Timothy J. Sloate

I became friends our freshman year at UVM. I shared a room with Bayard that year, and Tim spent a lot of time on our couch. It was a great time, and I was lucky to be a part of the entertaining banter. Tim was so good-natured, you couldn't look at him and not feel happier. Perhaps his most endearing quality for me was his disarming, self-deprecating humor. You made the world a brighter place, Tim. We'll miss you.

Dearest Hillary, Lily Grace and Rosemary and the Sloate family:

Tim Sloate was truly in a class by himself. I know that I speak for the entire Chisholm clan when I say that we were all so truly blessed to have Tim walking in our midst these past sixteen years. He swept our little sister off her feet in San Francisco and we were all eager to meet the sky-diving boyfriend who we watched grow from an eager young man into a loyal husband and amazing father to his girls.

Dearest Hillary, Lily Grace and Rosemary and the Sloate family:

To me, Tim will forever live on as a legend in his time, he truly was in a class by himself. I know I speak for the whole of the Chisholm clan when I saw that we are so proud to have had Tim Sloate walking in our midst over these past sixteen years. The finest brother-in-law we could have ever dreamed about swept our little sister away to a life of happiness many can only imagine. The joy we felt seeing Tim and...

Hillary, Lily and Rosemary...in your grief for this senseless loss of a man so great, I pray that you can find your cure and succor knowing how Tim sparkled with love and devotion for the three of you. From the moment you introduced him to us, Hillary, as your man, over 15 years ago, we knew you had a remarkable, special guy. He will be deeply missed, but we will cherish his memory and go forth knowing that the world was a better place for his friendship. May the Lord keep him and bless...

Tim has left the greatest legacy a man can leave, a legacy of love. Hillary, Lil and Ro-Ro your family has always been an example to all of us. You have shown us all how to truly love, respect and honor the people who matter most in our lives, our families and friends. Tim will live on in our memories and in the stories we tell about him and in the way we conduct ourselves based on his impeccable example. We are blessed to have counted Tim Sloate a friend for so many years, he is forever...

I will miss Tim's ridiculously corny jokes, sarcastic humor, wry smile, and infectious laugh. Our family won't be the same without Tim but he will always be in our hearts. Tim was really a great person and even better brother. He was always there for me - the last time I spoke with him he called Eva to see how her first day at her new school went - he always remembered the little things and that's what made him special. He was also there for me emotionally and physically at the airport when I...

Dear Hilary,
Please find some comfort in knowing that random people from your past (like me) are continuing to pray for you and your family. My only words are to try and find a little joy in each day, one day at a time. Thinking of you.
Lori (Ciampa) Downey
(Lauren's friend from way back)