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Gayle E. Domenick
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Gayle Domenick Obituary
GAYLE E. (YOTER)
Age 87, of Moon Twp., on Sunday, May 29, 2005; beloved wife for 57 years of Albert Domenick; loving mother of Lynn Parker Dunn, Richard P. Darges, Darryl G. Domenick, Kris Domenick and Lisa Domenick; sister of the late Ethel Mae Virgara and Dorothy Mae Burt. Proud grandmother of 14 and many great-grandchildren. No visitation. Burial will be private with the family in Mt. Calvary Cemetery. Arrangements by COPELAND'S CORAOPOLIS 867 Fifth Ave. Memorial contributions may be made to the charity of your choice.
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Lisa Domenick
November 3, 2009
We miss you Mom. It's still very hard to think of you without crying, even as the tears start now. The angels came for Dad, lifting him from our arms so unexpectedly, it still feels unreal. Tears and more tears. Your presence is still here, around every corner. I picked up the phone today to call you - how odd? It seems any moment, Pap will come around the corner into the kitchen...
The only comfort is knowing that you are not alone now and that Dad will find you and be happy again.
It sure is lonely without you guys...so many memories
Lisa
December 15, 2006
I miss you Mom...at times, more than I can bear. I hope you know that you are never out of my thoughts.
Cessaly Hutchinson
December 14, 2006
I only knew her a brief time but she was always wonderful on the phone.
Lisa Domenick
December 1, 2005
I’m not sure I’m doin so good here, Mom.
Its been six months since you left us and today it feels like that very Sunday morning...
It would sure be great to be able to talk to you right now…I’m missin you more than ever.The Holidays are here and it is just not the same without you. I almost feel like I’m not really here either. Where you are not here in body but are here in spirit, it feels just the opposite with me in that I am here, in body…but my spirit is not in it. It is with you right now. I can’t seem to pull myself all together here.
Some days everything is fine and I get up, the sun is shining and all is good in the world…you know what I mean? Each day is a new day. I think I have a handle on things and that I have it all together and most of the time I feel I do. That’s awareness and confidence. You taught me that. It comes over time, after putting one foot in front of the other, small successes that build and build. Every once in a while, I come up against some brick walls, temporarily or get setback by something unexpected life hands us, but I gotta expect that. You taught me that too. The walls I can’t get around, I go through…like the proverbial bull in a china shop.
The setbacks…hell…I’m used to them…I just keep pluggin along the only way I know how, being my usual persistent, stubborn, don’t know any better maybe, self and next thing I know…they don’t exist. I guess that is just my perseverance and determination, (I’m not stubborn), winning out. I don’t think it was necessarily a conscience effort on my part originally…I think, again…it was just all I knew how to do but after so many setbacks, I began to realize, through the awareness that I’ve searched for and finally gained, that there was a pattern…so I started eliminating the middle man, that being the beating I used to give myself when I screwed up. I don’t dwell on it now…nor make excuses for it nor hide behind the walls anymore…I just accept it as it was and move on, try to learn a lesson from it and try to do better ‘the next time’ as you said. I guess the Universe truly does work in perfect order, doesn’t it?
I’m finding my way here, slowly…into becoming the person I am and who and what I want to be. Life isn’t about where you are so much as it is about the process of getting to there. Isn’t that what you said? It seems I have been getting ready all these years, for the person I ultimately intend to be. What a long journey it has been. But it has been full of joys as well as heartaches, which I suppose are a necessary evil, as without their opposites, I wouldn’t know the difference, perhaps. There are just some things we cannot understand, even though we may say we do, or attempt to show empathy unto others as, if we ourselves have not experienced it. Without that experience, our words to compassion to others are mere words, without meaning, however sincerely intended.
I’ve made many, many mistakes along the way and there are many words I’ve said aloud or to others that I wish I’d have never said…They say ‘sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me’ but I’m not so sure that is true. Words have power. The right ones and the wrong ones. They can make or break a person. We’ve all said things and had things said to us…
While it is true, as you’ve said, we have to shrug it off and rise above some of the garbage that is thrown at us, as we have all hurt and been hurt…by words, actions…some conscious and direct, others indirect or as a result of something, related to us, that somehow ‘changes us’ from who we might or might not have become otherwise…and we can’t carry that around with us…now that we are adults…some of those words and events are buried deep… so much so that maybe we don’t even know they are there or where they started to breed within us. I’ve seen the results of the ‘act of words’ in so many now. Some rise above, some don’t seem to be able to do so, as well. I’m fortunate to come from good stuff, as they say…in that you and Daddy gave me everything I need to get started and now I’m using what I have, the best I can, to figure out the rest. As much as our intelligent sides tell us that theses things are not within our control nor should they control our lives…our emotions from or because of them can sure get in our way sometimes, can’t they? Is that what you were trying to tell me all those years, about you?
For the person you were, that you never complained nor ‘asked for anything’, and always had that great ‘don’t give a damn’ personality…you had an enormous amount of emotion even if you were never, as you often said, able to ‘show them’ nor talk about them easily. While you may have not been able to ‘express’ them openly, as you thought, you did express your emotions, everyday, Mom. In what you did. Maybe you never realized that.
Your life was never about you. It was always built around others and what you could do for them. According to you, that was your purpose for being put here. Yours was to give of yourself, to help others, to do for others, as you so often said…and did…everyday. That is how I knew you. God never spared you any pain, Mom. You had more than your share of pain, hurt and sorrows. He never inherently gave you happiness…you always had to find it from within, and you did… just like you never took away any of the pain we may have had to learn for ourselves along the way. You were always there, you always listened with your heart and you knew when to speak and when to remain silent.
I guess you always knew that we too had to suffer in some ways to be set apart from worldly things and realize what is truly important so that that could bring us closer to him and his ways and what he expects from us.
I think you truly knew the meaning of life, Mom…in that everyday…by your actions, even if not by your ‘words of emotion’, you asked God to help you find the way to truly love others as he loved his own Son…by what you gave of yourself, as he did, of his Son.
For these reason, I know he has made a place for you there in Heaven and as much as I am comforted to know that you are with him, in peace…I want you to know that even though you are not exactly here with me, in body, everything you did while you were here, with me and who you were to me…will never be forgotten. You left so much of you behind, in me…even if I don’t always behave as well as you did, the things you tried to teach me, by your example…of what is important in this Life, is in there, in me and I’m getting the ‘idea’ more and more each day…
Thanks Mom…for being my Mom. I sure do miss you and it hurts, painfully… unbelievably so, at times to realize you are not here, that I can’t call you, or see you the way I used too, but at those times, I have to try to remember that same pain allows me to remember once again, that our time here is short as our time with others, as well…and that we have to strive to do better, each day to make that time and how we spend it, with ourselves and others, more meaningful so that when our time comes, we leave a little part of this world a bit of a better place, for having graced it, just as you did.
You may have left me, in body, but your love and your spirit and the things you’ve given me, are and always will be, still here… with me, Mom.
I love you Mom,
Lisa
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Lisa
July 10, 2005
I Miss you Mom
On Angel wings, I send this prayer
For you to feel my presence there
Although we're not together Mom,
I hope you can hear me, see me…
And know how much I miss you,
How much I love you.
I guess I just wanted you to know,
You are with me wherever I go.
I still need you Mom.
Our time was not long enough.
There are still things I want to share,
With you.
There are so many questions,
I still don't have answers too.
Sometimes I feel like I am wandering
Around lost.
You were my home base, my rock
You knew everything,
And I always knew everything
Would be alright
As long as you were here.
I believed in you
And you believed in me
And between us, there was nothing
We couldn't do.
Now I'm here, all by myself
And you are there
But Mom, I want you to know…
That I take you with me,
Wherever I go.
I love you, Mom.
mike young
June 14, 2005
to al and family
i just heard about your loss and my heart truely goes out to you
gayle was a sweetheart of a lady and i always enjoyed talking with her
god blessed all with her presence
she will always be with you
gods speed mikey young
Irene Farrow
June 12, 2005
Lisa,
Your tribute confirms your moms love & spirit lives within you. Thank you for sharing your memories for those of us who only knew her from your eyes. May these memories bring you comfort.
God Bless,
Irene
Debbie Brisky
June 10, 2005
Dearest Al & Family, my heart goes out to you in this sad time. You are a true testament of a good husband, you were right there to care for her as well as that sparkle that came into your eyes when you spoke of her. You all are in my prayers.
Debbie Wilson
June 3, 2005
Dear Al and Family,
I am sorry that you all lost a good person in Gayle. I am sure she will never be forgotten and will always be loved and in your hearts. Al, I am so glad that I was able to visit you two when she was in Canonsburg.
Love,
Chris Cataffa
June 2, 2005
Dear Uncle Al & family:
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. I know she was very special to all of you. My deepest sympathy.
Kristy Harrer
June 2, 2005
Joey and Family,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know your gram was such a huge part of your everyday life and I can't imagine the sadness you must be feeling. Keep her memories close to you and take comfort in knowing she is watching over you each and every day.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and you know to call if you need anything.
Gayle & Al 1996
June 2, 2005
June 2, 2005
Joey Marie Manuel
June 2, 2005
I miss her more than words can say. She was my grandmother, my friend, my confidant and my conscience. She was the most inspiring and unselfish person I've ever known.
Even during her time in the hospital over the past year, she was always worried about others and never took the time to dwell on her own condition. She would always tell me "I worry about you" and always wanted to make sure I was ok. Whenever I tried to do things for her she would tell me to "stop fussing" as she was never one to have anyone fuss over her and never one to complain. Whenever I walked into her hospital room, she always had a smile for me, no matter how bad she was feeling. When everyone was worried about her, she was there worrying about everyone else. That was just how she was.
I admired her strength and determination through what had to be a very difficult time for her. Grandma was always like that-strong and determined. She was also the most loving, kind and generous person you could ever meet. She wasn't your typical "grandmother" in that she didn't stay home and bake cookies, knit and make a big fuss when we got hurt while playing. She was the grandmother who was outside playing ball with us, who would let us eat ice cream for dinner if it suited us and who would tell us to "get up and brush it off" if we fell and got hurt. I believe that this is what has made us, her children and her grandchildren, strong and independent, just as she was. Gram never was one to "sweat the small stuff" as they say-I think she always saw the bigger picture and her only concern was that we were happy and healthy. She loved us all in her own special way.
I know that she would tell us all to stop crying and go on with our lives. She would not want us to be sad, but rather, she would want us to remember the good times that we all shared with her.
I'm trying gram, but it is difficult not to be sad because you were such an important part of my daily life. I miss you more than you will ever know. I'm thankful for all the talks we've had over the years and I've learned more from you than I will probably ever learn. You've taught me to be compassionate, unselfish and strong and you've taught me never to give up or give in without a fight. You were everything that I can only someday hope to be.
Not a day will go by that I don't think of you and miss you with all my heart. You will always be in my heart and in my prayers-I will remember your face, your smile, your laugh and your love of black licorice and any cookie or potato chip that you could get your hands on. I will remember all the good, happy times that we had and hope that you will do the same. I will take comfort in knowing that you are at peace and that you are watching over us, as we struggle to go on with life without you here with us. I hope we will all make you proud.
I have been truly blessed to have you in my life and you will be with me always and forever.
I love you gram.
Love,
Joey
Brenda Rohacek
June 1, 2005
Dear Lisa & family,
It was wonderful meeting your mother and some of your family in May 2002.She told us a few stories about the past that kept us spellbound.What a terrific woman! She had a very interesting life and you were very lucky to have her with you for so long, even though it didn't seem like it was long enough. Take care of yourselves and hold your memories close. God love you all.
Brenda Rohacek
Jan Garland
June 1, 2005
Al & Family,
My prayers are with you and your family. May God strengthen you during this very difficult time.
Love
Marie McNulty
June 1, 2005
Dear Uncle Al:
All my love and prayers to you and your family. Your endless love and devotion is simply inspiring. May God continue to give you strength and peace now and always.
We all love you very much.
lynn dunn
June 1, 2005
My thoughts and prayers are with the family on the the passing of our mother. I know the memories you have to share will be of comfort to you for your lifetime.Please know that I will be ever grateful for the time I had with her and the enduring love she showed for all of us.
Lynn P Dunn
Lisa Domenick
June 1, 2005
A tribute to my Mom,
While she may have had to leave us behind, her spirit, as her blood, will forever run through our veins, until the day we meet her again. Her heart is a part of each one of us, for generations among us, as well as those, who number many, before us. Her presence will be a force felt among us in our every wakening moment as we continue to go through life, as she was a very strong believer of Life. She gave Life meaning; beyond its limits…as she did not believe in limits, but only that you were limited, by what you believed.
She was always ahead of her time and oftentimes, ahead of herself and hard to keep up with. Our father can attest to this. She, her love for him, life itself, and her Spirit, kept him on his toes until her final day.
Our mom believed in commitments. She also believed in fairness, being the right person, doing what was right and doing what you can do to help others. She lived by these rules. If she had something and you needed it, it was yours. Her home, as her heart, were open. Many people passed through her life and through our doors at home. They were always open. She shared all that she had, of herself, her home, her advice, even anything in her fridge…which many raided.
Many loved her as we were growing up, coming by to talk (she was a great one to ask anything of), to raid her fridge, play ball, or to just hang out with her. Even when her kids weren’t home…there would be others there, having gotten caught up in talking to her. She was at home with and had time for, anyone. You needed a helping hand, our mom would be there, without being asked. She always knew the right thing to do, the right thing to say and even when to just listen and not say anything. You never felt rejected, foolish, or a disappointment to her. She was your biggest fan. That was one of her greatest assets, among the many.
She had the ability to accept, without judgment nor prejudice, anyone and anything. She left people alone to be who they were and liked them all the same. She made the world laugh with her sense of humor, her ability to be a Lady at all times and a tomboy whenever she could get away with it, which was often. She was always a kid at heart. Every kid loved her as she related to whoever you were, no matter what age you were. She was forever one of the ‘gang’.
To ask for anything in her memory… it would be that as you go out there each day; love your family and your friends, even those you have yet to met yet as you never know who they may come to be. When you feel a kind thought…show it or say it… don’t hesitate. When you can do a kind deed, do it…don’t neglect to do so out of fear, rejection, or shyness. Smile. Laugh. Be a part of Life. Believe in yourself. Accept others and be warm and helpful to all, as she was, despite their differences and shortcomings. Most of all, cherish Life and what it has to offer. Let go of useless worry, keeping up with the Jones’, and let other’s alone to be who they are. Don’t fight “change”… grow with it. Change is a part of life, a series of moments in time. Time is ours only for a short while. Enjoy what you have. Love the others in your life and help them do the same. These are the ideals that she taught us.
I will miss her love, her face, her smile, her laugh, her advice, her attitude and her personal style of living. But…she will remain in my heart and my soul forever. Her 87 years in this world wasn't long enough but I cherish that I was truly blessed that she was a part of my life for so very long. The time has come for her to move on, to another place, to begin again, in whatever Life our God has infinitely planned for her.
I will always be a part of you, Mom. I love you.
Your daughter,
Lisa
You'll always be the "Greatest", Mom. We love you!
May 31, 2005
Susann Hyjek
May 31, 2005
Dear Uncle Al and Family,
We are sorry to hear about Aunt Gayle's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and we will keep you in our prayers during your time of sorrow.
Love Susann,Wayne,Stockard and Omar Hyjek
Karen Amos
May 31, 2005
Dear Al,
We were all so sorry to hear of Gayle's passing. We know how much you loved her. You showed your love and dedication to the very end. Although we didn't know Gayle personally I'm sure she was a wonderful wife and mother. May God be with you and your family in the days to come and we will pray for you all. We will miss seeing you at the Greenery. We were blessed that you touched our lifes and you brought a smile to others around you who were going through simular circumstances.
Please accept our sympathy in your loss and know that we will be thinking of you.
The family of Jane Conkey,
Tom Conkey
Karen Amos
Betty Thompson
Deb and Todd Conklin
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