honor Norm, by continuing to teach his materials, to be that light for others to see. Thank you Norm, May you Rest-In-Peace! Job well done!

Dave Horst

November 28, 2023

Dave Horst

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Dave Horst

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Dave Horst

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Dave Horst

November 28, 2023

Norm,
I had to go too far back in my album to find pictures of the last times you fished with me.
But in my mind it wasn't long at all.
I think of you often over the years and wonder, I bet Norm would love this.
You've made me a betting person since we met and are memories will always be with me.
I'll miss you Norm.
Dave Horst

Karen Garrett

November 27, 2023

Norm was a teacher, a confidant, a mentor, a friend, and a colleague. It was an honor to learn so much from him and a blessing to call him a friend. He was humble, kind, and inspiring to me personally and surely to all who knew him. Here was the guy ministering to us in our tragedies, then teaching us how to minister to others facing their crises and grief, while he suffered so many losses of those closest to him. He understood the journey of the bereaved better than most and did not waste anything God taught him but used it all for His glory. What a gracious servant of our Lord!

I will miss knowing he is just a call, text, or email away, especially if I have a question about best practices with those grieving or want to have him as a guest speaker in one of my classes at CSUB! I will do my best to take all that Norm taught me about counseling those in crisis, loss, and grief and pass along his wisdom to students interested in helping others. And I will be forever thankful for the gift of knowing and learning from Norm Wright.

I pray his wife, Mary, and his other loved ones are comforted by the peace that passes understanding through our Lord Jesus Christ.

John Coulombe

November 27, 2023

Norm was not just a favorite prof at Talbot who prepared me for the practical parts of ministry but also a great friend over the years. I will always cherish the deep-sea fishing trip we took where Norm taught me how to catch a seagull!

Sue Layman

November 25, 2023

Norm was a kind and gentle man who love the Lord and people. He poured out his life to help those hurting. I have been so blessed by several of his books and have given his wonderful, 'Experiencing Grief" booklet to many. Talking with him one-on-one was a special blessing. He will be missed by so very many around the country who were helped in their times of trauma and troubles.

James H. Stickley

November 24, 2023

My favorite Talbot Professor, always practical, personal and relevant! Jim Stickley

Tim Thompson

November 20, 2023

My first memory of Norm was at Talbot Seminary and he was teaching us how to do pastoral counseling.

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