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Jay David Montfort On January 12, Jay David Montfort, a loving and generous son, husband and father, loyal friend and dedicated business leader, passed away at the age of 50. According to his beloved wife Jacqueline, "He was intelligent, witty, loving, and generous. His interests were wide reaching and diverse yet he dedicated himself 100 percent to everything he did and was bound by duty and by always doing what was right." Jay's passions included flying, scuba diving, modern art and sculptures, collecting fine wines, and world history. It was his family however, that was his greatest love, and it was said of Jay that he "loved anything that was beautiful, but he loved his family more." Jay was born on March 2, 1959 in Newburgh, New York. He attended Vassar's Wimpfheimer School, Haldane Central School, and in the ninth grade, began studying at the Hotchkiss School, where he met several lifelong friends. His Hotchkiss classmates introduced Jay to the beauty of Mount Desert Island, Maine where he summered from the age of 14. Jay completed the combined Bachelor of Arts in Studio Art and Bachelor of Science in Engineering and Computer Science at Bucknell University. He excelled in studio classes in painting, drawing, and sculpture as well as art appreciation. He took great pride in his General Engineering degree. Jay was also the Concert Committee Chairman for two years. He brought a variety of artists to Bucknell including David Bromberg and David Crosby. In 1982, Jay followed his roots in the Hudson Valley and joined his father John in the company his grandfather started 75 years before, Montfort Brothers, Inc. in Fishkill, New York. Jay aspired to operate the business with honor and integrity. A meticulous and methodical man, his work ethic was incomparable. He started out as a machine operator in one of the factories and was named President in 2000. At the time of his passing, he owned the business and two other manufacturing and masonry distribution companies: Federal Block Corporation and New Milford Block and Supply Corporation. The company employs over 100 people and is a leading supplier in the tri-state area. Jay was a successful residential land developer, as well. In 1998, Jay fell madly in love with Jacqueline Barlow. Although their time together was too short, they were blessed with two children, Alexander John and Elizabeth Dubois. The family resides in Fishkill, NY. Jay delighted in entertaining friends. On weekends and holidays, in the comfort of his home and with Jackie dishing up a gourmet feast, he provided an atmosphere that enabled everyone to laugh the night (and often morning) away. Wearing his signature silk Hawaiian shirt, he took great pleasure in watching his friends have a good time particularly at Invermeade, the family's home in Southwest Harbor, Maine. Jay was a wonderful host, not only to his friends, but to good causes as well. He was passionate about giving to others and supported over 30 charities. Jay was on the Council Committee of Storm King Art Center, and a member of The Holland Society of New York and The Cato Institute, Washington, DC. Jay will live forever in the heart of his beloved Jackie and their children, Alexander, 8 and Elizabeth, 7. He is lovingly remembered by his stepchildren, Joseph and Darren Barlow, Darren's wife Marilyn, and their children Leah and Jack. His mother, Elizabeth Frost Montfort and sister, Judy Montfort predeceased Jay. He is survived by his father, John Montfort, his stepmother Beverly Montfort and his brother, Jim Montfort. For those who wish to make a donation in Jay's memory, in lieu of flowers, the family would deeply appreciate contributions to enable Dr. Mark Frattini to continue his groundbreaking research in the cure for leukemia at Memorial Sloan Kettering. Donations can be sent to the following address: Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, 1275 York Avenue, Box 432/Frattini, New York, NY 10065. Jay was an ardent supporter of the Harbor House on Mount Desert Island, Maine. This special place is the heart of the island community and serves to enrich lives by providing services for those in need along with civic, social, youth, and health and fitness programs. Gifts can be made in memory of Jay Montfort, Harbor House Community Center, 329 Main Street, Southwest Harbor, Maine 04679. Calling hours to be held at the Auchmoody Funeral Home in Fishkill, New York on Wednesday, January 20th, from 2 to 4pm and 7 to 9pm. A celebration of Jay's life will be held at the Frances Lehman Loeb Arts Center at Vassar College in Poughkeepsie, NY on Saturday, January 23rd at 11am with a reception following at the Vassar Alumni House. Mount Desert Island, Maine will be Jay's final resting place. A memorial service on his beloved island will be held in the summer at Invermeade, the family home in Southwest Harbor, Maine.

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Published by The News-Times on Jan. 20, 2010.

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Eric Frothingham

January 25, 2010

Jay was a good friend at Hotchkiss and we stayed in touch for several years thereafter. He was a man of strong passions - he rarely did things half-way! More than almost anyone I've known, he lived a life across very different worlds - from the sometimes rough and tumble world of his family's cement block business near Poughkeepsie through the academically and socially challenging world of boarding school, to the place where it sounds like he found his greatest comfort - Southeast Harbor. I remember vividly some high-school adventures up on Mt. Desert island (perhaps his first visit there), including a sail with Chris van Heerden on a sparkling, sunny day and a beautiful afternoon walking around the Rockefeller gardens glorying in the the flowers, buddhist statues, and views out over the water. These are some of my favorite memories of my high school era and it's no surprise that Jay chose Mt. Desert for his haven. I'm glad that Jay found/created a great family, friends, and a place that gave him joy.

Scott Seaman

January 25, 2010

Condolences and prayers go out to Jay's family.

Mark Haigney

January 23, 2010

Jay and I were four-year classmates at Hotchkiss. When we were lower-mids, he gave me three Grateful Dead albums in order to prove to me that they weren't as awful as I thought. The effect of that gift would be difficult to exaggerate. After my conversion, I associated with Dead heads exclusively for the next five or six years. I met my future wife after a Jerry Garcia concert. I don't think I saw Jay more than once or twice after graduation- we live in Maryland- but whenever I hear "St Stephen," I tell the story of Jay and his Johnny Appleseed role. As a young man, he was very clear about his preferences and plans. It sounds like he became a fine man. I was very sorry to hear of his passing.

January 23, 2010

Jackie, Alexander and Elizabeth-it is with great heartache that we learn about Jay's passing. Jay's short time on earth proves that one person can leave an impact on so many people--one which you should all be very proud as you were all part of it. You are a wonderful and very strong family unit. Always remember the things that made Jay special and who he was to so many people, but a husband and father first. Keep his smile etched in your minds and memories in your hearts. Our love, thoughts and prayers to you all. Tim and Deb BHB-Columbia Air

Alissa Keny-Guyer

January 22, 2010

Sounds like Jay led a full life with fun, creativity and purpose since our days at Hotchkiss. My heart goes out to him and his family.

Gary Huff

January 22, 2010

It is with sadness that I offer my condolences to Jackie and the children. Even though I am just one of the guys that fueled the airplane in Bar Harbor, Jay always had a smile and an encouraging word for me. I always smiled when I looked at the screen and saw that Jay and family were inbound to KBHB. I will miss him.

Sid Weinheim

January 21, 2010

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

January 20, 2010

My deepest sympathy goes out to the entire Montfort Family.
Lynn Yack, Walden, New York

Lisa Tracy Jenkins

January 20, 2010

I was surprised and sorry to hear that Jay had passed away. To say we dated when we were at Hotchkiss would be an exaggeration, but we were both on the swim team and did get to know each other a bit the first few months of our sophomore year. It was with interest, joy and sadness that I read his lovingly written obituary, and I realized once again how much people change and grow after high school. I'm glad he had a successful life in so many respects and enjoyed it with good friends and family.

Stephen Kelley

January 20, 2010

Please accept my deepest sympathies.

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