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DR.  PAUL H. WENDER M.D. obituary, Andover, MA

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PAUL WENDER Obituary

WENDER, Dr. Paul H., MD 82, of Andover passed away suddenly on Saturday, July 16, 2016. He was the beloved husband of Dr. Frances Burger; beloved father of Jocelyn Wender –Shubow; Leslie Evangelista; Melissa Wender; and his stepson James Murdock. He was the adored grandfather of Eliza Duff-Wender and Penelope Duff-Wender. Paul was also the beloved father-in-law of Jessica Shubow; Tony Evangelista; John Duff and Jack Martin. He is also survived by his brother Ira Wender and his wife Phyllis and many nieces, nephews, friends and colleagues. Paul was an internationally renowned psychiatrist whose research included pioneering adoption studies of schizophrenia, and ADHD. He was Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychiatry at The University of Utah College of Medicine, retiring in 1999, when he moved to Andover where he continued to write and publish books and scholarly articles on ADHD in adults. He also had a small private practice in Andover from which he retired in 2014. Memorial Services/ celebration of his life will be held at a later date. Memorial contributions in his memory may be made to: www.doctorswithoutborders.org/donate.

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Published by Boston Globe from Jul. 17 to Jul. 18, 2016.

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Miles Wender, grandson of Ira Wender & Phyllis Wender, and great nephew of Paul Wender

Sara Louise Petty

May 8, 2018

Howard Brandwein

September 4, 2017

I have had a lifelong affection for Paul, having been his public school classmate, for at least 2 years in the 1940s.
My first memories are of a clever, inquisitive young man who was enthusiastic about many things. We talked about having a rubber raft boat, then a small runabout, and travelling down rivers -- much like Huck Finn and Tom Sawyer.
We watched Joe Louis fight Max Schmeling on his family's early TV. I attended parties at their Manhatten home near PS6, where I was told many famous people gathered.
Paul experimented with hypnosis on me and we played at paranormal psychology with his J.B. Rhine cards. Our last time together was at Fire Island where I was his family's guest for a long weekend, during which I was seduced by an older, beautiful woman. When I returned, after 2 days hiatus, Luba Wender (Paul's mother), only winked and shrugged--no words needed to be spoken.
I probably knew him earlier and longer than anyone but his family. I met Ira, his brother, several times.
I had no contact with Paul again until 2010, when I called him after learning about his medical prominence. We talked and he diagnosed me as a compulsive Type A. He said we'll talk again. His last question of me was "Are you happy?" When I responded in the affirmative he told me that was all that counts.
I went East around 2011, tried to meet him but he was socially engaged. The remarkable thing that at age 11, his mind was in full flower and I had no doubt about his subsequent brilliant career. I only wish we could have been closer and feel that in a paranormal way, ala J.B. Rhine, we were never really separated.

Barbara Joseph

April 27, 2017

Thank you. Grandma Barb

daniel sachs

October 6, 2016

High school was not an easy time for me. I had one close friend: Paul. He was kind enough to invite me for a weekend to his family's summer home on Fire Island. I respected his sharp mind and his ability to get quickly to the heart of the matter, whatever that was. In later years we came tgogether again when I was working in Washington DC and he was in the Public Health Service here. I once met a man who was a professor at the University of Utah and he, too, had the greatest frespect for Paul, a fellow faculty member.

Paul was truly a pioneer in his profession. His death is a great loss.

Robert Bachner

September 23, 2016

It was 1943, and the outcome of the War was still in doubt. In a small apartment on East 84th Street, two intrepid scientists toiled unceasingly to develop a weapon that would bring the Axis criminals to their knees. Unfortunately, atomic physics were not taught in the 4th grade at P.S.6, so, brilliant as Paul was, even then, we were not the ones who achieved the success. Paul and I were in different houses at Harvard and in different cities during our adult life, and our encounters were infrequent. But I always looked forward to those rare tastes of his warmth, enthusiasm and humor. I join in the sadness of his family.

Bob Bachner
boblbachner@ earthlink.net

August 29, 2016

I am so very sad that Paul is gone. I knew him since our childhoods and treasured him as a friend, always looking forward to our too brief lunches of recent years. He was a lovely, funny man.
My sympathies to all the family. Janet (Cohen) Robertson

Jonathan Steinberg

August 29, 2016

Dear Frances, Ira and famil,
I just got the news of Paul's death here in Cambridge UK, and send you all my condolences. We had drifted apart over the past few years and I regret that now bitterly. I will be back in Philadelphia from tomorrow, home phone 267 - 455 - 0776. if either of you want to be in touch. I have memories of our joint childhood, which I am certain I am the only person who can recall them. I also remember the Wender parents vividly and with affection.
my warmest greetings,
Jonathan
email: [email protected]

Warren M. Little

August 22, 2016

On behalf of the Harvard Class of 1955, may I extend my sincere condolences to all the Wender family. Paul had a long and distinguished career, andI know that all of his classmates and friends will be as sorry as I was to receive the news.

Warren M. Little, Secretary
Harvard Class of 1955

Gaye Carlson

August 13, 2016

Frances and Family
I will remember Paul's wit and wisdom with great fondness. I could always trust him to cut through the nonsense.

Fondly,
Gaye Carlson

Pastor Johnson A Odewale

July 22, 2016

The name of the righteous is used in blessings, but the name of the wicked will rot.
Proverbs 10:7
Glad, he was righteous.

Doug Goldsmith

July 20, 2016

Oh Frances, I am so very sorry for your loss. I will forever cherish my conversations with Paul. I admired him and fondly remember our walk through Harvard listening to his memories of his college days! He's left a wonderful legacy.

My heart goes out to you and the family.

Doug

July 19, 2016

My heart goes out to the Wender family, particularly my dear friends Jocelyn and Leslie. Sending deepest condolences to all who loved Dr. Wender.

Louis Moench

July 19, 2016

A lecture by Paul was a delight--always pertinent, mostly brilliant, inevitably thought-provoking, and laced with such humor that we didn't want the hour to end. We're sorry to learn not just the hour but the life has ended. What a valuable contributor to our field.

Mason Redd

July 18, 2016

I especially enjoyed Paul's sense of humor and personally missed his presence in the various meetings of the Department of Psychiatry, University of Utah School of Medicine after he left Utah. His contributions to the pratice and profession of psychiatry are many and I want all to know including his family how much I value and appreciate what he accomplished.

Annie Traub

July 18, 2016

For the children of Paul Wender, we all grew up knowing each other. Our parents were good friends for many years. I remember Paul very well. I am sorry to hear you lost your dad. He was a special man. To his wife also, I am very sorry for this big loss. Please know I am thinking of you all. Annie Traub

Sajid Faizi MD

July 18, 2016

I am sorry to hear that, it's a big loss for the family and medical community.

Poonam

July 18, 2016

Paul had quite the sense of humor. He was gruff but kind, demanding but supportive---all in all, a great teacher and mentor. He will be missed.

Kristina Hindert

July 18, 2016

Paul's inquisitiveness and creative thinking opened so many avenues of. exciting ideas, shared laughter of discovery, and such genuine warmth of connection. I will miss him greatly although every day the way I think about the world reflects his influence.

Joseph Yau

July 18, 2016

Francis, Paul was a great teacher and mentor. I am going to miss him a lot. You take care. Joseph Yau

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