Neal-Schaeffer-Obituary

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Neal Thomas Schaeffer

Sep 17, 1945 - Nov 6, 2025

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Marilyn, Tom Ally and family, we are so saddened by your loss of Neal, a loving husband, caring father/grandfather.
I was fortunate to have had the pleasure to work for Neal at MEMC as his engineering and construction contractor on many projects. He was a respected professional, recognized by all who worked with him over the years. Later I was able to enjoy Neal’s company on the golf course with Tom and Scott who each excelled in their respective skills which far exceeded mine.

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Marilyn, so very sorry you loss your handsome sweet caring best friend/husband. Praying for your strength. No doubt Neal is now with your beautiful daughter watching over you. Warm hugs.

During this time of profound sorrow we want you to know that you´re not alone. Neal´s memory will live forever in your heart, and in the memories you shared. Our deepest sympathies to you and your family. Judy and Frank

My deep condolences.

Neal was a great guy. At some of the CBC alumni events we got to play golf together and Anna Marie and I sat with Neal and Marilyn at our 60th class reunion. Neal and family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Marylin and family. I am so sorry for your loss. Neal was such a special person: always kind and caring, it was an honor to have known and worked with a man of such integrity. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Tom, your father’s light doesn’t fade — it lives on in you, in every kindness you show and every life you touch. May his memory be a steady warmth in your heart.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during the upcoming days and beyond.

Dear Marilyn and Family,

“But this I call to mind,
and therefore I have hope:

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases,
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is thy faithfulness.
“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
“therefore I will hope in him.”

Praying for the peace of Neal’s soul and strength in the abiding Presence of Our Savior for you and your loved ones.

Obituary

Neal's Obituary

Schaeffer, Neal Thomas, 80, baptized into the hope of Christ's resurrection, Thursday, November 6, 2025. He was born in St. Louis, a son of Joseph and Aurelia Schaeffer (nee Schneider).  Neal was a veteran of the Army Reserves, a member of Ascension Catholic Church, a graduate of Rolla School of Mines (now Missouri S & T) with a bachelor’s in electrical engineering.  He loved working and did so in a very long and successful 52 year career with Monsanto, MEMC and Washington University where he helped manage construction projects for some of their largest campus buildings. He enjoyed sports and was a soccer referee at the high school level for many years.  He was a generous benefactor to many causes and a dedicated volunteer, especially to his church as an Athletic Association board member, reader, Eucharistic Minister and “Master turkey carver” at the Fall Dinner.  He is also a famed social media personality as ‘Chef Schaef’ - sharing everyone’s favorite Thanksgiving cooking lesson each year.

He is the beloved husband of Marilyn Schaeffer (nee Arb); dear father of Tom (Vickie) Schaeffer, Linda (Tim) Tegeler, and the late Julie Ann Schaeffer; proud and loving grandfather of Scott (Sarah) Schaeffer, Ally Schaeffer, and Justin and Jake Tegeler; loving brother of Michael (Brenda) Schaeffer, Susan (late John) Brugman, Mary Beth (Jimmy) Graham, the late Gary (Gloria survives) Schaeffer, and the late Cathy Schaeffer.

Services: Funeral Mass at Ascension Catholic Church, 230 Santa Maria Drive, Chesterfield, Wednesday, 10:00 a.m. Interment Holy Cross Cemetery. If desired, contributions may be made to Tunnel to Towers Foundation, St. Vincent de Paul Society or a charity of your choice. Visitation at the SCHRADER Funeral Home and Crematory, 14960 Manchester Road at Holloway, Ballwin Tuesday from 3-7 p.m. Friends may sign the family's on-line guestbook at Schrader.com.

 

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