An e-mail written to my sister, dated September 6th, 2010:
I was at Mom and Dad's house yesterday, not really to do a lot of cleaning or anything since I already did that last week. I went over there to put up that new bathroom light fixture and just to hang out for a while. I brought lunch. We had a good casserole I made, consisting of chicken sausage, vegetables, roasted potatoes and Rotini pasta. I also baked some yummy honey biscuits. So it was a nice relaxing way to spend the afternoon.
But what really made the day something special was our chats. The three of us sat in the living room and chatted over coffee. We talked about current events, as we usually do, and about what I'm going to do with my car and things like that.
We also chatted our concerns about your situation but felt better knowing that you are in good hands regarding the proposed treatment and care.
But what was really interesting was our chat about daddy's childhood. I learned some things that I never asked or knew before and I wanted to share that with you before I forget. We know a lot about Mom's childhood more but not a whole lot about Dad's. And he was so willing to share which I thought was cool. Here's what I learned from our awesome Dad.
When Mom and Dad were little kids, they lived in different neighborhoods of Bethlehem but shared a common playground. Mom remembers Dad when they were kids. She said he had lots of blond curly hair and that he was always one of the nice boys. Meaning, he wasn't one of the mean boys who would kick down their sand castles. "Some boys would do that, you know, just because they could," Mom said.
Dad lived with his mother, father and younger sister, in a row house. Theses were very common housing of the day whereby several houses were stuck together sharing common walls on either side. But they all had their own separate front door and sitting patio in the front. They had stairs to get up to the front doors.
Mom and Dad didn't go to the same schools. They went to separate schools.
Dad's mother's name was Marian Schaeffer and she was Pennsylvania Dutch. His father was a metallurgist with the Bethlehem steel mills. His job was to study the strength and integrity of the metals and when they failed, his job was to study why it failed and find solutions. He worked at the steel mills all his life at this job.
When Dad was seven years old, his mother died of a ruptured appendix. It was a sad time for the family but it was not their first loss. Dad actually had an older sister who died at childbirth.
Interestingly, Mom's mother and Dad's mother knew each other from the playgrounds. When Dad's mother died, they moved to another part of town to be closer to Aunt Grace, Dad's mom's sister. And a couple other cousins around his own age were in that part of town as well.
He actually moved farther away from Mom and she didn't see him anymore for a while.
When Dad was in junior high school and high school, he would spend his summers working in the steel mills. He had various jobs but his first job was very hot, sweaty and labor intensive. When the hot steel was being moved from one location to another, a lot of the debris would spill over into traps below. It was his job (along with others) to clean out those traps.
He said when he first started, one worker asked him if he wanted to use a big shovel or a little shovel. Being a "dumb kid" as he put it, he opted for the big shovel, but soon found out that the metal debris was so heavy and he couldn't pick up a fully loaded big shovel. He said he soon learned to go with the little shovel.
As the summers went on, so did his jobs, and they became less labor intensive. He recalled working one summer in the lab.
Mom recalled also working within the labs of the mills and remembers them being "hot as Hades," as she put it.
The Bethlehem steel mills were the biggest and best of the day. All good steel came from the mills and almost everyone worked in some way connected to them.
When Dad went to college, he bought his first car, a Model A Ford, for around $35. He later sold it for about $40 and bought a Mercury.
Later, Mom and Dad came together again in college and dated. Dad said he wasn't the party animal type and more of the bookworm type.
Fast forward a few years after they were married when Dad was stationed in the army in Minnesota. They lived on base in one of the provided housing units. Later, once his tour was done, they moved to an apartment and decided to start a family. This was when you came into the picture and you lived for a short while in that apartment too.
Mom had a friend that told her about a nice house nearby on 12th Place NW in Austin. They saw it, liked it, and bought it. Later, in 1961, I came along. And, in 1964, our dog Copper joined us.
Right about that time, Dad was offered a fellowship in California. Mom wasn't too keen on the idea at all. You see, she recalled as a child seeing a newsreel in the theater that portrayed the 1906 San Francisco earthquake and, as Mom put it, "That had a lasting impression on me, and I thought to myself, 'that doesn't look like a place I would ever want to go.'"
Well, later in 1964, we packed our bags and headed on a two week vacation to California. Copper stayed behind at a local friend's house.
We apparently took the long scenic route, traveling south from Minnesota and crossing over through Kansas. This is where we met a fierce snowstorm and were hold up in a motel for three days. We loved it, playing in the snow and having all kinds of fun.
We continued south to San Diego and traveled up California, through La Jolla, Los Angeles, etc., to San Francisco. It was during that trip that Mom decided California wasn't so bad after all, so they sold the house and we moved to Santa Monica.
And the rest, as they say, is history. =)
Well, I hope you enjoyed this little trip down memory lane as much as I did. I learned some new things and I hope you did too.
Take care and remember, everything's going to be ok! =)
August 4, 1929 - April 5, 2019 Harold E. Paulus, MD, Professor Emeritus, University of California, Los Angeles, Department of RheumatologyDr. Harold E. Paulus, age 89, of Encino, CA, died Friday, April 5, 2019, at UCLA Santa Monica Hospital. Harold Paulus, or "Hal" to his friends and family, was born August 4, 1929 in Allentown, Pennsylvania, to Harold F. and Marian Paulus. His mother passed away when Harold was in grammar school. He and his sister Joanne were raised by his father and stepmother, Florence. Harold graduated from Bethlehem High School in June 1957. He graduated "Magna cum laude" and Phi Beta Kappa from Lehigh University, Bethlehem, PA, with A.B. degree in 1951. In 1955, Harold earned his M.D. from the University of Pennsylvania Medical School, Philadelphia, PA. Alpha Omega Alpha. From 1955-1956 Dr. Paulus was a Rotating Intern at the Hospital of University of Pennsylvania, Philadelphia, PA, and he served in the US Army Medical Corps as Captain, from 1956-1958. During summers while attending Lehigh University, working toward his Bachelor's degree, Harold worked at Bethlehem Steel Company where his father, Harold F. Paulus, was a metallographer and Harold E.'s future wife Rita Cota's father also worked in the Accounting Department. Harold's work at Bethlehem Steel included cleaning red hot dripping steel off the rollers in which steel was made into sheets and another summer he worked in a laboratory near his father's office in which young Harold assisted in quality assurance test calculations of the finished steel product. During Harold's third year of medical school, he shadowed a Pennsylvania doctor practicing medicine in North Dakota. Harold earned enough money to buy his first automobile, a 1929 Model A pickup truck for $35.00. He fixed it up and painted it black. Harold and his father enjoyed taking it on fishing trips. Harold recalled being given a hospital cafeteria meal ticket for food but slept in the basement of the doctor's home whom he shadowed. Dr. Paulus was a humble and dedicated student of medicine. Harold met the love of his life, Rita H. Cota, at Lehigh University where they were both students. Rita being three years older was teaching a class in Microbiology, her major, in which Harold was the student. He asked her on a date but she declined stating that she would not date a student. She did, however, recall meeting him years before at the playground where their mothers took them. She recalled his curly locks and hazel eyes. After the course was completed Harold asked her out again and she agreed. Rita worked at a blood bank in Chicago where she worked in the forefront of AIDS research testing blood. Harold would visit her driving his 1929 black Model A. On one of his visits to Chicago, he proposed marriage to Rita. They were married on June 16, 1955, the day after Harold's graduation from medical school. The marriage was held at St. Ursula's Church in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. Harold's bride Rita graduated with a Master of Science degree from Pennsylvania State University receiving and later a Doctor of Philosophy degree in bacteriology from Lehigh University. Harold and Rita moved to Texas after his enlistment in the Army for Army Corps Training and relocated to Maryland for the remainder of his Army service. Harold and Rita moved to Austin, Minnesota, where Dr. Paulus joined the Austin Clinic, a private medical practice. Dr. Paulus held the position of President of the Mower County Medical Society (Minnesota, 1964). It was in Austin, Minnesota, where Harold and Rita adopted their two wonderful children, Cynthia "Cyndy" Susan Paulus and Andrew "Andy" James Paulus. In 1965, Harold, Rita, Cyndy and Andrew moved to California where Harold became a Resident of Internal Medicine at the Wadsworth Hospital Veterans Administration Center, Los Angeles, CA. He later become a Rheumatology Fellow studying under his mentor, Carl Pearson, M.D. at UCLA Medical Center. He completed a clinical pharmacology fellowship at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles in 1969. In 1969, he became assistant professor of medicine in residence in UCLA Medical Center and began his career as clinician-educator. He was certified by the American Board of Internal Medicine in May 1969. Dr. Paulus became an associate director of the Institute of Rehabilitation and Chronic Diseases, UCLA. In 1972, he became associate professor of medicine at UCLA School of Medicine. In 1977 he became director of the Division of Rheumatology, UCLA School of Medicine and in 1978 a professor of medicine at UCLA School of Medicine. In 1981, he became action director of the Division of Rheumatology, UCLA School of Medicine. In 1999, he becomes emeritus professor of medicine at UCLA School of Medicine. Dr. Paulus became an institution within the UCLA Division of Rheumatology with over forty years as a practicing doctor, scientist and researcher, mentor and well-respected colleague. Dr. Paulus served on an ad hoc committee set up by the FDA on clinical trial guidelines for arthritis treatments. Dr. Paulus co-authored clinical testing guidelines that became known as a pivotal force in the dawning disease-modifying antirheumatic drug era. He was recognized with numerous awards for his dedication to rheumatologic research and mentorship. Dr. Paulus held medical licenses in Pennsylvania, Minnesota and California. Professional societies includes: American Federation for Clinical Research, American Rheumatism Association, Southern California Chapter of American Rheumatism Association, American Society for Clinical Pharmacology and Therapeutics and the Southern California Chapter of the Arthritis Foundation (Medical and Scientific Committee). Among numerous honors and awards, Dr. Paulus was awarded the Spirit of Hope Award of Scleroderma Foundation. Dr. Paulus was the Director of the Human Subject Protection Committee at UCLA and the ACR (American College of Rheumatology) Criteria Subcommittees. He has served as chair of the Carl M. Pearson Memorial Symposium, Frontiers of Rheumatology, in Rancho Mirage and Marina Del Rey, California, since 1983. Dr. Paulus was also on the editorial board for Arthritis and Rheumatism in addition to serving as reviewer for several leading medical journals including Journal of Rheumatology, Mayo Clinic Proceedings, and Annals of Internal Medicine. Dr. Paulus has authored and co-authored over 200 research articles and reviews in leading scientific journals in addition to over 50 book chapters and 140 abstracts on rheumatic diseases. Dr. Paulus traveled around the world as a researcher and lecturer. He and Rita enjoyed traveling as well including locations such as Scotland, Europe, Canada, Australia, and they really enjoyed camping with their children all over the western United States and Canada. Dr. Harold E. Paulus, known to be a very private person, felt it very important in his last weeks to share stories with his children about his life in which many details were learned and contributed to this reflection and memory of his life. Harold is survived by his two loving children, Cyndy and Andy, two grandsons, Joshua Ian Manning and Robert Michael Manning and three great-granddaughters: Alleigh Anne, Scarlett River and Willow Marie. He will be remembered as a loving father, devoted husband, highly respected clinician scientist and a great mentor to young medical students, trainees and fellows. Honoring the Life of Dr. Harold E. Paulus Services will include a Funeral Mass at the Holy Cross Mortuary Chapel at Holy Cross Cemetery, 5835 W. Slauson, Culver City, CA 90230 on Monday, April 15, 2019 at 11:00 a.m., followed by a Reception sponsored by Dr. Paulus' children, Cyndy and Andrew. Donations, in lieu of flowers, may be sent to the Harold E. Paulus Memorial Fund in Rheumatology at UCLA at the below address. www.giving.ucla.edu/DrHaroldPaulusMemorial UCLA Health Sciences Development Attn: Jennifer Brown, 10945 Le Conte Avenue, Suite 3132 Los Angeles, CA 90095 310.206.2435
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Published in Los Angeles Times from Apr. 10 to Apr. 14, 2019.