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Beth Bennett
October 10, 2024
I continue to miss Hilary every day. He helped me finish my dissertation a few years before he died.
Dr. Beth Bennett
Dr. Daniel J Hoy
October 17, 2021
Since his last anniversary I have more than ever thought of what a good man Hilary was. Arms, heart, always open to those who needed him. He fought the good fight, kept the faith, changed lives foreer for the better.
April 24, 2020
Over these past 50 years, I have thought about Hilary and Pat and for some reason, today, I decided to run a Google Search to learn that he passed away almost seven years ago. Hilary taught at Wheeling College in the 1960's where I attended and what I learned from him in the several theology/philosophy courses and from casual conversations with him has stayed with me throughout my life. We came through turbulent times together and he and Pat were guiding lights through those times. Both of them were wonderful role models and made an impact on my life; for which I am grateful...always.
October 10, 2019
I am so touched to be able to honor Hilary on this anniversary. A nomad in the desert trying to find a professional way to express my religious/spiritual vocation, I met Hilary in my doctoral studies. Without him, I would not have had the en-courage-ment to attempt and to finish my dissertation, which launched me onto a forty-year career of psychological service especially to youngsters. I retired at 80 this past year, and feel ever more grateful to him for helping me find my way when the night was darkest. An amazing, loving man ! RIP.
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Craig Amarnick
June 5, 2018
I have no idea why Dr Bender's name just came into my mind. I had him as part of my Education Curriculum at BU in 1971-72. He was smart and always entertaining. God Bless him and the whole family.
Matt Solomon
March 23, 2017
Only now, 3 years later did I learn that Dr. Bender passed away. I had written to him earlier in the week after not being in touch in many years, just to update him and to tell that my family and I are doing great, living here in Israel. He would of have loved to know that, I am certain. He was amongst the finest, most caring people I have known, a most righteous and loving man and right now I am remembering the pleasure of our meetings and feeling intense sorrow that I did not contact him when we could have spoken and shared my joy in life. May his soul be a blessing to all, (BD"E) Matt Solomon
January 21, 2016
I just heard of Hilary's passing.
I searched him on Google to express my continuing gratitude and admiration for him. Without him, I would never have succeeded in my Boston University coursework...compassionate, insightful, encouraging, kind, a wonderful mentor.
Dr. Daniel J. Hoy
Cheryl Fontes
October 31, 2015
So sorry to hear of Hilary's passing. He was a true educator and a fantastic human being. He generously agreed to be my major dissertation advisor back in the late 70's and with his guidance and encouragement, I was able to successfully complete my doctorate. My thoughts and prayers with the Bender family. I just know that Hilary is watching over all and is very proud. His was a life well lived.
December 6, 2014
Barbara and I are taken aback by Hilary's passing. He was all the things that the other condolence-offerers say, a role model for caring cogency. For that matter, we Canadians well remember you Benders with genuine affection. Richard and Barbara Townsend
Giovanni Montenegro
February 3, 2014
Such an inspirational instructors whose teachings will continue to live in all of us who were lucky to be in his class
November 8, 2013
Hilary supported me when I was struggling through my dissertation. He was my saint. I will miss him dearly.
Beth Bennett
October 30, 2013
My sincerest condolences and will keep the family in my prayers. -Yaquelin Ocana
Joyce Strong
October 26, 2013
Pat and family, my heartfelt sympathy for the loss of Hilary. My thoughts are always with you. Joyce Strong
Scott Schillin
October 24, 2013
I was saddened to learn of Hilary's passing. When Corinne, Tamara and I moved to Newton in 1981, he and Pat and the boys were the most welcoming of neighbors and became like new family. Hilary was generous and caring- a kind and gentle man. He'll be missed but always admired and remembered by me and so many others who had the good fortune to know him.
Corinne Schillin
October 24, 2013
I remember Hilary as a gentle man and a gentleman. He is gone too soon. I hope memories of good times with him will bring you comfort. - Corinne Schillin
Aimee Yermish
October 18, 2013
A long life well lived. He was an excellent professor and mentor. Taught me to start with silence and that it was okay to use my own voice. The world is a better place because he was in it, and we will all miss him.
Lahey Family
October 18, 2013
Paul
The Lahey family is so sorry for your loss. You were a wonderful son. You, Kara and your family are in our prayers.
All our love,
Gary Lahey
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