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James Trissel Obituary
He was born on July 31, 1963, in Des Moines, Iowa, the son of David Trissel and Sandra Mericle. Jay served 26 years in the U.S. Air Force and the Rhode Island Air National Guard. He loved to cook and "trailblaze" creating different recipes.
In addition to his parents, he is survived by his wife, Donna Sokolski Trissel; his son, Kevin Kelly and his wife, Shannon, of Newport News, Va.; his sister, Sherry Sears and her husband, Willy, of Des Moines; his niece, Jessi Wriggly and her husband, Norm, and their two sons, Kaleb and Mason of Altoona, Iowa; and his stepfather, Jerry Mericle; in-laws and extended family.
His stepmother, Glenda Trissel, predeceased him.
He leaves an empty space in our lives and will be sadly missed by all his family, extended family, and friends. May God give peace to his soul and comfort to those he left behind. May God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Calling hours will be held from 2 to 4 and 7 to 9 p.m. on Monday at Fulton-Theroux Funeral Home, 13 Lake Ave., Niantic. A memorial service will be held at 11 a.m. on Tuesday in St. Paul Evangelical Lutheran Church, 56 Great Hammock Road, Old Saybrook.
Memorial donations in his memory may be made to the ASPCA.
To sign the online guest book, visit www.fultontherouxniantic.com
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
Memories and Condolences
for James Trissel
Patricia Avalon
October 2, 2011
I have just learned of Jay's passing. We went through tech school together back in 1981. He was such a prankster and everyone loved him. He used to march our flight using a Donald Duck voice. He still makes me laugh. What a wonderful soul. I still have photos of him and our little gang. If you are interested, I will be glad to send you copies. I am so sorry for your loss.
Patricia Avalon
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Catherine Andriopoulos
March 9, 2011
"I am so sorry to hear about your loss Donna. It's been so long since we've seen eachother. God be with your whole family."
McGaffigan Family
January 31, 2011
Hi, Donna,
Jay will live on through all the great recipes he donated to our church cookbook. May God comfort you & all who loved him.
Linda Garnett
January 26, 2011
Donna and Jessie- I am so sorry to hear about Jay. I was totally surprised and all of you have been in my thoughts since you left North Kingstown. I pray and hope that you and your family find comfort and peace. Sincerely Linda Garnett
Ann-Marie Bandieri
January 23, 2011
Donna,
Our sincere condolences for the loss of Jay. I remember working with him in Aerial Port with his quick wit and always a smile. May you and your family find comfort and peace. Sincerely, Ann-Marie Bandieri and Steve Squillante
Bruce Cushman
January 22, 2011
Donna - Betsy & I were so sorry to hear of Jay's passing. We feel privileged to have known and worked with him. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Lori Ashness
January 22, 2011
Donna,
My thoughts and prayers go out to you at this time. Jay was a wonderful guy and great friend. Many happy memories will keep him in our hearts.
Daniel Cintron
January 21, 2011
Donna, I am truly sorry for your loss. Jay will be very much missed by all who met him due to his humble, approachable, sincere loving personality, amongst his other good qualities. These made him the unique person he was. I will miss him and never forget him. Donna, its going to be hard whenever I ask or talk to you and not ask for him or talk about how you guys are doing. Donna, I love you like you're my sister, you have my number. Call me if you feel you need anything.
Mary Lou Synan
January 20, 2011
Donna, I am sincerely sorry for your loss, it's unimagineable to think Jay is not with us, I will remember him always. We question, inevitably, the meaning of "life", Jay lived his to the fullest. My thoughts and prayers are with 'you', and your family at this time of sorrow. Love - Mary Lou
Melanie Sokolski
January 19, 2011
My dearest sister Donna,
Please always know:
Know our loving Father holds Jay now.
Know you are never alone.
Know I love you very much.
Know I will be there for you always.
Know I am a phone call away.
Love,
Melanie
Steve Carter
January 19, 2011
I am so sorry for your loss. I didn't know Jay. I wish I had. I would have like to have had the chance to meet with him. I am also from Des Moines, living in Niantic. My prayers are with you and your family.
Mike Cahill and Family
January 18, 2011
Donna and family, i was sad to here the passing of Jay, Myself and all who knew him have great memories of him, You and your family will be in my prays and thoughts always,
Joann Starkweather-Kerr
January 18, 2011
Donna, Kevin and Family, With you.
Janice White
January 17, 2011
To the whole family im so sorry. U know how i feel. I will miss him terrably he ment alot to me and i so wish i was there. My thoughts and prayers are with all of u and i am always here if u need anything. He was like a father to me and i will always treasure the memories. Love you all, Janice White
Sokolsky
January 17, 2011
To the entire Trissel family,
It is hard to loose a loving member of your family, expecially at such a young age. Please except our sincere condolences.
Heidi Russell Muniec
January 17, 2011
Donna and Family, I am so very sorry to hear about Jay's passing. I remember when he joined our medical unit at Quonset, right off active duty, he was such a great addition to our group. It was a pleasure knowing him and working with him. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Tonya Montella
January 17, 2011
Donna, I am so sorry to hear about Jay. There are many great memories of him. He will be missed and you are in my thoughts.
Steve Mason
January 16, 2011
Jay was a friend and my rock for many years. It was an honor to serve with him and a blessing to call him friend. He will be missed but he will be with us always as memories of a good man. Each of us has been honored to share part of this journey with a man such as Jay Trissel. My condolences and sincere concern go out to you, Donna, and all of the family.
Paul Cahill
January 16, 2011
Donna, I salute your veteran. My condolences for your loss and gratitude for your loved one's service to our country
Barbara Senerchia
January 16, 2011
Donna, So sorry for your lose. Always remember the good times and I'm sure you had many. My sincere condolense.
Bob Urquhart
January 16, 2011
My thoughts and prayers are with you Donna. Jay was a good man - and a pleasure to work with.
Debbie Smith (Schultz)
January 16, 2011
Donna, so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Val Bailey
January 15, 2011
Donna and Kevin, My deepest sympathies to you both. Words cannot express the sadness I feel for your loss. Jay touched so many lives and because of that there are many who know what a truly great person he was. He will live on forever in our hearts.
Linda Cook
January 15, 2011
Donna, I am so sorry for your loss. Jay was a great guy, I enjoyed working with both of you. You are in my thoughts and prayers throughout this difficult time.
Linda Cook
Paul Yelle
January 15, 2011
Jay was always a gentleman and professional. Our thought and prayers are with you and your family.
Sharon & Jay Ahearn
January 15, 2011
Donna & Kevin, Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of sorrow. Jay was a great guy and friend. He will be missed. RIP
Ann Marie Wells
January 15, 2011
Donna, I am so sorry for your loss. Jay was a good man and a great friend to all of us. My thoghts an prayers are with you thru this difficult time.
Patrick Crowninshield
January 15, 2011
Jay was a good man and a better friend. He always made me think and work above what I thought was my best. I miss him.
family from iowa
January 15, 2011
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Diane and Randy Stadelbauer
January 15, 2011
Donna, how can we possibly express our sorrow and shock? You and Kevin are in our thoughts and prayers.
Lou Amitrano
January 15, 2011
Donna
I am so sorry to hear about Jay. You and Jay are in our thoughts and prayers.
Lou, Joanne, Adriana and Domenic Amitrano
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