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Memories and Condolences
for Jacqueline Hansen
July 5, 2012
Dear friends and family,
We are all grateful for the many, many entries and photos in Jaci's book over the past four years. She was a remarkable person, and these messages collectively constitute a true legacy for her daughters, in particular. We have captured and preserved all these entries and will share them with any who are interested after the Guest Book goes offline this summer.
If you have additional entries or memories you would like included in this book, which we will print for Sydney and Samantha, please forward them at any time to Jaci's sister, Michelle DeFayette, at [email protected].
Thank you again for always remembering our beloved Jaci.
The DeFayette family
May 25, 2012
Samantha & Sydney at Butterfly House at Reiman Garden
May 16, 2012
Erik, Jaci, Sydney & Samantha in Gettysburg at Easter
May 16, 2012
Mom and Dad
May 13, 2012
(Mothers Day)
Dearest Jaci,
This is the 4th Mothers' Day since you left us. We are writing this on Mothers' Day 2012 because we miss you so, and to help ease the pain in our hearts for your beloved Sydney and Samantha. We were fortunate to witness you being a great Mom for 12 years. You were one who loved with your whole heart! We were happy to see that you were so thoughtful, helpful, generous, and for doing much more than your part, not only for your entire family, but for friends and even strangers. We see your legacy being carried on by your daughters, which is heart-warming to us. Your siblings and we are trying to help the girls continue to mature according to your wishes. We hope to instill your values and faith in them as they grow into fine young ladies.
We will always be proud of you and your life here on earth. We love you with all our hearts and miss you terribly.
In closing we recite the following prayer: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
Loving and remembering you always,
Dad and Mom
August 6, 2011
Dear Samantha and Sydney,
Your mother was one of the sweetest, most precious people we have ever known and we loved her dearly! When your grandma had a conference at school, she asked me to baby sit your mom. She was gorgeous, only a few days old, and I instantly fell in love with her. Ben loved her, too, as did our John, who was Paul’s ge, and Mary Kay, who is a year younger than Michelle. They lived on the next street and we did so many wonderful, happy things together.
Having all of them for Thanksgiving the first year they moved to Maryland was our very happiest Thanksgiving ever! The next summer when your family came to Sandusky, your grandma and I took our loved ones to Cedar Point, our fabulous amusement park. Your dear grandma told me your mother thought I was her “real mother”. That was one of the most wonderful compliments I have ever had because Ben and I loved her so very dearly. Just before the park closed, she asked me to go on the Shoot the Rapids boat that went up the hill and then splashed down into the water at the bottom. Dear Jaci, who was sitting very close to me asked, “Are you my real mother”. I answered “No Jaci, I’m not, but I wish I were, because I love you so much!”
We have had a glorious summer because both of our beloved granddaughters and their moms and dads came to Sandusky for a visit. Our daughter, Mary Kay, her husband, Keith, and two year old, Kate, were here for a fun filled visit. Kate is cute, funny and had us laughing all the time. She loves to sing. Frere Jacques is one of her very favorite songs and she sang it over and over. She also loves The Farmer in the Dell, The Alphabet Song, Old McDonald Had a Farm and many others. We laughed a lot and had such fun.
our 3 1/2 year old granddaughter, Samantha, her dad, John(our son), and her mom, Julie, just went back to Phoenix yesterday. Samantha is such a delightful, joyous, loving little girl! She makes us feel so loved and special! We went to Cedar Point for a day, went to a splash pad, and went to the play area at Ontario School. That is where your mommy’s family and our family went to school. We know granddaughters are the most glorious gift in the world.
Even though we have never met you, we love you so much because Jaci was your mother!
Love, Ben and Katharine Schneider
Susan and Tony Marva
July 7, 2011
Three years later and we are still deeply saddened by the loss of such a beautiful spirit.
Jaci was 5 when our daughter was born. She loved babies and became a regular visitor at our home. Over the next few years we came to love Jaci with her sweet smile and loving heart. She became popular in our neighborhood with all the toddler girls who all vied for her attention. Jaci was like a second daughter to us - she and the DeFayette family were greatly missed when they moved to St. Charles.
Sydney,Samantha and the DeFayettes - you are in our thoughts and prayers as you move forward without your mother, daughter and sister. We hope that the love of those around you will help you through the years ahead.
Jaci, your gentle spirit is with us and you will be in our hearts forever.
March 6, 2011
To all who take the time to visit Jaci's memorial site. Thank you, sincerely from The Hansen family. Jaci's passing has given us all a new perspective and appreciation of the short life we are all given. Our family wishes you all well. Please continue to keep Jaci and our girls in your prayers. God Bless
We work to exhaustion but it will never compare to the wind taken out of our sails when you left
March 6, 2011
March 6, 2011
March 6, 2011
July 5, 2010
We still can't believe how all of our lives changed when you were taken so suddenly from us two years ago today.
Our hearts are still heavy, but good memories are slowly easing the pain. We miss you, think of you everyday and know that you are watching over your loved ones...until they can be with you again.
Love from Faith & Pete
Noleen Poder
May 25, 2010
I woke up this morning knowing nothing of the Hansen/DaFayette families. I was merely looking to find a house for our little family of four.
I found a place that seemed just perfect for us. A lovely home with character in spades. RT-31 is a rather busy road, but with four+ acres of woods behind it, it just might just be the one!
Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I would stumble upon such a heartbreaking story.
I thought it would make sense to see if the previous owners could give me a clue as to how old the well and septic were, and so on. So I went and searched the Hansens and then my heart dropped.
So often in these foreclosure situations you never know or care about the shell of a house left behind. In this instance, your daughter/(step)mother/wife showed me that this was her home.
I read all of the comments here, and know that she was a wonderful person. If blood type O is universal donor, then she'd be friend type O- the universal friend.
I don't know any of you guys in person, but I feel a lead weight in my heart not only for what she could have been, but for the loss felt by her mom and dad, Erik, the two big girls and the two little girls.
It felt like I was crying glass as I read some of the entries.
I had to post something tonight to get the sadness off my chest.
Know that your Jacqueline has touched my life in a very big way. She was only six when I was born. I'd like her to be my ballsy guardian angel- though I know there a thousand takers for that honor!!
Wherever the road takes me, I'll carry a little of her spirit with me.
Wishing you all peace, love and laughter,
Noleen
Payton Hansen
December 26, 2009
It is so weird not having you here for the holidays... you always got so into them, you always wrapped all of the gifts so nice, and had the house decorated perfect.. even the yard. I'm still having a hard time understanding that you are gone, it feels like you've just been on a trip, or out of town for a really long time. I guess it will never fully sink in that I wont be able to ever see you again. That we will never be able to go get our nails done again, or that we will never go out to dinner as a family again, that I will never hear your order a mai tai, and especially the fact that we will never be able to do Chinese fire drills again(haha). I was really looking forward to you helping me learn how to drive as well. Over the years we grew extremely close so you loss was almost unbearable. I know you are watching over all of us and keeping us safe. I pray for you every day, and i hope to see you soon.. with all love
Karyn Brunet
July 30, 2009
Jaci,
I only got to meet you a few times. I wish you could have known how much I appreciated your kind heart. I now have Jon Wilsons baby too. I saw how you struggled with him and just wanted the best for your girls. I know first hand that your daughters were your world, as my children are mine. I have gotten to see how much they miss you. It hurts me. I simply don't get it. I wish you were here now because I know you would be of help to the situation. I just hope that one day I meet you again because I know you are flying high with the angels.
Always,
Karyn Brunet
... I remember when I was first getting to know Jaci's girls, Sydney said to me that she wanted me and her Mom to hang out because she thought we were alot alike. That was such an awesome feeling and I think she was right.
Dad and Mom
March 12, 2009
TOGETHERNESS
Death is a brief separation--
I have only slipped away into the next room. Whatever we were to each, that we are still. Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the same way which you always used to. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effort. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight? I am but waiting for you for an interval, somewhere very near just around the corner. All is well. Nothing is past; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before--only better, infinitely happier and forever--we will all be one together with CHRIST.
Keeping you in our hearts, thoughts, and prayers every day. With all our love,
Ingrid Hansen
February 20, 2009
j - i'm still missing you like the first day....
Peggy Hernandez
January 14, 2009
Jacquie,
I think of you often as I teach the CCD class we were going to do together. The learning curve (for them and me) is huge and knowing that you are up there guiding me helps alot. They will all be getting their First Communion this spring. I'm so sorry you won't be here with me to celebrate it, but I hope you enjoy it from your vantage point with Jesus!
I pray for Erik and the rest of your family to find peace, especially Sydney and Samantha. I hope they are healthy and at peace.
Love, Peggy
Barbara Ellis
December 30, 2008
I just received your note Helen. Thank-You for letting me know. I am so sad, such a loss. Jaci was such a beautiful soul. She will always be remembered as one who was very dear and loved by all that she knew. I haven't talked to her in years, and yet it brings back many memories of love and friendship.
Jaci and Barbara @ Robb & Stucky, Naples, Florida
Barbara Ellis
December 30, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort
This is a photo of when Jaci worked with me here at Robb & Stucky. I will miss her deeply. So Sad,
Love, Barbara
Mom and Dad DeFayette
October 20, 2008
Today (October 20) would have been Jaci's 39th birthday. We would like to share a beautiful letter she wrote to her mother on the occasion of her mother's 70th birthday. She titled the letter "The Luckiest Little Girl".
A Letter to my Mother:
Here comes a monumental day, scary for all of your children, a birthday to be celebrated as well. How lucky all of us are that you are a part of our life's work. I feel luckiest of all because you chose me to be a part of your life, your family.
April 6, 1962, you were blessed with two beautiful daughters who shared themselves as one. A choice to give them life also risked the loss of their lives. Tough as it was you know you and Dad made the best decision. Then came another son and daughter to add to your already family of two brothers for them. For whatever reason, you wanted your daughter to have a sister. Thank you! So here these great people found me and welcomed me to your family. How lucky am I.
You adopted me and gave me the opportunity to have a family to share with you. Your ability to LOVE taught me how to be a great Mom, loving wife, and a giving person. Thanks, Mom, for all you are, do, and most of all for me.
All my love to you Mom.
Your daughter, Jacqueline.
Jaci, we love you dearly. We hope you and your sisters Ann and Amy are having a joyous time until we all can be together again.
All our love, always.
Mom and Dad
Michel Hancock Richards
September 19, 2008
To Jaci and all that loved her,
My heart is broken for you all. I just found out today and I am so very shocked and sorry. I never got a chance to know Jaci as a mother. I worked with Jaci at Spiess and we usually walked out of there wearing more make-up than any woman has a right to wear (slow night makeovers). I also shared a portion of my life with her and a couple of other long lost friends. Not the best of times but definitely not the worst. Jaci had the word YAHOO on her license plate and that about summed it up. She was always up for anything, she lit up a room and had a very good heart. She loved her family very much. To Eric, I never really met you but other than the father of her girls, your name was the only name I ever heard her mention when it came down to loving a man. I think she was about 19, maybe a little younger. Nothing makes sense in a matter such as this. The last time I saw her was at the Sycamore Pizza Hut about 5 years ago, she was with you Eric and her girls. She was going through a very hard time, but she was so happy, and knew she was where she was suppose to be. I know she was a great mother, and I always knew she would love and adore the man she chose to be with for the rest of her life. You always think you will see someone again, and you will if you believe. But here on Earth, we have to try harder. I didn't know Jaci passed until today. I think a lot of other people might not know as well. Thank you to the person who told me. I am so sorry Jaci. You will be so greatly missed by all who knew you, Heaven is brighter with you in it.
If anyone knows where Kim and Leslie are, please inform them and ask them to contact me. Life moves too fast.
Ingrid Head
September 9, 2008
jaci
i always thought that we would have a lifetime to talk - i thought we would have a lifetime to just ..be.
i can't believe what has happened, and i don't know how i will go forward without you here as my best friend..
you were my friend since i was just a baby. even during the difficult years, you and i had a connection that could not be broken. we were able to communicate through a single look -
i took your side and you took mine, even when it wasn't convenient for either of us..
i was your mouthpiece - the one who would say the things you just couldn't. and in turn, you brought a softness to me that i'm afraid is now lost.
i'm hoping that i can carry the spirit that you brought to EVERYTHING with me for the rest of my days. it certainly won't be easy, but then again, it won't be that hard. because that's the kind of impact you made on people. whether you knew them for an hour or a lifetime, you made an impact. you thought the best of people, therefore, you brought out the best in people. that is a rare gift, one that most never possess, and those of us that loved you, and that you loved back, are so lucky to have received that gift.
but it was too short. too fleeting. why were you taken from us? why? this is the question that everyone who ever met you is asking, and there is just no good answer. from experience i know that although time does dull the pain, that pain never fully leaves us. i try hard to focus on all the wonderful memories and all the love that you gave to everyone, but at times, it's just not enough. my soul continues to want answers to questions that just cannot be answered. it makes my heart ache...
jaci, you truly were one of a kind. i know i will never know friendship the way i did with you. i know that my beloved brother will never find a love like he found with you. i know your girls have lost a part of themselves that cannot be replaced. i know my daughter has lost an aunt, a friend, and a confidante that she won't find again. i know that my son has lost his buddy, his first love, and his cheering section. the knowledge of these things hurts my heart in a way that is inexplicable. but what can i do? i can only carry on, and hope that all those that you loved so much will do the same, and that we will do our best to live as you lived - with room in your heart for everyone, and an outlook on life that can only be described as angelic. now i know that you really were an angel here on earth...
one of the best things i ever learned from you was to pay attention to the unseen things around me. to listen to what is not said aloud. that there are forces around us, guiding us, helping us navigate through these utterly devastating times. i know that you drew on that belief to get you through some of your darkest days, and i know that i need to do the same. i'm waiting. i'm listening.......
forever your friend and sister, ingrid
Mom and Dad
September 1, 2008
The following poem is one that Jaci and we lived by. We urge all of her friends and family to continue this legacy in remembrance of her.
If you are ever going to love me,
Love me now, while I can know
The sweet and tender feelings
Which from true affection flow.
Love me now
While I am living,
Do not wait until I am gone
And then have it chiseled in marble,
Sweet words on ice cold stone.
If you have tender thoughts of me
Please tell me now.
If you wait until I am sleeping
Never to awaken,
There will be death between us
And I won't hear you then.
So, if you love me, even a little bit,
Let me know it while I am living
So I can treasure it.
(author unknown)
All of our love,
Mom and Dad
Payton Hansen
August 15, 2008
Jacki ..I'm not too sure words could describe how we all feel.
But I will start with this; I never could ever imagine anything this tragic.. Especially to happen to you. I don't think you know how much you ment to me.. to all of us. through out the past years me and you really became close, with everything. I understood you, & you always knew what to say to me when I was upset; You were probably the only person who I could talk too & tell personal stuff too & feel 100 % comfortabe talking about it all. Not many people find a person that special in their life. . :'(
(Its so hard to write this because everytime I try to type it becomes impossible; My eyes fill up with hears & everything blurrs.)
We have shared so many memories, I can'te ven begin to tell you how much of an impact you've made on my life. you make me look at everything in a differnt way. In a better way, Celebrating things just arn't the same without your creative edge you put on everything. Its horrible for me to have to sit here at 4 in the morning and write about something I don't even know how to deal with; People Probably see me as being strong in the whole situation. .But the truth is I am the biggest wreck. I try to complete things because i know you would be proud on me , I know you always wanted the best for everyone. You ALWAYS no matter what had to pleas everyone, in any situation, everything had to work for all six of us. It was always great going out to dinner as a whole family, We all were so goofy, But it was great. We always had the best times. .
I wish I still saw Sydney and Samantha; I want to help them with everythin you would of had to help them with. Like growing up, school dances, boys, and anything else they need help with .. . its so unfortunate that I can't really see them. I miss your peanut song, And getting our nails done, Or going to pick up the girls @ the river boat, I'm not too sure what going to happen with all of us now that you arn't here. I really wish I could of expressed how much you ment to me while You were still with us.. I kno you always will be here. I wear the guitar&music note necklace you gave me from when you were a teenager. It never comes off of my neck. Everytime I walk int he house I expect too see yous tanding by the kitchen counter, or curled up on the couch . . This is all so hard for me because its the first death I've had to deal with, Well the first REALLY close family member that I shared so much with. You certainly knew how to make light in every situation. Life wasn't fair to you in the least way. from all of the sergeries you had to go through, All of the accidents, and all of the excruciating pain you ahd to push through. It just wasn't fair, this wasn't your time to go, you were just getting started in life. You were so young. I don;t even know what to do about it all, I just want you here again with us all. I'd love to get one last look at you, one last day out, one last good bye. . That was the worste of it all, I didn;t get too see you before any of it happened, It kills me that I couldn't say goodbye.
Absoultly KILLS me inside. You will never be forgotten, theres not a second of any day that goes by were I'm not thinking of you Jacki; I miss you so much. You always said the word "step" didn't mean anything, and you couldn't of been more right' It doesn't mean one thing. It never did. You were another mom too me and i'd like to thank you for always being their for me, I love you with all of my heart. Please watch over all of us. Please keep us sane..
-Your loveing step daughter Payton <33
Debra (DR. Polse office) Roth
August 13, 2008
Erik, and Family
I Just received the news about your wife, I am at a loss for words. I can not imagine the pain you are feeling. My heart goes out to you and your family. Our prayers are with you.
husband
August 12, 2008
hey baby, i am now very angry at god for taking you instead of me. we both know i was to leave first. this thing they call earth is nothing but hell and i know that something better waits on the other side. 5 minutes without you is more than i can bear. peanut is right here helping me type. the girls are gone and my kids are almost grown, so it wont be that long till were together.each day is like an eternity without you. i know that you will already be gone by the time that i get there, so please just try to remember me on your next time around. maybe ill recognize you,or feel that ive known you before.im sorrry that it turned out this way because i know that we planned on being together forever. we planned on growing old together and doing everything together forever.i always planned on dying of a broken heart, but not at 38. i miss you, and i misss our kids. i am so glad you will never have to feel this pain, because it is unbearable. i will see you soon, love me
Roseann Murphy
August 8, 2008
Dear Erik and family, I am so sadden w/your loss. Jaci was always so sweet and loving towards life,family and just sharing! I always remember that she took time out to talk to me and showed me her little puppy. How sweet! She was always caring and spoke so highly of Erik and the children. I enjoyed sharing Jaci's conversations when she would just take quality time w/Erik and shop for his business needs. God Bless!
Joanne Hayden (Roth)
August 8, 2008
Erik and Family,
I just spoke with Auntie Jan and heard of your loss. Erik, I am soo sorry. Jaci was beautiful and I just can't imagine how much you must miss her. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care. (I'm Michael's Mom, in case you didn't know.)
Caily Head(Niece)
August 5, 2008
You were my everything .
For all the times you were there for me and now yer gone . You were like my mom . Except I could tell you anything and you wouldn't judge me or get me in trouble . You knew when something was wrong wiff me and how to fix it .You would go out of yer way for a stranger and would set aside yer needs for anyone. You taught me how to love someone, and just to live life the way you want to, And don't care what other people think. And just before you were gone you said you loved me , I loved you more then I think anyone could understand. I am very lucky that I got to know you .But, Now I will miss you so much. And you will always be in my heart , Forever.
James Bartmess
August 1, 2008
Eric and children;
I lived in the Windings on QuailAvenue 4 streets from
Mr & Mrs Defayette. We were all
members of the Gourmet club with
12 couples and would host monthly parties for 4 couples at each.
Jacki would visit Laura and Brian my
daughter and son. I am almost retired
now and the sadness for her a young
wonderful person is just terrible. In
1985 I was also in a head on car crash on Dunham road near Army Trail. I was lucky to have lived . A
coma for 6-8 weeks, much surgery and I was pulled thru.
James Bartmess, Sarasota, Florida
erik hansen
July 31, 2008
my beautiful wife. how perfect we had become. i will miss you for the rest of my days. you made my heart whole and now it is broken for good. all of our plans were forever, so now i just have to wait a while so we can be together again. that i can do, but i will be lonely and sad til then. we have beautiful children that still need me . they miss you beyond words. we always said life is not fair, and this is true now more than ever. wait for me, my sweet love because i am not whole without you. till we meet on the other side, i love you, i miss you, and i will come for you some day, and we will be together forever, just like we planned. forever and ever. i love you , your husband, erik
Jeff & Janell McDonald
July 30, 2008
Eric & Family,
My thoughts are with you and Jaci's whole family in hopes that you find some comfort in the face of this loss. I knew Jaci in high school and saw her most recently at our 20-year reunion. She was a ray of sunshine and will be remembered fondly.
KRISTINE SCHIMMEL
July 27, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Jacques Viau
July 23, 2008
Dear Helen, Bob & Family,
We, the Jacques & Regine Viau family: Marie, Ginette/Daniel, Joanne/Mark, Rachel/David were all very sad to hear the disheartening news. Our family's thoughts & love are with you in this trying time.
Hugs. Jacques
Kristin Hinkle
July 22, 2008
I am a friend of Michelle and I have a love for her mom (Diva) and her dad. Three of the best people I have ever met. I didn't get a chance to meet Jaci personally but Michelle made me feel as if I knew her. My heart hurts for this family. I pray for strength for everyone because losing a child/sibling/mother/love-one is never easy. My love and prayers goes out to the entire family.
Suzanne Viau
July 20, 2008
Helen, Bob and family,
May our prayers and our love comfort you all in this time of sorrow.
Love Suzanne
Ana Cristina França
July 15, 2008
Querida Michelle e família, acabo de receber esta triste notícia. Divido uma prece, para que sua irmã descanse em Paz e para que o tempo ajude a amenizar tamanha dor.
Um abraço apertado, Tina
"God be in my head,
And in my understanding;
God be in my eyes,
And in my looking;
God be in my mouth,
And in my speaking;
God be in my heart,
And in my thinking;
God be at my end,
And at my departing.
Amen"
Janet Wray
July 13, 2008
Helen and Bob, there are no comforting words that are powerful enough that could express my grief for you in your grief. I didn't know Jaci, but I love her Mother and pray Helen and Bob will lean on our Lord for comfort and strength. God, please bless the whole family. Hugs. Janet
Jack Pierce
July 13, 2008
There are moments when words fail us and, for me, this is one of them. I feel your pain, Helen and Bob. I, along with our Class of '53 share this huge burden with you.
Gail Reedy-Suarez
July 13, 2008
Dear Eric and Family, I just heard of your loss and my thoughts and prayers are with you all. Jaci, was the most free-spirited loving person the I have come across .She had a huge heart and so giving to others. Eric please let me know if their is anything i can do to help. The boys and I will miss her very much
Laura Goeglein (Bartmess)
July 12, 2008
I am so sorry that Jaci is gone. A week later and I still can't stop thinking about her - it's such a tragedy. Although Jaci and I hadn't seen each other in quite a few years, I have many fun memories with her from when we were girls, teenagers and adults.
I first met Jaci in the windings and she was unlike anyone else around. I remember she used to say "my lands!" to express surprise and we thought that was the funniest thing. She had a big personality and I just remember her laughing a lot. She was a truly unique and original person, and she will be missed. My heart goes out to her family.
Lori Schmitz
July 12, 2008
Dear Erik, Sam and Sydney;
I lift you and your family up to God and ask him to hold you in his loving embrace, to keep you close to his heart, and carry you along your way. You will have Jaci in your hearts forever and we were all blessed to have had her in our lives for the time we did. Keep your faith and love will prevail. I will keep you all in my prayers.
Love Auntie Lori and family
Alexi, Sylvie and Michel Quéry
July 11, 2008
Helen, Bob, Eric and family,
Thinking of you in this time of grief.
Our thoughts are with you.
Sending you our love.
Paulette DeGagné
July 10, 2008
To Bob, Helen and the family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of sorrow.
All my love.
Paulette
Lois & Larry Heintz
July 10, 2008
Helen and Bob: So sorry to hear the news of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Missy Barton
July 10, 2008
To the family of Jackie----
We are very sorry for your loss. May you know that there are prayers and thoughts with you and surrounding you. Treasure the fond memories that were made here on earth and know that you will once again you will all be together in our heavenly home. Take Care!
Rita Quéry
July 10, 2008
Helen, Bob, Eric & family,
Jaci grew in a loving family as love describes the DeFayette family.
Jaci loved and lived as a wonderful daughter,wife and mother.
She now rests in God's arms. May her love for you all ease your pain.
United in thoughts and prayers.
Aunt Rita in Ottawa
Laurel Samson
July 10, 2008
Dear Mr. and Mrs. DeFayette, Michelle and John,
I am more sorry than I can say. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Love, Laurel Samson and family.
Maria (Samson) Sofranko
July 10, 2008
To Jaci's wonderful family and friends I send my deepest condolences. I have many fond memories of Jaci visiting her sister Michelle at college while we were attending ISU. She was a lovely, joyful person who's inner light shined so very bright. I am heartbroken for your family's loss and hope you find comfort in each other's love and the love and prayers of your friends. My thoughts are with you all.
Cecily Nordstrom
July 10, 2008
I am so sorry for your loss. I was a childhood friend of Jackie's in St. Charles. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Cecily Ritchie ( Nordstrom) and family
Erika Miller
July 9, 2008
Im so sorry for your loss!! Although I didnt know Jacqueline, I was one of the first to stop when this accident happened. My heart goes out to your family, I hope you all are able to overcome this and think about all the joy she brought to your family!! Your family is diffently in my thoughts and prayers!!!
Maureen Restivo
July 9, 2008
The Hansen and the De Fayette Families~
There are no words to say but how sorry we are for your loss. Jaci was really a special, "one-of-a-kind" person. So many nice things can be said about her, her kindness, how loving she was, how much fun she was and how she loved her family. Each time I was with her I always said I have to see her again, spend some time with her and Erik and get to know her better. It is hard not to smile when we think about her. I always think "I like Jaci so much and she likes me". We hope we can help in some way as the days go by. Jaci and her family will be in our thoughts and in our hearts. Maureen and Bob Restivo
Harald & Beverly Hansen
July 9, 2008
Dear Erik and family--know that fa fa and I are holding you all in our prayers.
Lovingly Fa Fa & Bev
Augusta Gnoato Tassoni
July 9, 2008
Cara Helen, caro Bob
Sono rimasta senza parole, anch'io, nel ricevere quella terribile notizia.
Non ho conosciuto personalmente la vostra Jaci, ma era come se l'avessi frequentata, tanto ne ho sentito parlare, di lei e delle sue bimbe. Sto soffrendo con voi, sto piangendo con voi. Non si lascia andare così facilmente un figlio, che è più importante della nostra stessa vita.
Non posso che stringermi a voi, abbracciarvi con tutto l'affetto possibile, condividere il vostro dolore sapendo che un giorno, quel Dio che dice di amarci, che ci ama, ci spiegherà il perchè di tutto questo.
Vi voglio tanto bene.
Cara Michelle
Ti stringo forte in un abbraccio, senza parole. Voglio solo farti sentire che condivido il tuo dolore e che ti voglio bene.
Monica Tibbitts
July 9, 2008
Dear Mr. and Mrs. DeFayette and the rest of Jaci's family,
I am so sorry to hear of your terrible loss and my prayers go out to all who were touched by Jaci and will miss her.
I haven't seen Jaci since she was a teenager, but I will never forget the impression she made on me. Even though she was only a little older than me, Jaci seemed to have a sophistication in high school that I hadn't matured into and I was fascinated by her hair, makeup, clothes and stories.
The DeFayette family has really stood out as one of the best families we knew growing up in St. Charles. Again, my deepest condolences and please take care.
Sandy Poliachik
July 9, 2008
I, too, am an honorary DeFayette, and I am fortunate enough to have known Jaci since she was a kid. I am so sorry for this great loss, but know that we will all do our best to keep Jaci's memory alive.
Tana Sheets
July 9, 2008
I will pray for peace and strength for your entire family. Such a horrible loss at such an early age. Her life will live on in the wonderful memories she has helped to create.
alisa lowen
July 9, 2008
i missed jakie bye
shelby Fosco
July 9, 2008
To Erick, Sydney, and Samantha,
Jaci was one of the best people you could ever meet. she was fun to be around and was an adult who just really got a long with us kids. we love her so much and will miss her so much. She was the one who taught me to stand up for what i beleive in and go for the gold. and dont settle for plin and ordinary, go for new and extrodainary. She taught me to be myself and dont care what other people think, because they are just jellouse anyway.She was like a second mom to me, someone i could go to wehen i didnt want to talk to my mom, and someone i trusted.its so hard to think she's really gone. i just keep waiting to see her come in the door with a bag of stuff for us and yealling at us for doing someting stupid. i loved her so much and still do. She will be missed so much. July 6, 2008
Dawn Northcutt
July 9, 2008
Erik and Family,
I am very sorry for your loss. May you be comforted by the memories of a wonderful person. We last saw Jaci at our class reunion in September and were left with an impression that she truely loved her family and life. The thoughts and prayers from our family are with you.
Susan Walton
July 9, 2008
When we were kids I always felt sort of like an honorary DeFayette & altho I lost touch with Jaci over the years, Michele has always kept me up to date on her life. I have such strong memories of Jaci - the little sister following us around; begging me to show her how to apply mascara, sliding sticks of gum under the door to entice us to let her in...
It's too hard to wrap my head around this - I can't begin to understand the shock and pain you all must be feeling... My love and prayers are with you. I'm so sorry.
Jeff and Laurie Nesler
July 9, 2008
Erik and family,
We are so sorry to hear of your devastating loss. We enjoyed catching up with you and Jaci at the 20 yr reunion. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. May your wonderful memories help you through this time of sorrow. God bless!
Scott & Ann Toliver
July 8, 2008
Erik and Girls,
Words cannot even say how sorry I am. I am one of many cousins that unfortunately, didn't get to see Jaci very often. Jaci will always be remembered by her wonderful smile, and the twinkle in her eyes. I know that she is in a better place, and we will all meet up with her one day. Until then, God Bless to you and your girls, Erik
Uncle Bob, Aunt Helen and all my cousins: My heart goes out to you all. We'll keep you in our thoughts and our prayers.
Love to you all, Ann
Peggy Hernandez
July 8, 2008
Dear Erik, Sydney and Samantha,
Please accept my deepest condolences in this time of grief. Jaci and I taught CCD together this year and she was always looking out for the kids...and making me laugh.
She is already sorely missed. I will pray for Sydney and Samantha to find peace.
Jamie, Carla, C.J. and Bethany Heintz
July 8, 2008
Erik and family,
You are all in our thoughts and prayers. While we share in your grief and sorrow, we cannot fathom its depth. Be assured, you are not alone. We will continue to lift you in prayer and trust that the Lord's peace and comfort will envelop you and carry you through your sorrow to brighter days.
Anna Prow
July 8, 2008
Words are insufficient to convey the condolences for this tragic, sudden and unfair loss. I am so sorry your dear Jaci was taken from you. Love and protect each other in this awful grief, and allow time to do its too-slow mending of your hearts.
kaitlyn Dykes
July 8, 2008
Dear Eric,Sam and, Sydney
I am sorry for your loss. But I want to let you know if you need a hug or even if you just want to hang out I'll be here for you. If I can do anything for you just let me know. I give you my thoughts,hopes,and wishes too.
And remember Jaci will always be in your heart.
Love,Kaitlyn
Fosco Family
July 8, 2008
Erik, Sydney and Samantha,
We never thought in a million years this day would come. Jaci brightened our lives from the day we met. We are glad we were able to see her on the 4th smiling and having a great time. The girls will miss "Mama J" at cheer from now and forever. Just know we are here and thinking of you.
Emily Klein
July 8, 2008
Dear Sam, I am so very sorry to hear about your Mother. My thoughts & prayers are with you and your family. If you need a friend to talk to please call me. Your friend Emily Klein
Kathy and Jason Sankar
July 8, 2008
Eric
We knew Jaci many years ago and are friends of John and Mitch. We are devastated to hear of Jaci's passing. No words can express the sorrow your family must be feeling.
Helen and Bob, our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
connie svendsen
July 8, 2008
Erik, Sydney, Sam
I 'm so sorry to hear about Jaci. She was truly a sweetheart and will be missed. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and the girls.
Dave McDonough
July 8, 2008
Erik and family,
Our deepest condolences to all of you. You are in our thoughts and prayers
The crew at Hospitality Design Group
Ruth Evelyn Santos
July 8, 2008
I wish to express my sympathy to the whole family of Jacqueline. May God comfort you in time of your sorrow. Being a Christian, she is in a better place because she is with the Lord. Her new life is being celebrated.
Jeannnine Heintz
July 8, 2008
Time will heal the sorrow.
Loving memories we will always share.
My heart is going out to all of you today.
I want you to know ~ I care.
In Jaci’s world today, there is sadness. Tomorrow will bring happy memories and we will all have a happening with Jaci that will make us smile & laugh. Because that is what Jaci did for others. Tim (cousin) & I had the pleasure of spending some time with Jaci in Iowa last week and we will always cherish that time together. We learned what Jaci was all about and what she had accomplished in her lifetime and what she wanted in the future. We shared our thoughts on life and death. The time we spent with Jaci is so precious. Jaci and Adrian always enjoyed being together and picking on each other. Now they can continue their fun. It’s so hard to say goodbye but we will greet each other another day in another place. Love to Jaci and her world.
Angel love,
Aunt Jean Heintz (Herndon, VA – formerly Nevada, Iowa)
Denise Anderson
July 8, 2008
To Erik, Sydney, and Sam,
I am sorry to hear about your loss of your beautiful soul mate, loving mother, wonderful daughter and sister. I give my heart and prayers to all of you.
-Denise and Teal Anderson
Mariellen Re
July 8, 2008
Dear Sydney and Sam
Your mother was a very special woman who put her heart and soul into everything she did. She will be missed greatly! Alexis said she was her favorite coach. I really enjoyed spending time with her and knowing you all.
The Dykes Family
July 8, 2008
Erik, Sydney & Sam,
Words cannot describe the sorrow we feel for you & your family. Jaci was smart, fun-loving & had a great personality! We will miss her smile and kind ways. Whether she was offering a free kitten when we lost ours or just a place to hang out after school she was always there to take care of something or someone. Kaitlyn adored her and Jaci always made sure she was happy and taken care of while at your home - we are grateful for that. Please know that as the days and weeks pass, our thoughts & prayers are with you and should you need anything - just ask.
Kelly, Ingrid, Kaitlyn & Ryan Dykes
Lois Hamerton
July 8, 2008
See you later darlin!
Aunt Lois & Uncle Pat
Lisa McGlothlen
July 8, 2008
Family,
Jaci was a beautiful person on the outside as equally so on the inside. I never felt more pure un-requiring love from any friend, always willing to share a story or listen to others, a love for life that was contagious. I will forever be grateful for the proud feeling of being someone's sister. The memories range from long girl talks at the Damascus home to ISU "outings" and visiting her home so filled with her special touches. She had flare and finesse that could charm the crankiest mood into laughter. Thank you dear Jaci for making the world more joyous and beautiful.
Our prayers go out to all of those stricken with such great grief and sadness. I know Jaci's sparkle and spirit will continue to live in the memories and inspiration she has left with us. There are no answers to why; we are left with the love of someone special having graced our lives. We send our love and hugs!
Love,
Lisa, Woody, Audrey and Lillian
Mackenzi Johnson
July 8, 2008
You truly were an angel
sent from God in heaven above.
Your shocking death just broke the hearts of everyone you loved.
When I found out that you had died
I thought that they were wrong.
You were so alive - and then
just like that, you were gone.
A flame blown out in seconds,
Confirming our worst fears -
A light that shines no more on earth
for which we shed many tears.
But still you are my beacon
And I need you right now.
You hear all the prayers I say
Because they are answered somehow.
I wish that you could be here,
But in a way you are.
Your symbol of a rose goes everywhere with me,
so I know you can't be far.
It still is quite a shock to me
that you had to die;
But no one will forget you
And I love you, and goodbye.
** i wish we could have spent more time together.you will be miss very much--Mackenzi
Sara Miller-Straub-Trapani
July 8, 2008
Jaci and I were friends in high school. This is a terrible loss. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and many, many friends. She will be missed by all. May she rest in peace.
Linda Sliwa
July 8, 2008
Dear Erik & Family,
May your friends and family surround you with the love, strength and courage to help you get through this very difficult time.
My heartfelt condolences to the entire family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Jeanne Poliachik-Cross
July 8, 2008
We are friends of the DeFayette Family during their Damascus days at DHS, St. Paul's Church and the Damascus Swimming Pool. We remember Jaci as the cute little sister who always wanted to keep up with her older siblings. Nancy remembers a six year old Jaci in an all girl swimming class where they played and laughed during each class and sometimes even swam! This class has left a lasting impression for over 32 years. Robert and Paul were classmates at DHS and in sports together. Sandy and Michelle were buddies in high school sports too. The DeFayette family has always had a special place in our hearts. We are deeply saddened to hear of this tragedy in the family. We know that Jaci is in God's hands. Our prayers and thoughts are with all of you.
Daniella Taveau
July 8, 2008
To Jaci's Family and Friends,
I cannot begin to express my sorrow for your loss of your sweet Jaci. Michelle talked of her so often and fondly, her generosity of spirit and kindness. Please take care of yourselves and know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Alisia Kachmar
July 8, 2008
I'm so sorry. Please know that my heart goes out to your family and I hope that you will find strength in one another.
Joy Mollenkamp
July 8, 2008
Erik, Syd and Sam;
My prayers and sympathies go out to you and your family. Jaci was such a sweet and generous person. I can't even believe she's gone. I can still hear her laugh, I can hear her singing that silly song she used to sing to Peanut, and I'll always remember the fun we had in cheerleading. You know how to reach if you need me. I'm here for you, whatever you need.
God bless
The Norgaards
July 8, 2008
Jaci,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Engie Mokhtar
July 8, 2008
Michelle and Family,
My sincerest condolences go out to you. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Please know that your loved ones are sending you the positive thoughts and energy to help you through this time.
Inês Blanchart
July 8, 2008
Michelle querida e familia,
com muita tristeza recebo esta noticia. Sei bem sobre a dor de perder um irmao, alguem muito amado. Lembro muito de sua irma, de sua alegria que contagiava a todos. Sinto muito realmente. Que Deus ilumine a vida de todos voces, dos filhos, seus pais, irmaos, marido e amigos para suportar essa dor.
um grande beijo carinhoso de toda a minha familia...
Mike & Deb (Heintz) Mitchell
July 8, 2008
To all of Jaci's family ~ We are deeply saddened and our hearts go out to you. I'm am so grateful we got to see Jaci last week, I wish we could have visited longer. Our memories of the "Heintz" cousins antics at Grandma Minnie's will live on forever.
Rhonda & Brian Sykes
July 8, 2008
Erik, Sydney, & Samantha
Our hearts and prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time. We were so blessed with Jaci's spirit and enthusiasm for life during your recent visit to Nevada and will always cherish the memory of that visit. May you find peace in your memories, strength in the support of those who love you and hope in each new day.
william gabor
July 8, 2008
Jackie,you will b deeply missed be everyone, you do not know how you touched so many without even knowing it, I wish I was able to see you more often than I did, even though we were no that far from each other, My deepest sympathy to your husband and kids as well as to the entire DeFayette family , Love your cousin Willie
Mackenzi Johnson
July 8, 2008
You truly were an angel
sent from God in heaven above.
Your shocking death just broke the hearts of everyone you loved.
When I found out that you had died
I thought that they were wrong.
You were so alive - and then
just like that, you were gone.
A flame blown out in seconds,
Confirming our worst fears -
A light that shines no more on earth
for which we shed many tears.
But still you are my beacon
And I need you right now.
You hear all the prayers I say
Because they are answered somehow.
I wish that you could be here,
But in a way you are.
Your symbol of a rose goes everywhere with me,
so I know you can't be far.
It still is quite a shock to me
that you had to die;
But no one will forget you
And I love you, and goodbye.
jaci you will missed very much
**Mackenzi
Maria Martinez
July 7, 2008
Erik , Sidney and Samantha,
Words cannot express the sorrow and sympathy felt for you. Jaci was a sweet and dear person and she will be deeply missed. Our deepest and heartfelt sympathy are with you and the girls.
God Bless,
Maria and Nestor
Patty, Tom, Danielle, Michael Del Regno
July 7, 2008
Sam, Sydney, Eric,
We are all so sorry of this tragic loss! Jackie was a caring, sweet, loving, kind hearted person. We were lucky to spend time with all of you last summer and Jackie was thoughtful to bring a goodie bag for my little boy. This is going to be a tough time, but GOD we make you through it. What helped me when I lost my mother, was to make a photo album of her with special sayings (scrap book) and whenver I missed her, it helped me to rememeber the good times. 18 years later I still have this book and cherish it. Please call us if there is anything we can do whatsoever! PLEASE! We are here to help in a way! I would love to have the girls over to swim and take their minds off everything in the following weeks.
847-844-7807
GOD BLESS OUR PRAYERS ARE WITH ALL OF YOU!
Vicki (Heintz) Shaw
July 7, 2008
Erik and girls,
We are sending heartfelt condolences and prayers. I am one of the Heintz cousins and my memories of Jaci go way back to summers with the cousins. She was a delight and will be missed.
Lise Chin
July 7, 2008
Our deepest sympathies in your great loss.
You are all in our hearts and in our prayers.
The Chin family
Joanna Restivo
July 7, 2008
Jaci :
~ I've been thinking of you today but that is nothing new. I've thought of you yesterday and the day before that too. It's so hard to believe that you're no longer here and gone so fast. Heartbroken, I look at your pictures and stare at the bracelet that you gave me just the other day - you said it's to protect me from all the bad out there. And I thought of you as my Angel even before you went up there... Your memory is my keepsake with which I'll never part. God has you in His keeping and I have you in my heart. You're my Angel ~
Our deepest and sincere condolences to you Erik and to your family. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Joanna & Mike
Ron &Sharron Restivo
July 7, 2008
Dear Erik and family,
Our prayers and thoughts are sent to you with sadness in our hearts.. We SO enjoyed meeting you and Jaci at Michael and Joanna's wedding last year.. it was truly OUR honor to be with you both.. such a lovely person will be missed by all.. Love, Ron and Sharron Restivo
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