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Sonia Todd
Oct, 14, 2012
My name is Sonia Todd and I died of cancer at the age of 38. I decided to write my own obituary because they are usually written in a couple of different ways that I just don't care for. Either, family or friends gather together, and list every minor accomplishment from cradle to grave in a timeline format, or they try and create one poetic last stanza about someone's life that is so glowing one would think the deceased had been the living embodiment of a deity.
I don't like the timeline format because, let's face it, I never really accomplished anything of note. Other than giving birth to my two wonderful, lovable, witty and amazing sons (James and Jason), marrying my gracious, understanding and precious husband (Brian), and accepting the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior—I have done very little. None of which requires obit space that I have to shell out money for.
I also didn't want a bunch of my friends sitting around writing a glowing report of me which we all know would be filled with fish tales, half-truths, impossible scenarios, and out-right-honest-to-goodness-lies. I just don't like to put people in that kind of situation.
The truth, or my version of it, is this: I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, most of the time I failed, but I tried. For all of my crazy comments, jokes, and complaints, I really did love people. The only thing that separates me from anyone else is the type of sin each of us participated in. I didn't always do the right thing or say the right thing and when you come to the end of your life those are the things you really regret, the small simple things that hurt other people.
My life was not perfect and I encountered many, many bumps in the road. I would totally scrap the years of my life from age 16 to 20 . . . ok, maybe 14 to 22. I think that would eradicate most of my fashion disasters and hair missteps from the 80's. But mostly, I enjoyed life. Some parts of it were harder than others but I learned something from every bad situation and I couldn't do any more than that.
Besides there are some benefits to dying youngish, for example, I still owe on my student loans and the jokes on them cuz I'm not paying them. Plus, I am no longer afraid of serial killers, telemarketers, or the IRS. I don't have to worry about wrinkles or the ozone layer and/or hide from the news during election season.
Some folks told me that writing my own obituary was morbid, but I think it is great because I get a chance to say thank you to all the people who helped me along the way. Those that loved me, assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me, and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you. That is what made my life worthwhile.
If you think of me, and would like to do something in honor of my memory do this:
-Volunteer at a school, church, or library
-Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive impact on your life
-If you smoke - quit
-If you drink and drive—stop
-Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams
-Forgive someone who doesn't deserve it
-Stop at all lemonade-stands run by kids and brag about their product
-Make someone smile today if it is in your power to do so
*Services will be held at 11:00 a.m. on Saturday, October 20th at Trinity Baptist Church, 711 Fairview Drive, Moscow, with a potluck reception following, everyone is welcome to attend.
In lieu of flowers a memorial fund has been set up at the Blaine Street Branch of the US Bank in Moscow. Gifts can be made out to the Todd Boys Educational Fund.


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Published in Idaho Statesman on Oct. 19, 2012.
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October 21, 2017
THIS WAS A MOST MARVELOUS WAY TO CONCLUDE A HAPPY LIFE ... HAVE RECOMMENDED TO OTHERS FOR YEARS TO DO SOMETHING SIMILAR AS MOST OBITUARIES ARE NOT WORTHY AND DO NOT TELL WHAT A PERSON WAS REALLY LIKE ... THIS YOUNG LADY CERTAINLY DID IT RIGHT ... YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS MUST BE PROUD AND HAPPY TO HAVE KNOWN SUCH A REMARKABLE LADY.
ALLEN ANTHONY
December 26, 2016
I am glad you knew the Lord and now you are with him, although your family is sad but they will see you again. My condolences to them. I know is hard
Angela Garcia
November 17, 2016
Brian, James, Jason and family...
Your dear wife and mother's words are being shared. I read them today.
An inspirational message that has touched my heart. Sending out a prayer.
Sincerely, Debra
Debra Estep
October 28, 2016
Six years later and she is still inspiring people. I will do a good deed today in honor of her.
Lisa Delaney
October 12, 2013
It's been 1 year now since I cut Sonia's obituary out of the paper. I saved it & re-read it. As so many have posted on this guest book, she was so remarkable that I too regret I never knew her in life. I, however, do feel I knew her through her legacy that she left behind by her words. I have tried to take her advice & am so grateful to have had the opportunity to learn from such a wise soul.
Barbara Monihan
January 28, 2013
When I think of you, I remember the fun times we had together in while in college. You were a ray of sunshine in my day, always bringing a smile to my face. I am so blessed to have known you, and able to call you my friend. I love you, Sonia. Don't forget Y2K!! :)
Bridget Brewer
November 11, 2012
Ure obituary was amazeing..u seem to have been a wonderful down to earth laid back careing and loveing woman! May u rest in peace and watch over ure sons&husband!
denise morrison
November 2, 2012
Wow is all I can say. I never knew you but. All I can say is that you put into words what so many of us would never. Thought of. So your more amazing than you thought.
rebecca ptacek
October 31, 2012
I didn't know her, but after reading her obit, I wish I had - I guess I'll get to meet her some day in the future. I will be praying for her family. God Bless and keep you.
Vickie Hall
October 29, 2012
I was vary moved by your obit kinda diferant but vary good and full of truth. I lost my wife over 5 years ago and her birthday is coming up. I think you were a beter person than you think you were. I hope your family is doing well I know it must be hard for them you were spacal THANK YOU FOR THE WORDS
john garriaon
October 29, 2012
Amazing, beautiful, gorgeous, caring, special to all who must have known you. God speed!
October 29, 2012
What a way to start my day--by reading an obituary of somoene I never knew, but who has left a soft spot in my heart. Sonia Todd has left a wonderful legacy and is now among the angels and our Lord. <3
Anita Morfin
October 27, 2012
What a woman ,Heaven is much better off, with her in it, rest in peace .
spanky
October 26, 2012
what a beautiful obituary! I did not know you but you accomplished more than you know in your too short life. Your beautiful legacy lives on. Rest well lovely lady! God Bless your family my thoughts and prayers are with them. You now soar with wings of Angels
Ann
October 26, 2012
I did not Know Sonia...I read her Self-Composed Obituary...What a Wise Lady. She has lucky Children.Butterflies.
October 22, 2012
This young woman, in her honesty and clarity, is changing lives. Thank you.
Pam Bonner
October 22, 2012
Sonia. I know that you are with God now and I admire your writing of your own obit. If only all of us could be as honest about ourselves and what we anticipate that others would say at our passing, this would open our eyes to the real person that has gone home. God Bless your family for I know you are always in their hearts and have left them wonderful memories.
Liz Corey
October 22, 2012
Gone Too Soon
Like a comet
Blazing 'cross the evening sky
Gone too soon

Like a rainbow
Fading in the twinkling of an eye
Gone too soon

Shiny and sparkly
And splendidly bright
Here one day
Gone one night
Like the loss of sunlight
On a cloudy afternoon
Gone too soon

Like a castle
Built upon a sandy beach
Gone too soon

Like a perfect flower
That is just beyond your reach
Gone too soon
Born to amuse, to inspire, to delight
Here one day
Gone one night

Like a sunset
Dying with the rising of the moon
Gone too soon
Gone too soon
S Robinson Idaho Native
October 22, 2012
I will miss your writing most of all! I'm glad I got to read one last piece.
Kara
October 22, 2012
I did not know Sonia, living in San Diego, California as I do. But I read this today and found amazing insight from someone so young. My condolences to her husband and sons, and all her family and friends. Cherish her memory and live your life as she suggests and the world will be the better for it. I plan to.
Jeanne Wagner
October 22, 2012
I was so touched by your writing. I will
know you someday. God Bless your family,
comfort your family. AnnAsh
October 22, 2012
You have no idea how much this obit has inspired so many people, myself included. those of us who did not know you on this earth have def. Missed out! RIP Sonia
kasie castillo
October 22, 2012
What an amazing mother. I am positive the impact she had the most was on her beloved sons. RIP Sonia
October 22, 2012
Sonia, thank you for sharing your self-written obit with all the world. I wish you knew how much it has touched so many lives. I too have accepted Jesus as my Lord and Saviour and I know its the most important decision I've ever made. You sound like a wonderful woman, a wonderful wife, mother and friend. May God hold your family in his strong, loving arms until you all meet again. Love, Amelia in Arizona.
Amelia
October 21, 2012
I was very touched by Sonia's obituary. Blessings to her family and friends.
October 21, 2012
Mrs. Todd, I wish I could have met you ! What you wrote was very touching and gave me the courage to write my own Obit. I am also going to write personal letters to my Wife Children and Grand Children to let them know how much they mean to me. May God bless you and your family .And as you walk with God in heaven please remember that you did have an impact on some of us on earth.May God Love You and Keep You MICHAEL POOLE
October 21, 2012
Sonia was a beautiful person, inside as well as outside! She LIVED while she was alive, an example in courage and an inspiration to all those of us who were blessed to know her. God Bless the family.
Lynne Crawford
October 21, 2012
Sonia, I don't know you either, but your message makes so much sense. And while you think you "didn't do much" other than have kids and accept Jesus into your life, I think by those things alone, you did a lot! God doesn't judge us by how famous we were, or what earthly things we accomplished. He looks at how we treated each other, and in His Name did what we thought was right. God bless you Sonia, and please watch over the rest of us who are still dealing with our earthly troubles!
October 21, 2012
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HAUNTED BY HER LOVE.
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I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY HER
LOVE;

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY HER
MEMORIES THAT KEEPS ON
LINGER ON AND ON IN MY
HEART OF HER,

SHE HAS GONE ON TO HER
REWARD IN HEAVEN;

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY YOUR
LOVE OF YOU,

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY HER
LOVE;

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY HER
LOVELY DEEP BEAUTY,

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY HER
SWEET AND LOVELY CONVERSATION
OF YESTERDAY YEARS;

SHE HAS GONE ON TO HER
REWARD IN HEAVEN,

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY YOUR
LOVE OF YOU;

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY HER
LOVE,

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY HER
SWEET AND LOVELY PRETTY
SMILE;

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY HER
LOVELY DEEP RADIANT EYES,

SHE HAS GONE ON TO HER
REWARD IN HEAVEN;

I'M ALWAYS HAUNTED BY YOUR
LOVE OF YOU.


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Charles H. Miranda
October 21, 2012
Such a beautiful soul.
Barb Krencicki
October 21, 2012
I didn't know Sonia, but wish I had. Someone shared her obituary with me and I found it to be so beautiful and honest. God rest your soul, Sonia, and may God comfort your family.
Andrea Bihari
October 21, 2012
My condolences and heartfelt thoughts to the Todd family; I have never cried so deeply reading the last words of someone I didn't know...though your voice is gone, your inspirational words live in our hearts
October 21, 2012
Without ever meeting you have touched my heart. I know that you are with the Lord and we will meet when His time is right. Bless you and know that I am lifting your family up in prayer.
October 21, 2012
You are a blessed soul in heaven as you were on earth. You have sent a beautiful message to all of us who read your words and have left a legacy of hope to your family and friends. Your message to live life and sacrifice nothing will be an inspiration to all until God takes us home.
Cyndi Johnson
October 21, 2012
Wow what an obituary. Wish I had known Sonia. So sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in my prayers. God Bless ya'll and may God heal ya'll of your sorrow in time!
Gloria Smith
October 21, 2012
Well done, Mrs. Todd. Your mission lives on.
Anony Mous
October 21, 2012
From Elkhart, Indiana: because of you I will write my own obit one day! :-) thank you. You have inspired many!!
Katie Russwurm
October 21, 2012
Thank you...
October 21, 2012
What a wonderful way to be remembered. Condolences to Sonia's family.
Milore
October 21, 2012
What powerful words. I feel like I knew this lady. Diane Goodwll
October 21, 2012
Jesus welcomed your beautiful soul
carol rogers
October 21, 2012
God Bless
October 21, 2012
You have touched so many lives you will always be remembered you will be missed my so many of us
dimon johnson
October 21, 2012
The only thing I can say is that I wish I knew you..your family was lucky to have you and your children have a wonderful legacy...my sympathy to her family...
A Friend
October 21, 2012
Sonia, what a beautiful person you are. You have not died, you are still very much alive with God and your Savior, Jesus Christ. We who have read this Obit you wrote have learned a wonderful lesson from you. To show respect and understanting to others. I will never forget this. You did everything you were sent here for. You did not fail anyone or yourself. I am so proud of you. You are a special Angel now and forever.
Nancy Hammer
October 21, 2012
in the end it doesn't matter how they died but that they lived and so must we in their honor and their stead.... this was a woman of incredible depth that died far too soon.....I wish I could have met her...
colleen johnston
October 20, 2012
From Santa Barbara, California. God bless you Sonia. Even if you think it wasnt, yours was a remarkable life. Your words of wisdom touched many lives. May the dear lord comfort your beloved family, and hold you close in his loving arms. God bless you my dear.
Trisha Ferreira
October 20, 2012
I did not know you or your family. Im sure in your life you touched many in a positive way. In history artists become famous after passing in their younger years. What you have written has gone viral on facebook. It shines as the truth to so many. It is an example I will follow.

May you all know she has touched me and others in Boise. I truly hope after your grief passes you celebrate her life as best you can. God Bless.
tami golightly
October 20, 2012
What a precious angel, may you soar on high!!! <3
Loretta Baca
October 20, 2012
TY Sonia
paulette schell
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