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Steven Scher Obituary

SCHER--Steven, died suddenly on Sunday morning. He leaves behind his wife Aimee, his son Hudson, his mother Myra, his brother Bob (Amy), his nephew Jackson and nieces Mo and Eliza. Services Tuesday 11:45am at "The Riverside" 76th Street and Amsterdam Avenue.

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Published by New York Times from Dec. 8 to Dec. 9, 2008.

Memories and Condolences
for Steven Scher

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134 Entries

Noodles

December 7, 2024

Amazingly, it seems like both a lifetime ago and just yesterday.
And while no one gets out of here alive, it seems so cosmically cruel that Steven got to see only half the show.
Noodles, if you're reading this, you know how much we all love you and miss you.
"Such a long, long time to be gone,
And a short time to be there"
Keep it warm...

Noodles

December 24, 2023

Noodles

December 24, 2023

Noodles

December 24, 2023

Noodles

December 24, 2023

Another milestone birthday- shared not in person, but certainly in our hearts.
See 'ya around. You know I do.

Viv

December 3, 2023

15 years and who's counting? We all are, Steve. The void you left by leaving has never been filled...at least substantially. It's all prattle. I find myself years later with fewer moments of sadness, now replaced by gratefulness--that you were a part of our lives. But I also find myself angry and annoyed. Not at you--just the circumstances and all that's still left to deal with. You are still so missed. Your son is now 15 and so handsome--so smart! Your wife will be 50 this year--wish you were here. Loving thoughts of and to you, to infinity.

Noodles

December 24, 2022

Noodles

December 7, 2022

Another anniversary of the day we lost him.
Today was a weird day.
Not for the usual reason, because everyday that I think about him and remember that he´s gone is still weird.
What was weird is that I felt his presence in a different way, at different times today.I know that it´s all in my head. But he´s also all in my head, so who knows...

Miss you, Noodles.

Viv

December 4, 2022

Here we are again. Rounding the corner on 14 years now. You would be proud of your son and even though you and Hudson never got to develop a typical father/son relationship, it exists. You are alive in his heart. Through Aimee, the rest of your family and your friends, you remain a much loved part of us all. We still miss you. That sharp sting has become a random ache but loving thoughts of you live on.

Noodles

December 7, 2021

Thirteen years ago we all lost one of those we loved.
In that time, we have also had other losses; more holes in our hearts.
What I have learned is that time and reflection do not make those holes disappear, but they don´t need to consume us.
I have found an understanding and acceptance that this is the way of us all. There is room to hold on to our loss and remember what we once had, and maybe realize that we still have the love and essence of what we shared, and that is eternal.
Steven´s last words and thoughts to me, and to so many others that night thirteen years ago, was to keep in mind how lucky we all were. Lucky to be who we are, and to know the love of others.
In these "Days Between," to borrow a phrase, I remember and reflect on how weird and prescient that was.
Noodles- we miss you, we love you, and we´re OK. Not good, but OK. And all so very lucky.
Thanks.

Richie

December 3, 2021

He noodles, welcome back!

Viv Currell

March 15, 2021

It's been so many years since you took a detour away from us. And it's taken me so many years to muster up the courage to come to this page. I can't say my reaction is a surprise. The loss of you in our lives leaves a life-long sting. You were a consummate human being; a son-in-law many seek; a husband and father many don't ever have; a business man way above many. And I miss you still. I miss your zest for life, love and things that are right. I miss you loving Aimee and Hudson. I just miss you and missed out. Loving thoughts.

Noodles

January 20, 2021

A good day for the home team.
Wish you were here to celebrate.

Noodles

December 24, 2020

Noodles,
If there was ever a year to miss, this was it.
That said, I’d rather you were here and miserable with all of us than you hanging out in paradise with Jerry.
Is that too selfish?

Standing on the moon
With nothing left to do
A lovely view of heaven
But I'd rather be with you

Happy Birthday

Noodles

December 7, 2020

Where’s Scher ’20

Twelve years go by; some times fast, some times slow.
The world you left has changed; some things for the better, some things for the worse.
Your legacy is constant; we are all better for having you in our lives.
Lucky, as you said; so very lucky.
Keep an eye on us all; we’re in for heavy weather.

DTRT

December 3, 2020

I hope you are catching some of this crazy stuff going on down here. West coast "keeps on trucking". "East coast" has their heads in the sand. You were right. Play Augusta yet?

Noodles

December 24, 2019

So me and the wife and the kids are finishing dinner at a restaurant in Little Havana, and it's on 8th Street.
Flan for all.
Happy Birthday.

Nodles

December 18, 2019

MOSER?!?!

Noodles

December 7, 2019

Some funny guys, after a wacky night.
Now where's our chopper?
Wish we had more... everything.

Noodles

July 9, 2019

There was a Main Street tee shirt running around the Hamptons this past 4th of July - I hope that made you smile.
Wish you were there.

Better days

Noodles

December 26, 2018

My missing guardrails - Steven & Ralph at my wedding, 1988

Noodles

December 26, 2018

Noodles

December 24, 2018

60 years gone.
You are not.
So says everyone we know.

You and Sachs gave me a present:
I'll post it here in pictures.

Thanks.

Noodles

December 7, 2018

Ten Years After.

It seems like you were just here.
With an entire bag of ginger candy.
Barbecuing chicken.
Pissing in my shoe.
Driving the Volvo.
Showing off Hudson.
Eating an Entenmann's.
Throwing a pass.
Making a pass.
Finding Aimee.
Riding a Sting Ray (a real Schwinn one).
Grubbing a cigarette.
Air guitaring The Dead.
Cutting a class.
Telling a joke.
Being my buddy.

Where's Scher?

Noodles

July 4, 2018

I was sitting on the beach with people we know, and thinking where are you. Then I looked around and I thought about it, and I realized you were here.

Noodles

December 24, 2017

Your friends are thinking about you and remembering what seems like both ancient history and just yesterday.
A nod and a wink and a drink to the best... you keep us honest.
Happy Birthday.

Noodles

December 24, 2016

Just watched the sun set with family and friends, overlooking the the water, near mile marker 00, while a pretty good band in the distance covers, among anothers, Scarlet Begonias, and there's a single brilliant star in the sky.
We're all so lucky.
Thanks.

Noodles

December 7, 2016

Eight years - incredible how quickly time goes by.
Had an Entenmann's donut for you late last night, and thought about things.
The world misses you.

Noodles

July 4, 2016

Another 4 of July, one even stranger and lonelier that those in the past for many reasons- not having you to play with and talk to amongst them.
The world is changing, and I miss that we can't sit together and take it all in... it looks like the old man's gettin' on.

And oh, I saw a great piece of video the other day; I trust you did too.

Noodles

March 22, 2016

"WHERE'S SCHER?"
So, I'm at the Corner Bistro (which, no matter what you said, was closer to you than me, ya rat bastard,) and I miss you.
There were (MANY) places closer to my crib to get a burger & a beer tonight, but I had an inkling that this was what I wanted - and I was not wrong.
Last round is on you...

Noodles

December 24, 2015

Raising a glass to you on your birthday.
I think you would love to hate what's going on (or would you hate to love it?) Strange days, indeed.
You are missed...

Noodles

December 7, 2015

The time passes, things move and change, and it's hard to think that things should different, but they should.
I always try to remember how lucky we are. I hope everyone else does, too. It's just hard to understand...

Noodles

July 6, 2015

Leaving Chi-Town
Sixth day of July
Shows' so hot, hassle so low
I know you watched us from the sky....

You would have really liked this weekend

April 2, 2015

I've visited this journal a few times over the years. There is a lot of love in these pages. It's a remarkable tribute to a remarkable man.

The Steve I remember was bright, bold, insightful, generous and sensitive. There was much to admire, and it was wonderful to see him come into his own.

Our paths diverged, but I fondly remember his good caring company, and will always hold out a good thought for him. My best wishes to his family and friends.

~ LS

Noodles

December 24, 2014

Sitting on the beach, listening to the boys play "Not Fade Away," and wishing you were here.
My birthday wish for you can't come true, and now they're "Knocking on Heaven's Door," so I know you're around.
Miss you...

Connie

December 10, 2014

Your smile never leaves us. You left an indelible mark. Thinking of you today.

Noodles

December 7, 2014

WHERE'S SCHER?
That's it - where?

Writing your biography for a class at Wesleyan - hope you don't mind.

Mochachino

November 19, 2014

Carlos Lopez

March 24, 2014

Steve thank's to you and wonderful mother. Myra i had the opprtunity. To work at calle ocho with a great team. I'll always be in your debt . R.I.P. and thank'.s again. And again.

Noodles

December 24, 2013

Double Nickel.
Thinking of you.

Camp Fuller

December 17, 2013

West Side Story (Ramapo H.S.)

December 17, 2013

Boys' Football Game

December 17, 2013

Noodles

December 7, 2013

We should never forget how lucky we are.
Thanks for reminding us.
Five years goes fast...

Noodles

November 30, 2013

Prepping for the game;
Pretty sure I know where Horace is - can't find the gloss box, though. A zip-lock may have to do.
Gonna miss you - again.
See ya tomorrow.

Anthea King

July 5, 2013

Always missing you, my friend.

Noodles

July 4, 2013

4th of July, & I've got more memories than firecrackers.
Thinking of you & a couple of other guys that enjoyed Independece Day as much as we did.
Now let's all make some trouble...

Noodles

December 24, 2012

Another year that should have been yours... We was robbed.
Thinking and remembering, trying to not let go; I know we never will.
Happy Birthday, brother. I got this round, you get the next.

November 22, 2012

"But you went away,
How dare you?
I miss you.
They say I'll be okay,
But I'm not going to ever get over you..."

SP

Election Fund Raiser

Noodles

November 6, 2012

Noodles,
On this election eve, I miss the excitment & conversations that we shared since we were ready to march on Washington in 6th grade.
I know you're watching all this, and, although you're hoping it works out the right way, (and we both watched in horror when it did & then didn't,) you're laughing at how it's just a ship of fools.
No boys dinner tonight - it usually works out bad for the country and our wallets.
You have my proxy: Vote For Aaron Smith, and Corn-Dogs for all.
See ya at the recount.

November 2, 2012

I miss you so much and still think about you everyday.

PB &J

October 2, 2012

Missed you today <3

Eliza Scher

October 1, 2012

Really missing you today Uncle Buck. Couldn't stop thinking about you. It's been almost 4 years and I still remember it like it was yesterday. I'll never forget the most amazing memories we share. I love you.

Noodles

July 4, 2012

Explosions, pizza, & 16 piece chicken McNuggetheads on the beach in the Hamptons; fireworks at Yankee Stadium (and again, years later); long talks about America (I wonder what we'd be saying today). Some good ol' US Blues, on this 4th of July. Miss spending it with you.

Leslie Morse Klein

June 7, 2012

I met Steven at BU, who welcomed me with kindness and fun. We both went our separate ways, but you always remember the special ones. I am shocked and saddened to learn of his passing, and my heart goes out to his wife, son, and family.

Leslie Morse Klein

Pierre Guigui

June 7, 2012

We were friends at BU, I spent a great week with him in Aspen during the summer of 1979 and then lost touch, until I discovered him at Rain a few years ago. And just now I wanted to see him again and googled to find out what his latest restaurant endeavor was...only to find Chefs for Scher and the shocking news.
I am crushed, and my heart goes out to his wife and son. He was a great guy, Hudson, really special.

Maria D'Amato

December 25, 2011

I worked with Steve at Anderson Kill, always admired him and was so happy that he took that chance and went into the restaurant business. I often thought about him through the years and just recently decided to google him. I never expected to read of his passing and just can't believe it. Think of him often and I know that he is much missed by many. Could never forget his birthday and hope all his loved ones are good. Love Maria D'Amato

Noodles

December 25, 2011

Missed you today - again.

Noodles

December 7, 2011

1:45 am.

Saw you last 3 years ago this moment. You reminded me how lucky we all were, and how good things really are.
I often think of that good-bye, and try to remember how right you were, even though it hardly seems to be the case.

All the people you knew really do know what you meant, and, like I do, try to remember that a little bit every day.

You are missed, but will never, ever, not even ever be forgotten or far from every thought.

I lift a glass to you as I press "submit", and I know you're doing the same.

All is well - and yes, we're all so very lucky, as long as we never doubt that we are.
Keep on truckin'.

Steve Scher and me (in white) at my wedding.

Reginald Lewis

March 14, 2011

Reginald Lewis

March 14, 2011

I'm two years late. But Steve was one of the GREATEST people I ever met, if not THE GREATEST.

Cherif Mbodji

February 25, 2011

Steve, you were one amazing human being and will be deeply missed. No words could ever describe the pain of your sudden loss, we truly miss you.
With much love

Mon & cherif

Love Hudson

January 30, 2011

Gary Monzon

December 25, 2010

Always elusive except when your term paper was due...I miss you and hope you are keeping an eye on us. Your sonny boy looks potentially devilish!

Anthea King

December 25, 2010

Happy birthday, Steven. Thinking of you and your family on this day and always. You're in my heart forever.

Noodles

December 24, 2010

WHERE'S SCHER?

Birthday Boilermakers at Perunna's
OUR trip to Europe
West Side Story
Midus Mufflers and workboots
Dollars in a bottle of Dom
Once Upon A Time In America

Happy Birthday, Brother

Noodles

December 8, 2010

Two years ago, I started to make a list in my iPod, under the heading "Where's Scher?" I wrote down these memories, these little moments of fun and laughing and enlightenment, so that I would never forget them. Never, ever, not even ever.
I still add to this list every once in a while; when a funny thought or moment of sadness brings forth a new flash of recollection and a forgotten memory resurfaces. I honestly don’t add that much to the list as time goes on, (I think I did a pretty thorough job over the first few weeks and months,) but I read through it regularly, and I both laugh and cry. And then I just smile, smile, smile.
So I’ve decided to list some of these thoughts here. Just a few now, maybe more later. Some of Steven’s friends and family will understand and remember; some may have no idea what I’m talking about. That’s OK; he knows..
“Like I told you, what I said, Steal your face right off your head”

WHERE’S SCHER?

There’s always coffee
Bistro Burgers
Café USA for Africa
Aunt Gladys
Loose shoulder tricks
Tango from Charwill’s
The white Valiant

Miss you, love you.

Phyllis

December 7, 2010

You are sorely missed and held in such high esteem by so many...a tribute to a truly remarkable person and friend.

Nadine Child

December 5, 2010

Steven,

You are missed... I'm greatful for the time we shared, great memories... you were a real man with a great heart.

I can still see you smiling.

Ex-girlfriend

May 18, 2010

You are a man not to be forgotten, and still remain in my thoughts.

Your mom-in-law, Viv

May 3, 2010

anthea king

April 18, 2010

just thinking of ya

Merv

December 24, 2009

Happy Birthday. You still give me something to celebrate on Dec 24th.

Steve Cooper

December 23, 2009

I can't believe it's a year. I still think of Steve often. Places, events, names, and especially jokes, trigger unmistakable Scher memories. And tomorrow's Steve's birthday; I guess when you're born on Christmas Eve, people tend to remember. Steve, I hope you're having the same blast up there that you had down here. And I hope the next year brings a bit of peace to Steve's wonderful family.

December 7, 2009

Miss you bad buddy, especially during The Game a couple of weeks ago, when there was no one to argue the technicalities of every penalty that was or wasn't called. Life has forever changed without you -- who's unique coolness and hipness am I supposed to emulate now?

You haven't been forgotten. Never will be.

-- Vinnie

Richie

December 7, 2009

Your team has served you proudly. Thanks for the help throughout, that had to be you at Shinnecock on six, no way I could have done that on my own! You, Charles and I, finished the season 3-0 and 1 over the rats! See you in Vegas at our next match. Peace out rabbit!

December 6, 2009

Miss you, Steven. XOXO Jodi

Noodles

December 6, 2009

Ow.
Miss you.

In Your Honor

November 29, 2009

October 7, 2009

"...To hear the immense night, still more immense without you. My sight tries to find you as though to bring you closer. My heart looks for you, and you are not with me. The same night whitening the same trees. We, of that time, are no longer the same..." - SP

Tom Elmendorf

March 19, 2009

I am stunned and saddened to learn that Steven has passed away. I knew him and his brother Bobby years ago at Camp Fuller. I am both flooded with pleasant memories of a time so long ago, and deeply saddened for his family and friends at the sudden loss of someone whom they loved and admired. It is clear from the entries in this book that Steven had a life filled with love, friendship, and accomplishment. I am very sorry and send my condolences to his brother Bobby, the rest of his family, and his many friends.

George Kastrounis

January 27, 2009

Steve, I will dearly miss searching the fescue rough for your Fuente cigars after your errant shots with the magic stick. I so looked forward to caddying for you every weekend at The Woods. My heart goes out to all family and friends of the Legendary Steve Scher. We will never forget you.

Stuart Weiss

January 22, 2009

Having just learned of Steve's death I send my prayers to all his loved ones. I had the pleasure of being Steve's counselor at Camp Fuller. He was a great kid and It sounds like he was a loved member of his community. May his memory be a blessing.

Steven Adler

January 21, 2009

I was shocked and extremely saddened when I learned of Steve's passing. I knew Steven from the Pomona and Ramapo days, but more importantly, from our summers at Camp Fuller where he was a friend and a mentor to me. I would also like to add that as sad as his memorial service was, it was also an inspiration to hear how many lives Steven had touched in such a wonderful way. My condolences to Steven's entire family.

mindy silverman

January 8, 2009

As an old girlfriend and very dear friend of the Jacoby family, I had the pleasure of meeting Steven several times over the past 13 years.
We bonded immediately - somehow us rocklanders always seemed to do that! Steven, you always were a beacon of light....and I know that light will be with your friends and family for the rest of their days. My heart goes out to you and your loved ones.

Richard Melnick

January 8, 2009

Steven rocked. He was compassionate, unconventional, erudite and clean. His integrity and charm were unparalleled. If only he hadn't suffered the despair of the onset of male pattern baldness. We shared a trailer in Aspen together 30 years ago and to all his friends I say, celebrate, dedicate, even consecrate a moment for Steven. Oh, and I was one of the lucky ones that got to experience the outrageous happiness and deep peace he emanated the night he died. Bless you dear, sweet friend.....

Jeffrey Zeller

January 7, 2009

Myra and Bob,
I am deeply saddened to hear that one of my childhood friends has left us. Although we have not been in contact for many years, I have never forgotten the great times we shared, and still look back on those days with great memories. He will be missed but not forgotten. My sincere condolences to you and Bob, as well as his wife Aimee, son Hudson, and the rest of your family.

Ronnie Minutella

January 7, 2009

Myra and Bob,
I am deeply saddened to hear that the guy I counted as my best friend growing up has left us. Although we had not been in contact for many years, I have never forgotten the great times we shared, and still look back on those days with great memories (even when you asked me to tutor him!). It's great to see that others he met along the way felt the same. He will be missed but not forgotten. My sincere condolences to you and Bob, as well as his wife Aimee, son Hudson, and the rest of your family.

Gary Monzon

January 6, 2009

My sincerest sympathy to Steve's loved ones and friends. We spent some great times together in the Rodman and Boston Univ days. Charming, bright and a gifted persuader. Always invited his friends along for the ride!

Jill Gibian

December 25, 2008

Dear Myra,

We are very saddened to learn of your loss. Please know that our thoughts are with you and yours at this difficult time.

Jill Gibian and family

Phyllis Bookstein (Large)

December 16, 2008

Although I did not hang out with Steve, I do remember him. The world is a sadder place without him. God speed.
My thoughts and prayers are with Steve's family.

Vinny Fucci

December 16, 2008

Steven may you rest in peace. I remember the Ramapo days and elementery days and will have you in my prays every night. May God except your wonderful soul and we will meet again when the time comes.

Sally Starin-Rolnick

December 16, 2008

I was devestated when I found out. My heart goes out to his family and all of his friends.

Steven Wishnoff

December 16, 2008

My thoughts and condolences are with the entire Scher family. Such a strong and vibrant person taken so young is a reminder to us all, "Dance like no one is watching, love like you'll never be hurt,sing like no one is listening,and live like it's heaven on earth."

Socky Feinberg

December 16, 2008

Steve and I were friends from Pomona & Ramapo days,we lost contact over the years but I have great memories ( first time I ever ate bacon was at his house ) and great times ( laughing & partying ) .My heart goes out to his family & friends.

Ellen (Dinner) Mednikoff

December 16, 2008

Steven,

No words can describe my sadness at your passing and even though I attended your memorial service, I still can’t believe this is not a horrible nightmare. Your time here was far too short, but your memory will be forever etched in our hearts and minds. I loved you from the moment I met you at Michael Jacoby’s bar mitzvah and was lucky to be a part of the years that ensued from junior high through high school and your days at BU…not to mention, all those Grateful Dead concerts looking for you and Phil, and often finding you there. You touched so many lives and were loved by all. Thank you for a multitude of joyous times and for generously sharing of yourself. You will be deeply missed.

Stuart Friedman

December 16, 2008

Steven, our friendship may have been brief, and long ago, but I remember as if it were yesterday how the energy in a room would change when you entered. Your warmth, smile, and character left an indelible impression on anyone fortunate enough to have known you.

Barry Katz

December 14, 2008

Since the news of Steve's passing reached me just yesterday I have been overwhelmed with memories of wonderful and intense bonds that we shared at Camp Fuller in the 70's. Stevens beautiful soul was even older than the old white Plymouth Valiant, with the push transmission button transmission. I so regret that I did not reach out again during any of my time visiting in NY over the years...I know that after 30 years, seeing and hugging Steve would have felt like no time had passed at all. My heart is aching and my thoughts and prayers go out to Bobby and the rest of the family.

Barry Katz

Steve Scher - Camp Fuller Country Olympics 1973

Joseph Shapiro

December 12, 2008

There seems to be a common theme with many of these guest book entries - Steve's compassion for others stands out. I too come from a long line of friends who knew Steve during his years at Camp Fuller. Steve was part of our extended Fuller Family and will remain in our hearts and prayers forever. I was blessed to have known him and am truly saddened by this sudden loss. I am sorry for his family and friends' loss. Bless you all.

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