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Alexandra Pfister Obituary

Alley chose to leave this world on May 10th, 2014. She was always off to try new things and move to new places, and now she has moved to a place where she feels safe. She is survived by her sister, Johanna Pfister; her brothers Dylan and Julian Pfister; her mom, Janiece Sandwater; her dad Alexander Pfister; her grandparents, Alexander and Georgia Pfister; her grandfather's Barry Stieb and Jim Short; her nephews Silas and Skye, and niece Sahria. She was preceded in death by her grandmother, Julie Stieb. She also has many aunts, uncles and cousins who adored her. Alley was born in her grandmother's home in Berrien Springs, MI. From birth, she was happy and content, announcing several times that she would always live with mom and dad. She was a natural first-born leader, and her brothers and sister would look to her for direction. At Meridian High School, Alley excelled academically, finishing 5th in her class as a National Honor Roll Society Member and was a member of the band. She ran cross country and played soccer throughout middle school. Her greatest love was to play and be around music. She played the flute, drums, and bass guitar. In high school, she took flute lessons, performed recitals along with competing, and played for three years with the North Sound Youth Symphony. She always gave music a special place in her heart. While attending college, Alley purchased and ran a Georgio's Sub shop in Tumwater. Her hard work and kindness won her many loyal customers. In 2012, she graduated from Evergreen University with a B.S. in environmental business, and last August she used her degree to get a job at Custom Source Woodworking in Olympia, as a Project Accountant, where she worked until she died. We will always remember her spirit to be free and ever changing. Each time we saw her, she would have a new hair style or color, a new job, a new place to live, a different car. The only thing she never changed was that she was a life-long vegetarian. She was courageous in her independence, yet wasn't happy living alone. We never realized how fragile she was in this area. Our family is much too small without her. We are so grateful for the time she gave us and will forever be changed by the gift she gave of herself. A service for Alley will be held at the Ferndale Seventh Day Adventist Church, 2488 Mountain View Rd., at 2 pm on Sunday, May 18th, for anyone who would like to attend.

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Published by Bellingham Herald from May 15 to Jun. 13, 2014.

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Jim Schreiner

May 11, 2025

Hello Pfisters and Sandwaters. I still think about you all often. Alexandra passed away on my birthday. I miss my updates from Georgia on your adventures. Thinking of you all. Sincerely Jim

Janiece Sandwater

May 11, 2025

It warms my heart that people in my life still honor you, remember you and love you. You were such a bright shining light. It's hard to handle that you're not here with us. I love you and miss you so much.

Aunt Jill

May 10, 2025

So many years Alley, we miss you so much, everyone does. I miss you so much my heart aches. My girls have grown up without you, they remember you, we talk about you but their children won´t know you and that hurts. I just hope you know that I would have walked through hell for you, moved heaven and earth to get to you. I want to snatch you back and have you here and mend your Mommas heart that´s not been the same since. You leaving has put a hole that can´t be plugged. We all miss you and will love you until the end of time. I see you in every rainbow and know you´re here.

Janiece Sandwater

May 10, 2024

Wow, Alexandra you have missed so much life. Every time something big happens in our family I think about how you are missing another life event. Your sister had another baby, her 6th, born on April 30. You should be here helping us spoil her. I always wonder how different things would be with your influence. You left Johanna without a sister. I think about how different her life might be if she had your guidance.
Silas is about to start driving and graduate from high school. Sahria is a great help with the little babies. Sutton is starting to talk and adjusting to being a big sister. Skye has your entrepreneurial spirit. He loves working to earn money mowing lawns. Saylor has your beautiful blonde hair. She makes me think of you and what your children might have looked like.
Julian is working with your Dad. I think about you calling him up to help you with a project. He would love to help you.
I know Dylan wishes for one more phone call from you. You would have been proud of him for taking care of Grandma Pfister.
Your Aunts and Uncles come every May to try to keep our family strong and remember those we've lost. I hope you're with Grandma Stieb.
I'm still so grateful that you were my daughter no matter how much pain it has caused me. Thank you for giving me 27 years with you. It just wasn't enough. I love and miss you so much. Like your father says, "Our family is too small without you"

Tera

May 9, 2024

I imagine what the world would be like if you were still here. I wonder what you'd be doing. If you'd be happy. How your presence alone would make life better for others. I hope that wherever you are, you know that you are loved and missed by many.

Janiece Sandwater

December 12, 2023

This year was especially hard for me. We have missed celebrating 10 birthdays with you. It's hard to belive that this May it will be 10 years since you left us. It doesn't get easier missing out on your beautiful smile, your laughter and sweet spirit. I would give anything for another chance with you. I love you so much.

Sahria

September 23, 2023

I hate to say it, but I don't really remember you much anymore. It's been a while sense I thought about you, and it's been a while sense I cried for you. But today I looked through these small, and long notes, and I realized just how special you were to us. I hate to admit it, but seeing messages from your mom every May made me remember you again, it made me cry cause I allways thought you looked like an angel, but I never thought you would ever become one.
- Sahria H

Aunt Jill

May 11, 2023

Alley,
You continue to be a missing piece with every family gathering, everyday. You are missed so much and it´s so damn sad you´re not here to be with us, smile, laugh, join in our crazy antics. Talk to, hug. I miss you!! Would have loved to see you continue to grow into the incredible woman you already were well on your to being. There are days I can´t believe your not here. Love you our Alley Cat!! Be at peace and know we will keep you alive in our hearts. Aunt Jill

Janiece Sandwater

May 9, 2023

My sweet Alley,
I still miss you every day. Every family event reminds me that you're not here. Your absence is hard to take. You should be here with us, enjoying your life, making plans and having fun. It's such a short life and you chose to make it painfully shorter. I'll just never be able to fathom what was going through your head. I'll always regret that you didn't pick up the phone and call me or your siblings. We love you and would have done anything for you, our bright shining gift.

Janiece Sandwater

May 9, 2022

Tomorrow will mark 8 years that we haven't had your beautiful smiling face in our lives. You have missed so much life. You're siblings need you. We all need you. If only you could have really felt how loved you were. I hope you feel it now. I miss you so much. Love, Mom

Janiece Sandwater

May 9, 2021

Seven years without you and I still miss you and think of you every day. You are so missed. You have no idea how much we all miss you. You should be here with us.
I love you, Alley Kat.
Mom

Aunt Jill Short

May 9, 2021

Alley,
I continue to miss you everyday, I miss your smile, your laugh, your hugs and I just miss YOU!! Wish I could talk to you again, sit and have one of those deep discussion that meant so much to me. Know that you are so loved and every time I see a rainbow I think of you!! I love you baby girl!! Your Aunt Jill.

Janiece Sandwater

May 11, 2020

Still missing you being in our life. You are missing so much. It's just not the same without you, sweetheart. I love you, Alley.

Kimberly Short

May 9, 2020

I dont always a have the right word to say, but here I go. Sweet girl you are so missed. Your smile, and your exuberance. We all miss you so much.
-Aunt Kim

Aunt Jill

May 9, 2020

Hello sweetheart, I saw a beautiful rainbow the other day and thought theres my Alley!! When I realized it was a double rainbow I knew Grandma and you are doing good. Made me so happy seeing that. We stood out there and talked about both of you. Still cry when I think of how much I still miss you but seeing these reminders makes me so happy to have you in my life. I Love and miss you!! Take care of each other.

Janiece Sandwater

May 9, 2019

Five years is much too long to be without you, sweetheart.

Jill Short

May 9, 2019

Hey Alley, your forever in my thoughts and of course at this time of year I find myself crying and missing you even more. So much has happened in the last 5 years. Your sister has married, she found a great guy that treats her well. They have added two more children to their family, so wish you were here to meet them Skye and Sailor. Silas and Sharia have grown up so much. Julian is back in school and Dylan is doing good, still doing his own thing, so like you. Ashley has two boys and they keep her busy. Renee is still being Renee. We moved out of Washington, just too many painful memories for me, felt a new start might help, funny thing about memories they follow you. The girls are doing good, Whitney just had a boy, he was a little early but doing great. Sydney is good, they both miss you and mention you. Uncle Jeff and his boys are good, Michael has his two and they are growing like weeds. Nolan got married last year and it was a beautiful wedding. Brain is doing his internet thing (ok, not sure what) but is good. Corey has finished art school (or at least part of it)? He's so talented, you would love seeing his work. Uncle BJ finally married Dawn and their boy is wonderful, so very smart and growing so fast. Aunt Josie and Jeff got married and travel all over, everytime I see them on FB they are going somewhere. Your Dad moved this last year, he's living close to the water. Even 5 yrs later we still miss you like it was yesterday, it still hurts and makes me cry. You left too soon and too abruptly, not getting to say goodbye will forever be a missing part of my soul. I wish you understood how important you where and are to our family, you left a hole that no one can replace or make better no matter how much time or distance there is. Your Mom is still devastated with your leaving. She keeps it together because she has your siblings and nieces and nephews to live for. I have worried about her and hurt for her, I know if she didn't have them she most likely would have followed you. Then I'm sure I wouldn't have survived, missing you and Mom is hard enough, I can't handle losing anyone else. Which I know is selfish but it's the truth. I would follow you to the afterlife if I could and snatch you back, but I can't and it makes me so mad. Stages of grief, more like waves of grief, it waxes and wanes but never actually leaves or gets better, you just have to learn to live with it the best you can. I love and forever miss you my first niece, you've always held a special place in my heart and always will. See you in the next rainbow!!

Tera DeRita

May 9, 2019

Cant believe it's been 5 years. Not a days goes by that I don't still think of and remember you and your smiling soul. You are loved. You are missed. Every day, and always.

Kimberly Short-Stewart

December 9, 2015

Today is your birthday..We all celebrate in our own way..I'm going to continue to remember the way you would light up the room with your smile and how much you loved your family. You are so missed and family isn't the same without you. Happy birthday.

Aunt Kim

May 15, 2015

You are so missed. There is a hole where you are supposed to be. Family gatherings aren't the same anymore. You are truly our guardian angel. Love you sweet girl

Jill Short

May 11, 2015

Alley, thought of you all weekend, actually think about you everyday. We got together this weekend because of you. But it just wasn't the same without you, I looked up while sitting at the table and missed you so much. I thought when Mom died that would be the worse thing I would ever go through but losing you was so much worse. You where just too young to go and I'd do anything to change what can't be changed. I love you and will make sure your memory lives on as will the rest of the family.

Another ;lovely full portrait photo in memory of Alexandra.

May 6, 2015

Please rest in peace, you were a very amazing individual, and you are missed.

A beautiful portrait of Alexandra.

May 6, 2015

Here is a lovely portrait of Alexandra, in memory of her passing.

Tera DeRita

April 20, 2015

My dearest Alley. Though it had been awhile since we had spoken I still thought of you often and wished you well. Deep down I hoped that we would reconnect someday. The thought of never seeing that beautiful face and hearing your laugh again is heartbreaking. I miss you. Everyone misses you. Sending you so much love sweet girl. Until next time ¢½

Kyle Elkins

March 13, 2015

Alexandra I'm glad we were able to be friends throughout school. You have been on my mind a lot since I heard about your passing. I'm sorry it's taken me so long to say anything. You always had a brightness to you and the world seemed a bit darker after finding out. To your family I can only send my deepest thoughts and love to you all.

Janiece Sandwater

March 12, 2015

Your whole family misses you. I think about you every day. You are everywhere. If only we could turn back time would it change anything? You are so adored. We need you with us.

Johanna Pfister

March 8, 2015

I love you Alexandra and I feel like I'm losing pieces of you all the time. What happened...we'll never know. I look forward to visits from you in my dreams. They may be nightmares but I look forward to them anyway...for just a moment I can see you again. See your smile and hear your voice.

Rose

December 13, 2014

Dear Jan, Alex and family
Sorry it has taken me so long to write...
I am not very good on computers or I would attach one of the super cute pictures I have of your girls from when I was their babysipper (babysitter) Alexandra was so fiercely protective of her little sister...if I said its time to pick up and Johanna wasn't done playing...Alexandra would go to bat for her! So sorry for your loss - hate for anyone to have to go through what we went through...it WILL get easier but not right away. Keep looking up!
Love,
Rose

Jenny Ignatowski

November 17, 2014

Sending our thoughts, prayers, and love to Alley's family and friends. Alley is a beautiful soul, and my husband and I got to meet her in Jamaica a few years ago. We only got to know her for a short while, but I knew right away what a beautiful and great person she is. Sorry again for your loss!
-Jenny and Chad Ignatowski

With Dad

June 29, 2014

At Meridian High School

June 29, 2014

With Mom

June 29, 2014

The four cherubs

June 29, 2014

In Jamaica with Don

June 29, 2014

At her Georgio's Sub shop

June 29, 2014

With Grandpa Barry

June 29, 2014

With Don

June 29, 2014

Graduation Celebration

June 29, 2014

Christmas 2013

June 29, 2014

Gail Pike

June 28, 2014

May you find peace Jan.
from the heart.

Jim Schreiner

June 17, 2014

My family and I send condolences to the whole Pfister family on the loss of Alexandra.

Jeff Short

June 9, 2014

My word Jan, never really noticed how much she looks like you. I Love you so very much.

June 9, 2014

I love you, AlexandraI

June 9, 2014

My beautiful girl

Janiece Sandwater

June 9, 2014

Thank you to all who have taken the time to leave a message for my beautiful Alexandra. My life has ended with hers in so many ways. My heart breaks for her beautiful siblings who loved her so much.I'm so grateful for the short time we had with her. It will never feel like enough. I am keeping this online memorial for her as a permanent memorial. Please let people know that they can leave messages here.

Linda Lehn

May 25, 2014

Im so sorry for your loss. There are no words.

Sundee Young

May 19, 2014

The Pfister family are in my thoughts and prayers. May God keep you close and may the sorrow lessen as times goes by.

Doneva Froberg

May 19, 2014

MAY GOD be with you and your family till you MEET your sweet Alexandra again... prayers and blessing... your Mother 0f Multiple Friend... Doneva Froberg

rick and sug binschus

May 18, 2014

Were so so sorry for your loss your in our prayers...

Carol Ortiz

May 18, 2014

May 17, 2014
My thoughts and prayers are with your family and I am so sorry for your loss. I only had the opportunity to meet Alexandra a few times but felt I know so much about her through her loving grandmother, Georgia who was so very proud of her. May she rest in peace.

Judy Bjornstad-Crnich

May 18, 2014

My sincere condolences to Alexandra's family and friends. I was Alexandra's librarian at Meridian Middle School. I remember her as being very quiet and shy. She was a beautiful girl with a beautiful smile. I am so sorry for your loss. May God put his loving arms around your family during this most difficult time.

May 17, 2014

The Worrier is a Child (a song by Twila Paris)Look it up online. I think it will help your heart.

Terri (Rhoads) Huizenga

May 17, 2014

Life is not fair. Jan,my heart weeps and aches for you, along with the rest of your family at this most difficult time. You all are in my prayers

May 17, 2014

My thoughts and prayers are with your family and I am so sorry for your loss. I only had the opportunity to meet Alexandra a few times but felt I know so much about her through her loving grandmother, Georgia who was so very proud of her. May she rest in peace.

May 17, 2014

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

D&T

May 17, 2014

We are so sorry for your loss. Praying you will have peace and comfort during this difficult time.
Alley's creativity and beautiful smile will continue to inspire us and her memory will live in our hearts.

Kimberly Short

May 16, 2014

" Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come"----Tagore

Forever in our hearts....Aunt Kim, Glenn, and Ashley

Cristhal Bennett

May 16, 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

abby richardson

May 16, 2014

Alexandra, memories of you will never leave us. you amazing love of music and your warm heart towards other is something that has stayed with me since we were kids

Mary Ann Shay

May 16, 2014

You are so loved by your family and friends.Your grandmother Georgia,my dear friend,loved to talk about you and your sister and brothers. you are so loved. Mary Ann Shay

P.M.

May 16, 2014

Almighty God will surely be with Alley's family to comfort them. I hope those who loved her can keep comforting one another during this difficult time.

Aunt Jill Short, Whitney and Sydney

May 16, 2014

There are no words for how much we love you and what a crater there is left in our family. You will never be forgotten, you touched so many lives in your short time here. I'll think of you every time I see homemade earrings, knittened gloves or someone's brilliant, glowing smile. We love you Alley and miss you always...........

May 16, 2014

Forever in our hearts, Alley touched everyone with her carefree spirit and genuine loving heart, Alley, you are deeply missed in our 12 Moons family, our prayers will continue. Dee Randall- (Auburn, Wa.)

steph

May 15, 2014

Alley you were a strong old soul that touched many lives. I'll always remember your laugh and smile that could light up any room. May you be with the stars listening to metal shining down on all of us xoxo love you girl

Carolyn Smith

May 15, 2014

I will miss seeing you on holidays and may you in peace love you ally.

Uncle Jeff, Aunt Sandy and cousins Short

May 15, 2014

Your genuine smile and loving personality will be greatly missed. We will always love you our dear niece.

S. Harris

May 15, 2014

May your journey onward be peaceful... You'll be missed my dear.

Uncle Jeff, Aunt Sandy, Michael, Nolan, Brian and Corey Short

May 15, 2014

Your beauty, smiling face and loving personality will be deeply missed.
We love you our beautiful niece.

Jenifer Reddoch

May 15, 2014

Only knew you a for what seems like a moment sweet girl. My thoughts go out to you and your loved ones! God Bless you all! Her smile will forever be remembered...

Kimberly Short

May 15, 2014

You will be forever missed sweet girl...

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