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David Graiver Obituary

Of South Paris, ME, formerly of Sharon, age 60, son of Queenie & William Graiver of Sharon. After receiving a teaching degree at BU, David moved to Maine, where he built his own Thoreau-like cabin and became part of the back-to-the-land movement of the 60's. He later purchased a wood-burning sauna, which he ran and which served as the center for his business holdings, which included: real estate, land, timber and firewood. David recently realized a life-long dream by building his mountain-top estate on his own mountain, overlooking his beloved forest, streams, and pastures. But David's simplest pleasures remained his family and running his sauna, where he conversed with customers, and entertained family and friends with his unique brand of storytelling. David is survived by his brother Steven, who resides in the neighboring town of Norway, Maine, and his sister Sara Ahrens of Newton. David died peacefully at his mountain-top home on Tuesday, March 18th, surrounded by his three children: Loni, William, & Holly, his caring partner Suzie, and his dog Forest. He is survived by his four grandchildren. Like Thoreau, he loved the land, and the breath of nature on his Maine beard.

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Published by Boston Globe from Mar. 19 to Mar. 20, 2008.

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Sara ahrens

March 13, 2022

You are not a memory you live on with me. You are my soul mate and the very best brother anyone could have I was lucky to have you. I ll never forget you. You were always with me and you made me laugh.
You were so real, love always Sara aka Etta

COUSIN JUDI

March 13, 2022

I JUST SPENT A BEAUTIFUL WEEKEND WITH MY FAVORITE COUSIN,SARA AND WE REMINISCED ALL WEEKEND ABOUT STORIES OF FUN TIMES WE HAD WITH DAVID! IT WAS ALMOST LIKE WE COULD FEEL HIS PRESENCE AND HE IS VERYYYY MISSED. LOVE, JUDI

Howie Elkin

March 15, 2021

Dave was one of my best friends growing up.....while he lived a bit on the wild side, he had a heart of gold! we played basketball outside his house almost everyday.....and played hockey after school almost everyday in the winter. I will miss him forever!!

Ray Ahrens

March 14, 2021

David was always the life of the party, in fact he was the party. He could make the weather sound interesting,

Raymond Ahrens

March 19, 2009

David: I just wanted to add that as this year of sorrow has passed - I have tried to take from your death the life that you celebrated so dearly: from the exhaultation of a deep breath, to the touch of a friend's hand.

steven graiver

March 18, 2009

its been a year today - seems like yesterday - not a day goes by without thoughts of you
steven

sara ahrens

June 5, 2008

Missing you on your birthday, but I miss you everyday

Sara Ahrens

April 18, 2008

Thankyou all for your caring thoughts on my brother, David. We were privlaged to care and support him through his battle and spent a lot of time with him in his many trips to Boston for treatments. He would have been very touched by all your memories. We had always remained close, Thankyou, Sara

Elliot Levin

April 15, 2008

The news of Dave’s death has moved me in a very profound way, it has awakened memories that have been buried in my head for 50 years. As I recall the many great times I spent with Dave as a child and young adult, I find myself smiling one moment and deeply saddened the next.
I first met Dave when I moved to Sharon, we were both 8 years old and I ended up in a 2nd grade class seated next to him. My first day at school he challenged me to a foot-race, and yes he won, but it was close,…that sort of defined our relationship, he was very competitive, and he always seemed to stay one step ahead in everything he did...as kids he was always the one that hit the ball just a little further, and ran just a little faster, and skated just a bit stronger...he was the first one to get the coolest stuff, the well broken in 1st baseman's mitt, that smooth casting fishing reel and of course that cream puff 57 chevy, and he knew what he wanted out of life at an early age, buying 100 acres of woodland in Maine was the first step in his well planned lifestyle. I remember weekends camping on that land and working on building the log cabin while fighting the black flies... It was on that land that we built our first steam hut.
When I was 12 years old, Dave was with me when I had a school yard accident that sidelined me from playing sports, but it was Dave that organized all the kids to come to my house to play chess and In the winter he made sure I had a place on the hockey team even on my crutches at least as the goalie.
Dave always figured out how to have money, as a kid he shoveled snow and delivered newspapers and when he was old enough he would work “midnights” at the Railway Express. Dave was a money saver, but he always had goals and would only spendmoney on what he set his sights on, whether it was a 10 speed bike, a top of the line fishing reel, a VW camper, and then the land in Maine.
Dave and I lived together for a while in Kenmore Square, while he was a student at B.U. and I worked odd jobs, he of course figured out how to live rent free, by cleaning the Doctors offices after hours in exchange for a free apartment, he was always so resourceful…..We had great times in those years it was the 60’s and Boston was our playground...we would take our cameras, our girlfriends, and walk the city, goofing around and taking pictures, just getting high on life, and we would always end up in the north end, because as David would say…”Pizza Regina’s was the only place to eat”.
Even though I hadn't seen or spoken to Dave in many, many years, I have vivid memories of growing up with him, He always challenged his friends to be adventurous, and his mischievous side was very contagious, he helped us all find our own devilish side and he encouraged it to come out…we were all Tom Sawyers and he was our Huck Finn, he urged us to live for the moment. David had a way of making all of his friends feel like we alone were his best friend, it was that conspiratorial grin that made you feel like we were always privy to his inside jokes, and we loved him for his gusto for life.
As kids, Dave was the first to engage in deep philosophical questions, searching for big answers, but quick to admit that the real meaning of life for him was to live simple, strive for contentment and most importantly live life on his own terms.

Over the years I would hear news of Dave’s life from folks that knew him and visited the Sauna, I knew he was happy living the life he had planned, and I thought often of heading up to visit, but things happen, plans change and before you know it a lifetime has gone by.
Dave was a special guy with huge energy, I always thought I would see him again, but it was not meant to be.
Davids energy lives on in all the people he touched, I extend my deepest condolences to his family, and wish them all the best, during this very difficult time.

Halyne (Holly) Graiver

April 9, 2008

I would like to thank everyone for sharing their memories with my father. I treasure those I have already heard and look forward to many more. He lives on in all of us.

Paul Rappaport

April 7, 2008

David Roland Graiver and I were best friends(off and on) from ages 6 to 21. Endless hockey, endless basketball, endless adventures, many funny stories. He was a major influence with me and all the Queen Acres kids. I figured he'd outlast me by far. Sorry he didn't.

Raymond Plotnick

April 7, 2008

David and I shared many adventures together.Delivering the Boston Globe together in a snow storm singing opera. Bike rides to Mattapan Square and of course the many trips to Boston to Bob Lees' Islander and Pizza Regina's.The city was no match for Dave and I. Dave even named his turtle after me.
My thoughts and blessings are sent to his Family.
Ray Plotnick

Howie Elkin

April 3, 2008

While many of you knew Dave from the years he lived in Maine, I grew up with him until we graduated high school. From the years we played basketball, softball with his father's buddies, hockey behind Alan Byer's house, and threw snowballs at cars accross the street from Paul Rappaport's house. Of course, all that changed after Dave met Sherry Gooltz !
Dave's parents are at peace with the full life their son led....and the love he had for his 3 children and 4 grandchildren.

I will miss Dave terribly.

Cathy and Darren Lachel

April 2, 2008

Thank you David,
For spreading your spirit and love of life onto us.

Thank you David,
For always welcoming us with a bright smile and open arms.
For sharing anything that is yours and making us feel like we are the most important guests you ever had.

Thank you David,
For entertaining us with your captivating stories and vibrant personality.

Thank you David,
For getting us the best deal on Maine lobsters out at sea.
A moment etched in our memories forever.

Thank you David,
For giving us advice that we will always treasure:
“Never put a salad on PIZZA! Especially at Pizzeria Regina in Boston”

Thank you David,
For being our sister’s soul companion
For taking care of her and sharing your life with her
And more importantly,
For letting her take care of you

Thank you David,
For just being you!

You have left your mark on us and we will always treasure those memories.

Paul Thornfeldt

March 25, 2008

I am so sorry to hear of Dave's passing. Spent many a cold, Maine night at "Dave's Sauna" and have only very fond memories of him, his humor and unique personality. He will be missed.

me dad and little david

March 23, 2008

me dad and his partner suzy

March 23, 2008

wrestlingwith his grandson david maximus graiver

March 23, 2008

taking a walk on the beach with drandson william

March 23, 2008

taking a break from building house nuber 2 in errol nh

March 23, 2008

in his cozy corner at the sauna

March 23, 2008

dad and my son and i

March 23, 2008

dad and his mother and father

March 23, 2008

dad and azlyn

March 23, 2008

frenchmans hole wtih william and josh

March 23, 2008

dad enjoying a beer on peaks island

March 23, 2008

papa and chelsea

March 23, 2008

Dennis Lajoie

March 22, 2008

I have never laughed so hard at the stories that Dave told on our friday night saunas. Last night I took a sauna and reflected on the times at the sanua.

Terri Meliones

March 21, 2008

Sara, and all of David's family and friends, I am sorry for your loss... everyone's loss. David was an amazing man who loved life and lived it to the fullest. He always had the biggest smile and the heartiest of laughs. David, you will not be forgotten. Love, Terri

Bev Lipman/O'Connell

March 21, 2008

Although it has been many years since we've seen David, Lou and I were so saddened to hear of his loss. We are thinking of all of you at this terribly sad time in your lives. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Kim Kangas

March 20, 2008

My thoughts and prayers are with the Graiver family. I grew up with William and Holly. If the 2 of you need anything let me know.

Chuck Wolfe

March 20, 2008

We are saddened to learn about David's death. We have some very special memories of the early years in Maine when we were very close. I am glad that he managed to build the home of his dreams and that much of his family was with him when he passed. All our best to all of his family.

Warmly,
Chuck and Barbara Wolfe

Ed Gooltz

March 19, 2008

I was very saddened to hear about David. I remember how he and my sister were such good friends in high school. My thoughts are with you. My dad and mother were very fond of him. I am sure he will be greatly missed.

Susan Cosman

March 19, 2008

To the entire Graiver Family - We grew up with David in Sharon, spent many great times over the years with him in Maine, and after many years of losing touch, visited with him at his mountaintop home less than a year ago. He had lost his leg, and his hair, but was as warm and funny and welcoming as we always remembered him. He will be in our thoughts, as will all of you, at this sad time. Susan and Kenny Cosman

Mike Hayes

March 19, 2008

To the entire Graiver Family,

My deepest condolences on the passing of my old friend, Dave.

Although time passed my memories of him never did.

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