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Howard Kaufman Obituary

Howard Kaufman, formerly of Lenox, died September 1, at home in Israel. Born in 1926 and raised in the Berkshires, Howard was the son of Joseph and Esther (Gitelman) Kaufman. He was the younger brother to Ralph and Elinor, a close-knit family and they were raised among a large circle of extended family. He graduated from local schools and Williams College. He interrupted his undergraduate studies for Army service during World War II. He served in the Pacific theater for two years managing radar operations, including during active combat in the Battle of Luzon, and for this he was the recipient of four medals.

While on summer break from a Ph.D program, Howard met Nancy Rappaport at the Avaloch Inn of Lenox. Owned by Nancy's brother Skip, Nancy took the train from New York on weekends to help at the Inn. Nancy and Howard married in 1954, and the reception was held at Avaloch. After starting a family, Howard left academia and joined the family business Kaufman Brothers, Inc. Founded in 1922 by his father Joseph and Uncle Harry, the business began as a wholesale confectionary. By 1945 they had also become a toy wholesaler based on securing a line of toys from Louis Marx and Co., helped along as Howard's brother Ralph married Dorothy Borden, a member of the Marx family.

Howard later developed a retail toy business and strategy. The retail store concept was intermittently experimented with, and took form in 1959 when out of necessity Howard ended up running the store of a former customer. Thereafter Kaufman Brothers exited toy and candy wholesaling to focus on toy retailing. The first purpose-built store was developed in 1963. Slowly and eventually the retail stores thrived in parallel with the build-out of highways, suburbs and malls.

Howard became President and CEO, and the company name was changed to Kay-Bee Toy and Hobby Shops, and later on, to KB Toys. Along with a team that included his brother-in-law, Harry (Buddy) Baker and cousins, the company grew to a retail chain of over 1,300 toy stores, supported by 7,000+ employees, the nations' largest. The shareholders sold the business in 1981 to Melville Corporation, a holding company that included CVS, Marshall's, Thom McAn and other retail businesses. Howard retired in 1986.

Throughout his life Howard was a philanthropist and committed volunteer and leader to both the Jewish and Berkshire communities, for which he received numerous awards and much recognition. Within the Berkshire Jewish community, Howard was a member and lay leader of all local synagogues, delivered meals for the Jewish Federation, led the capital campaign to relocate and sponsor Jewish refugees of the former Soviet Union, helped purchase two summer camps for Jewish youth, served on the Sinai Academy Board of Directors, and was a leader of Berkshire County's State of Israel Bond Campaign. He and Nancy presented two Founders Gifts to Hadassah Hospital, where they are recognized on the Mount Scopus campus.

In the greater Berkshire community, Howard served tirelessly, including as a volunteer or on the boards of Berkshire Bank and Trust Co., Berkshire Life Ins. Co., Berkshire Medical Center, Berkshire Committee of the Massachusetts Council on the Arts and Humanities, Berkshire Museum, Lenox Library, Berkshire Athenaeum, Boston Symphony Orchestra (BSO) Tanglewood Overseer, Clark Art Institute, MASS MoCA, and Recording for the Blind & Dyslexic. Together with Nancy, they created and funded many scholarships to enhance opportunities for young adults.

More generally, Howard was active in Williams College alumni affairs, an expert bridge, tennis and golf player, co-founder of the Monday Morning Mountain Boys Hiking Club, and generous host to all, including to BSO musicians during their summers in residence.

Howard was a devoted husband and father. He adored spending time with his beloved wife Nancy, and together they raised five children in an active and busy household, providing their children with an everlasting love for family, friendship, travel, music and culture, sports and competition, books, games and hobbies, the environment, community involvement, along with charity and responsibility. His commitment to his family, the State of Israel, the Berkshire and Jewish communities, and religious observance were his top priorities.

Howard had a vivid personality and made each interaction memorable. He was approachable and easy to spot with his dapper style and bow tie. He will be deeply mourned and wonderfully remembered. Nancy predeceased Howard. He is survived by his children, Joseph and Elizabeth, Lauren and Mike, Margo and Rick, Daniel and Pesha, David and Jodi, his many grandchildren, great-grandchildren, sister-in-law Ann Rappaport, nieces, nephews, cousins and friends. He leaves a legacy of generosity and kindness.

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Published by The Berkshire Eagle on Sep. 3, 2022.

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leslie gold

August 30, 2024

I still miss our wonderful phone conversations and and spending time with him and with Nancy in the Summer. Always teasing me about my New York accent and teasing him right back with his New England accent! Such joyous times I hold dear to m heart.

Lovingly, LESLIE

Dan Sierra

October 5, 2022

Sorry to hear of the passing of such a great man who had such a positive influence on my life.
Rest in peace sir.
Dan Sierra Kay-Bee Toys
1976 -2008.
We Take Your Fun Seriously :)

Kate (Kathy) Sharron-Munger.

September 28, 2022

I used to baby sit for the Kaufman children many years ago. They were great kids, lots of fun. Howard and Nancy were lovely people. It's been a long time, but I still remember them fondly. My deepest condolences to the family on the loss of your beloved Dad.

Lisa Lee

September 20, 2022

Howard was assigned to the seat next to my mom, Pearl Keller, at the Chestnut Park dining room. My mom passed away almost three years ago but I vividly remember so many nice conversations with Howard (as I sat with my mom during dinner several times a week and then almost daily). He was kind to everyone and especially thoughtful towards my mom who didn't eat much and wasn't very conversational at the end. Howard still tried to engage with her and often offered to share his food with her. It was a pleasure to sit at the table with him and his friend Dov alongside my mom. My sincere condolences to the Kaufman family.

Lisa Lee

Deborah Hitchcock Breen

September 5, 2022

I had the good fortune to work for Kay Bee toys in the 1970´s. I worked in the office at the corporate headquarters in Lee Ma. Quite simply I was in awe of him
And saddened to hear of his passing. Such a dignified gentleman. I´m sure that all who knew him will never forget him. I I hadn´t seen in in 50 years but remember him fondly. Proud to have known him

R Michael M Cronin

September 5, 2022

Howard Kaufman was my boss, a confidant, an example of how to work, how to share, and how to treat people. No matter who you were, or how you were feeling; your spirit would be lifted by Howard quipping " how ya´ doin´ kid. I owe him a lot and will never forget him.

john Ostermann

September 5, 2022

Howard gave me a start in distribution on becoming the manager of the distribution centers in Lee and Pittsfield. He was a terrific mentor with a great sense of humor.

Michael Markson

September 5, 2022

I had the privilege to meet with Howard when he lived in Chestnut Park Assisted Living in Brighton, MA just a couple of years ago. We read & studied Jewish texts together. He was fascinated by the Torah, had deep respect for many Rabbis, radiated pride & love of family and beautiful values of human decency & respect for all. Above all it was great fun: experiencing Howard's infectious laugh was always a highlight. May his memory be for a blessing.

Brian Killion

September 4, 2022

May family and friends accept my offer of condolences, and hold memories of Howard fondly. My Father and uncle used to speak very highly of Howard back in the day.

Bob Knightly

September 4, 2022

Dan,

I am sorry for your loss

Rabbi Josh Breindel

September 4, 2022

May his memory be for a blessing. I remember Howard as a man of gentle strength and profound spirit. His legacy will continue to inspire those who were touched by his love for years to come.

John A Bernardo

September 4, 2022

My condolences to the family. May the fond and loving memories be a comfort and always be with you.

Nancy Kanter

September 4, 2022

Nancy, Len Kanter´s daughter here. We were all saddened to hear of Ralph´s passing. Our dad always looked forward to seeing Nancy and him whenever they were up in Lee. While it´s been decades since the once "younger" generation saw each other, we too have fond memories of Howard and his especially dashing bow ties. All of us are sending our warm sympathies and thoughts of comfort. Nancy, Lindsay, Nina, Peter and Tracey

LESLIE

September 4, 2022

How fortunate for me that I got to spend so many wonderful moments with my cousins, Nancy and Howard. Always so welcoming and loving to not only David and me, but to my children and grandchildren. I am SO blessed to have gotten to know Howard so well over the years and my loving memories will stay with me forever.

Dan Kaufman

September 4, 2022

Thank you everyone for your kind words. He truly was kind, caring and wonderful father, husband, grandfather, great-grandfather and a friend to all.

Elie Kaufman

September 3, 2022

Hi all.
Kaufman family here.
We are reading all comments and realy appriciat everyone's condolences. Please keep them coming.

Barbara Fillio

September 3, 2022

Mr. Kaufman was the nicest boss ever. He treated every one the same no matter who you were, we were all family. RIP, Howard. The world was a better place because of you.

Kermit Goodman

September 3, 2022

Baruch dayan Ha'emet. Mr. Kaufman's presence will be deeply missed. His contributions to the local community are immeasurable.

Lou Skoletsky

September 3, 2022

Condolences to the Kaufman Family. Mr. Kaufman was truly a wonderful, kind and generous human being. May he Rest In Peace and his memory be for a blessing.

Lenox Police Department

September 3, 2022

Please accept our condolences.

Cindy & David Bell-Deane

September 3, 2022

Howard was larger than life. Kind, considerate, friendly and giving. He was a delight to have as a volunteer MOW driver and I looked forward to our visit each week. Growing up with Joseph, Lauren and Margo, and then later Daniel and David, we had a great childhood. Birthday parties and playing together, religious school and youth group along with public school and car pools meant there was always something for Howard and I to discuss. When Margo and Rick lived in Lenox the next generation too formed a bond as our kids went to school together. We may have drifted apart and not stayed in touch, but even two weeks ago, I reached to my phone to call Howard when my Mom passed and then to Joseph when I was unsuccessful.
Howard as owner and CEO of Kay-Bee employed my husband for more than a decade.Too many wonderful things to say. To all his family be assured his memory is a blessing for all who he met, mentored and socialized with.

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