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ALAN FRIEDMAN Obituary

FRIEDMAN--Alan Howard. Alan Howard Friedman passed away peacefully on March 24, 2019 at the age of 91 at home in Escondido, CA with his wife at his side. Born to Harry and Mina Friedman on January 4, 1928 in Brooklyn, NY, Alan and his younger sister Linda Wolfe Pollack (born November 15, 1933) are the grandchildren of Ukrainian and Russian immigrants. Harry was CFO at HIAS for 30 years. Alan received his B.A. in English Literature from Harvard University in 1949, his M.A. in English Literature from Columbia University in 1950, and his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of California at Berkeley in 1964. Alan was a novelist, short story writer, and literary critic. He taught English and creative writing as a professor at Colombia University, Swarthmore College, and the University of Illinois, Chicago, where he served as director of the creative writing program in the English department. He reviewed fiction for the New York Times Book Review from 1978 to 1998. He was nominated for the National Book Award in 1973 for his novel Hermaphrodeity. His short story "Willy Nilly," published in the January 1968 edition of New American Review, served as the basis for the 1987 film "Something Special," directed by Paul Schneider. Alan was a devoted husband and caring father. He married Lenore Helman of New York, NY on October 1st, 1950. They had one son, Gregory. Alan married Kate Miller Gilbert of El Cerrito, CA on October 30, 1977 in New York City. They had one son, Alexander. Alan will be interred in the Sunset Mausoleum in El Cerrito, CA. Services will be held for family. Alan's favorite charities are Amnesty International and PETA.

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Published by New York Times on Mar. 31, 2019.

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Susan K. Ortlieb

September 15, 2020

Dear Kate, Alex, and other family,

I am so sorry for your loss. I first met Alan at L.R. Green school, and his intelligence and warmth were immediately apparent. I think he was holding a copy of the NY Times. I later learned that he was a writer, and had the pleasure to read some of his work.

Alan was a unique and wonderful person with a unique and wonderful family. The term one-of-a-kind comes to mind. I always enjoyed my visits to the Friedman house and other get-togethers. I know you will miss him greatly, and hope that the many memories you have will provide comfort.

Much Love,
Susan K. Ortlieb and family

Ingrid Newkirk, PETA President

April 5, 2019

Alan was a wonderful, kind friend of animals - and animals need all the friends they can get. Everyone at PETA sends their condolences and wishes for strength to Kate and the rest of Alan's friends and family.

April 4, 2019

Kate, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. Your memories of him will last forever and he will remain in your heart always.....

Cheryll, Major Market

Linda Wolfe

April 1, 2019

I shall miss my dear brother very much.

Jessica Bernstein

March 31, 2019

My condolences to Kate, Greg, Alex, and all family members of my Uncle Alan. There will never be another Alan. He was one-of-a-kind and very much loved, and he will be missed.

March 31, 2019

To the Friedman Family: My heartfelt sympathies go out to the family and friends during this difficult time. I hope that the promise in 1 Thessalonians 4:14 can bring comfort. Knowing that there's a hope for the ones we have lost in death can be so reassuring.

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