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Jim Schreiner
May 11, 2025
Hello Pfisters and Sandwaters. I still think about you all often. Alexandra passed away on my birthday. I miss my updates from Georgia on your adventures. Thinking of you all. Sincerely Jim
Janiece Sandwater
May 11, 2025
It warms my heart that people in my life still honor you, remember you and love you. You were such a bright shining light. It's hard to handle that you're not here with us. I love you and miss you so much.
Aunt Jill
May 10, 2025
So many years Alley, we miss you so much, everyone does. I miss you so much my heart aches. My girls have grown up without you, they remember you, we talk about you but their children won´t know you and that hurts. I just hope you know that I would have walked through hell for you, moved heaven and earth to get to you. I want to snatch you back and have you here and mend your Mommas heart that´s not been the same since. You leaving has put a hole that can´t be plugged. We all miss you and will love you until the end of time. I see you in every rainbow and know you´re here.
Janiece Sandwater
May 10, 2024
Wow, Alexandra you have missed so much life. Every time something big happens in our family I think about how you are missing another life event. Your sister had another baby, her 6th, born on April 30. You should be here helping us spoil her. I always wonder how different things would be with your influence. You left Johanna without a sister. I think about how different her life might be if she had your guidance.
Silas is about to start driving and graduate from high school. Sahria is a great help with the little babies. Sutton is starting to talk and adjusting to being a big sister. Skye has your entrepreneurial spirit. He loves working to earn money mowing lawns. Saylor has your beautiful blonde hair. She makes me think of you and what your children might have looked like.
Julian is working with your Dad. I think about you calling him up to help you with a project. He would love to help you.
I know Dylan wishes for one more phone call from you. You would have been proud of him for taking care of Grandma Pfister.
Your Aunts and Uncles come every May to try to keep our family strong and remember those we've lost. I hope you're with Grandma Stieb.
I'm still so grateful that you were my daughter no matter how much pain it has caused me. Thank you for giving me 27 years with you. It just wasn't enough. I love and miss you so much. Like your father says, "Our family is too small without you"
Tera
May 9, 2024
I imagine what the world would be like if you were still here. I wonder what you'd be doing. If you'd be happy. How your presence alone would make life better for others. I hope that wherever you are, you know that you are loved and missed by many.
Janiece Sandwater
December 12, 2023
This year was especially hard for me. We have missed celebrating 10 birthdays with you. It's hard to belive that this May it will be 10 years since you left us. It doesn't get easier missing out on your beautiful smile, your laughter and sweet spirit. I would give anything for another chance with you. I love you so much.
Sahria
September 23, 2023
I hate to say it, but I don't really remember you much anymore. It's been a while sense I thought about you, and it's been a while sense I cried for you. But today I looked through these small, and long notes, and I realized just how special you were to us. I hate to admit it, but seeing messages from your mom every May made me remember you again, it made me cry cause I allways thought you looked like an angel, but I never thought you would ever become one.
- Sahria H
Aunt Jill
May 11, 2023
Alley,
You continue to be a missing piece with every family gathering, everyday. You are missed so much and it´s so damn sad you´re not here to be with us, smile, laugh, join in our crazy antics. Talk to, hug. I miss you!! Would have loved to see you continue to grow into the incredible woman you already were well on your to being. There are days I can´t believe your not here. Love you our Alley Cat!! Be at peace and know we will keep you alive in our hearts. Aunt Jill
Janiece Sandwater
May 9, 2023
My sweet Alley,
I still miss you every day. Every family event reminds me that you're not here. Your absence is hard to take. You should be here with us, enjoying your life, making plans and having fun. It's such a short life and you chose to make it painfully shorter. I'll just never be able to fathom what was going through your head. I'll always regret that you didn't pick up the phone and call me or your siblings. We love you and would have done anything for you, our bright shining gift.
Janiece Sandwater
May 9, 2022
Tomorrow will mark 8 years that we haven't had your beautiful smiling face in our lives. You have missed so much life. You're siblings need you. We all need you. If only you could have really felt how loved you were. I hope you feel it now. I miss you so much. Love, Mom
Janiece Sandwater
May 9, 2021
Seven years without you and I still miss you and think of you every day. You are so missed. You have no idea how much we all miss you. You should be here with us.
I love you, Alley Kat.
Mom
Aunt Jill Short
May 9, 2021
Alley,
I continue to miss you everyday, I miss your smile, your laugh, your hugs and I just miss YOU!! Wish I could talk to you again, sit and have one of those deep discussion that meant so much to me. Know that you are so loved and every time I see a rainbow I think of you!! I love you baby girl!! Your Aunt Jill.
Janiece Sandwater
May 11, 2020
Still missing you being in our life. You are missing so much. It's just not the same without you, sweetheart. I love you, Alley.
Kimberly Short
May 9, 2020
I dont always a have the right word to say, but here I go. Sweet girl you are so missed. Your smile, and your exuberance. We all miss you so much.
-Aunt Kim
Aunt Jill
May 9, 2020
Hello sweetheart, I saw a beautiful rainbow the other day and thought theres my Alley!! When I realized it was a double rainbow I knew Grandma and you are doing good. Made me so happy seeing that. We stood out there and talked about both of you. Still cry when I think of how much I still miss you but seeing these reminders makes me so happy to have you in my life. I Love and miss you!! Take care of each other.
Janiece Sandwater
May 9, 2019
Five years is much too long to be without you, sweetheart.
Jill Short
May 9, 2019
Hey Alley, your forever in my thoughts and of course at this time of year I find myself crying and missing you even more. So much has happened in the last 5 years. Your sister has married, she found a great guy that treats her well. They have added two more children to their family, so wish you were here to meet them Skye and Sailor. Silas and Sharia have grown up so much. Julian is back in school and Dylan is doing good, still doing his own thing, so like you. Ashley has two boys and they keep her busy. Renee is still being Renee. We moved out of Washington, just too many painful memories for me, felt a new start might help, funny thing about memories they follow you. The girls are doing good, Whitney just had a boy, he was a little early but doing great. Sydney is good, they both miss you and mention you. Uncle Jeff and his boys are good, Michael has his two and they are growing like weeds. Nolan got married last year and it was a beautiful wedding. Brain is doing his internet thing (ok, not sure what) but is good. Corey has finished art school (or at least part of it)? He's so talented, you would love seeing his work. Uncle BJ finally married Dawn and their boy is wonderful, so very smart and growing so fast. Aunt Josie and Jeff got married and travel all over, everytime I see them on FB they are going somewhere. Your Dad moved this last year, he's living close to the water. Even 5 yrs later we still miss you like it was yesterday, it still hurts and makes me cry. You left too soon and too abruptly, not getting to say goodbye will forever be a missing part of my soul. I wish you understood how important you where and are to our family, you left a hole that no one can replace or make better no matter how much time or distance there is. Your Mom is still devastated with your leaving. She keeps it together because she has your siblings and nieces and nephews to live for. I have worried about her and hurt for her, I know if she didn't have them she most likely would have followed you. Then I'm sure I wouldn't have survived, missing you and Mom is hard enough, I can't handle losing anyone else. Which I know is selfish but it's the truth. I would follow you to the afterlife if I could and snatch you back, but I can't and it makes me so mad. Stages of grief, more like waves of grief, it waxes and wanes but never actually leaves or gets better, you just have to learn to live with it the best you can. I love and forever miss you my first niece, you've always held a special place in my heart and always will. See you in the next rainbow!!
Tera DeRita
May 9, 2019
Cant believe it's been 5 years. Not a days goes by that I don't still think of and remember you and your smiling soul. You are loved. You are missed. Every day, and always.
Kimberly Short-Stewart
December 9, 2015
Today is your birthday..We all celebrate in our own way..I'm going to continue to remember the way you would light up the room with your smile and how much you loved your family. You are so missed and family isn't the same without you. Happy birthday.
Aunt Kim
May 15, 2015
You are so missed. There is a hole where you are supposed to be. Family gatherings aren't the same anymore. You are truly our guardian angel. Love you sweet girl
Jill Short
May 11, 2015
Alley, thought of you all weekend, actually think about you everyday. We got together this weekend because of you. But it just wasn't the same without you, I looked up while sitting at the table and missed you so much. I thought when Mom died that would be the worse thing I would ever go through but losing you was so much worse. You where just too young to go and I'd do anything to change what can't be changed. I love you and will make sure your memory lives on as will the rest of the family.
Another ;lovely full portrait photo in memory of Alexandra.
May 6, 2015
Please rest in peace, you were a very amazing individual, and you are missed.
A beautiful portrait of Alexandra.
May 6, 2015
Here is a lovely portrait of Alexandra, in memory of her passing.
Tera DeRita
April 20, 2015
My dearest Alley. Though it had been awhile since we had spoken I still thought of you often and wished you well. Deep down I hoped that we would reconnect someday. The thought of never seeing that beautiful face and hearing your laugh again is heartbreaking. I miss you. Everyone misses you. Sending you so much love sweet girl. Until next time ¢½
Kyle Elkins
March 13, 2015
Alexandra I'm glad we were able to be friends throughout school. You have been on my mind a lot since I heard about your passing. I'm sorry it's taken me so long to say anything. You always had a brightness to you and the world seemed a bit darker after finding out. To your family I can only send my deepest thoughts and love to you all.
Janiece Sandwater
March 12, 2015
Your whole family misses you. I think about you every day. You are everywhere. If only we could turn back time would it change anything? You are so adored. We need you with us.
Johanna Pfister
March 8, 2015
I love you Alexandra and I feel like I'm losing pieces of you all the time. What happened...we'll never know. I look forward to visits from you in my dreams. They may be nightmares but I look forward to them anyway...for just a moment I can see you again. See your smile and hear your voice.
Rose
December 13, 2014
Dear Jan, Alex and family
Sorry it has taken me so long to write...
I am not very good on computers or I would attach one of the super cute pictures I have of your girls from when I was their babysipper (babysitter) Alexandra was so fiercely protective of her little sister...if I said its time to pick up and Johanna wasn't done playing...Alexandra would go to bat for her! So sorry for your loss - hate for anyone to have to go through what we went through...it WILL get easier but not right away. Keep looking up!
Love,
Rose
Jenny Ignatowski
November 17, 2014
Sending our thoughts, prayers, and love to Alley's family and friends. Alley is a beautiful soul, and my husband and I got to meet her in Jamaica a few years ago. We only got to know her for a short while, but I knew right away what a beautiful and great person she is. Sorry again for your loss!
-Jenny and Chad Ignatowski
With Dad
June 29, 2014
At Meridian High School
June 29, 2014
With Mom
June 29, 2014
The four cherubs
June 29, 2014
In Jamaica with Don
June 29, 2014
At her Georgio's Sub shop
June 29, 2014
With Grandpa Barry
June 29, 2014
With Don
June 29, 2014
Graduation Celebration
June 29, 2014
Christmas 2013
June 29, 2014
Gail Pike
June 28, 2014
May you find peace Jan.
from the heart.
Jim Schreiner
June 17, 2014
My family and I send condolences to the whole Pfister family on the loss of Alexandra.
Jeff Short
June 9, 2014
My word Jan, never really noticed how much she looks like you. I Love you so very much.
June 9, 2014
I love you, AlexandraI
June 9, 2014
My beautiful girl
Janiece Sandwater
June 9, 2014
Thank you to all who have taken the time to leave a message for my beautiful Alexandra. My life has ended with hers in so many ways. My heart breaks for her beautiful siblings who loved her so much.I'm so grateful for the short time we had with her. It will never feel like enough. I am keeping this online memorial for her as a permanent memorial. Please let people know that they can leave messages here.
Linda Lehn
May 25, 2014
Im so sorry for your loss. There are no words.
Sundee Young
May 19, 2014
The Pfister family are in my thoughts and prayers. May God keep you close and may the sorrow lessen as times goes by.
Doneva Froberg
May 19, 2014
MAY GOD be with you and your family till you MEET your sweet Alexandra again... prayers and blessing... your Mother 0f Multiple Friend... Doneva Froberg
rick and sug binschus
May 18, 2014
Were so so sorry for your loss your in our prayers...
Carol Ortiz
May 18, 2014
May 17, 2014
My thoughts and prayers are with your family and I am so sorry for your loss. I only had the opportunity to meet Alexandra a few times but felt I know so much about her through her loving grandmother, Georgia who was so very proud of her. May she rest in peace.
Judy Bjornstad-Crnich
May 18, 2014
My sincere condolences to Alexandra's family and friends. I was Alexandra's librarian at Meridian Middle School. I remember her as being very quiet and shy. She was a beautiful girl with a beautiful smile. I am so sorry for your loss. May God put his loving arms around your family during this most difficult time.
May 17, 2014
The Worrier is a Child (a song by Twila Paris)Look it up online. I think it will help your heart.
Terri (Rhoads) Huizenga
May 17, 2014
Life is not fair. Jan,my heart weeps and aches for you, along with the rest of your family at this most difficult time. You all are in my prayers
May 17, 2014
My thoughts and prayers are with your family and I am so sorry for your loss. I only had the opportunity to meet Alexandra a few times but felt I know so much about her through her loving grandmother, Georgia who was so very proud of her. May she rest in peace.
May 17, 2014
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
D&T
May 17, 2014
We are so sorry for your loss. Praying you will have peace and comfort during this difficult time.
Alley's creativity and beautiful smile will continue to inspire us and her memory will live in our hearts.
Kimberly Short
May 16, 2014
" Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come"----Tagore
Forever in our hearts....Aunt Kim, Glenn, and Ashley
Cristhal Bennett
May 16, 2014
I'm sorry for your loss. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
abby richardson
May 16, 2014
Alexandra, memories of you will never leave us. you amazing love of music and your warm heart towards other is something that has stayed with me since we were kids
Mary Ann Shay
May 16, 2014
You are so loved by your family and friends.Your grandmother Georgia,my dear friend,loved to talk about you and your sister and brothers. you are so loved. Mary Ann Shay
P.M.
May 16, 2014
Almighty God will surely be with Alley's family to comfort them. I hope those who loved her can keep comforting one another during this difficult time.
Aunt Jill Short, Whitney and Sydney
May 16, 2014
There are no words for how much we love you and what a crater there is left in our family. You will never be forgotten, you touched so many lives in your short time here. I'll think of you every time I see homemade earrings, knittened gloves or someone's brilliant, glowing smile. We love you Alley and miss you always...........
May 16, 2014
Forever in our hearts, Alley touched everyone with her carefree spirit and genuine loving heart, Alley, you are deeply missed in our 12 Moons family, our prayers will continue. Dee Randall- (Auburn, Wa.)
steph
May 15, 2014
Alley you were a strong old soul that touched many lives. I'll always remember your laugh and smile that could light up any room. May you be with the stars listening to metal shining down on all of us xoxo love you girl
Carolyn Smith
May 15, 2014
I will miss seeing you on holidays and may you in peace love you ally.
Uncle Jeff, Aunt Sandy and cousins Short
May 15, 2014
Your genuine smile and loving personality will be greatly missed. We will always love you our dear niece.
S. Harris
May 15, 2014
May your journey onward be peaceful... You'll be missed my dear.
Uncle Jeff, Aunt Sandy, Michael, Nolan, Brian and Corey Short
May 15, 2014
Your beauty, smiling face and loving personality will be deeply missed.
We love you our beautiful niece.
Jenifer Reddoch
May 15, 2014
Only knew you a for what seems like a moment sweet girl. My thoughts go out to you and your loved ones! God Bless you all! Her smile will forever be remembered...
Kimberly Short
May 15, 2014
You will be forever missed sweet girl...
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