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HENDERSON, PAUL D. Sept. 29, 1952 to June 11, 2011 Paul Henderson, business owner and entrepreneur, died at home on June 11. Born in San Diego, Paul graduated from Grossmont High School in 1970 and San Diego State University in 1974 where he lettered in track. He was a member of the Tau Kappa Epsilon Fraternity. A businessman throughout his career in San Diego, along with his wife Donna, Paul owned and operated HOA's Only, an accounting company based in El Cajon until his retirement. Everyone who knew Paul was aware that the most important thing in his life was his family. Always surrounded with love from the women who meant everything to him, he was especially delighted with the newest addition, his granddaughter Maggie. He loved outings with his daughters, daily walks with the family dog, Sadie, savoring a double espresso at Starbucks, reading his Kindle and going to movies with friends. Paul excelled in scuba diving, racquetball and hunting. A self-taught musician who played guitar, Paul loved all forms of music especially folk music and rock and roll. He enjoyed watching football and especially liked going to Aztec football games with his many close friends. Beloved husband, supportive father and a loyal friend to many, Paul is survived by his wife of 34 years, Donna of El Cajon, children Jennifer Doyle (Greg), Kathryn (Daniel), Karolyn, granddaughter Margaret Rose Doyle, brothers Mike (Michelle) and David, sister Jessie Tomlinson (Rocky), mother-in-law Bette Gorton, brothers-in-law Donald Roberts (Connie) and David Roberts (Sharyl), and many nieces and nephews. Paul is predeceased by his father and mother, Emerald and Virginia Henderson. A Celebration of Life will be held at Randy Jones All American Sports Grill on July 17, 2011 at 2:00 p.m. We want to thank our loving friends who provided support for many years. Memorial contributions can be made to the ALS Association of San Diego.

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Published by San Diego Union-Tribune on Jun. 26, 2011.

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November 15, 2012

Sweetheart, I'm letting your legacy page go for now. I'll still talk to you while I'm in the car and see you in my dreams. You will be loved and missed forever. Love, Donna

September 29, 2012

Lighting a candle at home and thinking of you today with love. Mom

September 29, 2012

Happy Birthday, Paul. It's so hard to believe you would be 60 years old. I well remember meeting you for the first time, with all of your ambitions and plans. You built a beautiful family and a legacy we won't soon forget. Miss you so much. Love you forever, Mom

Aunt Susan Henderson- Law

June 6, 2012

You are still in my prayers. I miss maggie's escapades

June 5, 2012

I think of you all day, every day, and am missing you more and more if that is possible. It's hard to believe it's been almost a year. We're making plans for Saturday night; I think you would like it. Love you always and forever, Your wife

Karolyn and Kathryn

Kathryn Henderson

March 24, 2012

Kathryn Henderson

March 24, 2012

Dad, I recently found an awesome Jim Croce song that I haven't heard in years. I think it was one of your favorites that I never really liked. Since buying it, I've probably listened to it 30 times. You really did have great taste in music -- thanks for passing it along. One of my favorite memories with you happened not so long ago. I was driving over to your house and I heard Croce's "Operator" on the radio. I've heard that song hundreds of times, and I even had every word memorized... but this time I listened to the words and I was just blown away. I finally understood what Croce was singing about -- heartache and hardship. I sat down and discussed my experience with you. You couldn't talk much, but I remember saying "Oh my god it's heartbreaking" and you emphatically nodded. Like an idiot, I described the entire song to you (like you'd never heard it before) complete with all my revelations, and you just smiled and nodded. I really miss moments like that, and I know you had to go, but I think we have some unfinished business with musical discoveries. Since you left, I bought a bunch of Jimmy Buffet songs and listened intently to each song, hoping to find deeper meaning, but it turns out he really IS just singing about hamburgers and beaches. Anyways, I listen to "I Got a Name" everyday and think of you. I wish we could talk about it. XO- Kathryn

Bette

January 5, 2012

Paul, as you know, you are so missed by all of your girls. I include myself in that list of females, including Sadie too. We are doing the best we can, and I know you would be proud of the spirit and love that surrounds each of your girls. Good job, Paul.

January 3, 2012

Sweetheart, we made it through our first holiday without you. There were some rough times and there were good times. There was an empty place at the table on Christmas Eve and I hope you were there with us in spirit. There is a quote from "It's a Wonderful Life": "Strange, isn't it? Each man's life touches so many other lives. When he isn't around, he leaves an awful hole, doesn't he"? There is a huge hole in our life without you but are trying to fill it with family and lots of love. Please know we will always miss and love you. Your wife always, Donna

Your happy daughter and her beloved husband!

Kathryn Henderson

November 30, 2011

November 30, 2011

Dad, I got married last month and it was great. There was great food and music, and lots of laughter. You would have loved it -- we served Shepard's Pie and Guinness and danced to oldies! Daniel is truly a wonderful man, and I'm so happy he's my husband. I'm glad he asked you for my hand in marriage -- we truly wanted your blessing. It's such an old fashioned thing to do, isn't it? Who knew that your liberal-minded, nontraditional daughter would find a family man like Daniel?? I've realized in the last few months, more than ever before, what it means to have truly wonderful and loving parents. I know I got unbelievably lucky in this life to have you and Mom as my parents, and I feel beyond blessed to be your daughter. I know you're gone, but the impact you left on me will last my entire life. I value family and living honorably, just like you. I live my life the way I want to live it, and I seek out people and pursuits that bring me joy. I listen to all the music that you brought us up with (lots of Peter, Paul and Mary), and I even watch Star Trek or Lord of the Rings every now and then. It's hard with you gone Dad, but I'm so proud our family. You and Mom are awesome people. Love you, Pops. XOXO -- Your Great Kate

November 29, 2011

Paul, I miss you more than ever. Time goes by but it still feels like it was yesterday that you left. We got through our first Thanksgiving without you and now Christmas is coming. We miss you.

Susan (Henderson) Law

July 14, 2011

My time in knowing Paul and his delightful family were short, but those times were memorable. His Aunt Susan learned to luv him and his luv of family and zest for life. I shall miss his emails and learning about Maggie's escapades. His was a life that made a difference in this world.

July 13, 2011

Paul, I miss you terribly. My days are not the same without you. We have your Celebration coming up on Sunday and hope it's what you would want - family, friends and food! Love you, love you, love you. Your wife, Donna

Patty Cordero

July 10, 2011

Dear Donna ~ My condolences on the passing of Paul. It's been many, many years since we have seen each other... I have thought of you often. Please know my prayers are with you and your family at this time. With love and friendship ~ Patty (Schwarz / Tall) Cordero

Pat Vozza

June 28, 2011

Peace and love to you, Paul, and my sincerest sympathy to all your loved ones.

Rhonda Lowry

June 27, 2011

Words can not express the sorrow we feel for the loss of Paul. Our thoughts are with all of you during this difficult time. I remember he was especially good with our grand daughters. They delighted when he would come out and walk the dog and honk his horn at them and wave. He is at peace now and we know how much he will be missed.



Michael and Rhonda Lowry

Kathryn Henderson

June 26, 2011

My father was one of the most loving and supportive people I've ever know. He helped me achieve my goals and was always there to offer me love and guidance. I will always miss him.

Bette Gorton

June 26, 2011

Paul - Go with God, find the peace you were seeking. Our love is forever. Your Mom-in-Law, Bette

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