Name: Visitation for Mary J. Decker
Start: 2021-02-24T21:00:00.000Z
End: 2021-02-25T00:00:00.000Z
Location: Timothy P. Doyle Funeral Home, Inc.

Mary J. Decker

Poughkeepsie, New York - Mary J. Decker 83 of the Town of Poughkeepsie died at home on Thursday February 18, 2021 surrounded by her loving family.

Mary was born on December 12, 1937, and was the daughter of the late Ernest and the late Rose Filoia Bruno.

Mary was a lifelong area resident and graduate of Poughkeepsie High School.

On May 13, 1961 at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church, Mary married Clarence " Ed " Decker Jr. Ed predeceased Mary on November 30, 2020.

Mary retired from Vassar College in 2014 where she worked as a Administrative Assistant for over 30 years. Her time spent at Vassar brought her immense joy.

Mary was a member of Holy Trinity Church in Poughkeepsie. Mary's life revolved around her daughter, granddaughter and family.

Mary is survived by her daughter, Kristine M. Whelan and her husband Patrick of Pleasant Valley, her granddaughter Haley Rose Hawlk of Pleasant Valley, her sister Barbara Van Dewater and her husband Marc of Poughkeepsie, her brother Ernest Bruno and his wife Roseanne of Hyde Park, her sister In-law Brenda Bruno of Hyde Park, her sister-in-law Joan Sinon of Staatsburg, and many nieces and nephews.

Mary was predeceased by her brother, Arthur Bruno.

Visitation will take place Wednesday February 24, 2021 form 4pm to 7pm at the Timothy P. Doyle Funeral Home 371 Hooker Ave. Poughkeepsie, New York. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held 10am Thursday February 25, 2021 at Holy Trinity Church 775 Main Street Poughkeepsie, New York. Burial will follow at St. Peter's Cemetery Salt Point Turnpike, Poughkeepsie New York.

The Family asks that Memorial Donations be made in Mary's Name to the Dutchess County SPCA, 636 Violet Ave, Hyde Park, NY 12538, as Mary loved all creatures, big and small.

If you would like to leave an online condolence please visit our website at www.doylefuneralhome.com

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Published by Poughkeepsie Journal from Feb. 20 to Feb. 22, 2021.

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Michael and Barbara McCarthy

February 14, 2023

Remembered warmly for her kindness and good will.
Michael and Barbara McCarthy

Phebe Port , ELC

February 14, 2022

Having spent 22 summers on the Vassar College Campus, working with Mary , it was about this time that we would being the planning process for our annual Leadership Program. Mary was our number 1 point of contact for Summer Programs. She was in a league of her own. She cared deeply and made it her mission to be sure we were supported well. The world would be a better place if there were more Mary Deckers in it

Jackie

February 27, 2021

Sending Prayers & Condolence To The Family

Phebe Farrow Port

February 24, 2021

I worked with Mary from 1987-2009 at Vassar College for our summer program that The Estee Lauder Companies held annually. Nothing was too much trouble for Mary and she was always kind and patient to everyone she encountered. She made our programs work and was the glue that held the office of Summer Programs together. We loved her dearly and she brought sunshine with her where ever she goes. She was a great blessing to us all!

Brandy Barber

February 24, 2021

I'm so sorry to hear that Mary has passed. I met her in 1994, as a young apprentice in the Powerhouse program. I had the pleasure of knowing her as a teacher there in subsequent summers. Mary was one of the kindest, warmest people I have ever met. I know that's something people say frequently, so much so that it's lost its meaning, and has become somewhat of a cliché. But in Mary's case, it was 100% true. She made such an impression on a 20 year old me, one I still hold on to all these years later. She made you feel loved, welcomed, and important. She meant so much to so many people. And yet, she was so humble. I know I'll never meet anyone else quite like her, and I feel grateful that I got to know her. I send her family and friends my sincere condolences.

michael mc carthy

February 23, 2021

Dear Kristine,
We knew both of your parents very well during the years she worked at Vassar. Your mother was a lovely person, always smiling and thoughtful. I shall tell Emily of your loss. Michael and Barbara Mc Carthy

Patricia [ Shwedo ] Purdy

February 22, 2021

Kristine I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I had many laughs with her at Vassar and many talks about our "girls". Know your Mom always had a smile and kind word for all she ran into.Her memory and good times will always be there with you. Know you were her Pride and Joy and your daughter too. Again Kristine I am so sorry.

Jayne Hayden-Lay

February 21, 2021

Kristine,

I am very sorry for your loss. Your parents were wonderful, kind, people. Always smiling. You were truly blessed.

Kyoshii Joe Mansfield

February 21, 2021

Mary was a sweetest lady who always had a smile and kind word. My wife Juliana K. and daughter Melissa and I had many pleasant occasions with Mary on and off campus. Lots of Love.

Sal J Ligotino

February 21, 2021

R.I.P.

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