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Rebecca Adelman Obituary

Rebecca M. Adelman, age 36, recently of Brooklyn, was fatally injured on April 22, 2020 in a traffic accident on her way to work at the NY Presbyterian Hospital NICU. Rebecca, known to her extended family as "Bess," was the light of our lives, and the beloved spouse of Caroline Lemelin and devoted mother of twin two year old sons, Rory and Finn Adelman. After graduating from Wellesley College in 2004, she saw the world as her oyster. She headed to DC focused on public service, eventually joining the Obama Presidential Campaign staff. She later worked in the HHS Dept under both Obama terms, rising to the position of its Deputy Liaison to the White House. Inspired by her HHS colleagues to be a "doer rather than a talker" she achieved her RN and MPH with Honors from Johns Hopkins University. Her RN career began in NY as a NICU nurse at Mt Sinai, where she rose to its Clinical Nurse Manager position before becoming the Patient Care Director at the NYP NICU last year. No matter the professional arena or personal circumstances, her natural skill set enabled her to serve at the highest level of proficiency and to love with the fullest and most joyful heart imaginable. In addition to her spouse and sons, she leaves her adoring parents, Patricia T. Adelman and Howard Adelman of Chicago, Il., sister Mara (Patrick) Cotter of Chicago, brother Michael (Danielle) Adelman of NYC, loving relatives, friends from her childhood home of Flossmoor, Il., TNT Triathletes in DC, and those she served alongside in her NYC health care communities. In lieu of flowers, those wishing to make a contribution in Rebecca's memory may consider donating to the Rebecca M. Adelman Memorial Trust f/b/o Rory and Finn Adelman, Wells Fargo Advisors, 500 Lake Cook Road, Suite 300, Deerfield, Il. 60015. Contact Thea at (847) 405-7364 for further info. Arrangements for a celebration of her all too short but profoundly purposeful life will be held after the pandemic restrictions have been withdrawn.

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Published by Chicago Tribune from Apr. 30 to May 3, 2020.

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Kevin

November 18, 2023

I pass this bench several times a week . . your love for her makes my heart full . yet it makes me want to give all of you . a big hug, my sincere and deepest sympathies . . know that her memory lives with many people . . and inspires us

Lisa Colando

October 21, 2021

I am so very sorry for your loss.... To all of Rebeccas Family, Friends and Loved ones. I will continue to Pray for God to bring you some form of Peace today and always.

J.P.

January 15, 2021

May memories of her be a blessing. I am so sorry for your loss, she was an amazing person with so much to live for. She will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved her.

May 15, 2020

I'm so sorry to hear of your loved and deepest condolences are extended to you. Something that's helped me through the death of loved ones is to reflect on 1 Corinthians 15:26.

Natasha and Vic Lichtenberg

May 11, 2020

Thinking of you with deep sorrow and sympathy, Howard, Pat, and family.
We were not fortunate to have met Bess but reading about her and hearing about her from the rest of you sheds light on her exceptional character and how she impacted others during her all too brief life.
I wish we had known your extraordinary Bess.

Jim Coen

May 5, 2020

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

Christopher Pikelis

May 5, 2020

Rebecca, I wish you eternal peace and rest as you transition to a higher and better place. Your work and love while on Earth made a difference for many and always will be positively remembered by those left behind.

Thomas Paullin

May 4, 2020

I am very sorry for your loss. I felt fortunate to get to spend some time with Bess when she was living in Baltimore. Her accomplishments in her short life were amazing, and it is sad her family, friends and the world did not get to see her live out a full life and watch what she would have accomplished.

Charles Ennis

May 3, 2020

In her interview for the nurse manager position at Mount Sinai, Rebecca told me that she she did not see herself in an office making policy. She wanted to be on the frontlines of healthcare making a positive difference for patients. Of course, I hired her on the spot. Rebecca she did what she said and more every single day. She quickly became a dear friend and trusted colleague to me and many others. She always had the right words for any situation. Just before social distancing became wide spread, I had a chance meeting with Rebecca on the subway. I had just finished a particularly tough day and was on the way home. Rebecca gave me a big hug, showed me updated pictures of Caroline and the boys and we quickly got caught up. After she stepped off the subway, I remember feeling so much better. In fact anytime I spent with Rebecca I felt better. She just has that effect on people. I believe once the grief starts to pass, the memories of her will have the same effect. I will miss her very much. I wish we had more time to spend with her and I will forever cherish the time working with her those 10 minutes on the B train.
My deepest sympathies to you.

Jim Borek

May 3, 2020

I'm very sorry for your loss, Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your families in this very difficult time Her memories will live on, she's with the Angels keeping you and the kids safe forever.. God Bless you and your families..

May 2, 2020

I am so very sorry, from the Boston area. I just happened across Rebecca's obituary. Never forgotten.

Roslind

May 2, 2020

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Flora Alderman

May 2, 2020

My thoughts are with you

Daphene

May 2, 2020

As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.

Sheryl Kimmel

May 1, 2020

So sorry for the family and communities. Bess was clearly a model for the rest of us.

Sarah Follmer

May 1, 2020

I was in BBYO with Rebecca and remember her joyful laugh; kind, open heart; deep empathy; and sharp mind. I am so sorry to hear of her sudden passing and send my deepest condolences.

Alexandra

May 1, 2020

My deepest condolences to the Adelman family, Caroline and children. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. May you be find comfort with every sweet and beautiful memory.

Janice Lucchesi

May 1, 2020

Please accept my deepest sympathy.

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Jeffrey Glick

May 1, 2020

I want to extend my deepest sympathies to the Adelman family. So very sad.

Judy Lieb

May 1, 2020

My daughter, Andrea and I very fondly remember Bess from the JCC programs. Even back then, she was a good young friend with so much potential! This is such a tragic loss for everyone who knew her. Our hearts go out to you with our deepest sympathy.

Matt Furton

April 30, 2020

May peace find those touched so deeply by Rebecca.

Caren '76

April 30, 2020

I am a fellow W Alum who met Rebecca years ago in a NYC restaurant. We stayed in contact. I am so sad, so shocked. Wishing strength to Caroline during this time of mourning. My condolences to the extended Adelman Family.

Marta

April 30, 2020

So beautiful inside and out! She was a blessing to all that knew her. Bess will be a blessing foreverā¤ My heart breaks for Especially for Caroline. Love also goes out to the Adelman family.

Ann Gibbons

April 30, 2020

Words cannot express the sadness I feel for you and your wonderful family. Bless you all.

Simone Taylor

April 30, 2020

Please except my deepest sympathies to you and your family at this time of grieving

Gettleman family

April 30, 2020

Bess was a wonderful person throughout her life, both as a little kid growing up and as an adult. She cared about people and always had a smile. She made you feel special when you'd see her. She was truly lovely and accomplished, and a daughter, sister, wife, mom and friend to be exceedingly proud of. Bess, you will be missed. Chad, Lora, Marisa, Matt and Meredith.

Michael King

April 30, 2020

I was beyond devastated when I heard about Rebecca. I remember her as a child as my wife and I were best friends with Pat and Howard. My thoughts and prayers are with the Adelman family.

April 30, 2020

We are devastated. She was such a warm, wonderful person and our hearts go out to Caroline, the boys and her Marblehead & Illinois families. Mary, Chris, Caroline & Patrick Connelly

Carol

April 30, 2020

Rebecca was a shining light on the unit one of the nicest boss's in my 35year career in the NICU. Always available, always asking if there was anything she could do for you. A true talent , so compassionate always smiling she will be missed. My condolences and prayers to her family.

Bob Rodey

April 30, 2020

We send our deepest sympathies to you.

Gail & Mark Page

April 30, 2020

We were so sorry to hear this devastating news; our hearts break for the family. May your memories of Bess and her impact on those around her, always make you smile. With deepest sympathy.

Lisa Vogel

April 30, 2020

A perpetual smile on that pretty face. Warmth, caring and love always. Xoxo

Sophia

April 30, 2020

Rebecca was the brightest light. She was in my Society Zeta Alpha cohort at Wellesley. I will always remember her for her infectious laugh and relentless positivity. May her beautiful memory bring you comfort at this time.

Sieglinde Aigner-Crooks

April 30, 2020

I never knew you beautiful and amazing woman. I know and love your sister-in-law Maggie who shared your story. May you as an angel protect and hover over your boys and wife. Wish I could bring you back for them. Siegi

April 30, 2020

Howard, I first read about Rebecca on fb through a mutual friend, Becky, who knew her from the Obama campaign and later and wrote about her with much affection and admiration. I am so sorry for your loss. Micah

April 30, 2020

Rebecca and her family were friends of my daughter Victoria and her family in Brooklyn, having children of the same age and living in the same building. I met Rebecca and her family at my grandson's first birthday party last year. Rory and Finn, my grandson's playmates, are so adorable and Caroline and Rebecca so kind and such loving parents. On subsequent visits to Brooklyn I'd see Rory and Finn who played on the 18th floor with my grandson, and I was always asking my daughter about those two whenever we spoke on the phone. All condolences to Caroline and Rebecca's family.
Daniel R. Friedman, Chicago

Linda and Randy Gordon

April 30, 2020

We were devastated to hear about Rebecca. You are in our thoughts, our hearts and our prayers. We wish for your family strength and peace.
Our deepest sympathy,
Randy and Linda Gordon

Moira Mack Muntz

April 30, 2020

Heartbreaking. Rebecca's bright light will never be forgotten. She was a wonderful friend and amazing person who gave so much to this world in her too few years on this Earth. Much love to her friends and family.

jeanne mcinerney

April 29, 2020

My beautiful friend, I miss you so much already my heart is broken into a million pieces. Your joy for everyone and everything, your love and affection towards all who crossed your path will always be an inspiration. Every person who had the joy of meeting you is a better person as a result. The light in this world has dimmed for now but will be restored through your beautiful boys Rory and Finn.

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