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Deacon Gary E. Carpenter

1941 - 2022

Deacon  Gary E. Carpenter obituary, 1941-2022, Milton, DE

BORN

1941

DIED

2022

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Fairfield, Connecticut

Gary Carpenter Obituary

Deacon Gary E. Carpenter
Deacon Gary Edward Carpenter, age 81, of Milton, Delaware, a retired Deacon for the Diocese of Bridgeport, passed away peacefully surrounded by his loving family Sunday, December 25, 2022 in Wilmington, DE. Born in Bridgeport, the son of the late Hubert and Viola (Hurlburt) Carpenter, he was raised in Black Rock. He graduated from Black Rock School, Bassick High School, attended Salem College and received a BS in Graphic Design from the University of Bridgeport. Deacon Gary was employed for many years as a Creative Art Director at the C.R. Gibson Company in Norwalk and used his talent to design the layout of Fairfield County Catholic. Gary volunteered for Young Life, a non-denominational ministry to middle and high school students in Darien, CT. Gary was ordained to the Diaconate for the Diocese of Bridgeport in 1986 and was assigned to St. Stephen's Church in Trumbull serving there for 27 years where he assisted with pastoral duties including the Parish Advisory Council, conducted Confirmation and First Holy Eucharist training, taught CCD and helped run the RCIA program. Gary was a leader in the Emmaus ministry at St. Stephens, sharing the love of God with high school students for many years. When called on, Gary would also assist other parishes throughout the Diocese which he took great pleasure in doing. He was a 3rd Degree member of the Knights of Columbus-St. Stephen's Council #13063. Gary led a Bible study group in Black Rock that led to the creation of the Black Rock Food Pantry with fellow member, the late Gerry Habansky. He had a smile that could not be forgotten and his sense of humor kept his friends and family laughing. Gary loved God and loved others, he will be sadly missed by his beloved wife of 58 years, Joan (Lattin) Carpenter of Milton, DE; four loving children, Thomas Carpenter and his wife Kim of Southbury, James Carpenter and his wife, Julie of Wilmington, DE, Aaron Carpenter and his wife, Linda of Wilmington DE, and Caitlin Bell and her husband, Ben of Wilmington, DE; nine cherished grandchildren, Megan, Caleb, Rachel, Ashley, James, Michael, Molly, Liam, and Brady; a sister Sally Pennoyer and her husband, Ray of Beacon Falls; a sister-in-law, Carol Carpenter of MA and many nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his brother, Douglas Carpenter. Deacon Gary will be received at St. Stephen's Church Monday, January 2, 2023, at 3:30 p.m. and will lie in repose from 4-8 p.m. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated by The Most Reverend Frank J. Caggiano on Tuesday, January 3, 2023, at 11:00 a.m. at St. Stephens Church. Interment will follow in Oak Lawn Cemetery, Fairfield. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the Black Rock Food Pantry, 5 King Street, Bridgeport, CT 06605 (www.blackrockfoodpantry.com

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Published by Connecticut Post on Dec. 29, 2022.

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DOROTHY FINCH

January 7, 2023

JOAN, SO SORRY TO HEAR OF GARRY'S PASSING. KNOW YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. MAY HE REST IN PEACE. DOT FINCH

Doug & Ann Lash

January 6, 2023

Our Hearts and prayers go out to you Linda and your loving family. This is a sad and also an uplifting time for all who have been blessed to have had Gary in our lives. God created each one of us as a gift to others during our lives, and at His calling we return to our maker. Rare few of His children bring to their fellow man a love for God, an example of respect, happiness, and how to serve others. Gary was one of these very blessed gifts from God to you Linda and your family, and everyone he touched. As a member of St. Stephen´s, he was a bright light whenever we were in his presents. I did an Emmaus with him upon his asking which brought me closer to God. We all cherish the examples he taught us and will carry them in our hearts. We thank you God for bringing Gary to us.

Shirley Hummel

January 4, 2023

Hi Joanie I am so sorry for your loss of dear Gary.I will always remember the joy you and Gary gave me over the years. May he Rest in Pease.

Joan Kovach previous home Porter Hill Rd. Trumbull Currently Osprey Fl.

January 3, 2023

Joan and Family: My Sincere Condolences on the passing into Heavens Gates your Beloved Gary.
Always Kind and a Welcoming Smile on Sunday mornings at 9:30 Mass. Joan you and I as young Mom's volunteered with the CCD Program for many years. Gary with the Confirmation program my sons attended. God has gained a Guardian Angel to watch over you All. R I P.

Mary Notturno

January 2, 2023

Joan & Family
So Sorry for your Loss. Gary is an awesome person
Mary Notturno

Cindy Cauchon

December 30, 2022

I am sorry to hear of Gary's passing. Hugs and prayers sent to help you through this difficult time

howie seat

December 30, 2022

Joan & Family: I am so saddened to hear of Gary's passing. A warm, compassionate, intelligent individual, A man of deep faith. I was proud to have known him and that he considered me a friend. My heartfelt condolences.

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DARLENE FERENCE

December 30, 2022

So sorry to hear about the passing of Gary. My husband Bob and I knew Gary for most of his 27 years at St. Stephen´s. A gentle man, always shared a smile and a kind word. Our sympathies to Joan and to the entire Carpenter family.

Kristine DeBrizzi

December 30, 2022

Dear Joanie, I am so sorry to hear that your dear Gary passed. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. Miss you much Joanie. You will always be my bestie at the BOE. Krissy

Lynn McNicholas

December 30, 2022

My deepest condolences to Gary's family and friends I always looked forward to the Sundays when Gary said Mass at Maefair i loved listening to his sermons and stories of his childhood Rest in peace with the Lord God speed

Jim & Barbara Pandaru

December 29, 2022

Our deepest condolences to Gary's wonderful family.

JOANN LAVIN

December 29, 2022

JOAN, THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND ALL WHO LOVED GARY. FOND MEMORIES! LOVE, JO

The Staff of Spear-Miller Funeral Home

December 29, 2022

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