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Teresa McEldowney
July 5, 2019
I can't believe it has been 2 years since Neal's passing. Over that time I have remembered many things about my childhood and Neal, spending time on the farm with Uncle Wendell, Aunt Betty, Kent and Bryan as well as my 2 sisters Roxie & Shiela, my mom Joy, Uncle Wendell's youngest sister, and my dad Harold Oneth. He has been missed by many but especially his family and close friends. Love and prayers to all of them.
James Thomas
October 5, 2017
To the Patterson, Lillig and Illig families:
Please accept my heartfelt sympathy over your loss. Neal loved his family and his friends deeply. I had the privilege of meeting him and Cliff as a banker to discuss Cerner's needs regarding its first contract to install its Pathnet program. Prior to that job with Houston Methodist, Cerner had not one sale! He convinced me, by handing over the check for Houston Methodist's deposit for the contract and his obvious passion and commitment, that Cerner was going to grow and fast. After that financing plus those that followed, Neal called me one night about financing his 16 or so employees to purchase stock in the closely held company knowing that Cerner was going to go public in the future and he wanted his initial "associates" to participate in the company's success in its market value growth. My bank made those loans due to Neal's logical points. Needless to say those associates have fared well financially.
Neal was the smartest person in business
I've ever had the privilege to know in my some 45 plus years in commercial lending. he retained the smallest details in the company's operations and finances, yet could expound with facts on his market and its global requirements. I often thought he was a a computer himself, yet he he was even more. With his impish smile and reflective glance, one knew he was two steps ahead of every one in a conversation at a Cerner annual meeting or over dinner. And what a wit he had.
Truly, a unique treasure to his family, his friends, his associates, Cerner's clients, and Kansas City. Hunting pheasants, fly fishing for Montana trout, or talking Oklahoma coyote calling....all were special moments with Neal. I doubt if I ever meet another individual on this earth with his character and versatility. What a personality.
May God bless you all again as He did once with His gift of Neal.
Myranda Coons
August 1, 2017
I love the passion and hard work ethic that Neal founded the company on. It's this kind of dedication that has made Cerner a success. You will be missed.
G Koehler
July 25, 2017
I grew up near Manchester,Okla - went to Grade school with Neal and his brothers. Great Parents - Great Family..
Tiffany F
July 20, 2017
Neal and Jeanne's kindness, philanthropic spirit, and partnership with the Ellis Foundation provided me with a college scholarship to Oklahoma State University. I will forever be grateful for their generosity. Neal had a giving heart.
Debi & Dennis Eskie
July 17, 2017
Neal is one of those rare individuals that made a difference in the world. Our prayers are with the family as they face tomorrow without his physical presence, but we believe he will always be with you in spirit.
Debi & Dennis Eskie
July 17, 2017
Very few people can say they have made a difference in the world. Neal did that, not only in business but in his relationships with family and others. Our prayers are with the family as you face tomorrow without his physical presence, but we believe he will always be with you in spirit.
Jamie Schwarz
July 15, 2017
I worked at Cerner for several years. My fondest memory of Neal was when the first cafeteria opened in the 2900 building back in the late '90s. I walked in and saw Neal talking to an older couple. He was showing them all of the features of the this new addition. I soon realized the couple were his parents. He was so excited to share everything with them. It was very touching. My prayers are with Jeanne and the entire Patterson family.
Janice Carter
July 14, 2017
I am very sorry for your loss. He made our town halls come alive. He will be missed. Janice Carter
Bruce Pond
July 13, 2017
A true visionary. Neal taught me to always look at the bigger picture. As I watch him and Cliff grow the business (Build the Cathedral as he put it) I learned we all were working to make a huge change in the way healthcare was delivered. He certainly leaves a legacy of transforming healthcare. It was an honor to with and for him.
Rest in peace
CERBLP
Naaman Clark
July 12, 2017
First time I met Neal, we went to his house to see his mom, treated me and the pastor so nice and was great to visit with him and his wife. He loved his family for sure.
Praying for the family.
Irene Haefele
July 12, 2017
My favorite childhood memories are of being on the farm at harvest time with my cousins. My heart is with you. Peace...
Jerry Hatten
July 12, 2017
As most, I was shocked & deeply saddened to hear of Neal's passing Sunday. Neal's family, Kansas City, Cerner, SKC, the American Royal & many others lost "one of a kind" way too early. He was truly one of the good guys who impacted so many. My thoughts & prayers go out to Jeanne, Neal's family & Cliff. Safe Journey "Hawkeye"!
William Norwood
July 12, 2017
We had the pleasure of living next to Neal & Jean for nearly 10 years and were totally shocked by his passing.
Neal was a down to earth guy that always had time for you - we would meet on our tractors while mowing.
Jean, Clay, Lindsey, Cortney, and Will our Heartfelt Condolences to you on your loss. He will be missed in this community!
Bill & Jacki Norwood
Amber Norris
July 12, 2017
He was genuinely one of the nicest kindhearted people I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. Family was always the most important thing to him. Memories include him forgiving me for blaming his son Clay of stealing a dollar from my mom's purse (over a rocking chair at a reunion), taking us on a tour of his new office building when I was a kid, picking him and the family up from Craig Airport when they would come into Jacksonville to visit, taking us to see all the family locations around Kansas and Oklahoma before a reunion including jumping on the back of the 4 wheeler I was on to show me how to really drive it, giving us tickets to play all the games and rides at a carnival (he helped me win the water squirt game), getting my cousin Kristen Keeney Pogorzala in the dunking booth, and most touching to me, coming to Jacksonville just to be there for my grandmother's funeral. Thank you Neal for the love you always showed your family and thank you Lord for letting us have the time we had.
Love Always,
Amber McEldowney Norris

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Laurie Atchity Dressman
July 11, 2017
Hey Jeanne, I'm so thankful I read his bio. What an amazing man he was and what principles he has instilled in so many. I am sorry for your loss. I pray that you and your family and friends find strength through this time. I was moved by Sporting KC's tribute to him at the Cup game tonight. A man to be proud of who made a difference in many, many lives. Love you!
July 11, 2017
Jeanne, so sorry about your Husbans Neal. My thoughts and Prayers are with you.
Jeanne O'Boyle Teter
Barb Callahan
July 11, 2017
Neal was a leader, a leader that I followed for 18 years. His passion to make healthcare better for all people was what drove me day after day to be my best. The world lost a great visionary but his memory lives on in the hearts and minds of thousands of associates. My heartfelt condolences to his family.
Ryan Bass
July 11, 2017
Phi phi brother Patterson, I will always think fondly on the few conversations we did have! From the first hand golf tourney, to putting together your daughter's college graduation video, to pike poker night, you were always a pleasure to be around! Rest easy brother!
TOM MCKITTRICK
July 11, 2017
I was very surprised and terribly saddened to hear of Neal's passing. Neal knew what he was looking for and certainly pursued it with a passion. Its been a long but fast road since those early days at NKC Hospital. Unfortunately, Cerner has lost a true visionary.
Jack Teague
July 11, 2017
We were saddened to hear of Neal's passing. He was a wonderful person and is a great loss to Loch Lloyd as well as all of Kansas City. He will be greatly missed. Our prayers are with his family.Jack and Linda Teague
Teresa Oneth McEldowney & family
July 11, 2017
My awesome 1st cousin! I have so many good memories of him as a child through adulthood. He was a wonderful person as well as a great man. He will be missed by all. Many, many prayers to all of his family and friends.
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