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Ruth Painter

Shelburne - Ruth Painter, 92, of Shelburne, formerly of Williston, died peacefully on April 11,

2020 following a long illness. She was born June 11,1927 in Northampton, MA to John and Ruth Ethel (Davison) Russell. Easthampton, MA was home until college days at UMass, after which she worked in Connecticut as Field Director for the Girl Scouts. There she met Herb Painter whom she married in 1950. They settled in Williston village in 1954 to raise their budding family. As a couple and separately they poured themselves into the civic life of Williston.

Ruth directed her boundless energy largely out into the world. She viewed her life work as fostering community, as cultivating connections among people. She gathered with others to plan and dream, be it for affordable housing, to design a new public garden, or to organize a women's running race. She shared meals and her home with friends, extended family, students, and newcomers. She did not hesitate to board a bus headed for Washington, DC. to witness for peace. Ruth spoke up and she spoke out, both at home and in the world.

Some of the organizations Ruth invested her passion in are Williston Historical Society, Williston Federated Church, Bill Koch League (then, Torger Tokle), The Williston Whistle newspaper as one of four women founders, UVM Extension Master Gardening program, Hunger Free Vermont, Habitat for Humanity, Dismas House, and Vermont Respite House.

She gathered with others for the fun of sport to play tennis doubles and to ski, bike, run, and hike with family, friends, and, in later years, the Women of UVM. When she could no longer ski in the Camel's Hump Challenge Ruth showed up to serve hot drinks at the finish line. In her eighties Ruth cleared x-c trails with the Old Goats and continued to dance with the English Country Dancing group.

Ruth participated in government, beginning with student government in college. She served on the Williston Democratic Committee and in the 1980's ran a close race for state rep. As Justice of the Peace Ruth performed numerous civil union ceremonies in the early 2000's.

In the late 1960's Ruth began a career as a reading tutor for dyslexic students, first at Pine Ridge School in Williston and then privately. She completed the Master of Education program at St. Michael's College; she trained in and practiced the Orton-Gillingham method.

In gardening season Ruth retreated to her flower beds. Arranging flowers for weddings, for the house, or for Wake Robin common areas brought her immense pleasure. She adhered to the adage that if you don't have time to clean your house, arrange a bouquet of flowers for the table.

Ruth moved to the Wake Robin retirement community in 2008, which offered opportunities to make new friends and pursue old interests. In 2014, Linden Health Center's Juniper neighborhood became her home. Ruth's family wishes to thank the excellent staff there for providing such a caring, friendly, and respectful environment, one in which she was able to be herself. She continued to be a connector between individuals, to offer kindness and hospitality to those around her. She greatly appreciated every visitor and simple, warm interaction.

Ruth was predeceased by her husband, Herb Painter; son, Jim Painter; granddaughter, Martina Painter; and her three sisters, Eleanor, Virginia, and Janice. She is survived by her children:

Audrey (Lew) Coty of Stowe; Betsy Painter of Montpelier; Charlie Painter of Nome, Alaska; Kay Painter of Albuquerque, New Mexico; and also six grandchildren and many nieces and nephews.

Since at this time we are unable to gather to celebrate Ruth's life, the family welcomes stories and Ruth-moments offered online or mailed to: Nebraska Knoll Sugar Farm, 256 Falls Brook Lane, Stowe, VT 05672.

Contributions in Ruth's memory may be made to Hunger Free Vermont at hungerfreevt.org.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Burlington Free Press from Apr. 15 to Apr. 19, 2020.

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Donald W. Booth

June 7, 2020

I remember Ruth as a tutor at Pine Ridge School (Williston). I never had her as a tutor, but I can say how she influence my life.
I also have some great memories of helping out in the kitchen of P.R.S. with her daughter (Audrey - 1975 to 1976).
I'm 60 and these are memories that I often look back on, with JOY.
Thank you Ruth for sharing your life with us.

Les Griffith

April 23, 2020

Charlie, and all . it's easy to sound cliche' , but your entire family truly were some of the nicest people we ever met. The "Painter house" was a handy landmark - right smack in the center of the village - used to guide lost souls, and its position directly across from the old WCSchool and the athletic fields made it inevitable that a Painter or two were often on hand.
There are so few of what we consider "old guard" left that we feel a particular sadness with the loss of each. Your parents were so outgoing, and teachers by their nature. There was a lesson in most everything they said and did.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful mom. I hope you find comfort in the many memories of her life, and her many gifts to you all. Our thoughts are with you
Les Griffith / Williston

April 22, 2020

My memories are of Ruth, the runner and race director. That's a lot of years ago. But the fond memories of a very special person are with me forever.

Thank you, Ruth




Howie Atherton

April 22, 2020

To Mrs. Painter's family, So sorry to read about your loss. The world, especially Williston, has lost a bright shining, kind soul and heaven has gained a bright star. May you find comfort in the fond memories that you have created and that others will share with you in the difficult time. Marcia Phillips Carmichael

Louise Plouffe

April 21, 2020

Ruth was such a special person who was known and loved by many. She touched many and will be missed. My condolences to her family.

Amy Kalinoski-Murphy

April 20, 2020

Charlie, and family. So sorry to get news Ruth's passing, sent by my sister in Vermont. You will endure the loss of this cherished mother, knowing our thoughts are with you. Feels like a distant family member is gone. My grandfather, Omer Verret made your parents a cheese package for Christmas one year. Your mom sent such a nice thank you. Gracious lady, now enjoying heaven with the others..

Marty DelNevo (Sundby)

April 20, 2020

My condolences to Ruth's family. I am very sorry to hear of her passing and wish you peace and love during this difficult time. I had the privilege of getting to know Ruth when she tutored my son when he was struggling in school. She's the one who identified his issues and worked with him for 5 years. She welcomed us into her home and my son has very fond memories of her kindness and patience as he learned to read and write. I have been thankful to Ruth for all these years as I see the success of her work and time spent with him.

April 19, 2020

My condolences to Ruth Painter' s family.
I had the privilege of being in a writers' group with Ruth and three other women for several years before she went into Linden. I always admired her spunk and courage and positive attitude particularly as she dealt with her declining eyesight. For one of our meetings she wrote about the feeling of freedom she experienced when she got her first two-wheel bike. I remember her saying she felt like she could go anywhere she wanted even though, as she said, "I really never went very far at all."
Vermont has lost one of our great ladies.
Sue Brooks

nelly bonfigli

April 19, 2020

Dear Ruth,you will always be one of our dear friend from our Williston days.,one that always had a nice word ofconcern and help us to go ahead thru tasks in our daily lives. The sweetest lady we ever knew.You leave behind very sweet memories just like Herb and Jim did.
Love always
Nelly Bonfigli and Family

Deb Tamayo

April 18, 2020

Aunt Ruth - there is much to say. So many good family memories with you, uncle Herb and all the cousins - skiing, sitting in the garden, 4th of July celebrations. You always made sure the family got together, that everyone had enough food and felt at home. Your presence in this world will be missed. Deb

Jean Painter

April 17, 2020

To The Painter Family, it has been a pleasure to join this wonderful, happy, adventurous , loyal, caring family and I will be ever thankful to all and especially for the kindness and friendship of Ruth.

Eileen Kristiansen

April 17, 2020

To Ruth Painter's family,

I had the pleasure of working with your father when I was fresh out of college at UVM, 1979-85. I enjoyed many Christmas and office parties at your home. Mrs. Painter was always a warm, welcoming and gracious hostess to our motley crew. A few years later, I found myself a resident of Williston for a litlle more than 10 years. I ran into Mrs. Painter frequently and she always remembered me and took the time to catch up. Please accept my sincere condolences. Your families are in my thoughts and prayers.

Terry Shortsleeves

April 17, 2020

To the Painter families - Very sorry for your lost. I have had many memories when we were neighbors in Williston Village. Especially when I use to go cross country skiing in the woods behind their house.

Lyn Porter

April 16, 2020

I have always fondly remembered working with Ruth at Pine Ridge. She had a genuine smile that made you feel like you the most important person to her at that moment. What a special person. My condolences to your family.

Dana Hood

April 16, 2020

Kay and family, so sorry to hear about your mom, what a wonderful family she and Herb raised. She is now with Jim and Herb and in peace. Jim invited me to play tennis for the first time at the courts across from your home and both Ruth and Herb came over to say hi and cheer us on ~1973. I will never forget it. I still try to play every week now some 50 years later and every time I reach into my bag for my racquet, I think of your family on that day.
-Dana

David Mullin

April 16, 2020

Ruth, was a true friend to Green Mountain Habitat for Humanity. She lead by example, and she was always looking to connect people so more could be accomplished. Ruth helped change lives, she added to this world, and that will live on.

Ken Fortier

April 16, 2020

A great lady! She did so much for everybody in Williston. I have a very fond memories of her & the family. RIP you deserve it!! Prayers & thoughts are with you all!!

Ella Shortsleeves-Becker

April 16, 2020

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.Sorry for loss my thoughts and prayers go out to the family. Always remember at Halloween we always look for to go the Painters house for there popcorn balls.

Doug Harvey

April 16, 2020

Probably the nicest person I ever met. She always was genuinely concerned and really cared for all the children who grew up in Williston around her children. She always had a hot cup of coco for kids playing outside in the winter. She will be missed by everyone ho ever had the pleasure of knowing her. My deepest condolences to the family. Prayers for you guys during this rough time

Laura Engels

April 16, 2020

Am so sorry for your loss. I have many fond childhood memories of Mrs. Painter.

Joanna Berk

April 15, 2020

Ruth officiated at my wedding in 1993 when she was a Williston JP. She was kind, accommodating, and supportive and a wonderful celebrant. So sorry for your loss.

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