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Miles Wender, grandson of Ira Wender & Phyllis Wender, and great nephew of Paul Wender
Sara Louise Petty
May 8, 2018
Howard Brandwein
September 4, 2017
I have had a lifelong affection for Paul, having been his public school classmate, for at least 2 years in the 1940s.
My first memories are of a clever, inquisitive young man who was enthusiastic about many things. We talked about having a rubber raft boat, then a small runabout, and travelling down rivers -- much like Huck Finn and Tom Sawyer.
We watched Joe Louis fight Max Schmeling on his family's early TV. I attended parties at their Manhatten home near PS6, where I was told many famous people gathered.
Paul experimented with hypnosis on me and we played at paranormal psychology with his J.B. Rhine cards. Our last time together was at Fire Island where I was his family's guest for a long weekend, during which I was seduced by an older, beautiful woman. When I returned, after 2 days hiatus, Luba Wender (Paul's mother), only winked and shrugged--no words needed to be spoken.
I probably knew him earlier and longer than anyone but his family. I met Ira, his brother, several times.
I had no contact with Paul again until 2010, when I called him after learning about his medical prominence. We talked and he diagnosed me as a compulsive Type A. He said we'll talk again. His last question of me was "Are you happy?" When I responded in the affirmative he told me that was all that counts.
I went East around 2011, tried to meet him but he was socially engaged. The remarkable thing that at age 11, his mind was in full flower and I had no doubt about his subsequent brilliant career. I only wish we could have been closer and feel that in a paranormal way, ala J.B. Rhine, we were never really separated.
Barbara Joseph
April 27, 2017
Thank you. Grandma Barb
daniel sachs
October 6, 2016
High school was not an easy time for me. I had one close friend: Paul. He was kind enough to invite me for a weekend to his family's summer home on Fire Island. I respected his sharp mind and his ability to get quickly to the heart of the matter, whatever that was. In later years we came tgogether again when I was working in Washington DC and he was in the Public Health Service here. I once met a man who was a professor at the University of Utah and he, too, had the greatest frespect for Paul, a fellow faculty member.
Paul was truly a pioneer in his profession. His death is a great loss.
Robert Bachner
September 23, 2016
It was 1943, and the outcome of the War was still in doubt. In a small apartment on East 84th Street, two intrepid scientists toiled unceasingly to develop a weapon that would bring the Axis criminals to their knees. Unfortunately, atomic physics were not taught in the 4th grade at P.S.6, so, brilliant as Paul was, even then, we were not the ones who achieved the success. Paul and I were in different houses at Harvard and in different cities during our adult life, and our encounters were infrequent. But I always looked forward to those rare tastes of his warmth, enthusiasm and humor. I join in the sadness of his family.
Bob Bachner
boblbachner@ earthlink.net
August 29, 2016
I am so very sad that Paul is gone. I knew him since our childhoods and treasured him as a friend, always looking forward to our too brief lunches of recent years. He was a lovely, funny man.
My sympathies to all the family. Janet (Cohen) Robertson
Jonathan Steinberg
August 29, 2016
Dear Frances, Ira and famil,
I just got the news of Paul's death here in Cambridge UK, and send you all my condolences. We had drifted apart over the past few years and I regret that now bitterly. I will be back in Philadelphia from tomorrow, home phone 267 - 455 - 0776. if either of you want to be in touch. I have memories of our joint childhood, which I am certain I am the only person who can recall them. I also remember the Wender parents vividly and with affection.
my warmest greetings,
Jonathan
email: [email protected]
Warren M. Little
August 22, 2016
On behalf of the Harvard Class of 1955, may I extend my sincere condolences to all the Wender family. Paul had a long and distinguished career, andI know that all of his classmates and friends will be as sorry as I was to receive the news.
Warren M. Little, Secretary
Harvard Class of 1955
Gaye Carlson
August 13, 2016
Frances and Family
I will remember Paul's wit and wisdom with great fondness. I could always trust him to cut through the nonsense.
Fondly,
Gaye Carlson
Pastor Johnson A Odewale
July 22, 2016
The name of the righteous is used in blessings, but the name of the wicked will rot.
Proverbs 10:7
Glad, he was righteous.
Doug Goldsmith
July 20, 2016
Oh Frances, I am so very sorry for your loss. I will forever cherish my conversations with Paul. I admired him and fondly remember our walk through Harvard listening to his memories of his college days! He's left a wonderful legacy.
My heart goes out to you and the family.
Doug
July 19, 2016
My heart goes out to the Wender family, particularly my dear friends Jocelyn and Leslie. Sending deepest condolences to all who loved Dr. Wender.
Louis Moench
July 19, 2016
A lecture by Paul was a delight--always pertinent, mostly brilliant, inevitably thought-provoking, and laced with such humor that we didn't want the hour to end. We're sorry to learn not just the hour but the life has ended. What a valuable contributor to our field.
Mason Redd
July 18, 2016
I especially enjoyed Paul's sense of humor and personally missed his presence in the various meetings of the Department of Psychiatry, University of Utah School of Medicine after he left Utah. His contributions to the pratice and profession of psychiatry are many and I want all to know including his family how much I value and appreciate what he accomplished.
Annie Traub
July 18, 2016
For the children of Paul Wender, we all grew up knowing each other. Our parents were good friends for many years. I remember Paul very well. I am sorry to hear you lost your dad. He was a special man. To his wife also, I am very sorry for this big loss. Please know I am thinking of you all. Annie Traub
Sajid Faizi MD
July 18, 2016
I am sorry to hear that, it's a big loss for the family and medical community.
Poonam
July 18, 2016
Paul had quite the sense of humor. He was gruff but kind, demanding but supportive---all in all, a great teacher and mentor. He will be missed.
Kristina Hindert
July 18, 2016
Paul's inquisitiveness and creative thinking opened so many avenues of. exciting ideas, shared laughter of discovery, and such genuine warmth of connection. I will miss him greatly although every day the way I think about the world reflects his influence.
Joseph Yau
July 18, 2016
Francis, Paul was a great teacher and mentor. I am going to miss him a lot. You take care. Joseph Yau
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