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Gerry Claytor
July 12, 2013
Hello my dearest baby, It's me! It's our 43rd Anniversary on yesterday! Wow! 43 years! I can still remember very well, the first time I saw you @ Casco Manufacturing on Hancock Ave in Bridgeport's West End.
It was so funny. You looked at me walking backward! I was petrified and blushing like no tomorrow. I had just arrived from NC 3 months earlier and was straight off the farm. I was eighteen years old and had never left the farm. Hehehe. I was truly a Southern Belle all the way.
I certainly was not looking for a love affair. No the least bit of interest. However, you just continued to stalk me. In 1968 there were no harassment laws in affect, so not much could happen when men bothered women. Everyone in our department wanted you, except me.
They, both men & women soon learned you wanted to reel me in. To everyone's surprise it didn't happen. Six months passed, nothing! No date!
After six months you convinced me to go out with you. First date got engaged! Nine months later we were married. Whew!!!!!
You were a awesome hubby! We enjoyed 35 years until God called you home! You were my everything and you treated me like a "QUEEN"! Thank you baby! I will always love you! You will forever be my Legacy of Love!!! I see you in my spirit everyday of my life! My heart still aches for you, but I'll see you again. Good night! I'll see you in the morning, my sweet love!!!!
June 28, 2013
Hello baby,
So much has happened! I thought the worst had come but to my great surprise the "Giants" keep on coming!! God has always been by my side! Through all the rain & pain, He sends SUNSHINE!
I was very ill for awhile, but GOD HEALED ME, AGAIN!!! I GIVE HIM ALL the GLORY, HONOR & PRAISE!!!!!
Guess what? YOUR LIL' Princess Bennyta is getting Married!!!! Tears! Tears! Tears! Tears of JOY! She's marrying your friend Dr. Vernon Thompson's son, Vernon Jr. :).
Remember one night in his office he told Princess you going to marry my son one day. We all just laughed!
Well, she is!!!! You would fall over if you saw her ring!!! He is saved, goes to our church and is heavily involved in Kingdom work. He is a teacher and has two Master's Degrees, never married & no children. That is what you would love.
I love Vern-Vern and I am so happy. He is most respectable and heads over heels in love with her. So many prayers you sent up for this day.
They have planned a wedding date for Labor Day weekend, 2014, Yippeee Yoooo!!!
I know you will be there to give your approval. Baby we miss you sooo much, but we have lots of great memories!!! I'm tearing up as I write this, but it's only for a time. I know you're at home safe in the arms of our Jesus. R.I.P.
It's still tough down here but we're grateful to be in the land of the living, and someday we will join you again!!!
You will always be my Legacy of Love! I'm going to say good night & I'll stop by again very soon. I think of you everyday!!!!
Your widow forever
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Gerry Claytor
December 26, 2012
Good morning my love,
It's Christmas! I did not celebrate for seven Christmases since you departed this earth.
Each year the festives were over-bearing. I remembered all the times we would spend driving to all parts of the state shopping for gifts, eating at the finest eateries. When I heard the beautiful Christmas music playing and seing all the happy families and people my heart was overwhelmed and I escaped into a deep dark low place in my spirit! Many attempted to lift me out but I just could not handle it! Lord have Mercy! Bishop & Lady Moales tried especially hard to help restore my joy!
Well, Jesus never fails! This Christmas, I'm writing to you from my hotel room in Rocky Mount, NC. I am happy. You spoke to my spirit & said remember, I used to always preach & tell the congregation if something happens to me, I want my wife & my children to continue living! I will baby, with you in my heart every step of the way!
The baby is dating Vernon Thompson and they had a lovely time for Christmas.
We will forever miss & think of you. You were an awesome husband, father, pastor & leader! Merry Christmas & Happy New Year in Heaven! R.I.P.
Until I meet you again.
Your wife,
Gerry
Gerry Claytor
September 10, 2012
Hello the Joy of my life,
I'm stopping by to say a belated Happy 42 Wedding Anniversary!! The best thing that could have ever happened to me!
God put you in my life and I can say, he knew just what I needed! The joy of sharing my life with you has meant a world of difference to me!
You are a part of my morning devotions everyday! One of your pictures is in my bible. I greet you & kiss you each morning!
Good night and I'll see you in the morning!
Each moment, my heart reflects thoughts of love for you.
Your widowed wife forever,
Gerry
Priscilla Campbell
June 3, 2012
Pastor, You are greatly missed! RIP
Mary Montgomery
June 3, 2012
Great man u were...
alice gorham-wiggins
June 3, 2012
RIP Pastor,Friend and Brother-n-Law
Gerry Claytor
June 3, 2012
Dearest Baby,
It's been 7 years since you took your heavenly flight! It seems like forever!
Thank God for memories! I have many, many of them stored! Everyday I think of you, especially at around 4:30pm, because that's the time you would come home!
I can still picture you coming in through the back door, running to use the bathroom. LOL!
I will always hold dear to my heart 2140 Main Street. That's where life left you. I stare intently at the house everytime I pass by it!
Life has not been the same, but I realize, I'm not alone! Many women have lost their husbands. God is now my maker, my husband! I love Him more than ever! He takes care of me!
I'm still loving ministry of the needy & hurting people of God!
Yes! I turned 62 last week! I was most excited to be 62! I'm getting gray now and I love each moment of it! I cut my hair very short again, but only temporary! I'm growing it back out, but natural this time! I will post a pic in your album once it grows out longer! Hehehe!
I am living now in order that I may someday join you! Look for me until I get there.
God bless you my lover, R.I.P.!
Your widowed Wife,
Gerry
Geraldine Claytor
January 23, 2012
Hello Baby,
It's me! It's been awhile since I wrote to you! How I miss you? It does not get any better. I know I have to deal with the blows of life, but really it's not better.
Yes! I'm moving ahead with my life, happy in Jesus, but life is no where near what it was when you were here!
So many things have happened this year. Mr. Roger died. Aunt Thelma died! Bishop Joyner died!
I'm really working diligently to amend our ministry. It's changed from a traditional church to a non-profit ministry. Ministry is focusing on the needy & at risk community. I love it! You know who my favorite community is! Yes! PT Barnum! Next up are the widows!
I've started back working @ the Board Of Ed, substitute teaching. Lots of other things are taking place in my favor!
The baby is doing fine, looking good but trying to make some decisions as to if she will relocate to Atlanta, GA. I hope not! I'm praying! LOL!
You're most dear to my heart & you always will be! Wait for me! Someday I will join you again! I LOVE YOU BABY!
Your widowed wife forever,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
January 29, 2011
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year, Baby!
Wow! Was this ever a traumatic year for Princess and I?
I thought we had seen the worst, but whooh, Lord! We went thru some changes! BUT GOD! To God be the Glory, we are still standing!~
Christmas means only the reason for the Season! That's celebrating the birth of our dear Savior! We love Him so! I thank God, we sought Him out together, and we both allowed Him to come into our lives, We taught our baby! She knows the Lord! The Devil stays after her, but she's covered by the Blood!
It's almost February, things are turning around for us! Thank you Lord Jesus Holy Spirit!
God is doing things so strange to humanity! Tornados, huge snow storms! He speaks! I pray we will find favor in Him.
I salute you everyday and kiss you many times. You are a part of my worship, communion and early morning devotion to God daily! I love you so! I will meet you in heaven as your widowed wife!
Until next time,
Your widowed wife forever, Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
December 3, 2010
Hello Baby,
It's great writing to you tonight! I can not believe, I haven't written since July!
I am so busy, but I can't be that busy again. No! Never! I go to the gravesite all the time. I feel so good and glad when I go there to talk to you.
I get excited when I see "Claytor" on the headstone afar off.
Whew!! So much have happened since I last talked to you. Bishop Moales died, now Bro. Towles, and Bishop Gilliam. God is calling His people home! We must stay ready & on guard.
Thanksgiving has come and gone, and Christmas is before us.
This is the 1st year that I really want to celebrate Christmas since you died.
I want to go to NY and unwind and enjoy myself. Then we will spend some time with Bishop Moales family.
I'm happy that He restored me to continue.
Princess is fine. She's tough, but that's ok, because she needs to be able to stand! I'm getting older now!
I see & spend time with your family. I enjoy them. Don't see or hear from Kim much, but I still love her. I always will. She's your daughter.
You would want me to continue to love her. I will always remember you and love your "LEGACY" all the days of my "LIFE"!
Until next time! Smoocheess!!!
Your widowed Wife,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
July 11, 2010
My Dearest sweetheart!
Guess what? Today, we would have been married 40 years! Wow! I remember all to well our very first date! Hehehehe!!! Firstly you stalked me for six months, every single day! Hehehe!!! We worked together at Casco Products, Bridgeport, CT!
Every woman in that dept. that was not married wanted your attention! Strangely enough, I didn't! I wasn't the least bit interested! Having just arrived from NC, no way! Wasn't interested!
But! GOD! When God has "SOMETHING FOR YOU! It's for "YOU"!
I'm surely glad "HE" knew what "HIS" plans for "ME" were!
On our 1st date, we were engaged! Got married nine months later! Of course daddy threatned "YOU"! Came down stairs with his gun!! LOL!
And here we are! 40 years later! We enjoyed 36 years in total before your flight! What a Life? What a love? What a man? "YOU were that "MAN"! Still IS! Will be until I meet you in the morning!
Happy Anniversary in "HEAVEN"!
From the depths of "MY HEART"! YES LORD!
Until next time, "MY LOVE" is still eternally Your's :)...
Your widowed wife,
Gerry
Prophetess Geraldine Claytor
July 10, 2010
My dearest Baby Benny!
I sure do love you! I miss you more than ever!!
I'm writing two fold tonight! I missed my entry for "FATHER'S DAY! But I sure didn't forget to put "ROSES" on your head stone!
I appreciate greatly that you fathered our baby, Bennyta! We waited almost twelve years, but she brought us a lot of joy thru the years! Yes! She was "DADDY'S BABY GIRL!
I thank you for all the love, care, training, & support you showed her!
She does not forget what you taught her. You were the best "FATHER" in the world! Again, I love you and Happy belated "FATHER'S DAY!
I will always love you,
Your widowed wife, Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
May 31, 2010
Dearest Baby!
Hello! It's a beautiful day that the Lord has given us! It's Memorial Day, 2010! Wow! The time is swiftly moving!
It's just like summer already!
Guest what? We're moving into our own homes now! Bennyta is moving into her own rental apartment and I'm moving into my own rental house! We are so excited!
And!!! And!!!! I will start to work on Tuesday night, 3rd shift while I wait for a salary to be put into place from my non profit food pantry!
I'm strong again! I'm ready to move forward! I really appreciate all you shared with me and all that I wanted to share with. I was really struggling without you, but now I'm back up!
I love the very thought of you sooooooo much! Those thoughts are 24/7! There will NEVER! be another like "YOU"! "YOU'RE MY HERO!" The "WIND BENEATH MY WINGS"!
Until next time! I love youuuuuu!!!!
Your widowed wife "FOREVER",
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
May 22, 2010
Baby I'm yours! Everything I am! Everything I'm Not! Everything I Got! I'm Yours! Try me out and see! See if I can be completely yours!
It's my birthday baby! Your Baby! Your Queen! is 60 years old today!
I know you're smiling on me today! I went to the grave to tell you it's my birthday! I had fun. I miss you, but I got through the day! God's still good!
Your family all called me today. It made me feel great!
I love the very thought of you! I will until I meet you in heaven!
Your widowed wife forever,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
May 11, 2010
Dearest Benny, a.k.a., Baby!
I'm missing you! Mother's Day just passed and I was still sad! I'll always be sad! However, I can deal with it a lot better now! God has healed me beautifully!
I'm ready to really get moving in leaps and bounds again!
Life without you will never be the same! Never ever! I have lots of pictures and fond memories of you! I didn't realize I had so many! I'm surely glad that I do!
When I look at the pictures, listen to your tapes, watch your videos, you are so real to me!
I go to the cemetery an aweful lot to talk to you. I love it! The baby is fine! We've grown quite a bit in the years pass! We had to!
We didn't realize how much you had spoiled us all these years! Haha!! We knew!
You were awesome! I tell you, it was devastating! Your sudden departure! People are like wasn't he dead a while now! I'm like yes! Five years, but he was with me 36 and my baby 26 years! Can't even began to compare! Oh well, I'm at peace now!
I can thank you for a wonderful and full life, all my life! Thank you baby, I love you and I'll wait to join you on that great getting up morning! Fare you well! Fare you well!
Until next time! I l-o-v-e- y-o-u!!!
Your widow,
Prophetss Gerry Claytor
Geraldine Claytor
April 4, 2010
My dearest baby Benny,
Happy Easter to my love! This is the 5th Easter you've been with the Lord!
It do not miss you any less! I miss you more! I am handling it better! I have too! You're having a glorious time with our Lord and all those gone on before!
Life here is tough! The giants keep on coming, but our God delivers us out of them all!
The holidays do bring sadness but it passes! The joy of the Lord is my strength! I lean on Him! I love praying and listening to songs and sermons! It keeps me going!
The baby is doing fine! She is now working three jobs! That's good! Keeps her mind focused! She's trying to get her Master's Degree so she can move onto her Doctorate! She realizes she needs it greatly!
I hope you like your palm crosses! I remember how you were obsessed with giving us the palm every palm Sunday!
I love you baby! Thank you for all that you did for me, taught me, and shared with me!
Until next time,
Your widowed wife forever,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
March 13, 2010
Hi Baby!
It's raining outside. It's been raining for two days now and two nights. Of course rain for some reason reminds me as to how much I miss you! Yes! I still miss you a whole lot!
I'm doing great though! I'm mainstreaming back into life! I'm going places again, with other people, groups of people! I still feel quite out of place without you, but I am enjoying!
I want to get back to traveling and lots of family interaction! It's all good! I thank God for things being as well as they are!
I love you so much! I love you more & more each day! Whenever I see your name on anything of the past, I get so excited! The baby really miss you a lot and is still having a very difficult time with your absence! I know God will bring her out and through alright!
Good night until the next time!
With much love,
Your widowed wife
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
February 15, 2010
My sunshine! My love! Still "MY" JOY!
Benny!
Hello in Heaven!
It's Valentine Day Week end again! It's been five years that Valentine's Day passed! I missed you "NO"! less than the first day you left me! Yes I cried for the lack of your presence, but God got me thru it much easier "THIS TIME"!
I remember "ALL" the beautiful dinners, gifts, elegant places we went! We always had a great time! I'm looking at your pictures and pictures of us! It's the next best thing to you being here!
None of "US" came here to "STAY"! I do get sweet relief when I think of you!
Valentine's Day has just become another day of the "Good Lord's Day"! for me! With "US"! Everyday, was "VALENTINE"S DAY"! HEHEHEHE!
All I can say is: I LOVE YOU TIGER! "REMEMBER"! I USED TO CALL YOU THAT!
"LOOK FOR ME UP THERE! I"LL BE EXPECTING TO MEET YOU AT THE GATE!
"I LOVE YOU MORE THAN EVER"!
Your Widowed Wife Forever,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
January 24, 2010
My Dearest Baby Benny,
It's late and it's early! It's midnight. The new morn is before us! You know! You know, I would always stay up until the late hours of the night and the wee hours of the morning searching for new info. I could share with you.
You were always amazed at the things I'd learn and would do. You would tell everybody how your wife could do this and that! For that I thank you baby!
I'm a Sparrow when I'm broken, but I'm an Eagle when I fly!
I'm an Eagle again! I'm flying! Everyday, I look towards the heavens looking for you! Guest what? I always see you up there beckoning me onward! Don't worry, I'm on my way to the kingdom land, I'm on my way, to the kingdom land, I'm on my way to the kingdom land! Praise God! I'm on my way!
God is moving in my life in so many ways! I can hardly began to tell it!
You know! You know how He moved on your life! He's good like that!
The baby is doing good! She has two jobs, looking for a third one! She always says, my father taught me how to work. I can take care of myself! She is a piece of work. She looks just like you. She grew her hair very long! She says daddy would like this. I said yes, he would be stroking it and touching it. Daddy loved long pretty hair like his mother's hair.
Mine is still long also. I know it took a long time for me to let mine grow, but I did, just for you.
Well, it's time to get into bed, so I can be up and ready for church.
I can't help but think of you and our past church and services everyday. They were powerful. God knows! Well, I love to praise Him, so I do! Bishop Moales is an awesome man of God. His services are awesome also.
I love you and miss you soooo much. I'll always be your widow! You were that good and then some!
Your widow forever,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
January 5, 2010
Good evening Baby!
I'm writing to say Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! My intent was to post on Christmas Day and New Year's Day!
I certainly did think of you on both days and everyday! I miss you so much! More than much!
So much is happening now! I'm happy and restored in the Lord! I just finished listening to you preach! "It's Friday! But Sunday's coming"! You were at the Unified Freewill Baptist Conference! It was Pre-Easter Good Friday Service! Powerful!
I love hearing your voice! I don't ever want to forget it!
God is blessing the Feed The People Food Pantry in a great way! I just love it! It is the "NEW" love of my life!
To serve the poor in "LOVE" is to serve "JESUS"! I love it! I have lots of "NEW" friends now!
They are wonderful people also! God reminds us, that "HE" never "FAILS"!
I reminesce always of the lovely times and the life we shared! I never even dreamed it would end! Hehehehe! But it did! Everything has an end!
You live deep in my heart and you forever "WILL"!
When situations grow tough, I remember your "Prodding Me On in the "Past" and it renews my faith, to take another step! That does it everytime!
The baby is pressing, but it's all in God's hand! We hear from Kim often now!
So until next time! Peek-a-boo! I love you!
Your widow forever,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
November 27, 2009
Hi Baby!
It's me! I'm stopping by to say happy Thanksgiving Day! I'm late, but I know you understand!
However, I was thinking of you all week long! In fact I started crying the first of the week, but you spoke to me and told me, you were in a better place.
You are in a better place! The world is still spinning up side down. People need the Lord! Those of us alive must continue to pray and do good! Bennyta is doing good. She's still spoiled, even at going on 31 years old! That's okay too. She told me Wednesday night before Thanksgiving, tonightI look like Daddy! I smiled because I know that she does!
I look for you in everything and in every way! I see you in everything and in every way.
I love you and I wish you a very happy Thanksgiving in Heaven.
I will always cherish your memory and love you forever,
Your widowed wife,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
November 17, 2009
Hello! My dearest Baby Benny,
How's my favorite man? I kiss you 1000 times everyday! You are my sunshine, my only sunshine! You make make me happy when skies are blue. I never knew just how much you loved me! so please don't take my sunshine away!
I love you more each day! Thank you for all that you were to me! Wait for me! I'm coming some glad morning, when this life is over! I'll fly away!
I love you baby and I miss you terribly!
Your widowed Wife,
Gerry
Geraldine Claytor
November 2, 2009
Hello Heaven! Knock, Knock! I'm looking for an Apostle Benny Claytor! Is he there! He is! Oh, could you please tell him,someone's here to see him! Hi baby, it's me!
So what are you doing up there? I'm missing you so much. I love you even more everyday.
Now I understand distance love! Quite a distance tho! God is good. We all know we didn't come here to stay!
I remember you didn't want to get old! You loved youth, being young! So you got your wish! Guess what? You still looked young.
Well, 4 1/2 years later, I'm finally getting gray hair, not much, but I love it. You hated it. Ha ha!
Life is strange, but we're all blessed to be a part of this world. It's tough tho! Well, I'm going to say wait for me! One these old days, I'll met you there!
The baby really miss you. We're getting better each day.
I love you,
Your widowed wife forever
Gerry
Gerry Claytor
September 22, 2009
Good evening in Heaven, Baby!
How's my favorite man! The man of my past, present, future and "FOREVER"!
I'm thinking of you in such a special way! I have so much to be thankful for! If only you can imagine what I am today!
I'm exactly what you taught me! You taught me so much and I'm glad about it. I praise God! I'm happy again! I've accepted that you're not here, but you are here! I now have purpose for this part of my life! I still love helping the poor!
I remember you used to let me take your brand new cars over to PT Barnum and fill them up with people! You did not care, because you knew that was the love I had for that community. I thank you!
And where did God send me to do His royal work! Right back to PT Barnum! Guess what? I love them! My Feed The People Food Pantry is awesome!!! God is blessing! It is the love of my life. I want you to know that I am happy! You would want that for me!
I love you Baby!!! All the days of my life!
Until next time!!! Ilove you all the time!
Your widowed wife,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
August 24, 2009
Benny Baby!
Happy birthday to you! last Monday August 17, 2009!!!! I can hardly believe, you turned 66 years old! Wow!!! You look nothing like that!
You must be having a time up in heaven, doing your Holy Ghost, run down the aisle praise! I used to love seeing you do that! And what a blessing, I have you on video strutting your "run down the aisle praise"!!!!
It's a week ago today of your birthday, and I'm finally getting a chance to say how much I still love you! "I STILL LOVE YOU TOO MUCH TO EVEN THINK OF LOVING SOMEONE ELSE!!!!
I get told all the time that I'll be with another love, but HAHAHA!!!! They just don't know huh baby. You already loved me"JUST LIKE A NATURAL BORN WOMAN!!!! Don't need no more love!!! Just thinking of you and all the good, better and best of times we shared!
We spent 11 1/2 years together before we had Bennyta!!! Whooohhh!!! I still REMEMBER!!!!!! So there you see, oooohhhlala!!!
I'm extremely busy now! I have a new norm to keep me busy! The Feed The People Food Pantry & Simplify My Message Widow Ministry! They keep me busy and I'm enjoying every bit of it.
The Healing Explosion Service Ministry is growing also!
Princess and I are missing you terribly, but we're on with our lives with you all around us everywhere. Your pictures are our "Legacy" We appreciate greatly the awesome life you made avalable for us. We had a crisis, but now, we're strong to serve. We thank the Lord for all our teaching from you. You were one powerfully anointed, loving, special father/man!
Until next time, wait for me!
I love you,
Your widowed wife forever,
Prophetess erry Claytor
Nakia Campbell
August 11, 2009
To my mom and sister in christ,
I still think of you and miss you both I miss my dad too. From a very lil girl Apostle and you taught me how to be a warrior for God and I have learned "Praise is what I do". I love you
Should you ever feel alone
If finding times hard to bare
You can still count on me
Know I shall always be there
You shall be in my thoughts
If you are hurting, I feel it too
It is my friendship sincerity
I shall forever share with you
There each step of the way
My support you can depend
I will listen if you need me
With love your forever friend
rashe
July 21, 2009
To the Apostle, my pal and friend
its been a few years now and i am sorry it took awhile to write but i did share some words to you at the cematary< i just want to say a few things because you were a very special piece in my life< we had such a great relationship< i miss our talks downstairs in the church about the fire department and sports< you always cared and made sure i was doing the best i could and you really wanted me to pursue that fire career and which i am still doing.there so much to tell you but i am fighting alot of emotion right now , i have two kids now Rashe jr and Adorian thomas they are five and two , i so wanted them to be prayed on by you , so i ask that since you are in heaven pls watch over them and protect them, i currently work in construction for the last three years and it sgetting real tough to find new jobs because of economy, i am going to go now cause the tears are coming but i wanted you to know that I love you very much
Prophetess- may god keep you safe and remeber "we live by faith and not by sight" i will always be here for you no matter what and if you feel you need that hug that i use to give call me and consider it done!!!!
Bennyta-you know how much I love you and i always there for you anytime,any day, I pray for your strength to get thru some of those hard days!
Love you guys
Rashe
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
June 24, 2009
Good morning Baby!
Today is a beautiful day! God could not have sent us a better one. This is a day that I have never seen in my life. I thank God for it!
Happy father's day. We miss you more today than before. I must say my mind has finally regained clarity and my heart again beats normal. However, my entire body aches and echoes for your loving touch! I envision the gentleness and lovingness of you everyday. I can vividly remember it all, because I want to! I recall the smell of your pleasures men cologne! And guess what, I still have the last container of johnson baby powder you used. I have your sun glasses, I wear a pair of brown ones. I have your cell phone & charger, shoe horn, clergy collar tab, one clergy shirt, your license, work ID, clergy hospital badge, black/brown shoe paste polish, a tube of fixodent,nail clippers, socks, your, last new suit, shirt, tie,shoes, hat and more! I will always keep it until my demise! I want to forever keep you plastered in my heart daily!
Bennyta & I didn't fall apart this year. I told her we are big girls now! I spend a great deal of time visiting you at the cemetery. I love talking to you there!
Bennyta & I spent the day after church with the Moales Family! We love being with them. They make us feel so wanted! I want to say I sure do love you! Until next time! Oh, I'm returning to the IAMWMW convention this year. I'm looking forward to going!
I will always love you,
Your wife, Gerry
Geraldine Claytor
June 3, 2009
Dearest Benny Baby,
Happy 4th birthday in heaven! Ohhhh, you must be enjoying up there! Just think, you'v been gone four years!
I miss you sooooo much, but at times your spirit is so strong and so real, it seems like you are coming home at anytime. I can still hear your footsteps coming upstairs. I can still hear you take your jewelry off and drop it into your jewerly trays.
I still hear you drop your wallet into the drawer, take you belt off and feel you lean back on our bed to take your shoes and socks off, then open the closet to put away your clothes. It's as real as this morning. But baby, R.I.P.!!
Quess what? Princess is a big girl now. She's going to be thirty in about three weeks.
She's doing well, a hard worker just like you. I cried this week and a bit today,but I got through it, because I know you would want me to. Yes! I'm stronger this time!
Thank you baby! You are my Hero! I live everyday in your legacy! Guess what? I won't, you know I won't!!
Oh yes, baby, I'm starting do perform an aweful lot of marriages.
I will conduct my first "Healing Explosion Service" on tomorrow. I am so excited. People need healing! I want to be one of the instrument and vessels to be used of God!
I received training from one of the greatest Prophets to have ever lived! "You". I'm not afraid, I have the gift of healing flowing in my life, just like you.
You were healed unto death! I never saw any sickness in you after your conversion! How great, How great is our God! Sing with me! How great, How great is our God!
Well, good night, see you in the morning!!!
I love you,
Your wife, Gerry
Geraldine Claytor
May 27, 2009
Dearest Benny Baby,
You are the desire of my heart! I love you! I love you! Yes! You are the desire of my heart!
Well, I had a gathering on my birthday Friday for the 1st time since you went to live with the Lord. It was still some what painful, but I got thru the evening. I had a wonderful time. All new friends. I'm sure next year will be fine! Actually, I want to work towards a cruise! I'll enjoy that!
I kept feeling your presence, telling me it's ok, that you want me to be happy. Thank you baby, you always wanted me to be happy.
I am going to say good night for now! I'm starting to cry, but don't worry, God will take care of me for you!
I'll stop crying soon. I just looked at your pictures, you're everywhere in here!
You make me feel better. I love you.
Good night baby until next time!
Your wife,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
May 10, 2009
My dearest baby,
Good evening in heaven above! It' s Mother's Day! I'm on a low key. I miss you! Your tender strong loving arms, your handsome smile, your intimate words.
You were great! You knew how to love me and enjoyed letting me know that you did. How could anyone expect to top that? I enjoyed 37 years of that, wooooh!
I had no idea it would end, but God had other plans for you . You had to go. I miss you, but you left nothing undone.
I love you for that. I was at the cemetery , as you whispered "Happy Mother's Day". I received it well. The baby gave me red roses and a card. I enjoyed them. The day is almost over, things are returning back to normal.
I love you. Good night, see you in the morning !
Love,
Your Widowed Wife,
Forever Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
April 29, 2009
Good morning Baby,
I'd like to share these lyrics of LaShun Pace: Things I've gone through in life, I thought were too hard for me to bear.
The enemy tried sometime to make me feel just like God did not care. But I remember reading in God's word where He said He wouldn't put more on me than I could bear. Yes, Jesus cares and all that I've endured was only for my good!
Baby, as you know, we're all saddned by the sudden lost of Bobby.
Bennyta & I went to visit him as you would have wanted. I took a couple of pictures of him a few days prior to his homegoing. He had asked me where was Bennyta. I asked if he wanted to talk to her. He said yes. I called her on the phone and he told her he loved her and wanted her to come see him . She reminded him she had visited him two days ago but he was resting. She assured him she would return, which she did, but again he was resting. After he talked to her, I took two pictures of him.
I visited him while he was in the hospital and talked with him for a long time and prayed for him. He told me he was so glad I came and he continued to tell me, how much he loved me. I know you would have wanted us to be there.
The funeral is tomorrow. We'll be very sad, but rejoicing with him, because the pain is no more.
I love you baby and miss you so much!
Lots of love,
Your widowed wife forever,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
April 23, 2009
Goood afternoon Baby,
I'm thinking of you! I always think of you all day & all night.
I can't help but say it again, and again, I sure do love & miss you!
I have so much to be grateful for in my past life with you! Memories will live vividly with me until eternity.
I go to your grave site every week,sometimes 4-6 days a week. I love talking to you there.
Your widow forever,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
April 18, 2009
Dearest Baby,
It's been awhile since I last wrote to you, but I want you to know, I love you and I miss you sooooooooooo much!!!!
I've gotten used to the fact that you're not coming back. Somedays it's still unbearable, but then I remember te great times we shared together for so many years and I'm able to pull myself back together again.
I don't want to ever forget your fragrance, touch, smile, or voice. I enjoy watching you on video. It seems as though you're still here! I remember everything about you. I love it all. I will not date or remarry ever! I want only and always to remember you!
You were a husband that I'm sure that every woman would have dreamed of having.
Again, I say, you left nothing undone! The passionate, unrelenting love we shared, over and over again, year after year can not be replicated by anyone. Thank you for showing me that love. I was really loved, so now, I don't have to look for romance.
I'm excited about the Widow Ministry. I have a passion for it.I love meeting with all the Widows and building them up and encouraging them.
I stay in touch with your family and at this time, we are all praying for Bobby and his family.
I am coming to the end of a real tough time, because I opted to enter into ministry full time. I endured some vry tough times, but I know in whom I believe and what He told me.
I want to do the work of Him who sent me.
God has begun to open some serious doors for me. In all things, I will continually praise Him!
Bennyta is trying to re-enter school so that she can complete her masters degree.
She bought beautiful Palm Crosses for your gravesite on Easter. I go there a real lot still. I just get excited when I see your name!
Bishop/Lady Moales continue to be a blessing and encourage us. We just love them.
There is s much more I need to share with you.I will talk with yo soon. Your legacy is an inspiration to me daily. I love you Baby!
Love,
Your Wife, Grry
Vance Gorham
March 28, 2009
Apostle Benny Claytor,
Hello Pastor it's been quite some time since my last letter to you. I know that you are enjoying the presence of the Lord as you taught us that one day you surely would. The Lord has crowned you with the promised reward for your faithfullness and service. You forever inspired my life and to this very day I often think about how much you loved people especially my oldest sister. You were an example of how a loving husband was to treat his wife and how a father was to provide for his family. I am truely blessed to have had you as my FIRST pastor and to have had Billie Gorham as my father. I love you and I miss you so very much. Your quieted demeanor spoke more to a righteous spirit than of ANY other person I've ever known. I TRUELY thank God for you and I long to celebrate with you and the assembly of God on that glorious day. Your work was NOT in vain; many men and women were inspired by your ministry and because of your teaching, preaching, and example we can boldly proclaim to a dying world that Christ is Lord! Thank you brother-in-law for EVERYTHING! Get your rest!
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
January 1, 2009
Dearest Baby!
Well, Happy New Year in Heaven!
It is a beautiful New Year! I thank God that in His Soverign Will that He let me live on.
It is my desire to seek my Master's Will as never before. I know He is depending on me to reach many new people this year for His Kingdom Residence.
Baby I truly understand "My Divine Purpose" on this earth. No, it's not about material gain, and Lord knows we enjoyed a gratifying life together on this earth for 37 years!!!
However, after my journey of your departure, I'm not intimidated, competing, running in the fast lane or none of the sort. As you would always say, this "redderick", I want no part.
My life has been broken only to be put back together again by the "Potter". I can say, tonight, New Year's Day, 2009, I've been redeemed! I see the light! I'm set free to do Your Will!
I know what it means when we sing, "I Will Trust In The Lord, Till I Die!
Thank you "Lord. God" for taking "Me" there.
There was so much "pain", for the last three and a half years, but "You" came thru for "Me".
I receive any and all instructions "You" have for me.
I know that "You" Lord, have given "me" a charge that "I" have to keep.
I want to see "many" People healed, falling under to Power of God, set free to live again, and teach it to others.
That is how our ministry of " A Church Without Walls" was born!
I've taken off the sack cloths, and "in 2009, I'm Flyin"
I love you baby, I miss you, and yes! You passed me "The Baton".
I receive it! I'm happy again! Took four years, but I made it!!! Thank you my "Lord"
Happy New Year in Heaven Baby,
I'll love you the rest of my life,
Your widowed wife,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
December 26, 2008
My dearest "Baby"
Good morning in "Heaven",
Merry Christmas!
I thank God for being able to minister to "New Widows" this year! It was a journey, but to God Be The Glory!
It is my fourth Christmas since you left us. It took the four years for me to have a desire to live again.
So many people, even church people do not understand the journey of a widow! God you're working it out for us all!
I have really gotten the Widows organization off the ground.
I love helping the women! I want to spear head a "Widows Home" here in Bridgeport, in Claytor's Ministry Honor. Your spirit is with me, assuring me, I can do it with God's leading!
Here's to Christmas!
I sometimes think we expect too much of Christmas Day. We try to crowd into it the long arrears of kindliness and humanity of the whole year. As for me, I like to take my Christmas a little at a time, all through the year. And thus I drift along into the holidays - let them overtake me unexpectedly - waking up some fine morning and suddenly saying to myself: "Why, this is Christmas Day!" ~David Grayson
Merry Christmas Baby,
Your Widow, Forever,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
December 17, 2008
Good morning Baby!
I sure do love you! I dedicate this song to you today!
Baby I love you! You were the desire of my heart!
Come, ye disconsolate, where'er ye languish;
Come to the mercy-seat, fervently kneel;
Here bring your wounded hearts, here tell your anguish,
Earth has no sorrow that heaven cannot heal.
Joy of the comfortless, light of the straying,
Hope of the penitent, fadeless and pure;
Here speaks the Comforter, tenderly saying--
Earth has no sorrow that heaven cannot cure.
Here see the Bread of Life; see waters flowing
Forth from the throne of God, pure from above;
Come to the feast of love; come, ever knowing
Earth has no sorrow but heaven can remove.
This Christmas, baby, I am able to celebrate! I am still missing you greatly, but I am able to move forward! Now I really know the pain will become more bearable each year.
I cry as I write this but, I know I can make it through this Christmas. I just remember all the things we used to do at Christmas time.
The memories are numerous! Bennyta
and I are going forth in your precious
memory.
Happy holidays Baby,
Your Widowed Wife,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
December 5, 2008
My dearest "baby" Benny,
I sure do love the very thought of you. My memories of you, are deep!!!
Music, when soft voices die
Music, when soft voices die,
Vibrates in the memory—
Odours, when sweet violets sicken,
Live within the sense they quicken.
Rose leaves, when the rose is dead,
Are heaped for the beloved's bed;
And so thy thoughts, when thou art gone,
Love itself shall slumber on.
By Percy Bysshe Shelley
The Poetry Foundation
Love your widowed wife forever,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
October 27, 2008
My Baby! I sure do love the very memory of you!
When I am dead, my dearest
When I am dead, my dearest,
Sing no sad songs for me;
Plant thou no roses at my head,
Nor shady cypress tree:
Be the green grass above me
With showers and dewdrops wet;
And if thou wilt, remember,
And if thou wilt, forget.
I shall not see the shadows,
I shall not feel the rain;
I shall not hear the nightingale
Sing on, as if in pain:
And dreaming through the twilight
That doth not rise nor set,
Haply I may remember,
And haply may forget.
By Christina Rossetti
The Poetry Foundation
Your Widow forever,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
October 7, 2008
Remember
Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.
By Christina Rossetti
The Poetry Foundation
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
September 27, 2008
Good evening baby,
"The Lord passed before [Moses] and proclaimed, 'The Lord, the Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, but who will by no means clear the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children and the children's children, to the third and fourth generation.' And Moses quickly bowed his head toward the earth and worshipped." Exodus 34:6-8
I am so privileged to write to you tonight! I love you so much.
My heart cries out to you! I'm stronger & wiser now!
I had a lovely time at my first Widow 2 Widow Conference. My was I glad to be with those women. It gave me purpose for this new stage in my life.
My new work will focus on the building up of chapters in community, state and the northeast.
As I've learned since your eartly departure, that this life can be very lonely. I was amazed to learn that we loose as much as 75 percent of friends after we widow, as well as in many cases 75 percent of our income.
Again, I will not remarry or none of the sort. I respect our wonderful life together for 37 years and the fact that you were such a blessing to me.
I want to always keep the memory of you alone fresh in my mind and heart.
Therefore, I've adopted the 3R's in my life: when tempted: to come against evil thoughts or twisting the truth; as soon as it comes,
1. Recognize it, he wants me to blow my testimony.
2. Reject it, Eccles. 10:4, calmness can lay great errors to rest-equivalent to valium.
3. Replace it with a verse in the bible-Ephesians 6- Deut. 29:29- 1 Corinthians . 13:12- 2 Corinthians . 4:8- James 1:2-3 Matthews 2-8.
I love you forever.
Your widowed wife,
Gerry
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
September 7, 2008
Good morning, Baby!
How aer you in Heaven Land today?
Must really be beautiful! I love you and I miss you greatly. It has been extremely difficult for me to adjust, but Lord, you know, I'm still standing, and I see, I know, You are the Lord, and You Understand.
Baby, I am so happy, I'm going to my first National Widows Conference, in Quarryville, PA. I'll be there Friday-Sunday. I can't wait to meet and fellowship with these women. It's just what I've been looking for. I know God is going to meet us there!
I can't wait to share the details with you.
I love you so much, and your love IS the only love, I choose to ever know,
Your widowed Wife,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Vance Gorham
August 20, 2008
My dear and beloved Pastor, Brother-In-Law, mentor, and friend. Oh how the body of Christ (earthly church)misses your teaching, preaching, and development of strong Christian soldiers. I personally miss your kind hearted but effective, and fervent way of proclaiming 'Thus saith the Lord' to ALL of God's children regardless of their situation or circumstance. You had a genuine love for everyone you came in contact with. You and the prophetess had a wonderful, loving, and fulfilling life together one that modeled the Godly unification between a man and a woman who loved God, each other, and the Gospel ministry. You touched so many lives, especially mine. I recall of when I was a young boy how you brought us into the church and put us to work and taught us how to read the scripture with conviction, and how you taught us that we had a responsibility to God of proclaiming his Gospel and lifting up his Son Jesus to all that had ears. You were my very FIRST Pastor; helping to instill a spiritual usefullness to other pastors that I served under. They knew that I had been raised in the Church correctly. I thank God and I thank you for ALL that you have meant to me, to the Church, to the city of Bridgeport, and most of all how you treated my sister like the QUEEN that she really is. I love you PASTOR, I miss you, and I shall see you again. Rest comfortably knowing that the Lord will watch over Gerry, Bennyta, and your loved ones until the day of our grand gathering.
Evelyn Nichols
August 18, 2008
Dear Uncle Benny & Aunt Gerry,
Reading your entry just made me cry. How I wish to have a relationship like yours. The two of you showed me the real meaning of LOVE and I won't settle for anything less then that. You were always complimenting each other. The two of you loved to look in each others eyes and just admire the love that you have and showed towards each other. Seeing that was awesome.
Happy Birthday in Heaven Uncle Benny! You will be forever remembered and Missed!
Love,
Evvvvvvvvvviiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeee
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
August 16, 2008
Dearest Benny, Baby!
My, how time flies. Baby, just think, you would be 65 years old today, August 17, 2008.
Sometimes, it seems like you are still here, but just at work or out. Then at other times, It's like a dream. Everything happened so quick.
I know now, after 3 years and reading up a lot on the life of a widow, that my life will never be the same.
I have to pick up the pieces, find a new life, almost a total new life. I've researched until, I've come across what is good and perfect for me!
I've discovered a group that understand widows for who they are. I'm eternally grateful to God for that.
I thank God for all that you taught me. No one can mislead me, or trap me in a snare, because you spent so much time in traing with me. For that I'm truly appreciative. You were an awesome man. A God sent.
I intimately admire the time on earth that our God gave you to me. We shared many fond memories.
I shall forever sing in my heart, "You're The Wind Beneath My Wings" . I'm still soaring to heights unknown. Some glad morning when this life is over for me, I'll fly away to be caught up in the heavens to join you again.
Don't worry, I'll meet you at the pearly gates.
Our baby always say, "Daddy will be saying, I have to clean up, Gerry's coming home.
You were such a gentleman. I could announce that I was all packed up to go on a trip, as you came home from work at 4:30pm.
You'd run inside to use bathroom, turn your car around, look at me in amazement, and take me to the train station.
When my trip was completed, you'd be waiting for me at the train station, no matter what the hour was.
Baby I love the very thought of you.
I could write all night, but I'm going to conclude for tonight by saying, Happy 65th birthday in heaven.
It's a place where you want to live forever! How do I know? The bible tells me so.
Good night in heaven baby.
Your widow,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
August 14, 2008
Dearest Benny,
I love you and miss you sooooo, much! I want you to know,
I have memories in my pocket.
They rattle among the change.
My memories of you are treasures I carry wherever I go.
They are stored in bits and pieces, parts of a beautiful whole
They give me comfort when I think I am alone.
Yes, I have memories in my pocket, like so much other stuff I keep there.
But of all the treasures I have, it’s the memories of you that are the most precious.
I will always CHERISH OUR LOVE!
YOUR WIDOW, FOREVER,
GERRY
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
July 17, 2008
Dearest Darling Benny: It's Me Again!!
A sweet poem from you to me...
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2008
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
June 15, 2008
Hello Baby!, "The Apostle",
Good afternoon, and "Happy Father's Day"!
Princess and I really miss you!!
However, you got one of the greatest gifts of your life, for on "Father's Day", June, 17, 1979, Princess was born! Yes, on Father's Day!
You were a great father to her! She tells the story, like none else can.
I remember, when we got married, how you wanted me to wait, to give birth to our baby, because you were not ready for fatherhood, yet. I did, I waited 10 years! You were ready!!
Princess has lovely memories and pictures of your fatherhood to relate too.
As a father, your job, was to prepare her for bed at night!
She remembers you tossing her in the air, and then upside down, and back over and catching her with your feet!!
She remembers you, coming to Land Mark Academy in Georgetown, CT, to all of her plays, concerts, recitals, conferences.
You were so handsome and sharp, she knew all those teachers would just be looking at you.
She was so proud that you were her daddy!! She would always snuggle right up beside you and hold your hand, then you'd pick her up and carry her.
How about you and her, always watching those crazy wrestlers, eating popcorn, and drinking those big bottles of soda.
I just hated that, and you would look up at me, and laugh and say, come on Gerry!! It's fun, she'd laugh at me, and curl up in your arms.
As if that was'nt enough, , each morning when you would take her to high school, at Notre Dame Catholic High School, Fairfield, CT, she talked you into driving school, and yes, buying her a car, at 16 years old!
My, my, the things she could talk you into, yes, behind my back, you little weasles!
You both knew how tough I was!! Yes, I was the diciplinarian, so I was the bad guy!
Wow!! Can you believe God left me behind, to deal with that woman? Your little, Miss, Woman!! Whew!! I need you!! I need you from heaven!!
She really looks just like you, and act just like you!
On the spiritual side we all know that
parents who neglect their responsibilities in teaching their children biblical tradition do so at their own peril.
Spiritual education of the children stood, as it were, foremost in the mind of God.
Even with the feast of the Passover, God wanted the children to be taught about their past.
God desires that parents instruct their children in the fear of the Lord.
Children should be taught to memorize the Ten Commandments, segments of the Sermon on the Mount, and many other Scriptures, such as, for example, John 3:16.
One purpose in teaching children about the Scriptures is in order that they might not sin against God.
The psalmist writes: “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you” (Psalm 119:11).
Fathers teach by example, that is to say, by their language and by neglect of that which is of value.
Also, a father who does not pray is teaching his children not to pray. A father who fails to neglect the public assembly of the saints is teaching his children to neglect it.
The one who does not read his Bible is teaching his children not to read it. To allow a child to grow up without religious training would be the same as to allow your garden to be overrun with weeds, briars, and thorns.
If the parent does not instruct his or her child, the child, too, will be overtaken with the ways of the world.
If a father does not teach his children truth, then others will teach them error.
How should a father bring up his children? Listen to Paul: “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).
You trained Princess well!! You were a great father to her!!
Thank you!!, for being the father of my baby!!
We love you eternally!!
Love ever reigning in my heart,
"Your Baby Momma"
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
June 3, 2008
My dearest love, my, "Baby", "The Apostle",
Happy 3rd, Birthday In Heaven!!
I thank God, that He Said in:Exodus 22:22-24
22 Ye shall not afflict any widow, or fatherless child.
23 If thou afflict them in any wise, and they cry at all unto me, I will surely hear their cry;
24 And my wrath shall wax hot, and I will kill you with the sword; and your wives shall be widows, and your children fatherless.
When bowed down with trouble and distress, the bridal soul soon discovers that only her heavenly Bridegroom can bring her relief.
Not only is He quick to see what's weighing her down, but also He is strong and able to carry her burden.
She knows beyond all doubt: If I lose Him, there is no one else to whom I can turn, no one else who really understands me in my innermost being.
Our heavenly Bridegroom is the only one who is able to help us.
He knows and understands us because He made us.
His loving eye penetrates the depths of our beings, noticing even the slightest emotion.
He knows what stirs our souls, what makes our hearts ache, what fills us with yearning.
He sees and understands it all, and He alone can touch us at our place of deepest need.
He waits longingly for the day when His bride will be united with Him forever in heavenly glory.
For me, it's been a long journey from losing you, Benny to embracing my Maker as my husband, and it's not over.
The unflagging love and support of family and friends have helped sustain me through difficult times.
But my heavenly bridegroom God is the one who has really brought me through.
He has stayed closer than a heartbeat. His awesome faithfulness, provision and unconditional love rescued me from the depression and self-pity
I was tempted to indulge in. And gradually He has taught me that He alone is sufficient for me.
Through these three years, I have learned to reach out confidently to His open, outstretched arms.
My heart is at peace; I've come home to my Maker, my Husband--who is also our Healer, our Provider, our Shepherd, our Banner, our Righteousness and the Lover of our souls.
I am sending pictures of "Our Baby, Princess's Graduation & a Picture of "Our Headstone". I know you will like them both and you'll be so proud of us.
It's really been challenging living without your love, safety, support, and protection. Without God, never could have made it!!!
We're living in your "Legacy Baby.
I am being Concentrated by Bishop Kenneth Moales, on Sunday, July, 6, 2008, at 5:00pm as an Elder in The Pentecostal Assembly Churches.
He reviewed our Charter and I will Resume the Claytor's Ministry, but I've now made it an Evangelistic Outreach.
I am Opening a Feed The Children, Food Pantry, on or around July 30th.
I already have a sucessful Winter Coat & Toy drive.
My Outreach Ministry as you know, services, PTB, I just love that Community.
I am finalizing a Sunday Morning Ministry Outreach Service at 11:00am. As I lead souls to Christ, I'll deposit them in to Bishop & Lady Moales's Ministry.
They were there for Princess and I!!!
Until next time, baby, I sure do love you.
I'm fasting and praying for miracles.
My scheduling of appointments are already being set up.
I'm ready to goth forth again, doing the work of Him that sent me!!!
Oh, well, I'll just keep on blessing the wonderful name of Jesus.
Your Widowed Wife,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
March 12, 2008
Tuesday, March, 12, 3:25 am
Good morning in Heaven, "Baby",
I am encouraged!! I want to let you know, Princess And I are starting to adjust more and more each day.
It is so difficult without you, but God does keep us in His care. God is an everlasting leaning post.
I really thank "Him", that I am a sparrow when I'm broken, but I'm an "Eagle", when I fly.
You spoke of the Eagle in many of your messages down through the years.
I'm flying again. Princess is too.
She has approximately eight weeks until graduation from University of Bridgeport, her Bachelor of Science in Human Service.
She is pursing her MBA, from either Fairfield University, Sacred Hart, or University of Bridgeport.
She is not going to attend Albertus Magnus at this time.
She remains on the National Dean's List.
I'm ready to get back on the field at this time, spiritually.
Bishop Moales is going to "Consecrate" me, under the "Pentecostal Assemblies Church.
I will remain "Prophetess Gerry Claytor's Ministries", but under his covering.
He and Lady Moales, their family, have been a great support and strength for Bennyta & I. We just love them, and will be forever celebrating them and their works.
Princess has joined the choir at the "Tabernacle", I am so happy. She's singing away.
I'm consecrating on the family, a lot.
Daddy's right leg was amputated on February, 19, 2008.
He's still in the hospital. He's not taking this so well. He says if God takes him, he's ready to go.
He says he's tired, but I hope he'll recover. He'll be 82 in November, however, we'll have to adjust to God's will, but you know how I love my daddy, and my family.
I stay in touch with your family through Eddie and Valerie. I talk to Eddie two to three times a week. We call each other.
I love you so much!!! I'll remain the "Apostle's Widow".
I know I won't find anyone who can fill your track record, so I won't even bother!!!
I'm still aspiring to be size 8, wearing 4 inch heels.
I kiss you good night in heaven, everynight, and good morning in heaven, every day.
Peace will be still, until I join you in "Heaven"
Lots of lovely memories,
Your Widow,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
January 13, 2008
Good evening in Heaven Baby!!!
Before I even update you to January, 2008, may I share with you, that I greet about 12-13 pictures of you in my bedroom, all around my bed, and other places, each morning & night, by picking each one up, smiling and looking at you, kissing each one and saying good morning & good night in heaven, Baby.
I watch you on Video & listen to your tapes, because I don't ever want to forget the sound of your voice. Everytime, I view you on video, it gives me a real sense of you being there with me.
I can now, say, that you died, I know you are in heaven and at peace. I miss you so much, I still hear your feet steps coming up the stairs to our bedroom.
I can still sense you removing your jewelry, pocket book, belt, coat and yes, even you sitting down on the side of the bed, leaning back slightly to take your socks and shoes off.
I can still visualize you getting into bed. You are still so real in my life. It's great memories!!!
So much has transpired since your birthday.
I retired, I stepped out on faith and desires to embark upon Ministy , full time. I also have a Business, YTB. I own a Online Travel Agency, and GC Enterprise.
I am extremely busy getting the businesses up and going, but I'll be alright.
Princess and I moved. We were reluctant and very sadden at first to leave the house, but you told me in a dream, to go, it is nice for us, and that you were moving there with us.
It was a couple of weeks until we adjusted, but now we truly like living in the condo.
It is so beautiful, tranquil, such serenity, you know, you're here.
I retired on October 5, 2007, from the Board of Ed. I know you can't believe it, you know how much I loved working there, but I want to evangelize Internationally, so I need to transform to another level of committment.
I had my "Retirement Celebration Party" on November, 29, 2007. I had a great time!!
I also went on my first 40 Day-Night Water Only Fast. It was powerful, but extremely crucifying of my flesh. It was all to His "Glory", and for "My", good.
I asked Him to make Me over, He did just that. I am not the same, I'll never be the same again. I'm made over!!!
I'm so glad about it!! I was aired on Channel 8, News, about my fast. It was a beautiful opportunity.
I now walk again, almost daily or several times a week, 5.4 tenths miles per day. I'm getting lots of exercise.
Princess is doing well!!! All she ever talks about is, I promised my father, I'd finish school.
She is still on the National Dean's List and will graduate on May 10, 2008, four months!!! To God be the "Glory". It has been rough for her, but thanks be to God!!!
She attend orientation for enrollment to Albertus Magnus-MBA Program. She's going imemdiately into their Master's Prigram, which she can obtain within one and a half years.
She's going after her doctorate also. She knows you'll be there cheering her on with your lips quivering & tears welling up in your eyes.
I'll be doing the Holy Dance, she already said it, God permitting.
Well, it's still difficult, but Princess & I know that we have to live on!! That's what you would want for us.
You spent all your time loving and taking care of us, so as we "shake it off", "take it off", take it all off", we'll live, prosperous here and live to meet you again.
I'm going to remain a widow, "Apostle Benny Claytor's Widow", so I can live in your "Legacy".
You were one of the greatest men that ever walked this earth. I'm glad you were my Hero!!
I'll always love you. And yes, thanks for leaving memories behind in Princess, she behaves just like you.
When I looked into your "Big Brown Eyes", you made my heart skip a beat.
I loved waking up "every morning ", looking into your handsome, gorgeous, face. It was a joy!!!, and I would tell you so.
I sure do love you,
Your Widow,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Angela Jacobs
October 18, 2007
Pastor Claytor;
I really dont know where to begin, but I'll say first, THAT I THINK OF YOU EVERYDAY. I cant understand how I have become so successful so quick but I do know you have a big part of it. Im in in school,I'm licensed in CNA, MA, AND Medical Reseptionists, I graduated, I have my driver's license, and I have kept a job, steady. This has happened to me in 1 year and I know its you and The Lord who's giving me the strength and the STRONG FAITH to keep going on my own. I remember you always told me that,"God has something in store for you", Angela, just wait". I remember those exact words coming out of your mouth and let me tell you, God has been blessing me! But still there's something missing in my life right now and that's church. I mean I read The Bible still and I always pray, but there's nothing like sitting in church, but I still haven't found a pastor so caring, and spiritual,and LOVING like you,and I know know no pastor can never be you but, I JUST MISS YOU AND PROPHETESS SOOO MUCH. Everytime I think of you, I CRY, because I wish you can be here physically to see what I have accomplished, but I know your watching from above in a better place. My family's doing well, and my next step is COLLEGE for RN classes.
I LOVE YOU PASTOR AND I MISS YOU SOOOOOO SOOO SOOO MUCH!
Evelyn Nichols
October 10, 2007
Hi Uncle Benny,
I could have really used you this past week or so. Amy was in the hospital and we really needed a break-through prayer. But I remember what you taught us and I prayed and stayed positive and the outcome was great! I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you and that I missed you. Until that day...love you always and forever!
Evie!!
Ernestine Davis
August 21, 2007
Hi Brother-in-Law,
It's your sister-in-law. Sometimes I wonder why we write to an email page. But, when we can't talk to you about just how much you touched our hearts, we just write it here for others to read. So after all, it's alright to express our feelings toward you here. I know your birthday was August 17th, but sometimes I get yours and Bennyta's confused. Therefore, I wasn't as prompt at saying "Happy Birthday" this year. But guess what, it's never too late. We love you and know you are resting faithfully until God comes back to judge the world.
Jacqueline Jacobs aka (Young)
August 21, 2007
Happy Birthday Elder Claytor,
You know this month is the best birthdays from the Claytor's Ministries/ House of Prayer: Elder Claytor,(8-17) Bro. Angel,(8-2) Jaquina Young,(8-15) Jacqueline Young now Jacobs(8-22), yes Elder I did get married you told me you would make it happen, and you did through your eldest child kim Amerson now Cotton. So much has happen and I also miss you. The quality of man that you were is very unique; few and far between. After having a Pastor such as yourself it has not been anyone yet to stand in dignity quite like yourself. I expect my other Pastors to be of the same standards as you, unfortunately that is not so. Then again you expected a lot more from me as well. I know that in God's time when I am in the place where God wants me to be I can honestly say Elder Claytor saw it first in me. I thank you for all the love and concern that you showed me. When I graduated with my Bachelors and Masters. Also when I lost my dad and then my mom you cried with me and I know it was real. You always showed concern for Jaquina and I, for that I thank you. I often talk about you to Kenneth and share the memories from the church that we shared. It was an awesome time and I will always remember you. I love you dearly and miss you more. I am so grateful for Deacon Thomas for inviting me to the House of Prayer for all people because it was an opportunity for me to meet and share with a great man of God. A man full of integrity, one who taught that "after all is said and done and at the end of the day", your name is all that you have and we should strive to have a good name. Such profound words and messages that came from you. There were three men in my life that have made a huge impact in my life; my dad of course James C. Walker, Dr. Wayne E. Anderson and of course you Elder Benny Claytor. I could only prayer my husband Kenneth Jacobs can be as great a man as you guys are. I miss you and my dad so much, for it was the two of you that show me what a good man should be like. Thank you for all your teachings.....Jaquina is fine and she misses you also. She is still in North Carolina in the city of Charlotte. Well Elder my birthday is tommorow and you know I have been celebrating all month. I saw Bennyta at the Beardsley Terrace Reunion and it was a good time. (You know how I do, I like to have fun and enjoy life) I know you wish me a "Happy Birthday" and I just have to do the same for you.
Bye Elder
Evelyn Nichols
August 20, 2007
Hi Uncle Benny,
It's been a long time since I have talked to you. I miss you so much. Everything is different now. But I know it's for the best. You would always tell me "Girl God has a plan for your life!" I had a little girl now Uncle Benny I know you would love her...she looks like Bennyta's baby pictures(ha-ha). I know this wasn't the path that you wanted me to go down but it happen and I know that you would accept her with open arms. I miss you calling me Evvvvvvvvvvvvvieeeeeeeee and I would respond by saying Uncle Bennnnnnnnnny!
I remember when you use to pray so hard for us all and you would say we will have to constantly pray because the devil is always after us but God is always ahead of us. I remember when you use to lay hands on us all and we would be filled with the Holly Spirit time and time again.
Uncle Benny you were a Great Man, great husband, father, brother, uncle, and cousin to everyone that knew you, but above all that you were a Powerful, Spirit filled, foot stomping, tongue talking Pastor.
You will never know the impact that you had on my life. I have learned so many valuable things about life from you and your teachings. You were a man of great power and you wanted everyone to be saved and filled with the holy ghost.
You were a very quite person but when it came to the word of God you spoke with a voice of triumph. You would always pray over the house so that we would be safe and never want for anything. I thank you because you and Aunt Gerry showed me so many different parts of the world and you never asked for a dime. I remember when me and Stumphy use to fight and you would know that he started it and you would say "boy leave that girl alone" because you knew that he started it. I remember when we use to go out to eat you would let us order anything on the menu and never told us to stop. I remember how me and Aunt Gerry use to go to New York and spend all of your money and you were happy just because we were happy and had fun. I remember how happy you were when I got the scholarship to go to school and you said that I should thank God.
Uncle Benny you were the best uncle/dad anyone could ask for. I miss you sooooooooooooo much. I have your picture on my night stand because I could never forget a man like you that loved people so much and prayed for us so much and would do anything for your family to be saved. There aren't many people out there like you and I'm just glad that I got to be in your life to see how real God is.
You're still the most hansom man I have ever seen!!
Love,
Evie
Valerie Hall
August 18, 2007
Happy Birthday Uncle Benny.
I sit and cry for you more than people will think, but I know deep down that you are in a better place. Even with that knowledge, it is still hard to think of you not being here to call, go see, being annoited with holy oil by your holy hands. You have always been there for me no matter what it was. You have shared in every importany moment in my life. getting married, having my children, life threatening operations, ect. You have always been my rock I always knew that I could come to you for anything and upon leaving you I knew it would alll be better. I miss you dearly and can't wait to see you on the other side. What a day of rejoicing that will be. Uncle Benny I love you.
Prophetess Gerry Claytor on her first Cruise. on the
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
August 17, 2007
My Dearset Baby, Benny:
It's me !!! "Prophetess Gerry Claytor", The Apostle's Wife.
Happy 64th Birthday in Heaven!! It's your third birthday in Heaven!!
As I sit here and honor your birthday in loving & heavenly memory, I shed tears, but I can truly say, three birthdays later, I've learned how to lean and depend on Jesus!!
I never realized, I leaned heavily on you!! Just think, you took me straight from my Father & Mother's safety. I was only 181/2, when we met, and 20 years old when we married. What a life!! We really shared a great life.
We were not saved when we met, so I remember you always going out with your friends, but calling back home to see if I was still there waiting for you.
You could not believe that I would wait for you and not go out into the street with girl friends, family members, co-workers or none of the sort.
You were estatic to know that I could not only dress well, but that I could cook, keep a clean house and make you clothes!!
You told everybody about your 18 years old girl friend & wife.
I remember you telling me, you were not a jealous man, you could be, don't make me. Those were powerful words.
People didn't know, I did like to tease you, but those gorgeous eyes would follow me, and I knew how for to go.
You were ohhhhhhh so gorgeous!! I loved waking up everyday, looking at your pretty face!!
I loved, having you kiss the tip of my right hand pointer about ten times in the morning.
And how about when I stood in the kitchen with your goodies for the day, and upon recieving your good bye kiss, I'd say two, then I'd say, five, you would laugh and say, "come on girl" , then I'd say ten. Guess what? You'd stand there leaning over, laughing giving me ten kisses, none stop!!
My!! What a love? Who can top that? At night, I'd trace your beautiful eyes and the dimple, WOW!!
When were were riding together in your car, with the girls: Kim & Benntya, or later years, Evie & Stumpy; we'd be secretly hold hands across the front seat in the dark.
I'd squeeze your hand, and I would feel a tighter squeeze, and what love would radiate.
Baby you treated me like "Your Queen", there's nothing on this side of earth, I would want that I did not experience with, through, by, because of you. You left me wanting for entirely nothing more.
Baby, I am blessed to have been one "Woman", whom knew real, real, real, love.
I tell many people, talk about the "Power of real love", been there done that. If you felt that I was lacking anything in love, I iniated the lack, guess what? You responded. Now, if that isn't love? Then the sky isn't blue.
Life with you left me "FILLED-FULL", After sharing tid bits our our life with Bishop Kenneth H. Moales Sr. , he described our relationship as "Me being fulfiied". I am, "FILLED FULL".
Life has been quite a transition, in the last two years, but I can see clearly now that the rain is gone.
No body, not anybody on this side of earth can trick me. You always said, girl, I am teaching you to be intelligent in this world in regards to "Men", and you better not ever be fooled by "Men".
I got the Lord, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit man, that's enough.
I know in whom I believe. The Lord God, Jesus, & the Holy Spirit Man, they're my husband, my protector, my everything. I dream about you a lot.
Again, I am sitting here crying, but it's differen. I know you're safe in heaven with the Lord Jesus Christ.
I know the preached word tells me, you don't want to come back. It's joy up there.
Don't worry, I'll meet you up there. I'll still be "The Apostle's Wife."
The baby, is doing great in school.
She says, I promised my father, I'd finish school.
She's still on the "National Dean's List".
She's going Monday, to put in place specifics for her MBA, she'll be done in 18 months. I know you'll be there cheering us on.
I'm enrolling in the New York School of Prophecy, this fall.
I'm retiring, September 28, 2007, from the Board of Ed. Guess what? With full Pension and Benefits.
Remember how you always taught the people, that they would need some benefits for later years of life.
You told that over and over to the people that chose to remain on the State.
Well, I'm headed off to put Red & White Roses on your Head Stone.
I've stopped crying and now, I'm preparing to celebrate!!
I love the memory of you baby. I have kissed about 12 pictures of you today.
HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, 64th BIRTHDAY , in Heaven.
Your Wife,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
PS, I sent you another picture of me.
Gerry at The International Association of Minister's Wives And Widows, Nassau, Bahamas, June 28, 07
Prophetess Geraldine Claytor
August 13, 2007
My dearest Love," Apostle Benny Claytor,
Asleep in Jesus! Blessèd sleep,
From which none ever wakes to weep;
A calm and undisturbed repose,
Unbroken by the last of foes.
Asleep in Jesus! Oh, how sweet,
To be for such a slumber meet,
With holy confidence to sing
That death has lost his venomed sting!
Asleep in Jesus! Peaceful rest,
Whose waking is supremely blessed;
No fear, no woe, shall dim that hour
That manifests the Savior’s power.
Asleep in Jesus! Oh, for me
May such a blessèd refuge be!
Securely shall my ashes lie
And wait the summons from on high.
Asleep in Jesus! Far from thee
Thy kindred and their graves may be;
But there is still a blessèd sleep,
From which none ever wakes to weep.
Well!! Baby you are celebrating your third birthday in Heaven!! I know it is grand up there.
I want to wish you a very heavenly birthday!!
I inserted a new photo of me. It's just for you. It will blow you away. I still look like your girl, right!!
This picture was taken at The International Association of Minister's Wives & Widows, Awards Banquet, Thursday night, June 28,2007. Guess what? I received an outstanding award. "The International Minister's Widow " of the Year was awarded to me. Myself and the state of Connecticut was so happy!! Other states were happy also.
A very lot of transition has taken place in the last two years. I never realized how it would be without your life's partner. I know we were close and loved each other immensely, but ohhh do I ever miss you!!
I know you are with the Lord and don't want to return to this troubled world, so I'm living so I can meet you again someday.
"Claytor's Ministry" is no longer an Active Church, however, it is now "Prophetess Gerry Claytor's International Ministries."
I am taking our Ministry abroad. You knew, I always wanted to be an International Lecturer. You passed the Baton, and I'm taking it to the Millenium Heights.
I've spent two years flowing in teachings of the Holy Spirit, Fasting, and Healing. I remember many of the techniques you used and I'm basking in them also.
I can't wait to exercise the gifts of God that He's manifested through me. People will be blessed as I watch them fall under the Anointing and Power of God!!!
Princess is doing very well in College. She is on the National Dean's List and will graduate in December or May.
Oh yes. I'm retiring from the Board of Ed the last week of September, 2007.
I've enjoyed working for the Board but I want to give Ministry more of my time.
I go to your gravesite almost everyday. I seek your opinion for many decisions.
I will close now until next time. I love you and I will always keep you in my fondest memories always.
Happy 64th birthday!!
Friday, August 17, 2007
Your wife,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
July 15, 2007
Be Still
Be still like the grass on a melancholy summer day
Be still like desert shrub.
Be calm and you will hear your loved one speak, in the stillness, in the calm, their love resounds.
If you are still this promise I make, you will hear the voice of your loved one helping you along your way.
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
May 22, 2007
Hi Baby!!
Heaven must be a beautiful place.
It's almost another year that has passed and gone. I miss you soooo much.
I know that you are at peace with the Holy, Holy, Holy Father in heaven, but sometimes I just still ask both God & you, what happened to Benny? I also tell Him, Father, God, Jesus Christ Holy Spirit man, please forgive me if I'm not to question you? But I do know in all honesty that You know just how much I can bear. I'm holding Your hand, and You're holding mine, and that's enough.
You know what, it's my birthday today!! I started to tear up on last Thursday, because I realized you would not be with me, so on today, I was able to get through the day without breaking down.
I visit you at the gravesite almost everyday.
I want to let you know that the people at my job threw a big suprise party for me.
They really staged a suprise and I knew nothing about it. They all really suprised me. I just cried and told God, this was so beautiful and it was more than sufficient.
You know, Princess is doing very well in school. She made the National Deans list. She is hoping to complete her degree in either December or this coming May.
She now works for the State of CT, Gateway Community College & partime at Sacred Heart.
She is going on her first trip since high school for the holiday. She's going to Atlanta for Memorial Day.
The church is growing again. We reference your teachings a very lot.
I just want you to know, that I will always love the memory of you, and I won't, you know I won't ever let anyone else change that. My life's memory will always be in honor of you. You were a great man, a good man, and a wonderful husband, father and pastor.
I love you ,
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
May 12, 2007
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2007
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
October 21, 2006
Now Stephen, full of grace (divine blessing and favor) and power (strength and ability) worked great wonders and signs (miracles) among the people. Acts 6: 8
Well Hello!! Baby, The Apostle"
It's ME, Prophetess Gerry Claytor, The Apostle's Wife!!
How's heaven? I know you are there helping our God decorate and keep everything decent, clean and in order.
You know, as I use and prepare to use all of the fine instruments, supplies, technology, furniture,
christian literature, Cassocks and Cinctures, I'm reminded how you treasured those precious items.
I look at our Hammond B3 Organ, and I remember how when Jan at Perkin-Elmer made you an offer, you were estatic!! You never let anything happen to the items that were used to glorify God.
I have adopted even a greater respect and the test of time is proving me to be just like you. I find myself actually quoting so many things you taught us, and I stand in full agree with the scriptures that states " "Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do. he will do also; and greater works than these he will do because I go to My Father" (John 14:12).
I thank God almighty, for I am finally getting stronger!! I miss you so much in so many ways.
Again, it never even crossed my mind that someday I would be without you, never to see you again physically.
I just started to put my leg and feet on your side of the bed. I kept your spot sacred and untouched. But now, I just remember you being there and I know your spirit is protecting me.
I sleep everynight with your picture. I made an 8 1/2x11,copy of you in your casket and you watch over me every night. You sit right on our dresser watching over me. I wake up only to see you smiling at me.
You bring me much peace, love and serenity. Your picture is a lovely picture. You are smiling gently and just appear to be resting.
When I sleep in our guess room, I bring it down there too.
Just like a little girl carrying her favorite baby doll everywhere she goes.
I take your picture too, even when I travel, I take it with me.
I'm really getting better, I have to move on. You would want me to do that.
The ministry is starting to pick up again.
I have some lovely friends who wants and do support our ministry. They come and help me out. I too, like you, am flowing in the Prophetic Healing Ministry.
I have soooo much more to share, but I'll talk more the next time.
Princess is doing very well in school. I know you are so glad.
Her memory and promise to you, to finish college really is keeping her inspiration channelled in the right direction.
She is doing well at the job also.
Well until next time,
I love you,
Your wife, "The Prophetess"
Geraldine Claytor
Ernestine Davis
August 18, 2006
Happy Birthday, brother-in-law! Even though you do not know it, at 11:00 PM last night, I was looking at your obituary. I knew it was your birthday and I just choose to see you by looking at your obituary!
Bennyta Claytor
August 18, 2006
Hi! Daddy
First I would like to say Happy Birthday baby! And have I told you lately that I love you? I would have never dreamed in a million years that life would be so hard without you. Some days I feel there is no purpose for me, but like you always said "this life here on earth is the worst we would ever have to endure". So many emotions run through my heart daily and I wish I could run into your arms and know it will be okay. I've been walking through a maze for a while and sometimes I almost give up, but my breakthrough is within reach. Oh! what I would give to see you again. I know you are living lavish in your mansion and I will not be selfish by holding on. God has made it possible for me to be graduating in May of 2007 and I will miss you celebrating this achievement with me. Mommy gave me the extra push and you were my #1 fan. I can remember the day I woke you up to show you my 3.5 average and you told me "Bennyta if you graduate, you will make me so proud". Well I'm going to make you proud once again. You were such a good man and an exceptional father; I thank you for loving me. I will get it right to one day see you again.
Love You Always and Forever,
Your Princess (Bennyta)
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
August 16, 2006
Good evening Baby!! "The Apostle",
It's me. I sent you a new kind of Birthday Wish. I sent you an audio birthday message!! You know me, I always did like deep, uniquely different things. So everybody, get ready, get set, go!!! I hope you'll enjoy the message. I'll be right back, after your B-Day, to bring you up to date on everything.
Oh, yes, I am conducting a "City Wide Prayer" in your honor. God knows you loved to pray. Guest what, "Me Too".
Lots of love,
Your wife, greatly Missing You!!
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
July 20, 2006
Hi Baby!! "The Apostle",
Here's from "Earth touching Heaven"!! Good news, good news!!
God is again helping me to understand my purpose in life (after your transition) and to act on that purpose with courage and strength. God has granted me a swoop blessing!! People are starting to come, seeking to be filled or refilled with the Holy Ghost & fire. They are people that have good jobs, husbands, families, cars, homes, and money!! Just like you said in the vision for over 20 years.
You know I went through for the last 14 months. I was wondering God!! What? Does holiness pay off? I knew God was by my side, but what's all this? The Lord told me this and it's blessed me.
Sometimes I feel like giving up
Seems like my best just ain't good enough
Lord if you hear me, I'm calling you
Do you see, do you care at all
About what I'm going through
One more day, one more step
I'm preparing you for myself
When you can't hear my voice
Please trust my plan
I'm the Lord, I see and yes I understand
Sometimes I feel like I'm all alone
Just like a stranger so far from home
I feel like I've done all that I can do
Please Lord give me strength
I'm just trying to make it through
He knows how much we can bear
In the time of trouble
He promised he'd always be there
I understand, I understand
I am the Lord, I see and yes I understand
I am the Lord and I changeth not
I won't forget nor have I forgot
Everything works according to my plan
I am God, trust me
I got the whole world in my hands
And to God Be The Glory!!
And guess what? Another sign of strength, I started my walking program last Wednesday.
I walk 24 miles per week. Everyday except Sundays. You always loved it for me and if it started to rain, you would get into your car & come pick me up. I'll miss that, but you'll be walking with me in the rain.
I promised you I'd be a size 8, wearing 4 inch stelettos, I'm keeping that promise. Watch and see. (Smile)
Lots of love,
Your wife Prophetess Gerry Claytor
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
July 11, 2006
Happy 36th Wedding Anniversary in Heaven...
Well, well, well, Baby
"The Apostle",
It’s a year, that's past and gone. It is sooooo hard without you!! But, "God is my King of old, accomplishing deliverances in the midst of the earth." (Psalm 74:12)
You know, I'll never forget the Sermon you preached at the Unified Free Will Baptist, Annual Conference, My "Set Back was a Set Up for my Come Back".
Wow!! Do I remember the Holy's Spirit’s Stance as you announced that title?
Everyone in that service were literally swept off their feet by the power of God, whether voluntarily or forced.
We can all readily testify that the power of the Holy Spirit sanctioned that message.
And now several years later along with your recent "Heavenly Transition", I am constantly being prodded by the Holy Spirit, that it's my signal. As a result I adopted that same anointed, "adage".
Before I move on, I need to update as to what has taken place in my/Princess’s life since the last time I made entries up until now.
Christmas was Christ only always living in us. You were so missed, as we imagined. We had dinner with Uncle Pookie and Aunt Joan and their families. They were very kind to us.
We comfort ourselves by constant reminding, that you would want us to continue on and enjoy our lives. TA DA!!
But God is good and faithful, because somehow He always sends someone to guide us through the difficulty.
"Valentines Day", little Miss Princess stepped to the plate. Without any knowledge to me at all, she staged a real surprise at my school, and even staff took an active part.
It was a total surprise, and you were there reared back with all 32's showing. I felt your presence and approval over and over again. Her thoughtful generosity brought me out alright.
She ordered the most beautiful gigantic floral arrangement, and personally delivered it to my school without any of my prior knowledge.
Then the two school secretaries called me down to the office near the end of the day, stating that someone left a package for me.
I had gone though the day, accepted your transitional, assimilated, Valentine Day Bouquet and was ok!!
But when I laid eyes on that bouquet, and after I inquired for more than ten minutes as to who sent it, upon finding out that Princess, "Bennyta", had delivered it in person, I knew that it was just another confirmation you still live in us. You would have been just flabbergasted.
Honorable Mention!!! Princess and I went our 1st Cruise, the week of February 20-24th, 2006. It was absolutely beautiful. We were guest aboard "The Majesty of the Seas, Cruise Ship.
We were guest of "The International Association of Minister's Wives Widows Association. Hosted by Dr. Janie Charles Holmes, International President.
I was one of three chosen speakers to minister aboard the ship. I spoke on Threshing Floor Prayer, which is prayer laying on your back.
I now conduct Threshing Floor prayer each Tuesday Night after Bible Study. It is awesome. Everyone attending move into new dimensions in the Lord Jesus Christ.
Easter, and Mother's Day, Princess brought me arrangements again along with cards, and I was made very happy.
Many of the past members from the church called, brought cards, money, and gifts and came to visit on Mother's Day. It was all beautiful, and the Holy Spirit let me know that I would hear from some of them.
We ate with Bishop Moales, Lady Moales and their Families. They remain so supportive of us.
Lady Moales, and some of their grandchildren gave me Mother's Day gifts and cards, I was stunned. I didn't expect anything of a sort.
Well let’s get to the big day. My birthday!! I was truly grateful for another healthy blessed day from God, but of course I started out really sad, because that's the day, you confirmed you didn't feel well and wanted to rest a bit.
Again God is faithful; over 30 people called, and or, sent flowers, cards, and money. Basically all of the past membership called or came by.
The youth were even calling me from school on their cell phones. That was thoughtful of them.
Father's Day, Bishop Moales and Lady Moales invited us as their guest. Bishop kept saying from the pulpit, that he can't let the Apostle's Wife be alone, because the Apostle would want us to share with friends. They are truly wonderful, thoughtful, concerned people of God.
On Princess's birthday, June 17th, she was really very sad and missing her daddy. She had a tough time. I was really feeling how much she missed you.
It was evident for days leading up to the actual date; however, she handled it as best as she could. You know she's basically quiet like you, so she pretty much concealed it, but I knew, and she knew I knew.
I just kept hugging and kissing her alot, and reminding her just how much she looks like you. so, we got thru that, for now.
And Fourth of July, was I ever in for a surprise? I felt I could really handle this one by now, wrong!!!
I started out ok, and then around 11:00 am, I realized I'd be alone again, and I just boohooed!!. You know, I'm not an out side picnic girl, so I wanted to stay home.
That did not work. I started to get even more lonesome.
Suddenly, I heard your spirit speak very clearly to me to say, baby do what you like to do best, go to New York, you'll be happy there.
You know!! I got dressed, got a 12:30 noon train, went to the Big Apple and had my self a grand ole ball.
You kept smiling and asking me what time was I returning home? I made it by dark. Thank you again "my love".
And now!!! Our 36th Wedding Anniversary. That's hot to trot. You are & always will be my "Sun Shine".
I still think about those gorgeous big brown eyes, the thought of them, still make "my heart skip a beat". I love you Benny & always will. My earnest desire is to join you in the "Heavenly Kingdom".
I remember a couple of times when we were still young we kidded of our relations after death.
You said you would not consider or remarry because the baby would not like it, so therefore you couldn't do that to her. I then said, oh, but I'll get married, you said, no you won't.
I know you won't. You know what "Angel", I won't. You know I won't.
Bennyta tell everyone, that she knows daddy will be in heaven saying, I have to clean up, Gerry's coming home.
I tell people that I will not have you at the gate in anticipation of my arrival, and when I arrive, someone else is accompanying me.
You will not be hurt or confused as to who will be your wife; I'll still be your wife, forever until eternity.
I celebrate your spirit of 36 years of great marriage, 35 of them with you. Happy Anniversary baby. This entry is your card; I know you'll like it.
Princess is doing very well, Very involved at the Prayer Tabernacle, with Bishop Moales. For that I truly thank God, Bishop, Lady Moales, and their children & Church Family.
Guess what? She has a paper route, just like you told her.
She told me last week, that she is trying to do everything you had suggested and or recommended that she should do. She says she knows you'll be happy.
Well I’m closing until the next time. Good night "Baby", I'll see you in the morning.
Yours Forever,
Your wife Gerry
July, 8, 2006
Our Anniversary is Tuesday, July 11, 2006. I sponsored your guest book, permanently, and forever. I will enter new pictures soon. Watch for them.
I go to your grave almost everyday. Our headstone is Beautiful. I know you admire it. It's all dressed up, just like us.
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
July 11, 2006
Corinthians 13:4-7. Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offense. ...
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
March 4, 2006
Dearest Benny, "The Apostle".
You know baby, Yesterday, Friday, March 3, 2006, celebrates your new home in heaven, exactly nine months. I know you are having a grand time in your heavenly mansion. I am so happy for you!!!. As for me, you know, I cried my eyes out, it's still like you left on just this morning. Yet it seems like it's forever. I really don't know where I am intimately with your departure just yet, but Lord knows I'm trying.
You know my birthday, is just around the corner, and I was always estatic when my birthday was nearing, however I need strength this year, because your affliction surfaced on my day. I remember so vividly, you completed your morning sermon, entitled "Burning Like Fire", which I prepared for you. Upon arriving home, you proceeded to tell me you were a bit light headed and need to rest a bit. You were so strong. I never had an inkling, that there was a problem beyond the light headness. I appreciate greatly the fact of your "Heroisim, as you were being prepared for your heavenly transition. Naturally nor spiritually did I ever surmise that you were sick. You were a gentle giant till the end. You knew I would not be able to handle that one. You always applauded me for my sense of strenght, but you knew losing you would certainly injure me. You were right. But I will see you again.
I am starting to readjust to all the transition, and when you add it all up, was there transition. I'm still holding on to the "Visions" God gave me, I do realize that despite of all of the happenings, I can be confidence of this one thing, that whosoever God began a good work in, he will perform it until the coming of Christ. Phillipians 1:6.
With the prodding of God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit and Vance, I reorganized the Church, and I'm on to greater things again. You know it looked like failure, but I recognize that "Failure isn't Final"
Failure open doors to start again. Starting over bring new life again.
Princess is doing very well in school. This is wording from a letter dated February 10, 2006, from the University of Bridgeport.
Office of the Provost
Dear Ms. Claytor,
I am pleased to inform you that your outstanding academic performance during the fall semester has earned you a place on the University's Dean's List.
The Dean's List is one of the highest academic honors a UB student can achieve during the semester and requires attaining a grade point average of 3.2 or higher in any given semester. You should be very proud of this achievement and to be recognized as among the best and brighest students at the University of Bridgeport.
My sincere congratulations and very best wishes for continued success.
Sincerely,
Hans van der Giessen
Baby aren't you giggling in heaven?
Well I also put some new photos in your guest book. They are images of our Monument, placed November 6, 2005 and a Blue Christmas Ceremony hekld in your memory Christmas. Guess who came? Mrs. Caren Moher.
I'm signing off for now.
Lots of heavenly love,
Your Wife, Prophetess, "The Apostle's Wife"
Mother Ellaweed Pettway
January 28, 2006
To: Apostle Benny Claytor
I thank God and the leading of the Holy Spirit that lead me to Claytor's Ministry.
Your preaching and teaching helped me in so many ways in the short time span while under your leadership of "Praise and Worship".
You taught us how to treat your mate, and making peace with your fellow man in the workplace. Just to name a few.
To God be the glory, he really used you to usher me into a higher level of understanding in my walk with God.
Many, Many, Many thanks for all your help!
Love & Peace,
Mother Pettway
Apostle's last picture taken at home, after church, pictures are in the TV Den room & our Bedroom.
November 25, 2005
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
November 25, 2005
Dearest "Apostle", Benny, my Love,
He that dwelleth in love, dwelleth in God. God is love. Therefore love. Without distinction, without calculation, without procrastination, love. Lavish it upon the poor, where it is very easy; especially upon the rich, who often need it most; most of all upon our equals, where it is very difficult, and for whom perhaps we do the least of all. –Henry Drummond
Well baby, we, "Princess and I" made it through Thanksgiving Day. It was quite a task, but as we know, the last song you kept singing was, "Jesus Will Work It Out". You kept chimming in "Work It Out", so you know, Jesus did work it out.
We went to "The Big Apple", New York, and we had a great time. Oh, yes, Evie was home home from school, so it felt like old times.
However, it felt strange, because for the first time in over 28 years, we were not at a Thanksgiving Day service, but we did attend on Thanksgiving Eve, at Bishop Moales, Prayer Tabernacle. So there you are, we still got in a service.
Thanksgiving Day, upon returning from NY, we were invited to dinner/late night dessert over Bishop/Lady Moales house. The evening was so warm. Everyone welcomed us with such christian/brotherly/sisterly love.
Oh, I wanted to tell you also, that I heard the voice of God, directing me to Evangelize, Worldwide, so I closed the physical Building, and I'm hitting the roadways, airways, trainways, boatways, to expose your/our work to the next level. I acknowledge your voice speaking to me daily, as to the direction I should go.
Thank you so much. I am now married to our heavenly Father, and will be until I meet you again.
Oh yes, the baby, "Bennyta", Princess recieved the Baptism of the Holy Ghost, Sunday, November 20, 2005, at Bishop Moales's church as he prayed for her. She shouted all over the church. She/we know how proud you are. She is also doing very well in College, she's sporting an A- average, and has decided to become a lawyer. Lordy, Lordy, Jesus. Thank You!!, Thank You!!, Thank You Jesus!!
Again, the thoughts of you helped us get thru Thanksgiving Day. We also listened to you sing "Were You There", and shared in the Sermon, "It's Friday, But Sunday's Coming". It was awesome, we, cried, should I say, Boo-hooed, laughed, shouted, and was made glad, to hear you preach. We loved it.
We're waiting for direction/instructions to get us through Christmas.
In six more days, it celebrates six months you're in heaven. It seems like it's been forever. Yet it seems also, that you are going to get out of your Cadillac, and come upstairs, to our bedroom, today, after work. Well, I'll keep waiting, and you keep enjoying your new home, every night, I'll be standing at our back door, saying as I did everyday/night, "The Apostle!!!!, as we greeted each other with a big hug and kiss when you came home.
I love you baby,
Your Wife Gerry
Kelly Manning
November 15, 2005
I would like to Thank You for recognizing my God given gift. Also, for allowing me growth spiritually and being a great father figure to me. I want to Thank You for showing unconditional love. I think of you quite often and I do miss you.
Love always,
Altar girl Kelly Manning
Angela Jacobs
October 31, 2005
Dear Pator Claytor,
Im sittin here on Halloween night and you was on my mind so I decided to come on line and write to you.
Me being a teenager should be out doing wordly things but ever since you went on to Heaven....I'm remembering all the RIGHT from WRONG things you told me...I have woke up alot as a young girl basically on my own!!! You and Prophetess have prune me up to have my priorities right the positive way and I THANK YOU FOR THAT. I wish you were here PHYSICALLY to witness the difference in my SPIRIT and the raise in my PRAISE...You always cared for me in a special way and gave me good advice to always keep my FAITH....And for that
I Love You!!!
But you continue to sleep on and enjoy your new place of HOME!!!
TaShonda McIlwain
October 21, 2005
Uncle Benny, I can honestly say that it was an honor and a pleasure to have known you. I knew you for as long as I've known myself. You were always there for me even from the beginning. That's not the great part about it, but what is is that I was an in-law, but not to you. You always treated me like family although I was your niece through marriage and no one would have ever known. I thank you for the wonderful life that you gave my auntie and the fabulous life you afforded her. I can say that I never remember you having a problem with her helping us and you don't often find that. I can honestly say that I loved and still love you Uncle Benny. So until that sweet day that we meet again, sleep on Uncle Benny and enjoy your rest.
Love always,
Shonda
Daddy's little Darling Princess "Bennyta, all dressed up & in the Limo, going to Bishop Kenneth's Moales, 60th Birthday, Hyatt Regency, Greenwich CT, September 23, 2005
October 10, 2005
Benny at Earl & Ernestine's House for Christmas
October 10, 2005
Top two pictures, Benny when he was very young. Picture at bar, Victor's Cotton Club, picture at the back door of his sister, Edna Juanita Day. This was prior to his transformation in the Lord Jesus Christ. Bottom pictures are the Apostle in the services
October 10, 2005
Pictures of Benny & Gerry, "Just Chillin"
October 10, 2005
Bennyta's 1st birthday, celebrating at daddy's church
October 10, 2005
Bennyta's first day of birth at ST. Vincent's Hospital, June 18, Father's Day. 1979
October 10, 2005
Princess at one our our Chuch Banquests
October 10, 2005
More pictures of Daddy and Bennyta
October 10, 2005
Pictures Of Bennyta,"Princess" and daddy, Birthday Parties Etc.
October 10, 2005
Benny & Gery's first picture, after Wedding, Bridgeport, CT
October 9, 2005
Gerry's 12th grade graduation, June 3, 1968, George washington Carver High School, Pinetops, NC
October 8, 2005
Gerry in the 10th grade, George Washington Carver High School, Pinetops, NC
October 8, 2005
October 8, 2005
Gerry at the International Convention for Minister's Wives & Widows, Detroit, Michigan
October 8, 2005
Pictures Of Benny & Gerry, at different Church Services
October 8, 2005
Gerry at Mom's Funeral, November, 2001
October 8, 2005
Benny at work at Perkin Elmer
October 8, 2005
Gerry and Bennyta getting ready for our 25th Wedding Anniversary Celebration, Saturday, July, 1995
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
October 8, 2005
A Letter To Heaven
by Your Wife Gerry
Darkness has come
I'm alone in the night
Hiding my feelings
Out of everyone's sight
Despair fills my soul
Which as a fact is quite strange
Cause inside feels empty
My feelings have changed
When you left I felt good
Like you wanted me to
I looked deep inside
And there I found you
It felt like you were here
Living in me
Giving me strength
To live life and just be
I felt honored and proud
That you were my Husband
That I was there your last days
All the time that you had
Brave and determined
To get through this with pride
To keep the promise
That I made as you died
Forgive me if I fall though
I know there will be bad days
Cause I loved you so much
In so many ways
As a husband and friend
Counselor and adviser
There never lived a man
Who could have possibly been wiser
I'm so sad and confused
Like a lost little girl
I feel like an oyster
Without its precious pearl
Cause that's what you were
All shinny and bright
Who brightened each day
And chased away night
I'll never forget
And I'll always miss you
But we'll meet again
This just has to be true
With a love as strong as we had
Not even death can keep us apart
Where are you?
Lots of love and fond memories,
Your wife Gerry...
Gerry's wedding Picture and Bennyta's first Prom
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
October 8, 2005
A Letter To Heaven
by Your Wife Gerry
Darkness has come
I'm alone in the night
Hiding my feelings
Out of everyone's sight
Despair fills my soul
Which as a fact is quite strange
Cause inside feels empty
My feelings have changed
When you left I felt good
Like you wanted me to
I looked deep inside
And there I found you
It felt like you were here
Living in me
Giving me strength
To live life and just be
I felt honored and proud
That you were my Husband
That I was there your last days
All the time that you had
Brave and determined
To get through this with pride
To keep the promise
That I made as you died
Forgive me if I fall though
I know there will be bad days
Cause I loved you so much
In so many ways
As a husband and friend
Counselor and adviser
There never lived a man
Who could have possibly been wiser
I'm so sad and confused
Like a lost little girl
I feel like an oyster
Without its precious pearl
Cause that's what you were
All shinny and bright
Who brightened each day
And chased away night
I'll never forget
And I'll always miss you
But we'll meet again
This just has to be true
With a love as strong as we had
Not even death can keep us apart
Where are you?
Lots of love and fond memories,
Your wife Gerry...
Prophetess Gerry Claytor
October 8, 2005
A Letter To Heaven
by Your Wife Gerry
Darkness has come
I'm alone in the night
Hiding my feelings
Out of everyone's sight
Despair fills my soul
Which as a fact is quite strange
Cause inside feels empty
My feelings have changed
When you left I felt good
Like you wanted me to
I looked deep inside
And there I found you
It felt like you were here
Living in me
Giving me strength
To live life and just be
I felt honored and proud
That you were my Husband
That I was there your last days
All the time that you had
Brave and determined
To get through this with pride
To keep the promise
That I made as you died
Forgive me if I fall though
I know there will be bad days
Cause I loved you so much
In so many ways
As a husband and friend
Counselor and adviser
There never lived a man
Who could have possibly been wiser
I'm so sad and confused
Like a lost little girl
I feel like an oyster
Without its precious pearl
Cause that's what you were
All shinny and bright
Who brightened each day
And chased away night
I'll never forget
And I'll always miss you
But we'll meet again
This just has to be true
With a love as strong as we had
Not even death can keep us apart
Where are you?
Lots of love and fond memories,
Your wife Gerry...
Lorraine Mendez
October 5, 2005
Elder Claytor,
Words cannot describe the void I feel in my heart since the day you took your heavenly flight. Mentally I thought that I would not be able to handle the fact that I would never see you physically on earth anymore.
Elder Claytor I can still remember the day you walked me down the isle and gave me away to my husband in place of my real dad, and that is a memory that I will cherish for a lifetime. Gosh Elder Claytor I wish you were here, for sometimes I feel all alone with no one to tell me the right direction to go. I always felt so safe with you around, because you would help me to keep Jimmy on the right track.
Many days have passed and it seems
harder than the day before to accept that your not here, but I will always remember all of the (Quote) golden nuggets that you have given me for my family. I know God knows best, but I just wish I could have kept you here with us for eternity. I know your happy where you are. Elder Claytor here is a big hug and kiss from me to you. I love you and good night, I will see you in the morning.
Ernestine Davis
October 4, 2005
To My Sister and nieces
Yes! God has taken to flight a great man of honor, dignity, faith and hope. As I read the guest book entries of other, some wondered why God had plucked one of the best flowers from His garden. The answer is, Apostle Benny Claytor was a prepared person for a prepared place. He was ready for heaven. But for those who God has not taken from His flower garden, He leaves (he, she, you and I) to prepare themselves for the kingdom of heaven. He wants our church to be without a spot or wrinkle. Get ready for the Bridegroom! He is coming back soon. Apostle Benny Claytor has lived his life and is resting peacefully. Loving Sister and nieces, God will fill in the gap for you all. He won't leave you nor forsake you. Apostle Benny was a role model in my life and my family lives. We learned many things through him and loved him so much. He will be missed every day of our lives. We are grieving along with you! But, Apostle Benny being the way he was, would tell us to "be strong, girl" and hang on in there. Wipe those weeping eyes!!
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