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PAUL LOUIS ROCHE III

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ROCHE, Paul Louis III Of Greenwich, CT, passed away unexpectedly on April 16, 2019. Paul was raised in Weymouth, MA and graduated from Boston College High School in 1982. He studied computer science at Jacksonville University ('86). During his time at Jacksonville University, Paul was an accomplished rower as well as a member of the ROTC program. Following graduation, Paul went on to receive his commission as an artillery officer in the United States Marine Corps.

Paul had a long and successful career in the Marine Corps, retiring after 30 years at the rank of Colonel. He served as the Battery Commander of E Battery, 2nd battalion, 10th Marines, as well as an Officer Selection Officer, General's aide de camp, and multiple billets within the battery as a lieutenant. While stationed in Boston as a Marine Corps recruiter, Paul ambitiously pursued a Master of Science degree in the computer sciences from Boston University ('92) in addition to being among the most successful recruiters during the years he served..

After 10 years of active duty in the Marine Corps, Paul transitioned to the USMC reserves.

He then moved to Duxbury, MA where he began his career in wealth management at Merrill Lynch and enjoyed raising four kids to whom he devoted his time and love. He would go on to work at Morgan Stanley and RBC Private Wealth.

Following the terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001, Paul was called up to active duty and deployed to Pakistan and Afghanistan where he participated in the hunt for Usama bin Ladin. In 2003, he deployed to Iraq where he served an integral role in the eradication of the Saddam Hussein Regime.

Later in life, Paul met and married Tara Muskus O'Connor of Greenwich, CT. During their marriage they raised three beautiful children and loved each other unconditionally. Together they enjoyed traveling the world, building their home, and serving their children. His vivacious spirit and new endeavors towards the end of his life revolved around his faithful love to his wife Tara, living each moment to bring constant happiness to her life and their children.

Paul had a competitive spirit and enjoyed attending Red Sox and Patriots championship games. Paul lived his life with passion and style. An avid chess player, music aficionado, an excellent cook and host with an unmatched ability to command a room. Paul was considered an authority on military history, and Paul played an integral part in the formation of the BC High rowing program, one of his many contributions to his lasting legacy.

He is survived by his wife Tara Roche of Greenwich, CT, their children, Vesper 4, Chantilly 2, Duke 10 months, his ex-wife Deborah Glass of Sandwich and their children, Siobhan Flynn and her husband Stephen, Paul Louis Roche IV 27, Griffin Roche 25, Ian Roche 24, his parents, Paul Louis Roche Jr. and Kathleen Roche, his sister, Kathleen Roche Tolman, his brother, Sean Roche and his wife Lori Roche. He is also survived by one grandson, Patrick Flynn 1. Family will receive friends on Thursday April 25, 2019 from 5-8 pm at Leo P. Gallagher & Son Funeral Home, 31 Arch St., GREENWICH, CT. Mass of Christian Burial on Friday, St. Michaels Church, Greenwich, CT at 11:00 am.

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Published by Boston Globe from Apr. 24 to Apr. 25, 2019.

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mark delaney

April 19, 2022

RIP Paul.
One of a kind, you are missed. Praying that your family is doing well.

Gabe and Peggy Tuffo

April 17, 2020

Paul and Kathleen ,I hope this Past year has brought you some closure in the passing of Your son Paul.I also hope that you will take solace in knowing what a fine upstanding American hero and son he turned out to be .

Harold Bass

May 4, 2019

Almost no one in his life will know who I am, but I was his classmate through four years at JU, was in his first wedding, helped him through OCS (we were in the same platoon), and went through TBS and Fort Sill together. Paul and I did not always see things the same way. We were so different in many ways. He even counseled against marrying my wife (of 33 years now). But he did so out of friendship and brotherhood and I appreciated his candor. He was bold and he lived life boldly. I was shocked to see that he was lost to us so young (I found out a few days ago). Tara, my wife and I sincerely share in the grief of your loss and have only the best wishes for you and your young family. Paul was a good man. God Bless. Harold C. Bass, Col USMC (ret)

April 29, 2019

Paul, Kathleen and family we are so sorry for your loss . Our prayers are with your, your family and Paul s family

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Mark Delaney

April 24, 2019

There is only one Paul Roche. Amazing accomplishments, amazing person, amazing class. He arranged for a military honor guard for my father's funeral in 2015. Taking that responsibility off of my families shoulders was what he wanted to do. They are both Marines. If you were Paul's friend he was unfailingly loyal. That didn't change, even if you hadn't seen each other for years or decades. To Paul's family, please accept my condolences and know that Paul is in my prayers and memories.

Jeanne Urso

April 23, 2019

My sincerest condolences on the loss of your husband. May the happy memories of your life together help you through these trying times
May you and your family find peace during the coming days.

Love,
Jeanne Urso

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25

Visitation

5:00 p.m. - 8:00 p.m.

Leo P. Gallagher & Son Funeral Home - Greenwich

31 Arch Street, Greenwich, CT 06830-6512

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Mass of Christian Burial

11:00 a.m.

St. Michael the Archangel Church

469 North St., Greenwich, CT

Apr

26

Mass of Christian Burial

11:00 a.m.

St. Michael the Archangel Church

469 North St., Greenwich, CT

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31 Arch Street, Greenwich, CT 06830-6512

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