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Donald Duncan "Deke" Harger

of San Mateo passed away peacefully on January 21, 2014. He is survived by his wife, Marge, daughter Christina, son Charlie, daughter-in-law Michelle, and grandchildren Caroline, Charlie, and Phoebe.


Donald Harger was born in Riverside, California, on March 7, 1928, to Donald K and Nino Brown Harger. He graduated from Richmond High School in 1945, and from Stanford University in 1949. He earned his Master's degree at Stanford in 1950. Shortly thereafter, Deke enlisted in the Navy and subsequently went to Officer Candidate School and became an intelligence officer. He had a memorable tour of duty in Kodiak, Alaska. After his active Navy service, he continued in the navy Reserve intelligence program, retiring as a Commander.


Deke was a science teacher for 33 years; three years teaching middle school in Ventura and 30 at Burlingame High School. He inspired generations of young people as a teacher and yearbook advisor. He, along with teaching colleagues, made several trips with students to various wilderness areas in California, seeking to get young people interested in and committed to preserving nature. He retired in 1988, and at that time the BHS faculty presented him with another love of his life, Daisy the dog.


Harger always said that a summer vacation was not truly a vacation unless he went to the mountains. He backpacked until he couldn't anymore. He shared his love of backpacking not only with students, but also with his children and friends. He developed his love of the mountains as a child, when his parents took him on horse-camping trips every year. As an adult, his backpacking focused on the Sierra Nevada, but also included the Trinity Alps and the Marble Mountains.


He was very involved with and dedicated to his church and spiritual life. Deke taught Bible classes and conducted a series of seminars that are remembered to this day. He helped with the St. Paul's rummage sale, trained new acolytes, was a frequent cupbearer and lector, and was in the church choir for many years. Deke was a deeply religious man, but did not wear his beliefs on his sleeve. Rather, he showed them by the way he lived: with kindness, care, and generosity.


Harger was a man of many interests. He was an avid gardener, who enjoyed sharing the fruits of his labors, including bringing homegrown tomatoes on his backpack trips. He played the guitar and piano, would entertain his family with songs, and was an enthusiastic reader. He volunteered at the San Francisco airport with Traveler's Aid, and with an organization that helped transport elderly patients to their doctor appointments.


Even with all of his varied interests and activities, Deke always put his family first. He was dedicated to his wife and children. He made them laugh at every meal, took good care of them, and was always proud and supportive of their endeavors. All who knew Deke appreciated his unique sense of humor: droll, clever, and sometimes just plain silly.  He will be remembered as a loving, humorous, and considerate man, and will be missed greatly.


Donald Harger passed away from complications of Parkinson's Disease. His family thanks the staff and caregivers at Heirloom Gardens, Burlingame, and Hospice of San Mateo County, for their care and kindness towards their husband and father. Donations may be made in his memory to Hospice of San Mateo County, Sierra Club, or a charity of your choice.


A memorial service will be held on Friday, January 31, 2014, at 2:00pm at St. Paul's Episcopal Church, 415 El Camino Real, Burlingame, CA, 94010.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Jan. 25 to Jan. 27, 2014.

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Joanne Antosik Ashenfelter

May 15, 2014

Mr. Harder was not only a great teacher but also a very funny person. It was so easy to attend his class and learn. I remember my older brother and sister talking about him at dinner and how he was a favorite teacher. He became one of my favorites too. My sympathy his family. Thanks for sharing a wonderful man.

April 18, 2014

Mr. "Deke" Harger was the reason I became a Biology Teacher (36 years at Hillsdale High School in San Mateo). His sense of humor and interest in the subject helped make my stay at Burlingame High School an enjoyable one. It's a sad day - so sorry.
Owen Lucey

Dawn Carlson

March 10, 2014

And he raised a very cool daughter!

sandra wayner

March 10, 2014

i only know Pa Harger thru his daughter Christina H. ~ but feel like i know him well, thru her words and memories of him, and will miss him because of that.

Ted deBord

March 6, 2014

Had Mr. Harger in Earth Science, Fall 1961. I to this day remember him as a great and funny man. He made learning so much fun. Was great on field trips also. I remember him in a red Alfa Romeo. Top down, definitely a cool guy. I was meaning to try and phone him, then found out he passed. Sympathies to all. In my class with him I met a fellow student, one of the finest guys of all time, Dennis Leigh

Kathleen Cohen

February 27, 2014

I loved lunch year book meetings with Mr. Harger. Later, about about twenty- two years later, I enjoyed his visits to Santa Clara University where I was retrained as a science teacher. He shared great experiments and taught me how to implode a can, a skill that another couple of generations of students thoroughly enjoyed. He was a kind and funny man and a wonderful teacher.

Chris Kelly

February 8, 2014

Mr. Harger was a humorous, dedicated teacher in the years I knew him. His deadpan humor and obvious love of the outdoors make him unforgettable to me. It's heartening to see so many others are remembering him the same way. All the best to his wife and family. - Chris Kelly, class of '84

Chris Kelly

February 8, 2014

Mr. Harger was a humorous, caring teacher in the brief time I knew him duing my years at Burlingame High, 1980-1984. He made science class memorable and clearly cared about us and the school. All the best to his family and friends at this time.

January 30, 2014

I'am so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed all the family dinners at both houses during the holidays. i will cherish he happiness & joyest nature

January 30, 2014

One of my favorite teachers who taught me to think.

Jim Gentleman
BHS class of 1976

John McCook

January 28, 2014

I want to send along my sympathy at this time to your Family and my assurance that my memories of Harge are indelible smiles of wonderful experiences from my growing years in Ventura...All good thoughts,

Amy Umpleby

January 27, 2014

Tina, Charlie and Marge, my heart goes out to you! I have many fond memories of dinners, camping, and holidays with the Harger family. Deke's photo is a perfect reflection of his kind, joyful nature. You must miss him so. Hang in there, I'm thinking of you all.

January 27, 2014

Mr.Harger was a great man, and a dedicated teacher. I was, no doubt, not one of his favorite students. But he was still one of my favorites.God Bless this great man. Patrick Leonard

January 27, 2014

Deke was a wonderful, inspiring teacher, and a great husband and father! He was among the most valuable faculty members at Burlingame High, where he served for many years. Marge, Christina and Charlie, you have my deepest sympathy on your loss. Milo Gwosden

Donna Bolt

January 27, 2014

By far one of my most inspirational and fun memories of BHS'65. Yeah Panther Tracks

Ann Rounds

January 27, 2014

Deke was a great man. I always remember the humor he brought to the endless faculty meetings in the Burlingame HS cafeteria. My condolences go out to his whole family.

Daulton Bush

January 26, 2014

Mr. Harger was my all time favorite teacher. He taught my science class at Burlingame High back in the early 1960s. I will never forget him climbing up on top of a desk and tossing a handful of seeds with wings in the air to demonstrate seed dispersal. He was a teacher who had a way of making his students love the subject. He had a warmth and wonderful sense of humor. I grew up in Burlingame and attended St. Paul's too. I am now 71 but still have a very vivid memory of Mr. Harger as an amazing man. My blessings go to his family.

Kristen Fehlhaber (BHS '85)

January 26, 2014

Not only a great teacher, but so funny! Almost thirty years later, I remember a few of his deadpan comments verbatim. His classes were truly a pleasure. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Kjerstin Deane

January 26, 2014

What an amazing man. I will always remember him in his 1970s yellow VW Bug.

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